Ready to dive into what it really means to be a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)? Join me, Erica Webb, for this episode of SelfKind, where we’re starting our deep-dive into this remarkable trait.In this episode I’m introducing what being an HSP might look and feel like, including:🌿 the core characteristics of being an HSP💪 why being an HSP can feel like a fault, but it’s really a strength that comes with its own challenges🫵 why I’m specifically speaking to HSPs in my work as a Somatic Exercise Coach and Counsellor😌 why HSPs need more self-care and down-time than non-HSPs🥰 the importance of self-kindness and compassion for HSPs.I’m also sharing a brand new resource for my HSPs: a downloadable PDF with 3 somatic practices to help you in navigating overwhelm and over arousal. ⭐️ Get your download: 3 somatic practices to help HSPs navigate overwhelm and over arousal https://www.ericawebb.com.au/hsp-resourceAbout Erica:Hey! I'm Erica Webb - somatic exercise coach, registered counsellor and highly sensitive person. I support other HSPs to navigate the challenges that can come with this remarkable trait. From nervous system regulation to self-love, kindness and compassion, I'm here to share somatic resources and other tools to make this whole humaning-as-an-HSP gig a little less lonely and a lot more real.Connect:Website: https://www.ericawebb.com.auInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/ericawebb_selfkindTime Stamps:00:00 Welcome to the Highly Sensitive Person Series00:29 Discovering High Sensitivity: A Personal Journey02:48 Embracing High Sensitivity as a Superpower05:06 Defining the Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)06:33 Characteristics of High Sensitivity11:37 Navigating Life as a Highly Sensitive Person18:02 Introducing Somatic Practices for HSPs18:34 Looking Ahead: Expanding the Conversation on HSPsShare your thoughts with me over on Instagram or via my website. Want the video version? Come follow over on YouTube.Let's stay in touch! You can sign up to my newsletter, Simple Shifts to SelfKind Habits, here.Curious about working together? Find all the details here.

I’m thrilled to be joined today by Cat Matson, founder and CEO of Impactful Presenters. But just hang on one sec! If you read the word ‘presenters’ and thought ‘this might not be for me’, think again. In our chat, Cat shares with us the importance of authentic self-expression in various contexts - including our personal interactions with partners, friends, family, children and colleagues. So no, you don’t have to be a traditional presenter to get a heap of inspiration from this episode.In our chat you’ll hear:Cat’s thoughts on what it means to make an impact, and how we know when we’re achieving that goalWhat it means to ‘frame up’ a position that can truly be received by anotherThe role of self-kindness in communicationThe keys to authenticity (and why that overused word isn’t nearly so cringy as you might think)How we navigate fear and vulnerability in communicationAnd so much more.About Cat:Cat Matson is the CEO and Lead Facilitator of Impactful Presenters, empowering business owners and community leaders to speak with confidence, authority, authenticity and impact. A popular and accomplished Speaker, MC and Moderator, Cat is known for her straight-talking, 'realness' and extracting 'the juice' from her clients. Cat describes herself as a 'Mistress-of-all-Trades' having worked in both the private and public sectors, in small and large business and in virtually every industry. She has advised Mayors and CEOs; developed city-shaping strategies; interviewed extraordinary industry leaders from social enterprise to deep tech and everything in between; and helped small business owners understand how to capitalise on the trends of digital transformation and innovation.She is the host of the Speaking with Confidence with Cat Matson podcast, likes to 'work out loud' so others can learn from her experiences, enjoys her coffees strong and black and her martinis stirred and dirty.Connect with Cat:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/catmatson/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CatMatson.ImpactCATalystInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/catmatson/Mentioned in this episode:Pub Choir: https://www.pubchoir.com.au/Share your thoughts with me over on Instagram or via my website. Want the video version? Come follow over on YouTube.Let's stay in touch! You can sign up to my newsletter, Simple Shifts to SelfKind Habits, here.Curious about working together? Find all the details here.

Feeling unmotivated? Self-care just keeps falling off the bottom of your to-do list? This episode of SelfKind with Erica Webb (that’s me!) invites you to get curious by asking 8 questions that go beyond the surface.These questions are intended to support you in overcoming the common feeling of self-care being too demanding or falling off your priority list. Curiosity lies at the heart of this episode - whether your quest for self-care motivation feels like a constant battle or an occasional struggle. Mentioned in this episode: Episode 243 of SelfKind with Erica Webb: BE-ing self-caring vs DO-ing self-careListen on SpotifyListen on Apple PodcastsListen on WebsiteTime Stamps:00:00 Welcome to Self Kind: Navigating Self Care Challenges01:58 Unpacking the Self Care Checklist: Questions 1 & 204:09 Simplifying Self Care: Questions 3 & 407:19 Reflecting on Self Care Impact: Question 508:24 Broadening the Scope of Self Care: Questions 6 & 711:47 Time Management and Realistic Expectations: Questions 8 & Bonus16:28 Wrapping Up: Insights and InvitationsShare your thoughts with me over on Instagram or via my website. Want the video version? Come follow over on YouTube.Let's stay in touch! You can sign up to my newsletter, Simple Shifts to SelfKind Habits, here.Curious about working together? Find all the details here.

Books! I loooove them. And they really can have a profound impact on your life. In this week's episode of the podcast, SelfKind with Erica Webb (that's me!) I'm sharing five of my favourite non-fiction books that can support you with navigating what it is to be human.From making you feel less alone, to illuminating the dark path of persistent pain, these books are some of the best and I hope you love them.The books mentioned in this podcast episode are as follows (note: none of these links are affiliate links)1. Explain Pain Supercharged by Lorimer Mosley and David Butler. Check out their books and other resources here.2. Anchored by Deb Dana. All about getting to know your nervous system grounded in polyvagal theory. You can check it out here.3. Burnout by Emily and Amelia Nagoski. One of my absolute faves. You can find it here.4. The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van Der Kolk. Wondering how your body and mind interact and how your body ‘holds’ trauma? This book is your go-to. Check it out here. 5. I Thought it Was Just Me (but it isn’t) by Brené Brown. Allll about shame. Where it comes from and how to navigate it. Find it here.Time Stamps:00:00 Welcome to Self Kind: 00:17 Diving into 5 Non-Fiction Book Recommendations01:56 'Explain Pain Supercharged'03:24 'Anchored'04:09 'Burnout'05:10 'The Body Keeps the Score'06:35 'I Thought It Was Just Me (But It Isn't)'08:11 Wrapping Up and Inviting Your RecommendationsShare your thoughts with me over on Instagram or via my website. Want the video version? Come follow over on YouTube.Let's stay in touch! You can sign up to my newsletter, Simple Shifts to SelfKind Habits, here.Curious about working together? Find all the details here.

Welcome to this episode of Self Kind with me, Erica Webb. Today I’m sharing some personal stories around the impact of rules-driven thinking on self-care. I’m tying this topic into last week’s episode with guest Sam Sellers, who joined us to talk about religious trauma. I’m sharing:- my own experiences of guilt and shame that stemmed, at least in part, from my early experiences with religion and fear (and why I left that world in my early 20s)- why I was nick-named the Fun Police in high school- the value that lay in moving beyond the black-and-white thinking of good and bad, especially in terms of self-care practices- the role of values in navigating outside of rule-based thinking.Mentioned in this episode:SelfKind with Erica Webb Ep 256: Religious trauma with Sam Sellers: https://www.ericawebbyoga.com.au/podcast/episode/7bd670d7/ep-256-religious-trauma-with-sam-sellersCounselling with Erica: https://www.ericawebb.com.au/work-with-meTime Stamps:00:00 Welcome to Self Kind with Erica Webb00:05 Exploring the Impact of Rules-Driven Thinking on Self-Care00:43 Personal Journey: From Religious Trauma to Self-Compassion04:44 The Lingering Effects of Religious Upbringing13:34 Breaking Up with Religion and Embracing Self-Care16:24 The Pseudo Safety of Rules and the Power of Values24:35 Reflections and Closing ThoughtsShare your thoughts with me over on Instagram or via my website. Want the video version? Come follow over on YouTube.Let's stay in touch! You can sign up to my newsletter, Simple Shifts to SelfKind Habits, here.Curious about working together? Find all the details here.

