Heartbreak & Hope with Pat Barbarito

Pat Barbarito

Divorce lawyer Pat Barbarito thought she knew all about complex relationships and the laws that govern them – until her own marriage of 17 years ended and she determined to get to the heart of love, marriage, and human connection. Her journey spanned the entire scope of relationships – from the science of attraction to the financial impact of separation, to old myths that society still touts as true to new laws that outline how to navigate both uniting and uncoupling. Heartbreak & Hope with Pat Barbarito offers insights, anecdotes, and guidance from a variety of experts and includes her own perspective on how best to thrive through any stage of relationship building. read less
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Episodes

Let’s Talk About Sex & Aging with Dr. Anika Ackerman
Mar 7 2024
Let’s Talk About Sex & Aging with Dr. Anika Ackerman
Do you think women of a certain age are no longer interested in sex? Think again!  Host Pat Barbarito welcomes featured guest and sexual health changemaker Dr. Anika Ackerman to share the latest data, research, and anecdotes that clearly debunk this myth, and, instead, offer information about the numerous options that promote stellar sexual health – regardless of the number of candles on this year’s birthday cake.Conversation highlights include: The importance of intimacy and its correlation to the longevity of a relationship;Top patient concerns, including lack of desire, vaginal dryness, painful intercourse, urgency (genitourinary syndrome); vaginismus (extreme tightness of the vaginal muscles);Hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD), examining hormonal imbalance and activity of neurotransmitters in the brain; Everyday libido ‘killers’;Libido enhancers - two FDA-approved medications and a few natural options  Benefits of vaginal estrogen;Pelvic floor therapy – what it is and why it works;Use of laser, radio frequency, and high intensity focused electromagnetic energy to rejuvenate the vagina, and so much more!If you, or a woman you love, is feeling the heartbreaking reality of perimenopause or menopause or watching the impact of a lower libido on their own self-confidence, this “all awkward questions welcome” conversation is for you! Special thanks to our wonderful listener (who asked to remain anonymous) for suggesting this topic and explaining how beneficial this information was in her relationship. Be sure to follow Heartbreak & Hope with Pat Barbarito on Apple, Spotify, Amazon Music, or YouTube, or bookmark the official podcast webpage to keep the entire library at your fingertips.
The Art of the Apology with Dr. Jennifer Thomas
Nov 10 2023
The Art of the Apology with Dr. Jennifer Thomas
Love means never having to say you’re sorry, right? Not according to our featured guest Dr. Jennifer Thomas, co-author of the critically acclaimed book, The 5 Apology Languages. Instead, she tells host Pat Barbarito, the ability to offer a heartfelt apology, using an individual’s preferred communication style, can result in an even deeper connection with those most important to you.  In this episode, Pat and Jennifer explore those five elements of a sincere apology, and emphasize that, without the ability to acknowledge mistakes and express regret, the future of your relationships – romantic, platonic, professional, familial, etc. – could be in jeopardy. Conversation highlights include:The purpose of an apologyWhy it is so hard to apologizeThe danger of over-apologizing;The best lead in for any apology;Why words alone may not be enough;Phrases to avoid when asking for forgiveness;The power of posing the question: Will you forgive me?;Why apologies in the workplace are essential to creating a successful corporate culture;What to do when feel obligated to apologize, but you don’t think you’re in the wrong, and so much more!BONUS: What’s YOUR apology language? Take The Apology Language™ Quiz to better understand what you need to hear or experience to accept the sincerity of an apology. Share the quiz with your partner, family, colleagues, and friends!ADDITIONAL READING: Want to focus on increasing teamwork, resolving conflict, and building trust in the workplace? Check out Making Things Right at Work, co-authored by Gary Chapman, Jennifer Thomas, and Paul White. Be sure to follow Heartbreak & Hope with Pat Barbarito on Apple, Spotify, Amazon Music, or YouTube, or bookmark the official podcast webpage to keep the entire library at your fingertips.
