Jan 23 2024
Beyond Resolutions: Breaking the Blame-Shame Game
This time of year feels like a fresh start, a reset, an opportunity to recreate ourselves, and then we hit a wall, make a mistake or get side swiped by life and everything slows down (or comes to a screeching halt). We start doubting ourselves, shaming ourselves and blaming ourselves, our situations and others.,As with all things, there is another option. It’s just we’re so convinced that we’re alone in our ‘I didn’t so what I said I’d do’ narrative that we stay stuck, we get paralyzed and go back to the habits we know, resolutions and goals can wait until next year.Did you know that not shaming and not blaming is an actual practice? This toxic, hidden subject is what Stephanie and Maren bring into the open on today’s podcast. They talk bluntly about how internalizing blame and shame starts a downward spiral, how leadership starts by ending the shame cycle in oneself and how each of us can shift our own narrative to become better instead of bitter.Some of the highlights of today’s episode are the wonderful Sufi teaching story, leadership lessons from the show The Bear and the questions about living in a friendly or unfriendly universe.Please join TSLP on social media and let us know what stood out to YOU from today’s podcast! 00:41 Setting up 2024, what happens when we make a mistake?05:56 Who are you when no one is looking? Sufi teaching story09:08 Shame in your business12:30 Friendly or unfriendly universe14:55 It’s a practice to feel that you are supported. The Bear example17:31 If you’re really sorry myth19:18 You can't do it for another unless you're doing it for yourself: s.h.a.m.eLINKS02:06 John Bradshaw Healing the Shame that Binds You15:15 The Bear on Hulu (USA), Disney + (Canada)Links may be affiliate links where TSLP earns a small commisionTRANSCRIPTWatch on YouTubePlease share your insights and questions in one of our Soulful Leaders groups: Facebook Group LinkedIn Group Get all the latest episodes, news and updates directly to your inbox. Subscribe here. TheSoulfulLeaderPodcast.comWatch the podcasts on our YouTube Channel: @Soulful Leaders