Social Anxiety Solutions - your journey to social confidence!

Sebastiaan van der Schrier

You struggle to overcome your Social Anxiety? You're frustrated over how it affects your life? Worried you'll have to live with your Social Anxiety forever? This podcast is for you! You'll hear me - an ex-Social Anxiety Disorder sufferer - interview the superstars of the therapy and psychology world. They’ve been traditionally trained psychologists or psychotherapists and have incorporated an exciting new field into their practice: "Energy psychology". These experts share their most successful techniques, fresh insights, and incredible stories of transformation. Here’s what you need to gain relief, and shortcut your journey to Social Confidence. In each show, we discuss a Social Anxiety related topic (eg. shame, self-acceptance, bullying, fear of rejection, connection, loneliness, etc) and you'll get specific action steps to move forward each week. Listen to gain an empowered perspective. Learn tools to beat your Social Anxiety. Be motivated and supported on your journey to Social Confidence; where you enjoy connecting with others, express yourself authentically, and create the social life you desire. read less
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Episodes

1. How to overcome shame
May 1 2015
1. How to overcome shame
Our popular online coaching program guiding you all the way from social anxiety to social confidence is now OPEN! You can sign up from 24th Feb to 29th Feb midnight EST! Use this opportunity to secure one of the limited spots and be guided to social confidence in the most effective and gentle way, from the comfort of your own home! All info at bit.ly/socialconfidenceclub P.S. Don’t hesitate and go there now! We only open the Club once a year for 5 days! Use this chance!! --- Emma is an ex-social anxiety sufferer, and a therapist with decades of experience. She's dealt with shame extensively both personally (a blushing problem) and professionally as she specialises working with highly sensitive areas such as trauma and sexual abuse.  Emma is an EFT Master and Master Trainer, Clinical Hypnotherapist and NLP Master Practitioner.  We address shame in detail, and share how to overcome it. Emma is the co-founder of Integrated Energy Techniques (IET), which brings together Energy Psychology and the very best ways of working with Ericksonian Hypnosis, NLP, Coaching, Psycho-spiritual approaches and Cognitive Psychotherapy. QUOTE: “Don’t waste time thinking you’re stuck, thanks to this you can now take control of your life and change it faster than you might think” Emma's show notes page My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here): www.social-anxiety-solutions.com Contact me directly:  www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ Warm regards, Sebastiaan van der Schrier _________________________________________________ Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! • SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@Social-anxiety-solutions • FB https://www.facebook.com/socialanxietysolutions • IG https://www.instagram.com/socialanxietysolutions • Twitter https://twitter.com/socialanxietysb All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. Warm regards, Seb
2. Releasing the need to be perfect
May 1 2015
2. Releasing the need to be perfect
Our popular online coaching program guiding you all the way from social anxiety to social confidence is now OPEN! You can sign up from 24th Feb to 29th Feb midnight EST! Use this opportunity to secure one of the limited spots and be guided to social confidence in the most effective and gentle way, from the comfort of your own home! All info at bit.ly/socialconfidenceclub P.S. Don’t hesitate and go there now! We only open the Club once a year for 5 days! Use this chance!! --- Carol Look has a distinguished background in traditional psychotherapy, was trained as a Clinical Social Worker and earned her Doctoral Degree in Clinical Hypnotherapy.  This was before she became one of the only 29 EFT Masters in the world. Carol is known for combining her background in traditional psychotherapy with “energy medicine” and she appears as a practitioner and energy therapy expert in the DVD documentary “The Tapping Solution” as well as in the documentary focusing on helping veterans suffering from PTSD, “Operation: Emotional Freedom.”  She has extensive experience helping people overcome perfectionism and shares how to overcome social perfectionism once and for all.  QUOTE: ""This technique hands down has been the best thing for anxiety and has not let me down for 18 years." Carol's show notes page My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here): www.social-anxiety-solutions.com Contact me directly:  www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ Warm regards, Sebastiaan van der Schrier _________________________________________________________________ Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! • SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@Social-anxiety-solutions • FB https://www.facebook.com/socialanxietysolutions • IG https://www.instagram.com/socialanxietysolutions • Twitter https://twitter.com/socialanxietysb All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. Warm regards, Seb
Why this podcast and my story
May 1 2015
Why this podcast and my story