Thriving At Work with Dr. Traci Cipriano
Sep 30 2023
Thriving At Work with Dr. Traci Cipriano
Is it possible for an individual to take charge of his/her own happiness at work? And, if so, where does one begin? Host Pat Barbarito, who knows a thing or two about navigating the challenging path to partnership and law firm ownership while raising a family and serving her community, welcomes Dr. Traci Cipriano to answer these questions and more. Using the guiding principles of workplace well-being outlined in Traci’s book, The Thriving Lawyer, the duo explores:The honeycomb of well-being;WHY we should care about well-being in the workplace;The importance of EQ (emotional intelligence), vulnerability, and sharing in relationship building; How the very training that makes a great lawyer can be a detriment to his/her ability to self-reflect and connect; The economic consequences for a workplace that prioritizes a culture of well-being;The dark side of ignoring personal well-being, including financial stress, burnout, suicide, and substance abuse; Solutions that enable a lawyer to continue practicing AND have deep personal connections, strong social support, along with authentic meaning and purpose;The complexity of a multi-generational workplace and working with each generation’s attitude toward well-being; Technology’s role in workplace well-being – friend or foe? – and so much more!NOTE: Whether you are a seasoned lawyer, law student, or not even in the legal profession, there is something for you in this conversation.Be sure to follow Heartbreak & Hope with Pat Barbarito on Apple, Spotify, Amazon Music, or YouTube, or bookmark the official podcast webpage to keep the entire library at your fingertips.
The Doc Returns! More From Dr. Mitchell Chasin On Aging Gracefully, Serving Celebrities, & Avoiding Complications
Aug 26 2023
The Doc Returns! More From Dr. Mitchell Chasin On Aging Gracefully, Serving Celebrities, & Avoiding Complications
Welcome to a special mini-episode of the show, one that features a series of soundbites just too good to leave on the cutting room floor. We hope you enjoyed the long-form conversation between Pat Barbarito and Dr. Mitchell Chasin that was released earlier this week, but if you haven’t had a chance to listen yet, don’t worry! These clips are standalone questions and answers about – as the title says – aging gracefully, serving celebrities, avoiding complications and so much more.  You’ll also learn what Dr Chasin thinks about being too old or too young to consider cosmetic enhancements, why he admires the younger generation’s approach to body maintenance and the older generation’s attitude to small tweaks and major adjustments, and what Dr. Chasin believes every patient should know before going to their first body augmentation consultation. (And he doesn’t let doctors off the hook either!)Whether you are currently facing or have already handled divorce, the death of a loved one, a milestone birthday, cancer treatment and other major life change, just know that you are not alone, you deserve all the good in the world, and you are entitled to lift your spirits through self-care – even if that means just making an appointment to chat about a hair color, a type of massage, or a cosmetic procedure. Be sure to follow Heartbreak & Hope with Pat Barbarito on Apple, Spotify, Amazon Music, or YouTube, or bookmark the official podcast webpage to keep the entire library at your fingertips.
Connecting Cosmetic Surgery & Mental Health with Dr. Mitchell Chasin
Aug 24 2023
Connecting Cosmetic Surgery & Mental Health with Dr. Mitchell Chasin
Divorce, the death of a loved one, milestone birthdays, cancer treatment and other major life changes can sometimes result in a drastically altered self-image – which can then undermine even the most positive person’s confidence and hopeful outlook. If that’s the case, wonders host Pat Barbarito, could simply improving one’s physical appearance with a visit to the local plastic surgery center result in a genuinely happier individual? Or is that person really just avoiding their inner turmoil? For featured guest and renowned plastic surgeon Dr. Mitchell Chasin, the answer is neither simple or one-size-fits-all.Listen as the duo explores the relationship of beauty and confidence, discusses the intricacies of the mind-body-sprit connection through the lens of body augmentation, outlines the role that cosmetic medicine (including plastic surgery) can play in revitalizing one’s sense of hope, and debunks the myth that cosmetic procedures will remove all self-esteem issues or lack of confidence.Additional highlights include:Why finding a board-certified plastic surgeon who values reputation and trust above dollars in the door is a must;Why doctors may avoid discussing aesthetics during a patient’s initial meeting and how that approach can result in improved recommendations; How minor adjustments can improve a patient’s spirits independent of their post-treatment appearance;The surgeon’s dilemma of managing expectations and emphasizing improvement over perfection;What makes a procedure truly successful; and so much more.BONUS: Don’t miss the end of the episode where Dr. Chasin flips the script and puts Pat in the hot seat, drawing some neat correlations between his work and her role as a practicing divorce lawyer!Be sure to follow Heartbreak & Hope with Pat Barbarito on Apple, Spotify, Amazon Music, or YouTube, or bookmark the official podcast webpage to keep the entire library at your fingertips.
