The Break Up Break Down

Pionaire Podcasting

When True Love feels more like a True Crime Story....Abby is ready to investigate! Breaking Up is hard to do (obviously) but it's even harder when social media is involved. If your relationship is on display, people are noticing...especially when it ends. We talk to couples and individuals about their break ups. What went wrong? What things did they work through to try and make it work? We'll learn from them and take valuable lessons from their experience while sharing a laugh (or cry) along the way. read less

Our Editor's Take

The Break Up Break Down podcast is for anyone who likes listening to romance stories without a happy conclusion. These are true tales of affairs, lies, and heartbreak. It may sound like a strange premise for a podcast, but there are lessons to learn with every account. Abby Murphy hosts the show with her best friend, Lexi. Abby is passionate about storytelling, whether on the radio, TV, or social media. Plus, she's fascinated by everyone's relationship stories.

Each episode shares true stories submitted by listeners about their relationship breakups. Reading the title of each episode is intriguing enough! Titles include "When the ex-GF called her up" and "When a detective called about her husband." Abby and Lexi share their personal experiences and offer empathy for each listener. The podcast has both shocking tales and lots of humor.

One episode of The Break Up Break Down tells the story of a long-term affair that lasted seven years. Sharing the story is the "other woman" who knew that her boyfriend would never leave his wife and kids. When they started dating, the other woman was 20, and he was 13 years older. As she tells her story, Abby asks her questions, and they discuss the idea of power dynamics.

The other woman explains that she realized how wrong it was as she got older. By this point, it became more challenging to end it. As with each story on the podcast, it ends with a moment of reflection. They discuss how it affected future relationships and changed her perception of love.

Abby also creates bonus episodes where she talks further about specific relationship issues. She invites guests and friends to join the discussions, as well as her ex-coworker Justin. Therapist Kati Morton talks about the idea of "daddy issues." In another bonus episode, Abby chats about the effort some people go to to avoid their ex-partner.

The Break Up Break Down reviews listeners' stories of fascinating, heartfelt relationship breakups. Abby helps listeners understand their experiences and discover what they have learned. New episodes drop several times each week.

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Episodes

Break Down Bonus: How do I leave a manipulative relationship? w/ Vernique Esther, LMSW (Replay)
Feb 29 2024
Break Down Bonus: How do I leave a manipulative relationship? w/ Vernique Esther, LMSW (Replay)
[SCROLL FOR CW]  - Have you ever felt manipulated by your partner? Did you try to break up with them, but they kept luring you back in? Abby brings on LMSW Vernique Esther to talk about how to recognize manipulation, set boundaries, and leave if necessary.  - Check out Vernique Esther's: - Website: https://www.verniqueesther.com/ - The Wholeness Academy: https://www.thewholenessacademy.com/ - Books: https://www.verniqueesther.com/shop - Follow the podcast - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Introducing Vernique - (00:56): How do I know I'm getting manipulated? - (04:06): Why do people manipulate? - (07:07): Why do I feel bad for setting up boundaries? - (09:18): How do I handle religious manipulation? - (12:10): What if my partner threatens me w/ self-harm to keep us from breaking up? - (14:04): How do I leave a manipulative relationship? - (15:00): Can you ever work through manipulation? - (18:24): How to set boundaries in a relationship with someone who has manipulative tendencies? - (20:55): Why do I want to go back to someone who manipulated me? - (23:08): How do I convince myself I deserve better? - [CW: This episode briefly discusses: self-harm/suicide, domestic violence, religious trauma] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices