Adoptees Crossing Lines

Send us a textKeshia The child welfare system is waging war on Black families, and Keshia Adeniyi-Dorsey is on the front lines. In this episode, she shares her journey from foster child to family defender, exposing the racist roots of CPS and the urgent need for change.Keisha breaks down her tactics for protecting families during CPS investigations, from refusing home entry to shutting down fishing expeditions. Her success rates are fantastic: 95.8% of parental rights protected and 93.7% of families reunified."We already know, and we've already done in the past, like, right? Like, took care of ourselves, we took care of everybody else's kids too, right? We don't need the system to do it." What we discussed (00:23) Meet Keshia Adeniyi-Dorsey(01:37) Adoptions and Safe Families Act(06:08) Reality of CPS investigations(12:17) Protecting families during CPS investigations(17:11) Reuniting 93.7% of families (23:46) Challenges of advocating for families OR Dealing with incompetence(28:56) We don’t need police for that OR The color of the system OR  Black families don’t need CPS OR We don’t need help OR Not everyone needs help(35:33) Affording counsel (43:39) Truth to powerLinksConnect with Keshia: Website | LinkedInFollow us on social media: Twitter | Instagram | TiktokCreditsSpecial thanks to Samuel Oyedele for editing our podcast, support his work on Instagram or e-mail him at Drumaboyiglobal@gmail.com

Send us a textBenjaminWords matter. Especially when it comes to adoption. Benjamin Lundberg Torres Sanchez isn't just "adopted" - they were separated from their first family for 28 years.In this episode, we unpack how the language we use shapes our understanding of adoption. Benjamin shares their journey of rejecting industry terminology and embracing more accurate descriptions of their experience.We discuss how this shift in language opens up new possibilities for solidarity and political action."I think it's just really important to name what happened to us."What we discussed (00:22) Who is Benjamin Lundberg Torres Sanchez?(01:41) Conceived in violence(04:58) Adoption day(07:23) Good experiences but still angry OR Good vs. bad adoptions(10:10) Learning to think critically about adoption OR Language of adoption(14:35) Being hungry for community OR Availability of light skinned children(18:56) Not only focusing on adoptees OR Adoptees are not alone (26:46) Organized abandonment (28:30) We Are Holding This Magazine(37:46) Intersectionality vs. isolation(44:12) Finding alternative power brokers OR Finding power brokers (48:14) Get curious (51:32) Support BenjaminLinksWe Are Holding This MagazineBenjamin’s websiteFollow us on social media: Twitter | Instagram | Tiktok

Send us a textHenryWhat happens when a Black child is adopted into a white Mormon family? The Mormon church silenced Henry's identity as a Black transracial adoptee, but he's done being quiet. From "colorblind" racism to the weight of forced gratitude, he exposes the ugly truth behind his adoption.We explore the impact of media representation, the importance of acknowledging adoptee anger, and why abolishing the current system might be the only way forward.Henry shares his journey of finding community with other adoptees and reclaiming his voice."My life was really to fill this hole in my parents' life instead of my parents being there to raise children.What we discussed (00:22) Who is Henry? (01:48) Coming out of the fog(03:52) Adopted through the mormon church (06:34) Growing up with adopted sisters (08:26) Adoptees vs. adoptive parents on This is Us OR Adoptees vs. Adoptive parents on TV(13:23) Expectation of gratefulness OR “I want someone to love me”(20:26) Being allowed to feel & express(23:21) Alternatives to family policing OR Mind your own business(26:02) Relationship with adoptive parents while being abolitionist (32:27) Find your inner voice LinksBlack Adoptee Facebook Group Follow us on social media: Twitter | Instagram | TiktokCreditsSpecial thanks to Samuel Oyedele for editing our podcast, support his work on Instagram or e-mail him at Drumaboyiglobal@gmail.com

Send us a textFai KnudsonFai Knudson grew up in a white, conservative town, always feeling different. As a biracial, transracial adoptee, Faye faced racism and isolation. Leaving their hometown ignited a journey of self-discovery, leading to advocacy and therapy focused on adoptee mental health. In this episode, Fai shares their powerful story, the challenges of being a transracial adoptee, and how they now help others navigate similar paths.What we discussed (00:18) Who is Fai Knudson? (04:05) Feeling different(05:32) Not allowed to read adoption paperwork (06:30) Coming out of the fog(09:11) Studying adoption for master’s(13:53) Adoptee therapists (21:32) Adoptee care is neglected (28:12) Story behind “Good Faith Therapy”(33:20) Support for adoptees (35:01) Genetic graveyard (36:24) Finding an adoptee affirming therapist (39:34) Partial reunion(47:54) Finding your authentic self LinksConnect with Fai Knudson: LinkedInGood Faith Therapy Website | Good Faith Therapy Instagram  Peer Support Space Grow Beyond WordsJourney of The Adopted Self Psychology TodayFollow us on social media: Twitter | Instagram | TiktokCreditsSpecial thanks to Samuel Oyedele for editing our podcast, support his work on Instagram or e-mail him at Drumaboyiglobal@gmail.com

Send us a text1 Year of No ContactIt's been 365 days since I cut ties with my adopters to protect myself. A year of healing, self-discovery, and finding my voice. In this episode, I share my no contact journey, the reasons behind my decision, the process of healing, and the freedom I’ve found. Hear my story of setting boundaries, seeking safety, and reclaiming my identity.What we discussed (00:24) 1 year of no contact (01:50) “but they’re your parents” OR Expectation to be grateful (04:17) How I felt after no contact (06:21) Family policing gaslit me(11:20) Forgiveness as a weapon(14:36) Becoming free, finally(18:01) Getting tattoos (& my favorite one) (20:26) Being able to grieve my mom(30:56) Healing by finding biological family(34:38) Stealing me from my mom  (36:12) #1 reason for child removal (39:43) Why I do this workLinksFollow us on social media: Twitter | Instagram | TiktokCreditsSpecial thanks to Samuel Oyedele for editing our podcast, support his work on Instagram or e-mail him at Drumaboyiglobal@gmail.com

Send us a textAmanda Wallace Amanda Wallace helps families powerfully stop Child Protective Services from stealing their children. In this episode she talk about how you can do it too, how her organization reunited 20+ families, and why we should abolish the belief that the CPS system should even exist.Listen and let’s stop CPS.What we discussed (00:22) Who is Amanda Wallace?(01:25) Why she wants to stop CPS - Child Protective Services(05:16) Why are you in my house?!(06:32) Repealing the Child Abuse Prevention & Treatment Act + Adoption & Safe Familis Act  (08:12) How to respond to CPS (11:29) Reuniting 20 families (15:32) Reparations are not enough(18:08) Black Mother’s March (Collective power)(23:07) Drug testing a birth & Interrogating children (24:42) Creative collabs for collective action(26:50) How can you stop CPS?(33:07) Freedom can happen in our lifetime OR Freedom is not complicatedLinksRespond In Power Guide Black Mother’s MarchTwisted YogiConnect with Amanda Wallace: Stop CPS Website | Instagram | Tiktok Follow us on social media: Twitter | Instagram | TiktokCreditsSpecial thanks to Samuel Oyedele for editing our podcast, support his work on Instagram or e-mail him at Drumaboyiglobal@gmail.com

Send us a textAdoption is Not A Part Of God’s PlanPeople who adopt say it’s God’s plan for them to adopt. But, they almost never say that God’s plan is for them NOT to have children. This is just one of the many ways people use religion to justify human trafficking. I found out, through an archived article, that I was trafficked by the Church through the One Church, One Child movement which operates in 32 states. What we discussed (00:22) Is adoption God’s plan? (04:23) Forcing adoptees to go to church OR “Go to church or leave”(11:53) Making adoptees mini versions of them  (13:04) Telling my adoptive parents I’m stepping away from the church  (14:51) One Church, One Child business (20:36) The church trafficked me(28:39) Orphan sundays (30:07) Church preaches family separation (hypocritical?)(34:24) Forced assimilation (36:13) Adoption is not God’s planLinksFollow us on social media: Twitter | Instagram | TiktokCreditsSpecial thanks to Samuel Oyedele for editing our podcast, support his work on Instagram or e-mail him at Drumaboyiglobal@gmail.com

Send us a textMila's Truth: Navigating Adoption, Liberation, and CommunityThe Church does an excellent job of silencing you if you oppose them. They’d even hire a marketing company to rebrand adoption so that their business as adoption middlemen can continue to thrive. But, it’s not just the Church. The dominant culture is to silence anyone who speaks up against adoption. To make them feel shame. To gaslight them. That was Mila Konomos’ experience once she realized how adoption has wounded her. Mila tells her story of how she was forcibly removed from her family in 1975 to the realization in 2009 that everything she thought she knew about adoption was a lie. She discusses how reuniting with her biological parents changed everything, how similar she realized she was hto her bio parents, grappling with her identity, the power of speaking up,  and the cultural resistance against accepting the truth about adoption. Mila is the host of the podcast called Everything You Think You Know About Adoption Is A Lie.“If you don't change the narrative, then you can't change the policies.”What we discussed (00:22) Who is Mila Kanomos? (01:39) Being a (clueless) grateful adoptee (04:25) Realizing I’m actually wounded (06:00) “You had this information all of my life?!”(08:24) The Last Unicorn (12:55) Terrified of opposing adoption publicly (15:50) The Church is complicit (18:23) Propaganda around adoption (19:38) Surviving reunion (22:04) How do I become Korean?(25:39) Biological traits & connections(30:55) Everything you know about adoption is a lie(36:43) Church PAID to rebrand adoption (41:03) Centering adoptee narratives  (44:47) Adoption IS oppression (49:03) What can you do about this?(55:51) You already know who you areLinksEverything You Think You Know About Adoption Is A Lie PodcastChild Catchers by Catherine Joyce Connect with Mila: Instagram | Podcast Instagram Follow us on social media: Twitter | Instagram | TiktokCreditsSpecial thanks to Samuel Oyedele for editing our podcast, support his work on Instagram or e-mail him at Drumaboyiglobal@gmail.com

Send us a textMy Journey To AbolitionEvery adult in my childhood has failed me, none of them did what they’re supposed to. Every part of the system failed me…it did exactly what it’s supposed to. The system kills children and breaks families, it must be abolished. In this episode, I share how I gradually evolved towards this deep belief starting from a school trip to juvie when I was just 10. I talk about my encounters with the family policing system growing up and how it failed me. My story is not an is not an anomaly or an isolated incident. This is the experience of many children who are victims of the family policing system that they carry with them through adulthood. Abolition is a journey toward collective liberation, this is my journey so far… [CW: Sexual and Physical Abuse]What we discussed (00:22) Taking a trip to juvie at 10 years old(03:42) The system is NOT broken (04:42) [CW] Punished for speaking up about abuse   (07:30) Losing faith in adoption, police, and the system OR My first encounter with family policing system(10:32) Going to school with bruises on my arm OR “You had a really good school year because DCF did not show up at my door” OR DCF shows up, I’m a disappointment OR DCF gets me in trouble(16:41) My adopters’ public facade OR Where my skepticism started OR Losing respect for authority(19:10) Suffering through therapy (21:40) Who are they protecting? OR Abolition is the only option(25:54) The system doesn’t care about children [CW: school shootings] OR They let alligators eat black babies (true story)(31:45) My journey with queerness OR Queers in evangelical homes LinksLearn more about abolition: Alan Dettlaff Episode | Torn Apart by Dorothy Roberts Confronting the Racist Legacy of the American Child Welfare System By Alan Dettlaff13th Documentary | The New Jim Crow by Michelle Alexander Follow us on social media: Twitter | Instagram | TiktokCreditsSpecial thanks to Samuel Oyedele for editing our podcast, support his work on Instagram or e-mail him at Drumaboyiglobal@gmail.com

Send us a textJosh LamersAdoption is trauma. How do we help surviving children heal the wounds they’ve sustained from the child welfare system? Josh Lamers, a transracial adoptee, is public enemy #1 for child welfare agencies in Canada. He joins the show to discuss what adoption and child welfare are like in Canada; and how his organization, Collective of Child Welfare Survivors, advocates for child welfare survivors though addressing harm reduction, counseling, unpacking racial displacement, and community development…amongst many other things. “The child who's now back in your home is not the same child who was taken out of your home.” What we discussed (00:21) Who is Josh Lamers?(01:57) His transracial adoption experience OR “My adoption was illegal”(08:51) How child welfare works in Canada OR Adoption system in Canada (13:47) Insights from studying adoption OR What’s wrong with research about adoption(23:51) Psychiatric system and adoption (26:26) Disability and adoption (and why Josh’s adoption was illegal)(32:22) Myth of “unmanageable kids”(34:05) How they advocate for child welfare survivors (45:50) How to support child advocacy workLinksOutsiders Within Collective of Child Welfare Survivors: Donate Follow us on social media: Twitter | Instagram | TiktokCreditsSpecial thanks to Samuel Oyedele for editing our podcast, support his work on Instagram or e-mail him at Drumaboyiglobal@gmail.com

