This heart-to-heart is a dance between the tenderness of self-compassion and the rhythm of daily life's relentless pace. We tackle the art of self-parenting, a concept that intertwines the acknowledgement of our imperfections with the relentless pursuit of our dreams. You'll hear us muse about the equilibrium between granting ourselves leniency during life's storms and steadfastly keeping up with the mundane, like ensuring there's clean laundry. Sprinkled with personal memories, our dialogue is an invitation to nurture trust in oneself through dedicated self-care and to intentionally curate moments of tranquility and delight amidst our bustling existences. Sit back, sip your tea, and allow us to accompany you on this exploration of self-acceptance, with Ashley Kristeen Vega as our guest this week.Support the Show.Join us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterThreads

Have you ever felt the tug-of-war between who you are and who society expects you to be? Today, I had the pleasure of sipping tea with Chethan, a dazzling beacon of individuality from the bustling streets of New York. As an actor, drag queen, singer, and dancer, he peels back the curtain on his transformational journey, one that has seen him merge the masculine and feminine into a harmonious existence. Through his story, we unravel the threads of self-love and the sheer bravery it takes to defy the cookie-cutter norms, finding acceptance and growth in the most unexpected places.This episode is a celebration of the colorful tapestry that is Chethan's life – from the cultural significance of his drag performances, adorned in the transformative elegance of a sari, to the practical wisdom he shares for budding drag artists seeking to carve out their own identity.  Chethan's anecdotes provide a roadmap for embracing passion and self-representation, underscoring the importance of perseverance in the face of agency pigeonholing and the quest for true self-love. So, pull up a chair, and let's toast to the art of being unapologetically oneself, an inspiring journey that Chethan navigates with grace and flair.Support the Show.Join us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterThreads

In this episode of Tea with TJ, TJ interviews Jai the Gentleman, the host of the podcast Dear Black Gay Men. They discuss the concept of healing and the different ways in which individuals can heal. They also explore the importance of uncovering and embracing all aspects of one's identity, including race, sexuality, and gender. The conversation delves into the healing process in relationships, the challenges faced by black gay men, and the need for forgiveness and acceptance. Ultimately, they emphasize the importance of living in the present moment and letting go of past traumas. In this conversation, Jai shares his personal journey of starting the Dear Black Gay Men  podcast after a breakup. He discusses the emotional stagnation he experienced and how he found inspiration to create a platform for black gay men to share their stories. The conversation also explores the importance of creating space for truth and vulnerability, as well as the evolution of Tea With TJ. Jai reflects on the lack of honest and vulnerable podcasts and shares his joy in connecting with listeners and finding beauty in the resilience of black men.TakeawaysHealing is a personal journey that involves confronting past traumas and embracing all aspects of one's identity.The healing process in relationships requires forgiveness, acceptance, and understanding that everyone is doing the best they can.Black gay men face unique challenges in society and need to explore and cultivate all aspects of their identity.Living in the present moment and letting go of past traumas is essential for personal growth and healing.Support the Show.Join us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterThreads

In this episode, TJ and Derric  discuss the topic of insecurities. They share their personal experiences with insecurities and how they have learned to overcome them. They emphasize the importance of self-love and being present in the moment. The conversation also touches on the journey of self-acceptance and the power of authenticity. Connect with Derric: The Grown up Podcast Support the Show.Join us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterThreads

In this episode, TJ and Bernard Holcomb discuss the importance of self-worth and acceptance. Bernard shares his journey of realizing that he is enough just as he is, and how this realization has transformed his life. They also explore the role of pain and self-discovery in finding self-acceptance. Bernard emphasizes the importance of therapy, medication, meditation, and finding a supportive community in his journey. They discuss the intersection of spirituality and self-acceptance, and how to navigate the challenges that may arise. The conversation concludes with insights on dealing with rejection and finding inner peace.TakeawaysSelf-worth and acceptance are intertwined and essential for personal growth.Realizing that you are enough just as you are is a powerful and transformative lesson.Pain and self-discovery can lead to self-acceptance and a better understanding of oneself.Therapy, medication, meditation, and finding a supportive community are valuable tools in the journey of self-acceptance.Support the Show.Join us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterThreads

In this episode, TJ and Jaxin Jackson discuss the topic of believing in something bigger than yourself. Jaxin shares how his yoga and Buddhist practices have formed a foundation of belief and helped him stay grounded in his values. They explore the concept of taking responsibility for one's life and the power of realizing that the problem isn't bigger than oneself. Jackson also discusses the importance of challenges as opportunities for growth and how daily practice helps him stay present. They touch on moments of reflection and check-ins, as well as different perspectives on meditation and finding meditative moments in daily activities. In this conversation, Jaxin Jackson and TJ discuss various meditation practices, the importance of finding hope and believing in something bigger, and the process of testing and shifting beliefs. They also explore navigating difficult times and seeking happiness, discovering Buddhism and connection, and the sense of community and connection in Chicago. The conversation concludes with a discussion on alignment through storytelling, opening the heart through laughter, and expressing gratitude and happiness.Support the Show.Join us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterThreads

In the vibrant tapestry of content creation, carving out a niche becomes a journey unto itself, one that Justin and I have both embraced with fervor. I open up about my foray into producing original content, driven by a desire to wield the reins over my creative and financial destiny, inspired by the likes of KevOnStage and Tabitha Brown. We exchange thoughts on the liberating platforms like TikTok that have turned the tide for storytellers and creators, empowering economic self-reliance and a reshaping of our narratives. There's a special moment where we touch on the aspiration to see our work heal and uplift, especially within the black community, and the celebration of a multifaceted career that defies the traditional.Support the Show.Join us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterThreads

As I sat with my good friend Morgan McGhee, sipping on caramel delight oolong tea, we unraveled stories of artistic growth and mindful living. Morgan, a vibrant force from Baton Rouge to New York and now Chicago, joins me, in a rich discussion that meanders through our shared stage memories, to the intricate dance of mindfulness in our lives. This talk is a journey—a reflection on the post-pandemic social renaissance where the thirst for connection meets a world still learning to be present. We openly critique the superficiality of performative self-care and emphasize authentic, intentional living. Our conversation isn't afraid to pose the hard questions, like how does one maintain a sense of purpose amidst the noise? Morgan and I don't just ask; we share our personal anecdotes of grounding morning routines, from crafting the perfect breakfast sandwich to the solace of dark, music-filled showers. So, pour yourself a cup of your favorite tea and join us in this heartfelt exploration.Support the Show.Join us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterThreads

Join us on this journey where authenticity is not just a buzzword, but a pilgrimage into the heart of who we are. My conversation with the indomitable Justin G. Nelson peels back the layers on finding your true self and the power of embracing every facet of your talents. Together, we tackle the tough decisions—like establishing boundaries and knowing when to walk away from relationships that no longer serve our growth. This episode isn't just talk; it's about taking the solitary steps toward shedding the weights that hold us back and celebrating the unique individuals we are destined to be. Support the Show.Join us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterThreads

Imagine spending just a few minutes each day to transform your outlook on life. That's what I discovered when I embarked on my personal journey with gratitude journaling, a simple yet profound practice that has become a beacon of positivity in my life. As we share a cup of tea, I recount my experiences and reveal how writing down things I'm grateful for in the last 24 hours not only helped me appreciate the small moments in life but also shifted my focus to the positive aspects. But the magic doesn't stop at journaling. As we delve deeper into the topic of gratitude, you'll learn that it’s much more than just a feel-good emotion. It's a potent tool that can pivot our lives in extraordinary ways. I share how gratitude has deepened my friendships and brought about feelings of joy, love, and happiness that were often overlooked. So, grab your notebook and your favourite cup of tea, and join me on this enlightening journey. Let's harness the power of gratitude and make life truly amazing and rewarding.Support the Show.Join us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterThreads

Join me, as we navigate this intricate labyrinth, shedding light on the staple elements of a robust bond – trust, communication, respect and a sense of safety. This journey isn't just about maintaining a healthy relationship with others; it's about striking a balance between meeting your partner's needs and preserving your individuality. We'll explore the often neglected concept of outgrowing someone and how embracing this reality can pave the way for profound growth.These changes may not always align with our expectations, and that's perfectly fine! Instead of holding onto what's familiar, we'll discuss how stepping outside of our comfort zones can lead to an even more fulfilling relationship experience. We'll also touch upon setting boundaries, managing expectations, and aligning relationships with our personal goals. So, are you ready to embark on this enlightening journey with me? Because I assure you, it's going to be a riveting ride.Support the Show.Join us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterThreads

Ever chastised yourself for making a tiny mistake or not meeting your high expectations? If so, you're not alone. I, have spent years in the grips of self-criticism, but through the practice of positive self-talk, I managed to shift my perspective and bolster my self-confidence. I invite you to join me over a cup of chai tea on this episode of "Tea with TJ" as I share my personal journey from self-criticism to self-love. We'll explore the transformative power of affirmations and the importance of embracing our strengths rather than focusing on our flaws.As we delve into the subtleties of positive self-talk, we'll debunk some common misconceptions – it's not about ignoring our flaws, but rather acknowledging them and focusing on our strengths. I'll share how I replaced self-criticism with self-encouragement and how this change led me to the destination of self-love. I will also challenge you to consider what you're genuinely great at, and how focusing on these strengths can propel you forward. By the end of this episode, you'll understand the importance of encouraging yourself, loving yourself, and never doubting who you are. Remember, we are all works in progress striving to become better each day, so let’s embrace our journey, one cup of tea at a time.Support the Show.Join us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterThreads

Struggling with holding all the ends of life? From working hard, nurturing relationships, pushing for personal growth, to taking time for self-care, it sometimes feels like an impossible task to create a balance. I promise you that achieving balance isn't as overwhelming as it seems. In this episode of Tea with TJ, you'll hear all about my journey in trimming the excess from life, setting boundaries, and prioritizing what truly mattered to me. Listen in as I share how a simple act of calling my mom every day acted as a stepping stone to achieve the balance I craved.The road to balance undoubtedly involves self-care - it's not a luxury, but a necessity. I'll be sharing my personal approach to self-care and the small but significant activities that keep me grounded. Hear about how daily walks, adequate sleep, and small acts of rejuvenation play a pivotal role in maintaining the overall balance. If you're searching for ways to regain balance and ensure self-care isn't left on the back burner, this episode will provide you with insights and practical steps to get there. So, sit back, pour yourself a cup of tea, and get ready for a heart-to-heart with TJ.Support the Show.Join us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterThreads

Huddled with a soothing cup of chamomile tea, I found myself reminiscing about the authenticity of face-to-face connections and yearning for human touch that the pandemic deprived us of. As I mused over the warmth and fuzziness that a simple cup of tea can bring, I found parallels with the delicate yet profound joy of spontaneous human connections that are often missed in our bustling lives.In this episode of Tea with TJ, we delve into the magical realm of human connections and the power of personal interactions. Is the digital world pushing us apart? Are we losing that precious physical connection to one another? Join me as we explore this pressing issue, sharing personal experiences of unexpected friendships and the nourishment they offer to our souls. Let's cherish every interaction and embrace the potential for deeper connections with the people around us. Because who knows? The next stranger you bump into at a coffee shop might just become your best friend. Let's remember: the world can be a much more rewarding place if we're open to the love and friendship that is always around us.Support the Show.Join us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterThreads

We steer through the intricate labyrinth of life's transitions, reflecting on the significance of intentional living and mindset shifts. As we gear up for the dormant seasons of fall and winter, TJ highlights how this period can serve as fertile ground for personal growth, if navigated wisely. Entering your 30s is often accompanied by a shift in priorities and ambitions. We've all been there. We delve into the profound intricacies of this decade, shedding light on the power of wisdom, self-control, and informed decision-making in shaping our life's journey. In a surprising revelation, we unearth how a simple task like grocery shopping can morph into a tranquil and enriching experience. This conversation will soothe your nerves, reminding you that change, while inevitable, is also incredibly beautiful. Embrace it and watch as life's best moments unfurl.Support the Show.Join us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterThreads

Have you ever wondered about the profound impact of a simple 'yes' or 'no'? My journey, much inspired by Shonda Rhimes' transformative book, 'The Year of Yes,' will unravel the monumental power of these decisions. From a spontaneous weekend getaway to learning an entire show in six days, the word 'yes' has nudged me into experiences that shaped my life in unexpected ways. However, it's not just about embracing every opportunity; taking the leap also means stepping out of your comfort zones and exposing your vulnerabilities, ultimately leading to self-discovery and growth.But it's not all about saying 'yes.' The power of a firm 'no,' my friends, can be equally transformative. Confused? Let me clarify. A 'no' can often act as a tool to protect our boundaries and maintain focus on our long-term goals. It's about understanding the value of our boundaries and letting 'no' open the doors to new opportunities, self-awareness, and well-being. In parting, remember, whether it's a 'yes' or a 'no,' what matters most is to stay true to oneself, be kind, keep sipping, and embrace life's endless possibilities. Join me, as we explore this, and more, over a cup of tea. Let's get started!Support the Show.Join us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterThreads

Remember that time when you had a dream, but the road seemed too long and the mountain too high? Join me on a journey as I relive my decision to chase my dream of performing in musical theater, and the small but powerful steps I took to make it a reality. Coupled with this weeks Tea Gunpowder green tea, I'll take you through the potholes and the peaks, as we talk about the importance of embracing the process, focusing on progress and not perfection. We'll break down dreams into bite-sized pieces, and learn why every tiny step moves us closer to the summit.But, that's not all. Ever wondered why some people seem to stumble upon opportunities while others wait forever? It's not luck, it's the power of saying 'yes.' I'll share how a job I initially considered insignificant bloomed into the chance to live my dream on stage. Together, we'll explore the potential hidden in every opportunity and the profound impact of consistency in achieving our goals. So, grab your favorite cup, and let's chat about dreams, small steps, and the magic word - 'yes.Support the Show.Join us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterThreads

Imagine savoring a delicious cup of Puerh tea, a unique aged tea pressed into a cake form, with a unique sticky rice variant that offers a surprisingly delightful flavor. As the rich flavor fills your senses, I'll be sharing my personal journey of mastering one of life's most challenging virtues: patience. I'll talk about how patience has been a profound factor in overcoming life's obstacles and how it is crucial in everything from our careers to relationships, and even in self-improvement.As we enjoy our tea together, the conversation deepens into how patience and the art of being present go hand in hand. I'll share how brewing a cup of loose leaf tea is not just a routine, but a lesson in patience. You'll hear how patience has been my steadfast companion on my journey through life, and perhaps it might inspire you to embrace this virtue as well. Whether it’s about navigating through life, waiting for an acting break, or building a new lifestyle; patience has been a game-changer. So, ready for a thoughtful exchange over a cup of tea? We're about to explore the beauty of patience. Join us for a heartfelt conversation on Tea with TJ, because, why not? We're here, so we might as well do it.Support the Show.Join us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterThreads

On this week's episode we share a quote from Tracee Ellis Ross that we've been meditating on, and how often times our fear gets in our own way. Sipping one of our favorite Oolongs from Té CompanySupport the Show.Join us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterThreads

In this weeks episode we discuss dealing with setbacks, overcoming disapointment and  how I've adjusted my way of thinking to turn rejection into growth. Join us in the conversation on our socials and let's have a chat! @Teawithtjpodcast on instagram. As always stay kind, and keep sipping. Support the Show.Join us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterThreads