Jul 2 2023
Recovering from Childhood: Navigating Selflessness and Expectations in Relationships Episode 02
"On this episode of Hell Love a Ride, they dive deep into the concept of self-limiting beliefs and the power of evolving and transcending. Drs. Brandi & Joe, acknowledge that people often resign themselves to a certain way of being, saying 'that's just who I am', but they argue that with daily commitment and practice, we can break free from these limitations. We explore both Dr. Brandi and Dr. Joes personal experiences, reflecting on past difficult seasons and the impact of childhood traumas on their relationship, parenting, and career. Dr. Brandi shares stories of her grandmother's selfless love and care, and how she brought that same energy into her marriage, only to find herself feeling resentful when Dr. Joe didn't reciprocate. This leads to an intimate discussion about the unconscious expectations we carry and how they can shape our reactions and behaviors. Dr. Joe reflects on how he navigated conflicting feelings regarding his parent’s divorce. Join the ride as Drs. Brandi and Joe reflect on cultural perspectives of trauma, share personal experiences of resilience, the significance of self-reliance and taking initiative, and the need to show grace and forgiveness towards one’s self and others. They emphasize that love cannot be received or retained if it is not radiated. Don't miss this thought-provoking episode, where the prolific Drs. challenge our preconceived notions, unpack the influence of childhood, and explore the power of personal growth. Hell Love a Ride podcast is sponsored by the Diane Morgan Group and the Joe Johnson Group.Hell Love a Ride on IG: https://www.instagram.com/helllovearidepodcast/ Resources from Dr. Brandi: https://www.thedianemorgangroup.com/dmg-experience Resources from Dr. Joe: https://www.purposeoverdreams.com/ Book Dr. Joe: https://www.joejohnsongroup.comDr. Brandi IG: https://www.instagram.com/iamdrbrandi/ Dr. Joe IG: https://www.instagram.com/joejohnsonspeaks/Production/Post ProductionNow Social Space@nowsocialspace TIMESTAMPS: [00:02:22] Concern for TikTok-famous cousin, need to check.[00:04:32] Influenced by past, clash due to upbringing.[00:08:03] Trauma and significant life events discussed succinctly.[00:11:14] Rely on yourself, not others; self-sufficiency crucial.[00:15:04] Incompatible purposes breed insecurity and relationship turmoil.[00:17:07] Grandma cleaned room, cooked; husband lacks consideration.[00:22:17] Mom disrespected, grandfather overshadowed, women marginalized.[00:25:04] Early therapy strengthened our bond and values.[00:28:52] Childhood experiences shape adulthood, affecting relationships and success.[00:32:59] Sometimes it's better to separate for personal growth.[00:33:56] Gratitude for teaching love and humanity's complexity.[00:37:40] Episodes sponsored by Diane Morgan and Joe Johnson.The Evolution of Self: "I'm learning that there's room for the both of us. But again, it's like, just that awareness, like that, that wasn't personal. And I'm not even suggesting that it's okay. I'm suggesting that that is a feature of the evolution of self."— Dr. Brandi 00:19:2400:19:58Why Men Disappoint and How to Overcome It: "I had this implicit expectation that men will disappoint you. That's what they're going to do."— Dr. Brandi 00:21:2100:22:16The Role of Women in Society: "And I just remember feeling like, yeah, that's how that go. And even though my grandfather I mean, this is a real podcast, so I'm just going to say what it is. Even though my grandfather was an incredible provider and he was such a fun and loving man oh, gee. Jerry T such an amazing man. I also feel like his identity overshadowed my grandmother's to the sense, like, where it was like that kind of old school, like he was bigger than life. And even though she kept everything together, it appeared like she was a fixture, even thou