Sit, Stay, Heal: What Dogs Can Teach Us About Living Well with Dr. Renee Alsarraf
Jul 27 2023
Sit, Stay, Heal: What Dogs Can Teach Us About Living Well with Dr. Renee Alsarraf
This episode is for the dogs…and cats…and, really, any animal friend that has ever impressed you with its resiliency and capacity for love, forgiveness, and silliness. Host Pat Barbarito welcomes veterinarian oncologist, cancer survivor, wife, boy mom, pet parent, and featured guest Dr. Renee Alsarraf and invites her to share the inspiration behind Renee’s debut memoir, Sit, Stay, Heal: What Dogs Can Teach Us About Living Well.  The story begins with the unbelievable timing of Renee and her dog Newton’s cancer diagnoses, and the inevitable comparison between how human and animal were reacting to treatment – a glaring difference that would ultimately make Renee realize her four-legged friend was far wiser than she ever expected. Join the conversation to explore what dogs (pets) have to teach us (humans) about: The value of community connection;The power of the waiting room;The sanctity of self-care; The importance of mindset and mindfulness; and so much more.Sit, Stay, Heal: What Dogs Can Teach Us About Living Well was featured on the Kelly Clarkson Show and is available at Barnes & Nobles, Amazon.com, and Target. Please click here for more information.“A dog is the only thing on earth that loves you more than he loves himself.”– Josh Billings Be sure to follow Heartbreak & Hope with Pat Barbarito on Apple, Spotify, Amazon Music, or YouTube, or bookmark the official podcast webpage to keep the entire library at your fingertips.
It Takes A Village: How Systemic Humanity Changes Lives with Dr. Michael Libertazzo
May 30 2023
It Takes A Village: How Systemic Humanity Changes Lives with Dr. Michael Libertazzo
As we close out Mental Health Awareness month, host Pat Barbarito explores the idea of systemic humanity through the extraordinary life story of featured guest, Dr. Michael Libertazzo. From the heartbreak of a misspent youth to the hope of completing a nontraditional educational path at the highest level, from serving among September 11th’s first responders to facing a seemingly unbeatable cancer diagnosis, from supporting doctors, nurses and other healthcare providers during the early days of the COVID-19 pandemic to rallying financial assistance for rescue dogs in the United States’ poorest county, Michael embraces the idea that truly strong individuals are either actively contributing to the wellbeing of others or graciously accepting the help and support they themselves need. Other highlights from this episode include: Why it is vital to know and appreciate what you have to offer your family, friends, and community at large; How to become a positive part of systemic humanity by absorbing kindness while also giving it;Why the semantics of “selfish” should be revisited and the idea of self-preserving embraced in its stead; How a mindfulness practice that includes letting go of negativity and setting a daily intention can greatly improve your outlook on life; and so much more.Be sure to follow Heartbreak & Hope with Pat Barbarito on Apple, Spotify, Amazon Music, or YouTube, or bookmark the official podcast webpage to keep the entire library at your fingertips.
The Love Toolkit with Dr. Duana Welch
Mar 15 2023
The Love Toolkit with Dr. Duana Welch
Host Pat Barbarito is convinced that the secret to healthy relationships is rooted in scientific research and credits our good friend Dr. Duana Welch with showing her empirical evidence that explains – and can often predict – the behaviors of humans seeking lasting connection. In this ‘best of’ retrospective, we highlight some of Dr. Welch’s research and recommendations featured in our trilogy of episodes and invite you to: Dispel the popular dating myths that plague modern society but actually set people up for a lifetime of broken hearts; Get comfortable with the discomfort of online dating and find the fun in the journey; Increase the odds of correctly identifying your significant other among all the unsuitable matches; Embrace the two must-haves that guarantee a successful relationship; Learn how the most captivating online profiles are created and which photos make them even more memorable; Understand how and when to take an online interaction into the real world; Examine the four attachment styles that rule all human connection – familial, platonic, romantic; and so much more. Miss an episode from this trilogy? Find the full-length conversations by visiting the links below! The Science of LoveFinding Love Online at Any Age Exploring Relationship Attachment Styles Be sure to follow Heartbreak & Hope with Pat Barbarito on Apple, Spotify, Amazon Music, or YouTube, or bookmark the official podcast webpage to keep the entire library at your fingertips.
