That Hoarder: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding

That Hoarder

Hoarding disorder is stigmatised and people who hoard feel vast amounts of shame. This podcast began life as an audio diary, an anonymous outlet for somebody with this weird condition. That Hoarder speaks about her experiences living with compulsive hoarding, she interviews therapists, academics, researchers, children of hoarders, professional organisers and influencers, and she shares insight and tips for others with the problem. Listened to by people who hoard as well as those who love them and those who work with them, Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder aims to shatter the stigma, share the truth and speak openly and honestly to improve lives. read less

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How to cope with - or help - a partner who hoards, with Laura Silverstein, Certified Gottman Couples Therapist

How to cope with - or help - a partner who hoards, with Laura Silverstein, Certified Gottman Couples Therapist

Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podcast-ep-140-how-to-cope-with-or-help-a-partner-who-hoards-with-laura-silverstein-certified-gottman-couples-therapist/ This week, I’m with Laura Silverstein, a Certified Gottman Couples Therapist, who is a genius on how couples can improve their communication and the way they take each other’s needs into account. So we explore the complexities of living with a hoarding partner and the impact it has on relationships. Laura provides anecdotes and advice on setting healthy boundaries, initiating difficult conversations, and the role of a therapist in couples therapy. We also discuss the value of authentic communication, empathy, and the idea that love requires continuous effort. We look at the difficulties non-hoarding partners face in understanding their hoarding significant other, the impact of unresolved conflicts, and the evolving perception of quirks in a relationship. The conversation highlights the importance of open and honest communication, emphasising the need for both partners to be involved in decluttering decisions. Join us as we talk about coping with – and helping – a hoarding partner in a relationship. Living with a Hoarding PartnerChallenges for the non-hoarding partnerUnderstanding hoarding behaviourImpact of conflict in relationshipsApproaching hoarding issues as a coupleCommunication and Decision MakingImportance of open and honest communicationInvolving the hoarding partner in decluttering decisionsExamples of different approaches to declutteringSetting Boundaries and Deal BreakersClear communication and healthy boundary settingCommunicating core needs with a partnerA therapist's role in helping couples set boundariesCouples Therapy and Relationship DynamicsRole of a Therapist in Couples TherapyEncouraging honest and respectful communicationThe goal of therapy in relationshipsValuing the time spent in a relationshipInitiating and Navigating Difficult ConversationsApproaching conversations in a positive and constructive wayThe "I like, I wish, I wonder" framework for expressing emotions and requestsThe importance of clear communication and avoiding misunderstandingsBuilding and Sustaining RelationshipsAcknowledging each partner's needsSignificance of authenticity, empathy, and mutual understandingChallenging topic of hoarding and relationship conflict.Understanding and accepting challenges of hoarding disorder.Improving communication, appreciating efforts, and showing love.Authenticity in relationships and understanding partner's pain.Respect partner's wisdom, avoid secrets and betrayal.Honesty and understanding create helpful solutions.Fear of hurtful conversations hinders creative solutions.Setting boundaries is important for relationships.Progress is non-linearSeeking respectful closure through difficult conversations is success.Leaving with integrity and seeking support.It's important to normalise conflict and focus on repairing relationships through understanding, communication, and meeting each other's needs.Importance of embracing differences in love and relationships.Advocate for needsCommon conflict communication pattern is attack-defend.Skilled communication improves relationships.Acknowledging past communication issues, understanding partner's challenges, emphasising authenticity and love in communication.Authentic empathy and communication are key in addressing relationship struggles and finding mutual understanding and support.Focus on trust and communication in relationships to address hoarding issues.Discussing how to handle hoarding sensitively and considering different scenarios before making decisions.Honest communication and creativity in relationships.Fear of difficult conversations hinders creativity and problem-solving in relationships.Setting boundaries is crucial for maintaining integrity in relationships.Success in helping people navigate difficult relationship conversations, with respect and support.Success is about integrity and treating your partner well, whether working through difficulties or parting ways.

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How to cope with - or help - a partner who hoards, with Laura Silverstein, Certified Gottman Couples Therapist

How to cope with - or help - a partner who hoards, with Laura Silverstein, Certified Gottman Couples Therapist

Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podcast-ep-140-how-to-cope-with-or-help-a-partner-who-hoards-with-laura-silverstein-certified-gottman-couples-therapist/ This week, I’m with Laura Silverstein, a Certified Gottman Couples Therapist, who is a genius on how couples can improve their communication and the way they take each other’s needs into account. So we explore the complexities of living with a hoarding partner and the impact it has on relationships. Laura provides anecdotes and advice on setting healthy boundaries, initiating difficult conversations, and the role of a therapist in couples therapy. We also discuss the value of authentic communication, empathy, and the idea that love requires continuous effort. We look at the difficulties non-hoarding partners face in understanding their hoarding significant other, the impact of unresolved conflicts, and the evolving perception of quirks in a relationship. The conversation highlights the importance of open and honest communication, emphasising the need for both partners to be involved in decluttering decisions. Join us as we talk about coping with – and helping – a hoarding partner in a relationship. Living with a Hoarding PartnerChallenges for the non-hoarding partnerUnderstanding hoarding behaviourImpact of conflict in relationshipsApproaching hoarding issues as a coupleCommunication and Decision MakingImportance of open and honest communicationInvolving the hoarding partner in decluttering decisionsExamples of different approaches to declutteringSetting Boundaries and Deal BreakersClear communication and healthy boundary settingCommunicating core needs with a partnerA therapist's role in helping couples set boundariesCouples Therapy and Relationship DynamicsRole of a Therapist in Couples TherapyEncouraging honest and respectful communicationThe goal of therapy in relationshipsValuing the time spent in a relationshipInitiating and Navigating Difficult ConversationsApproaching conversations in a positive and constructive wayThe "I like, I wish, I wonder" framework for expressing emotions and requestsThe importance of clear communication and avoiding misunderstandingsBuilding and Sustaining RelationshipsAcknowledging each partner's needsSignificance of authenticity, empathy, and mutual understandingChallenging topic of hoarding and relationship conflict.Understanding and accepting challenges of hoarding disorder.Improving communication, appreciating efforts, and showing love.Authenticity in relationships and understanding partner's pain.Respect partner's wisdom, avoid secrets and betrayal.Honesty and understanding create helpful solutions.Fear of hurtful conversations hinders creative solutions.Setting boundaries is important for relationships.Progress is non-linearSeeking respectful closure through difficult conversations is success.Leaving with integrity and seeking support.It's important to normalise conflict and focus on repairing relationships through understanding, communication, and meeting each other's needs.Importance of embracing differences in love and relationships.Advocate for needsCommon conflict communication pattern is attack-defend.Skilled communication improves relationships.Acknowledging past communication issues, understanding partner's challenges, emphasising authenticity and love in communication.Authentic empathy and communication are key in addressing relationship struggles and finding mutual understanding and support.Focus on trust and communication in relationships to address hoarding issues.Discussing how to handle hoarding sensitively and considering different scenarios before making decisions.Honest communication and creativity in relationships.Fear of difficult conversations hinders creativity and problem-solving in relationships.Setting boundaries is crucial for maintaining integrity in relationships.Success in helping people navigate difficult relationship conversations, with respect and support.Success is about integrity and treating your partner well, whether working through difficulties or parting ways.

Chronic disorganisation with Jo Cooke of Hoarding Disorders UK

Chronic disorganisation with Jo Cooke of Hoarding Disorders UK

Sign up for the Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Today, chronic disorganisation with our special guest, Jo Cooke of Hoarding Disorders UK. Chronic disorganisation impacts day-to-day living, from time management to project completion, and is closely connected to hoarding behaviours. Jo’s written a whole book on the topic, so join us as we look into the overlap between chronic disorganisation and hoarding, executive dysfunction, and the impact of grief, trauma, and loss on these issues. Chronic DisorganisationDefinition and impact on day-to-day livingConnection between chronic disorganisation and hoardingExecutive dysfunction and its effect on chronic disorganisationUnderstanding and managing energy levels using the "spoon theory"Physical self-care and its impact on organisation and managementGrief, Trauma, and MenopauseThe role of grief, trauma, and loss in chronic disorganisation and hoardingSocietal shift in openly discussing menopause and its impact on daily lifeImportance of self-compassion and understanding that disorganisation does not equate to laziness or lack of intelligenceImpact of Covid and Societal FactorsHow Covid has impacted people's experiences, including loneliness, anxiety, and chronic overwhelmContribution of technology, fast-paced living, and societal expectations to difficulty in focusing and staying on taskStrategies for Managing Chronic DisorganisationBody doubling as a method to have someone quietly cheerleading alongside on tasksImportance of sustained attention, goal perseverance, and finding the right motivation and goal-setting approach tailored to individual preferencesAchieving and maintaining focus on tasks through setting achievable goals, tailored to individual needs, and utilising the PACE approach (Playfulness, Acceptance, Curiosity, and Empathy)Overcoming Chronic DisorganisationImportance of seeking help, defining what help looks like, and joining support groups to combat shame and self-blameThe release of Jo Cooke's book "Overcoming Chronic Disorganisation" for pre-order and her online presence at hoardingdisordersuk.orgRecognising trends in client needs, including bereavement, ADHD, and menopause, and challenges in organisation.Chronic disorganisation impacts daily living with system struggles, time management, and tasks.Hoarding and chronic disorganisation overlap due to executive functioning challenges, leading to repetitive acquisitions and disorganisation.Modern life is fast-paced with high expectations, leading to difficulty focusing.Body doubling can help remain on task.Focus on short and medium-term goals, not just the ultimate goal.Shame vs joy, playfulness, curiosity, and distress tolerance.Support group helped challenge self-blame and shame.

The Accountability Effect: Accountability, encouragement and mutual support when tackling hoarding and dehoarding

The Accountability Effect: Accountability, encouragement and mutual support when tackling hoarding and dehoarding

Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast transcript: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podcast-ep-138-the-accountability-effect-accountability-encouragement-and-mutual-support-when-tackling-hoarding-and-dehoarding/ In today's episode, I talk about holding yourself accountable by yourself. Then I talk about holding yourself accountable if you've got an accountability buddy. And then I'm going to talk about holding yourself accountable if you don't have anybody that you can talk about hoarding with. Because those are 3 really different situations with really different pros and cons and approaches and benefits as well. Accountability and DehoardingAn accountability buddy who is also working on dehoardingMutual support and encouragementHonest and constructive feedbackUsing before and after photos for accountability and motivationSetting up times to donate or recycle items together with an accountability buddyShared encouragement and sense of accomplishmentSolo Accountability in DehoardingChallenges of holding oneself accountable when nobody knows about the hoardingJoining clutter groups on Facebook or posting on social media for accountabilityA group Zoom session for hoarders to hold themselves accountableSetting external deadlines for accountabilityUsing inspirational visuals and quotesHaving regular check-ins and task schedulesTools for Accountability in DehoardingUsing productivity apps or reminder apps to track progressFinding features that work best for individual performanceRewarding oneself with non-material rewardsThe Concept of AccountabilityReluctance to commit to accountabilityAcknowledgment of its effectiveness in achieving goalsPersonal experiences and strategies for self-accountabilityTracking progress and setting deadlinesHolding yourself accountable is crucial for productivity.Accountability involves planning and setting goals.Regular check-ins help achieve and motivate goals.Encourage and support each other for success.Accountability buddy supports, encourages, and holds responsible.Setting deadlines and visual, shared encouragement motivates.Seek accountability through social media and groups.Accountability involves self-discipline and planning to achieve goals.Regular self-check-ins help stay on track, providing motivation and a sense of accomplishment.Encourage support, set same time for tasks, share progress and tips with accountability buddy to overcome obstacles.Having an accountability buddy offers mutual support, encouragement, and honesty in achieving goals.Accountability buddy motivates donating items.Find accountability in decluttering through social media or online groups

