The Intimacy Lab

In this engaging conversation, Michelle Renee and Darren Cyrus explore the intricate world of intimacy, touch work, and sexual healing. They discuss the nuances of navigating boundaries in touch therapy, the importance of consent, and the differences between sexual healing touch and sexological bodywork. Through personal anecdotes and reflections, they highlight the significance of comfort, vulnerability, and the shared experiences of touching different bodies. The dialogue also touches on the role of pausing and listening in intimate connections, as well as the social aspects of sharing food and experiences. Ultimately, they reflect on life transitions and the realization of one's own limitations. They discuss body image, vulnerability, and the journey of self-acceptance, particularly in the context of nudity and intimacy. The conversation also explores the supportive community of intimacy professionals and the exploration of sexuality within relationships, emphasizing the importance of curiosity and self-discovery. In this conversation, Michelle and Darren delve into the complexities of trust, relationship dynamics, and the spectrum of sexual attraction. They explore the nuances of monogamy and polyamory, discussing how open communication and consent shape their relationships. The discussion also touches on the role of kink and BDSM in personal healing and the importance of curiosity in exploring one's sexuality. Ultimately, they emphasize the significance of integrating these experiences into their professional lives, fostering a deeper understanding of intimacy and connection. Darren Cyrus (he/him) is a Licensed Massage Therapist, Certified Sexological Bodyworker, and owner of Bear Soul Wellness in Old Town Manassas, Virginia. Learn more at https://BearSoulWellness.com. He can be found on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/bearsoulwellness and https://www.instagram.com/the_darren_experience Michelle Renee (she/her) is a San Diego-based Human Connection Coach and Cuddle Therapist. Michelle's websites are ⁠https://meetmichellerenee.com⁠⁠ and ⁠https://humanconnectioncoach.com⁠ and she can be found on social media at ⁠https://instagram.com/meetmichellerenee⁠. If you’d like to ask a question, for Michelle to answer on an episode, https://www.meetmichellerenee.com/podcast Links from today's show: A video of the walk down to Black’s Beach in San Diego: https://youtu.be/vXrKvKG41hM?si=jNPTMJwVJnVGZnUX Spending Time Naked With Strangers Can Improve Body Image by Justin J. Lehmiller Ph.D.: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-myths-of-sex/202102/spending-time-naked-with-strangers-can-improve-body-image To grab your own set of We’re Not Really Strangers https://amzn.to/47XJjvm

In this engaging conversation, Michelle Renee and Michael Guichet explore themes of vulnerability, connection, and the complexities of personal and professional boundaries. They discuss the use of card games as tools for deeper conversations, the challenges of surrogate partner therapy, and the importance of self-care and support systems. The dialogue also touches on the struggles of adulting, the need for help in logistics, and the reflections on social energy and introversion. In this engaging conversation, Michael Guichet and Michelle Renee explore the dynamics of relationships, the importance of asking for help, and the intersection of personal and professional identities. They discuss the challenges of being an introvert married to an extrovert, the role of mentorship in personal growth, and the complexities of emotional processing in intimate settings. The conversation also delves into social interactions, boundaries in therapeutic relationships, and the significance of understanding one's internal critic. Michael Guichet, LMFT, is a sex therapist in Santa Cruz and Monterey, California. You can find him at ⁠https://michaelguichetsextherapy.com/⁠ Michelle Renee (she/her) is a San Diego-based Human Connection Coach and Cuddle Therapist. Michelle's websites are⁠ ⁠https://meetmichellerenee.com⁠⁠⁠ and⁠ ⁠https://humanconnectioncoach.com⁠⁠ and she can be found on social media at⁠ ⁠https://instagram.com/meetmichellerenee⁠⁠. If you’d like to ask a question, for Michelle to answer on an episode, ⁠https://www.meetmichellerenee.com/podcast⁠. *Note, I'm cutting back on the amount of resources I share as it takes a lot of time to pull them and I'm finding myself not putting out new episodes due to the time requirement. My compromise to myself is to put in less time. Thanks for understanding that is a hard area to cut as someone who prides herself as a "resource maven". I trust you can google and find what you need. To grab your own set of We’re Not Really Strangers ⁠https://amzn.to/47XJjvm⁠

In this episode of the Intimacy Lab, Michelle Renee and Nat delve into the complexities of intimacy, coercion, and personal growth within relationships. They explore the impact of social media on sexual awareness, the nuances of desire and arousal, and the importance of communication and consent. Through personal anecdotes and shared experiences, they highlight the journey towards understanding one's own sexual autonomy and the challenges faced in navigating intimate relationships. In this conversation, Michelle and Nat delve into the complexities of emotional abuse, healing, and the journey towards self-worth and empowerment. They discuss the importance of consent and communication in relationships, the challenges of navigating difficult conversations, and the significance of personal growth and finding one's calling. Through their experiences, they highlight the need for self-awareness and the courage to prioritize one's own needs and boundaries. Nat started on Tiktok and has turned her life experience into a platform with the start of the hashtag #maritalcoercion. Her IG profile reads, "Writer, lover, mother, awakening to higher love after abuse and talking about it way too much." I love that about Nat! She is drawing attention to a hot topic that needs more conversation! You can learn more at https://alwaysmending.com. Michelle Renee (she/her) is a San Diego-based Platonic Intimacy Guide and Surrogate Partner. Michelle's websites are ⁠https://meetmichellerenee.com⁠⁠ and ⁠https://humanconnectioncoach.com⁠ and she can be found on social media at ⁠https://instagram.com/meetmichellerenee⁠. If you’d like to ask a question for Michelle to answer on an episode: https://www.meetmichellerenee.com/episode Links from today's show: https://mendingme.substack.com The Cost of Duty Sex: https://youtu.be/7pWGTzhtS24?si=HXjzXHsq8uXS_VHw Rebecca's inner child moment on Ted Lasso: https://youtu.be/-Zo4NWUxhf0?si=2GrI3UhOmVu5HpBu To grab your own set of We’re Not Really Strangers https://amzn.to/47XJjvm A transcript is available at https://meetmichellerenee.com/episode/15

In this conversation, Michelle Renee and Leela Sinha discuss the concepts of intensives and expansives. They explore how intensives are passionate, risk-tolerant, and make unexpected connections, while expansives are steady, reliable, and prefer predictable environments. They also discuss the importance of understanding and appreciating both types of personalities. Overall, the conversation highlights the value of self-awareness and finding balance between intensity and steadiness. Leela Sinha is a coach and author. Leela created The Intensive Institute and wrote the book You're Not Too Much. You can find Leela and the book at https://IntensiveInstitute.com. Michelle Renee (she/her) is a San Diego-based Platonic Intimacy Guide and Surrogate Partner. Michelle's websites are https://meetmichellerenee.com⁠ and https://humanconnectioncoach.com and she can be found on social media at https://instagram.com/meetmichellerenee. If you’d like to ask a question, for Michelle to answer on an episode, https://www.meetmichellerenee.com/podcast Links from today's show: *Note, I'm cutting back on the amount of resources I share as it takes a lot of time to pull them and I'm finding myself not putting out new episodes due to the time requirement. My compromise to myself is to put in less time. Thanks for understanding that is a hard area to cut as someone who prides herself as a "resource maven". I trust you can google and find what you need. To grab your own set of We’re Not Really Strangers https://amzn.to/47XJjvm You're Not Too Much by Leela Sinha https://amzn.to/3YsPm9T

In this episode, Michelle Renee talks with her client, Judy. Judy discusses how her work with her therapist and Michelle has helped her feel safer in certain situations and has allowed her to challenge her beliefs about herself. She also talks about the importance of leaning into difficult emotions with curiosity and the process of relearning self-worth and self-care. In this final part of the conversation, Judy and Michelle Renee discuss the power of being raw and vulnerable with another person. They explore the idea of rewriting personal narratives and reframing past experiences. They also discuss the importance of physical touch and the role of surrogate partner therapy and cuddle therapy in healing relational wounds. Judy shares her journey of self-discovery and self-love, and expresses deep gratitude for the transformative work she has done with Michelle Renee and her therapist. Takeaways Asking for help is a brave and important step in healing and personal growth. Setting boundaries is essential for prioritizing mental health and self-care. Childhood experiences, even those that may seem small, can have a significant impact on adult life. Therapeutic love and support can be transformative in the healing process. Rewriting stories and reframing past experiences can lead to personal growth and healing. The triadic model, involving collaboration between therapist, client, and support system, can be highly effective in therapy. Recognizing triggers and understanding the symptoms of PTSD can help shift one's perspective on certain situations. Working with a therapist and a supportive touch professional can help create a sense of safety and challenge negative beliefs about oneself. Leaning into difficult emotions with curiosity can lead to healing and growth. Learning self-worth and self-care is a process that takes time and patience. Rewriting personal narratives and reframing past experiences can be transformative. Physical touch, such as in surrogate partner therapy and cuddle therapy, can play a crucial role in healing relational wounds. Self-discovery and self-love are essential for living a fulfilling life. Michelle Renee (she/her) is a San Diego-based Intimacy Guide and Surrogate Partner. Michelle's website is ⁠https://meetmichellerenee.com⁠ and can be found on social media at @meetmichellerenee. If you’d like to ask a question, for Michelle to answer on an episode, https://www.meetmichellerenee.com/podcast To grab your own set of We’re Not Really Strangers https://amzn.to/47XJjvm Links shared in today's episode: We’re Not Really Strangers Healing Edition https://www.werenotreallystrangers.com/collections/shop-all/products/healing-edition The_emdr_coach on IG https://www.instagram.com/reel/C7TvzAyMtP2/?igsh=Z2JyMWlna3FtM21t The Power of Journaling blog post https://www.meetmichellerenee.com/blog/journaling Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) test https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2015/03/02/387007941/take-the-ace-quiz-and-learn-what-it-does-and-doesnt-mean Polar bear shaking off trauma https://youtu.be/xDlR-wl7iFI?si=QffFsOYMTTTG7b2R The myth of self regulation https://youtu.be/91tUxJq12gc?si=6mTBE9PQAw5_-fIy Setting Boundaries that Stick by Julianne Taylor Shore https://amzn.to/459NdkW Complex PTSD from Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker https://amzn.to/4e1QfeW Pitsburg Action Against Rape https://paar.net/

In this conversation, Michelle Renee and her Michigan wife discuss their friendship and the changes they have experienced. They talk about their history, including how they met and their journey through polyamory. They also discuss the importance of communication and adjusting expectations in relationships. The conversation then shifts to their personal journeys with weight loss and body image, as well as the societal pressure around body count. They share their experiences with weight loss surgery and the impact it has had on their confidence and physical well-being. Overall, the conversation highlights the importance of self-acceptance and finding joy in personal growth.  Takeaways The importance of open and honest communication in relationshipsThe need to adjust expectations and labels in relationships to maintain a strong connectionThe impact of weight loss surgery on confidence and physical well-beingThe societal pressure and judgment around body count and the importance of self-acceptance Bariatric surgery can be a life-changing experience, but it is important to have proper follow-up care and support.Weight loss medication can be a helpful tool in the weight loss journey, providing a feeling of fullness and reducing food noise.Weight loss is not always within one's control, and it is important to have empathy and support for those on their weight loss journey.The journey to weight loss involves both physical and mental changes, and it is important to prioritize mental health and self-care.Understanding and accepting that weight loss is a lifelong journey can help in setting realistic expectations and maintaining long-term success. It is important to be mentally prepared for surgery and to have a good support system.Do what is best for you and don't shame yourself for considering weight loss surgery.Feeling comfortable and free in your body is a significant positive change.Having supportive and trusting friendships is invaluable.DIY projects can bring joy and a sense of accomplishment.Expressing love and appreciation for others strengthens relationships.Living together with close friends can be a fulfilling and complementary experience. Michelle Renee (she/her) is a San Diego-based Platonic Intimacy Guide and Surrogate Partner. Michelle's website is ⁠https://meetmichellerenee.com⁠ and can be found on social media at @meetmichellerenee. If you’d like to ask a question, for Michelle to answer on an episode, click here. To grab your own set of We’re Not Really Strangers, click here. The video version of this episode is available on Spotify and on Youtube. Links from today's episode: Friendship edition of We’re Not Really Strangers: https://amzn.to/3ywpy1E Kids editions of We’re Not Really Strangers: https://amzn.to/4avj4O0 Shrill on Hulu or https://amzn.to/4dNJ0qN First time rock climbing video: https://youtu.be/YPa4af-DMgQ?si=EA-kChLkPA5x3z10

In this conversation, Michelle Renee and Janie Michael discuss their experiences as professional cuddlers and the importance of community in their work. They also play a card game called We're Not Really Strangers, which prompts them to share personal stories and memories. Janie shares her journey as a cuddler in different locations, including Oregon, Seattle, and Germany. Michelle reflects on the changes in her practice and the impact of COVID-19. They both discuss their earliest memories of happiness and the healing process in their relationships with their parents. In this conversation, Michelle and Janie discuss their personal experiences with healing and growth, particularly in relation to their relationships with their parents. They explore the importance of communication, vulnerability, and taking responsibility for one's emotional maturity. They also touch on the power of sexuality and the role it can play in healing and self-discovery. The conversation highlights the need to trust oneself, listen to one's body, and engage in ongoing self-reflection and self-care. Takeaways Professional cuddling provides opportunities for deep connection and communication through touch.Building a supportive community is important for professional cuddlers, as it allows for networking and sharing experiences.COVID-19 has changed the landscape of professional cuddling, leading to shifts in practice and a greater variety of clients.Early memories of happiness can shape our understanding of joy and playfulness in adulthood.Healing and reconciliation in parent-child relationships can bring a sense of wholeness and closure. Effective communication and expressing one's needs is essential for personal growth and healing.Taking responsibility for one's emotional maturity and acknowledging past mistakes is important for building healthier relationships.Sexuality can be a powerful tool for healing and self-discovery.Trusting oneself, listening to one's body, and engaging in ongoing self-reflection and self-care are key to personal growth and well-being. Janie Michael is a facilitator for personal transformation and a restorative touch and connection provider. She supports people in transforming emotional baggage and undesirable patterns into sensual aliveness, connection, joy, and empowerment. Additionally, she offers coaching for making intimacy, sex, and relating conscious, fulfilling, and evolutionary. She can be found at: https://intimacycoachjanie.com or email at janie@intimacycoachjanie.com Michelle Renee (she/her) is a San Diego-based Intimacy Guide and Surrogate Partner. Michelle's website is ⁠https://meetmichellerenee.com⁠ and can be found on social media at @meetmichellerenee. If you’d like to ask a question, for Michelle to answer on an episode, click here. To grab your own set of We’re Not Really Strangers, click here.

