The Happier Life Project

Money is more than just a tool for paying bills or buying things, it can be deeply symbolic and emotionally charged. For many, financial struggles are closely intertwined with mental health challenges. Research conducted by the Money and Mental Health Policy Institute, revealed that in England alone, over 1.5 million people struggle with both problem debt and mental health issues. Of those surveyed, 86% said their financial situation had worsened their mental health. Becoming more aware of how our thoughts, emotions, and past experiences shape our money habits, may not magically solve financial hardships, but it can be a positive step toward building a healthier relationship with money and regaining a sense of control. The complexities of money, which is crucial for our survival, highlight the profound connection between financial well-being and mental health, offering a pathway to greater understanding and empowerment. The Happier Life Project welcomes Vicky Reynal a London-based psychotherapist specialising in the psychology of money. Vicky is author of the award-winning book 'Money on Your Mind: The Psychology Behind Your Financial Habits', which is being translated into eight languages, and will land in the US on January 7th (available to pre order now). In her psychotherapy clinic, Vicky works with clients on a range of issues including; debt, excessive greed, financial conflict, and money secrecy. Using psychodynamic principles, she helps people uncover and address the emotions driving their financial behaviours. Vicky’s expertise has been featured in The Financial Times, The Guardian, The Times, The Daily Mail and Psychologies. ​​In this episode of The Happier Life Project host Gabby Sanderson speaks to Vicky about why money can feel so emotionally charged, and why people often react defensively when it comes to financial matters. Vicky explains how decoding the hidden emotions behind spending, saving, and financial conflict, can help foster understanding and drive meaningful change. The money and mental health expert also explains why being more open and honest in communication about our finances—whether with friends, family members, or even bill companies—can help alleviate stress and build a healthier relationship with our bank balance. By addressing financial concerns directly, rather than burying our heads in the sand and reacting with "vague defences" like avoidance or procrastination, Vicky discusses how most people feel much better after opening up, realising that often things aren’t as bad as they seemed. Vicky also shares practical advice on creating a healthier relationship with money to reduce stress and improve mental well-being. Tune in to discover how decoding the emotional connection to your finances can transform your mental wellness, and your approach to money. To download the My Possible Self app: https://mypossibleself.app.link/podcast To follow My Possible Self on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mypossibleself To follow Vicky Reynal on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vickyreynalpsychotherapy/ Vicky’s website: https://www.reynal-psychotherapist.co.uk/ Buy now Vicky’s book: Money on Your Mind: The Psychology Behind Your Financial Habits

Vitality is the sense of mental and physical freedom; a powerful inner energy that fuels us to live fully and connect deeply. It’s about beginning each day with purpose and feeling a strong sense of belonging with those around us. Often described as “health of spirit,” vitality is the positive feeling of aliveness and energy that lies at the heart of well-being. Living a vital life, filled with purpose and engagement, helps us manage stress more effectively. When we feel energized and connected, it becomes easier to cope with anxiety, lower stress levels, and lift our mood. Vitality is also linked to positive emotions like joy, satisfaction, and gratitude, creating a cycle of well-being that enhances both mental and physical health. However, many people struggle with vitality due to a combination of modern lifestyle factors, environmental influences, and various internal and external challenges. Chronic stress, poor sleep, inadequate nutrition, lack of physical activity, disconnection and isolation, a lack of purpose or fulfillment, negative thought patterns, and digital overload are just some of the key reasons behind this struggle. The good news is that by knowing the right steps to take, small, simple actions can lead to remarkable improvements. To help guide us on this journey, The Happier Life Project welcomes Suzanne Boerma, a vitality expert from The Netherlands, with eight years of experience helping people lead healthier, more balanced lives. Suzanne works for a local authority, assisting individuals in adopting healthier habits, and also freelances with various occupational health services to support employees facing mental health challenges, helping them reclaim well-being and reintegrate into the workplace. Talking to host Gabby Sanderson, Suzanne explains why feeling connected to others, an essential part of vitality, improves emotional stability, reduces loneliness, and fosters a sense of belonging, all of which are crucial for mental health. Suzanne shares insights into building and sustaining vitality, explaining why small lifestyle changes can make a significant impact. She also discusses her non-negotiable daily habits that help her lead her most vibrant life and teaches listeners the four short, simple exercises she calls the "vita-break", easy stretches you can do daily from your desk to improve posture and relieve the tension that builds up in hunched muscles. Listen now for the best hacks to boost physical and mental energy and infuse every day with renewed purpose. Whether you're looking to reduce stress, re-energize your body, or simply add a few moments of self-care into your busy schedule, Suzanne’s practical advice is sure to inspire. Join us as we uncover the small shifts that lead to a more vibrant, fulfilling life; one step, stretch, and vita-break at a time. To download the My Possible Self app: https://mypossibleself.app.link/podcast To follow My Possible Self on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mypossibleself To follow Suzanne on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/suusfit/ Suzanne’s Website: https://suusfit.nl/

In this episode of The Happier Life Project, we’re tackling something we all face, how to own our struggles in the areas that challenge us most. From navigating friendships and work pressures to dealing with technology overload, dating dilemmas, and toxic family environments, we cover it all. Host Gabby Sanderson is joined by Minaa B., a licensed social worker, mental health educator, wellness coach, and author of 'Owning Our Struggles: A Path to Healing and Finding Community in a Broken World'. Minaa has extensive experience in mental health, having worked in fields specializing in anxiety, depression, and trauma. She’s also the founder of a mental health consulting practice, collaborates with organizations to promote psychological safety, and serves on the Mental Health Advisory Committee for Wondermind, a mental fitness company co-founded by Selena Gomez. Additionally, Minaa is the host of the podcast Mindful With Minaa, where she shares her insights on emotional wellness and healing. Tune in to hear Gabby and Minaa explore how to face life’s challenges head-on, embrace vulnerability, and build resilience through community care. They discuss toxic productivity in the workplace, navigating difficult family dynamics, and the importance of setting boundaries online. Minaa also offers guidance on accepting our parents' flaws, handling sibling conflicts, and strengthening connections with others and ourselves.  This episode is all about taking control of your healing journey to find a healthier, happier you. Listen now to start your path to self-compassion and resilience. To download the My Possible Self app: https://mypossibleself.app.link/podcast To follow My Possible Self on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mypossibleself To follow Minaa B. on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/minaa_b Minaa’s Website: https://www.minaab.com/ Order Minaa’s Book from UK: Owning Our Struggles: A Path to Healing and Finding Community in a Broken World Order Minaa’s Book from US: Owning Our Struggles USA