How to tackle a laundry backlog - or how to summit Mount Washmore

How to tackle a laundry backlog - or how to summit Mount Washmore

Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast transcript: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podcast-ep-137-how-to-tackle-a-laundry-backlog-or-how-to-summit-mount-washmore/ Today, the daunting task of tackling a laundry backlog. In this episode, I discuss practical strategies to conquer Mount Washmore and take control of the laundry chaos. From decluttering to creating a laundry system, I look at ways to streamline the process and prevent clothes from piling up. I also touch on the environmental impact of overwashing and share experiences of managing overwhelming laundry situations. So if you're ready to conquer that laundry mountain and reclaim some peace, hit play for some valuable tips and insights. Addressing the Extreme Laundry CircumstancesUsing a laundrette to catch upDon’t berate yourself for the laundry backlogPractical Solutions for Managing Laundry BacklogDeclutter to reduce laundry loadEstablishing a designated place for dirty clothes and towelsInvolving others in the household in the laundry processCreating a personalised system for ongoing laundry managementMinimizing Overwashing and Unnecessary Clothing PurchasesAdvising against overwashing clothes to minimize environmental impactThe environmental impact of overwashing, especially in relation to microplastics and microfibresMinimising new clothing purchases to reduce laundry load and simplify lifeLiberating Feeling of throwing away items in bad conditionIdentifying and removing barriers to doing laundryStreamlining the Washing ProcessSorting laundry into darks, lights, and coloursContaining laundry in bags or containers to streamline the washing processDisregarding special care instructions and putting items in the washing machine, finding that they come out fineThe gruelling but necessary process of dedicating days to washing laundry, especially without a tumble dryerChallenge of managing limited drying spaceDoing laundry less demanding than cleaning or declutteringGratitude for the invention of washing machinesConsideration of organizing a Zoom accountability session for listeners and encouraging them to express interestStrategies for Tackling Laundry PilePrioritising cleaning a few days' worth of clothes before addressing the entire pileGathering all dirty laundry in one place and discarding items in bad condition without guiltManaging laundry by organizing tasks around the workday, not allowing the volume of laundry to overwhelmAlternative options for managing overwhelming laundry, including using a laundrette or paying for laundry services if necessary to alleviate stress and feeling of being overwhelmed by laundryPrioritise survival over saving damaged items.Efficient sorting made laundry process much easier.Efficient laundry process allows for multitasking.Outsource your laundry, let someone else handle it.Delegate laundry tasks, find a system.Overwashing sheds microplastics, buy less clothing.Procrastination leads to fear and anxiety. Start by ensuring clean, comfy clothes.In times of overwhelm, prioritise survival over waste and home livability over personal items.Without a tumble dryer, drying clothes is limited to 2-3 loads a day, making it difficult to keep things moving without dampness.It's important to be realistic about what to keep and donate while doing laundry.Options for laundry: do it yourself, pay for pick-up service, or drop off at a laundromat.Use a laundrette for extreme laundry situations, without feeling guilty.Laundry tips for efficiency and delegation.

The lies, contradictions and justifications we tell ourselves about our stuff - I dissect and debunk 19 of them!

The lies, contradictions and justifications we tell ourselves about our stuff - I dissect and debunk 19 of them!

Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In this episode I talk about 19 lies we tell ourselves about our stuff that help us to remain hoarders rather than break free from drowning in stuff. Acknowledging the Difficulty in Addressing Hoarding BehaviourEmphasising the possibility of change and the necessity of taking action.Challenging Justifications for HoardingNegative impact on social interactions, emotional well-being, and emergency situations.The impact of hoarding on children's well-being and long-term trauma.The inefficiency and laborious nature of selling items from a hoard.The impracticality of holding onto items because we believe they could be fixed or upcycled.Setting deadlines for projects to address items awaiting repair or upcycling.Recognising Lies and Contradictions in Hoarding BehaviourSeparating self-identity from possessions.Questioning the necessity of holding rare or one-of-a-kind items.Challenging the belief that items might be needed in the future.Holding onto clothing that no longer fits.Challenging the idea of holding onto items in anticipation of them coming back into fashion.Taking Immediate Action to Address Hoarding BehaviourNot postponing decluttering and organising efforts.Challenging the rationale for holding onto items for sentimental reasons.Considering hosting a virtual accountability group for dehoarding together via Zoom call.Identifying and Challenging Lies About BelongingsEncouraging listeners to recognise and challenge lies about their belongings.Addressing beliefs about the necessity of more storage items and the significance of keeping just one item.Challenging justifications for keeping items, such as receiving them as gifts or having spent money on them.Emphasising that love and respect for others are not dependent on holding onto objects.Encouraging letting go of unused items, despite their perceived value or sentimental attachment.Torn between hoarding and avoiding waste.Recognise lies, challenge ourselves, become more accountable.Dehoarding reveals need for less storage.Overcoming sense of futility, one small effort at a time.Love doesn't depend on holding onto belongings.Letting go of excess stuff is liberating.Don't keep stuff for future fashion trends.Clutter affects every aspect of your life.Recognising lies, challenging beliefs, and being accountable for actions.Don't know what's needed; buying storage adds clutter.Letting go of stuff creates space for growth and reduces harm.Delaying decluttering prolongs discomfort. Let go of attachments to things from the past.Clutter affects mental health and safety, including for children.

Don't know where to start? 31 things you can dehoard today

Don't know where to start? 31 things you can dehoard today

Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast transcript: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podcast-ep-135-dont-know-where-to-start-31-things-you-can-dehoard-today/ Sometimes you want to get something done, but you just need somebody to tell you where to start, right? You need a nudge. Because if we have too much choice in front of us, it can become overwhelming. Benefits of becoming a Dehoarding Darling supporter for the podcastNew feature on top of monthly update with recommendations, extra podcast episodes, a song, and a top tipFeedback on the idea of a monthly Zoom call for accountability and task completion31 tasks to tackle hoarding, including specific items and areasClearing out old magazines and newspapersSorting and discarding empty boxesEvaluating and recycling outdated electronic devicesMatching and storing Tupperware without lids or vice versaDisposing of expired medicationDiscarding old cosmetics and sunscreensEvaluating old greeting cards for sentimental valueGetting rid of out-of-date food in fridges, kitchen cupboards, and freezersDonating unread booksTesting and discarding non-functional pensReleasing unused notebooks for others to useDiscarding single socks without a pair, old calendars, dead batteries, and promotional itemsUnsubscribing from promotional emailsDiscarding duplicate kitchen utensilsDecluttering clothing, jewellery, kitchen appliances, old receipts and bills, excess mugs and glasses, old towels and bedding, holiday decorations, unused hobby-related items, expired coupons and promotional flyers, and shoesAsking serious questions about the usability of itemsDownsizing items related to former hobbiesExpired coupons and promotional flyersBeing ruthless with old towelsDispassionately evaluating holiday decorationsDecluttering shoes that are no longer wornCreating space for necessary itemsGetting rid of old shopping bagsDonating usable bags to charity shops or food banksEncouragement to consider the 31 suggested decluttering tasks and taking actionMotivating listeners to initiate decluttering and organizingOffering practical and achievable starting points for decluttering effortsEngaging the audience in taking positive steps towards decluttering their spacesLimiting clutter can lead to clarity.Declutter chargers, cables, and old devices responsibly.Keep meaningful greeting cards, discard the rest.You deserve fresh, safe foodDonate books to libraries and charity organizations.Unused appliances are space-wasters.Reevaluate hobbies; downsize belongings for practicality.

What therapists and mental health professionals need to know about working with hoarders, with Dr Jan Eppingstall

What therapists and mental health professionals need to know about working with hoarders, with Dr Jan Eppingstall

Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Today with Dr Jan Eppingstall, I look at the nuanced approaches needed for effectively supporting people with hoarding disorder. Jan provides valuable insights for therapists, emphasising the importance of curiosity, collaboration, and empathy in therapeutic sessions. The episode explores evidence-based interventions, the significance of exposure therapy, and the challenges counsellors may face when working with hoarding clients. Additionally, practical tips for building trust and understanding the unique needs of hoarders are shared. Listen for the tools you need to make a meaningful difference in the lives of your clients. Therapeutic Approach to Hoarding DisorderImportance of Collaboration in TherapyHands-On Support and In-Home VisitsExposure TherapyPatience, Empathy, and Understanding in TherapyDifferent Modes of Therapy (CBT, ACT, Person-Centred Therapy)Education and Support for Mental Health ProfessionalsMinimal Education on Hoarding Disorder in Clinical Psychology ProgramsBuilding Expertise in Hoarding DisorderSeeking Supervision Need for an Eclectic Approach in TherapyValues Clarification, Problem SolvingChallenges for TherapistsGeneralist vs. Specialist CounsellorsAddressing Co-Occurring Mental Health IssuesImpact of Hoarding on Other Mental Health IssuesPreparedness of Therapists to Deal with HoardingEffective Therapies (Exposure Therapy, Cognitive Techniques)Collaboration with Professional OrganizersBuilding Trust with ClientsGeneralist counsellors deal with common mental health issues.Open dialogue and willingness to share knowledge.Understanding clients holistically Struggles with hoarding and perfectionism in therapy.Assisting clients with letting go of possessions.Exposure technique for easing attachment to possessions.Tiny habits Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What to prioritise when you can only do the absolute basics

What to prioritise when you can only do the absolute basics

Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast transcript: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podcast-ep-133-what-to-prioritise-when-you-can-only-do-the-absolute-basics/ Today, I talk about prioritising when you're facing a hoarding situation and can only manage the absolute basics, with guidance for people struggling with motivation, energy, and overwhelming emotions like depression or grief. Tackling the challenges of hoarding when feeling depleted, the episode explores practical ways to approach the situation. Tune in for strategies to navigate hoarding with compassion and practicality, understanding that even the smallest progress is a step forward. Prioritising tasks and setting realistic goalsIdentifying the most effective tasks with limited time and energyBeing objective and evaluating what can be done with available energyAvoiding busywork and focusing on tasks that push the needleAdjusting high standards and expectations to avoid disappointmentFinding motivation in something you care slightly aboutIdentifying and prioritising safety concernsSetting tiny, achievable goals to avoid feeling like a failureUsing the hummingbird method to set yourself up for successOpting for tasks that require less emotional energy and decision-makingMaking tasks easier and setting up for successIncorporating comfort TV or music to make tasks more manageableEstablishing a single daily taskSeeking help to understand the reasons behind challengesExploring available options for support and improvementSetting up a reward system without resorting to purchasing itemsPracticing gentleness and self-compassionOvercoming obstacles and taking small stepsRecognising that small progress is still progressImplementing tasks that take only a few minutes to accomplishUnderstanding that self-care can involve both urging yourself to do things and allowing yourself to restConsider effective use of limited time and energy.Find one thing you care about.Being kind to your future self.Consider options for small impactful actions when lacking energy Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How to dehoard when you’re really, really busy: tackling clutter in tiny time slots

How to dehoard when you’re really, really busy: tackling clutter in tiny time slots

Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In today's episode, I talk about trying to dehoard when life is jam-packed with commitments. I share practical tips for making the most of those precious spare moments, tackling small areas at a time, and procrastination. I discuss productive procrastination, setting achievable goals, and seeking help, as well as valuable insights on time management, priorities and self-compassion. Strategies for Dehoarding When You're Really Really BusyUtilising small pockets of time for dehoardingWaiting for a call, boiling the kettle, or other short intervalsMaking a list of tasks for different time durationsFocusing on small areas and celebrating small victoriesSeeing visible progress and maintaining motivationProductive procrastination and not making things worseHarnessing time spent on other useful tasksSaying no to new items and time commitmentsGamifying decluttering and being consistentSetting daily goals for items to get rid ofSeeking help from others with time-consuming tasksTracking time to save time and prioritiseTracking time for analysis and identifying areas for saving timeUsing data to approach work about schedule changesPrioritising and understanding personal motivations for declutteringThe importance of rest and downtime while working on declutteringDeclutter efficiently using small pockets of time.Small victories lead to progress.Productive procrastination: using time for useful tasks.Learn to say no to new commitments.Consistency is key for successful project completion.Delegate tasks, track time for better efficiency.Balancing work and leisure is essential for well-being.Forgive yourself, prioritise and seek self-compassion.Reframe busyness as even more reason to simplify and declutterSmall victories help to spur further progressMaking the most of odd bits of time.Commitments and requests you don’t want to doConsistency over time is more productive than sporadic bursts.Delegating tasksRest and downtime are essential for mental and physical health. It's not about suffering, but finding balance. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Compassionate productivity with Meg Kissack of the Daily Pep: Challenging the Cult of Productivity, Rethinking Self-Care and Embracing Vulnerability

Compassionate productivity with Meg Kissack of the Daily Pep: Challenging the Cult of Productivity, Rethinking Self-Care and Embracing Vulnerability

Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast transcript: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podcast-ep-131-compassionate-productivity-with-meg-kissack-of-the-daily-pep-challenging-the-cult-of-productivity-rethinking-self-care-and-embracing-vulnerability/ Today I welcome Meg Kissack to talk about compassionate productivity. We discuss the importance of showing up for yourself, taking imperfect action, and acknowledging the value of rest. We gently challenge traditional productivity advice, emphasising the emotional aspect of getting things done and the need to deprogramme the idea that rest must be earned. The conversation also addresses misconceptions about self-care, the impact of advertising on self-worth, and the necessity of embracing vulnerability and rewriting the narrative of success. Tune in as we advocate for embracing personal quirks, fostering genuine connections, and initiating more honest discussions beyond the façade of social media perfection. Compassionate Productivity and Personal GrowthThe importance of showing up for oneselfTaking imperfect actionThe value of rest as a productive elementDeprogramming the idea that rest must be earnedMaking friends with our future selvesSmall actions can make a big differenceReplacing inner critic with inner wisdomMaking tasks fun and easierRedefining Self-CareRedefining self-preservationRecognising and resisting marketing tactics and old narrativesThe impact of advertising targeting women and playing into insecuritiesEmbracing Vulnerability and Self-WorthRewriting the narrative of successOvercoming the fear of starting something before feeling completely readyFinding wisdom in people who are open about failures and the process of successRecognising self-worth without achieving goals or milestonesPracticing self-compassion and acceptanceSelf-worth and embracing personal quirksDisparity between ideal productivity routines and realityComplexity of mental health issues, financial struggles, and relationshipsUnrealistic and patronising nature of one-size-fits-all approach to productivityDdisconnect between privilege and realityStruggle with pushing through, compassion for self.Shame cycle of productivity and self-judgment.Transactional mindset, cruel self-treatment, need for imperfection.Self-worth leads to better decisions and boundaries.Self-worth isn't a game to unlock.Struggle with self-compassion and body image.Bohemian Rhapsody helps motivate and focus.Challenging the consumerism of self-care experience.Productivity doesn't always mean more is better.Struggle with cultural pressure to push through, learned to be compassionate for better well-being.Shame cycle, internalisation, and moral judgement. Compassionate productivity needed.Struggle with mental health and hoarding is complex and not easily fixed.Value yourself, make decisions that support you, self-worth leads to positive change.The struggle of starting small tasks with the intention of leading to bigger accomplishments.Questioning spending and self-care without materialism, commercialisation of self-care.Active self-care vs passive self-care. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Loneliness and hoarding with Vassia Sarantopoulou: build human connections and combat hoarding-related shame

Loneliness and hoarding with Vassia Sarantopoulou: build human connections and combat hoarding-related shame

Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Episode transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Today, I look at the link between loneliness and hoarding behaviour with special guest Vassia Sarantopoulou, an expert psychologist and relationship counsellor. Come on a thought-provoking journey as Vassia and I discuss the complexities of loneliness, and practical steps for combating the shame associated with hoarding. There's the deep impact of societal expectations on emotional expression and emphasise the importance of forming genuine human connections for those affected by hoarding. From identifying warning signs of loneliness to exploring the link between trauma, grief, and hoarding, this episode offers insights into the struggles faced by individuals dealing with compulsive hoarding and the loneliness that often accompanies it. Vassia shares effective strategies for overcoming loneliness, reaching out for support, and finding ways to rebuild connections when you hoard. This episode is a candid and compassionate exploration of the intersection between loneliness and hoarding, offering support for those seeking to break the cycle. Loneliness and Its ImpactStigma and Misconceptions Surrounding LonelinessTwo Layers of Loneliness: Normal Feeling vs. Deeper Sense of LonelinessCommon Causes of LonelinessOvercoming the Fear of Rejection and Making New FriendsDifficulties in Discussing Personal Struggles with FriendsImportance of Creating Safe Spaces for Discussing Grief and Negative EmotionsCombatting Shame and Overcoming Self-JudgmentSteps to Combat Shame Associated with Hoarding BehaviourImpact of Societal Expectations on Emotional ExpressionBuilding Human Connections and Combatting Feelings of Shame Associated with Hoarding BehaviourPractical Steps to Build Human Connections and Combat Feelings of Shame Associated with Hoarding BehaviourAddressing Shame and Overcoming Self-Imposed Judgment Related to HoardingGradual Approach to Disclosing Hoarding in RelationshipsPractical Advice and ResourcesPurpose of Social Activities: Engaging in Activities to Reduce Pressure and StressBuilding Relationships and Disclosing Hoarding: Choosing the Right Moment and Managing ExpectationsTaking a Gradual Approach to Disclosing Hoarding in RelationshipsImpact of Hoarding Symptoms on LonelinessWarning Signs of Loneliness and IsolationMental and Physical Health Effects of LonelinessSeeking Harmful or Unhealthy Relationships Due to LonelinessThe Contribution of Trauma, Grief, and Loss to Hoarding Behaviour and LonelinessDual layers of loneliness lead to isolation.Loneliness stems from disconnecting from ourselves.Impact of loneliness mental and physical health.Loneliness and trauma can lead to hoarding.Reconnect with old friends, join social groups.Healing involves selective sharing and seeking help.Guide, allow time, ask, express, connect authentically.Layered loneliness: valuing connections, deeper isolation, worthiness doubts, fear, rationalisation.Relying solely on objects for emotional needsNeglecting physical appearanceChanges in sleepLoss of interest in activitiesHopelessness or helplessness.Traumatic experiences can lead to hoarding and social isolation as a protective mechanism.People in healing choose carefully who to share with Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Is this the hill you want to die on? Psychological flexibility, rigidity and hoarding with Dr Jan Eppingstall

Is this the hill you want to die on? Psychological flexibility, rigidity and hoarding with Dr Jan Eppingstall

Subscribe to the podcast - https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Today, I'm looking at psychological flexibility and rigidity with Dr. Jan Eppingstall. Join us as we explore the impact of changing hoarding behaviours and learn about Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) as a powerful tool in addressing psychological inflexibility. Discover the six core processes of psychological flexibility and inflexibility, and gain insights into challenging rigid beliefs. We'll also discuss the role of curiosity and acceptance in fostering adaptability and open-mindedness. So, grab your headphones and get ready for an enlightening conversation on embracing change and overcoming psychological rigidity. Importance of Psychological Flexibility in HoardingPsychology inflexibility's role in hoarding behaviourImpact on life satisfactionApplication to all humans, not just clinical pathologiesAcceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) as a Model for Psychological Adaptability and HealthThe 6 core processes of psychological flexibility and inflexibilityAcceptance vs. experiential avoidanceDiffusion vs. cognitive fusionFlexible attention to the present moment vs. inflexible attentionSelf as context vs. attachment to conceptualised selfCommitted action vs. inactivity or impulsivityHexaflex and its originChanging BehavioursTrying new things, compromising, and risk-takingChange in one area affecting various aspects of lifeTechniques for Managing Panic AttacksAddressing panic attacks through curiosity and acceptanceHealing experience of being understood and acceptedMacro and Micro PerspectivesTechniques such as meditation or mindfulness"Yes, And" Technique and Promoting Open-MindednessRole in promoting compromise and open-mindednessImportance of considering alternatives with a curious and open mindHoarding, rigidity, and psychological inflexibilityExperiential avoidance and ruminationInflexible actionsAdapt to different situations while staying true to your valuesTaking action towards values, maintaining psychological flexibility.Practice observing your thoughts through thought listingWorking on being less rigid, more flexible.Mediation in statistical analysis.Consider alternatives, embrace curiosity.Finding flexibility in perspective improves relationshipsValues to guide actions.Acceptance, understanding, and support from trusted individuals.Discussion on rigidity and inflexibility in hoarding, its correlation with various mental health issues.ACT academics aimed to create unified therapy model, different from DSM.Living in state of inaction, choosing values for action.Experiential avoidance, cognitive fusionACT for hoarding.Questioning negative thoughts, being psychologically flexible, and testing beliefs to overcome attachment to possessions.Flexibility vs. avoidance in behaviour and mindset.Awareness of thoughts and feelings helps in making wise decisions.Being creative and adaptable in different contextsPeople may act differently in various situations, but there is a constant sense of self.Neurodiversity may impact ability to visualize or notice thoughts.Struggling with rigidity and flexibility, challenging it.Questioning values, flexibility, and inflexibility in decision-making and life choices."Yes, and."Actions not matching with valuesThought listing exercise to align with values. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Couples and hoarding: An interview with relationship therapist Laura Silverstein

Couples and hoarding: An interview with relationship therapist Laura Silverstein

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Time management and hoarding: How living in a hoard impacts your time, stress and productivity

Time management and hoarding: How living in a hoard impacts your time, stress and productivity

Subscribe to the podcast - https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe I take a look at the time-consuming nature of living in a hoard, including the impact of clutter on daily life. I cover the stress, procrastination, and decision fatigue that come with hoarding to shed light on the ways in which hoarding not only affects our living spaces but also consumes valuable time. Tune in for a candid conversation that challenges perceptions and offers a fresh perspective on the journey to overcome compulsive hoarding. Questioning time for tidying in a cluttered life. Gradual realisation about time consumption.Tidying takes time, hoarding takes longer.Organising the kitchen, decluttering, and categorising food items.Knowing where things are saves time.Reducing possessions saves time and effort.Hoarding makes cleaning harder and time-consuming.Rethink hoarding, liberate yourself, save future time.American society invented the concept of human failure.Organising saves time and reduces clutter.Having too much stuff makes cleaning difficult and time-consuming.The burden of hoarding and time wastedReframing thoughts to improve decluttering.The concept of human failure was an American invention due to a capitalist society.The misconception of tidy people spending all their time cleaning and tidying.The realisation that living in hoarding is time-consuming due to the difficulties caused by clutter.The Impact of Hoarding on Daily LifeThe stress and time wasted in finding everyday items in a hoarded home.Decision-making process and procrastination caused by overwhelming clutter.Cleaning Challenges and Time ManagementThe additional time required for cleaning and maintenance in a hoarded home.The difficulty of keeping a hoarded home clean compared to a neat and tidy home.The liberating aspect of dehoarding by freeing up time for the future. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Overcoming overspending with Paige Pritchard, Money Coach

Overcoming overspending with Paige Pritchard, Money Coach

Subscribe to the podcast - https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Today, I am joined by the insightful Paige Pritchard, a money coach and the owner of the Overcoming Overspending community. Together, we dig into the complexities of overspending, addressing its emotional roots and psychological impact on individuals' lives. Paige offers invaluable insights into understanding the deeper motivations behind spending habits and emphasises the need to reclaim control and satisfaction in life. We discuss practical strategies, such as the "urge jar" to create distance from impulsive buying and find fulfilment without overspending. Join us as we explore the psychological effects of spending habits and discover empowering approaches to overcome overspending. Overspending definedImpact of shopping on time, relationships, confidence.Men face stigma for impulse spending, too.Striving for perfectionProducts tied to identity and feelingsResist urge to splurgeAnticipation brings more pleasure than actual events.Recognise brain's responseIndividual approach: abstainer vs moderator.YNAB for budget transparency.Budgeting software provides helpful transparency for planning.Impact of shopping on time, relationships, and financial confidence.Perfectionism and spending habitsConsumerism links products to identities and emotionsDelay impulse buyingBaseline awareness of brain's response to threatsNo spend challengesPersonal spending behaviourSigns of overspendingFinancial implicationsTime spent on shopping and acquiringImpact on relationshipsFinancial self-confidenceImpact on environment and clutterUnderstanding Motivations and Emotional Experiences Behind Spending Aspirational spendingConsumer cultureDeeper motivations behind spending habitsImpact of spending habits on psychological wellbeingDeeper reasons behind excessive spendingRegaining a sense of controlEscaping lifeManaging Impulse BuyingScarcity Spending The "urge jar" as a toolForm a new habit loopDopamine without spending money.Fear of missing outManaging RegretDecision MakingInevitability of emotionsImplications of extreme approaches.Budgeting softwareManaging annual expensesPsychological perspective behind impulsive buyingCreating distance before making a purchase.Impact of social media on contributing to overconsumptionDownplaying shopping addiction.The seriousness of shopping addiction and its effect on people's lives, especially for women. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Insight and hoarding with Dr Jan Eppingstall: Unravelling anosognosia, clutter blindness, denial, psychological reactance and overvalued ideation

Insight and hoarding with Dr Jan Eppingstall: Unravelling anosognosia, clutter blindness, denial, psychological reactance and overvalued ideation

Subscribe to the podcast - https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Today with Dr Jan Eppingstall I explore the nuanced concept of insight in hoarding. From defining overvalued ideation to understanding the levels of insight, we unravel the challenges individuals face in recognising and addressing their hoarding behaviours. Through personal experiences, expert advice, and valuable research insights, this episode sheds light on personalised treatment approaches, effective communication strategies, and the importance of empathy and compassion. Get ready to gain a deeper understanding of hoarding disorder and discover practical ways to support individuals on their journey to overcoming compulsive hoarding. Insight into HoardingLevels and Types of InsightInsight Variability Among IndividualsFactors Influencing Insight (e.g. Comorbidity, Trauma, Life Experiences)Insight Study by Helena Drury and ColleaguesInsight in Diagnosis of Hoarding DisorderRelationship Between Hoarding Severity, Self-Criticism, Shame, and Preservation of Self-ConceptOvercoming Clutter BlindnessGetting Rid of Things and Challenging ThoughtsTaking Photographs of Living SpacesVulnerability in Showing Spaces to Someone ElseExposing Oneself to Getting Rid of Things and Challenging ThoughtsIdentifying and Addressing Lack of InsightAnosognosia and Overvalued IdeationReflecting Feelings and ThoughtsThe LEAP Technique for Support People, Coaches, and TherapistsUnderstanding Hoarding BehaviourMotivations Behind Hoarding TendenciesDefensive Denial and Psychological ReactanceDemographics and Characteristics of Hoarders in Research Settings and Community ServicesNeurocognitive Damage and Insight into Hoarding BehaviorCommunication and Approach in Supporting HoardersValidating Concerns and Correcting MisunderstandingsEmpathetic and Compassionate ApproachUsing "Yes, And" Technique in ConversationsTailoring Therapy Approach for Hoarding ClientsTreating things as an ExperimentImportance of Curiosity and Playfulness in Therapy ApproachLimitations of Manualised Treatments Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Clearing hoarding hurdles: Anticipating and overcoming roadblocks in the dehoarding process

Clearing hoarding hurdles: Anticipating and overcoming roadblocks in the dehoarding process

Subscribe to the podcast - https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe By acknowledging potential roadblocks ahead, we can prepare emotionally and practically for upcoming challenges and even get more efficient when we’re dehoarding. I talk about the importance of being proactive, realistic, creative and adaptable when facing obstacles, while also seeking professional support when needed. I look at the need for planning, prioritising, and breaking down tasks into smaller chunks to overcome difficulties. Anticipating obstacles improves efficiency and motivation.Anticipating challenges leads to proactive decision-making.Anticipate obstacles, reflect, and evaluate for success.Stay open to possibilities, prepare for obstacles.Planning can overcome mental obstacles for success.Preparing for challenges in dehoarding process.Anticipate challenges and plan preventive measures.Allow yourself rest, plan ahead, ask for help.Anticipating obstacles while working. Subconscious problem-solving.Anticipating obstacles improves efficiency and reduces discouragement.Anticipating challenges improves decision-making, reduces panic. Being proactive is key.Planning to deal with nostalgic stuff eventually, while focusing on current tasks and building up decluttering skills.Anticipate and adapt to obstacles, focus on progress rather than completion. Reflection and objective evaluation are key.Stay open to possibilities, prepare with needed supplies, seek advice on overcoming obstacles from others.Address decision fatigue, burnout, and overwhelm to avoid stops and starts and make consistent progress.Prepare for challenges, gain confidence from past experiences.Anticipate and prevent burnout by pacing work, taking breaks.Take days off even if it feels wrong. Plan ahead and seek help.Tip for calming mindImportance of Anticipating ObstaclesBenefits of problem-solving and emotional preparednessImproving efficiency and momentum in the decluttering processAssisting in planning, prioritising, and decision-makingOvercoming ChallengesDifficulty of anticipating obstacles, particularly for novicesLeveraging experience to anticipate and surmount obstaclesAdaptability, creativity, and flexibility in addressing anticipated obstaclesThe value of trust, resourcefulness, and forward planningNostalgic items as potential distractions and triggersThe importance of realistic goal setting and objective evaluationAnticipating Logistical ChallengesEnsuring necessary supplies are availableLearning from others' experiences with obstacles and their solutionsImportance of planning, breaking down tasks, and consistent progress Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How the little-known Hummingbird Method can help you to dehoard the areas you’ve been avoiding