In this conversation, Michelle Renee and Nikita Fernandes discuss their connection in the therapy world and their passion for sexual healing. They explore the importance of platonic intimacy, body image work, and the power of touch. They also share their go-to outfits for a booty call and the things they love to receive but have a hard time asking for. The conversation ends with a discussion about the hottest things someone has said in bed. In this conversation, Michelle and Nikita discuss various topics related to sexuality and sexual health. They talk about the importance of communication and making noise during sexual encounters, as well as the significance of self-pleasure and self-care. They also touch on the stigma surrounding herpes and the need for education and support for individuals with STIs. Nikita shares her upcoming projects, including becoming a licensed therapist and speaking at a conference on sexual health and mental health. Michelle discusses Soft Cock Week and her upcoming TV appearance. They emphasize the importance of body positivity and acceptance in sexual relationships. Takeaways Platonic intimacy is essential for rekindling sexual intimacy in relationships.Body image work and exploring non-genital zones can be incredibly erotic.It's important to communicate and ask for what you want in bed.Vocalization and affirmative consent can enhance sexual experiences.Being naked in public can help overcome body image issues.Touching and exploring different pleasure points can build anticipation and desire. Communication and making noise during sexual encounters can enhance pleasure and indicate enjoyment.Self-pleasure and self-care are important aspects of sexual well-being.There is a need for education and support for individuals with STIs, particularly in reducing the stigma surrounding herpes.The conference on sexual health and mental health provides a platform for discussing the impact of STIs on mental well-being and promoting education and awareness.Body positivity and acceptance are crucial in fostering healthy sexual relationships. Nikita Fernandes (she/her) a Mental Health Therapist-LP and Sex Therapist based in New York City. She can be found at ⁠https://healingwithnikita.com⁠ or email at nikita@texgibson.com. Michelle Renee (she/her) is a San Diego-based Intimacy Guide and Surrogate Partner. Michelle's website is⁠ ⁠https://meetmichellerenee.com⁠⁠ and can be found on social media at @meetmichellerenee. If you’d like to ask a question, for Michelle to answer on an episode, ⁠click here⁠. To grab your own set of We’re Not Really Strangers, ⁠click here⁠. Links from today's episode: ⁠https://AASECT.org⁠ ⁠ https://www.briangibney.org/⁠ ⁠ https://www.surrogatepartnercollective.org/⁠ ⁠https://embracespt.org⁠ ⁠https://humanconnectioncoach.com/resources⁠ Asexuality episode: ⁠https://www.meetmichellerenee.com/episode/7⁠ Spoon Theory: ⁠https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spoon_theory⁠ We’re Not Really Strangers XXX Adult Edition: ⁠https://amzn.to/44e7XXY⁠ Naked with Strangers Article: ⁠https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-myths-sex/202102/spending-time-naked-strangers-can-improve-body-image⁠ Something Positive for Positive People: ⁠https://www.spfpp.org/⁠ Something Positive for Positive People Safe Sex Expo: ⁠https://www.spfpp.org/offerings/p/safe-sex-expo⁠ STI Risk Chart: ⁠https://www.sfcityclinic.org/patient-education-resources/std-risk-chart⁠ ⁠https://softcockweek.com⁠ Sex Sells on FuseTV, Season 3 - Episode 5: ⁠https://amzn.to/3JA8Twt⁠

Summary In this teaser episode, Michelle Renee provides an update on the restructuring of the podcast for Season 2. She shares her personal healing journey and compares it to peeling layers of an onion. Michelle discusses the cycle of woundedness to healing and the continuous process of self-development. She gives a preview of the upcoming episodes for Season 2 and emphasizes the importance of taking time to ensure the podcast brings her joy. Michelle encourages listeners to engage by submitting questions or comments. Takeaways The healing journey is a continuous process of growth and self-discovery.Embracing self-development can be a fulfilling and transformative experience.The cycle of woundedness to healing involves going back and forth between healing and facing new challenges.Engaging with listeners and incorporating their questions and comments adds value to the podcast. To send a comment or ask a question, go to IntimacyLabPodcast.com Follow Michelle on social media @MeetMichelleRenee The video version of this podcast is available on Spotify and Youtube Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Season Update 01:53 The Healing Journey 03:03 The Process of Healing 03:21 The Cycle of Woundedness to Healing 04:20 Embracing Self-Development 04:57 Season Two Preview 06:24 Restructuring the Podcast 06:54 Engaging with Listeners