Welcome to this episode of SelfKind with Erica Webb (that’s me!) where I’m chatting with guest Sam Sellers about religious trauma.Sam, a queer religious trauma therapist and clinical supervisor, shares with us her personal story around experiencing religious trauma and how she has navigated the impact of that on her life and identity. Within this conversation is a discussion around the importance of questioning and understanding one's beliefs, the challenges of navigating personal identity and trauma, and the ongoing process of fostering self-trust. About Sam:Sam is a Registered Therapist and Clinical Supervisor, extending her expertise worldwide through online platforms, except for the US & Canada. Specialising in religious trauma, faith deconstruction, and supporting the LGBTQIA+ community, she passionately champions human rights and advocates for marginalised voices. She shares her therapy space with Naya, her intuitive and sweet Cavoodle, who often joins her in sessions. Beyond her therapeutic role, she embraces her identity as a wife, fur mama, and friend, embodying the essence of compassion and empathy. As a spirituality seeker and trashy TV aficionado, she brings a unique blend of warmth, relatability, and humour to her practice, believing wholeheartedly in the power of laughter for healing. Proudly part of the LGBTQIA+ community herself, she understands firsthand the importance of creating affirming spaces where everyone's story can be heard. Additionally, she hosts two podcasts, "Inside the Therapy Room" and "Beyond the Surface" where she continues her mission of amplifying voices and stories, demystifying therapy and fostering understanding. She recently launched her eBook, ‘A Shattered Sanctuary: From Fellowship to Freedom’; which is her own story of loving and leaving the church interwoven into her Queerness.Her mission is clear: to provide solace and support to those grappling with religious trauma and to empower individuals within the LGBTQIA+ community to reclaim their narratives and live authentically. Connect with Sam: Website – www.anchoredcounsellingservices.com.auInstagram – https://www.instagram.com/anchoredcounsellingservices/Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/anchoredcounsellingservicesTikTok – https://www.tiktok.com/@anchoredcounselling?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcLinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/anchoredcounsellingservices/ Sam's podcasts:Inside The Therapy Room – https://inside-the-therapy-room.captivate.fm/Beyond the Surface – https://beyond-the-surface.captivate.fm/Share your thoughts with me over on Instagram or via my website. Want the video version? Come follow over on YouTube.Let's stay in touch! You can sign up to my newsletter, Simple Shifts to SelfKind Habits, here.Curious about working together? Find all the details here.

Another listener’s question in this week’s episode of SelfKind with Erica Webb (that’s me!). This one’s all about how to support the adults in your life to practice self-kindness without coming across as righteous. You’ll hear:the importance of not leading with ‘should’The role of being a self-kind voice for othersWhy engaging in self-kindness toward yourself can be so useful, even to othersAccepting your limited/boundaried role in supporting change in others.Time Stamps:00:00 Introduction and Topic Overview00:27 The Challenge of Encouraging Self-Kindness in Others02:23 Avoiding Shame and Encouraging Self-Kindness04:03 The Role of Self-Compassion05:08 Being the Voice of Kindness for Others05:49 The Impact of Your Kindness on Others08:27 Navigating the Fear of Coming Across as Righteous08:44 Avoiding 'Shoulds' and Encouraging Kindness10:18 Being the Compassion in Scenarios11:39 The Ongoing Pursuit of Self-Kindness13:24 Understanding the Limits of Your Influence14:12 Respecting Boundaries and Individual Choices16:03 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsShare your thoughts with me over on Instagram or via my website. Want the video version? Come follow over on YouTube.Let's stay in touch! You can sign up to my newsletter, Simple Shifts to SelfKind Habits, here.Curious about working together? Find all the details here.