Cyclical living is the practice of aligning with the natural cycles and rhythms present in our lives, whether it’s the seasons, the Moon, your menstrual cycle, or your circadian rhythm. It can also apply to how we approach projects, meetings, or plan activities at work.  Everything in our environment and bodies operates in cycles—our sleep patterns, hormonal shifts, breathing, and heartbeat. The essence of cyclical living involves being mindful of these rhythms and adapting to the natural ebbs and flows of energy and emotions. For instance, in women's health, cyclical living often focuses on the menstrual cycle, encouraging individuals to adjust energy levels, productivity, self-care, and social activities according to the phases of their cycle (menstruation, follicular, ovulation, and luteal phases). More broadly, it can be applied to how we engage with seasonal changes—rest and introspection during winter, renewal and activity in spring. Cyclical living promotes tuning into these rhythms to enhance mental, emotional, and physical well-being. In this episode of The Happier Life Project, host Gabby speaks with Lou Perham, a Menstruality and Cyclical Living Mentor, educator, and speaker. Lou empowers women to embrace their cycles, prioritise rest, and find balance by syncing with life’s natural rhythms. Whether it's the menstrual cycle, lunar phases, or seasonal transitions, Lou uses this framework to guide individuals toward holistic well-being. Lou shares her powerful story of healing and transformation through cyclical living. At 25, she was diagnosed with PCOS and told it was unlikely she would fulfil her dream of becoming a mother. However, by embracing the cyclical way of life, Lou was able to conceive naturally at 32. Lou offers practical advice on how to integrate cyclical living into daily life and explains its profound benefits for our mental health, highlighting how it reduces stress and burnout by encouraging self-compassion and acceptance of natural energy fluctuations. This approach also fosters greater self-awareness, helping individuals avoid the guilt or frustration that comes from trying to maintain a constant level of productivity. Tune in to learn all about cyclical living and how this practice can be a transformative way to reconnect with yourself and improve your mental and physical health. To download the My Possible Self app: https://mypossibleself.app.link/podcast To follow My Possible Self on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mypossibleself To follow Lou Perham on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/louperham/ For all things Lou Perham: https://linktr.ee/louperham To join Lou’s Radical Rest retreat: https://louperham.myflodesk.com/radicalrest Lou's Free Offerings: Holistic guide to a better cycle: https://louperham.myflodesk.com/bettercycleguide Track your cycle: https://louperham.myflodesk.com/cycletrackingtoolkit Embrace more rest: https://louperham.myflodesk.com/embracemorerest Cyclical Living Series podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/0h3b3rNjoGEq281RHpMp8z?si=bceef32fad804da6

Our approach to managing time deeply impacts productivity and emotional well-being, shaping the levels of guilt, stress, and satisfaction we experience throughout the day. For those struggling with anxiety and stress, managing time can be particularly challenging. The constant sense of never having enough hours to accomplish goals or complete tasks often leading to feelings of overwhelm and frustration. But what if the real issue isn’t just having too much to do? For many, the key lies in reassessing their relationship with time and learning new strategies - something most of us were never taught in school. With the right tools and techniques, time management can become less stressful and more empowering, helping us to regain control and achieve greater balance. In this episode of The Happier Life Project, host Gabby Sanderson explores the deep connection between time management and mental health. Gabby is joined by Risa Williams, a therapist, time management expert, award-winning author, and host of The Motivation Mindset podcast. In her work, Risa shares practical tools to stay motivated and work smarter, not harder, when it comes to managing time. Risa’s book 'The Ultimate Time Management Toolkit', offers readers methods grounded in CBT, mindfulness, and narrative therapy, empowering them to develop healthy habits and make meaningful changes. With creative worksheets and actionable techniques, the book serves as a guide to overcoming the challenges of time management. In this conversation, Risa shares practical strategies for setting realistic goals without burning out and provides straightforward motivation hacks to help you stay on track. Gabby and Risa discuss using music as a tool to enhance focus, and look at ways to alleviate the “Morning Dread” that many experience at the start of the day. Risa also reflects on her realization that a key component for those who struggle with anxiety and stress is their relationship with time. A fundamental insight that inspired her to become a time management therapist and write a book on the subject. Plus, Risa shares her thoughts on the pressure we are made to feel to maximize every waking moment, which often leads to taking on too much, and how to avoid that trap. Feeling overwhelmed with never enough hours in the day? Struggling to keep up with your to-do list? This episode offers simple tactics to reclaim your time and alleviate stress, helping you set achievable goals while maintaining emotional well-being. Tune in and discover how to find balance and structure that supports—not drains—your mental health. To download the My Possible Self app: https://mypossibleself.app.link/podcast To follow My Possible Self on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mypossibleself To follow Risa Williams on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/risawilliamstherapy/ Risa Williams website: www.risawilliams.com Risa Williams books: https://www.amazon.com/stores/Risa-Williams/author/B00FC0MMIQ

