Living The Team Life with Kim & Rog

Well, it's been a big year for us, and on the back of this big year, we've made a big decision. We're going to be taking three months off. So we thought it was really important today to come onto the podcast and share with you guys how we've come to that decision, what this year has looked like for us, and where we're going to be heading for 2025. So sit back, get comfy in whatever tickles you pickle, because we're about to give you the answers to all the big questions on living the team life. See you in February 2025! If you want more Living the Team Life relationship insights and conversations head over to www.kimandrog.com where you can find show notes, as well as tonnes of other relationship goodies. Got a question for us? Email us at hello@kimandrog.com

Happy wife, longer life? Well, it's not quite the saying, but it is true. We all know that being in a relationship feels good, but do you know it actually could help you live longer and stay healthier? Studies show that couples who are satisfied in their relationships experience lower stress, better mental health and even reduced risks of heart disease and other serious health issues. In today's episode, we'll dive into the science behind why happy couples are healthier, exploring how emotional support, lower stress and even working on fitness goals together can lead to a better health outcomes.   **APOLOGIES TEAM**  Our Podcast Equipment had a moment during our recording and we lost the whole show!!  But we thought this one was a banger so we have used the recording from our phone mic. so our normally smooth as butter voices (well maybe peanut butter for Rog) are a bit tinny!! thanks for listening :)   If you want more Living the Team Life relationship insights and conversations head over to www.kimandrog.com where you can find show notes, as well as tonnes of other relationship goodies. Got a question for us? Email us at hello@kimandrog.com

In relationships, it's easy to fall into the trap of keeping score counting. Who does more chores, who spends more time with the kids, or who provides more emotional support. But when relationships become transactional, with each partner focused on getting their fair share, it starts to create a division rather than closeness. In today's episode, we're talking about the concept of radical generosity and how it can help shift your relationship from competition to collaboration. Join us as we explore how embracing a team mindset can strengthen your bond, allowing you both to thrive in times of scarcity. We'll share practical strategies to break free of the scorekeeping cycle and build a relationship where both partners feel valued, appreciated and fully supported. If you want more Living the Team Life relationship insights and conversations head over to www.kimandrog.com where you can find show notes, as well as tonnes of other relationship goodies. Got a question for us? Email us at hello@kimandrog.com

Why are you guys doing that? She asked the question we were recently posed as we told a friend that we committed to doing a half Ironman together. The answer? Well, that's inside today's podcast. We're taking you on a deep dive as we pose five telling questions to one another about our decision. Some of the answers even surprised us, including what each of us were most concerned about in training together for such a long period of time and for such a difficult event. So sit back, get comfy in whatever tickles you pickle, and get ready for us to dig deep into how we really feel and what we're thinking about our commitment to doing a half Ironman together. If you want more Living the Team Life relationship insights and conversations head over to www.kimandrog.com where you can find show notes, as well as tonnes of other relationship goodies. Got a question for us? Email us at hello@kimandrog.com

Hard truths. We often hold them in the back of our minds, but we don't necessarily seem to talk about them or even acknowledge them. Why? Well, because they are, as the name implies, hard. These truths describe a reality that is often challenging, that bucks our need for comfort and ease in life. But we're not here to give you comfort and ease. We're here to help you grow your relationship. So we're dishing out the truth today and hoping that its hardness will land in a way that may ultimately soften your path to a more connected and deeper relationship. If you want more Living the Team Life relationship insights and conversations head over to www.kimandrog.com where you can find show notes, as well as tonnes of other relationship goodies. Got a question for us? Email us at hello@kimandrog.com

"I want actions, not just empty words." At some point in time we've all heard this from or said this to someone we love because while it's easy to voice commitments and promises, the real test of a relationship lies in the strength of the follow up. Actions build trust, show commitment, and provide comfort in ways words alone cannot.  In today's episode, we explore the critical times when doing is more important than just saying and maintaining a strong relationship. If you want more Living the Team Life relationship insights and conversations head over to www.kimandrog.com where you can find show notes, as well as tonnes of other relationship goodies. Got a question for us? Email us at hello@kimandrog.com

A relationship health check. It sounds a bit scary and to be honest, it kind of is, but only at first. It's actually a really powerful tool that allows us to be clear on where we are each at in the relationship. So we thought, given we talked to you guys about relationships all the time, that it's only fair to take you behind the scenes of one of our relationship health checks. Get ready, because this is a no holds barred conversation on where we are really at and how we truly each feel about our relationship today. If you want more Living the Team Life relationship insights and conversations head over to www.kimandrog.com where you can find show notes, as well as tonnes of other relationship goodies. Got a question for us? Email us at hello@kimandrog.com

In any good relationship, knowing that your partner has your back isn't just a nice to have, it's essential. It's about creating a sense of security and trust that allows you both to navigate life's ups and downs together. But how do you show your partner that you truly have their back? In today's episode, we're diving into the importance of mutual support and exploring practical ways you can demonstrate you're there for each other no matter what. From celebrating each other's successes to offering unwavering support during tough times, we'll uncover the key actions that build a safe and empowering environment for your relationship. Join us as we explore how showing up for each other can transform your relationship into a true safe harbour where you both know you've got each other's back. If you want more Living the Team Life relationship insights and conversations head over to www.kimandrog.com where you can find show notes, as well as tonnes of other relationship goodies. Got a question for us? Email us at hello@kimandrog.com

Ever catch yourself thinking, "I really want to connect more with my partner, but we're just so busy right now. I'll focus on us when the kids are a little bit older." While it may seem totally reasonable to defer our happiness and connection to a future where circumstances are a little bit more ideal, this future often never arrives and we risk finding ourselves disconnected and dissatisfied. In today's episode, we explore the risks of postponing joy and satisfaction in our personal lives and in our relationships. We'll also discuss how adopting a growth mindset and how the happiness of pursuit can transform our approach to life and love. If you want more Living the Team Life relationship insights and conversations head over to www.kimandrog.com where you can find show notes, as well as tonnes of other relationship goodies. Got a question for us? Email us at hello@kimandrog.com

Today, we're unpacking a concept that supports why leaning into the team is actually the only path forward for a successful relationship. The concept of interdependence. And guess what? Interdependence exists in your relationship, whether you like it or not. So you have a choice. You can either lean into interdependence and grow your relationship because of it, or you can pull away and rail against the idea of it. Are you ready to find out what the power behind interdependence is? Well, get comfy, because we're digging right on into it today. If you want more Living the Team Life relationship insights and conversations head over to www.kimandrog.com where you can find show notes, as well as tonnes of other relationship goodies. Got a question for us? Email us at hello@kimandrog.com

Apologising is more than just saying sorry. It's about genuinely understanding and addressing the hurt you've caused. It can build trust, enhance emotional intimacy and foster forgiveness, ultimately strengthening your relationship. However, many of us find apologising daunting due to vulnerability, ego and the fear of rejection. In this episode, we'll break down three critical steps to crafting a better apology. We'll also discuss some common pitfalls to avoid and what to do when apologies are not initially accepted. If you want more Living the Team Life relationship insights and conversations head over to www.kimandrog.com where you can find show notes, as well as tonnes of other relationship goodies. Got a question for us? Email us at hello@kimandrog.com

We all experience stress and it's no secret that this stress doesn't stay neatly compartmentalised away from our personal lives. It spills over, affecting how we interact with our partners, often without us realizing it. Today, we'll explore how these external pressures impact our interactions with our loved ones and what happens when our personal stress cup overflows. Plus, we'll discuss practical strategies not only to manage this stress, but also show you how to use your relationship as a safe harbour during turbulent times. If you want more Living the Team Life relationship insights and conversations head over to www.kimandrog.com where you can find show notes, as well as tonnes of other relationship goodies. Got a question for us? Email us at hello@kimandrog.com

Resentment is a heavy word and a feeling that can subtly undermine trust, communication and connection. It often arises from unmet needs, poor communication or perceived inequities, and over time it erodes the satisfaction and joy in relationships. Today, we'll explore how to spot and address resentment early, discuss common scenarios that lead to these feelings, and provide strategies for initiating conversations that heal and strengthen your relationship. Reframing isn't just about seeing the glass half full.  It's a profound shift in perspective that can open new pathways to connecting with your partner. Stay tuned as we dig in today to five key reframes that can help shift how you view conflicts, daily interactions and the overall dynamics of your relationship. If you want more Living the Team Life relationship insights and conversations head over to www.kimandrog.com where you can find show notes, as well as tonnes of other relationship goodies. Got a question for us? Email us at hello@kimandrog.com

