May 22 2021
Emotional availability - first and outmost important "nutrition" for survival
We thrive and survive, as young humans, on the emotional availability of our caregivers. As new humans, we depend on our caregivers for EVERYTHING: food, care, attention, love AND emotional availability. What does that mean? When an adult is in a bad mood (while having all the right and reasons in the world for being so) the anger or bad mode absorbs like a black hole ALL the attention, smiles, emotional availability that are vital for our survival. When we don't have that, a trauma occurs, and as a consequence, a trauma response. At the age of 30, 40 or any other age, you perhaps are not sure why do you get triggered, feel abandoned, feel powerless or you also get in a bad/sad mood, immediately after your figures of authority (boss) or even family members are in a bad mood! Your PTSD is shouting out. Love yourself for showing this to you each time!