In this conversation, Michelle Renee and David Khalili, MA, LMFT, discuss various topics related to connection, communication, and personal growth. They explore the importance of asking for help and setting boundaries, as well as the impact of goal-focused sex on relationships. They also discuss the role of journaling in emotional processing and the benefits of expanding the definition of sex. The conversation highlights the need for healthy endings and the value of working triadically to provide comprehensive support. Overall, the conversation emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, communication, and building strong connections. In this conversation, David Khalili discusses his favorite parts of the book on ⁠Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker⁠. He highlights the concepts of reparenting and the inner critic. The discussion then moves on to understanding the inner critic and outer critic and the toxic relationship between the two. David emphasizes the importance of playing a different game in life and finding alternative ways of succeeding. The conversation also explores the topics of verbal ventilation, permission for tears, and the significance of grief and mourning. The impact of nurturing and the broad scope of complex PTSD are discussed. Finally, David shares information about Rouse Relational Wellness and the therapy services they offer. David Khalili (he/him) is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, a board-certified sexologist, and the founder of Rouse Relational Wellness in San Fransisco. He can be found on social media at ⁠@rousetherapy⁠ and at ⁠https://www.rousetherapy.com⁠ Michelle Renee (she/her) is a San Diego-based Intimacy Guide and Surrogate Partner. Michelle's website is ⁠⁠https://meetmichellerenee.com⁠⁠ and can be found on social media at ⁠@meetmichellerenee⁠. If you’d like to ask a question, for Michelle to answer on an episode, ⁠click here⁠. To grab your own set of We’re Not Really Strangers, ⁠click here⁠. Other Links from this episode: ⁠David Khalili on Get Nake with Dr Kate⁠ ⁠Reid's Formula for Difficult Conversations⁠ ⁠Sex Geek Summer Camp⁠ ⁠Reid on Bawdy Storytelling telling a Betty Dodson story⁠ Takeaways Asking for help and setting boundaries are essential for personal growth and healthy relationships. Goal-focused sex can lead to desperation and a lack of connection with partners. Journaling can be a powerful tool for emotional processing and self-reflection. Expanding the definition of sex can lead to more fulfilling and diverse sexual experiences. Healthy endings and working triadically can provide comprehensive support and promote personal growth. Reparenting and addressing the inner critic are important aspects of healing from Complex PTSD. Judging others and oneself is often a result of the toxic relationship between the inner critic and outer critic. Playing a different game in life and finding alternative ways of succeeding can help break free from constant self-criticism. Verbal ventilation and permission for tears are essential for emotional release and healing. Grief and mourning are necessary processes that should be acknowledged and supported. Complex PTSD can result from a lack of nurturing and emotional support. Taking breaks and engaging in comedy can be a helpful form of auto-regulation. The power of Golden Girls and other forms of comedy in improving mood and well-being. Rouse Relational Wellness offers a variety of therapy services focused on couples and sex therapy.

In this conversation, Michelle Renee and Grace Heer discuss the power of vulnerability and deep connection. They share personal experiences and insights on the importance of being authentic and open in relationships. They also explore the use of cards to deepen connections and create meaningful conversations. The conversation highlights the impact of vulnerability at events and the power of asking yourself what you need. They also discuss advice for mental health and self-care, as well as the process of figuring out what you want in life and listening to your body when making decisions. In this conversation, Michelle and Grace discuss the importance of exploring personal desires, taking care of mental health, recognizing the need for rest, listening to your body's signals, the importance of boredom and rest, balancing work and self-care, processing childhood experiences, and finding joy and self-care. Grace Heer is a professional cuddler, cuddle event facilitator, life coach, and end-of-life doula in Orange, CA. You can learn more about her at GracefulCuddles.com or on Facebook and Instagram at Grace Heer, Coaching and Cuddling. Links are on her website. Michelle Renee (she/her) is a San Diego-based Intimacy Guide and Surrogate Partner. Michelle's website is ⁠https://meetmichellerenee.com⁠ and can be found on social media at @meetmichellerenee. Takeaways Take the time to explore your personal desires and what you truly want in the moment.Prioritize your mental health and find small ways to make up for neglecting it.Recognize the signs of needing rest and create white space in your schedule.Listen to your body's signals and pay attention to what it needs.Embrace boredom and rest as essential for rejuvenation and creativity.Find a balance between work and self-care to avoid burnout.Take the time to process and heal from childhood experiences.Find joy in simple activities and prioritize self-care.Remember to prioritize your own needs and take breaks when necessary. If you’d like to ask a question, for Michelle to answer on an episode, ⁠click here⁠. To grab your own set of We’re Not Really Strangers, ⁠click here⁠. Links of note from today's episode: Michelle's Facebook 36 Questions to Fall in Love Kassandra Brown's Radical Listening Terry Real's book Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship

In this episode, Michelle and Adelina discuss the concept of earning vulnerability and the importance of feeling safe and supported in order to open up. They also explore the different levels of vulnerability and how trust is built over time. The conversation shifts to building friendships with colleagues in the sex-positive community and the unique connections that can be formed. They share personal stories of meeting influential figures in the field, such as Lucy Fielding and Dan Savage, and the impact these encounters had on their lives. In this part of the conversation, Michelle and Adelina discuss Michelle's experience with Dan Savage, the fear of rejection, the unpublished episode, self-reflection and validation, and the mystery behind it. They also talk about embracing their inner dork, the success of Soft Cock Week, the podcast journey, favorite takeaways from interviews, quotable moments, the challenges of recording, the Soft Cock Week events, the glitch and the help, the underlying message of Soft Cock Week, the beauty of free-form conversations, and the Intimacy Lab experiment. Takeaways Vulnerability is earned through feeling safe and supported.Different levels of vulnerability exist, from sharing personal experiences to entrusting someone with your care and life.Building friendships with colleagues in the sex-positive community can be a source of connection and understanding.Meaningful encounters with influential figures in the field can have a profound impact on personal and professional growth. Adelina Adler is a sex coach and sex educator based in Wilmington, NC. You can find Adelina on Instagram at ⁠@askaddyadler⁠. She is the host of ⁠Sexplorations! with Adelina Adler⁠ on Spotify. Michelle Renee (she/her) is a San Diego-based Intimacy Guide and Surrogate Partner. Michelle's website is⁠ ⁠https://meetmichellerenee.com⁠⁠ and can be found on social media at @meetmichellerenee. Have questions you'd like answered by Michelle or her guests? Leave them at IntimacyLabPodcast.com. Notes from today's show: Cuddlist Training Discount Soft Cock Week Podcast Interview with Paul on Queer Relationships, Queer Joy Joli Hamilton, polyamory coach We're Not Really Strangers How Cuddlist changed my life, podcast episode 3 Episode 4 where I answer the love question with Vanessa Brian Gibney, episode 2 Sara, episode 1 The Intimacy Professionals - more can be found here Psychnetworker Lucie Fielding's Trans Sex Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski Esther Perel's Mating in Captivity Get Naked with Dr Kate Episode with David Khalili David Khalili's books: Mental Health Workbook for Men and Sex Worriers Michelle's Newsletter Sign Up

In this episode, Michelle Renee is joined by Aubri Lancaster, an asexuality and aromanticism educator. They discuss the concepts of asexuality and aromanticism, providing a comprehensive understanding of these orientations. Michelle shares her personal journey and how she discovered her own asexuality. They also explore the connection between aphantasia and asexuality. The conversation highlights the importance of differentiating between sexual attraction and desire. In this conversation, Aubri Lancaster and Michelle Renee discuss personal desire and attraction, exploring intimacy beyond sex, different pathways to asexuality, navigating sexual attraction and desire, expanding the definition of intimacy, challenges in sex education and advocacy, the importance of language and understanding, and decentering sex in relationships. The conversation explores the topic of solo sex within committed relationships and the importance of communication and negotiation in maintaining a healthy sexual dynamic. It challenges the societal expectation that sex should only occur within a partnership and highlights the need for individuals to prioritize their own sexual satisfaction. The conversation emphasizes the significance of open dialogue and mutual understanding in navigating differences in sexual preferences. Overall, it encourages a shift towards more inclusive and personalized relationship agreements. Aubri Lancaster is an AASECT certified sexuality educator with a focus on asexuality and aromantisism. She can be found at ⁠AceSexEducation.com⁠ or @acesexeducation on social media. Check out Aubri's upcoming webinar "Am I Ace Enough?" Michelle Renee (she/her) is a San Diego-based Intimacy Guide and Surrogate Partner. Michelle's website is⁠ ⁠https://meetmichellerenee.com⁠⁠ and can be found on social media at @meetmichellerenee. Takeaways Understanding personal desire and attraction is a complex and individual experience.Intimacy can be experienced in various forms, including platonic, intellectual, and touch-based connections.Asexuality encompasses different pathways and experiences, and it is important to recognize and respect these diverse perspectives.Sexual attraction and desire can be separate from emotional and romantic connections.There are many ways to connect and experience pleasure beyond sexual activity.Sex education and advocacy face challenges in terms of societal norms and limited support.Language and understanding play a crucial role in exploring and accepting diverse sexual orientations and experiences.Relationships can prioritize different forms of connection and intimacy, and sex does not have to be the central focus. It is acceptable to prioritize solo sex even in committed partnerships.Lack of communication and understanding can lead to issues in sexual dynamics.Negotiating relationship agreements is crucial for establishing mutual satisfaction and avoiding societal expectations.Open dialogue and self-awareness are essential in navigating differences in sexual preferences. If you’d like to ask a question for Michelle to answer on an upcoming episode, click here. To grab your own set of We’re Not Really Strangers, click here. Links from today's episode: Aubri's Episode of The Bonding Hour Michelle's Episode of The Bonding Hour