Welcome to this episode of SelfKind with Erica Webb (that’s me!). Today I’m responding to a listener's question about self-care activities that can happen in small windows of time - namely, 15 minutes or less. So, I’ve got 15 things for you to consider (and I reckon we’d easily come up with dozens more than that!). Tune in to hear them all and then share your favourites with me, as well as what you’d add.Time Stamps:00:00 Introduction and Purpose of the Video00:09 The Importance of Self Care in Short Timeframes01:16 The Concept of SOMA Check-in02:09 15 Self Care Activities in 15 Minutes13:43 The Role of Presence in Self Care18:23 The Fine Line Between Chores and Self Care19:30 Conclusion and Invitation for FeedbackShare your thoughts with me over on Instagram or via my website. Want the video version? Come follow over on YouTube.Let's stay in touch! You can sign up to my newsletter, Simple Shifts to SelfKind Habits, here.Curious about working together? Find all the details here.

In this episode of SelfKind with Erica Webb (that's me!) I'm sharing a little analogy from the world of plants. You know how plants orient themselves toward the sun? Well, I think we can learn a whole lot about self-care by considering the question: how do I orient myself toward support?You'll hear:- why it's often easy to orient towards suffering and martyrdom. - why waiting to orient toward support just doesn't make sense (even though it's what so many of us do)- how we can learn from the resilience and adaptability of nature.Time Stamps:00:00 Introduction and Welcome00:10 The Plant Analogy: Orienting Towards Growth02:51 Personal Reflections: Orienting Towards Suffering03:11 The Challenge of Orienting Towards Support04:09 The Power of Orienting Towards What Supports Us04:43 The Default Nature of Plants: A Lesson for Us05:43 Imagining a Default Orientation Towards Support06:02 A New Perspective on Self Care06:36 Conclusion: Applying the Plant Analogy in Daily LifeShare your thoughts with me over on Instagram or via my website. Want the video version? Come follow over on YouTube.Let's stay in touch! You can sign up to my newsletter, Simple Shifts to SelfKind Habits, here.Curious about working together? Find all the details here.

In this episode of SelfKind, Erica Webb sits down with social media self-care coach Misty Johnson to talk all things social media self-care. Misty shares her experiences of taking consistent and intentional breaks from social media, highlighting the benefits and importance of taking 'JOLO' (joy of living offline) moments for personal well-being. She discusses the concept of developing a healthier relationship with social media, stepping away from the pressures of constant online presence, and integrating self-care strategies into routine online activities. Misty also emphasizes that 'unplugging' can go beyond social media to other aspects of life, helping to disconnect from overwhelming beliefs or mindsets.About Misty:Misty Johnson is a Social Media Self-Care Coach, Sister Circle Facilitator, host of The Unplugged Woman, Unplugged Podcast, and nurturing presence behind The Unplugged Woman Newsletter Family.She has spent over a decade taking intentional breaks from social media and is now on a purpose-fuelled mission to empower others on their own unplugging journey. At the heart of it all Misty actively encourages and inspires the practice of social media self-care, ensuring it remains front of mind for social media users.Misty is an advocate for what she refers to as JOLO, The Joy of Living Offline, and invites her clients and community to engage in weekly JOLO moments.You can connect with Misty via her website: https://www.mistyjohnson.coTime Stamps:00:00 Introduction and Guest Bio01:25 The Unplugging Journey: A Decade Off Social Media01:55 The Impact of Social Media on Body Image04:02 The Joy of Living Offline: Embracing Digital Detox05:08 The Contrast of Stress: Social Media vs Real Life05:36 The Role of Comparison and Information Overload in Social Media Stress08:27 Social Media Self-Care: A New Perspective11:47 The Impact of Social Media on Personal and Business Life17:29 The Power of Intuition in Navigating Social Media Use19:30 The False Productivity of Social Media23:53 The Joy of Sharing vs The Pressure of Creating on Social Media27:21 The Authenticity of Social Media Personas28:13 Balancing Joy and Self-Care on Social Media28:51 Unplugging: Complete Abstinence or Spectrum?29:50 Creating Loving Boundaries on Social Media32:57 Practical Tips for Social Media Self-Care35:35 The Importance of Prioritizing Self44:17 The Joy of Living Offline (JOLO)47:36 Unplugging from Non-Supportive Ideas and Beliefs52:43 Final Thoughts and How to ConnectShare your thoughts with me over on Instagram or via my website. Want the video version? Come follow over on YouTube.Let's stay in touch! You can sign up to my newsletter, Simple Shifts to SelfKind Habits, here.Curious about working together? Find all the details here.

Hello! Welcome to this episode of SelfKind with Erica Webb (that's me!).In this episode I'm discussing the recent rise in Somatics in all the places and providing some clarity on what it truly means. You will hear:- The origins of the word Somatics- What the SOMA actually is- The difference between somatic practices and somatic exercise- The risks inherent in believing that somatics is magical or a cure-all- The false allure of quick-fixes and how to avoid them.Mentioned in this episode:Episode 173 of SelfKind with Erica Webb: Connecting with your soma (you're the only one who canEpisode 110 of SelfKind with Erica Webb with special guest - Lisa Petersen Time Stamps:00:00 Introduction to Somatics02:36 Understanding the Concept of Somatics04:26 The Rise of Somatic Practices05:48 The Role of Somatics in Body-Mind Connection09:07 Somatics and Nervous System Regulation11:23 Somatic Exercise: A Deeper Dive15:31 The Reality of Somatic Practices: No Magic Pill18:27 The Ongoing Commitment to Somatic Practices21:36 Conclusion: Being Discerning with Somatic PracticesShare your thoughts with me over on Instagram or via my website. Want the video version? Come follow over on YouTube.Let's stay in touch! You can sign up to my newsletter, Simple Shifts to SelfKind Habits, here.Curious about working together? Find all the details here.

Perfectionism. We end up in the perfectionist loop easily enough ... but what is the true cost?In this episode of SelfKind with Erica Webb (that's me!) I'm delving into this subject and talking about how this constant striving for perfection can leave us feeling like we're never enough (and never will be). You will hear:- The impact of cultural expectations and pressures on our experiences of desiring and striving for perfection- The role of shame in our quest for perfection- Why, as a human, perfection is unachievable long term.I also share a couple of personal stories - from being served an ad for pills that would 'reverse my grey' to a shame-inducing trip to the dentist - to illustrate how these things can play out in real life and how we can navigate them.Because it's less about never experiencing the discomfort of imperfection and more about arming ourselves with the right tools. Mentioned in this episode:Registration for the February round of SOMA:HOME is OPEN! Register before 8pm on Monday 12th February 2024. Details and registration here: https://www.ericawebb.com.au/soma-home (or join the waitlist at that same address for the next round in May 2024 if you missed it).Time Stamps:00:00 Introduction to the Episode00:04 Understanding Perfectionism02:04 The Impact of Society's Standards04:34 Personal Experiences with Perfectionism08:11 The Reality of Human Emotions10:45 The Importance of Self-Kindness12:05 Introduction to SOMA Home Course15:20 Conclusion and FarewellShare your thoughts with me over on Instagram or via my website. Want the video version? Come follow over on YouTube.Let's stay in touch! You can sign up to my newsletter, Simple Shifts to SelfKind Habits, here.Curious about working together? Find all the details here.

In this episode of SelfKind with Erica Webb (that's me!) I'm sharing a personal story about a mistake I made just last week, that illustrates the power of the mind and the narratives that we tell ourselves. While none of us want to make mistakes (it feels yuck, right?) the unavoidable truth is that we will continue to make mistakes until our final days. Why? Because we're human and to be human is to be fallible. So this story is not about lessons in 'how not to make mistakes' but one that explores the nature of self-criticism, curiosity and beliefs. Mentioned in this episode:SOMA:HOME Waitlist: https://www.ericawebb.com.au/soma-homeJoin the waitlist to be the first to know when doors open to the February 2024 round of SOMA:HOME, my 6 week course that supports you to find home within your own skin. Connect:Website: https://www.ericawebb.com.auInstagram:   / ericawebb_selfkind  About Erica:I'm Erica Webb - a registered counsellor, Somatic Exercise Coach and Somatic Yoga teacher. Supporting others to meet themselves with kindness is my jam. Ultimately, I'm here to support you to find a deeper sense of home within your own skin. How? Through movement, curiosity, self-compassion and kindness. I blend movement with counselling tools and nervous system tools for an holistic approach to mind and body.00:00 Introduction and Welcome00:59 A Personal Story: The Dentist Mix-Up02:49 Self-Criticism and Reflection07:38 The Power of Visualization and Autopilot10:47 The Impact of Our Thoughts and Inner Dialogue14:45 Introducing Soma Home- my 6 week Course on Self-Kindness, somatics and finding home within your own skin16:18 Conclusion and FarewellShare your thoughts with me over on Instagram or via my website. Want the video version? Come follow over on YouTube.Let's stay in touch! You can sign up to my newsletter, Simple Shifts to SelfKind Habits, here.Curious about working together? Find all the details here.

Feel guilty engaging in self-care? Feel bad about having needs, like, at all? Worried that you have more self-care needs than other people? If so, this episode is for you.In this episode of SelfKind with Erica Webb (that's me!) I'm exploring those feelings of guilt and shame that arise around self-care and having needs in the first place. The kicker here is that we're bumping up against a societal narrative that prioritises productivity and selflessness over personal well-being. Tune in for the full episode and for a couple of tips about how to navigate these feelings when they come up.00:00 Introduction and Welcome00:40 Understanding Guilt and Shame Around Self-Care02:19 Challenging the Productivity-First Narrative03:34 The Balance Between Individual Needs and Collective Contribution08:02 The Importance of Curiosity in Self-Care08:59 Practical Tips for Dealing with Guilt in Self-Care11:36 Closing Thoughts and Upcoming Events13:33 Outro and FarewellMentioned in this episode:SOMA:HOME Round 2 is happening soon! Learn more here: https://www.ericawebb.com.au/soma-homeShare your thoughts with me over on Instagram or via my website. Want the video version? Come follow over on YouTube.Let's stay in touch! You can sign up to my newsletter, Simple Shifts to SelfKind Habits, here.Curious about working together? Find all the details here.

Welcome to this episode of SelfKind with Erica Webb (that's me!).In this episode I'm talking about the power of moving towards what you want rather than always moving away from what you don't want. You'll hear:- how your habits and goals can be supported by an acknowlegment of how you want to feel.- why guilt is a poor motivator.- why alleviating guilt by finally doing that thing you said you'd do is so different to moving towards something that actually makes you feel good.- why shoulds are a poor reason to do something (and what is better).Mentioned in this episode:The SelfKind Hub is now less than $10 per week! Learn more here: https://www.ericawebb.com.au/selfkindhubBe the first to hear about my upcoming free class - EASE. Sign up to my newsletter here: https://ericawebbyoga.ck.page/simpleshiftsShare your thoughts with me over on Instagram or via my website. Want the video version? Come follow over on YouTube.Let's stay in touch! You can sign up to my newsletter, Simple Shifts to SelfKind Habits, here.Curious about working together? Find all the details here.

In the first episode of SelfKind with Erica Webb (that's me!) for 2024, we're exploring the number one benefit of a slow and mindful movement practice.Moving slowly is not lazy, ineffective or pointless. Far from it!Tune in to hear:- why enhancing your capacity for interoception is as a key advantage of slow movement- how this skill leads to better responsiveness to your physical and emotional needs and can contribute to overall well-being, and fosters a sense of self-connection. - why there's room for slow AND fast - and how each has its own benefits- some common misconceptions about slow movement (and why they're misguided)Mentioned in this episode: Join my email newsletter to be the first to hear about my free upcoming class: EASE https://ericawebbyoga.ck.page/simpleshiftsShare your thoughts with me over on Instagram or via my website. Want the video version? Come follow over on YouTube.Let's stay in touch! You can sign up to my newsletter, Simple Shifts to SelfKind Habits, here.Curious about working together? Find all the details here.

Comparison - the thief of joy?It sure can be. And who wants that? The thing is, these human brains of ours are very good at judgment and comparison is judgment wearing a different outfit. So ... what's a human to do?Join me for this episode of SelfKind with Erica Webb (that's me!) to hear my thoughts on comparison as a thief of joy (except when it isn't). You'll hear:- The 'low stakes' but 'high insight' moment I recently had when comparing myself to others- The link between comparison and shoulds- The link between comparison and shame- Three questions you can ask yourself to dig into comparison in a way that helps you return to your own joy- The importance and role of acknowledging the discomfort comparison brings up- What comparison can point to when it's not a joy thief (and why it can sometimes lead you toward joy)- Some thoughts on comparison-induced guilt and the necessity of exploring the both/and.Mentioned in this episode:Join my email newsletter to be the first to know about all the good stuff coming up in 2024, including in-person workshops, my next free online workshop, SOMA:HOME, the SelfKind Hub and morehttps://ericawebbyoga.ck.page/simpleshiftsShare your thoughts with me over on Instagram or via my website. Want the video version? Come follow over on YouTube.Let's stay in touch! You can sign up to my newsletter, Simple Shifts to SelfKind Habits, here.Curious about working together? Find all the details here.

