Something I really love about the people I work with is their tendency to see the bigger world outside of themselves. They recognize the people in their lives who are struggling and in pain, and they also want to do something about it. As wonderful as it is to want to help others, it can mean that we become known for being a helper, and the requests become increasingly frequent and demanding of our time and energy. The next thing we know, we are helping everyone else to the point that we neglect our own needs and our lives, meaning we need to do the tough work of creating stronger boundaries. If you are someone with an empathetic nature, creating and maintaining boundaries is even harder. This week in the podcast, we explore how being a helper can turn into a full time job, how to create new boundaries, and why putting boundaries in place is particularly difficult for empaths. We also spend time tapping to make it easier (even for empaths) to create boundaries. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube

For the 2024 Spring Energy Event I was asked to give a reflection on what I have learned in my personal and professional transformational journey. For me, the measure of the value of transformation is seen in how our life is different. What do we believe that is different? How do we feel that is different? In what ways are we asking in new ways? Because this has been my focus, I am supremely interested in the resistance to change. Even when we know the type of change we would like to make in our lives and how valuable that change is, we still don't change. This led me to create a presentation where I shared the four basic root causes of our resistance to change as well as how to identify the story that is holding you back. This week in the podcast I share the full presentation so you can learn along with everyone who attends live. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Android | Google Podcast | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio Watch YouTube Version

One of my favorite ways to learn is by listening to the questions others ask. When I am asking questions I am bringing my experience and preconceived notions to the questions. This is a useful way to learn, but sometimes I am too close to my own experience to ask the most useful question. When someone else is asking a question they are often asking a question I never would have thought of. This gives me a chance to ponder the questions from a distance which allows me to hear the answer in a new way. One of my favorite parts of the Authentic Action Academy is the Office Hour sessions. This is when my students have the chance to .ask me anything They ask questions about what has been taught in class, how to get more out of their own tapping practice, and they even bring tapping requests. My favorite part of these sessions is seeing all the comments in the chat box from what everyone else is learning through the process. In March I hosted an Ask Me Anything session, where anyone who showed up could do exactly that...ask me anything about tapping. The session was recorded and I pulled 4 questions which I thought you would also enjoy learning from and tapping along to. The four topics I have pulled for you are: Clearing limiting beliefs around our ability to be successfulFinding and clearing the root cause of emotional eatingHow to deal with the grief around the death of someone who hurt usHow do I know if I should be tapping on the negative or positive when trying to clear and issue I know you will learn a lot from this conversation. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Android | Google Podcast | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio

Goals are a powerful tool in helping us to move forward. They give us clear direction, they help to create clarity for our best next steps, and they serve as a measuring stick for us to evaluate the action we take. Goals are great! Except when they aren't. Sometimes goals can feel like a constraint, homework, or something we "have to do". When this happens, they become more of a hindrance than a help. This week in the podcast we explore how to create a goal, as well as a healthy relationship to that goal, based on what we are trying to achieve and our personal context. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Android | Google Podcast | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube

One of the phrases I spend a lot of time tapping on with my clients is the idea that "time is a zero sum game". What I mean by this phrase is that if you are doing one thing you can't be doing anything else. This means everytime we choose to do something, we are choosing not to do anything else. Because this is the case it is very easy to judge ourselves as we look at our past choices. When we look to our past, not only are we able to see how we are investing our time, but we also see all the actions we could have taken and we didn't. I know I can certainly be very hard on myself and my past choices when it feels like I have squandered time and opportunities. This past week I found myself very disappointed with my past choices. Normally this leads to frustration for not taking the best action and sadness over the squandered opportunities. For the first time in a long time I wasn't just frustrated or saddened. I was mad. And not just mad...I was raging. The more I thought about my mistakes the madder I became. This week in the podcast I share with you what happened and how I responded. Not only do I explain my approach, I also do a fair bit of tapping. I hope you find this approach useful. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Android | Google Podcast | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio

When most of us learned the basics of tapping, one of the first bits of advice we received was to "be as specific as possible when you are tapping." Sometimes this is straightforward; the issue is singular and clear, so we know exactly where to start. At other times, our issue involves multiple emotions, and it is hard for us to tell where one emotion ends and the next begins. When this happens, the advice to "be as specific as possible when you are tapping" is difficult to apply, if not impossible. In this week's podcast I share my favorite approach to use when there is no clear starting point for an issue. This handy tool will allow you to tap on multiple issues at once. The approach can be used at the beginning or the end of a tapping session, and can also be applied to a session as a whole. Listen as I lead you through the entire process after I provide the instruction. This is an essential tool for your tapping toolbox! Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Android | Google Podcast | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube

Tapping is one of those tools that is simple to understand and explain, but that doesn't mean it is easy to do. The biggest hurdle most new tappers (and even experienced tappers) experience is not knowing what to say when tapping. When we first learn tapping we are guided by a skilled practitioner or teacher who seems to come up with perfect tapping phrases without effort. We can't wait to add tapping to our daily practice. Then we then find ourselves tapping on our own and our mind goes blank. As easy as it was for the person who taught us tapping to come up with phrases it is hard for us. Our mind is blank. We are frustrated and disappointed that it "just doesn't work for us" and we give up. This week in the podcast I share with you my favorite way to write a tapping script that is perfect for you. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Android | Google Podcast | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube

On March 3rd, 2009 the first episode of the Tapping Q & A Podcast went live...and within 90 minutes that same episode was taken offline because of a major editing error. Fifteen years (and 600+ episodes) later, the show is still going. In that time, the podcast has featured wisdom and insights about tapping, healing and transformation from some of the brightest minds in change work. The podcast has been downloaded millions of times and listened to by people in more than 150 countries. In a very special episode of the podcast, Brad Yates joins Gene to talk to him about all that he has learned from the podcast. It is a great opportunity for you to learn those lessons without having to go through the 15-year archive. (Though you are more than welcome to do that as well!) Enjoy the reflection and lessons from the past 15 years. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Android | Google Podcast | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube

Tapping is something that is simple to explain, but isn't necessarily easy to execute. We know that tapping success comes from tuning in to the issue and then tapping on the points. But tuning in to an issue can be tricky, particularly when we are in a heightened emotional state. When I am struggling to define what I am experiencing, I reach for a simple tool that I call "self-coaching". It is something you already know how to do, you just haven't realized you can use this approach when tapping on your own. This week in the podcast I share the process and how easy it is to use. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support   Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Android | Google Podcast | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube

None of the success that I have enjoyed in my life is something that I have accomplished on my own. My past and present are filled with inspiring teachers and mentors, and I often reach out for help when I am working on a project or task. I have achieved so much more and my life is immeasurably better because of these mentors. That said, I don't always have access to my mentors. They are busy, I can't get hold of them, and some of them have passed away. But just because I can't access them in the moment does not mean that I am without their guidance. This week in the podcast I share with you one of my favorite ways to access the wisdom of my mentors, even when they aren't with me, and how to incorporate that into your tapping. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Android | Google Podcast | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube

Tapping is such an easy tool, that at a moment's notice we jump right in and start tapping. Even though this is the case, I think it is important that we don't rush in too quickly. To help me get the most of a tapping session I have created two checklists that I read through before I start tapping. There is one checklist for when I am doing personal tapping and another for when I am working with a client. These lists are designed to make sure I am fully present to the work I am doing AND to make sure I am getting the most out of each tapping session. You can find the checklist here. You can hear a full explanation of what each point means and why I focus on them in this week's podcast. Http://tappingqanda.com/support [player] Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Android | Google Podcast | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube

One of my favorite parts of tapping is the fact that when we sit down to tap, not only do we get a chance to clear and release issues but we also have the opportunity to discover other issues that are deeper under the surface. The cliche that is most often used (because it contains truth) is doing this work is like peeling an onion. As we remove one issue we find another one underneath. This is powerful because it gives us access to deep work that we can do, but it can also be a distraction. What we thought was one issue now feels like five issues. When this happens two outcomes can occur. We can become so overwhelmed by the amount of work that we need to do that we stop tapping or we can end up jumping from issues to issues losing our focus. If we end up jumping from issue to issue we end up in the situation where we do a lot of work (tapping on lots of issues) without making much progress because we aren't focused enough to get work done. This week in the podcast I share with you the way I tap to make sure I stay focused on one issue without being overwhelmed or jumping all over the place. The process is so simple that after you hear the instruction once you will be able to implement it right away. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Android | Google Podcast | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube

Over the last four or five years I have had a major shift in how I think about tapping. This shift is moving from the idea that tapping is an approach, to tapping being a tool. This realization has not only changed the way I think about tapping, it has also changed the way I think about transformation as a whole. No two rounds of tapping are the same. When I say that, I don't just mean I change the words I am using or I change the issues I am addressing. Instead, one round of tapping might be to calm myself down in the middle of a stressful situation, and another might be me working on a childhood trauma that I am still carrying with me. Even though I am tapping on exactly the same physical points, those two types of tapping are radically different from each other. In this week's podcast, I explore what it means to see tapping as a tool with many different approaches. From this understanding we look at the different types of approaches we can take when tapping. I also share one key question with you that you should ask yourself before every tapping session to get the most out of it. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Android | Google Podcast | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube

One of the very first ideas I was introduced to when I was learning the basics of tapping was something called a "tailender". Tailenders are the little (or big) pieces of resistance that speak up when we are tapping. For example I could tap on the phrase "I am going to lose 25 lbs to start the year." The moment I finish saying that phrase, my subconscious mind speaks up with "No you are not. You failed before and you are going to fail again!" It is a tailender because it is something that is said on the tailend of us saying something else. I have come to realize in my own tapping practice and also working with clients that these tailenders are actually the key to deep lasting transformation. This week in the podcast we do a deep dive into what tailenders are, why they exist, and how we can use them to facilitate a more powerful healing process. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Android | Google Podcast | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube

My daily tapping practice is NOT designed to make my life go perfectly. Instead, it is designed to build my emotional resilience. What I mean by this is that the more emotionally resilient I am when something goes wrong, either it doesn't impact me and my progress OR it has minimal impact on me. Even when we spend time working on building our resilience, it doesn't mean that we are impervious to taking emotional hits. Sometimes, really big things happen which can knock us off our stride. At other times, the sum total of lots of many small things going wrong adds up. That is exactly what happened to me in December. So many small things went wrong over the course of a number of weeks. Some of those were errors that I had made. Others were because of external factors beyond my control. In some ways, it felt like a death by a thousand paper cuts. In this week's podcast I share about my experience, how it impacted my emotional resilience, and what I have been doing to bounce back. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Android | Google Podcast | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube

I have spent a lot of time thinking about what it means to live an authentic life. One of the ways I would describe this sensation is being comfortable in my own skin. And when I say I don't just mean comfortable as in not in pain, but comfortable in a way of luxuriating in something I was made for. It is much like a beautifully made pair of leather shoes that have been broken in to fit us perfectly. In 2022 one of the presenters at the Eden Energy Fest was describing their work and said "When I am helping others I feel beautiful!" Ever since hearing that phrase it continues to rattle around in my head. It is perfect. Today in the podcast I talk about how I used that idea to create a simple, but powerful tapping tool. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Android | Google Podcast | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio

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It would be very easy to assume by looking at a group of migratory birds, like ducks, flying in a V-Formation to assume the bird in the front in the leader. But if you watch the flight for any length of time you will notice that the leader changes quite frequently. The bird in the front is not the leader, but instead the one who is working the hardest as the other birds fall into the slip-stream. The slip-stream is the space created behind a moving object that is easier to move through. By flying in this way it is easier for the flock to move, with less effort by taking advantage of aerodynamics of the slip-stream. I found that it is possible to create a slip-stream in my daily life. And I don't mean walking in a V-Formation as we move through the day, but instead it is possible to find an emotional slip-stream which makes the day easier. This week in the podcast as we continue the Tapping Mini-Tools Series I am going to share with you the way I create and emotional slip-stream to make it easier to get through the day will a little tapping. Support the podcast! http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Android | Google Podcast | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio |  YouTube

When working with clients, it is important to listen closely to the words they use and pay attention to everything they are saying. When I do this, I am not just listening to the meaning of the story my clients are telling, I am also paying particular attention to the words they use. This is because we respond to the world emotionally based on the way that we describe it, not how it is. A simple example of this is if someone said, "Everyone at work hates me" If a client says that, emotionally it doesn't really matter if everyone at work hates them. It also doesn't matter if they truly believe that everyone at work hates them. Saying "Everyone at work hates me" means they will respond emotionally as if it is true. That is why I pay such close attention to the exact words used by my clients. Their words are the key to how they are feeling emotionally. In this week's podcast, we are continuing the Tapping Mini-Tools Series and I share with you the one word I pay the closest attention to when it's used by my clients. If my client says this word, I can immediately see where their emotional struggle will come from. I also share an easy way to reframe this word so that you communicate clearly and without creating unnecessary emotional distress. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Android | Google Podcast | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube

I love goals. They are a powerful way to focus attention and to help us stay motivated to keep taking action. At the same time, the moment we create a goal, we also create expectations. Naming something that we want to happen means opening ourselves up to possible disappointment if we do not achieve the goal. This week, as we start the Mini-Tool Series, I share with you a brief phrase I add to the beginning of all my goal statements that ensures I am not adding pressure to my life by stating my goal. I also share a simple way to tap with this phrase that will make it even easier to take consistent action towards my goal. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Android | Google Podcast | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube