The Practice of Love Podcast

Ashley and Lair Torrent

Lair Torrent, LMFT and author of The Practice of Love, and Ashley Torrent, psycho-spiritual therapist and intuitive medium share intimate conversations about the ups and downs of their 22-year relationship, how the practice of love has kept it alive, sexy, and connective, and what it means to practice love in all types of relationships. You can find Lair at lairtorrent.com or Instagram @lairtorrentholistictherapist and Ashley can be found at ashleytorrent.com and Instagram @ashleytorrent29. If you like the podcast please rate it and leave a review. read less

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Should Our Relationships Be This Hard? Part 2

Should Our Relationships Be This Hard? Part 2

In this episode, we explore part 2 of the question, should our relationships be this hard? As it turns out, yes they should but not for the reasons most people are experiencing. We dive into the real reason relationships are hard and it’s not what you will find in a Google search. ——————— The Practice of Love Podcast is hosted by Lair and Ashley Torrent. Lair is a psychotherapist and author of The Practice of Love and Ashley Torrent is a psycho-spiritual counselor and intuitive medium. Together they discuss from a personal and clinical perspective what it means to practice love in our relationships with our partners, friends, family members, children, ourselves, and our work. They also share the ups and downs of their 21-year relationship and how the practice of love has kept it alive, sexy, and connective. You can find Ashley on Instagram at @ashleytorrent29 or on her website at ashleytorrent.com. You can find Lair on Instagram at @lairtorrentholisitictherapist or on his website lairtorrent.com.

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Should Our Relationships Be This Hard? Part 2

Should Our Relationships Be This Hard? Part 2

In this episode, we explore part 2 of the question, should our relationships be this hard? As it turns out, yes they should but not for the reasons most people are experiencing. We dive into the real reason relationships are hard and it’s not what you will find in a Google search. ——————— The Practice of Love Podcast is hosted by Lair and Ashley Torrent. Lair is a psychotherapist and author of The Practice of Love and Ashley Torrent is a psycho-spiritual counselor and intuitive medium. Together they discuss from a personal and clinical perspective what it means to practice love in our relationships with our partners, friends, family members, children, ourselves, and our work. They also share the ups and downs of their 21-year relationship and how the practice of love has kept it alive, sexy, and connective. You can find Ashley on Instagram at @ashleytorrent29 or on her website at ashleytorrent.com. You can find Lair on Instagram at @lairtorrentholisitictherapist or on his website lairtorrent.com.

Should Our Relationships Be This Hard?

Should Our Relationships Be This Hard?

In this episode, we explore the question, should our relationships be this hard? As it turns out, yes they should but not for the reasons most people are experiencing. In part one of a two-part answer, we dive into the real reason relationships are hard and it's not what you will find in a Google search.

Mourning the Living

Mourning the Living

In this episode, we discuss the difficult decision that many, including ourselves, have made to walk away from a familial relationship. We share our experience, how we have dealt with the judgment around this unpopular choice, and what we have discovered on the other side of it. —— The Practice of Love Podcast is hosted by Lair and Ashley Torrent. Lair is a psychotherapist and author of The Practice of Love and Ashley Torrent is a psycho-spiritual counselor and intuitive medium. Together they discuss from a personal and clinical perspective what it means to practice love in our relationships with our partners, friends, family members, children, ourselves, and our work. They also share the ups and downs of their 21-year relationship and how the practice of love has kept it alive, sexy, and connective. You can find Ashley on Instagram at @ashleytorrent29 or on her website ashleytorrent.com. You can find Lair on Instagram at @lairtorrentholisitictherapist or on his website lairtorrent.com.

Finding Your Intrinsic Goodness

Finding Your Intrinsic Goodness

In this episode, we explore how changing our inner narrative transforms our relationship with our personal history and we ask the question, "After everything you have been through, how are you who you are?" ----------------------------- The Practice of Love Podcast is hosted by Lair and Ashley Torrent. Lair is a psychotherapist and author of The Practice of Love and Ashley Torrent is a psycho-spiritual therapist and intuitive medium. Together they discuss from a personal and clinical perspective what it means to practice love in our relationships with our partners, friends, family members, children, ourselves, and our work. They also share the ups and downs of their 21-year relationship and how the practice of love has kept it alive, sexy, and connective. ------------------------------ Buy Practice of Love Follow Lair on Instagram Follow Ashley on Instagram

Vulnerability: The Unlikely Path to the Authentic Self

Vulnerability: The Unlikely Path to the Authentic Self

In this episode, Lair and Ashley talk about processing emotion, dealing with and accessing different parts of self, and how vulnerability paves the way to a heart-centered connection with your most authentic self. ----------------------------- The Practice of Love Podcast is hosted by Lair and Ashley Torrent. Lair is a psychotherapist and author of The Practice of Love and Ashley Torrent is a psycho-spiritual therapist and intuitive medium. Together they discuss from a personal and clinical perspective what it means to practice love in our relationships with our partners, friends, family members, children, ourselves and our work. They also share the ups and downs of their 21-year relationship and how the practice of love has kept it alive, sexy, and connective. ------------------------------ Buy Practice of Love Follow Lair on Instagram Follow Ashley on Instagram

When Repressed Childhood Sexual Trauma Surfaces

When Repressed Childhood Sexual Trauma Surfaces

After years of wondering what happened to her, Ashley’s repressed childhood sexual trauma surfaced. In this episode, Ashley and Lair share how they are walking through this revelation. They also discuss how this type of trauma may reveal itself, how to navigate it within a relationship, and how the practice of love can hold space for it. Follow Ashley at https://www.instagram.com/ashleytorrent29/ Follow Lair at https://www.instagram.com/lairtorrentholistictherapist/

Parenting as a Practice of Love

Parenting as a Practice of Love

In this episode, Ashley and Lair discuss parenting a highly sensitive child. They have learned that at its core parenting is a practice of love that requires a vast amount of curiosity and the courage to go against the grain, question societal norms, and surmount some of our deepest wounds and fears.

Maintaining Intimacy In All It’s Forms

Maintaining Intimacy In All It’s Forms

In this episode, Lair and Ashley discuss how to maintain intimacy both physical and emotional over a long term relationship and how they keep things sexy over the long haul. They share how they navigated a very difficult time that lasted years and what helped them come out the other side even closer than before.

Ultimatums: Do They Really Work

Ultimatums: Do They Really Work

In this episode, Lair and Ashley discuss ultimatums and whether they are effective. Lair believes that sometimes they might be necessary and Ashley firmly disagrees and states that she does believe in fairies, however, she does not believe in giving ultimatums.

How to Handle Mistakes and Missteps in Our Relationships

How to Handle Mistakes and Missteps in Our Relationships

In this episode, Lair and Ashley share moments in their relationship when mistakes were made, what they learned, and how we can handle our partners when they drop the ball.

Conversations and Curiousity

Conversations and Curiousity

It's the things we don't talk about that hurt our relationships. In this episode, Ashley and Lair discuss how they met and how deep conversations and curiosity have been one of the keys to their long-lasting love affair even when those conversations have been difficult.