Writing provides a safe space to delve into our thoughts and emotions, explore our relationships, and reflect on our life stories, dreams, and aspirations. It serves as a powerful tool for making sense of our experiences, allowing us to navigate and overcome trauma while facilitating personal growth and change. Writing therapy, often referred to as journal therapy, is exactly what it sounds like: using writing, typically in a journal, for therapeutic benefits. This approach is low-cost, easily accessible, and incredibly versatile. It can be practiced individually, guided by a mental health professional, or even in a group setting with discussions centered around writing. Additionally, it can serve as a supplement to other forms of therapy. In this episode of The Happier Life Project, host Gabby Sanderson welcomes back bestselling author Michelle Thomas, known for her book 'My S**t Therapist & Other Mental Health Stories'. Together, they delve into the transformative power of writing as a therapeutic tool. What to expect... Michelle talks about her passion for writing about mental health and her commitment to incorporating and amplifying others’ stories. She explains how writing has become a vital tool in her self-care toolkit and why it can be a healing resource for everyone, regardless of their writing ability.  During the conversation, Michelle also gives listeners a glimpse into her upcoming book, set to explore the often-overlooked subject of regret, set for release in 2025. While keeping most details under wraps, Michelle hints at how regret plays a significant role in our emotional landscape and can actually serve as a powerful tool for reflection and personal growth.  Gabby and Michelle also discuss the challenges of finding a good therapist and the lessons learned from difficult experiences. Plus, they consider Prince Harry’s suggestion to rename 'mental health' as 'mental fitness'—is it just semantics, or could it represent a significant shift?  Through the act of writing, we can discover our unique voices and gain deeper insights into ourselves. Whether journaling, composing poetry, or simply jotting down thoughts, the written word empowers us to confront our challenges and embrace our journeys. In a world that often feels overwhelming, writing can be a transformative practice that nurtures our mental well-being and enhances our understanding of ourselves. Whether you're a seasoned writer or just curious about the healing process of writing, this episode offers valuable insights and inspiration. Grab your favourite notebook or simply settle in for an uplifting conversation.  To download the My Possible Self app: https://mypossibleself.app.link/podcast To follow My Possible Self on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mypossibleself To follow Michelle Thomas on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/msmthomas/ To purchase Michelle's book 'My S**t Therapist': https://amzn.eu/d/gy647BV

In the first of two episodes with best-selling author Michelle Thomas, host Gabby Sanderson explores how small, everyday moments can bring joy, healing, and comfort. From the soothing ambiance of coffee shops to the therapeutic calm of spending time with animals, this episode highlights some subtle yet powerful ways to nurture mental wellness. Michelle Thomas’ first book, 'My S**t Therapist and Other Mental Health Stories', is a raw, heart warming, and sharp-witted exploration of life with mental illness. The book topped the Audible charts, surpassing Michelle Obama and J.K. Rowling to claim the number one spot; and to coincide, Michelle also hosted a podcast under the same name, available on all major platforms. Gabby and Michelle discuss the mental benefits of cozy coffee spots, the pure pleasure of getting lost in a good book, and the surprising solace found in spending time with animals, like feeding baby goats! Michelle’s candid take on mental health and her personal journey has resonated with many, and in this episode, she shares insights on why these simple acts of self-care can be just as impactful as traditional therapy. Michelle and Gabby also talk about the importance of finding the right job for you and your wellbeing. And share stories how they both walked away from fancy job titles and companies with kudos, to pursue doing what they love and maintaining a healthier work life balance.  In part one with Michelle Thomas, discover the power of small, everyday joys in nurturing mental health, and how they may be the unsung heroes of our healing process. Grab your favorite cup of coffee or tea and settle in for a chat that will leave you rethinking the simple, soothing moments in your life... Plus, don’t forget to tune in next week for part two, where Gabby and Michelle dive deeper into therapy experiences and the healing art of writing! To download the My Possible Self app: https://mypossibleself.app.link/podcast To follow My Possible Self on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mypossibleself To follow Michelle Thomas on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/msmthomas/ To purchase My S**t Therapist book: https://amzn.eu/d/gy647BV

Burnout is a deep state of emotional, physical, and mental depletion that stems from prolonged stress, often related to work or overwhelming personal demands. This exhaustion deeply impacts your overall well-being, leading to chronic fatigue, trouble concentrating, irritability, emotional numbness and feeling unable to cope.  Too many of us soldier on, operating on high levels of stress, pressure and worry until something drastic happens to make us stop and slow down. Pushing too hard on ourselves, we wear busyness as a badge of honour and grapple with feelings of guilt if we are not maximising our productivity.  Dr Claire, a Clinical Psychologist and Director of Good Therapy Ltd, a psychological therapy centre based online and in Somerset, specialises in trauma related issues. Her expertise includes anxiety, trauma, and burnout. Dr Claire’s debut book ‘Burnout: How to Manage Your Nervous System Before It Manages You’ offers strategies for recognizing and addressing burnout by managing your nervous system, despite the persistent demands of modern life. In this episode of The Happier Life Project, Dr Claire discusses both the common and less obvious signs of burnout, as well as the severe consequences of pushing through it for too long. Additionally, Dr. Claire and host Gabby explore how overworking has become normalized in today’s society, examining the cultural, societal, and internal pressures that drive us to stay constantly on the go. The burnout expert also suggests some practical strategies for maintaining balance in our ever-demanding world.  Discover critical insights and practical advice to help you navigate and mitigate the effects of burnout in your life and please leave a review on one of the podcast platforms if you resonated with this conversation and have something you would like to share.  To download the free My Possible Self app: https://mypossibleself.app.link/podcast To follow My Possible Self on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mypossibleself To follow Dr Claire Plumbly on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drclaireplumbly/ To follow Dr Claire Plumbly on Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drclaireplumbly/ Dr Claire’s Website: www.drclaireplumbly.com To buy Dr Claire’s Burnout book: www.drclaireplumbly.com/burnout-book. *Dr Claire’s book will be available in the USA under the title ‘The Trauma of Burnout’ from 23rd January 2025.

