Conversations with Dr. Jennifer

Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife

Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is a sex and relationship expert who has been interviewed for hundreds of podcasts. You can access all the amazing content covering issues of faith, sexuality, integrity, belonging, and more right here on the interview archive! Dr. Finlayson-Fife is an LDS relationship and sexuality coach as well as a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in the state of Illinois. Dr. Finlayson-Fife also has a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology. The advice offered through any and all podcasts in which she is featured is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes. read less

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The Conversations with Dr. Jennifer podcast is a sex and relationship podcast. Host Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife helps couples with challenges in their marriages. But she shares principles, tips, and insights for anyone. Those interested in working on their marriage, sex life, and spiritual life could find this podcast helpful.

The podcast features a collection of the host's appearances on many other podcasts. Topics include sexual intimacy, mental health, and spiritual development. These conversations provide validation for real human beings lives and sexual development.

Dr. Jennifer has both a master's degree and a PhD in counseling psychology. The host has offered relationship coaching since the early 2000s. In 2007, she set up a private practice to provide mental-health services. Dr. Jennifer soon discovered the demand for relationship counseling was higher. She then developed several online courses for struggling couples. She also works with many couples in her faith.

Conversations with Dr. Jennifer podcast episodes bring together Dr. Jennifer's interview appearances. Dr. Jennifer addresses topics like intimacy in the bedroom and raising kids. Her goal is to help couples build healthy emotional and sexual relationships. She's often in conversations with sex therapists, personal development coaches, and other experts.

Alongside these experts, Dr. Jennifer offers information for couples, parents, and single people. They talk about how to restore excitement in the bedroom, duty sex, and other topics. The conversations are open, candid, and informative. Some episodes feature the host responding to listener-submitted questions.

In one such episode, Dr. Jennifer addresses a question about desirability. A woman said her husband rejected her in bed. According to the listener, her husband complained about her post-birth weight gain. He also accused her of being a nymphomaniac. In her response, Dr. Jennifer explores the husband's behavior and offers possible solutions.

Conversations with Dr. Jennifer podcast episodes average between 20 to 60 minutes long.

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Regret, Remorse, and Resentment
Apr 9 2024
Regret, Remorse, and Resentment
In this powerful discussion, Dr. Finlayson-Fife teases out the difference between regret, resentment, and remorse and offers clarity on what these unpleasant emotions can teach us about ourselves and the way we are showing up in our lives and relationships.

