Dr. Wendy Bruton, host of "I Used to be a Therapist" podcast has lived a few lives.  She joins me to talk about how and why she decided to pivot out of her chosen profession as a licensed psychologist after a year-long battle through a professional trauma. Hear how she works to help women now, how this former university professor and researcher adopted essential oils into her life, and what she has to say after being married to her high school sweetheart for more than 3 decades. In this episode, we discuss:Deciding to pivot and shift professionallyThe toll professional trauma can take on your personal lifeHow she discovered a usefulness for essential oils in her life and her current workThe results she and her clients are finding with the use of the oilsSage advice on keeping a love going through the decadesYou can listen to  "I Used to Be A Therapist"  on your favorite podcast platform (the link i included takes you to the episode I was on where Wendy explored how I was dealing with family dynamics as my life shifted through trauma  and  unofficially adopting my sister). Follow Wendy on IG: I Used to be a TherapistWork with Dr. Wendy at The Essentially Better Life Get her book: Essentially Better: Essential Oils for People with FeelingsAre You enjoying The Coaching Through Chaos Podcast? If you'd like to support the show, here's 2 ways that won't cost you a dime ;) Leave a 5 star review right hereUse my Amazon shop link when you shop on Amazon. Besides finding every book every featured on the show on The Coaching Through Chaos Bookshelf, any purchase you make through that link permits Amazon to send a small portion of your purchase price to support the production of the show.  This does not add any costs to your purchase, so go a ahead and try it out.,.,.. Amazon.com/shop/DrColleenMullenFollow me: on Facebook: Facebook.com/CoachingThroughChaoson IG (where you'll find me most of the time): Instagram.com/DrColleenMullenGet my book: The 60 day Plan for Embracing Your Inner Leader! Work With ME- Improve your Confidence,  Strengthen your Relationships, Break behavior Patterns that aren't working for you, and see what I have to offer if you're  small business owner - you can find out all about my work at CoachingThroughChaos.com

We all know we will lose people we love during our lifetime, but there is a special kind of pain when you lose a child. Shelly Buck's son, Ryder, got diagnosed with cancer when he was 22. He recovered quickly from that, only to be killed in a roadside accident some months later. Shelly talks about surviving the unthinkable loss of a child, while still being Mom to her other kids and about how the family survives. Shelly wrote a book about her experience with her best friend, Kathy Curtis, who happens to be a grief coach. The book is Leave Your Light On: The Story of An Illuminating Spirit. Join us to hear her story and ways people cope through grief. The timing of this episode was that it was recorded just 2 days after losing one of my brothers to cancer. I think just going ahead and keeping the recording appointment was helpful to me in my own grieving process.  Please take a listen. The book combines the reflections of Shelly Buck, along with entries from Ryder's own journal and commentary from his friends. Ryder was a talented and creative young man, who was only moments into adulthood when his life was taken. You can find the book, as you can with all the authors who have appeared on the Coaching Through Chaos Podcast, on the CTC Bookshelf. If you'd like to work with Kathy Curtis for some assistance through your grieving process, you can find her at: Kathy Curtis Ink Thank you for taking te time ourt of your day to listen to this episode. If you have any suggestions of topics or guests you'd like to hear from, just reach out to me on Instagram or Facebook  If you've been enjoying the Coaching Through Chaos Podcast, there's a few ways you can support the show:1. Become a patron on Patreon. For as little as the cost of 1 fancy cup of coffee a month, you can support the show as well as get some freebies from me. For just a few dollars more, check out the Chaos Crushers tier so you can get exclusive self-help recordings each month for more chaos crushing tips!2. Leave me a review  You can leave a review on whichever platform you listen to the show. It really helps others find it and can even push it up the screen to the featured shows.3. Share an episode you enjoyed on your social media. Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram are great platforms for sharing podcast episodes. You just share hit "share" on the platform you're listening on and you can then post the link on your social media page.

How can one night in the DJ booth can get your business spinning in the right direction? That's some of what my conversation with Amani Roberts, AKA DJ AmRo of the Amani Experience, focuses on. Amani takes his knowledge of marketing, hospitality and the DJ business and creates ideas around how to help your business get off the ground.  In this episode, we discuss: How one night out gave him the vision of his career.What are the markers of a good brandWhat Amani learned in the hospitality business that helped him in his entertainment business and vice versa.How and why he teachesWhy everyone should try a night in the DJ booth!You can follow Amani:On IGOn Twitch The Podcast : The Amani ExperienceThe Book: DJs Mean Business The Website:  AmaniExpereince.com/Buzz If You are enjoying The Coaching Through Chaos Podcast,  I'd love for you to think of supporting the show in 1 of 3 ways:Leave a  5-Star Review on your favorite podcast playing app. Positive reviews help the show continue to grow - Thank you to all that have already taken the time to leave a positive review. Shop on Amazon with my shop link!   When you show for anything you would normally buy on Amazon and use my link: Amazon.com/shop/DrColleenMullen, you help support the production costs of the show. You don't  pay and extra dime, but I get a small percentage of the cost of the goods purchased.  It's a win-win for us both! Become  patron on Patreon. On Patreon, you can sign up for special levels of support .  Each of the 4 levels of monthly support comes with their own exclusive content! This ranges from shout outs, to a free e-book, to  free self-help content I record just for my patrons - to even 20 minute monthly coaching sessions with me!  However you choose to support my podcast, I am so grateful.  And I thank each and everyone of you who has gotten this far to read this post.  There are a few thousand of you listening each month and I really can't explain how exciting and humbling that is for me.  THANK YOU! I hope to see you between epsiodes over on IG/FB or Twitter @DrColleenMullen

