Dating While Gray™

Laura Stassi

When writer Laura Stassi’s marriage ended after nearly 30 years, she asked friends and relationship experts for advice on navigating the dating scene. On Dating While Gray, Laura shares what she’s learned: love doesn’t get easier as you get older.

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One Love, Two Homes

One Love, Two Homes

A growing number of older couples are not sharing space 24/7. It’s called living apart together, or LAT. Anthropologist Helen Fisher reveals her LAT arrangement with husband John. Then Laura chats with Vicki Larson, author of the forthcoming “LATitude: How to Make a Live Apart Together Relationship Work.” Finally, an LAT arrangement involving a duplex sparks a courtroom battle.Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code DATINGWHILEGRAY for a great deal: happymammoth.com* Check out Quince: quince.com/datingwhilegrayAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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One Love, Two Homes

One Love, Two Homes

A growing number of older couples are not sharing space 24/7. It’s called living apart together, or LAT. Anthropologist Helen Fisher reveals her LAT arrangement with husband John. Then Laura chats with Vicki Larson, author of the forthcoming “LATitude: How to Make a Live Apart Together Relationship Work.” Finally, an LAT arrangement involving a duplex sparks a courtroom battle.Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code DATINGWHILEGRAY for a great deal: happymammoth.com* Check out Quince: quince.com/datingwhilegrayAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Smoke … and Mirrors

Smoke … and Mirrors

Ahead of the international get-high holiday of 4/20, Laura chats with cannabis researcher Dr. Peter Grinspoon. He also has thoughts about dating. Plus, the Golden Bachelor couple announced they’re getting divorced. Did you see it coming? Listeners – and Laura – have thoughts. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code DATINGWHILEGRAY for a great deal: happymammoth.com* Check out Quince: quince.com/datingwhilegrayAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Anatomy of a Fall

Anatomy of a Fall

Crystal and Dave clicked! First online, and then in real life. Are they moving too fast? Have the red flags been flying all along? Laura talks with each of them about their relationship journey.Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code DATINGWHILEGRAY for a great deal: happymammoth.com* Check out Quince: quince.com/datingwhilegrayAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Love Is A Family Affair

Love Is A Family Affair

Sydney helps mom Jennifer navigate the dating apps. Widower Herb offers daughter Jen tips for a successful long-term relationship, even as bad timing keeps him apart from his longtime love. Both stories prove that the ties that bind us need not be restrictive. They can provide just the right amount of support, at just the right time.Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code DATINGWHILEGRAY for a great deal: happymammoth.com* Check out Quince: quince.com/datingwhilegrayAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

(Encore) Speed DWG: Dyeing To Be Dateable

(Encore) Speed DWG: Dyeing To Be Dateable

In the first episode of our new microcast, Speed Dating While Gray, a matchmaker makes a provocative, off-topic comment about Laura’s gray hair.Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code DATINGWHILEGRAY for a great deal: happymammoth.com* Check out Quince: quince.com/datingwhilegrayAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Location, Location, Location

Location, Location, Location

Does the number 1 rule in real estate value also apply to finding new love? Hometown dating field reports are filed by listeners including Marina, in Denmark’s capital city; and relational coach Diana Lockett, in a ruggedly scenic part of Canada.Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code DATINGWHILEGRAY for a great deal: happymammoth.com* Check out Quince: quince.com/datingwhilegrayAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Listener Stacy is mulling over a marriage proposal. History and tradition suggest that’s the ultimate romantic commitment expression. But at our age, does it make financial sense? For help answering that question, Laura calls on two experts: a financial planner, and a prenup attorney.Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code DATINGWHILEGRAY for a great deal: happymammoth.com* Check out Quince: quince.com/datingwhilegrayAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Maybe we’re doing it, maybe we’re not. Maybe we want to, maybe we don’t. We might be thinking about it … intimacy coach Anna Marti offers insights for all of us, plus Cate and other listeners share their concerns.Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code DATINGWHILEGRAY for a great deal: happymammoth.com* Check out Quince: quince.com/datingwhilegrayAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Long Leap to Love

Long Leap to Love

When it comes to finding love or making a commitment, is there ever an expiration date? Laura talks with Julie, who’s been on the dating market for almost a quarter-century. Then she checks in with Clyde and Trish, who’ve chosen the slow road despite instant chemistry.Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code DATINGWHILEGRAY for a great deal: happymammoth.com* Check out Quince: quince.com/datingwhilegrayAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Revisiting That Other Reality Dating Show