In this episode of The Happier Life Project, we explore the powerful connection between climate and mental health, examining how the climate crisis impacts our emotional well-being and the vital role a healthy planet plays in maintaining our mental health. Terms like ‘eco-anxiety,’ ‘environmental doom,’ ‘ecological grief,’ and ‘eco-guilt’ capture the psychological toll that environmental degradation and climate change are having on individuals and communities worldwide. This is why caring for the climate is so deeply intertwined with caring for our own mental health and the well-being of our communities. Dr Emma Lawrance leads the Climate Cares Centre, where she collaborates with diverse experts to explore the connections between climate change and mental health, including through the Connecting Climate Minds global initiative. As the Mental Health Innovations Fellow at the Institute of Global Health Innovation, Emma directs the mental health strategy, focusing on digital mental health support and the Climate Cares program. With degrees in physics, chemistry, science communications, and neuroscience, Emma is passionate about the outdoors, especially in her native Adelaide Hills. This conversation emphasizes the urgent need to protect our planet - not just for its sake, but for the essential role it plays in protecting our well-being. Dr Emma joins host Gabby to explore the emotional challenges of navigating a changing world. Together, they discuss how we can better educate ourselves and offer compassion to those affected. Tune in to discover the deep connection between a healthy planet and a healthy mind, and the small, meaningful actions we can take to help slow the climate crisis, and foster healing for the Earth... and therefore ourselves. To download the My Possible Self app: https://mypossibleself.app.link/podcast To follow My Possible Self on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mypossibleself Connecting Climate Minds Global Online Hub: hub.connectingclimateminds.org Climate Cares Twitter: @ClimateCares Climate Cares LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/climate-cares-imperial-college-london/ Climate Cares website: https://www.imperial.ac.uk/climate-cares/ Dr Emma Twitter: @Emma_L_Lawrance Dr Emma LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/emma-lawrance-5a93b468/

Season 3 of The Happier Life Project kicks off with the return of renowned psychotherapist and best-selling author, Owen O’Kane. Known for his transformative books, including ‘Ten to Zen’, ‘Ten Times Happier’, and ‘How to Be Your Own Therapist', Owen shares practical strategies for managing anxiety, stress, and other mental health challenges. In this episode, Owen delves into the powerful role of personal storytelling in mental health. He explains how sharing your experiences with trusted loved ones can facilitate emotional release, foster resilience, and combat stigma. Drawing from his book ‘How To be Your Own Therapist’ Owen offers some simple entry points into accessing the therapist in you, emphasising the importance of owning and making peace with your story as the first step in self-therapy. With over 25 years of experience, including his role as a former NHS Mental Health Clinical Lead, Owen brings a wealth of knowledge and advice to this discussion. Tune in to learn how to unlock better mental health and continue your journey toward a happier, healthier, more balanced life. To download the My Possible Self app: https://mypossibleself.app.link/podcast To follow My Possible Self on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mypossibleself For all things Owen O’Kane: https://www.owenokane.com/ To register for ‘A Life Less Anxious’ Owen’s 6-Week Anxiety Workshop starting on Monday 7th October 2024 @ 7pm UK time: https://www.alifelessanxious.co.uk/ To follow Owen O’Kane on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/owenokaneten

Emotional memories imprinted in our bodies can persist for years, impacting our physical and psychological well-being. Emotion tracking allows us to measure and assess our emotional states over time, serving as a valuable tool for both individuals and therapists to monitor mood and feelings. However, when difficult emotions repeatedly resurface, the challenge becomes breaking this cycle, freeing ourselves from triggers, and resolving the root of the problem. Keith Hodge is an international healer and the founder of Intuity International. Keith specialises in root healing, a system he designed to help clients address and heal the deepest layers that are obstructing them from living a fulfilling life. Keith firmly believes that by identifying and releasing long-held trapped emotions, individuals can move forward and build a life they love. Keith is a highly qualified hypnotherapist, energy healer and has a degree in acupuncture. With years of experience running two clinics and seeing 20-25 people a week, Keith has consistently focused on what will make the biggest difference for his clients in the shortest time. This dedication led to the creation of the root healing system.  Tracing emotions bring the subconscious to light. Emotional tracing is a crucial resource for enhancing self-awareness, emotional regulation, and overall mental health. Keith's unique method follows the emotional trail, steered by the emotions his clients struggle with, rather than their memories, to reach the core wound. When the root of the emotion is brought to the surface, issues such as lack of confidence and self-esteem, anxiety, fear of judgement, relationship troubles, or problems combating boredom and procrastination become easier to address and resolve, and we are no longer ruled by our past experiences. In the final episode of season two of The Happier Life Project podcast, Keith discusses with host Gabby Sanderson what led to the creation of his root healing system. He shares how his personal battle with chronic fatigue syndrome in his twenties shifted his path from a corporate career, to a journey of healing and exploration into alternative therapies. Keith explains why he believes trapped emotions, without fail, lead to the root of most problems, and how these emotional wounds can hold us back. Keith also talks about some of the most common ‘presenting protections’ he sees in his clients, which are ways we have learned to cope or suppress difficult emotions.  Keith has facilitated training and retreats around the world including the United States, Europe, the UK, Indonesia, and online. Keith shares some examples of successful case studies plus, offers some simple entry points for exploring his method on your own. The content of the podcast  is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered as a substitute for professional or medical advice. The Priory Healthcare are not involved in the production or content of this podcast.  The Happier Life Project will return in September with Season 3 of the podcast.  To download the free My Possible Self App: https://mypossibleself.app.link/podcast To follow My Possible Self on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mypossibleself For more information on Keith Hodge and Intuity International: https://intuityinternational.com/ To explore Intuity International’s free programs: https://intuityinternational.com/free-tools To follow Intuity on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/intuity_healing/

Mindfulness is the natural human ability to be completely present, fully aware of our location and actions, and not excessively reactive or overwhelmed by what’s happening around us.  We all understand mindfulness can result in better mental health, but it can be challenging with the distractions of modern life. The human mind tends to wander and frequently gets lost in thoughts about the past or future, making it hard to stay present. If you think practising mindfulness must involve being in a meditative state and include an activity such as breathwork, journaling or the raisin exercise (one of the most basic and widely used mindfulness methods which involves focussing your attention on each of your senses as you eat a raisin), today’s prestigious guest disagrees.  Ellen J. Langer is a distinguished professor of psychology at Harvard University. In 1981, she made history as the first woman to receive tenure in psychology at Harvard. Ellen’s lifetime of expertise and trailblazing research in the field of mindfulness focuses on the psychology of control, decision making, ageing, and mindfulness theory; which has led to numerous academic honours. Ellen J. Langer is the author of eleven books, including the international bestseller 'Mindfulness', which has been translated into fifteen languages, and 'Counterclockwise: Mindful Health and the Power of Possibility'. Most recently, she is the author of 'The Mindful Body: Thinking Our Way to Chronic Health' which delves into the transformative potential of mindfulness for improving health. Dr. Ellen is also the author of more than 200 research articles and her revolutionary experiments in social psychology have earned her inclusion in The New York Times Magazine’s 'Year in Ideas' issue.  Ellen believes through her findings “we’re typically trying to solve today’s problems with yesterday’s solution” and “most of us are mindless, most of the time”. Meaning the limits we assume are real - are artificial - and that we don't have to accept them at all. Talking to Gabby Sanderson, host of The Happier Life Project, Ellen shares the results of some of her groundbreaking studies. Demonstrating the power the mind has on the body and how what we believe, can be a self-fulfilling prophecy. Especially when it comes to our health and happiness. The renowned ‘mother of mindfulness’ explains why we must pay attention to context and variability, and not necessarily accept ‘the rule’ to anything. She also talks about how we can wake up and overcome mental laziness, therefore not succumbing to outcomes we are led to presume must be the one and only truth. Such as becoming more forgetful as we get older, or being unable to do something because of (insert belief)… As Ellen says in this conversation, “one plus one does not always equal two”.  So can we really defy the ageing process, or at least slow it down, just by just harnessing the power of belief? Can we think ourself more toned and fit, and even lose weight, by simply believing it?! Ellen's research and studies conclude the answer is yes. If we embrace the idea of mind-body unity, new possibilities for controlling our health become available to us.  To download the My Possible Self App: https://mypossibleself.app.link/podcast To follow My Possible Self on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mypossibleself For more information on Ellen J. Langer and her work: https://www.ellenlanger.me/ To follow Dr. Ellen Langer on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ellenjlanger/

Sometimes it can be difficult to admit we are lonely. Experiencing loneliness from time to time is a normal part of life; but when loneliness is severe, or persists over an extended period, it can have a detrimental impact on our mental health.  Some ways loneliness can be experienced are: emotional loneliness – a lack of emotional attachment to someone like a close friend or partner social loneliness – a lack of friends to go out with, or who share our hobbies or interests existential loneliness – a sense of being in a room of people you know and still feeling alone According to the World Health Organization, loneliness is a pressing global health threat, heightened by the pandemic. Research has shown that severe loneliness poses the same health risk as smoking 15 cigarettes a day. And the demographic most affected by loneliness is not (as you might assume) the elderly, but 16 to 24 year olds.  We often discuss the emotional aspects of loneliness, such as feeling low, isolated or disconnected, but loneliness can also manifest through physical symptoms and affect our behaviour. For instance, you may get nervous about or avoid going to social events, change your daily routines, like stop cooking for yourself, caring about your appearance or getting up early, or you may find it difficult to get to sleep or stay asleep. Dr Richard Pile is a GP specialising in lifestyle medicine and cardiology. Also an author, blogger, podcaster, mentor and coach, Dr Richard’s TedX talk titled ‘The Dangers of Loneliness’ offers an eye opening, research backed, insight into the physical and mental health consequences of prolonged loneliness.  Talking to host Gabby, Dr Richard defines loneliness, the causes and effects. The ‘Fit For Purpose’ author also discusses what signs to look out for, both within ourselves, and in others, that may indicate we are chronically lonely. Then he suggests practical steps towards forming new connections and reducing isolation. Dr Richard stresses why nurturing the relationships and connections we already have is so important, and shares some ideas about how we might go on to find more people who are like-minded within our local community. Gabby and Dr Richard discuss the role loneliness plays in our mental health and how the two are so interlinked. Dr Richard also explains how finding purpose in our lives is a great antidote to feeling lonely and where to find our nearest 'social prescribers'. A free NHS service set up that connects people to activities, groups, and services in their community to meet the practical, social, and emotional needs that affect their health and wellbeing. To download the My Possible Self App: https://mypossibleself.app.link/podcast To follow My Possible Self on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mypossibleself For more information on Dr Richard Pile and his services: https://feelgoodforlife.uk/ To watch Dr Richard’s TedX talk on Loneliness: https://youtu.be/sPsvOd-kwVU?si=dAIYYR_E_ukAhcyg