Benjamin Preston has a passion for helping young professionals figure out what is getting in their way from going after the career they want.  He has had some great professional experiences along his journey, including winning and entrepreneurship award as recognition for beins successful at launching several businesses, as well as joining the leadership team at a start-up. He know what it takes to find the confidence, figure out how to manage the relationship dynamics, and confront his own perceived deficiencies in order to take and create the opportunities that have come his way. He has put his knowledge into the book, “Harness Your Butterflies: The Young Professional’s Metamorphosis to an exciting career”. In this episode we discuss: Why this book was important to Benjamin. Why did it matter so much?He explains what the career Strategist is and the Career Experimenter. Do you know which one you are?His top strategies for helping a person tap into their motivation.The power of intention in regards to figuring out their career path.His suggestion for a person gathering an accurate accounting of their strengths.His advice for when someone who is young in their career finds themselves in a toxic work environment or on a toxic team.How to manage adversity in the workplace.How you can benefit from the use of silence.How Benjamin found a creative way to develop empathy for a coworker.  You can find out all about Ben’s work at BenjaminPreston.com . If you are in your 20’s and trying to figure out your path, or why you keep hitting obstacles in your way, reach out to him. Find out how he can help you.Let me know how you deal with adversity in the workplace - Reach out to me on Instagram or Facebook  If you've been enjoying the Coaching Through Chaos Podcast, there's a few ways you can support the show:1. Become a patron on Patreon. For as little as the cost of 1 fancy cup of coffee a month, you can support the show as well as get some freebies from me. For just a few dollars more, check out the Chaos Crushers tier so you can get exclusive self-help recordings each month for more chaos crushing tips!2. Leave me a review  You can leave a review on whichever platform you listen to the show. It really helps others find it and can even push it up the screen to the featured shows.3. Share an episode you enjoyed on your social media. Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram are great platforms for sharing podcast episodes. You just share hit "share" on the platform you're listening on and you can then post the link on your social media page.

Let's face it, 2020 has been like the toxic, chaotic boyfriend who won't go away.   I wish I had the definitive answer for how to get him out of all of our lives, but I don't. What I do have, however, is a collection of podcast episodes I've been creating over the last 5 years to help you learn ways to conquer the chaos in your life. So, since chaotic 2020 needs some extra resources to get conquered, I've put together a sampling of some of my favorite episodes for you. There are so many resources right here for you:Becoming more Resilient: Christian Moore is a guy who learned how to overcome a learning deficiency, low self-esteem,  and hopelessness about the future to now teach both adults and kids about how to be resilient. Christian was raised on the streets with little guidance. The love of a neighbor helped him conquer his childhood demons. His book, The Resilience Breakthrough, can be found on the CTC Bookshelf, and his program, "Why Try?" is implemented in over 12,000 organizations across the US and Canada. Listen to what he has to say about the pow  er of resiliency.  Virtual Reality Treatment for Phobias and Combat Trauma: The Virtual Reality Medical Center is equipped to help you overcome your every fear, utilizing virtual reality techniques.  They even work with the military personnel, both pre & Post deployment to help decrease the incidences of long-term problems from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). Financial Compatibility for Couples: Jeff Motske, a Certified Financial Planner and CEO/President of Trilogy Financial has been helping couples explore their relationship with finances for decades now. His book, Financial Compatibility for Couples explores how couples can assess, talk and plan about their financial future, even when big discrepancies lie in personal viewpoints on the subject. Hear what Jeff has to say about what a couple needs to do if one is a spender and one is more frugal. (get the book and take the compatibility quiz right here!).Suicide Prevention with Dr. Jonathan Singer:  A few years ago, I met Dr. Singer at the  Podcast Movement conference for podcasters. Dr. Singer has been hosting the Social Work Podcast for about a decade, but he is also one of the leading experts in suicidology in the US.  I had him on the show for a couple of reasons. One was  to talk about how to recognize suicidal behavior in children. The other reason was to help me share my experience as a survivor of a sibling suicide.  I have rarely talked publicly about my experience with my brother's depression, so I asked Dr. Singer if he could help me tell the story. This episode is full of so much necessary information if you or a loved one struggles with suicidal thoughts. Sharing this episode could help save someone's life. Check out Dr. Singer's book, Suicide in Schools. Post Traumatic Recovery:  If you follow me on Facebook, then this next guest probably wont be a surprise as I think I have this episode with my conversation with Ret Fire Chief, Matt Shobert,  100x more than others just because it's tough to find another person who has lived through what he has. He's a real life Super Hero to himself when his accident happened, but also now to other fire fighters as he tries to advocate for better mental health, and specifically, PTSD awareness among his fire fighter brotherhood.  Follow Matt & his trusty sidekick, Butters the PTSD Firedog on Facebook.*Here's a link to a video where you can also hear from Matt's wife, Tami, to hear a bit about her experience through this traumatic event and the aftermath.Before we get into my Life with Suzy update, I want to also give a quick shout out to my friend, and ADD Crusher, Alan Brown. Alan is the Mess to Success Entrepreneur who now helps others embrace their Attention Deficit traits in order to live productive and purposeful lives.  Another quick shout out to my therapist colleague, Quintin Hafner. Quintin took his onw life experience, coupled with his MFT training AND his jiu-jitso training to write the marriage handbook for men, The Black Belt Husband. I love how Quintin found a new way to introduce relationship skills training to men. I found this book very helpful and I'm sure you will too. 'Ok - finally, last but not least, there is the Suzy update.  My original episodes I posted about Suzy, "My New York Story" and "The Suzy Chronicles", are still my top 2 most listened-to episodes. Im thinking you'll be interested in a Suzy update. Well, Suzy is doing amazing!!!!  I share with you about all the great things she is doing and learning at The Meetingplace Clubhouse,  her 85lb weight loss and subsequent surgery to help her be even more healthy post weight loss. I also tell you about some of the struggles with the system we are involved with: Medi-Cal Insurance fails as well as random Social Security attempts at 30 year old overpayments. Our situation is unique, yes, in that I am her parent, sister, caretaker, financial support, but we know others are out there in similar situations. That's why we decided to launch a new podcast, My Life with Suzy. When I say "we", it will primarily be me , telling the stories of our life, but Suzy is there by consent and occasionally to share her own perspective. I think it will be cathartic for me as well as I hope to help others feel less alone in their unique situation. If you want to follow along with us, just check my IG towards the end of January for the announcement. If you've been enjoying the Coaching Through Chaos Podcast, there's a few ways you can support the show:Become a patron on Patreon. For as little as the cost of 1 fancy cup of coffee a month, you can support the show as well as get some freebies from me. For just a few dollars more, check out the Chaos Crushers tier so you can get exclusive self-help recordings each month for more chaos crushing tips!Leave me a review  You can leave a review on whichever platform you listen to the show. It really helps others find it and can even push it up the screen to the featured shows.Share an episode you enjoyed on your social media. Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram are great platforms for sharing podcast episodes. You just share hit "share" on the platform you're listening on and you can then post the link on your social media page.