Revisiting That Other Reality Dating Show

What happens when a journalist covering the older-dating beat tries to get real about a TV show? Listeners weigh in with their opinions – about The Golden Bachelor and also, everything Laura said about it for Slate’s recap podcast.Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code DATINGWHILEGRAY for a great deal: happymammoth.com* Check out Quince: quince.com/datingwhilegrayAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Dating in Real Life

Dating in Real Life

Longtime dating coach Damona Hoffman offers practical and optimistic insights from her book, “F the Fairy Tale: Rewrite the Dating Myths and Live Your Own Love Story.” Plus, listeners share their true stories about the search for love.Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code DATINGWHILEGRAY for a great deal: happymammoth.com* Check out Quince: quince.com/datingwhilegrayAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Trailer: Reintroducing Dating While Gray

Trailer: Reintroducing Dating While Gray

With true stories and expert insights, host Laura Stassi continues her journalistic mission to uncover and share what it takes to make and keep new love connections in the later years of life.Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code DATINGWHILEGRAY for a great deal: happymammoth.com* Check out Quince: quince.com/datingwhilegrayAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Encore: What (Some) Men Want

Encore: What (Some) Men Want

An online encounter has Laura wondering: When it comes to older heterosexual dating, are women trying to school men? Weighing in are widower Steve, a feminist who bristles at traditional advice; and Kevin, who’s still feeling the sting of the gray divorce his wife initiated. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code DATINGWHILEGRAY for a great deal: happymammoth.com* Check out Quince: quince.com/datingwhilegrayAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Encore: Love and Business

Encore: Love and Business

When couples mix business and pleasure, can both their romantic and work partnerships survive and thrive? Laura talks with “accidental CEO” Allison, and home-building entrepreneur Karen. This episode sponsored by Edgespace. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code DATINGWHILEGRAY for a great deal: happymammoth.com* Check out Quince: quince.com/datingwhilegrayAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Encore: More Dishing on Dating

Encore: More Dishing on Dating

With five committed relationships in 20 years, the apps are panning out for listener Jean. Plus, two former Dating While Gray guests randomly connect online and make a dinner date. Laura tags along and then uncovers what happened afterward. Was it a love hit … or a miss?Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code DATINGWHILEGRAY for a great deal: happymammoth.com* Check out Quince: quince.com/datingwhilegrayAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Encore: Dishing on Dating

Encore: Dishing on Dating

After counting up the romantic encounters she’s had this year, Laura asks older singles for their numbers. Tea spillers include Vinnie and Rachel; Kevin, who discovers three times is not the charm; and Allison, who widens her Zip code parameters.Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code DATINGWHILEGRAY for a great deal: happymammoth.com* Check out Quince: quince.com/datingwhilegrayAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Encore: It’s 420 Somewhere

Encore: It’s 420 Somewhere

A dating site profile question leads Laura to explore cannabis use among older daters. Dosages, smoking vs. ingesting, medical and bedroom benefits … listeners weigh in with their cautionary tales, tips, and true stories. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code DATINGWHILEGRAY for a great deal: happymammoth.com* Check out Quince: quince.com/datingwhilegrayAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Encore: Health and Romance

Encore: Health and Romance

Shannon’s back on the dating market, this time with the diagnosis of a gradually disabling disease. Patrice’s plans with her long-time partner are upended by a sudden health crisis. How do medical issues impact the love connections we find, and the ones we seek?Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code DATINGWHILEGRAY for a great deal: happymammoth.com* Check out Quince: quince.com/datingwhilegrayAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

More Dishing on Dating

More Dishing on Dating

With five committed relationships in 20 years, the apps are panning out for listener Jean. Plus, two former Dating While Gray guests randomly connect online and make a dinner date. Laura tags along and then uncovers what happened afterward. Was it a love hit … or a miss?Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code DATINGWHILEGRAY for a great deal: happymammoth.com* Check out Quince: quince.com/datingwhilegrayAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Dishing on Dating

Dishing on Dating

After counting up the romantic encounters she’s had this year, Laura asks older singles for their numbers. Tea spillers include Vinnie and Rachel; Kevin, who discovers three times is not the charm; and Allison, who widens her Zip code parameters.Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code DATINGWHILEGRAY for a great deal: happymammoth.com* Check out Quince: quince.com/datingwhilegrayAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy