Dr. Calvin Tibbs - Spiritual Strength Coach

J. Calvin Tibbs

I help people Maximize their Purpose and Minimize Wasting Time. This is for people who go from excitement to depression, from mountains to valleys, from a great start to a poor finish. If this marks the landscape of your life, you'll love it here. Peer reviewed research proves that everyone has Meaning Making Skills. Without the proper us of these skills however, we slide from project to project, from job to job and from relationship to relationship. These Time-Wasting Tendencies are all due to an out of focus Purpose. Join the growing number of Meaning Makers who avoid the trap of a Minimized Purpose and learn to Maximize the Precious Time you have. read less
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Come As You Are
Sep 19 2022
Come As You Are
When people mix up religion with relationship, there is no wonder God gets lost in the swamp of bad opinions. God is love. He loves you. He loves everyone, and he gets no pleasure from the demise of his crowning achievement - the creation of mankind. So why do bad things happen to good people then, if God is love? There are 3 parts to this subject which is both simple and complicated. #1 God intervenes to the degree that people allow him., because he gave authority to mankind. With that authority man has done both good and evil. We are all witnessing of what happens when people with power disregard God. His plans become second while their plans are 1st. As secular ideas about morality, rights, and humanity become more mainstream, it does so at the expense of the relationship God provides us.  The mehem is not because of God but because man excludes God. #2. God intervenes as the sovereign ruler of the Universe. This means he can do what he wants. Yet there are laws he established that work perpetually. For example, gravity, lift, sowing and reaping all perpetually work in their existence. These are signs of God's fingerprint. And while perfection can be found within these laws, the intervention of mankind minimally affects these areas because they function without man's authority.  This is true of everything mentioned above except for the laws of sowing and reaping. For example, when a man sows discord, harmony is harmed.  Yet, when goodness is sown, gladness is reaped. The law of sowing and reaping is a sovereign expression of God's design, yet, man can misuse God's perfection by sowing error.  This happens because man lacks the understanding of purpose. Within his sovereignty, God can intervene as he wills. This is where people blame God because they fail to observe #1 - God intervenes to the degree that people allow him., because he gave authority to mankind. #3.  God intervenes with grace to assist the innocent. Without grace sin as a menace to society would be totally out of control. Yes, bad things exist as a part of the fall of mankind, but  on scale, grace prevails far more than evil. Think about the number of times you have driven from one place to another without an accident? Do the safe returns outnumber the breakdowns and crashes? Consider how many meals you have eaten without going hungry?  Have you thought about how much safety has prevailed over treachery? Against the backdrop of your lifetime, you have in all likelihood, been more on the side of God's grace, than disrupted by man's menacing ways.So, when you come to God, do so in your current state. He can handle your messiest mess! Do not even try to clean up first. In fact, God cannot accept your version of cleanliness.  Why? Because you will miss the stuff in the corners of your life.  God cleans thoroughly including thoughts, intentions and actions. Everything must be cleaned so that he can wrap you in his perfection without you feeling guilty of a past he has forgiven.
A Few Things your Father Forgot to Tell You about Men Pt. 2
Jun 16 2022
A Few Things your Father Forgot to Tell You about Men Pt. 2
This episode talks about what Love means to a man. It's called Respect.These items are also discussed.a.     5 Love Languages                                                i.     Quality Time                                             ii.     Acts of Service                                            iii.     Touch                                            iv.     Gifts                                              v.     Words of Affirmationb.     Ego is to Men what being Feminine is to a Women                                               i.     Ego is defined as Self worth                                             ii.     Ego is defined as Identity                                            iii.     Ego is defined Personality                                            iv.     Ego is defined Characterc.     Love                                                i.     A woman loves from her heart first                                             ii.     A man loves from his eyes firstFREE RESOURCESwww.Calvintibbs.com  - How to Coach Your Way Out of Troubled Relationships...https://calendly.com/jctibbs2 - Strategy Session https://www.facebook.com/groups/therelationshipdoctor  - FB group for couples and singlesGREAT PAID RECOURCEShttps://www.therelationshipdoctor.live/products/why-are-you-here   - Know your purpose...https://www.calvintibbs.com/offers/FdbtcNNo/checkout  - Get your boyfriend to take this...COMING SOONWhat Kind of Queen Are You? A Resource to help Queens attract the right kind of King
5 + Reasons You Are Not Married Yet! Pt. 5
Jun 13 2022
5 + Reasons You Are Not Married Yet! Pt. 5
Reason # 5 explores the notion that You’re too proudThe topics that support this way of thinking  starts with  Inflated expectations.  This does not mean you should lower your standards. This means you should clarify your definition of who you are first. The following questions are discussed.                                              i.     Can you become first what you want next?                                             ii.     Can you defend your pride with humility?                                           iii.     Can you let it go to please God? The next 10-minutes discuss how value is placed.  Sometimes things that are important to you, may not be the Most important thing. Consider this, if you see the glass 1/2 full & he sees the glass 1/2 empty, aren't you both right? Since both perspectives actually see the same thing, why is it important to make a stand?When people process in this "All or Nothing" manner, it could be because of being Proud of a Superficial List of things. Superficial things easily fly under the radar & are difficult to detect. When opposed, they surface. The list below is the start of a list of possible superficial things...                                              i.     Dress nice                                             ii.     Look nice                                           iii.     EducatedThe last 10 minutes focus on something successful people have in common.  They Won’t receive help . This type of person is accustomed to doing their own thing & is used to being in charge.  The questions below are all part of the discussion, and revels ways to break down pride so that you can get free from one of the biggest Reasons You're Not Married Yet!                                              i.     Trouble listening?                                             ii.     Trouble receiving counsel?                                           iii.     Trouble saying, I was wrong?                                           iv.     Trouble saying, I’m sorry?Check out the following free and paid resourcesFREE RESOURCESwww.Calvintibbs.com  - How to Coach Your Way Out of Troubled Relationships...https://www.facebook.com/groups/therelationshipdoctor - FB group for couples and singlesGREAT PAID RECOURCEShttps://www.therelationshipdoctor.live/products/why-are-you-here   - Know your purpose...https://www.calvintibbs.com/offers/FdbtcNNo/checkout  - Get your boyfriend to take this...
5 + Reasons You Are Not Married Pt. 2
Jun 7 2022
5 + Reasons You Are Not Married Pt. 2
This episode focuses on the 2nd reason You Are Not Married Yet -  You Hold on to the PastClearly there could be hundreds of reasons a person is not married yet, but this episode is designed to get you unstuck from the ones that are linked to your past.Section 1 of this recording focuses on The Problem associated with Misusing Your Memory.Of all the things a person could think about, why would someone zero in on the past?  Instead of lingering in the past, this session encourages listeners to remember the good, today, because If good is ever forgotten, evil will position itself as the constant reminder. Repeat that out loud a few times so that the power of the statement sinks in.This session also highlights the power of  A good memory, which will when exercised, keeps people humble. A good memory tends to keep people balanced. Section 2 focuses on Reconstructing Relationships. This involves the best ways to view the past. The session provides two illustrations to help make the process easy.  It's incredible to see how the past can be released with an imaginary car ride or washed away using a imaginary water hose as an example. In the 3rd and final section of this recording the letter "R" is introduced .  Letting go of the past is helped by the following:   i.     Recognition   ii.    Repentance   iii.   Renunciation This powerful combination of R's releases the must stubborn of past stains and works to relieve people of yet another reason, they are not married yet.
5 + Reasons You Are Not Married Yet Pt. 1
Jun 6 2022
5 + Reasons You Are Not Married Yet Pt. 1
Have you considered that one of the reasons you are not married yet is because It’s not time. A wise man once wrote, there is a time and a season for everything under the sun... and  that includes a time for you to get married. And if it's not time yet, there are some things you could be working on.Maturity is an important part of marriage preparation.  Dr. Edwin Louise Cole wrote that maturity does not come with age but with the acceptance of responsibility.  Before saying I Do, maturity must exist in a strong way. So, this podcast focuses on maturity in 3 areas.1.  Maturity of the Soul2.  Financial Maturity3.  Emotional MaturityIn the Maturity of the Soul section, we discuss how the mind works, which includes a discussion about the process of thinking. It's not a deep dive, but it provides necessary tips you can start using today. In another section, we explore how the eyes connect with vision. Put plainly, we help you probe internally to see how you see the world and your role in it? The final part of this section checks your taste buds, not the ones in your mouth, the kind that determines if your 'will' will engage long enough to see if maturity tastes good enough to keep chewing on it.                    Section 2 addresses Financial Literacy as part of preparing for marriage. This type of   Maturity checks your awareness to see if "Getting it Now" overrides your better judgment. Then, we talk about your financial game plan. You don't need to be a guru in the financial arena, but you do want to have an idea of what is important which leads to the last point under Financial Maturity. Before concluding this maturity type, we ask the following question. What does your spending say about you?  The Emotional  Maturity (EQ) section is last of the Reasons You Are Not Married Yet, and for good reason. Your Emotional Quotient (EQ), not your Intelligence Quotient (IQ), runs everyones internal processes and is the invisible force behind much of what people do.   What sets you off, routinely? Do you ever move out of victimhood if or when you find yourself there?   Can you outperform your emotions? These questions connect Emotional Maturity to your behavior and contribute to why it may not be time for you to be married yet.