Her early life was filled with cultural traumas - escaping Egypt and then immigrating to the US after living in exile in Saudi Arabia with her family. Mona Johnson, grew up a fighter for equality, but the fighter in her was also fought with at home - she survived a marriage filled with domestic violence. Somehow, she kept fighting and as a single parent, decided to enter the US Army. She is now thought to be the first Muslim-Arab Immigrant female Lieutenant Colonel in the US Army. Listen in to our conversation that came out of her book, Not Created Equal: A Muslim Woman's Pursuit of Equality in her Family, the Army and America.

Robert Delude is the host of the None of Your Business Podcast, where he talks to his entrepreneurial guests about anything but their business (you can check out an earful I gave him about my own personal struggles and successes in an upcoming episode), but today, I flip the script on him to get him to talk about why he is so focused on helping others climb out of dark places in life. He shares his story of a chaotic childhood where he didn't think he fit in.  It was only when he first got high at 12 yrs old that he felt better.  This need to detach from his insecurities became a need to get high.  This quickly turned into a decade of selling drugs, toxic relationships and hiding his true self from anyone he knew. It was only when an older friend who got recovery took him under his wing was he really able to stay on a path through recovery. He is now forging ahead, feeling more confident, working on himself, fleeing from people who tap into his codependency or ignite his self-sabotaging.  His story isn't finished, but it's an inspiration as to what can happen and how good life can be when you start to fight the dark emotions, keep sticking with what you know works, and allow others to care about you. You can hear Robert bring other people's stories of success to life on the None of Your Business Podcast on Apple Podcasts and anywhere else you love to listen!  You can find Robert on the socials:IG: NoneofYourBusinessPodcastFacebook: RobertCDeLude If you happen to be struggling with addiction, here are a couple of FREE  nationwide resources:Alcoholics Anonymous Narcotics AnonymousSmart RecoveryThe Salvation Army Adult Rehabilitation Servicesor Call 211 in your area to find local resources - rehabs, therapists, free groups and other outreach services.  If you're struggling, help is available. *************************************************If you are enjoying The Coaching Through Chaos Podcast, and you want to stay connected and want to chat about the episode, just follow me at on Facebook  , Instagram  or Twitter. Check out what I've got for you over at Patreon.com/CoachingThroughChaosPodcast. That's where you can pick your own plan for supporting the show.  Their are 4 Tiers to pick from- and every level gives you some items you can only get when you subscribe! Maybe you want a 20-minute coaching call with me each month.  Maybe you want to "Ask a Therapist Anything" each month. Go check it out and see what I'm offering :)Your best value is in Tier 2- The Chaos Crushers! For just $9/month, you will get:A shout Out of Thanks on the show!A Free e-book - "Five Ways to Tackle Almost Anything! Three exclusive Patreon-Only recordings just for you! These are essentially an entirely new podcast of self-help guidance that I am recording just for my @Patreon subscribers!!! For a fun take on life and love through the movies, you can join me and fellow therapist, Courtney Calkins at my other podcast   Shrink@Shrink .You can buy the book: The 60-Day Plan for Embracing Your Inner Leader!   as well as the book of ALL the guests you've ever heard on the Coaching Through Chaos Podcast right on my Amazon Bookshelf! If you want to work with me for personal 1:1 coaching to help you conquer the chaos in your life, just reach out through CoachingThroughChaos.com click on the Contact page. Keep kickin' that chaos out of your life! Thanks for listening!

Who wants to talk abotu estate planning or leaving your legacy to your family? Not me! I want to live forever. Well, unfortunately, so did my parents, but I have no experienced both of them passing on with absolutely nothing planned for as far as their estates go. What a complicated experience, with a lot of complicated emotions! When I discovered Leslie Quinsay's booke, Legacy: A Guide to Successfully Transferring Wealth from One Generation to the Next,  I wish I had an opportunity to implement her guide with my parents. EVen though I missed my chance, I don't want you too - and if you've been avoiding discussing and writing down your plan for what to do about your business and other assets should something happen to you, this is your que to get on it! In this episode you will hear:Leslie's personal story of how she almost lost her father- and how that health scare, forced her to explore what her father's intention was in regards to handing down the family business.  Lesli's  "Legacy" formula for how to open and continue the discussions around estate planning. What Leslie means when she says estate planning is a team sport. What advice Leslie gives for families where conflict arises around the estate planning  (What if you don't want to take over the family business?).The One Ting to remember to stay motivated to get the estate planning completed. You can find her book on her website or on the Coaching Through Chaos Podcast Bookshelf on Amazon (#commissionsearned). ************************************************ANNOUNCEMENT!!!!The Patreon Page launched Oct. 1!!! Im so excited to give you so much extra for your contribution to the show! Check out the 4 Reward Tiers at Patreon,com/coachingthroughchaospodcast.   The Best Value is the Chaos Crusher! Tier at $9.00/m.  For your contribution, you will get access to 3 self-help audio recordings per month.  There are some other fun rewards that include an hour long Chaos Crushing Q&A with me each month and even a 20-minute coaching call with me.  I am so grateful for your support along this journey with me! *************************************************If you are enjoying The Coaching Through Chaos Podcast, and you want to stay connected and want to chat about the episode, just follow me at on Facebook  ,  Instagram  or Twitter.  For a fun take on life and love through the movies, you can join me and fellow therapist, Courtney Calkins at my other podcast   Shrink@Shrink .You can buy the book: The 60-Day Plan for Embracing Your Inner Leader!   as well as the book of ALL the guests you've ever heard on the Coaching Through Chaos Podcast right on my Amazon Bookshelf! If you want to work with me for personal 1:1 coaching to help you conquer the chaos in your life, just reach out through CoachingThroughChaos.com click on the Contact page. Keep kickin' that chaos out of your life! Thanks for listening!

We, of course, know that abuse of any child is wrong, but when boys are sexually abused, it is often not reported.  There are a lot of reasons for that. Ill be talking with Dr Kelli Palfy, who got interested in helping men who had been sexually abused as children when she was an investigator with the Royal Canadian Mounted Police. We discuss some of the reasons it's not talked about it, how it affects men when they carry the secret and some great organizations where they can find help and healing. In this episode we discuss :How Dr Palfy's careen in Law Enforcement and corrections spurred her interest into helping men who were sexually abused as children.Relevant studies demonstrating how much  access perpetrators find to children.Why the abuse sometimes isn't recognized as abuse to the victims.How Secondary Trauma happensAre there signs to look for to recognize if a child is being molested.How attachment difficulties can arise when a survivor carries their trauma with them alone into adulthood.The barriers that men face to seeking help for their trauma.How parents can discuss healthy touch with their sons.Organizations that can help.Please check out Dr. Palfy's website Peaks and Valleys Psychology  You can find her book on her website or on the Coaching Through Chaos Podcast Bookshelf on Amazon (#commissionsearned). ************************************************ANNOUNCEMENT!!!!The Patreon Page launched Oct. 1!!! Im so excited to give you so much extra for your contribution to the show! Check out the 4 Reward Tiers at  Patreon,com/coachingthroughchaospodcast.   The Best Value is the Chaos Crusher! Tier at $9.00/m.  For your contribution, you will get access to 3 self-help audio recordings per month.  There are some other fun rewards that include an hour long Chaos Crushing Q&A with me each month and even a 20-minute coaching call with me.  I am so grateful for your support along this journey with me! *************************************************If you are enjoying The Coaching Through Chaos Podcast, and you want to stay connected and want to chat about the episode, just follow us at Coaching Through Chaos on Facebook.If you want to interact with Colleen more personally or stay up-to-date on her other podcasts and happenings, you can follow or friend her on:FacebookInstagramTwitter Listen to Shrink@Shrink to learn about love and life through the movies every month.You can buy the book: The 60-Day Plan for Embracing Your Inner Leader!   as well as the book of ALL the guests you've ever heard on the COaching THROUGH Chaos Podcast right on my Amazon Bookshelf! If you want to work with Colleen for personal 1:1 coaching to help you conquer the chaos in your life, just reach out through CoachingThroughChaos.com click on the Contact page. Keep kickin' that chaos out of your life! Thanks for listening!

Todd Tresidder was a hedge fund manager who wasn't satisfied making the rich richer, while those who didnt have financial know-how tended to stay in the dark about it.  Todd had set himself up financially for retirement at 35 and wanted to teach others how they too could find their way to financial independence and security.  That led to Todd creating the educational platform FinancialMentor.com Part of Financial Mentor's mission is to educate the masses in a place that is separate from the people actually selling you the products. This site is there, solely to educate people, and a lot of education on there is FREE!  I downloaded his post - How Anyone Can Retire in 10 Years - which led me to access to a page of about 4 other audio courses I can listen to for Free. I can't wait to dive into his content and start applying it to my retirement plan! In this episode, Todd and I discuss (among other things):Is there a magic number someone needs to retire?What are the 5 questions someone should ask themselves in order to plan for retirement?How Todd shifted his career to educate others with what he knew.What's wrong with the traditional model of retirement planning? Some "Uncommon Financial Planning" to help a person get to retirement more quickly and with less stress. Please check out Todd's website FinancialMentor.com - Let me know which article was most helpful to you! ************************************************ANNOUNCEMENT!!!!Im launching a PATREON page with lots of extras for you!!!!   Look for it Oct 1, 2020!!!! If you would like to support the show while also learning a bit more about the psychology of life and relationships, please check out my Patreon site - you will be able to find me at  Patreon,com/coachingthroughchaos.  There are a few tiers of monthly support options.  My personal favorite is the $9.00 tier.  For that price, you will get access to 3 self-help audio recordings per month.  There are some other fun gets at less and more per month, but that's going to give you the best bang for your buck, and totally help me out! Thanks!!!! *************************************************If you are enjoying The Coaching Through Chaos Podcast, and you want to stay connected and want to chat about the episode, just follow us at Coaching Through Chaos on Facebook.If you want to interact with Colleen more personally or stay up-to-date on her other podcasts and happenings, you can follow or friend her on:FacebookInstagramTwitter Listen to Shrink@Shrink to learn about love and life through the movies every month.You can buy the book: The 60-Day Plan for Embracing Your Inner Leader!   as well as the book of ALL the guests you've ever heard on the COaching THROUGH Chaos Podcast right on my Amazon Bookshelf! If you want to work with Colleen for personal 1:1 coaching to help you conquer the chaos in your life, just reach out through CoachingThroughChaos.com click on the Contact page. Keep kickin' that chaos out of your life! Thanks for listening!