Our popular online coaching program guiding you all the way from social anxiety to social confidence is now OPEN! You can sign up from 24th Feb to 29th Feb midnight EST! Use this opportunity to secure one of the limited spots and be guided to social confidence in the most effective and gentle way, from the comfort of your own home! All info at bit.ly/socialconfidenceclub P.S. Don’t hesitate and go there now! We only open the Club once a year for 5 days! Use this chance!! --- This show is for you when you're suffering from social anxiety and the standard tips don't work. You're frustrated, and worried you'll have to live with your social anxiety for the rest of your life. This podcast is for you.  You'll hear from the super stars of the therapy and psychology world who have been originally trained psychologists or psychotherapists who have incorporated energy psychology into their practice. They share their most effective techniques, empowering solutions, and unbelievably inspiring stories of transformation and perspectives that help shortcut your journey to social confidence massively.  Each show we discuss a social anxiety related topic (shame, self acceptance, sensitivity, bullying, fear of rejection, connection, loneliness, etc) and you'll get specific action steps to move forward each episode.  In this intro podcast I share my story from social anxiety to social confidence. What worked for me and what didn't. And what you can do to make progress today. Thank you for listening.  My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here): www.social-anxiety-solutions.com Contact me directly:  www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ Warm regards, Sebastiaan van der Schrier ________________________________________________________________ Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! • SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@Social-anxiety-solutions • FB https://www.facebook.com/socialanxietysolutions • IG https://www.instagram.com/socialanxietysolutions • Twitter https://twitter.com/socialanxietysb All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. Warm regards, Seb
3. Bullying - how to overcome its negative effects
May 7 2015
3. Bullying - how to overcome its negative effects
Our popular online coaching program guiding you all the way from social anxiety to social confidence is now OPEN! You can sign up from 24th Feb to 29th Feb midnight EST! Use this opportunity to secure one of the limited spots and be guided to social confidence in the most effective and gentle way, from the comfort of your own home! All info at bit.ly/socialconfidenceclub P.S. Don’t hesitate and go there now! We only open the Club once a year for 5 days! Use this chance!! --- Tania suffered from social anxiety for the longest time and has completely resolved it.  She’s an NLP Trainer, EFT founding Master and Trainer, TAT Professional Trainer, Hypnotherapy Trainer and Practitioner. She’s featured on the BBC TV show Inside Out, as well as on a Swedish TV Show where she helped someone overcome a binge eating disorder. She has extensive experience working one on one with clients clearing fear and nerves in public speaking, including those who experience panic attacks, blushing and social phobia. We go into depth on bullying, share out own personal experiences, and give simple and effective techniques to eliminate (yes, not ease, not manage, eliminate!) the negative effects of bullying. QUOTE: "To me it’s not about “managing it" (the social anxiety), you really want to go for the full deal; it absolutely can be shifted” Tani's show notes page My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here): www.social-anxiety-solutions.com Contact me directly:  www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ Warm regards, Sebastiaan van der Schrier _________________________________________________________________ Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! • SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@Social-anxiety-solutions • FB https://www.facebook.com/socialanxietysolutions • IG https://www.instagram.com/socialanxietysolutions • Twitter https://twitter.com/socialanxietysb All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. Warm regards, Seb
Loving your sensitivity and feeling safe being vulnerable
May 14 2015
Loving your sensitivity and feeling safe being vulnerable
Our popular online coaching program guiding you all the way from social anxiety to social confidence is now OPEN! You can sign up from 24th Feb to 29th Feb midnight EST! Use this opportunity to secure one of the limited spots and be guided to social confidence in the most effective and gentle way, from the comfort of your own home! All info at bit.ly/socialconfidenceclub P.S. Don’t hesitate and go there now! We only open the Club once a year for 5 days! Use this chance!! --- 

This may forever shift your perspective on sensitivity and vulnerability and place it in a perspective that empowers and inspires you.
 Tom’s my close buddy and is an ex-professional MMA fighter. He practices a combination of Energy Psychology and intuitive physical therapy to facilitate deep levels of acceptance. 

 He's been on (and still is) a long journey of intense self-exploration, has lived in the jungle for 6 months, has done a 10 meditation retreat, and is the ideal man to speak to when it comes to owning your sensitivity and feeling safe enough to be vulnerable.  We talk about the necessity of owning your sensitivity and getting yourself to a place where it becomes safe to be vulnerable. Tom grew up in the UK and sensitivity was seen as weak and pathetic. Same for where I’m from. This has set us both on a journey to exploring our sensitivity.  
QUOTE: Being sensitive and being vulnerable is really a huge part of being able to connect with people. The more vulnerable and sensitive you allow yourself to be the more connected you feel with people.  Tom's show notes page My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here): www.social-anxiety-solutions.com Contact me directly:  www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ Warm regards, Sebastiaan van der Schrier _________________________________________________________________ Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! • SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@Social-anxiety-solutions • FB https://www.facebook.com/socialanxietysolutions • IG https://www.instagram.com/socialanxietysolutions • Twitter https://twitter.com/socialanxietysb All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. Warm regards, Seb
Self acceptance - a key to social comfort
May 21 2015
Self acceptance - a key to social comfort
Our popular online coaching program guiding you all the way from social anxiety to social confidence is now OPEN! You can sign up from 24th Feb to 29th Feb midnight EST! Use this opportunity to secure one of the limited spots and be guided to social confidence in the most effective and gentle way, from the comfort of your own home! All info at bit.ly/socialconfidenceclub P.S. Don’t hesitate and go there now! We only open the Club once a year for 5 days! Use this chance!! --- Steve Wells is a psychologist. He has trained to the highest level in provocative therapy, has extensive training and experience in brief strategic therapy, and has been training counsellors and therapists for over 20 years. Together with Dr David Lake he also conducts personal development seminars and professional training workshops in Advanced EFT and Provocative Energy Techniques.  He and Dr Lake developed Simple Energy Techniques (SET) and the unique advanced Energy-based approach Provocative Energy Techniques (PET). Steve shares his 30 day self acceptance journey, and let's you know how overcoming your social anxiety has to start with acceptance because non-self acceptance is a guaranteed way to keep your negative cycle of social anxiety happening.  And paradoxically accepting yourself (starting with accepting where you are) is the beginning point of recovery. QUOTE: A lot of people are doing exposure therapy, feel the fear and do it anyway, and that’s good, but you know what, for some people that’s really harrowing, it’s really tough, and what techniques like tapping do is at the very least they take the edge off at the beginning so that it becomes a little bit easier. And over time, it becomes a lot easier.  Steve's show notes page My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here): www.social-anxiety-solutions.com Contact me directly:  www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ Warm regards, Sebastiaan van der Schrier _________________________________________________________________ Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! • SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@Social-anxiety-solutions • FB https://www.facebook.com/socialanxietysolutions • IG https://www.instagram.com/socialanxietysolutions • Twitter https://twitter.com/socialanxietysb All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. Warm regards, Seb
Overcoming Fear of Rejection and expanding your comfort zone
May 28 2015
Overcoming Fear of Rejection and expanding your comfort zone
Our popular online coaching program guiding you all the way from social anxiety to social confidence is now OPEN! You can sign up from 24th Feb to 29th Feb midnight EST! Use this opportunity to secure one of the limited spots and be guided to social confidence in the most effective and gentle way, from the comfort of your own home! All info at bit.ly/socialconfidenceclub P.S. Don’t hesitate and go there now! We only open the Club once a year for 5 days! Use this chance!! --- Rick Wilkes is an Emotional Freedom Coach who has been guiding people for over 23 years using energy healing and EFT Tapping and has worked with thousands of individuals. He blends a unique combination of body-centered and energetic approaches to activate authentic self-expression, personal power, calm confidence, and a warm sense of self-love in his clients. We discuss the fear of rejection, how to overcome it and expand your comfort zone. Rather than push yourself harshly, we speak of how to gently expand it, and listen to your body’s YES and NO’s.  Rick shares “We coach around helping people build enough resilience so they can be out in the world with real people, but also have healthy boundaries that say “ow, you didn’t like what I said? Ow I wasn’t saying it for you”. QUOTE: Many people that have gone through this kind of process (tapping) become much more confident than your average person because you’re building up your resilience. Rick's show notes page My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here): www.social-anxiety-solutions.com Contact me directly:  www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ Warm regards, Sebastiaan van der Schrier _________________________________________________________________ Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! • SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@Social-anxiety-solutions • FB https://www.facebook.com/socialanxietysolutions • IG https://www.instagram.com/socialanxietysolutions • Twitter https://twitter.com/socialanxietysb All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. Warm regards, Seb
Do this and you can beat your SA don't do it and suffer forever
Jun 4 2015
Do this and you can beat your SA don't do it and suffer forever
