PODCAST

Mommying While Muslim

Zaiba Hasan & Uzma Jafri

Mommying While Muslim is a one of a kind podcast where two American born and bred Muslim moms share their experiences to raise second generation kids. Having experienced both pre and post 9/11 America, they're acutely aware of the unique challenges their families face on top of the regular messes that all moms share. Mommying While Muslim is a space to take back their stories, and tell those no one will air on the news or portray fully or fairly in the media.Zaiba Hasan and Uzma Jafri are moms first, careerwomen second, and global citizens at heart. They meet taboo topics head on because they weren't allowed to do it growing up, not at home or at school and work. They aim to better their immediate households, communities, and their momsisterhood the world over by telling the truths sometimes people don't want to face or to hear. Not everyone has the privileges they have, and they are eager to learn more than they are to share their own experiences. Always looking to give back, they find women and families who need a mic because no one needs a voice; they just need an opportunity to speak. Besides tough social issues, they also tackle political ones because when laws affect their kids, they're coming for them as well as the ones who make them! There's no lane that doesn't get taken here.Along the way, they recruit momallies for Muslim Americans who have been inordinately targeted for the last 20 years. True moms know that ALL our children deserve to be safe, loved, and happy, and we bust every yellow brick on the Islamaphobic road to make sure they all are. If you like good trouble, this one's for you!

Holding Us Back from Naming & Treating Addiction: Muslim Barriers Study
We have a BONUS episode for you this week! There’s explicit content so please be mindful of tiny ears within listening range.Salah Abu Muna shares his research study that seeks to determine the need for Muslim-centered substance abuse recovery. He needs 10 more Muslim subjects by May 31st and it’s a paid study to boot! Twelve steps isn’t the only way; find out why! We pray this episode will get him the data set he needs to provide a critical resource to Muslim Americans in crisis. Ameen.Hear about Salah’s personal experience with addiction, the near death experience that fueled his spiritual and physical recovery, as well as his passion for Addiction Studies. His will be the first of many surveys to inform the foundation for Muslim American substance abuse treatment insha’Allah. Tune in at 6pm EST on Apple podcasts, Stitcher, iHeartRadio, Amazon Music, ask Alexa, or click on the link in our bio. Share this episode with a friend who may be contemplating an end to their substance use or abuse, or a mom whose loved one may be in crisis.Note: In this episode, it’s “carotid,” not “cathartic” artery.Learn about Better Conduct and participate in the Barriers to Muslim Addiction study TODAY deadline 5/31: https://betterconduct.org/Dr. Malik Badri bio: https://www.trtworld.com/opinion/the-father-of-modern-islamic-psychology-dr-malik-badri-s-legacy-44255 Institute for Social Policy & Understanding: https://www.ispu.org/substance-abuse-and-addiction-in-the-muslim-community/ Learn about Millati Islami: https://www.millatiislami.org/Get 24/7 help finding addiction recovery help at SAMHSA: https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline or call 1-800-662-HELPWeb: www.mommyingwhilemuslim.comEmail: salam@mommyingwhilemuslim.comFB: Mommying While Muslim page and Mommyingwhilemuslim groupIG: @mommyingwhilemuslimpodcastYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCrrdKxpBdBO4ZLwB1kTmz1w Support the show
Yesterday
41 mins
Sex, Drugs, Porn and Other Addictions