Ever have a dream of owning a business, and then realized the dream kept getting bigger.  Well,  Micah Logan experienced that.  He became a personal trainer, then opened his own grym.  He wanted to create something that stood out from the everyday gyms we all know where you come in, work out and leave- most often without talking to anyone or even saying hello to anyone. Micah created Next Level Fitness and Wellness.  It's a community-based model for a gym (you'll want to hear how he talks about this) and I caught this interview with him right as he was starting the process of becoming a franchise business. There are currently 2 locations. In addition to working hard and creating his own dream business, his other passion in life is helping others get their dream business started. He likes to help those who struggle with what to do or belief that the idea could become something. He instills confidence and the know-how of what to do to help motivate his business coaching clients to succeed. Micah is energetic, passionate and humble. You can tell he cares deeply about what he is doing and the value he is bringing to the communities his business and those of his coaching clients bring. He was rasied by hard-working parents and followed their  model of beliving that if you work hard, it will payoff.  It certainly seems like he is mastering that! I hope you love this interview!***************************You can listen to Micah on his Common Cents Podcast for business advice from 2 guys living it!You can follow the journey of Next Level Fitness & Wellness at NLFHealth.com and check out what he has to offer as a business coach at Micah-Logan.com.****************************If you are enjoying the Coaching Through Chaos Podcast, you can support me in 3 ways: Leave a review on Apple Podcasts or your favorite Podcast playing app. Share your favorite episode on your social media.Use my Amazon shop link when you buy your next "anything" purchases on Amazon.  A small portion of your regular purchase price will go to help support the production of the show.  Thank you!  Amazon.com/shop/DrColleenMullenAND Coming Oct 1,2020, the official Patreon launch of Coaching Through Chaos.  For your small monthly contribution, you'll receive different tiers of rewards including 3 self-help audio recordings per month (sometimes video too!), and 20-minute coaching sessions.  I cant wait to start giving you more to help you Conquer the Chaos in your life!  ******************************************************************************I always appreciate you joining me on this podcasting journey. As a thank you, I'd like to give you my Leadership Workbook for Women for free - you can download The 60-Day Plan for Embracing Your Inner Leader right here! ******************************************************************************If you'd like to say "Hi" and follow me between episodes, You can FInd me on IGTwitter FacebookOK- that's it for now - until next time,  take care!

Today we are going to talk about sex! Who doesn’t love talking about sex? Right?!? Well, the reality is that many people certainly enjoy sex, but actually talking about it is something that becomes awkward or uncomfortable for them. For today’s interview, we are going to add an extra layer to that level of awkwardness and talk about how to talk to you kids about sex.  Yes, its time to talk about how to have The Talk. My guest is Dr Lanae St John.  She is a board certified sexologist. Dr St John helps individuals and couples get comfortable with their own sexuality through coaching sessions, workshops and lots of free, informative , and even some fun exercises to try with your partner.  She also has a side of her work that focuses on how to help parents get comfortable talking about sex with their kids. Her book, Read Me, A Parental Primer for the Talk is a comprehensive guide to understanding so much about developing sexuality and also how to conduct quote unquote, the talk. In this interview, Dr. St John and I cover so much. Here’s the highlightsWhy “the Talk” is a series of conversations over your child’s lifetime.What is the right age to talk about touching?What you miss out on if you leave your child’s sex education up to Google or other kids. Her very clear and helpful Five Building Blocks of The Talk – this is the topics to cover.They aren’t all covered at every age, but they are a guide to know how the conversation will grow over the years. The importance of explaining pleasure. The ever so important topic of why and how to talk to your kids when your notice their body changing and growing into pubertyDiscussing and knowing the differences between healthy touch and unhealthy touch. There is definitely healthy, age-appropriate exploration, even though it seems stories of molestation run rampant.  I wanted Lanae to help us understand how we can even start to gauge that. How to talk about body image, self esteem, hygiene with grace and a preservation of your child’s self-esteem. There are times when you will be reassuring your child that what’s happening is normal, and there are definitely times in life when you may need to point out things about them (for instance poor hygiene or when the reach the time in life when they need deodorant), where care and tact will need to be employed. Our last topic is just how to actually start the conversation, this conversation that lasts throughout your child’s life.For the non-parents who found this (and listened to the episode)- well, first, off, thanks! I don’t have kids either, I found this informative and I'm sharing this episode with my friends to help them with their kids. I hop you do too.. In case, you found this episode or post because you are looking to get more comfortable with talking about sex with your partner,  Dr. St John can certainly help you out there too. As I mentioned in the beginning of the episode, she definitely works with adults.  I’d encourage you to go to her website TheMamaSutra.net – I seriously spent about an hour on it the other night, downloading some free guides(see links below) and reading through blog posts and advice questions. A couple of the freebies available on her website are how to get a little bit more playful with your partner and also a guide to exploring your own genitals.  The guide to On one hand, it can help you, the adult get more familiar with your own body parts in case you need to tell a dr about something, but it can also help you, again in using the correct words when talking to your kids about their body parts.  We can never have too much information when it comes to good sex and taking care of our body.  I do hope you enjoyed this epsidisde and your subsequent journey on her website – and of course, Id encourage all parents to pick up her book – Read Me, A Parental Primer for the Talk. Of course, you can find Dr. St John’s book, along with all ther books of the guests of this podcast on my coaching through chaos bookshelf on amazon.There will be links to all the freebies and the book on the show notes for this episode. – just in case you want to circle back to pick up thos items later, you can always find it at coachingthroughchaospodcast.com  OK – coming up I have a conversation with a fellow podcaster.  Micah Logan  is the host of Common Cents Podcast  and is a small business owner in Massachusetts/  We are going to talk about how he is dealing with all the ins and outs of managing his business under the pandemic restrictions and closures.  He is also a black business owner and we are going to take a little journey into his experience – both before and after all the social justice uprising. I do hope you join me for that one!I also have some other great guests. I'm proud to have my friend Tatiana on the show- she is the founder of RoadtoArtdom.org  talking about creating an art-focused non-profit – she’s also has a really fascinating career organizer of Comedy Gives Back, has been on panels at Comic-Con and is just so passionate about what she does. And she’s a friend of mine, so I'm so happy to share her with youWe also have more financial advice on how to plan for retirement and what to do when you are planning your estate, as well as a gym owning family – that’s right, all adults, all in business together, and they live all together – I can’t wait for you to hear what they have to say up at Absolute Flex Appeal in Rocklin, CA  about managing those relationships AND staying true to their family and business values.  FREEBIES from Dr. St. JohnSchedule a Play Date with Your Partner - Enjoy the Touch Lab The Genital Self-ExamThe BOOKRead Me: A Parental Primer to The Talk Support this Podcast 1. 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Everyone struggles at time with managing their finances.  In particularly now, as we get through this pandemic,  so many people are waiting with baited breath to find out what the near future holds for our economy.  Myself included. My guest this episode is my  friend and financial whiz, Rainier Trinidad.  Rainier is a Certified Financial Analyst.  He'll tell you that that is and why it should matter when you are seeking someone to mange your money. But in addition to that, we cover:Rainier's personal story of being a young immigrant from the Philippines with hard working parents.  How he connected while still in school with his love of economics. What he did to protect his client's from any significant losses in the market crash of 2008. How to know where to invest your moneyAdvice for what you can do today if you are trying to get re-balanced financiallyHow to handle stock market panicWhat to expect from a financial analyst or financial planner. Please check out Rainier at Parabolic Asset Management - he's got a current blog and lots of other information you can access, and share this episode with a friend you think might need some advice for financial stability in the future. As I mentioned in the episode, my newly repackaged book, The 60-Day Plan for Embracing Your Inner Leader can be downloaded for free at the bottom of my blog post at CoachingThroughChaos.comOf course, you can follow me over at IG/Facebook/Twitter in @DrColleenMullen