Our popular online coaching program guiding you all the way from social anxiety to social confidence is now OPEN! You can sign up from 24th Feb to 29th Feb midnight EST! Use this opportunity to secure one of the limited spots and be guided to social confidence in the most effective and gentle way, from the comfort of your own home! All info at bit.ly/socialconfidenceclub P.S. Don’t hesitate and go there now! We only open the Club once a year for 5 days! Use this chance!! --- The most important thing to understand to beat your social anxiety is what we discuss today: "overcoming subconscious resistance". When you don't overcome this resistance, you cannot become anxiety-free. Ever. Lindsay Kenny, one of the only 29 EFT Founding Masters, a Life Coach, and EFT AAMET Trainer of Trainers is the expert on subconscious resistance and shares her wisdom on the podcast.  She says “If you haven’t been able to overcome your problem you have a subconscious resistance to change.” Consciously you want to change, but your subconscious (which is much bigger than your conscious mind) says: “We’re not changing because if I go out into a social situation, I’m gonna get hurt, remember what happened last time?!” She also guides you through an exercise to overcome this subconscious resistance easily and quickly. This is a MUST-listen. QUOTE: Conventional psychology says “let’s desensitise you from that fear by forcing you to face it, little steps at a time where you grid your teeth and bite your finger nails, have your heart pounding and your knuckles white, and you’re just miserable doing it… And all the time your subconscious is yelling NO don’t make me do this!! Sometimes this (forcefully facing your fears) does work, but it’s so hard to do this. The simple thing is to just neutralise the subconscious resistance to changing. Lindsay's show notes page My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here): www.social-anxiety-solutions.com Contact me directly:  www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ Warm regards, Sebastiaan van der Schrier _________________________________________________________________ Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! • SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@Social-anxiety-solutions • FB https://www.facebook.com/socialanxietysolutions • IG https://www.instagram.com/socialanxietysolutions • Twitter https://twitter.com/socialanxietysb All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. Warm regards, Seb
How to deal with severe social anxiety
Jun 11 2015
How to deal with severe social anxiety
Our popular online coaching program guiding you all the way from social anxiety to social confidence is now OPEN! You can sign up from 24th Feb to 29th Feb midnight EST! Use this opportunity to secure one of the limited spots and be guided to social confidence in the most effective and gentle way, from the comfort of your own home! All info at bit.ly/socialconfidenceclub P.S. Don’t hesitate and go there now! We only open the Club once a year for 5 days! Use this chance!! --- "There is hope for everyone" says Sophia Cayer, one of the only 29 EFT founding Masters who has been devoted to a full-time EFT practice and has been teaching EFT since 2000.  Sophia has had more than 12 000 client sessions and is known for finding core issues and working with tough challenges.  We go into depth on the things that prevent people from letting go their social anxiety. We go into why some people stay stuck, and what can be done to get unstuck.  She says: It takes courage to do the work but you will find it worthwhile. And what is great about EFT is the fact that you don’t necessarily have to tell your story and get into detail. There are so many subtle ways to get to the situation, so if there’s a concern to talk about things or reveal things that are uncomfortable, know there are gentle and subtle ways to get to these things and clear them. The process does not have to be horrifying or incredibly painful. Not saying their can’t be or won’t be moments where there will be intense emotion, but for the most part there things can be worked through in a gentle way and you really likely will be amazingly surprised with the process. And with EFT you can work on yourself in between sessions to help you find more calm resolve in daily situations.  We discuss the process of working with a practitioner, and dispel some of the myths and share what to expect.  QUOTE: I absolutely believe there is hope for everyone. I’ve seen people turn things around they thought were impossible. Whatever is causing the social anxiety, those things can be worked through. There are gentle and subtle ways to get to these things and clear them. The process does not have to be horrifying or incredibly painful. And you can find yourself amazingly surprised with the shifts that can happen.  Sophia's show notes page My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here): www.social-anxiety-solutions.com Contact me directly:  www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ Warm regards, Sebastiaan van der Schrier _________________________________________________________________ Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! • SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@Social-anxiety-solutions • FB https://www.facebook.com/socialanxietysolutions • IG https://www.instagram.com/socialanxietysolutions • Twitter https://twitter.com/socialanxietysb All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. Warm regards, Seb
The Social Anxiety to Social Confidence journey
Jun 18 2015
The Social Anxiety to Social Confidence journey
Our popular online coaching program guiding you all the way from social anxiety to social confidence is now OPEN! You can sign up from 24th Feb to 29th Feb midnight EST! Use this opportunity to secure one of the limited spots and be guided to social confidence in the most effective and gentle way, from the comfort of your own home! All info at bit.ly/socialconfidenceclub P.S. Don’t hesitate and go there now! We only open the Club once a year for 5 days! Use this chance!! --- It’s really important for us to have a clear understanding of what the transformational path looks like as we’re moving through it. It makes a big difference for people because it also gives them the ability to when we recognise these small steps we’ve made forward, it gives us the sense of achievement and momentum and so we keep after it." The words of expert "Gene Monterastelli"; a Brooklyn based EFT tapping practitioner who works with people to help them overcome limiting beliefs, anxiety, and relationship challenges.  Gene suffered from specific social anxiety: "I was totally fine performing on stage for 7000 people. But when I was engaging with a person 1 on 1 I didn’t have control because the other person had more agency, they could make choices. And that unpredictability of how they would respond was crippling. For me it was the starting of conversations."  We go into depth on the journey from social anxiety to social confidence and Gene shares what he did to overcome his social anxiety using the tapping, and he also paints a picture of what to expect, and what mindset to take to keep going.  