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Heartbreak & Hope with Pat Barbarito

Pat Barbarito

Divorce lawyer Pat Barbarito thought she knew all about complex relationships and the laws that govern them – until her own marriage of 17 years ended and she determined to get to the heart of love, marriage, and human connection. Her journey spanned the entire scope of relationships – from the science of attraction to the financial impact of separation, to old myths that society still touts as true to new laws that outline how to navigate both uniting and uncoupling. Heartbreak & Hope with Pat Barbarito offers insights, anecdotes, and guidance from a variety of experts and includes her own perspective on how best to thrive through any stage of relationship building.

Escaping Domestic Abuse with Matthew Troiano
May 25 2022
Escaping Domestic Abuse with Matthew Troiano
Experiencing abuse at the hands of a significant other can scar both body and soul and instill a deep sense of shame, but even the most shocked, hurt, and paralyzed survivors of domestic violence can leave these dangerous situations with the help of numerous available resources and allies. In this sensitive discussion, host Pat Barbarito and featured guest Matthew Troiano examine the process, challenges, and ultimate rewards of seeking justice after experiencing intimate partner violence. Highlights include understanding:What constitutes domestic violence – harassment, stalking, terroristic threats, emotional/financial control, assault, rape – and that it can be a single incident or a series; How the comfort of a relationship can empower an abuser, confuse the victim;What emergent relief is and how both temporary and final restraining orders are designed to protect;How sharing these private details with members of the legal system can be daunting AND key in rediscovering inner strength;Why ‘one-and-done’ might not always be the right resolution for every relationship;How lawyers handle victims who decide to return to their abusers, mid-process; and more.BONUS: Matthew shares several anecdotes from his own experience that illustrate how relationships between prosecutor and victims can go from complete distrust to nearly familial bonds when handled with empathy and transparency. If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800.799.7233 or visiting thehotline.org.In New Jersey? JBWS is ready to provide local support through their helpline 877.782.2873 or website jbws.org.
Finding Love Online At Any Age with Dr. Duana Welch
Mar 30 2022
Finding Love Online At Any Age with Dr. Duana Welch
Contemplating online dating, but not sure how to begin? Tried a few sites and found the whole process unnatural or unnerving? Feeling embarrassed about using dating apps to find a partner? Host Pat Barbarito encourages listeners to banish such unhelpful mindsets and invites recurring featured guest Dr. Duana Welch to reveal the science-backed secrets of successfully finding love online. Highlights include:How to mentally prepare yourself for online dating, including clarifying your own goals and profiling your perfect partner; Exactly what types of pictures your profile should include, how many to upload and in what order, and why picture perfect could backfire;Why Dr. Welch recommends against describing yourself in your online profile, and what she views as the best method to create the most compelling and truly personal ad;  How to evaluate responses, manage appropriate conversational volleys, and, ultimately, take the talk offline; A few respectfully worded ‘scripts’ to help you effectively reject mismatched suitors;“High status” strategies to avoid becoming pen pals with charming but non-committal candidates; The Sex Talk - the right time for physical intimacy, why the 'too soon' conundrum is biochemically driven, and so much more.BONUS: Stay tuned to the very end, where Pat offers insight into a few legal consequences all relationships should consider. READING MATERIAL: Love Factually, 10 Steps From I Wish to I Do
Money, Marriage & Mortality with Gary Botwinick
Mar 16 2022
Money, Marriage & Mortality with Gary Botwinick
For many, talking finances before walking down the aisle is the epitome of anti-romanticism. But host Pat Barbarito and featured guest Gary Botwinick believe that having a clear understanding of your individual and combined assets – and how you both expect to manage those – at the beginning of a marriage can actually lay the groundwork for a wonderful future or shine a light on irreconcilable incompatibility before it becomes devastating heartbreak. Highlights include: Legal documents that everyone, regardless of marital status, should have e.g., will, living will, healthcare proxy, power of attorney, etc., and the importance of regularly reviewing the terms outlined;The legal rights and obligations one spouse owes another, e.g., forced inheritance, elective shares; Recommendations on when to have the prenuptial conversation with your potential partner and why it should cover more eventualities than a potential divorce; How preparing for divorce can and should impact financial decisions even before the proceedings are final;Why you shouldn’t depend on the terms in a will or a divorce decree to decide the distribution of your wealth;How cryptocurrencies and NFTs will challenge how assets are currently discovered; and so much more.BONUS: Gary’s #1 tip on how to avoid being surprised by your financial reality even if your spouse manages household income and investments.READING: Thoughts On Estate Planning When The Honeymoon Is Over And After The Divorce
The Science of Love with Dr. Duana Welch
Mar 2 2022
The Science of Love with Dr. Duana Welch
If you were going on a vacation, would you simply get in your car with no GPS or maps and start driving? Both host Pat Barbarito and featured guest Dr. Duana Welch scoff at the very idea and question why society continues to embrace the myth that, when dating, blindly trusting to luck is the only way to find true love. Focused on the science of human attraction and connection, the duo reassure listeners that understanding the process of successful partnering will never ruin the thrill of falling in love. It just might enhance the journey!Listen and learn: how using science-backed strategies will improve your odds on finding love; how to ‘prime your brain’ to seek out candidates that match your desired traits list;the two non-negotiables for every relationship (no, really, no exceptions); whether it's truly necessary to having the same or a similar capacity and desire for love;the relevance of chemistry – either instant or eventual – when entering into a new relationship;how bad behaviors excused during courtship are usually the very behaviors that land couples in divorce court;the danger of assumptions and the power of difficult conversations; and so much more. This is the first in a series of conversations with Dr. Duana Welch, author of the original Love Factually: 10 Proven Steps from I Wish to I Do, and its sequel, Love Factually for Single Parents. Dr. Welch is a relationship coach and is known for using social science to solve real-life relationship issues. She has served as a professor at universities in Florida, California, and Texas across 20 years, and has contributed to NPR, PBS, Psychology Today, and numerous other outlets, podcasts and videos. To learn more about Dr. Welch, please click here.