LuAnn Nigara is the co-owner of Window Works in New Jersey for over 30 years now, but she is probably most known now on a larger scale for her expertise on building, growing and sustaining a business. She hosts The Well-Designed Business Podcast, is a well-known speaker at trade shows and leads workshops.  Her expertise lies in helping others, including established business owners, develop the fine skils necessary to have their business prepped to withstand the ebbs and flows over decades!  Her expertise is also now captured in the book, A Well-Designed Business. In this episode, LuAnn shares a decision made at 18 that put her on the trajectory to business success; why systems are so key to a successful business,  how she grew and shifted over the years, and why some businesses just can't succeed.  PLEASE CHECK OUT LuAnnNigara.com to discover all the ways you can benefit from  LuAnn's expertise.   If you are enjoying The Coaching Through Chaos Podcast, and you want to stay connected and want to chat about the episode, just follow us at Coaching Through Chaos on Facebook.If you want to interact with Colleen more personally or stay up-to-date on her other podcasts and happenings, you can follow or friend her on:FacebookInstagramTwitterListen to Shrink@Shrink to learn about love and life through the movies every month.If you are a woman, interested in building your personal leadership qualities, check out Dr. Colleen's book: Stop Bitching, Just Lead! The 60-Day Plan for Embracing Your Inner LeaderIf you want to work with Colleen for personal 1:1 coaching to help you conquer the chaos in your life, just reach out through CoachingThroughChaos.com click on the Contact page.Thanks for listening!

A crisis doesn't happen everyday, but when it does, it brings on a lot of emotions. Fear, anxiety, desperation, thought paralysis.  Dealing with the unknown factors that a crisis delivers is a unique experience. Even though this episode is launching amidst the peak of the Coronavirus Pandemic, it contains information about a helpful tool to help you manage how you deal with any time of crisis in your life. Dr Reef Karim is an expert in human behavior.  He is a board certified psychiatrist and an authority on personal development.  Dr. Karim's experience has led him to work with people going through all sorts of crisis, both on individual and global scales.  He has worked with survivors of 9-11,  on-site at Katrina, and with many people going through the individual crisis of an addiction. He has seen a lot of crisis in his career, and subsequently has seen the pathway to healing. To help you with our current global crisis and to give you the tools to withstand future crises, Dr. Karim has created The Crisis Manual.  You can download it for free right there! In this episode, which was edited from a Facebook Live that we did a few weeks ago (watch it hereDr. Karim builds out the plan for coping through a crisis in The Crisis Manual. In this episode, we discuss Mindset, the roles of Creativity, Novelty, Reinvention, and Opportunity can help you not only SURVIVE, but truly THRIVE in a time of crisis - even if it doesn't make sense in the moment!  There is so much that is unknown in our current state of affairs- Do yourself a favor and take a break from the chaos, download The Crisis Manual, find a quiet place to review it, and start thinking about how YOU can come out of this, or any personal crisis, with less distress, more focus, confidence and and a mindset for success!  Make sure to download your FREE copy of The Crisis Manual here  Please go follow  Dr Reef Karim at Instagram.com/ReefKarim or Facebook.com/DrReef or WORK WITH HIM at ReefKarim.com*Let me know what's working for you - How are YOU staying sane through this traumatic event?  You can reach out to me on the socials Facebook.com/CoachingThroughChaosInstagram.com/drColleenMullenTwitter.com/DrColleenMullen For a little lighthearted psycho-babble, make sure to check out the Shrink2Shrink Podcast wherever you love to listen. Colleen and fellow therapist, Courtney Calkins talk about love and live through one movie a month. Come and have some fun with us! Ladies! If you want to empower yourself or get inspired by other stories of successful women, get Dr Colleen's book: Stop Bitching , Just Lead! The 60-Day Plan for Embracing Your Inner LeaderUntil next time, I do hope you are Crushing the Chaos around you!  Colleen

Anxiety, lonliness, anger, reactivity, sadness, loss, grief, confusion, fear - these are all emotions you may be feeling as you go through life under the pandemic restrictions.  This crisis has resulted in a collective trauma - we are all in this together and we are all affected by it in one way or another.  In my practice over the last month, I saw a defined uptick in a resurgence of my client's trauma symptoms from earlier in their lives.  I decided to do a special episode to help those in need understand this current situation through the lens of it as a trauma. I called in colleague, Dr. Reef Karim. Dr. Karim is a well-known neuroscientist, mental health physician and personal development expert.  You may know Dr Reef from his many appearances on Cnn, Oprah and other media outlets.  He now has a special offering to help you emotional survive this crisis - you can find his guidebook at The Crisis Manual.  On the next CTC episode, we focus on all the details of why you will want to get a copy for yourself! In this episode, Reef and I discuss:How trauma affects the brain and bodyHow false or exaggerated symptoms may present Key factors in building resilienceWe also cover these coping strategies (Im leaving as-is in the show notes, so that you have this as a reference if you should need it:1. STAY CONNECTED Social distancing is NOT Emotional Distancing – reach out to others. Family/friends.  If you were not well-connected socially before, this may feel ultra isolated– find an online group for something you enjoy or an actual support group. This is also the time to actually call and talk or skype or facetime someone.  If you’re feeling lonely, you can bet people you know are too.  They will appreciate the connection2. GET FRESH AIR EVERYDAY The best thing about this is that it happened in the spring, so most every part of the country has pleasant temperatures.  Fresh air and Sunlight help us feel refreshed, energized and can help our mood.  Moving our bodies is important more now than ever because it’s easy to get out of bed, get on the couch and never leave until you go to be again. Your body needs to move and you need to breath fresh air.3. CHALLENGE YOUR THOUGHTS For every time a person says- “This is hopeless”, there will be a story demonstrating a person who has overcome the illness. “I have nothing to do” – When’s the last time you called someone/organized your bathroom closet/planted a new flower pot? There are things to do. The point is that your brain will want to tell you things that keep you feeling discouraged/helpless/hopeless – there is always evidence to the contrary. 4. Get CREATIVE Amazon and all the other major stores are still delivering- now’s the time to tap into that hobby you’ve been putting off.  Maybe youre not particularly artistic or musically inclined.  It’s a great time to build something, tackle a home project you’ve been putting off, get crafty…. Maybe learning something new is how you get creative. Take an online course, learn a new language. Write, blog, craft, ……5. DISCONNECT FROM THE NEWS AND SOCIAL MEDIA  limit the time you watch…..turn the tv off….take 24 hours off the phone /news…..nothing is changing in 24 hours that you cant find out when you turn it back on6. TALK ABOUT IT AND KNOW WHEN TO TAKE A BREAK FROM TALKING ABOUT IT – whichever you need! If you haven’t been talking about how you’re feeling in this and just keeping a fine face, but going stir-crazy inside – its ok to call a friend and let them know you just wat to talk it through.  On the contrary – if every communication you have with everyone is about the virus and you’ve been on overload with the news, plan a virtual social hour with a friend with a rule that there is no talking about the virus – You will inevitably talk about things that remind you of your normal life – what you’ve been watching on Netflix, the puzzle you’ve been working on, the funny thing your kid said the other day.  Most importantly, this reminds you that there are normal experiences that are still happening all around you. HOW YOU CAN HELP OTHERSCALL SOMEONE YOU SUSPECT MIGHT BE ISOLATED AND FEELING LONELYOFFER TO PICK UP GROCERIES FOR ELDERLY OR AT RISK FRIENDS/NEIGHBORSSUPPORT LOCAL BUSINESSES THAT HAVE BEEN TEMPORARLY SHUTDOWN. GIFT CERTIFICATES OR PRODUCTS. GYMS, SALONS, MASSAGE PROVIDERS. RESTAURANTS.FIND OUT HOW YOU CAN SUPPORT LOCAL FOOD BANKS AND SHELTERS – DO THEY NEED CERTAIN SUPPLIES/TOILETRIES – WHAT’S IN YOUR BUDGET FOR HELPING THEM. (For those of us fortunate to be working or financially stable,we are ALL spending a lot less because we are not driving/going out to eat/getting hair done- there may be funds in your bank that can give you some room to support your community in ways you don’t normally have).*IF YOU ARE STRUGGLING WITH SUBSTANCE ABUSE *People may be struggling with substance abuse and/or being a risk of relapse in this social isolationAA/NA groups are still being helpd onlineRehabs are still admitting new clientsTherapists are still accepting new clients*There is help available to those in need. *IF YOU HAVE A PRE-EXISTING MENTAL HEALTH CONDITIONSIf you know that you have pre-existing depression/anxiety/panic/bipolar or any other mental health struggle – NOW is the time to keep up sessions with your providers.  The medical professionals have been given the ability to telehealth – which means you can have a phone call/skype/zoon/facetime session- however you prefer with your therapist or psychiatrist. It is the time to keep up with your medication/treatment and things that you normally do to cope. It is also the time to reach out for added support through online support groups as you need them.*WHERE TO FIND HELP *The Crisis Manual .com  - This is a FREE guide to managing your emotions through a crisis.  This was developed by today's guest, Dr. Reef Karim. You can hear about The Crisis Manual in full detail in the next  pandemic-focused episode coming up in just a few days.PsychologyToday.comfor a mental health provider in your area 211.org –social services referral line if you are in need of inpatient or crisis house services – FOOD BANKS/housing/etcNational Suicide Prevention Talk Line –1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255)*If you’re feeling suicidal and want someone to talk to when it is after hours for your mental health support providers. *Please go follow my guest- Dr Reef Karim at Instagram.com/ReefKarim or Facebook.com/DrReef or WORK WITH HIM at ReefKarim.com*Let me know what's working for you - How are YOU staying sane through this traumatic event?  You can reach out to me on the socials Facebook.com/CoachingThroughChaosInstagram.com/drColleenMullenTwitter.com/DrColleenMullen For a little light-hearted psycho-babble, make sure to check out the Shrink2Shrink Podcast wherever you love to listen. Colleen and fellow therapist, Courtney Calkins talk about love and live through one movie a month. Come and have some fun with us! Ladies! If you want to empower yourself or get inspired by other stories of successful women, get Dr Colleen's book: Stop Bitching , Just Lead! The 60-Day Plan for Embracing Your Inner LeaderUntil next time, I do hope you are safe and are finding the assistance you may need during this time.