QUOTE: The times that I feel anxious, the times that I feel overwhelmed, the times that I feel insecure it’s because I on some level have decided “my worth is determined by how someone else judges and evaluates me”. When I am in a position where I recognise my own worth, and I am making that judgment myself and seeing myself as worthy because that’s intrinsic about me, then navigating my day is really easy. I’m no longer trying to appease or try to live up to someone else’s definition of success and I’m just simply trying to be me in this moment. And when I do that I have so much more control. And regardless of what comes I’m able to respond with so much more grace.    Gene's show notes page My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here): www.social-anxiety-solutions.com Contact me directly:  www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ Warm regards, Sebastiaan van der Schrier _________________________________________________________________ Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! • SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@Social-anxiety-solutions • FB https://www.facebook.com/socialanxietysolutions • IG https://www.instagram.com/socialanxietysolutions • Twitter https://twitter.com/socialanxietys All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. Warm regards, Seb
Free yourself from your past and create social confidence
Jun 25 2015
Free yourself from your past and create social confidence
Our popular online coaching program guiding you all the way from social anxiety to social confidence is now OPEN! You can sign up from 24th Feb to 29th Feb midnight EST! Use this opportunity to secure one of the limited spots and be guided to social confidence in the most effective and gentle way, from the comfort of your own home! All info at bit.ly/socialconfidenceclub P.S. Don’t hesitate and go there now! We only open the Club once a year for 5 days! Use this chance!! --- "You’re not born with social anxiety, it is learned" The words of Gwyneth Moss, an EFT Master (one of the only 29 worldwide) who holds certificates in Neuro Linguistic Programming, Hypnotherapy and the Human Givens approach to Psychotherapy.  She's studied the works of Dr Robert Scaer, a leader in the field of trauma research. She shares: If the way you’re behaving, thinking or feeling doesn’t fit what is happening in the here and now, when you’re not feeling calm for no reason, when you can’t think straight in a situation, or when you can’t act sensibly and resourcefully...  ...you’re being affected by your past! She shares in simple terms how our past affects our day to day experiences and how we can use EFT to release the hold the past has on us, so that we can free ourselves and live lives of calm confidence. She shared how you go from re-living your past to re-telling it; no longer being emotionally connected to your past, being able to live in the now.  QUOTE: With social anxiety your animal brain is going “it’s not safe, it’s not safe!” and your thinking brain is trying to go “yes it is, it’s ok” , but there is no trust and the two are going in opposite directions. And your animal brain always wins because it’s mission is your protection and your pleasure. It wants to protect you and keep you safe. It doesn’t trust the thinking mind cause the thinking mind is slow. If you were in real danger you need your animal instincts to keep you safe. In real danger you don’t have time to think. When there is any sense of danger the animal brain does not trust the thinking brain.  EFT is therapy for your inner animal brain. Overcoming social anxiety is not about your thinking brain, it’s not what you think. It’s about your physical animal you, and helping that to feel safe.  Gwyneth's show notes page My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here): www.social-anxiety-solutions.com Contact me directly:  www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ _________________________________________________________________ Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! • SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@Social-anxiety-solutions • FB https://www.facebook.com/socialanxietysolutions • IG https://www.instagram.com/socialanxietysolutions • Twitter https://twitter.com/socialanxietysb All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. Warm regards, Seb
How to reconnect with your true Self
Jul 2 2015
How to reconnect with your true Self
Our popular online coaching program guiding you all the way from social anxiety to social confidence is now OPEN! You can sign up from 24th Feb to 29th Feb midnight EST! Use this opportunity to secure one of the limited spots and be guided to social confidence in the most effective and gentle way, from the comfort of your own home! All info at bit.ly/socialconfidenceclub P.S. Don’t hesitate and go there now! We only open the Club once a year for 5 days! Use this chance!! --- “Well-intentioned parents who try to make us the way society would accept are really teaching us to go outside of ourselves for our sense of approval in a sense that “if someone else approves of me then I can approve of myself” which is totally backwards from how we are meant to be. As a human being each of us is born with self worth. I want people to understand they come into the world as worthy and sovereign beings standing on their own inner land.”  The words of Rue Hass, one of the 29 EFT founding Masters, Intuitive Mentor, and Spiritual Life Path Coach. She continues: “Life can be a deep, rich, beautiful tapestry of experience if you’re willing to approach it in that way and deepen into it rather than focus on what’s wrong.” In this conversation we explore the highly sensitive person (Rue believes that many people labeled as “socially anxious” have a deeply spiritual quality that she calls “sensitive intelligence”) and speak about how to reframe the way we see ourselves so that we can reconnect with our true Self. QUOTE: Anytime something is a “should” for you it’s something to pay close attention to because “shoulds” usually come from what we expect what other people expect of us and it takes us away from ourselves. Rue's show notes page My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here): www.social-anxiety-solutions.com Contact me directly:  www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ Warm regards, Sebastiaan van der Schrier _________________________________________________________________ Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! • SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@Social-anxiety-solutions • FB https://www.facebook.com/socialanxietysolutions • IG https://www.instagram.com/socialanxietysolutions • Twitter https://twitter.com/socialanxietysb All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. Warm regards, Seb
