Pleasure Isn't Just Sex

Naomi Harris

Welcome to Pleasure Isn’t Just Sex, where we explore the world of turn on, delight, joy and orgasm, but not just sex. Curious if you can feel more pleasure, more of the time? This podcast is for you! read less

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Episode 18: But what if I don't orgasm?

Episode 18: But what if I don't orgasm?

Ashley’s story is common for a lot of us.She never really found physical pleasure in sex and never orgasmed.Sure, there was the closeness and connection and building love and trust that came from sex with her husband, but orgasm wasn’t part of her experience.She’s on the podcast for episode 18, vulnerably sharing about what that has meant for her enjoyment of her body, what has recently changed, and why it changed. If you have always wanted more pleasure in your sexual experiences, this episode will give you hope! ---More about me:I support women who experience painful sex and genital/pelvic pain to heal so that they can experience epic sex and pleasure.If you want to dip your toe into pleasure and healing in a safe place, come and check out my private Facebook Group, ‘Let’s Talk About Painful Sex’.Website: http://www.thepleasurenaturopath.com/Instagram @naomiharrisnd—------------------About Ashley Ashley Carlotta resides in Mckinney, Texas with her husband and 3 kids. She believes that it is absolutely possible to lose weight without being on a diet. As a Certified Health Coach, Ashley has held hundreds of women accountable to eat well and exercise while living in moderation and practicing mindfulness. She is the founder of Better Health by Accountability, coaches women all over the world, and believes that daily accountability support is key to reaching your health and wellness goals. Her accountability coaching provides daily communication, check-ins, guidance and continuous reminders. Ashley’s clients are successful with her direct, no excuses, fun loving coaching style. One of her greatest passions is helping others succeed in finding confidence in their bodies because for so long, she hated her own. She knows all too well how awful it feels to be stuck in a vicious cycle of yo-yo dieting and how freeing it feels to be on the other side of that. Ashley will rarely turn down a girl’s night, loves to dance, and thoroughly likes a good reality show like Married At First Sight. Website: https://www.betterhealthbyaccountability.com/Freebie: 5 tips to living your life like a normal person (while still losing weight)Instagram: @betterhealthbyaccountabilityFacebook: @betterhealthbyaccountability—------------------Theme music used with gratitude under creative commons:Unwritten Stories : Smile.

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Episode 18: But what if I don't orgasm?

Episode 18: But what if I don't orgasm?

Ashley’s story is common for a lot of us.She never really found physical pleasure in sex and never orgasmed.Sure, there was the closeness and connection and building love and trust that came from sex with her husband, but orgasm wasn’t part of her experience.She’s on the podcast for episode 18, vulnerably sharing about what that has meant for her enjoyment of her body, what has recently changed, and why it changed. If you have always wanted more pleasure in your sexual experiences, this episode will give you hope! ---More about me:I support women who experience painful sex and genital/pelvic pain to heal so that they can experience epic sex and pleasure.If you want to dip your toe into pleasure and healing in a safe place, come and check out my private Facebook Group, ‘Let’s Talk About Painful Sex’.Website: http://www.thepleasurenaturopath.com/Instagram @naomiharrisnd—------------------About Ashley Ashley Carlotta resides in Mckinney, Texas with her husband and 3 kids. She believes that it is absolutely possible to lose weight without being on a diet. As a Certified Health Coach, Ashley has held hundreds of women accountable to eat well and exercise while living in moderation and practicing mindfulness. She is the founder of Better Health by Accountability, coaches women all over the world, and believes that daily accountability support is key to reaching your health and wellness goals. Her accountability coaching provides daily communication, check-ins, guidance and continuous reminders. Ashley’s clients are successful with her direct, no excuses, fun loving coaching style. One of her greatest passions is helping others succeed in finding confidence in their bodies because for so long, she hated her own. She knows all too well how awful it feels to be stuck in a vicious cycle of yo-yo dieting and how freeing it feels to be on the other side of that. Ashley will rarely turn down a girl’s night, loves to dance, and thoroughly likes a good reality show like Married At First Sight. Website: https://www.betterhealthbyaccountability.com/Freebie: 5 tips to living your life like a normal person (while still losing weight)Instagram: @betterhealthbyaccountabilityFacebook: @betterhealthbyaccountability—------------------Theme music used with gratitude under creative commons:Unwritten Stories : Smile.