Like almost every episode this month, there’s explicit content so please be mindful of tiny ears within listening range.Dr. Madiha Tahseen from The Family & Youth Institute joins us today to discuss what The FYI research has learned about porn consumption in the Muslim American community, its effects, and how to prevent it. There are some super surprising facts to learn today, not the least of which is  a spike in Muslim porn viewership during the pandemic, but shocking to us: religious kids watch porn, too.  This is neurological issue as well as a behavioral issue, so please listen in to find out how to help Muslim children and family members avoid the path to porn addiction. The first step is to listen to this episode, and the second, per Dr. Tahseen is DON’T FREAK OUT (loosely translated). No Kitty Catty about it ;).What are porn consumption tells, resources if porn is a problem in your Muslim household, treatments, and prevention? It’s all in this episode and the Shownotes on your podcast app. Dropping at 6pm EST tonight on Apple podcasts, Stitcher, iHeartRadio, Amazon Music, ask Alexa, or click on our link in bio. Share this episode with your momcrew to add to their mommying toolkit! TheFYI Website: www.fyi.orgTheFYI Porn Addiction Toolkit: https://www.thefyi.org/toolkits/porn/ TheFYI Digital Parenting Toolkit: https://www.thefyi.org/toolkits/the-fyi-digital-parenting-toolkit/ Dr. Tahseen’s book recc: The Wheel of Time series by Robert Jordan TheFYI on IG: https://www.instagram.com/thefyi_org/?hl=enTheFYI on FB: https://www.facebook.com/TheFYI.org/ TheFYI on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/TheFYIdotOrg?app=desktop TheFYI on Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheFYI_org?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Eauthor Web: www.mommyingwhilemuslim.comEmail: salam@mommyingwhilemuslim.comFB: Mommying While Muslim page and Mommyingwhilemuslim groupIG: @mommyingwhilemuslimpodcastYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCrrdKxpBdBO4ZLwB1kTmz1w Support the show
Yesterday
57 mins
Watering Burning Buildings: My Muslim Kid & Drugs
Tina Khan joins us today to discuss her experience watching her son’s spiral into drugs and mental health crises and what it did to their family. This is definitely an episode you want to hear before you choose to let your kids listen in, but it really does merit a listen by young people to hear what drug addiction does, not just to an individual, but a family and community.Where are we as a Muslim community in terms of supporting our young Muslims struggling with drug addiction, and just as importantly to our momcrew, are we there for our moms who have a child in crisis like this? If not now, WHY NOT. If not now, WHEN?Tune in at 6pm EST tonight on Apple podcasts, Stitcher, iHeartRadio, Amazon Music, ask Alexa or click on our link in bio and SHARE this episode link with 2 moms you know so THEY know they’ve got allies and ears with us. Make sure you use your podcast app to look up the links on this one.    Links:Ten years of substance use research in Muslim populations: Where do we go from here?: https://quod.lib.umich.edu/j/jmmh/10381607.0010.103/--ten-years-of-substance-use-research-in-muslim-populations?rgn=main;view=fulltext Substance Abuse and Addiction in the Muslim Community: Facing Stigma and Seeking Support: https://www.ispu.org/substance-abuse-and-addiction-in-the-muslim-community/ Participate in Muslim drug treatment research study: https://betterconduct.org/ Teena’s email: teena.khn@gmail.comListen to Teena on King of the World podcast: https://www.rifelion.com/shows/kingoftheworld Web: www.mommyingwhilemuslim.comEmail: salam@mommyingwhilemuslim.comFB: Mommying While Muslim page and Mommyingwhilemuslim groupIG: @mommyingwhilemuslimpodcastYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCrrdKxpBdBO4ZLwB1kTmz1w Support the show
May 12 2022
51 mins
Hasan V Jafri on Roe v Wade
Due to the mind-numbing circumstances of this week’s Supreme Court decision, we decided to re-release our abortion episode. Right, critics, we know if our moms got abortions, we would not be born to tell the tale. Your fallacy of logic is too exhausting to even address.  As women, moreover as mothers, we are consumed with grief and anger over what is happening on the daily to threaten our children, but now, even the bodies of our female children?  While we regroup and figure out how to take action, we want to reshare our thoughts and some facts about Islam and abortion. Check our shownotes on this one for sure to get the links.  