In this episode, Michelle Renee interviews the Embrace Surrogate Partner Therapy Resource Group team about their mission to spread education and support for surrogate partner therapy. They discuss the upcoming training program called Hidden Treasures Touch Interventions from the Surrogate Partner Toolkit, which aims to provide professionals in the field with a comprehensive understanding of the therapy. The team emphasizes the importance of experiential learning and embodiment in this work and highlights the need for a standardized training program. They also discuss future offerings and the ongoing development of the field. Takeaways Surrogate partner therapy is a modality that combines touch-based somatic exercises with talk therapy to help clients explore emotional and physical intimacy in a safe and therapeutic environment.The Hidden Treasures Touch Interventions training program offers professionals in the field an opportunity to learn and practice a range of exercises and techniques used in surrogate partner therapy.Experiential learning and embodiment are key components of the training, allowing participants to gain a deeper understanding of the work and its impact on clients.The training program aims to bridge the gap between touch-based practitioners and talk therapists, providing a comprehensive toolkit for professionals working in the field of intimacy and relationships. Meet the Embrace SPT team (full bios are available here): Lou Hanson - Washington, DC Brian Gibney - Charlottesville, VA Jeannie Miller - Washington, DC Michelle Renee - San Diego, CA For more information about Embrace and their upcoming class, please go to EmbraceSPT.org and they can be found on social media @EmbraceSPT. Meet the host: Michelle Renee (she/her) is a San Diego-based Intimacy Guide and Surrogate Partner. Michelle's website is⁠⁠ MeetMichelleRenee.com⁠⁠⁠ and can be found on social media at @meetmichellerenee. Have questions you'd like answered by Michelle or her guests? Leave them at ⁠IntimacyLabPodcast.com⁠.

In this episode, Michelle Renee and Vanessa Cushing discuss their experience working together in the triadic model of therapy, specifically surrogate partner therapy. They explore the meaning of saying 'I love you' and the nuances of expressing love authentically. They also discuss the importance of digging deeper in therapy and using conversation cards to spark meaningful conversations. They highlight the evolution of surrogate partner therapy and its impact on clients' lives. The episode concludes with a discussion on the experience of feeling loved in therapy. This conversation explores the goal and benefits of surrogate partner therapy, the importance of therapist involvement, and the challenges and rewards of working in a triadic model. It emphasizes the value of community and the role of supervision in supporting the therapist and client. The conversation also highlights the need for clear boundaries and the impact of personal experiences on the therapeutic relationship. It concludes with a discussion on the satisfaction and positive outcomes of surrogate partner therapy, as well as the importance of expanding the definition of this approach. In this final part of the conversation, Michelle and Vanessa express their appreciation for each other and their friendship. They discuss the possibility of working together again in the future and express their excitement about meeting in person. They conclude the conversation with a warm exchange of gratitude and well wishes. Takeaways Expressing love authentically is more important than saying 'I love you' out of obligation.Digging deeper in therapy can lead to transformative experiences and personal growth.Surrogate partner therapy can provide unique support and opportunities for growth in areas of emotional and physical intimacy.The triadic model of therapy allows for collaboration and a holistic approach to addressing clients' needs.Feeling loved and cared for in therapy can have a profound impact on clients' self-worth and well-being. Surrogate partner therapy aims to help clients learn and generalize skills outside of the therapy setting.Therapist involvement in surrogate partner therapy provides additional support and guidance for clients.Working in a triadic model allows for checks and balances and helps ensure the client's progress and growth.The therapist's personal experiences and boundaries play a significant role in the therapeutic relationship.Surrogate partner therapy can lead to positive outcomes and significant personal growth for both the client and therapist. Expressing gratitude and appreciation for colleagues and friends is important.Building and maintaining professional relationships can lead to future collaborations.Meeting in person can strengthen connections and create a sense of familiarity.Closing a conversation with gratitude and well wishes leaves a positive impression. Vanessa Cushing (she/her) is a Licensed Professional Counselor in Miami, licensed in both Florida and Virginia. Her specialty is in sexual trauma. You can find out more about Vanessa at https://www.cushingcounseling.com and follow her at https://instagram.com/cushingcounseling. Michelle Renee (she/her) is a San Diego-based Intimacy Guide and Surrogate Partner. Michelle's website is ⁠https://meetmichellerenee.com⁠ and can be found on social media at @meetmichellerenee. Notes from this episode: Soft Cock Week Podcast Nathan Young 36 Questions to Fall in Love Andrew Heartman Psychnetworker Cuddlist Training Find a Cuddlist Andrew's Heartman's Class Collaborating with Surrogate Partners in Triadic Model through SurrogatePartnerCollective.org Akilah Riley Richardson Brian Gibney Somatic Sexuality Professionals Tamara Pincus Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker B68vtB4SG0Ar0i2Z4tIl