Episode 17: Embracing your feminine is a load of woo woo nonsense, right?

Episode 17: Embracing your feminine is a load of woo woo nonsense, right?

Have you heard that as a woman you are too much in your masculine, and need to be more in your feminine? Or that if you just 'embrace your feminine' you will be able to effortlessly tick off your massively long to-do list, and feel sexy and relaxed at the end of the day?What do these words even mean?If you embrace your feminine, do you have to go and dance naked in the moonlight and paint yourself with your own menstrual blood?And what does that have to do with the realities of modern life, and just getting through our incredibly busy days?Jenni Anne is a Purpose Coach and Breathwork Guide who helps overwhelmed women get more done while doing less, in ways that leave them relaxed, resourced and real. ---More about me:I support women who experience painful sex and genital/pelvic pain to heal so that they can experience epic sex and pleasure.If you want to dip your toe into pleasure and healing in a safe place, come and check out my private Facebook Group, ‘Let’s Talk About Painful Sex’. Website: www.thepleasurenaturopath.comInstagram @naomiharrisnd---About Jenni AnneJenni is a Purpose Coach and Breathwork Guide who helps overwhelmed women discover and align to their Higher Purpose and remember their magnificence so together we can raise the vibration of the planet.Her unique approach empowers women to unapologetically reclaim a life of meaning, and reconnect to flow so they can embody their deepest form of joy. All in a way that feels safe.Website: https://iamjanne.com/Instagram and Twitter: @iamjennianne—------------------Theme music used with gratitude under creative commons:Unwritten Stories : Smile.

Episode 16: Does sex stop after menopause?

Episode 16: Does sex stop after menopause?

Have you decided that your sexual life will just be finished after menopause? Are you allowed to be turned on, sexy and desirable after 50 plus, or do you just have to shut down and turn off like society tells you you should?Karen Levine has passed through menopause, and is still juicy and sexy, desiring and desirable, so what is different about her?And is it possible for all of us?---More about me:I support women who experience painful sex and genital/pelvic pain to heal so that they can experience epic sex and pleasure.If you want to dip your toe into pleasure and healing in a safe place, come and check out my private Facebook Group, ‘Let’s Talk About Painful Sex’. Website: www.thepleasurenaturopath.comInstagram @naomiharrisnd---About Karen LevineReiki master, body & sexual de-armouring practitioner, and life coach, Karen assists clients to discover and give voice to their heartfelt desires and identify ways to lead self-empowered and fully expressed lives based on their specific goals. By facilitating the release of blockages (physical and emotional) and guiding clients to identify and transform limiting beliefs and behavior patterns into beneficial ones, her work helps clients to live life with greater joy, vitality, and confidence.Reach out at: maturewomenrsexy@gmail.com---Theme music used with gratitude under creative commons:Unwritten Stories : Smile.

Episode 15: Curious about kink?

Episode 15: Curious about kink?

Are you curious about kink?Maybe you've seen the 50 Shades movies or you've heard that some people like having things done to them that to you seem degrading or painful. And where is the pleasure in that?Jessica is a kink and sex personality coach, helping women find their unique sensual side and then embrace and embody that to have a life full of pleasure.Episode 15 explores all things kink, including trauma, consent, pleasure, and why you would want to, anyway.---More about me:I support women who experience painful sex and genital/pelvic pain to heal so that they can experience epic sex and pleasure.If you want to dip your toe into pleasure and healing in a safe place, come and check out my private Facebook Group, ‘Let’s Talk About Painful Sex’. Website: www.thepleasurenaturopath.comInstagram @naomiharrisnd---About Jessica Aycock:Jessica is a kink and sex personality coach, helping women find their unique sensual side and then embrace and embody that to have a life full of pleasure. She also provides support to sex workers and focuses on a health work/life balance as well as fighting the stigma of sex work. She has spent 7 years working as a licensed therapist in the state of NC (USA) and brings many skills from her clinical work to her coaching. Free kinks checklist: https://thejessaycock.ck.page/kinksWebsite: https://www.thejessaycock.com/Socials (IG/Tiktok/FB): @thejessaycock ---Theme music used with gratitude under creative commons:Unwritten Stories : Smile.