For all these years, the cockroaches have been warning the world about Sharia Law when their own religious laws are SO MUCH more dangerous to women. The irony is maddening. Tell us what you think about Roe v Wade being overturned in comments, but if you identify as male, you should observe and remain silent. As owners of the only set of organs to have laws created to control them, we are hypervigilant right now and have given fair warning to tread lightly or not at all. Tune in at 6pm EST on Apple podcasts, Stitcher, Amazon, or ask Alexa. You can also click the link in our bio to SHARE THIS EPISODE with a woman you love. Islam and the Abortion Debate from Yaqeen Institute: https://yaqeeninstitute.org/omar-suleiman/islam-and-the-abortion-debateAbortion in Islami animated information from Yaqeen Institute: https://yaqeeninstitute.org/omar-suleiman/abortion-in-islam-animated-videoFor parenting courses on how to talk to Muslim kids about sex: @thehalalsexpertState by state restrictions on abortion at Planned Parenthood: https://www.plannedparenthoodaction.org/issues/abortionMuslim Kids and Sexual Activity:https://muslimmentalhealth.com/lets-talk-about-sex-and-muslim-mental-health/Sex Education Reduces Unplanned Pregnancy:https://www.aclu.org/blog/reproductive-freedom/study-finds-comprehensive-sex-education-reduces-teen-pregnancyWho is Alex P. Keaton?https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alex_P._KeatonWeb: www.mommyingwhilemuslim.comEmail: mommyingwhilemuslim@gmail.comFB: Mommying While Muslim page and Mommyingwhilemuslim groupIG: @mommyingwhilemuslimpodcast12. YouTube:https://youtu.be/OpbMZseC8KoSupport the show
May 6 2022
44 mins
Eid Reflections
Join Zaiba and Uzma with their Eid reflections, prep, and favorite resources. We appreciate our audience following along these last two months during our episodes to prepare for Ramadan, stay strong with our worship in Ramadan as moms spread so very thin, and now we are more than happy to share our holiday with our momsisters. Learn about easy family-friendly sadaqa projects that can be done the day of Eid. Keep up the good work and see what Zaiba is doing with the sadaqa jar money her kids have collected. Check out the shownotes for awesome links we aren’t paid for, but are happy to share for your Eid prep as well.Uzma’s recommendations for Eid clothing:Urban Modesty dresses and abayas: https://www.urbanmodesty.com/?gclid=CjwKCAjw9qiTBhBbEiwAp-GE0T9pGcj1GAXVhoPThDat6Abfa0jbIKQIzDJHY3kAahXfbIT0VbPx0RoCIfMQAvD_BwE Aab dresses and abayas: https://us.aabcollection.com/?utm_source=Google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=USA_EN_Search_Brand_EXT&utm_medium=adwords&utm_campaign=&utm_source=&utm_content=modest_clothing_branded&gclid=CjwKCAjw9qiTBhBbEiwAp-GE0Qm-1rXte8zEyp2Tyso7TtxJFxRyP73XMt13NweViU9UvV5esu8mBRoCq7UQAvD_BwE Brands Just Pret South Asian fashion: (832) 886-4084Poshak Houston South Asian Fashion: (713)532-3232 Ask for Anas and say Uzma sent you! MWM does not get any compensation for any of these recommendations.BTS box: https://www.amazon.com/Include-Postcards-Stickers%EF%BC%8CGift-Daughter-Granddaughter/dp/B081DJ19SZ/ref=sr_1_52?keywords=bts+mystery+box&qid=1651174847&sr=8-52 Duck Donuts Virginia: https://www.duckdonuts.com/locations/ Zair Zabr Play for the Names of Allah game: https://zairzabrplay.com/ or contact her on IG @zairzabrplay Hen Khan books for representative literature: https://henakhan.com/my-books/ Iftar boxes Google doc with product links: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1IMO5MbNAYziXydmbNqjB--Lf0SibVKGP_vj6ax9FyWE/edit?usp=sharing Uzma’s book recommendation: Zen Parenting by Cathy Cassani AdamsZaiba’s book recommendation: The Awakened Family by Dr. Shefali Tsabary and Sapiens by Yuval Noah HarariWeb: www.mommyingwhilemuslim.com Email: salam@mommyingwhilemuslim.comFB: Mommying While Muslim page and Mommyingwhilemuslim groupIG: @mommyingwhilemuslimpodcastYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCrrdKxpBdBO4ZLwB1kTmz1w Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/mommyingwhilemuslimpodcast)
Apr 28 2022
32 mins
Muslim Moms' Spiritual Fortitude
Ustadha Safiya Ravat of Suhbah Institute reminds us how to focus on our Ramadan as moms–beyond the food, the rat race, the decor, and all the things we have to continue doing–to build our safe spiritual spaces with Allah SWT.  Uzma sniffs a lot in this episode after Ustadha shares the tafseer of a commonly misquoted and misused hadith. We couldn’t cut out all that helpful audio from our guest. This one’s for all the girls who grew up being told they didn’t belong in the masjid. Share this episode with 2 moms you know to remind them how amazing they are and how loved they are by Allah SWT. Tune in at 6pm EST on Apple podcasts, Stitcher, Amazon Music, or wherever you listen to podcasts. Links:Suhbah Institute Website: https://suhbah.com/Suhbah Institute IG: @suhbah_instituteUstadha Safiya’s book recommendations The Character of the Muslim Woman: Women's Emancipation during the Prophet's Lifetime (Islamic Economics) by Abd Al-Halim Abu Shuqqah Secrets of Divine Love by A. Helwa Ustadha Safiya’s YouTube recommendations: Prophet Yusuf series on YouTube: https://youtu.be/t2CpKjogBT8 People of the Cave “Men of Angelos”: https://youtu.be/tdnJCaMPzyI Ustadha Safiya’s podcast recommendation The Quantum Chronicles: https://thequantumchronicles.com/ Web: www.mommyingwhilemuslim.com Email: salam@mommyingwhilemuslim.comFB: Mommying While Muslim page and Mommyingwhilemuslim groupIG: @mommyingwhilemuslimpodcastSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/mommyingwhilemuslimpodcast)
Apr 21 2022
1 hr
Perpetuity of Ramadan Spiritual Productivity
Apr 14 2022
58 mins
Ramadan 2022 Special
| Zaiba and Uzma discuss their Ramadan 2022 plans and fears because let’s not continue saying “the pandemic is over” and go back to normal. It’s still a worrisome time, but less stressful alhamdulillah, and to that end, what does their mindset look like after preparing last month with their Nutrition & Fitness series? We hope you find yourself less stressed about “doing it all” this month.  Bonus content about QuadMShops and our experience meeting listeners for the first time. We want to make it a first of many so take a listen to what we want to do in the future with and for our audience, and our potential audiences! Excuse allergy voices and discussions about luscious dishes in the community that will have your mouth watering. If you’re fasting, maybe listen to it AFTER sunset!  Tune in at 6pm EST on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, Amazon Music or ask Alexa. Subscribe today and share an episode with a momsister.Links:Uzma’s book recommendation: The Enneagram and You by Gina GomezZaiba’s book recommendations: NLP: The Essential Guide to Neuro-Linguistic Programming by Tom Dotz, Go Back to Where you Came From by Wajahat Ali, Apples Never Fall by Liane Moriarty, and Dare to Lead by Brene BrownWeb: www.mommyingwhilemuslim.comEmail: salam@mommyingwhilemuslim.comFB: Mommying While Muslim page and Mommyingwhilemuslim groupIG: @mommyingwhilemuslimpodcastYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCrrdKxpBdBO4ZLwB1kTmz1w Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/mommyingwhilemuslimpodcast)
Apr 7 2022
43 mins
Healthy Fasting for Moms & KidsKetogenic Lifestyle for Muslims
Mar 24 2022
46 mins
Choosing the Right Foods as Fuel in RamadanModest Fitness RetreatsMuslim Nutrition & Fitness Series: Zaiba & Uzma's Fitness Success 2022Sunnah of Sex: Spiritual Spice
Megan Wyatt of Wives of Jannah joins us today to discuss sex positive sunnah practices, and the real history of Islamic sexual tradition subdued by colonization and toxic cultural beliefs. From observations of sexual belief systems she’s made from coaching couples for years, learn about about:●      sex positivity in Islam the RELIGION●      the spiritual nature of sex in Islam●      the role of pleasure in Islam for either gender, and especially for women●      giving vs. getting and their significance, sexual dissatisfaction, boredom, emotional abuse, and porn among many others●      how sex positivity and shame CULTURE of colonization replaced the sunnah of sex We could NOT cut out the excellent advice and wisdom shared by Megan today, so sit back and absorb this one, singles and partnered people! Tune is at 6pm EST on Apple podcasts, Stitcher, Amazon Music, Pandora, or just go to our website and click on the home page to listen.  Share the khair and this episode with 3 friends today!  Links:Find Wives of Jannah online and on Instagram:https://wivesofjannah.com/ http://www.instagram.com/wivesofjannah Dua before sexual intercourse: بِسْمِ اللهِ اللَّهُمَّ جَنِّبْنَا الشَّيْطَانَ ، وَجَنِّبِ الشَّيْطَانَ مَا رَزَقْـتَنَاIn the Name of Allah. O Allah, keep the shaytaan away from us and keep the shaytaan away from what You have blessed us with.  Note: *The Messenger of Allah (SAW) said, “Whoever says this dua and the wife was pregnant from that night, Shaytan will never be able to harm the child.”Will the Angels Curse Me? free ebook: https://wivesofjannah.com/wtacm/?fbclid=IwAR3i0KFKnmyFyA6eiTYdiLrpCkS7kfvoI-NEO_HO5FNgqj2x6bOlvCIcqnA For those dealing with porn or sex addiction: https://purifyyourgaze.com/ Web: www.mommyingwhilemuslim.com Email: salam@mommyingwhilemuslim.comFB: Mommying While Muslim page and Mommyingwhilemuslim groupIG: @mommyingwhilemuslimpodcastYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCrrdKxpBdBO4ZLwB1kTmz1w Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/mommyingwhilemuslimpodcast)