We all have stories we tell ourselves or default reactions that shape experiences and how we view the world. But sometimes these can impact us more negatively than we realise. By adopting new viewpoints, we can break these patterns and open up new possibilities for connection and understanding. Reframing isn't just about seeing the glass half full.  It's a profound shift in perspective that can open new pathways to connecting with your partner. Stay tuned as we dig in today to five key reframes that can help shift how you view conflicts, daily interactions and the overall dynamics of your relationship. If you want more Living the Team Life relationship insights and conversations head over to www.kimandrog.com where you can find show notes, as well as tonnes of other relationship goodies. Got a question for us? Email us at hello@kimandrog.com

Nagging often carries a heavy stereotype, conjuring images of one partner persistently badgering the other over household chores or responsibilities. But is it really just about annoyance, or is there more beneath the surface? Today we're exploring how what's often dismissed as nagging can actually be a symptom of deeper issues within a relationship. Join us as we unpack the true meaning of nagging, examine its roots, and discuss how addressing these underlying issues can lead to healthier, more understanding interactions. If you want more Living the Team Life relationship insights and conversations head over to www.kimandrog.com where you can find show notes, as well as tonnes of other relationship goodies. Got a question for us? Email us at hello@kimandrog.com

Today we're discussing a simple yet powerful question: what are you saying no to? So you can say yes to your relationship. Join us as we share our journey of discovering that sometimes the best way to deepen our connection isn't by adding more into our lives, but by choosing what to leave out. We'll talk about how opting out of commitments imposed on us by societal, social and familial expectations has opened up more space for us to enjoy life and each other. If you want more Living the Team Life relationship insights and conversations head over to www.kimandrog.com where you can find show notes, as well as tonnes of other relationship goodies. Got a question for us? Email us at hello@kimandrog.com

Picture this. It was a time when Nelly's 'hot in here' was topping the charts. IT couple Justin Timberlake and Britney Spears were making headlines with their rocky relationship and the coolest phones flipped open and snapped shut. It's against this backdrop of hipster jeans and blonde tips that our love story unfolded. Today, we're stepping back in time as we answer questions about our own journey together. Join us as we revisit the highs and the lows, navigating the challenges and changes, and reflect on the lessons we've learned from over two decades together. If you want more Living the Team Life relationship insights and conversations head over to www.kimandrog.com where you can find show notes, as well as tonnes of other relationship goodies. Got a question for us? Email us at hello@kimandrog.com

**TRIGGER WARNING** This episode contains discussions about domestic violence and community violence towards women, which may be distressing for some listeners. Consider whether this episode is right for you at this point in time, and if you do find this content disturbing or it brings up any issues for you, please reach out to 1800 RESPECT If you want more Living the Team Life relationship insights and conversations head over to www.kimandrog.com where you can find show notes, as well as tonnes of other relationship goodies. Got a question for us? Email us at hello@kimandrog.com

Ever stressed about the fact that you and your partner don't quite see eye to eye on a specific subject? You're not alone. But here's the thing. Those differences might actually be something to celebrate. Today, we're diving into why a successful relationship doesn't actually require complete agreement on every issue. Instead, it thrives on embracing each other's unique perspectives. We'll explore how loving your partner, warts and all, can actually strengthen your bond, similar to how diversity drives success in business and sports teams. Plus, we'll give you the secret to turning your differences into your team superpower. If you want more Living the Team Life relationship insights and conversations head over to www.kimandrog.com where you can find show notes, as well as tonnes of other relationship goodies. Got a question for us? Email us at hello@kimandrog.com

Have you and your partner been niggling at each other a bit lately? This could be a yellow flag, but did you know that spotting these early warning signs can help you proactively address potential issues before they develop into bigger problems? In today's episode, we're diving into five common yellow flags. In this episode, we'll break down the subtle signs and show you how identifying and addressing them together can actually be a sign of a healthy relationship. So grab your headphones and join us as we explore how tuning into these early warning signs can lead to a stronger, more resilient partnership. If you want more Living the Team Life relationship insights and conversations head over to www.kimandrog.com where you can find show notes, as well as tonnes of other relationship goodies. Got a question for us? Email us at hello@kimandrog.com