Episode 14: How can we have more pleasure with sex?

Episode 14: How can we have more pleasure with sex?

Ok, sure, pleasure isn't just sex, but what if we want to have more pleasure when we have sex?Aaron Michael is on the pod today, and as an author, sex coach, bodyworker and course creator, he has created a new model for sex that brings the power of our pleasure back to each of us. We talked about the potential for pleasure in every body, what it takes to have truly fulfilling sex, and what to do when we are in bodies that have pain or numbness and sex isn't feeling great, or we just don't want to have sex at all. ---More about me:I support women who experience painful sex and genital/pelvic pain to heal so that they can experience epic sex and pleasure.If you want to dip your toe into pleasure and healing in a safe place, come and check out my private Facebook Group, ‘Let’s Talk About Painful Sex’. Website: www.thepleasurenaturopath.comInstagram @naomiharrisnd—--About Aaron:Aaron Michael is an author, sex coach, and bodyworker who has worked hands- on with several thousand men, women, and couples, supporting them with physical and psychological numbness, pain, and the optimisization of pleasure where doctors and other therapists had given up. He has created a new model for sex that doesn’t rely on friction and the embodiment of avoidant attachment behaviors promulgated by the greatest sex educator...porn, and is working towards a world where sex, relations, and clear communication create healthy, happy, and powerful individuals, couples, and communities for healthier nations and global wellbeing. Websites: For men: https://www.bedroommasterclass.com/bethebestsheeverhadFor women: https://www.bedroommasterclass.com/blowhismindInstagram: @aaronmichael_method—--Theme music used with gratitude under creative commons:Unwritten Stories : Smile.

Episode 13: Are pure christians allowed to enjoy sex?

Episode 13: Are pure christians allowed to enjoy sex?

Sarah Michelle grew up in purity culture, and after a painful and unexpected divorce, found herself in hookup culture.We talked about what the impact of her purity education was on her sense of herself and her sexuality, and how that flowed over into world view and mindset. If you are curious about the impacts of religious upbringings on your sense of self, and sexuality, especially when you find yourself living in a completely different sexual world, Sarah takes us on this journey through her life. ---More about me:I support women who experience painful sex and genital/pelvic pain to heal so that they can experience epic sex and pleasure.If you want to dip your toe into pleasure and healing in a safe place, come and check out my private Facebook Group, ‘Let’s Talk About Painful Sex’. Website: www.thepleasurenaturopath.comInstagram @naomiharrisnd—- About Sarah Michelle:Sarah is a real and raw brand identity strategist and personal identity evangelist. She is the CEO and creator of HoneyMAP, a personalized roadmap that connects the core values of mission-minded business leaders with their audience through clear brand messaging and creative marketing strategies. She is also the creator and host of the Successful(ish) podcast and lifestyle brand and is dedicated to sweetening the world by ending identity crisis and redefining success. When she’s not elbow deep in brand strategy and wordsmithing, you can find her hiking with her two fur babies, or drinking copious amounts of coffee in independent bookstores. Website: https://justsarahmichelle.comInstagram/ Facebook/ Linked In: @justsarahmichelle—------------------Theme music used with gratitude under creative commons:Unwritten Stories : Smile.

Episode 12: You want to tie me up, why?

Episode 12: You want to tie me up, why?

Have you ever been curious about being tied up?Maybe you're wondering why anyone would do it?Or how they do it?And isn't it demeaning and degrading to be tied up? Why would we be talking about rope play and pleasure in the same conversation? Marco Jellema is on the pod this week to share his expertise and passion for therapeutic Shibari, the Japanese art of rope play. If you have ever been curious about why anyone would let themselves be tied up, and why they would say they enjoyed it, this episode might just open your eyes to a whole new world. ---About Naomi: I support women who experience painful sex and genital/pelvic pain to heal so that they can experience epic sex and pleasure. Website: www.thepleasurenaturopath.comInstagram @naomiharrisndIf you want to dip your toe into pleasure and healing in a safe place, come and check out my private Facebook Group, ‘Let’s Talk About Painful Sex’. ---About Marco JellemaMarco is a dearmouring, somatic empowerment and healing shibari practitioner, who holds deep spaces of transformation, authentic expression, healing and personal growth for his clients.He works in person in the Netherlands, and combines de-armouring, somatic consent, sexual healing, talk therapy, shibari, space holding and shadow work into a beautiful healing modality.Website: https://senseyourbody.nl/en/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/marco.jellemaShibari Resources:https://www.osada-ryu.com/https://shibaristudy.com/—------------------Theme music used with gratitude under creative commons:Unwritten Stories : Smile.