We all have some sort of fear, but through the evolution of technology and the ability to get endless likes and reposts of our woes, our fears have become something of a cultural phenomenon.  What used to be one person telling a friend something shocking, whether true or not, we now live in a culture where that one friend is actually our social medial platform and there are people reinforcing our projections, leading to a hijacking of our emotions.  Our 24-hour news cycles also play into this cultural hijacking..  Not everything is a crisis, just because the news channels tell us it is.  How our news media and social culture perpetuate fear through our society is the subject of Dr Patrick Lockwood's book, The Fear Problem: How Technology and Culture Have Hijacked Our Minds and Our Lives. Listen in to hear:The evolution of how our news and social media channels has seemingly hijacked out emotional states.How fear is growing out of control in unnoticeable ways.The 2 types of fear and which one is easier to control.How the  brain regulates fear.  (I promise, you won't need a neuroscience degree to understand this).How fear can dictate an unhealthy attachment to our phones.Some of the consequences of letting our fear get out of control.What can we do to counteract this collective fear response to non-crisis events.You can find Dr Patrick Lockwood at PatrickLockwoodHealing.com .If you are enjoying the podcast and want to support it without it costing you a dime, there are 3 ways:Share an episode on your social mediaLeave a gret review wherever you love to listen to your podcastsUse my Amazon Storefront Amazon.com/shop/drColleenMullen When you enter Amazon through my storefront. For every purchase you make for 24 hours, I will get a small portion of that sale. You were paying for it anyway, this way a small % of the sale goes to support your favorite podcast. While you're there, you can check out some of my favorite wellness-supporting products and apps! Enjoy!If you want to interact with Colleen more personally or stay up-to-date on her other podcasts and happenings, you can follow or friend her on:FacebookInstagramTwitterListen to Shrink@Shrink to learn about love and life through the movies every month.Ladies, Look for the upcoming Embrace Your Inner Leader Podcast  The Embrace Your Inner Leader Podcast every month to get empowered and inspired by unique female stories of success!You can buy the book: Stop Bitching, Just Lead! The 60-Day Plan for Embracing Your Inner LeaderIf you want to work with Colleen for personal 1:1 coaching to help you conquer the chaos in your life, just reach out through CoachingThroughChaos.com click on the Contact page.Thanks for listening!

You want a Roy Lichtenstein-style paining on your wall? Talk to Jodie. You want a beautiful mid-century modern table for your living room? Talk to Jodie. You want the easiest and more sure-fire way to get your art pieces hung on your wall? For that , you also need to talk to Jodie.Jodie Royak of @RoyakStudio is an artistic craftsman who not only is living his dream as a full-time artist, but is also an inventor and successful entrepreneur. He is the inventor of BlinkHangers.com, where he "takes the anger out of hanger", Blink Hangers are a product that makes it so easy for everyone to fill their homes with art, without the hassle of figuring out how to hang it straight, because the Blink Hangers does it for you!Listen in as we discuss what Jodie loves about the creative process, what it was like for him to take his idea to creation and then distribution and selling out on the Home Shopping Network, advice for sticking with a dream, and he also tells the story of the piece of art he just can't part with (see my IG @DrColleenMullen for the pic).All listeners of The Coaching Through Chaos Podcast will receive a 25% discount on a 24 pack of Blink Hangers when you use the code: Chaos at checkout at blinkHangers.comCheck out Jodie's art on Instagram @RoyakStudioIf you are enjoying the podcast and want to support it without it costing you a dime, there are 3 ways:Share an episode on your social mediaLeave a gret review wherever you love to listen to your podcastsUse my Amazon Storefront Amazon.com/shop/drColleenMullen When you enter Amazon through my storefront. For every purchase you make for 24 hours, I will get a small portion of that sale. You were paying for it anyway, this way a small % of the sale goes to support your favorite podcast. While you're there, you can check out some of my favorite wellness-supporting products and apps! Enjoy!If you want to interact with Colleen more personally or stay up-to-date on her other podcasts and happenings, you can follow or friend her on:FacebookInstagramTwitterListen to Shrink@Shrink to learn about love and life through the movies every month.Ladies, Listen to The Embrace Your Inner Leader Podcast every month to get empowered and inspired by unique female stories of success!You can buy the book: Stop Bitching, Just Lead! The 60-Day Plan for Embracing Your Inner LeaderIf you want to work with Colleen for personal 1:1 coaching to help you conquer the chaos in your life, just reach out through CoachingThroughChaos.com click on the Contact page.Thanks for listening!

Colleen talks with Quentin about:His own journey on becoming the father of two boys,The similarities between BJJ and marriage.What it means about you if you believe all your ex's are crazy.How we can heal wounds from our childhoods through our marriage.And.... many more great relationship tips!If YOU want to be a husband who earns Black Belt status, or you want to find one- this episode is for you !To  follow Quentin, check out his IG: @Quentin_HafnerTo Buy the book on Amazon: Black Belt Husband To work with Quentin: QuentinHafner.com*********If you are enjoying The Coaching Through Chaos Podcast, and you want to stay connected and want to chat about the episode, just follow us at Coaching Through Chaos on Facebook.If you want to interact with Colleen more personally or stay up-to-date on her other podcasts and happenings, you can follow or friend her on:FacebookInstagramTwitterListen to Shrink@Shrink to learn about love and life through the movies every month.Ladies, Listen to The Embrace Your Inner Leader Podcast every month to get empowered and inspired by unique female stories of success!You can buy the book: Stop Bitching, Just Lead! The 60-Day Plan for Embracing Your Inner LeaderIf you want to work with Colleen for personal 1:1 coaching to help you conquer the chaos in your life, just reach out through CoachingThroughChaos.com click on the Contact page.Thanks for listening!

Part 3 of 3. This is a conversation with my sister Suzy, who came to live with me in in 2018 after our mother died suddenly. We take you into our very personal journey. We end up fighting the system for what is right when it comes to her care and medical benefits. Some fights are not over yet. You also get a look into the life of someone who lived many years very socially isolated with intellect limitations and what happens when they are given love and care and connection to others.This episode is a love letter to my sister. My life changed when I inherited her, but not nearly as much as her life changed. I admire her so much and wanted to have a permanent place where we would have this record of our lives.This is not the norm for my show, but we will return every month now with all the great guest, tips and tricks for conquering the chaos in yoru life you've come to expect from the Coaching Through Chaos Podcast. In the meantime, I hope our journey inspires those who are feeling let down or failed by our social services system, or those who are going through grief or just need a story of hope.No chaos can't be conquered!You can work with me at www. CoachingThroughChaos.comYou can say "hi" and connect with me on the socials atfacebookand Instagram and Twitter