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Regret, Remorse, and Resentment
Apr 9 2024
Regret, Remorse, and Resentment
In this powerful discussion, Dr. Finlayson-Fife teases out the difference between regret, resentment, and remorse and offers clarity on what these unpleasant emotions can teach us about ourselves and the way we are showing up in our lives and relationships.
Parenting and Partnership
Apr 2 2024
Parenting and Partnership
In this NEW conversation with Crystal of The Parenting Coach Podcast, Dr. Finlayson-Fife discusses how we can create healthier, more collaborative partnerships even when our partner is not invested in creating positive change.
Underinvested: The Disappointing Dividends of a Role-Based Marriage || Room for Two Teaser
Mar 20 2024
Underinvested: The Disappointing Dividends of a Role-Based Marriage || Room for Two Teaser
TJ and Ashley’s story is a familiar one for many. Their marriage started out happily enough. They were young college students and enjoyed each other a lot during their first few years together. But things changed when TJ started graduate school during an economic downturn. TJ felt a tremendous amount of anxiety about his financial future, given the dim prospects for most students at the time. Competition was fierce and in TJ’s determination to ensure his family’s economic stability, he dedicated himself to his studies, leaving little time or emotional bandwidth for anything else, including Ashley.
Learning to Love, Respect, and Accept Yourself
Mar 12 2024
Learning to Love, Respect, and Accept Yourself
In this NEW episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Amber Brueseke of Biceps After Babies Radio to discuss the important role that self-honesty and self-definition play in our relationship to our bodies as well as in our emotional, spiritual, and relational development.
Navigating Desire Differences in Marriage
Mar 5 2024
Navigating Desire Differences in Marriage
In this NEW episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife takes questions from her audience about desire dynamics and the unique challenges faced by both the higher-desire spouse and the lower-desire spouse. In the discussion Dr. Finlayson-Fife discusses how couples can work together to create a more collaborative dynamic and what to do if only one spouse is interested in addressing the desire discrepancy.
Understanding Sexual Inhibitions
Feb 13 2024
Understanding Sexual Inhibitions
Recently, I joined Tammy Hill of the Live Your Why Podcast to discuss the meanings that keep many of us from fully experiencing the joy of our sexuality and what we can do to shift these common, but problematic meaning frames and create something better.
Loss and Its Impact on Desire
Feb 1 2024
Loss and Its Impact on Desire
Facing acute loss is a harrowing and sobering experience, in part because it wakes us up to just how little control we have in our lives and over our circumstances. But finding the courage to keep moving forward, even when the path is riddled with uncertainty, is a beautiful form of faith. When we take the disappointment and loss that life hands us and use it to become more kind and compassionate people, we increase our capacity to deeply cherish the good around us. This NEW episode is the audio from a Q&A session that Dr. Finlayson-Fife hosted on the topic of loss and grief. During the conversation, Dr. Finlayson-Fife took questions about all different types of losses including miscarriage, death, disappointment, broken marriages, and frustrated expectations.
Masculinity and Sexual Shame
Jan 16 2024
Masculinity and Sexual Shame
In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Tammy Hill of the Live Your Why Podcast for a discussion on men’s sexuality and how our cultural messaging about masculinity has impacted men’s ability to come to peace with their sexuality.
Coping with Conflict: Moving Beyond Losing Strategies
Jan 9 2024
Coping with Conflict: Moving Beyond Losing Strategies
Conflict is a natural outgrowth of two people trying to forge a life together and it presents a remarkable opportunity for growth if we allow it. When we disagree with our spouse, we often go to behaviors that lead to hurt and frustration rather than making a concerted effort to engage often counter-intuitive, but more productive and collaborative responses. In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins relationship coach Anne Nelson to discuss how relationships can grow and flourish, even in the face of conflict and difference.
Reconcilable Differences: Finding Common Ground in a Mixed-Faith Marriage
Jan 2 2024
Reconcilable Differences: Finding Common Ground in a Mixed-Faith Marriage
Feeling united in marriage is a big deal, and when your worldview has too little overlap with your spouse’s, it can create a sense of loneliness and even despair. The temptation in this scenario is to try to convince your spouse to see things the “right” way (i.e. your way!). But, when we do this, we set ourselves up for a lifelong power struggle and a relationship unlikely to find common ground. On the other hand, earnestly seeking to understand your spouse’s point of view–how they see the world and why it makes sense to them–is an essential practice. Rather than demand validation of your own beliefs, seeking first to genuinely understand is a powerful skill. It opens both partners up to deeper understanding of each other and even if there isn’t “agreement” there is at a minimum more ability to work more collaboratively with differing views. I recently joined Elisa Fucci of the Elisa Fucci Show to discuss how couples can navigate their differences with wisdom and maturity, and how doing so can lead to not only finding common ground in a mixed-faith marriage, but finding higher ground.
Something is Already Working: A Discussion on Embodiment, Vulnerability, and Mindfulness with Thomas McConkie
Dec 19 2023
Something is Already Working: A Discussion on Embodiment, Vulnerability, and Mindfulness with Thomas McConkie
Several weeks ago, Dr. Finlayson-Fife invited Thomas McConkie to join her and Room for Two annual subscribers for an interactive discussion about embodiment, vulnerability, and the power of mindfulness. This week, we are publishing the recording of this rich and meaningful conversation for ALL to enjoy.
Discomfort for Growth: A Crash Course in Differentiation Theory
Dec 12 2023
Discomfort for Growth: A Crash Course in Differentiation Theory
In this NEW podcast episode, Sherrae Phelps interviews Dr. Finlayson-Fife about her unique approach to coaching and what sets this approach apart from others. Throughout the episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife breaks down many of the phrases and concepts that are central to differentiation theory and her work, and goes on to discuss why these concepts are so powerful and effective for those looking to grow in their capacity to love.
The Messy Middle: Midlife Crisis Facebook Live Q&A
Nov 21 2023
The Messy Middle: Midlife Crisis Facebook Live Q&A
This NEW podcast episode is the recording of a live Q&A that Dr. Finlayson-Fife held for members of her Facebook Community. During the discussion, Dr. Finlayson-Fife took questions from the group about midlife and how we can navigate these often disillusioning middle years with clarity, wisdom, and hope.
Coaching Our Children: Self-Authoring, Belonging, and Personal Authority
Nov 14 2023
Coaching Our Children: Self-Authoring, Belonging, and Personal Authority
In this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Tom Telford, Liza Telford, and Preston Niederhauser, hosts of the BrainSTOKE podcast, to give parents helpful guidance on how they can be loving, wise mentors as their children stumble through the sometimes turbulent transition into adulthood.
Overcoming the FEAR of Intimacy
Oct 31 2023
Overcoming the FEAR of Intimacy
In this special Halloween episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Jeff & Cathy of the LILY POD podcast to discuss why intimacy can be so terrifying, how we can overcome these fears, and the benefits that await those who are courageous enough to really care, know, and understand themselves and others.
Love, Loss, and Living Life on Life's Terms: A Conversation with Dr. Adam Miller
Oct 24 2023
Love, Loss, and Living Life on Life's Terms: A Conversation with Dr. Adam Miller
Last month, Dr. Adam Miller joined Dr. Finlayson-Fife and Room for Two subscribers for an interactive discussion about love, faith, loss, and more. The conversation was simply too incredible to keep contained on the Room for Two podcast, so today, we are releasing it here on Conversations with Dr. Jennifer so that EVERYONE can enjoy it. This beautiful exchange of ideas between Dr. Finlayson-Fife and Dr. Miller will change the way you think about love in the best possible way.
Heart & Hustle: Cultivating Intimacy in Busy Lives
Oct 10 2023
Heart & Hustle: Cultivating Intimacy in Busy Lives
In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Dr. Dave and Ashley of the On Call with Dr. Dave podcast to talk through the impact of high-demand careers on relationships and the important role that self-awareness, honest communication, and conscious choosing play in keeping resentment and entitlement at bay.
Developing Sexual Wholeness
Oct 3 2023
Developing Sexual Wholeness
Today we are releasing the recording of Dr. Finlayson-Fife's 2022 Restore presentation, "Developing Sexual Wholeness." In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife discusses the integration of spirituality and sexuality from an LDS theological perspective. She also discusses the three stages of development (Egocentric, Social, and Self-Authoring) and how each stage shapes how we think about ourselves, our sexuality, and God.
The Challenge of Pornography in Marriage
Sep 26 2023
The Challenge of Pornography in Marriage
In this recent Facebook Live, Zach and Darcy Spafford of the Thrive Beyond Pornography podcast joined Dr. Finlayson-Fife to share their personal experience working through unwanted pornography use in their marriage and how after years of feeling stuck and frustrated, they were able to shift gears and make meaningful, lasting progress in their relationship to pornography and their relationship to each other.
Modesty From the Inside Out
Aug 29 2023
Modesty From the Inside Out
In this NEW podcast episode, I join Aubrey and Tim Chaves from the Faith Matters podcast to talk about modesty and how we can relate to and cherish our bodies so as to experience deeply embodied joy through them. Listen to the full episode to learn more about: Problematic understandings of modesty Why modesty is such a culturally charged topic Sexual self-mastery Healthy ways to talk to youth about modesty and sexuality Stages of moral development The gift of sexual conservatism