Fear the judgment of others? That's understandable - it's deeply uncomfortable to be openly or quietly judged. But we potentially do ourselves a disservice if our strategy for remedying that is to shrink or alter ourselves to avoid others' judgments and make them like us.This is what we're exploring today on SelfKind with Erica Webb (that's me!). In this episode you will hear:- Why it can help to acknowledge that people are judging rather than trying to convince yourself they're not- The impact that others' judgments (or the fear of that) can have on our behaviour and internal dialogue- Clues that might show you where you're shrinking or altering yourself out of fear of judgment- Why the short-term relief of discomfort that comes with shrinking and people-pleasing is potentially short-lived- Why acknowledge discomfort as human is important- The role of acknowledging your fear- Whether it's worth trying to 'convince' yourself that you don't care about others' judgments- Whether people pleasing can ever truly be eliminated- Tips for navigating time with family when you find yourself falling into practiced patterns of relating- The role of acknowledging your own judgments of others.Mentioned in this episode:Waitlist for February 2024 round of SOMA:HOMEhttps://www.ericawebb.com.au/soma-homeEpisode 162 of SelfKind with Erica Webb: On guilt, values and joy https://www.ericawebbyoga.com.au/podcast/episode/7cd27919/ep-162-on-guilt-values-and-joyEpisode 95 of SelfKind with Erica Webb: Living a Values-Based life with Laura Jean https://www.ericawebbyoga.com.au/podcast/episode/4e6b530b/ep-95-living-a-values-based-life-with-laura-jeanShare your thoughts with me over on Instagram or via my website. Want the video version? Come follow over on YouTube.Let's stay in touch! You can sign up to my newsletter, Simple Shifts to SelfKind Habits, here.Curious about working together? Find all the details here.

DO-ing self-care is the common approach to incorporating self-care into your life. But I'm proposing that BE-ing self-caring is actual the more useful approach.To DO self-care, we have to carve out time to do things that we love. That's not a bad thing at all. But what happens when we don't have the time? What happens when life gets busy or life-y, as it's so prone to do?That's where a relationship of self-caring comes into its own.In this episode you will hear:The difference between DO-ing vs BE-ing self-careThe relationship between BE-ing self-caring and the actions of self-care (because you'll still DO stuff, it's just not the foundation)The choice you need to make to set up this shift in relationship with yourselfThe impact being self-caring has on your relationship with yourself and your nervous system.Mentioned in this episode:Round 2 of SOMA:HOME will run in February 2024. Join the waitlist to be the first to know when the doors open: https://www.ericawebb.com.au/soma-homeShare your thoughts with me over on Instagram or via my website. Want the video version? Come follow over on YouTube.Let's stay in touch! You can sign up to my newsletter, Simple Shifts to SelfKind Habits, here.Curious about working together? Find all the details here.

A quick little follow-on from Episode 241 all about JOYFUL REBELLION.Haven't listened that episode yet? I recommend checking it out.Because today I'm talking about what joyful rebellion has to do with people pleasing behaviour.In this episode you'll hear:The well-meaning instruction I overheard that points to why listening to your own body/desires can be SO HARDWhat it means to joyfully rebel from the 'rules'Why so many of these supposed 'rules' are just arbitrary assessments of good/bad, better/worse, right/wrong not true reflections of an ultimate GOODness.Share your thoughts with me over on Instagram or via my website. Want the video version? Come follow over on YouTube.Let's stay in touch! You can sign up to my newsletter, Simple Shifts to SelfKind Habits, here.Curious about working together? Find all the details here.