What I Wish I’d Known Before Getting Married & Divorced
Feb 14 2023
What I Wish I’d Known Before Getting Married & Divorced
Happy Valentine’s Day! Heartbreak & Hope celebrates its first anniversary AND launches its fourth season with a look back – not over the past 18 thought-provoking episodes, but on the hindsight lessons that host Pat Barbarito and some of her bravest clients have learned throughout their own marriages and divorces. Anecdotes from first surviving, then healing, their heartbreak include: How much do shared values and life philosophies matter;What your potential spouse’s parents’ relationship can tell you;The importance of addressing your own issues and developing a strong sense of self-respect;Why it’s critical to agree on the makeup of the family’s foundation (children, couple, individual); What is narcissistic behavior and how knowing a potential partner’s psych profile can help avoid a lifetime of pain;How counseling can help you become a better communicator but won’t necessarily solve all relationship problems;How prenuptial agreements play an important part in the dissolution of a relationship whether by divorce or death; The value of a divorce lawyer who is an emotionally intelligent strategist with deep knowledge of the matrimonial laws in a specific region;Understanding the depth of the legal obligations you take on when getting married;Why mediation isn’t always the best way forward and can sometimes be a punishment;The pain of parental alienation and the perceived inability of courts to address it;A few thoughts about navigating divorce in America as an international spouse; and so much more.BONUS: If the human brain doesn’t stop maturing until one’s late twenties, should anyone take on a lifetime commitment before then? Check out Big Think’s most recent article on the latest neuroscience research. ICYMI: BE SURE TO CHECK OUT HEARTBREAK & HOPE’S 2022 PERFORMANCE STATS!Be sure to follow Heartbreak & Hope with Pat Barbarito on Apple, Spotify, Amazon Music, or YouTube, or bookmark the official podcast webpage to keep the entire library at your fingertips.
Surviving Parental Alienation with Dr. Amy Baker
Jan 11 2023
Surviving Parental Alienation with Dr. Amy Baker
Parental alienation has a devastating effect on both children and the targeted parent – but is it always malicious?  What does an alienator tell themselves to justify the aggressive separation of child and parent? At what age are children most susceptible to the manipulation of one parent against another? Can alienated parents and children ever re-establish a healthy connection?Host Pat Barbarito and featured guest Dr. Amy Baker explore these questions and more, as they delve into fear, sadness, financial loss, and court frustration associated with parental alienation during divorce/custody proceedings.Conversation highlights also include:Defining parental alienation, how experts use the term, and why it matters;Why avoiding labelling the person and focusing on behavior is key when discussing parental alienation tactics and rebuttals;Navigating the confusing idea that the alienated child feels rejected by the very parent they are rejecting;The courts’ role in assessing alienation and requiring reunification efforts;How a manipulative parent’s behavior can actually help the other side move forward in a custody battle;The four mental hurdles that must be overcome to build and win a parental alienation case; andFinding hope amongst the variety of paths to reunification. BONUS: Dr. Baker offers a sneak peek into her as-yet-untitled new book designed to help parents engage with their hurt, angry, rejected, distant child, including 30 sample texts to send to encourage real time communication. ADDITIONAL RECOMMENDATION: If you are experiencing parental alienation, please watch the Erasing Family documentary for confirmation that you are not alone and there is hope. Be sure to follow Heartbreak & Hope with Pat Barbarito on Apple, Spotify, Amazon Music, or YouTube, or bookmark the official podcast webpage to keep the entire library at your fingertips.
Finding Love After 50 with Francine Russo
Nov 16 2022
Finding Love After 50 with Francine Russo
Host Pat Barbarito and featured guest Francine Russo, author of Love After 50: How to Find It, Enjoy It & Keep It, join considerable forces to dispel the myth that dating is only for awkward teenagers, non-committal college students, and young professionals with babies on the brain.Instead, they claim that (1) dating is actually MORE fun, (2) sex is MORE enjoyable, and (3) partnerships have MORE real connection when you have some life – and possibly a few relationships – under your belt.  Conversation highlights include:Dating as a realist; How to adopt the right mindset before diving into the online dating pool; The one thing that is guaranteed to sabotage the future of a healthy new relationship;How to recover from the ‘shame’ of a broken relationship;How understanding your role in creating the elements of your past (successful and failed) relationships becomes a powerful tool in building stronger future partnerships;Navigating the emotional impact of dating after a long-term relationship or marriage.How to go about revealing your true self during the dating process.Preparing for sex with a new partner at an older ageBONUS: The top issues you MUST discuss before committing to a new relationship later in life.Love After 50: How to Find It, Enjoy It & Keep It is available in hardcover or paperback, for Kindle, and on Audible. Be sure to follow Heartbreak & Hope with Pat Barbarito on Apple, Spotify, Amazon Music, or YouTube, or bookmark the official podcast webpage to keep the entire library at your fingertips.
This Is Us with Matthew Coleman, Brendan Sullivan
Sep 14 2022
This Is Us with Matthew Coleman, Brendan Sullivan
Family values are a top topic in the U.S. media and its electoral campaigns, but have you ever wondered about the very real people behind those headlines? Host Pat Barbarito invites Matthew Coleman and Brendan Sullivan to share the story of how their family came to be – from young Irish Catholic boys trying to stay out of trouble in New Jersey and Rhode Island, to graduate students navigating the New York dating scene (and proposal demands!), to prospective parents determined to ensure a big, bright future for their son.Learn how the laws that govern America’s relationship with marriage, parenthood, race, sexual orientation, religion, and even individuality affect the everyday lives of two Americans and the family they hope to grow.Conversation highlights include:The importance of acknowledging the presence of fear in individual and societal development, and why it’s very likely that today ISN’T the end of the world;  How your familial past can influence in your future, but doesn’t necessarily dictate the terms of your happiness; The surprising insight from Brendan’s mother that offered fresh perspective on impending parenthood;The practical benefits of marriage and how New Jersey’s civil union status for same sex couples falls short in offering the same protections;The reality of parenting a black child in modern-day America and the inner work required before adopting a child of a different race; and more.BONUS: Matthew explains how defeating the Defense of Marriage Act – and the ensuing confusion in New Jersey about the benefits of marriage vs. civil union – was a driving force behind choosing family law as a career path. Be sure to follow Heartbreak & Hope with Pat Barbarito on Apple, Spotify, Amazon Music, or YouTube, or bookmark the official podcast webpage to keep the entire library at your fingertips.
The Greatness of Our Golden Years with Rob Liebreich
Jul 27 2022
The Greatness of Our Golden Years with Rob Liebreich
For many, aging is an uncomfortable aspect of life, and the very idea of retiring or entering an assisted living facility produces feelings of dread, sadness, and despair. But not so for featured guest Rob Liebreich, CEO & President of Goodwin Living. Instead, he is quick to tell host Pat Barbarito how his career spent in service to seniors has given him insight into just how rich life can be in one’s 70s, 80s, and beyond – and inspires him to do whatever is necessary to keep the golden years shining for generations.Conversation highlights include: How a long life can impact a person’s perspective on love and soften any resistance to receiving and sharing love;The community support that can be found in assisted living facilities and how being part of a community can play into the discovery of purpose;The importance of finding and embracing a spirit of purpose at any age;The key ingredients to creating an engaged community at an assisted living facilityHow to create meaningful change without alienating people along the way;The three simple tasks that help strengthen the prefrontal cortex and arrest the symptoms of dementia and other cognitive diseases; and so much more.BONUS: Learn more about Stronger Memory – the brain boosting curriculum inspired by Rob’s own experience helping his mother halt her mild cognitive impairment – and how these tools remain free to the public through support from the Goodwin Living Foundation. Special thanks to the State of Maryland for rolling out the program to senior centers throughout the state and to George Mason University professors O’Hara and Thompkins for collaborating on further research in this area.  Be sure to follow Heartbreak & Hope with Pat Barbarito on Apple, Spotify, Amazon Music, or YouTube, or bookmark the official podcast webpage to keep the entire library at your fingertips.
Redefining Family with Matheu Nunn
Jul 6 2022
Redefining Family with Matheu Nunn
What is family? Whether you envision a traditional (two parents of different genders with biological offspring) or expanded (parents that include single, adoptive, step, foster, grandparents, siblings, or other kin, same-sex couples, etc.) model, the ties that bind families together are varied and complex. Host Pat Barbarito and featured guest Matheu Nunn examine the legal definition of family and explore how that affects the rights, responsibilities, and obligations of everyone involved.  Highlights include: Surprising roots of the U.S. legal definition of family;The hierarchy of rights for parents, other family members, and interested third parties, as well as a review of the parens patriae principle, and the difference between parental rights and visitation rights;How the rights of biological parents are protected, even when considering the termination of those rights;Negotiating parental rights in blended families, at the beginning or end of a relationship/marriage;Why the legal relationship between parent and child must be severed before adoption can be finalized;When and why the court can insert itself and its guidance, including the removal of a child or termination of parental rights, into a family; and so much moreBONUS: Follow Mat’s seven-year litigation saga as it winds through various courts to help a non-traditional family be legally recognized by the U.S. legal system.Be sure to follow Heartbreak & Hope with Pat Barbarito on Apple, Spotify, Amazon Music, or YouTube, or bookmark the official podcast webpage to keep the entire library at your fingertips.