How to become emotionally strong and have healthy boundaries
Jul 9 2015
How to become emotionally strong and have healthy boundaries
Our popular online coaching program guiding you all the way from social anxiety to social confidence is now OPEN! You can sign up from 24th Feb to 29th Feb midnight EST! Use this opportunity to secure one of the limited spots and be guided to social confidence in the most effective and gentle way, from the comfort of your own home! All info at bit.ly/socialconfidenceclub P.S. Don’t hesitate and go there now! We only open the Club once a year for 5 days! Use this chance!! --- "It is life-changing, the results are very very compelling" The words of Dr. David Lake, a medical practitioner, supervisor of therapists, and psychotherapist who has been in private practice since 1977. He shares his views on energy psychology, tapping, creating boundaries, and when face to face therapy is necessary and the benefits of it. He shares: I used to think that myself (that I would have to live with my fears for the rest of my life) as it was my evidence from the real world and it was also true in the psychological and medical profession in the usual sense. And it's been true for many many years. But, approximately 20 years ago things started to change; a whole new paradigm emerged. In this paradigm, the so-called energy psychology, it turns out that even though when you don’t know exactly how it works, you can actually help three kinds of serious human emotion to minimise and even disappear. One is most kinds of anxiety. Two is most kinds of fear. Three is most kinds of deep hurt, related especially to trauma. I don't mean right away, or in one go, or in 10 minutes, but over time the most astounding things can happen to those feelings that have been typically out of reach for other treatments. Other treatments, which I call outdated, typically are cognitive treatments working in the mind and most people think that's where the problem lies, but I no longer believe that. I think the problem is not in your mind, I think the problem is in your feelings which is somewhere coded or logged or anchored in your body. It is a brand-new day when you can actually reduce anxiety fear and hurt. Your body is processing these feelings away from where they are stored. And once they are gone they are gone When I found out I could release the fear I could actually not believe it. This is the reason I actually entered the profession (psychotherapy), to be able to get these kind of results, and for many years I never could, I was amazed. And now that you can get these kind of results I'm equally amazed the most of the profession doesn't want to know about it! Needless to say, this is an absolute killer interview that is must listen, and also a must-share. Get ready to have your perspective shifted forever! David's show notes page My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here): www.social-anxiety-solutions.com Contact me directly:  www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ Warm regards, Sebastiaan van der Schrier _________________________________________________________________ Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! • SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@Social-anxiety-solutions • FB https://www.facebook.com/socialanxietysolutions • IG https://www.instagram.com/socialanxietysolutions • Twitter https://twitter.com/socialanxietysb All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. Warm regards, Seb
How to be more social and make friends easily
Jul 16 2015
How to be more social and make friends easily
Our popular online coaching program guiding you all the way from social anxiety to social confidence is now OPEN! You can sign up from 24th Feb to 29th Feb midnight EST! Use this opportunity to secure one of the limited spots and be guided to social confidence in the most effective and gentle way, from the comfort of your own home! All info at bit.ly/socialconfidenceclub P.S. Don’t hesitate and go there now! We only open the Club once a year for 5 days! Use this chance!! --- Teun is "effortlessly socially confident". And it's likely not what you think it is. Teun is a friend I met while living in Chiang Mai. He's someone who embodies "effortless social confidence" and I've personally learned a lot from him, just by spending time with him.  In this interview I'm asking him questions to get into his mindset, to uncover his beliefs, to see why he's so comfortable with himself, and what he does (strategies, what to say, what to do, etc) to make friends easily and have a great time socially. Teun is someone who's traveled to a wide variety of countries, traveled from the Netherlands to India in a red disabled car (that only goes 45km per hour!), lived in various countries, and has an amazing social life with friends all over the world. In this interview Teun shares: How he meets new peopleThe one simple questions he asks when meeting someone new that’s low key, no-pressure and easyThe easiest way to makes friends naturallyHow he deals with disapprovalHow he starts creating a new social life from scratchWhat website to use to make friends easily QUOTE: People don’t judge you on on situation or one comment you make. If people do this, they’re not the kind of people you want in your life.  Show notes page 12 shortcusts to social confidence and worldclass content on how to free yourself of social anxiety forever: http://www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/ Contact me directly: http://www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ _________________________________________________________________ Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! • SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@Social-anxiety-solutions • FB https://www.facebook.com/socialanxietysolutions • IG https://www.instagram.com/socialanxietysolutions • Twitter https://twitter.com/socialanxietysb All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. Warm regards, Seb