Episode 11: What's libido got to do with it?

Episode 11: What's libido got to do with it?

How's your libido? Have you ever wished your libido was stronger, and wondered what you could do about it? Dr Patricia and I explore what it takes for women’s libidos to stay strong and healthy throughout our lives, and the answers might surprise you. ***About Naomi: Website: www.thepleasurenaturopath.comInstagram @naomiharrisndIf you want to dip your toe into pleasure and healing in a safe place, come and check out my private Facebook Group, ‘Let’s Talk About Painful Sex’. ***About Dr Patricia Dr. Patricia Petralba is the founder of Thrive Life Center, an integrative medicine wellness center in Tucson, AZ and the Head Coach of Revive and Thrive Mentorship Program. She is passionate about helping highly driven women to overcome burnout so they can feel inspired, balanced physically, emotionally, hormonally, and feel fulfilled in all areas of their life.Dr Patricia is running a free event to support you in your healing, on the 9th / 10th / 11th November. Reach out to find out more! Website: https://thrivelifecenter.com/Instagram: @patriciapetralba_mdFacebook: ThriveLifeCenterPLLC***Theme music used with gratitude under creative commons:Unwritten Stories : Smile.

Episode 10: Breathing your way to feeling good

Episode 10: Breathing your way to feeling good

Adam Beker is a student of the body and consciousness, and is certified in all things breathing. Adam and I let our inner geeks out for this episode, exploring the world of breathing, including if it’s true that if we breathe right, we can experience so much more pleasure in our bodies. So yep, we’re talking about breathing your way to orgasm. ***Want to learn more about what I offer?Website: www.thepleasurenaturopath.comInstagram @naomiharrisndIf you want to dip your toe into pleasure and healing in a safe place, come and check out my private Facebook Group, ‘Let’s Talk About Painful Sex’. ***About Adam:Adam is a certified Brethology instructor and yoga teacher, combining breathing, movement, mobility and mental focus in order to achieve optimal health and wellbeing. He offers 1:1 trainings in using the breath in to bring balance and healing to the body, mind and spirit. Website: https://www.the-gaia-method.com/Instagram: @the_gaia_methodYoutube: The Gaia Method***Theme music used with gratitude under creative commons:Unwritten Stories : Smile.

Episode 9: Can there be pleasure after an assault?

Episode 9: Can there be pleasure after an assault?

Do you remember being 20? Remember your own sexual education and first sexual explorations? Elle is on the pod talking about her pleasure experiences as a 20 year old, especially following an assault 18 months ago. We talk about sex ed, finding partners to help along the way, and what the assault taught her about her needs and wants. (There is no description of assault beyond mentioning that one occurred). ***Want to learn more about what I offer?Website: www.thepleasurenaturopath.comInstagram @naomiharrisndIf you want to dip your toe into pleasure and healing in a safe place, come and check out my private Facebook Group, ‘Let’s Talk About Painful Sex’. ***Theme music used with gratitude under creative commons:Unwritten Stories : Smile.

Episode 8: Are we allowed to feel turned on at funerals?

Episode 8: Are we allowed to feel turned on at funerals?