In this, Michelle's first solo podcast episode, she shares about what got her to her life's calling: intimacy. She was always comfortable talking about sex, but safe emotional and physical intimacy has been a struggle in her history. Learn who Michelle 1.0 was and how the journey to the current operating system (Michelle 4.0 or 5.0 - she's lost count) is due in large part to her getting into pro cuddling when she did. Also, a lovely tribute to the healing power of relationship. Takeaways Touch workers play a vital role in supporting and guiding their clients on their journey. Self-care is crucial for healers to maintain their well-being and effectiveness. Building trust with clients is essential for a successful healing relationship. Being a touch worker is a privilege and a rewarding experience. Michelle Renee (she/her) is a San Diego-based Intimacy Guide and Surrogate Partner. Michelle's website is ⁠https://meetmichellerenee.com⁠ and can be found on social media at @meetmichellerenee. Links from today's episode (some are affiliate links): We're Not Really Strangers: https://amzn.to/46MIIfDAdult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay C Gibson: https://amzn.to/3tvGJ0QComplex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker: https://amzn.to/45JYTtnWatch our Wedding Vows: https://www.meetmichellerenee.com/blog/weddingJoin my bi-weekly newsletter: https://bit.ly/mmrnewsletterCheck out the Cuddlist Basic Training and get 10% with this link: https://cuddlist.podia.com/cuddle-therapy-basic-training/6dnxo?coupon=REFERRAL

In this conversation, Michelle Renee and Brian Gibney discuss various aspects of dating and relationships. They explore the concept of nature's order versus culture's order, highlighting the importance of safety and communication in building intimate connections. They share their personal experiences with dating and navigating hookup culture. The conversation also delves into the significance of managing expectations, renegotiating relationships, and embracing adaptability. They emphasize the need for open and honest communication, as well as the importance of defining relationships based on individual needs and desires. In this conversation, Michelle and Brian discuss the principles and practices of dating and relationships. They emphasize the importance of being authentic and transparent in relationships, allowing for self-selection and compatibility. They also explore the idea of embracing all aspects of ourselves and finding partners who accept us fully. Creating intimacy and connection, choosing close relationships, maintaining boundaries and autonomy, and living the work outside of work are also discussed. Takeaways Safety and communication are crucial in building intimate connections.Managing expectations and renegotiating relationships are essential for personal growth and satisfaction.Labels and definitions in relationships can vary and should be based on individual needs and desires.Adaptability and open communication are key characteristics to look for in a partner. Be authentic and transparent in relationships, allowing for self-selection and compatibility.Embrace all aspects of yourself and find partners who accept you fully.Create intimacy and connection by showing up fully and allowing others to hold space for you.Maintain boundaries and autonomy, only getting involved when it personally affects you. Brian Gibney (he/him) is a reformed scientist, forever geek, and ex-circus performer. Now he's helping others as a surrogate partner, intimacy coach, educator, and advocate. He can be found on Instagram at https://instagram.com/brian_gibney_intimacy and at https://BrianGibney.org. Michelle Renee (she/her) is a San Diego-based Intimacy Guide and Surrogate Partner. Michelle's website is ⁠https://meetmichellerenee.com⁠ and can be found on social media at @meetmichellerenee. Links from today's episode: The video that inspired Michelle's poster in her office: https://vimeo.com/468113082/c8711f0dd6?fbclid=IwAR0K51Z1UeleQx8Bc1FdoWscqTcXMvBcDfUx1lL0m4G6ymuPETBRcV7heDAhttps://Fetlife.comhttps://cuddlist.com/michelleWheel of Consent: https://www.schoolofconsent.org/Polysecure by Jessica Fern: https://amzn.to/45btqQs Thanks for joining us! If you loved what you heard and want to leave us 5 stars, I invite you to leave a review on your favorite podcast app. If you'd like to ask a question, please use the form at IntimacyLabPodcast.com.

Join Michelle Renee and Sara Glass while they talk "Pussy Confidence". Michelle Renee is a San Diego-based Intimacy Guide and Surrogate Partner. Sara Glass is a San Diego-based creative, healer, and educator. Together they co-facilitate a workshop for vulva owners that supports body confidence and the power of self-pleasure. You can learn more about their workshop at https://AnUntamedLife.com. The next one is scheduled for Oct 14, 2023. Sara's website is https://www.psexperienceyou.com/ and can be found on social media at @psexperienceyou. Michelle's website is https://meetmichellerenee.com and can be found on social media at @meetmichellerenee. Links from today's episode: First article Michelle read about Betty Dodson Huberman Lab Podcast Episode 1 on Mental Health about agency and gratitude Cuddle Party Vagina: The New Biography Lioness Vibrator BodySex Workshop Scarleteen

Michelle Renee works as an intimacy guide, surrogate partner, and professional cuddler in San Diego, California. So often we think we have a sex problem when really we have an intimacy problem. Join her in her Intimacy Lab where she will share intimate conversations between her and her colleagues and friends, geeking out about sex and relationships.