How the little-known Hummingbird Method can help you to dehoard the areas you’ve been avoiding

Subscribe to the podcast - https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Today I delve into my experiences of overcoming avoidant behaviours when it comes to decluttering. I share how the Hummingbird Method has been instrumental in breaking down the fear and anxiety associated with tackling daunting hoarded areas. Join me as I explore the power of gentle, gradual progress and the freedom that comes from challenging rigid beliefs and behaviours. New method for managing tasks: hummingbird method.Overcoming fearsUse the hummingbird method to beat procrastination.Versatile method adaptable for different tasks and problems.Challenging rigid beliefs to overcome hoarding habits.Experiment, try new things, open new doors.Gentle approach to tasks.Change is necessary for progress.Trying new things, starting small.Understanding the Difficulties of Letting GoThe fear and difficulty involved in letting go of hoarded itemsThe sense of freedom and positive change that can result from letting goExploring hummingbirdingOvercoming inflexible behavior and thinking through the hummingbird methodThe daunting piles were not as intimidating as imaginedChallenging limiting rules and stepping into avoided areas to confront tasksEmbracing a New ApproachEncouragement to experiment and try new ways of approaching difficult tasksStarting with small steps, such as opening the cellar doorThe passive nature of the "Hummingbird method" in breaking down avoidance barriersComparison to a kitten gradually expanding boundaries to become more comfortableApplying the Hummingbird MethodUsing the method to tackle fears and avoidance behavioursGradually familiarising yourself with daunting tasks or situationsIllustrative examples of avoiding tasks and gradually confronting themComparing the method to a child overcoming a fear of balloons at a partyThe importance of flexibility and openness in challenging rigid beliefs and behavioursOne tool in a range of strategiesRecognising that there is no one-size-fits-all solution for overcoming hoarding and avoidance behaviours Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The emotional impact of emergency dehoarding: confronting paralysis, shame, terror, panic and exhaustion

The emotional impact of emergency dehoarding: confronting paralysis, shame, terror, panic and exhaustion

Subscribe to the podcast - https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe In today's episode, I delve into the emotional impact of emergency dehoarding. Over the last few weeks, I've faced the daunting task of decluttering my home in preparation for an impending electrical testing. I explore the rollercoaster of emotions, from terror and shame to motivation and determination, as I grapple with the challenges of addressing my hoarding situation. Join me as I uncover the journey of navigating through the paralysis and panic to making progress, all while acknowledging the emotional and physical toll of the process. Stay tuned for practical insights, personal revelations, and a determined commitment to moving forward and not slipping back. Overcoming fear and making progress step-by-step.Planned time off and charity donation preparation.Anticipated shame, ensuring access, fluctuating emotions.Continual progress and proactive cleanup mindset.Therapist support pivotal.Overcoming challenges with tools and focus.Cannot sustain that intensity, but need to keep moving.Making rooms accessible.Overcoming challenges one step at a time, managing panic and making progress amid fear.Took time off, arranged charity collection.Struggling with hoarding shame, balancing pragmatism and terror.Focus on forward movement and addressing small tasks promptly.Realising the value of decluttering and talking to therapist.Facing challenges, equipped with tools and deadline.Unable to sustain pace, seeking balance and progress.Despite challenges, maintaining progress is beneficial in the long run.The emotional impact of emergency dehoardingParalysis and panic when faced with the task of dehoarding the houseOvercoming initial resistance and taking gradual action to prepare for impending electrical testingManaging emotions of terror, shame, and exhaustion during the processFinding motivation in focusing on progress and benefits of a cleaner homeCoping with difficult tasks by reminding myself that it all had to be doneCreating a loose daily plan to guide effortsBooking a charity collection for excess belongings providing practical assistance and motivationAcknowledging the imperfect nature of the donation process but recognising its necessityThe role of support from a therapist and knowledge gained from a podcast about hoarding in managing the processDeveloping a "toolbox" of knowledge and strategies through podcast, interviews, research, and listener storiesThe benefits of having a deadline to stay focused and make progress in the hoarding situationReflecting on the improved hoarding situation and the emotional and physical toll of the processAcknowledging the progress made and the determination to continue moving forward and not slip backMaking a conscious effort to avoid reverting to old habits, aiming to maintain balance and not let up on efforts to overcome compulsive hoarding Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

From ’it’ll do’ to ’make do’

From ’it’ll do’ to ’make do’

Subscribe to the podcast - https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe After a year where my subverted phrase of the year was "it'll do", I talk about how I'm hoping to continue shedding perfectionism and learn to be more resourceful and adaptable. Tune in to hear all about it. 2023 phrase "it will do" calms my perfectionist anxietyStriving for tidiness, resisting hoarding tendenciesRetiring items when its purpose has been fulfilledEmbracing "it'll do" mentality for 2023 led to less stress and overthinking, allowing for more focus on important things.Hoarders struggle with using what they have, but I'm seeking to become more adaptable and resourceful.Facing challenges in decluttering, balancing desire for tidiness and fear of letting go.Desire to reduce waste, finding satisfaction in finishing products.Examples of how "it'll do" helped me make decisions and reduce stress.Introduction of the new phrase for 2024, "make do," which emphasises resourcefulness and adaptability.The influence of financial awareness in choosing the new phrase.Desire to engage more with possessions.Exploring the contradiction in hoarders' tendencies to find multiple uses for items to justify keeping them but not being resourceful in other ways.The impact of perfectionism on the desire for the "perfect" item and the challenge to accept what is adequate.The potential risk of using "make do" as an excuse to keep everything and the need for balance.The acknowledgement of challenges in embracing "make do" and the importance of trusting the process.Finding pleasure in finishing and using up items as a result of a shift in perspective.Personal examples of feeling a sense of achievement in using items fully.Comparing the emotional attachment to well-used items versus unused items.The aim of "make do" to encourage thoughtful use of possessions and sustainable engagement with them. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.