Peter Maloney is a grief and loss expert, who is on the pod to talk about that taboo topic - what do we do when we find ourselves in a turned on body when we are in mourning for someone we have loved and lost?Surely pleasure and grief don't belong in the same conversation?We talk about shame, grief, community and connection, and the healthy use of pleasure as a way to navigate our loss. This episode will inspire you to think more honestly about what it takes to be a human. ***Want to learn more about what I offer?Website: www.thepleasurenaturopath.comInstagram @naomiharrisndIf you want to dip your toe into pleasure and healing in a safe place, come and check out my private Facebook Group, ‘Let’s Talk About Painful Sex’. ***About Peter:Peter Maloney is an educator, coach and Facilitation Skills Trainer with Expertise in Grief and Emotional Literacy. He works with children and adolescents in grief programs, and also provides healing and behaviour change programs to community corrections in NSW, Australia. Download Peter's Heart Shift Balance Meditation Here: ***Theme music used with gratitude under creative commons:Unwritten Stories : Smile.

Episode 7: Are you allowed to feel pleasure if you're fat?

Episode 7: Are you allowed to feel pleasure if you're fat?

If you are living in a body that doesn't fit into what we are taught the perfect body should look like, (and let's face it, who is?), this episode will inspire you. Indi Gage describes herself as sex positive, disabled and fat, and in this episode she shares about her journey towards pleasure in a fat body. *** Want to learn more about what I offer?Website: www.thepleasurenaturopath.comInstagram @naomiharrisndIf you want to dip your toe into pleasure and healing in a safe place, come and check out my private Facebook Group, ‘Let’s Talk About Painful Sex’. ***About Indi:Indi Gage (she/her) is a twenty-five year old Gender Studies graduate from Melbourne, Australia. She's a sex positive, intersectional feminist and cohost of the Hot Girl's Theory podcast. Indi is queer, disabled and fat and this intersectional lens allows for a deep and rich understanding of a diverse range of social and political topics.Listen to Indi’s podcast here:Connect with Indi on Instagram***Theme music used with gratitude under creative commons:Unwritten Stories : Smile.

Episode 6: The ritual pleasures of a Jewish faith

Episode 6: The ritual pleasures of a Jewish faith

If you have ever been curious about pleasure and the Jewish faith, this episode is for you.Felice Winograd takes us on a gentle ride through her love of ritual, the pleasure she finds from simple daily acts, and her own understanding of where sexuality and pleasure sit in her faith. Listening to this episode feels like sitting down for a cup of tea with a close friend, relaxed and warm in each others company. ***Want to learn more about what I offer?Website: www.thepleasurenaturopath.comInstagram @naomiharrisndIf you want to dip your toe into pleasure and healing in a safe place, come and check out my private Facebook Group, ‘Let’s Talk About Painful Sex’. ***About FeliceFelice Winograd supports women, working within the lenses of coaching, body, sexuality and relaxing the nervous system. Known for her non-judgmental and loving way, Felice integrates her experience as a movement and meditation teacher, coach, and Embodied Psychosexual Practitioner in training.You can find out more about what she offers at: Website: https://www.felicewinograd.com/Instagram: @felicewinograd***Theme music used with gratitude under creative commons:Unwritten Stories : Smile.

Episode 5: This one is all about tongues.

Episode 5: This one is all about tongues.

Who knew how much tongue function could be connected to pleasure and sensation in the body?I don’t think I’m alone in thinking that tongues are super sexy. Soft, warm, wet, kissing, licking… oh my!Jessica Miller has been on a bit of a journey with her tongue, from 25% tongue function into her late 30s, to healing into full tongue mobility.This episode explores what changed in her life with the healing of her tongue, and spoiler, it’s bigger than just her tongue.And, of course I asked the burning question: what was it like that first time you kissed your husband with a tongue that actually worked properly?This episode is all about our tongues and pleasure that can come from that sensitive, mobile organ.***Website: www.thepleasurenaturopath.comInstagram @naomiharrisndIf you want to dip your toe into pleasure and healing in a safe place, come and check out my private Facebook Group, ‘Let’s Talk About Painful Sex’.***About Jessica:Jessica Miller is a myofunctional therapist, and a registered massage therapist. She also has specialized training in manual osteopathy and craniosacral therapy. She is on a mission to support whole body health, and whole family health by improving oral motor health and airway health.Continue the conversation in her Facebook group:Feel Better, Look Better, Sleep Better Checklist:***Theme music used with gratitude under creative commons:Unwritten Stories : Smile.

Episode 4: The sexy, sensual pleasures of burlesque

Episode 4: The sexy, sensual pleasures of burlesque

Have you ever been to a burlesque performance and wondered if those sexy performances get temperatures rising on the stage as well as in the audience? Koko La Douce is Germany’s longest performing burlesque artist, and a proud award winner of the Burlesque Hall of Fame in Las Vegas. She is a self-confessed bird of paradise and is on the pod to talk about arousal and turn on in the world of Burlesque. Koko shares all the juicy secret details of her art, and more! ***Want to learn more about what I offer?Website: www.thepleasurenaturopath.comInstagram: @naomiharrisndIf you want to dip your toe into pleasure and healing in a safe place, come and check out my private Facebook Group, ‘Let’s Talk About Painful Sex’. ***About KokoAs well as Burlesque, Koko is the first certified Yoni Whisperer in the Désilets Method (the modernised and scientifically underpinned Jade Egg practice) in the German-speaking world.She offers workshops and sessions for women who want to create the life that they are aching to live, by embracing their self-love, self-worth and self-confidence.Website: http://pussywisdom.de/Instagram: @p_u_s_s_y_wisdom***Theme music used with gratitude under creative commons:Unwritten Stories : Smile.

Episode 3: Can there be pleasure if you have never had sex?

Episode 3: Can there be pleasure if you have never had sex?

Have you ever thought about what it would be like if you hadn’t ever had sex with anyone else?And then as an adult, it was something that you wanted to try out?Elsa joins me to talk about whether or not is possible to have turn on and orgasm, if you have never had sex with anyone else.Elsa has asked to remain anonymous, as this is a vulnerable conversation!!I am so grateful to Elsa for coming on the pod and talking about this so openly, this is a beautiful conversation about sexual awakening and reverence. ***Want to learn more about what I offer?Website: www.thepleasurenaturopath.comInstagram: @naomiharrisndIf you want to dip your toe into pleasure and healing in a safe place, come and check out my private Facebook Group, ‘Let’s Talk About Painful Sex’.***Theme music used with gratitude under creative commons:Unwritten Stories : Smile.

Episode 2: The pleasure of making with our hands

Episode 2: The pleasure of making with our hands

This might not be the topic that you expect to thing about when you think about pleasure: knitting, crochet, weaving, sewing... really?But there is pleasure here as well. Lesley Joiner joins me to talk about the pleasure and turn on that she finds in using her hands to make beautiful things. This is a fun conversation that might not be what you would expect, if someone suggested that you ‘listen to two women talking about weaving and crochet for 30 minutes!’We touch on the turn on from beauty, the arousal of creating, and the pleasure that comes from gathering in groups of people with the intention to create. ***Want to learn more about what I offer?Website: www.thepleasurenaturopath.comInstagram: @naomiharrisndIf you want to dip your toe into pleasure and healing in a safe place, come and check out my private Facebook Group, ‘Let’s Talk About Painful Sex’. ***About Lesley:If you would like to find out more about Lesley Joiner and the powerful work she does to support women to find pleasure and relaxation in their everyday lives, and to thrive by just being themselves, look her up on Instagram at:Instagram: @joinerofpearls Instagram: @love_textiles***Theme music used with gratitude under creative commons:Unwritten Stories : Smile.

Episode 1: This is Pleasure Isn’t Just Sex

Episode 1: This is Pleasure Isn’t Just Sex

For this first episode, I am in the hot seat, as my friend and colleague Katie Farrell helps kick off this podcast with the question ‘Why do you talk about pleasure and sex so much, anyway?’.We take a detour past the importance of expanding out what pleasure means for each of us (desire, joy, delight, turn on, arousal, orgasm…), and I share about the power of feeling good when we are trying to heal. Plus, there’s a little of my own long, winding road from shut down to turned on. ***Want to learn more about what I offer?Website: www.thepleasurenaturopath.comInstagram: @naomiharrisndIf you want to dip your toe into pleasure and healing in a safe place, come and check out my private Facebook Group, ‘Let’s Talk About Painful Sex’. ***About Katie:If you want to learn more about Katie and the powerful work she does to support you to create a life you love and live on purpose, you can find her here. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CatalystKatieFarrell***Theme music used with gratitude under creative commons:Unwritten Stories : Smile