Long COVID, refers to a range of symptoms that persist for weeks or months after the acute phase of a COVID-19 infection has been resolved. At least 2 million people in England and Scotland say they are experiencing long COVID, with many reporting their symptoms have lasted two years or longer. The figures released by the Office for National Statistics (ONS) cover the period from November 2023 to March 2024 and further breakdown that among those who reported having long COVID, approximately 1.5 million people - about three-quarters - felt their daily activities were impacted, while 381,000 people - about a fifth - said their ability to perform these activities was "severely limited." One significant aspect of long COVID is its impact on mental health, contributing to a range of psychological and cognitive symptoms. Many individuals with long COVID report experiencing anxiety, depression, and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Insomnia, brain fog, memory problems and confusion are also extremely common. Studies have shown that these symptoms can be as debilitating as the physical symptoms of long COVID which include; chronic fatigue, frequent or severe headaches, persistent aches and pains in joints and muscles, shortness of breath, fever, nausea, digestive and bladder issues, skin rashes and heart palpitations. Addressing these issues requires a multifaceted approach, including medical treatment, mental health support, and lifestyle modifications. Continued research and awareness are critical in managing and mitigating the mental health effects of long COVID. As is supporting our friends, colleagues and loved ones who are going through it. Lexi Boreham was a fit, healthy and active lawyer who in September 2022, at 29 years old, was struck down with long COVID. Lexi started sharing her recovery journey publicly on Instagram in May 2023, to create a safe space for those with long COVID to find comfort and community, and to raise awareness of the illness. Lexi openly vocalises the ups and downs of life with long COVID, including feelings of loneliness, frustration and sadness, but also the brief moments of hope and joy. Talking to host Gabby, Lexi speaks candidly about what life has been like since becoming afflicted with long COVID. Lexi shares her own struggles with debilitating fatigue, how her mental health has been affected, and explains about the spectrum of the condition. Lexi also talks about how her battle with long COVID has affected her family and loved ones, whilst offering advice on how we might show our support to anyone facing the challenges of long COVID. Lexi highlights what the most current research is providing and vocalises her frustrations with the flippant comments Rishi Sunak made, about those struggling to work due to chronic health conditions. Lexi also offers some words of hope and encouragement to anyone experiencing long COVID, whilst sharing what tools and resources she has found to be helpful in managing her own symptoms. To download the My Possible Self App: https://mypossibleself.app.link/podcast To follow My Possible Self on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mypossibleself To follow Lexi on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/positively_fatigued To follow Lexi on TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@positively_fatigued To download the UCL resources pdf on long COVID referred to in the interview: https://www.ucl.ac.uk/covid-19-longitudinal-health-wellbeing/sites/covid_19_longitudinal_health_wellbeing/files/a-guide-to-long-covid-and-mental-health.pdf

The gut-brain connection is a two-way communication system between your gut and brain. It’s an intricate network of nerve cells, chemicals, and microbes and explains why your stomach produces juices when you think about food, and why stress can cause stomach cramps or a churning feeling. This connection links your central nervous system (CNS), including the brain, with the enteric nervous system (ENS) in your gut. Often referred to as the "second brain," the ENS significantly impacts (and creates a link between) gut health and mental health. Phrases like "gut-wrenching" or "butterflies in the stomach" illustrate this connection further, as our digestive system responds to emotions such as anger, anxiety, sadness, nervousness and happiness. Consequently, gastrointestinal issues can both cause and result from stress, anxiety, or depression; demonstrating the close relationship between the brain and the digestive system. So if we improve our gut health, we better our mental health. And in return, better mental health can alleviate certain digestive issues and lead to stronger gut health.  Dr Emeran Mayer is a leading expert on the mind-gut connection. A world renowned and award winning gastroenterologist, neuroscientist and Distinguished Research Professor in the Departments of Medicine, Physiology and Psychiatry at the David Geffen School of Medicine at UCLA, Dr Emeran has accumulated 35 years of research on the clinical and neurobiological relationship between the digestive system and the nervous system. Dr Emeran is also a best selling author of the books “The Mind-Gut Connection”, “The Mind-Gut Immune Connection” and the recipe book “Interconnected Plates”. His work primarily explores the complex interactions between the gut and the brain, particularly how these interactions impact conditions like irritable bowel syndrome (IBS), chronic pain, and emotional well-being. In this episode of The Happier Life Project, Dr Emeran simplifies how the brain and gut communicate. He discusses the influence food has on our emotions and expresses his frustrations with ultra-processed food suppliers, for producing harmful and addictive products. Dr Emeran also explains the science behind the Mediterranean diet as a model for optimal gut health and shares research on the benefits of following a restricted eating window. By not not having food in your stomach 24 hours a day, you allow your gut to cleanse itself of unwanted bacteria in the small intestine and activate its 'housekeeper' function. To download the My Possible Self App: https://mypossibleself.app.link/podcast To follow My Possible Self on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mypossibleself For more information on Dr Emeran Mayer and the mind-gut connection: https://emeranmayer.com/ To follow on Dr Emeran Mayer on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/emeranmayer All links to Dr Emeran’s books, courses, masterclass and podcast: https://linktr.ee/emayer

People drink for various reasons: to celebrate, socialize, commiserate, feel more courageous, alleviate boredom, or escape their troubles. Some people may also drink in an attempt to relieve the symptoms of mental ill-health. The interplay between alcohol and mental health is intricate. But depending on alcohol as temporary relief for your mental well-being, can lead to additional problems and research has proven, excessive consumption often exacerbates these conditions. You might view alcohol as a coping mechanism for managing depression, stress, anxiety, or other challenging emotions. You might not really like the taste of alcohol, but enjoy the feeling of being drunk or ‘letting off steam’. You might drink to feel socially lubricated and part of the community. Or perhaps it's become a part of your habitual 'wind down' routine. But if you have quietly questioned your relationship with alcohol, or suspected you may rely on it too much, perhaps it might be time to take a different approach? Rest assured, if the thought of life without alcohol, or dramatically reducing your intake, makes you feel nervous or anxious. You are not alone. As Annie Grace said, 'alcohol is the only drug on earth you have to justify NOT taking.’ Considering a different relationship with alcohol is a courageous and significant step, and there is no shame in doing so. The encouraging news is that while this may initially seem daunting or overwhelming, as you will hear in this episode of The Happier Life Project, numerous positive benefits await you on the other side. Sara Kaufman-Bradstreet is an alcohol free coach and the founder of 'No More Wasted Days'. After Sara quit drinking on her own, she cautiously shared her alcohol free journey on her personal FB page and realised there were people out there struggling with their relationship with alcohol just like she had. Sara now leads 30 day alcohol free challenges that allow people to experience an alcohol free life with guidance and support. She also leads an online community where she hosts weekly group coaching calls and is host of the No More Wasted Days podcast along with Heather P-G. Plus, Sara has a very active following on Instagram and TikTok having gathered an impressive following of people curious to re-evaluate their relationship with alcohol. Talking to host Gabby, Sara shares her own personal journey breaking free from a life of nightly drinking and hungover days, to being five years sober. She also explains that the catalyst for her transformational change wasn’t hitting ‘rock bottom’ or deciding to quit alcohol. Rather, setting herself the challenge of 30 days to remain alcohol free and being so blown away by the improvement of the quality of her life, she hasn’t felt the desire to touch a drop since. Sara shares with Gabby some alternate ways to replace the buzz from booze and illustrates how and why cutting out alcohol can enrich one's life rather than diminish it. Gabby and Sara also discuss re-discovering your identity and passions while remaining alcohol-free and navigating the dating scene without relying on liquor to serve as a wingman. To download the My Possible Self App: https://mypossibleself.app.link/podcast To follow My Possible Self on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mypossibleself To follow Sara Kaufman-Bradstreet on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/no_more_wasted_days To follow Sara Kaufman-Bradstreet on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@no_more_wasted_days To sign up for the next 30 Day Challenge: https://nomorewasteddays.co/waiting-list-30-day-challenge/ If you’re looking for support on your alcohol free journey, download Sara’s Alcohol Free Kickstart so you can start your journey with confidence: https://nomorewasteddays.co/

Shadow work refers to the psychological and emotional process of exploring and integrating the unconscious parts of the self, often referred to as the "shadow." At its core, shadow work is about discovering what annoys, irritates, saddens, provokes, triggers or puts you on edge, and identifying the underlying causes for why they provoke such strong emotional reactions. It’s also about self-acceptance and reconciling with the aspects of your identity that carry any sort of unnecessary and unhelpful shame or guilt. Concealing your shadow is a form of repression, and experts share that this may have mental health consequences. Your shadow self can lead to self-destructive behaviours such as self-sabotage, aggressiveness, power struggles, codependency, addiction, negative talk or you may experience mental health illness, like depression, anxiety and chronic stress. Rather than addressing what’s hurting you, you turn that pain inward and take it out on yourself. But by working with our shadow and recognising and embracing those parts of ourselves, we can live a more fulfilling, peaceful and happy life. Alasdair Kirk is a counsellor, psychotherapist, certified shadow work facilitator and psychedelic integration therapist. Ali facilitates shadow work sessions as an effective method of supporting individuals into emotional resilience, authenticity and joyful living. For Alasdair, shadow work is a form of deep process psychotherapy. It involves engaging with the shadow - those parts of ourselves that we ignore, repress, deny, fear, or feel ashamed of. These shadow aspects are often the unconscious forces behind our unhelpful behaviours, overwhelming emotions, and troubling life patterns; showing up as dissatisfaction, imbalance, disconnection or lack of fulfilment in our lives and within our relationships. In this episode of The Happier Life Project, Alasdair explains the process of shadow work, its benefits and how shadows might manifest. He also shares how shadows are created, often generated from as far back as childhood. And why suppressing, ignoring or fearing them, can lead to significant emotional distress, until we recognize and accept them, allowing us to feel whole. Ali also offers guidance on how we might begin to meet and accept our shadow parts; to gain a greater sense of personal empowerment, a reduction in internal conflicts or psychological distress, and to free ourselves from living a life less fulfilled. For more information on Shadow Work or to get in touch with Alasdair: https://www.inner-truth.co.uk/ To download the free My Possible Self App: https://mypossibleself.app.link/podcast To follow My Possible Self on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mypossibleself

In the second episode dedicated to exploring the complexities of modern dating and the ramifications negative experiences can have on our mental and emotional health, The Happier Life Project host Gabby Sanderson has lots more to share from a variety of psychologists and leading dating and relationship experts. In the previous episode, Gabby discussed the emotional turmoil created by love bombers and those who breadcrumb and ghost. She looked at the psychology behind those who behave in such a way, and shared tools and techniques on how we might recover from the experience, and spot red flags earlier, so we are better equipped to protect our future wellbeing. (episode 23). In this episode, Gabby begins by investigating the emotionally unavailable and avoidant types; who can leave the person they're dating feeling anxious, uncertain, on edge and confused, about why they suddenly pull away and withdraw. Then Gabby moves on to discuss how we can stop our mind from obsessing over the person we’ve been dating, who has let us down. And if we have been left injured by said love bomber, breadcrumber or ghoster and our self esteem and self worth has plummeted, Gabby offers some tips to build ourselves back up and get into a more positive mindset, so we can heal and learn from the experience and move forward in our love life. Recent data shows that nearly half of Americans think dating is harder now than it was 10 years ago. This is undoubtedly due to the current landscape of modern dating. The process of dating often involves uncertainty about how the other person feels, which can cause significant stress and anxiety. Negative experiences, such as being ghosted or rejected, can undermine self-worth and lead to self-doubt. And poor communication and unresolved conflicts can lead to stress, anxiety, and depression. Dating is a complex, multifaceted social interaction that can influence mental and emotional health in various ways. Its effects are influenced by individual experiences, the nature of the relationship, and personal coping strategies. Understanding and being aware of these potential effects, and seeking support when needed, can help reduce the negative impacts or outcomes, and amplify the positive experiences of dating. To download the My Possible Self App: https://mypossibleself.app.link/podcast To follow My Possible Self on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mypossibleself To follow Gabby on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/radiogabby Resources: The Personal Development School’s Thais Gibson: https://university.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Rapid Transformational Therapist Marisa Peer: https://marisapeer.com/ Women’s dating and confidence coach Amber Grubenmann: https://www.ambergrubenmann.com/ Leading dating expert and confidence coach Matthew Hussey: https://matthewhussey.com/ Self help and life coach Margarita Nazarenko: https://www.margaritanazarenko.com/ Dating Coach Evan Marc Katz: https://www.evanmarckatz.com/ Relationship coach and attachment style expert Stephanie Rigg: https://www.stephanierigg.com/ Psychological Well-Being Practitioner Marios Georgiou: https://theprivatetherapyclinic.co.uk/therapists/marios-georgiou/