How to quickly heal painful life experiences
Jul 23 2015
How to quickly heal painful life experiences
Our popular online coaching program guiding you all the way from social anxiety to social confidence is now OPEN! You can sign up from 24th Feb to 29th Feb midnight EST! Use this opportunity to secure one of the limited spots and be guided to social confidence in the most effective and gentle way, from the comfort of your own home! All info at bit.ly/socialconfidenceclub P.S. Don’t hesitate and go there now! We only open the Club once a year for 5 days! Use this chance!! --- "His panic attacks stopped. He didn’t have any anymore ever" The words of Rehana Webster, EFT Founding Master, counsellor, an NLP Master, and AAMET Trainer of Trainers. Her area of expertise is working with trauma, PTSD, depression, panic attacks, anger, grief and other negative emotions which cause people to remain stuck and unable to develop their highest potential in life.  She’s the developer of the Trauma Buster Technique, a fast, efficient and simple tool that helps trauma victims recover and lead a more functional and satisfying life again.  We talk about her technique, the results you can get with it, and she shares some amazing stories of transformation. She says: The only pain you experience (during the use of this technique) -which you experience daily anyway- is to think about what the trauma is. This is just to get a base-line. After this you immediately start the tapping to bring down the anxiety levels.  We use what’s going on in the body and the mind to elicit the response from a trauma and then “tap” so that the levels of the stress hormone come down. It’s like pavlovian conditioning; it’s un-pairing the response with the traumatic experience.  QUOTE: "You can expect to no longer be held back by fear, or by the worry of being judged or criticised so you can actually move on." Rehana's show notes page (www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/rehana) My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here): www.social-anxiety-solutions.com Contact me directly:  www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ Warm regards, Sebastiaan van der Schrier _________________________________________________________________ Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! • SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@Social-anxiety-solutions • FB https://www.facebook.com/socialanxietysolutions • IG https://www.instagram.com/socialanxietysolutions • Twitter https://twitter.com/socialanxietysb All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. Warm regards, Seb
How to build strong self-respect
Jul 30 2015
How to build strong self-respect
Our popular online coaching program guiding you all the way from social anxiety to social confidence is now OPEN! You can sign up from 24th Feb to 29th Feb midnight EST! Use this opportunity to secure one of the limited spots and be guided to social confidence in the most effective and gentle way, from the comfort of your own home! All info at bit.ly/socialconfidenceclub P.S. Don’t hesitate and go there now! We only open the Club once a year for 5 days! Use this chance!! --- "I was less worried about what others thought of me and more oriented around what I thought was important." The words of Andy Bryce (EFT Master) after he started improving his self-respect after decades of low self esteem and little respect for himself. Andy shares what self-respect is, how to regain respect for yourself, how to build strong self-respect from the inside out, and how to build on top of that and create a forward momentum that makes your self-respect rock-solid. We also discuss the value of working through emotions, what to expect when undertaking the journey back to a healthy self-respect, and much more.  QUOTE: No one can love you more than you love yourself. And no one can respect you more than you respect yourself.  Andy's show notes page (social-anxiety-solutions.com/andy) Contact me for coaching:  www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here): www.social-anxiety-solutions.com Warm regards, Sebastiaan van der Schrier _________________________________________________________________ Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! • SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@Social-anxiety-solutions • FB https://www.facebook.com/socialanxietysolutions • IG https://www.instagram.com/socialanxietysolutions • Twitter https://twitter.com/socialanxietysb All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. Warm regards, Seb
Amazing: Why stopping porn could reduce your social anxiety
Aug 6 2015
Amazing: Why stopping porn could reduce your social anxiety
Our popular online coaching program guiding you all the way from social anxiety to social confidence is now OPEN! You can sign up from 24th Feb to 29th Feb midnight EST! Use this opportunity to secure one of the limited spots and be guided to social confidence in the most effective and gentle way, from the comfort of your own home! All info at bit.ly/socialconfidenceclub P.S. Don’t hesitate and go there now! We only open the Club once a year for 5 days! Use this chance!! --- Your social anxiety can be the result of a porn addiction… In this fascinating interview Gary Wilson, author and researcher on Pornography and it’s addiction, shares the science behind how internet porn addiction could be the CAUSE of your social anxiety.  He shares how hundreds of guys who stopped porn reported their social anxiety released. And how non-anxious people’s desire to socialise increased, their confidence increased, they became more social. And, how some with diagnosed social anxiety and medication saw improvement or full remission of their condition by stopping porn. This goes into the science behind it in an easily understood way. And he also shares: What to do to increase your will power and decrease your social anxiety within 8 weeks. Why socialising or small talk can become boring (and how this can be reversed Why you could be having trouble being disciplined What sexual dysfunctions out there (erectile disfunction, unable to ejaculate, bizarre fetishes, etc) are the result of porn and how these can be reversed QUOTE: Many studies have pointed to the dopamine system being important in socialising. Studies on social anxiety have found that maybe less dopamine is being produced or people with social anxiety have less dopamine receptors. There are also experiments on animals and even humans where they’ll purposely decrease dopamine and you’ll see a rise in anxiety and a rise in avoiding other animals or social contact. So it’s clear that the dopamine system is very important cause the dopamine system is the system that is motivating you to go out and seek rewards. The primary rewards for all social animals are of course food and water, but also sex and of course socialising. Maybe addiction-related brain changes are reversed when people give up porn and then they seek out normal rewards such as socialising.    Gary's show notes page (www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/gary) My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here): www.social-anxiety-solutions.com Contact me directly:  www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ Warm regards, Sebastiaan van der Schrier _________________________________________________________________ Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! • SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@Social-anxiety-solutions • FB https://www.facebook.com/socialanxietysolutions • IG https://www.instagram.com/socialanxietysolutions • Twitter https://twitter.com/socialanxietysb All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. Warm regards, Seb
How to stop worrying and take control of your mind
Aug 12 2015
How to stop worrying and take control of your mind
Our popular online coaching program guiding you all the way from social anxiety to social confidence is now OPEN! You can sign up from 24th Feb to 29th Feb midnight EST! Use this opportunity to secure one of the limited spots and be guided to social confidence in the most effective and gentle way, from the comfort of your own home! All info at bit.ly/socialconfidenceclub P.S. Don’t hesitate and go there now! We only open the Club once a year for 5 days! Use this chance!! --- Whatever your situation is, there’s someone that’s gotten over that. For certain. The words of Phil Parker, Master Trainer of NLP, Expert in the psychology of health, happiness & genius, Hay House Author, PhD Researcher and Designer of the Lightning Process.  He shares two simple and effective techniques you can use immediately to let go of worrying and release stress. He says: Anxiety relies on triggering sympathetic nervous system consistently, which is the part of your nervous system that is all about fighting beasts. It triggers adrenaline, it triggers cortisol, noradrenaline and dopamine as well… but is is very linked to the speed at which we talk. Your breathing is linked to your internal voice speed. Slow your internal voice speed down and your breathing will slow down. Slow down your breathing and your nervous system will start to settle and get back to balance. QUOTE: If you start to use the pathway towards calm more and more then what will happen is the connection to the stress pathway will start to fade. The gap will increase between that pathway and the stress pathway. And, the gap between that pathway and the happiness and calm pathway will get smaller. And so more and more nerve pathways will start to develop into happiness calm and relaxation.  Phil's show notes page (www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/phil) My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here): www.social-anxiety-solutions.com Contact me directly:  www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ Warm regards, Sebastiaan van der Schrier ________________________________________________________________ Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! • SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@Social-anxiety-solutions • FB https://www.facebook.com/socialanxietysolutions • IG https://www.instagram.com/socialanxietysolutions • Twitter https://twitter.com/socialanxietysb All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. Warm regards, Seb
How to become comfortable with sex and sexuality
Aug 20 2015
How to become comfortable with sex and sexuality
Our popular online coaching program guiding you all the way from social anxiety to social confidence is now OPEN! You can sign up from 24th Feb to 29th Feb midnight EST! Use this opportunity to secure one of the limited spots and be guided to social confidence in the most effective and gentle way, from the comfort of your own home! All info at bit.ly/socialconfidenceclub P.S. Don’t hesitate and go there now! We only open the Club once a year for 5 days! Use this chance!! --- "Generally, people feel at peace after a first session because they realise it’s possible to get out of this." The words of Yves Wauthier, psychotherapist, trainer, author, supervisor of therapists, and a sexologist specialising in brief therapy, complex trauma and attachment disorders. Yves shares practical tips for men and women to overcome sexual dysfunction and how to become comfortable with sex and your sexuality. He talks about other energy therapy techniques aside from EFT that are simple and very powerful. He says "I realised a client can achieve real deep change more easily than with other classical therapy." He says: With energy psychology you don’t have to go so deep into the sensations, the emotion. You need to be connected, but it’s not so hard. Energy psychology for me was the best solution. It changed my life. He further shares a breathing exercise to quickly decrease anxiety as well as a simple trick to quiet your thoughts. Yves' show notes page (www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/yves) My homepage: www.social-anxiety-solutions.com Contact me directly:  www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ Warm regards, Sebastiaan van der Schrier _________________________________________________________________ Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! • SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@Social-anxiety-solutions • FB https://www.facebook.com/socialanxietysolutions • IG https://www.instagram.com/socialanxietysolutions • Twitter https://twitter.com/socialanxietysb All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. Warm regards, Seb
Is massive change too good to be true?
Aug 27 2015
Is massive change too good to be true?
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