Marriage Mixed

Spencer & Shirley

Marriage is hard. And you know what makes marriage easier? Marrying someone from a different culture. Ha! Can you relate? You aren’t alone. We believe there is hope, help, and healing available for your marriage. read less
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Episode 12 - I Hate Lasagna (& Moving)
Apr 20 2024
Episode 12 - I Hate Lasagna (& Moving)
Phew, it's been a minute! We're excited to be back. 0:00 Intro 1:45 Spencer & Shirley update 5:05 Couple's Question 6:45 Brussels 9:09 All about moving 14:49 How to help someone who's moving 19:57 Moving advice 24:41 Baby interruption... 25:05 True or False 30:15 Hating Lasagna 32:27 Avoiding triggers 36:29 Ministry update 37:32 Shirley's fun fact 39:48 Wrapping up Join us as we unravel the difficulties of moving in an interracial marriage. You'll get to hear Spencer's true feelings about Shirley's lasagna, and also how to AVOID sharing your true feelings in some cases... https://marriagemixed.org/podcast/episode-12-i-hate-lasagna-and-moving/

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Episode 12 - I Hate Lasagna (& Moving)
Apr 20 2024
Episode 12 - I Hate Lasagna (& Moving)
Phew, it's been a minute! We're excited to be back. 0:00 Intro 1:45 Spencer & Shirley update 5:05 Couple's Question 6:45 Brussels 9:09 All about moving 14:49 How to help someone who's moving 19:57 Moving advice 24:41 Baby interruption... 25:05 True or False 30:15 Hating Lasagna 32:27 Avoiding triggers 36:29 Ministry update 37:32 Shirley's fun fact 39:48 Wrapping up Join us as we unravel the difficulties of moving in an interracial marriage. You'll get to hear Spencer's true feelings about Shirley's lasagna, and also how to AVOID sharing your true feelings in some cases... https://marriagemixed.org/podcast/episode-12-i-hate-lasagna-and-moving/
Episode 11 - What Did You Expect - Let's Talk
Dec 1 2023
Episode 11 - What Did You Expect - Let's Talk
Communicating our expectations in life is fairly common... except in marriage. The same goes for checking in; maybe you check in with your team at work, or go check on your kids when they go strangely silent. When was the last time you checked in with your spouse? https://marriagemixed.org/podcast/episode-11-what-did-you-expect-lets-talk/ Resources Referenced: The Five Love Languages Podcast - Gary Chapman The Natural Baby Sleep Solution - Dr. Polly Moore The Urban Alternative - Dr. Tony Evans
Episode 10 - Interruptions Can Be Divine
Oct 28 2023
Episode 10 - Interruptions Can Be Divine
Enjoy a laid back episode as Shirley shares about a significant interruption in her life and Spencer talks about God's perfect timing. marriagemixed.org/podcast/episode-10-interruptions-can-be-divine/ Resources Referenced: A Shephard Looks at Psalm 23 - W Phillip Keller "A Trusting Heart" - 1 Samuel 23 - Calvary Chapel Orlando - Pastor Will Ramirez 38 min - Dr. David Jeremiah Ramsey Solutions - Financial Peace
Episode 9 - Your Spouse Hasn't Hurt You As Much As You Think
Sep 30 2023
Episode 9 - Your Spouse Hasn't Hurt You As Much As You Think
Tune in today to hear about how our past pain can influence current conflict with our spouse in an interracial marriage. 0:01 Intro 6:17 Main Topic 23:22 Shirley's Fun Fact 26:22 Wrapping Up https://marriagemixed.org/podcast/episode-9-your-spouse-hasnt-hurt-you-as-much-as-you-think/
Episode 8 - Seeing in Black, White, and Red
Aug 27 2023
Episode 8 - Seeing in Black, White, and Red
Most of probably know what it means to see something in "black and white", but what does that mean when it happens in our marriage? Today Shirley and Spencer talk about how our point of view and our emotions can affect our communication. https://marriagemixed.org/podcast/episode-8-seeing-in-black-white-and-red/
Episode 7 - How Broke Are You
Jul 21 2023
Episode 7 - How Broke Are You
You're broke and we are too.  Join us as we talk about our strengths and, well, our brokeness.   Also, stick around to hear all the self-realization and cooking opportunities that a freezer can offer. https://marriagemixed.org/podcast/episode-7-how-broke-are-you/
Episode 6 - Parental Ponderings
Jun 10 2023
Episode 6 - Parental Ponderings
Sleep Deprivation, Sockless Babies, and Second-Hand Mothering… today’s podcast on parenting in an interracial marriage is sure to entertain. You might also notice that the audio has been improved thanks to some training from Spencer’s audiophile brother-in-law! https://marriagemixed.org/podcast/episode-6-parental-ponderings/
Episode 5 - Series Finale - How It All Started
May 1 2023
Episode 5 - Series Finale - How It All Started
***AUDIO UPDATE: Our audio quality improved greatly after this episode.*** What's the story behind Marriage Mixed? Hear how God put purpose to our pain; the storm won't last but it WILL water the grass! https://marriagemixed.org/podcast/episode-5-series-finale-how-it-all-started/
Episode 4 - Eye Contact & Headwraps
Apr 9 2023
Episode 4 - Eye Contact & Headwraps
***AUDIO UPDATE: Our audio quality improved greatly after Episode 5.*** From Spencer not understanding headwraps and black hair to Shirley resisting using the dishwasher, we have both come a long way. In this episode we share some things we've learned from our first four years of marriage. https://marriagemixed.org/podcast/episode-4-eye-contact-headwraps/
Episode 3 - Blueberries
Mar 24 2023
Episode 3 - Blueberries
***AUDIO UPDATE: Our audio quality improved greatly after Episode 5.*** An argument about blueberries leads this interracial couple to turn on the mic. Listen as we try to resolve the disagreement and discover how much a spoonful of blueberries can really hold. https://marriagemixed.org/podcast/episode-3-blueberries/
Episode 2 - Meal Time
Mar 9 2023
Episode 2 - Meal Time
***AUDIO UPDATE: Our audio quality improved greatly after Episode 5.*** What's for dinner, Legim or Meatloaf? Is 4 cookies considered a lot of cookies? In this episode Shirley and Spencer explore answers to these questions (without arguing... mostly).  They also discuss some of their different tastes and experiences around everyone's favorite topic: "Food". https://marriagemixed.org/podcast/episode-2-meal-time/
Episode 1 - Traditions
Jan 19 2023
Episode 1 - Traditions
***AUDIO UPDATE: Our audio quality improved greatly after Episode 5.*** Our first episode! Spencer and Shirley talk about their families' Christmas traditions in a White American home compared to a Haitian household. From Spencer's family celebrating with 70 gifts, to Shirley's African-style dance at her church... you could say that the celebrations looked pretty different. https://marriagemixed.org/podcast/episode-1-traditions/