The complexities of modern dating can be challenging, and can significantly affect our mental and emotional health... Particularly if we have been on the receiving end of behaviour that is not kind. Terms like ‘love bombing’, ‘breadcrumbs', ‘ghosting' and ‘situationships’ have become so common, they are almost considered as acceptable codes of conduct. But the psychological effects can cause much stress, anxiety and a lack of self esteem.  In the first of two episodes of The Happier Life Project podcast, host Gabby Sanderson delves deep into the research conducted by mental health professionals and relationship coaches on dating. Sharing solutions and tools to help us heal and move on, if we’ve been left disappointed by someone we have started to date. After a few great dates we can see people through rose tinted glasses. And if we are keen to pursue a relationship we can let things slide such as; lack of communication, hot and cold behaviour, or someone not actively making an effort to see us and progress the connection. Often we think ‘what did I do wrong?’ ‘What's wrong with me?’ and blame ourselves, rather than questioning the inauthentic and emotionally cruel behaviour of the person responsible for causing us turmoil.  Gabby explains why and how a love bomber disguises minimal intentions as maximum intentions. She also shares how to spot the red flags from time wasters, and why breadcrumbs are an emotionally manipulative tactic. Gabby reveals the reasons why ghosting says far more about the person and their shortcomings, who suddenly goes no contact, than it does about you. And offers suggestions on how we might learn from the experts and detach from trying to create a story from the story, move on, and redirect our energy into more positive areas of our life.  To download the free My Possible Self App: https://mypossibleself.app.link/podcast  To follow My Possible Self on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mypossibleself To follow Gabby on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/radiogabby Resources: The Personal Development School’s Thais Gibson: https://university.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Rapid Transformational Therapist Marisa Peer: https://marisapeer.com/ Women’s Dating and Confidence Coach Amber Grubenmann: https://www.ambergrubenmann.com/ Leading Dating Expert and Confidence Coach Matthew Hussey: https://matthewhussey.com/ Self Help and Life Coach Margarita Nazarenko: https://www.margaritanazarenko.com/ Dating Coach Evan Marc Katz: https://www.evanmarckatz.com/ Relationship Coach and Attachment Style Expert Stephanie Rigg: https://www.stephanierigg.com/ Psychological Well-Being Practitioner Marios Georgiou: https://theprivatetherapyclinic.co.uk/therapists/marios-georgiou/

Emotions play a crucial role in our overall mental health, acting as both messengers and influencers of our psychological well-being. Positive emotions like joy, gratitude, and love can enhance mental resilience, foster strong social connections, and improve our ability to cope with stress. But on the flip side, the more challenging emotions such as sadness, anger, jealousy or anxiety, if persistent and unaddressed, can contribute to mental health issues and illness.  Understanding and managing our emotions has a positive impact on our wellbeing. By recognizing and processing our emotions, we are better equipped to deal with life’s challenges, manage strong feelings, achieve better emotional balance, enhance our mental clarity, and improve our overall quality of life. But how do we learn to manage our emotions more effectively? For many we can feel at the mercy of our feelings, unaware that by drawing from simple techniques from within, we can help mitigate their intensity and reduce overwhelm.  This is where Dr Emma Hepburn comes in. An award winning clinical psychologist, lecturer, author and illustrator, Dr Emma has written and illustrated the books ‘A Toolkit For Happiness’, ‘A Toolkit For Modern Life’ and most recently ‘A Toolkit for Your Emotions - 45 Ways To Feel Better’. Dr Emma Hepburn is also one of the most well-known psychologists on Instagram as @thepsychologymum and has won numerous awards for her contribution to mental health awareness. Dr Emma talks to The Happier Life Project host Gabby about how emotions are made and where they come from. She shares how emotional habits are created and what it means to be on the emotional roller coaster of life, with all of its loop the loops. Dr Emma also explains how our past history and experiences influence our brain and body to create an emotional response; and ways we can objectively step back to review if how we are feeling is more of an echo from the past, rather than an appropriate response to the present.  Dr Emma reveals some of her favourite tools to manage more difficult emotions and suggests ways we might break emotional patterns that are not helpful to us. The expert psychologist also explains why we should never feel ashamed of our emotions and how we can positively influence others towards the feel good feelings too. 'A Toolkit for Your Emotions' helps readers to navigate and understand their emotions effectively. Taking a deep dive into how we feel, Dr Emma explains all the tools we need to intercept and redirect challenging emotions by offering practical strategies, exercises, and insights. Each topic is illustrated with Dr Emma's well-loved illustrations to make them accessible, meaningful and memorable. To purchase 'A Toolkit For Your Emotions' on amazon: https://amzn.eu/d/aXJOfnI To follow Dr Emma Heburn on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepsychologymum To download the free My Possible Self App: https://mypossibleself.app.link/podcast  To follow My Possible Self on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mypossibleself