Feb 24 2022
54 mins
Half Our Deen & CompatibilityCliteracy Consciousness
Dr. Shaakira Abdullah aka The Halal Sexpert joins us today to talk all things clitoris because let’s be real, how many of us know exactly what it is….or WHERE it is? And it’s a part of our bodies!!! As Zaiba says in this episode, “We don’t know what we don’t talk about.” Find out about our God-given organ (and He does NOT make mistakes!), its power, and the ways in which men have tried to oppress us through it. Good news: female circumcision is another failure of men and internalized female misogyny to thwart female pleasure. This episode includes terms like “lick,” “kink,” “orgasm,” and “squirt,” so stay tuned for that, preferably without the kids. Let’s fix that today and appreciate the candor and passion Dr. Abdullah brings to the topics of intimacy, sex, and Muslim sexuality. Don’t miss her advice to parents on how to talk to our kids about sex. And let’s all get cliterate!Links:Find Dr. Shaakira Abdullah and her classes, resources, and oh-those-Reels on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thehalalsexpert/Find Dr. Shaakira Abdullah online at her website: https://halalsexpert.com/ Read Blackness in Islam: https://www.imamghazali.org/store/blackness-and-islam Web: www.mommyingwhilemuslim.comEmail: salam@mommyingwhilemuslim.comFB: Mommying While Muslim page and Mommyingwhilemuslim groupIG: @mommyingwhilemuslimpodcastYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCrrdKxpBdBO4ZLwB1kTmz1w Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/mommyingwhilemuslimpodcast)
Feb 10 2022
48 mins
Detoxing Muslim Sex Series: Sex NotesHands On/Off ParentingWhen They’re “All Grown Up”
Chaplain Kirsten Jawad joins us today to engage in thoughtful conversation about parenting mindfully in an era when our young people are so much more dynamic than in the past–from flying the nest to staying in it and what work is required to keep our relationships healthy, faithful, and rewarding. While it’s great that our kids don’t want to leave yet, we still serve in our maternal roles to support their continued independence, resilience, and to help our mom-adult child relationship reach another level. Even when our kids fall off the path of Islam, there is a place for us to guide them back as adults without going nuclear (Uzma!!!) using the Kristenism “carefrontations” to bring them back home. It’s about maternal mindset and truly having tawwakul (truly trusting God’s plan) Allah, as well as tawwakul in our kids and our momselves!  Write down her 5 rules to mommying that can make a difference with all ages, but really apply to our adult Muslim kids!Links:Compassionate Spiritual Care With Kristen Jawad: https://illuminatedlifeways.com/ Kristen’s inspiration on positive parenting and maternal inner work: https://www.amazon.com/Continuum-Concept-Happiness-Classics-Development/dp/0201050714 Find the poem Kristen quotes in Everyday Blessings: The Inner Work of Mindful Parenting: https://www.amazon.com/Everyday-Blessings-Inner-Mindful-Parenting/dp/0786883146 CAIR’s press release on the moles working for Investigative Project on Terrorism: https://www.cair.com/press_releases/breaking-cair-to-release-new-evidence-showing-anti-muslim-hate-group-used-paid-spies-to-surveil-prominent-muslim-leaders-groups-for-more-than-a-decade/ Tariq Nelson’s statement on why he defected CAIR: https://www.cair.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/Statement-Tariq-Nelson.docx.pdf Proving to Zaiba that “hotboxes” are real: https://mohavedailynews.com/news/85597/patience-key-in-winning-contest/ Web: www.mommyingwhilemuslim.comEmail: salam@mommyingwhilemuslim.comFB: Mommying While Muslim page and Mommyingwhilemuslim groupIG: @mommyingwhilemuslimpodcastYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCrrdKxpBdBO4ZLwB1kTmz1w Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/mommyingwhilemuslimpodcast)
Jan 20 2022
49 mins
Building New Islands