Send us a textAdoptees & Community Before I found other adoptees online I was lost. I wanted to know where I came from, and I wanted to know others like me. Most adoption communities center adoptive parents and foster parents. We are left out of the picture. This doesn’t make sense. This episode is a collection of my thoughts on this matter. “One of the most vital ways we sustain ourselves is by building communities of resistance; places where we know we are not alone.” - Bell HooksWhat we discussed (00:23) Healing power of community (04:41) Feeling disillusioned by my adoption (05:59) My adopters in public vs. at home (what people don’t know about adoptive parents)(07:55) Grassroots communities vs. government agencies (08:57) If only my mom had community support (11:39) Looking for spaces with adoptees OR I didn’t know other adoptees (15:06) Struggling with suicidal ideation (18:35) Belonging nowhere  (20:38) What binds the adoptee community together LinksRace, Gender, and Cultural Politics by Bell Hooks Follow us on social media: Twitter | Instagram | TiktokCreditsSpecial thanks to Samuel Oyedele for editing our podcast, support his work on Instagram or e-mail him at Drumaboyiglobal@gmail.com

Send us a textConfronting the Racist Legacy of the American Child Welfare SystemIt was when Alan arrived at a home with the cops to remove a child and heard his mother say “Charles, run, they're coming to take you and they're going to sell you to the white people” that he realized how the trauma of slavery cannot be disentangled from the trauma of family separation. It was in this moment that he realized the harm he’s done to many families and decided to take a different path. Today, Alan Dettlaff is an abolitionist and co-founder of the upEND Movement. In this episode we explore the racist legacy of the child welfare system through discussing Alan’s book Confronting the Racist Legacy of the American Child Welfare System: The Case for Abolition.What we discussed (00:23) Who is Alan Dettlaff? (01:35) Removing children from their families OR He was complicit(04:16) Why reforms don’t work (and what does)(08:32) Why the family policing system is racist(14:31) What’s wrong with mandatory reporting laws?(20:23) Trump’s Zero Tolerance Policy (23:58) People wanted to end family separations previously (25:25) Everyday acts of abolition (that you can do)(31:55) Social workers and the abolitionist movement (35:06) “Run, they’re going to sell you to white people” OR Trauma of slavery vs. trauma of family separations  (38:19) Learning more from Alan DettlaffLinksAlan Dettlaff’s book: Confronting the Racist Legacy of the American Child Welfare System: The Case for AbolitionUpend Movement: Donate | Podcast Torn Apart by Dorothy Roberts Abolitionist Perspectives In Social Work Follow us on social media: Twitter | Instagram | TiktokCreditsSpecial thanks to Samuel Oyedele for editing our podcast, support his work on Instagram or e-mail him at Drumaboyiglobal@gmail.com

Send us a textUnveiling Roots: The Journey of Gregory D. Luce, Attorney and Advocate for Adoptee RightsUs adoptees have to pay thousands of dollars and jump through hoops to unseal our records. This robs us of autonomy, dignity, and equality.  Gregory D. Luce is an attorney who helps adoptees all across the US go through this hurdle.In this episode we discuss Greg’s personal adoption journey that made him so passionate about adoptee rights. We also discuss the important work that he does around adoptee records through his organizations the Adoptee Rights Law Center and Adoptees United. What we discussed (00:22) Baby scoop era (03:07) Was never “in the fog”(05:14) Divorce of his adoptive parents (06:17) Pay $500 to find no records??(07:20) Finding his mom coincidentally (08:23) Establishing the Adoptee Rights Law Center (10:58) Inheriting his mom’s records and belongings (14:25) What restrictions are in YOUR state?(16:54) Adoption records issue for non-US adoptions and illegal adoptions(20:16) What are baby boxes?(21:52) Adoption after abolition (what will it look like?) OR You can’t end adoption(25:58) Why accessing adoption records matters(27:36) What do Adoptees United do? (31:30) Adoptee causes need MONEY(34:28) Future of adoptee rights (38:07) How to support Greg’s work LinksAdoptee Rights Law Center Adoptees UnitedDonate to Adoptees United Dorothy RobertsConnect with Gregory D. Luce: TwitterFollow us on social media: Twitter | Instagram | Tiktok

Send us a textTorn Apart: How the Child Welfare System Destroys Black Families--and How Abolition Can Build a Safer WorldMore than anyone else, black women get their children kidnapped by the state, by the child “welfare system”. This episode is about the whys and hows of abolishing a system built to strip families away from their children. Through discussing Torn Apart by Dr. Dorothy Roberts, we examine the history and laws that have led to the birth of armed and violent social workers. We also explore the many opportunities around how transformative justice can save lives. “Hope is a discipline” - Mariame KabaWhat we discussed (00:23) Black women’s childbearing is devalued (04:29) What’s family policing?(07:21) Weaponising child removal (14:25) Alternative to the child welfare system?(19:03) A law that strips away black mothers’ rights, FAST(33:53) From adoption to murder-suicide(35:45) Armed social workers? (tragic family policing stories)(47:48) Is abolition helpful or harmful to children?(56:33) How to reimagine the systemLinksTorn Apart by Dr. Dorothy RobertsShattered Bonds We were once a family by Roxanna AsgarianJMACforFamiliesupEND MovementMovement for Family PowerConnect with Dr. Dorothy Roberts: TwitterFollow us on social media: Twitter | Instagram | TiktokCreditsSpecial thanks to Samuel Oyedele for editing our podcast, support his work on Instagram or e-mail him at Drumaboyiglobal@gmail.com

Send us a textReuniting with his birth family showed John McCormick, a transracial adoptee, a new world. He physically felt a relaxation he had never felt before, he connected with music and art like never before, and he started to own who he is - confidently - even when others denied his identity.This is the story of how John’s reunion with his bio family was a healing journey that led him to reclaim an identity he was stripped of. What we discussed (00:26) Finding his family because of a coincidence OR Having his original birth certificate (06:08) I’m not Irish, I’m Colombian OR Loneliness of having a lost identity OR Who am I, even?(10:05) Strange feelings after meeting his family OR Deciding to move to Colombia(13:54) Reconnecting with music and art (19:06) Getting confident about his identity OR Confidently reclaiming his identity (despite the haters)(24:48) Working with his therapist (28:48) How his adoptive family feels about him reconnecting with his bio family(32:17) Preparing to meet your bio family LinksColombian Influence PodcastWisdom and Nonsense PodcastGrow Heal Blossom Connect with John McCormick: Website Follow us on social media: Twitter | Instagram | TiktokCreditsSpecial thanks to Samuel Oyedele for editing our podcast, support his work on Instagram or e-mail him at Drumaboyiglobal@gmail.com

Send us a textEmily's Journey: Identity, Language Learning, and Adoption RealitiesAfter 9 months of living with monks, Emily Harris was adopted from China. She was left behind by her bio family due to the One Child Policy. To process her loss of identity, she has started to learn Chinese with a community of adoptees.   In this episode, she talks about how language learning helps, why she wishes she was white, and the hardships of being a Chinese adoptee in the US.What we discussed (00:24) Getting adopted from China(07:18) Pandemic racism (09:29) Processing identity loss through language learning(11:24) Not wanting to share the language with non-adoptees(15:10) Belonging nowhere (20:58) One child policy(23:43) Distance created by religion (27:02) Reckoning with being chinese OR “I want to be white”(31:40) The note her birth family left her(35:22) For adoptees learning their bio language…(38:23) Connect with EmilyLinksLanguage Travel Adoptee on YouTubeLanguage Wellness and Identity PodcastConnect with Emily Harris: Instagram | TwitterFollow us on social media: Twitter | Instagram | TiktokCreditsSpecial thanks to Samuel Oyedele for editing our podcast, support his work on Instagram or e-mail him at Drumaboyiglobal@gmail.com

Send us a textLinaThough Lina Vanegas was born to a Colombian family, she was forced to assimilate as a white jewish person. 38 years later, she’s unable to fully connect with her bio family nor speak their language. Forced assimilation is trauma. Her mission is to educate people on adoption trauma. In the episode, she gives a crash course on why adoption is trauma, what to do if you want to adopt in a trauma-informed way, and how to go down the rabbit hole of being adoption-trauma informed. What we discussed (00:32) Can you make up for 38 years of loss?(05:08) Forced assimilation in childhood (07:11) Can’t speak my own language (09:14) Rescripting the narrative (10:31) If you’re thinking of adopting, do THIS.(20:05) Why she’s educating the public (24:42) Adoption is preventable trauma OR Mental health and adoption(28:07) Suicide among adoptees OR Why is adoption trauma? [EXPLAINED] (31:57) Intervention for adoptees (38:07) Finding an adoption-competent therapist [HOW-TO](42:00) Educate yourself(43:50) Connect with Lina VanegasLinksRescripting The Narrative PodcastAdopted From Colombia Facebook GroupDorothy Roberts researcherThe Child Catchers by Katherine JoyceConnect with Lina Vanegas: Instagram | Twitter Follow us on social media: Twitter | Instagram | TiktokCreditsSpecial thanks to Samuel Oyedele for editing our podcast, support his work on Instagram or e-mail him at Drumaboyiglobal@gmail.com

Send us a textNavigating the Complex World of Adoption: Unveiling Azriel June's JourneyThey were told they’re white. They aren’t. They were told they’re Jewish. They aren’t. They tried to erase her heritage over and over again. They couldn’t…so they “gave her back”. This is the story that explains how US adoptions human rights violations - they’re genocide. This is Azriel’s story - a transcultural adoptee from a loving first family who has been systemically preyed upon by the adoption industry. TW: Sexual Assault “The worst part about the secrecy was that I knew I was being lied to. And not by, you know, my friends or some girl in middle school or something, but by the people who were supposed to be my parents.”What we discussed (00:40) Azriel, an adoption abolitionist (01:27) A whole family traumatized by adoptions OR Azriel’s adoption story (06:02) Erasing my heritage OR No idea who I am…(08:32) Mindf*cked OR From someone’s garbage to someone’s blessing(11:26) Illegal adoption OR Renting me for my “cute” years OR Getting illegally adopted (12:52) My mom and grandma’s traumas(16:28) Is adoption generosity? OR Is adoption selfless? OR Is adoption a better life?(21:37) Living a literal lie OR Why am I not good enough to know the truth?(24:59) Why I think my adoption was illegal (27:52) What I wish they did instead OR 1 call would’ve changed my life(29:46) Becoming an abolitionist (31:10) Family policing is genocide (34:51) Community is lifesaving OR “Twitter was as angry as me” OR Community saved my lifeLinksFinding Cleo PodcastThis Land PodcastThe Girls Who Went AwayConnect with Azriel: TwitterFollow us on social media: Twitter | Instagram | TiktokCreditsSpecial thanks to Samuel Oyedele for editing our podcast, support his work on Instagram or e-mail him at Drumaboyiglobal@gmail.com

Send us a textShould you cut off your adoptive parents? Should you “go no contact” with your adoptive parents?“Oh hell no. Not this time. I’m done.” That’s what we felt before cutting off contact with your adoptive parents. Sometimes, the healthies thing we can do is to go no contact with our adoptive parents. Escaping abuse. Escaping racism. Escaping pain. In this episode we share what made us go no contact, discuss what it’s like, and share our personal advice to adoptees considering going no contact. What we discussed (00:34) What is “going no contact”(01:27) Dr. Noelle’s no contact story(07:45) The first time I heard the N-word(08:23) Lia’s no contact story (14:45) The “I’m DONE” moment(17:27) Cost of going no contact(20:55) The huge disconnect(23:57) What does it take to go no contact? (25:58) Going no contact WHILE raising kids OR Greatest fear OR What to do if your children talk to you about your mistakes (34:01) On the fence about going no contact? OR Should you go no contact?LinksFollow us on social media: Twitter | Instagram | TiktokCreditsSpecial thanks to Samuel Oyedele for editing our podcast, support his work on Instagram or e-mail him at Drumaboyiglobal@gmail.com

Send us a textNavigating Holidays as an Adoptee: Exploring Complex Emotions & Self CareFor adoptees, holidays mean performance. Acting like you care, acting like you’re happy, acting like you’re grateful. And if you don’t perform, then you live in guilt. It’s ironic, because adoption itself is an act. Join us as we explore this and discuss what holidays are like for us adoptees. What we discussed (00:38) Father’s day for adoptees (08:01) Mother’s day for adoptees(11:15) Creating your own holiday traditions (13:46) Thanksgiving and christmas for adoptees (16:38) Always in debt(18:29) “Performing” Christmas (20:14) Ruining the vibe (21:00) Not invited(24:46) Doing your own thing(25:39) Birthdays for adoptees(29:47) The most f*cked up holiday OR Gotcha Day (33:37) Advice to adoptive families about holidays OR Question for adoptive families OR What every adoptive family must answerLinksFollow us on social media: Twitter | Instagram | TiktokCreditsSpecial thanks to Samuel Oyedele for editing our podcast, support his work on Instagram or e-mail him at Drumaboyiglobal@gmail.com