Father and Joe

Father Boniface Hicks and Joseph Rockey Jr

Father and Joe is a podcast series of a continuing conversation about struggles and successes of being close to God. Father Boniface provides spiritual direction through problems of daily life. According to statistics of the average American's church habits - We went to church when we were forced to but somewhere along the way, we drifted away. The ultimate goal of this podcast is to help us get back to church, regardless of what faith you hold, and create a stronger union with God. read less
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Father and Joe 387: Rebuilding Family Bonds: Why Relationships Matter for Your Spiritual Journey
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Father and Joe 387: Rebuilding Family Bonds: Why Relationships Matter for Your Spiritual Journey
In this deeply insightful episode of Father and Joe, hosts Joe Rockey and Father Boniface Hicks tackle a pressing issue that affects countless Americans: the growing disconnect within families. Recent surveys reveal that over 50% of Americans feel a sense of dread or disinterest when it comes to seeing their family, particularly between adult children and their parents. This troubling trend of family disintegration isn’t just a societal issue—it’s a personal one. How do we heal broken family bonds, especially during the holidays or challenging seasons of life?Father Boniface draws on his Catholic perspective and personal experiences to shed light on the importance of family, no matter how difficult those relationships may seem. As he notes:“Heaven consists of a perfect communion of love between all persons. And that includes the people that you’ve canceled in your life.”The episode explores powerful motivations for working on strained relationships:Spiritual Growth: Healing family bonds isn’t just about earthly peace—it’s preparation for eternal communion.Self-Reflection: Relationships can reveal deeper issues in our own hearts, providing opportunities for personal growth.Evangelization: By reaching out to family members, we may be the catalyst for positive change in their lives, too.Joe also brings up the unique challenges of modern life, such as long distances, time constraints, and past grievances that may hold us back. Yet, as he highlights:“You can’t have incredibly negative relationships in one part of your life and consistently be amazing in another. Your relationships blend together, just like food coloring in icing.”This episode isn’t about glossing over genuine pain or abuse in families. Father Boniface acknowledges that there are times when boundaries are necessary for healing. However, for most of us, the call is clear: Rebuild. Reconnect. Forgive.Some of the key takeaways include:The Importance of Effort: Loving someone takes work. But every act of love, no matter how small, has eternal value.Addressing Fears: Reaching out might feel vulnerable, but as Joe says, “It’s amazing how much your life gets better by talking about something that might not even be perceived the same way by the other person.”Practical Steps for Reconnection: Instead of seeing family gatherings as a burden, view them as opportunities to strengthen bonds, share love, and heal wounds.If you’ve been struggling with family relationships, this episode is for you. Use it as an invitation to extend grace, understanding, and kindness to those closest to you—even when it’s hard.“No act of love is ever lost. This life really consists in making acts of love in one form or another.” — Father Boniface HicksDon’t let past misunderstandings hold you back. Start the journey toward healing today. And remember, the effort you put into family relationships now will echo into eternity.📢 We Want Your FeedbackIn episodes 383 and 384, we introduced specific drills to help you improve your relationships. If you’ve tried these, we’d love to hear about your experiences! Send your feedback to fatherandjoe@gmail.com.👉 Subscribe, Like, and ShareHelp us reach even more people with this message of love and reconciliation. Share this episode with someone who might need it, and don’t forget to subscribe for weekly insights.family relationships, healing family bonds, Catholic family advice, Father Boniface Hicks, Joe Rockey, faith and family, how to fix broken family relationships, forgiveness in families, overcoming family conflict, Catholic podcast, family struggles, rebuilding family unity, family reconciliation, holiday family tips, spiritual growth, love and forgiveness, Catholic teachings on family, family disconnection, strained relationships, healing emotional wounds, communication in familie
Father and Joe 386: Parenting, Trauma, and Building Resilient Relationships
Nov 19 2024
Father and Joe 386: Parenting, Trauma, and Building Resilient Relationships
How can we navigate parenting, relationships, and emotional growth in a world filled with challenges? In this heartfelt episode of Father and Joe, Joe Rockey and Father Boniface Hicks dive deep into the art of parenting, emotional resilience, and building meaningful relationships. Drawing from personal experiences, psychological insights, and spiritual perspectives, they discuss topics that resonate with parents, couples, and anyone seeking to strengthen their connections with loved ones and with God.Joe begins with a personal parenting story about his son, who experienced a small but meaningful injury, sparking reflections on the importance of communication and emotional understanding in relationships. “A lot of times we don’t know the right question to ask,” Joe observes, echoing a theme we all face in our daily interactions. How do we truly understand others, or even teach our children to ask the right questions? Joe’s story sets the stage for Father Boniface to offer wisdom on navigating life’s challenges with empathy and faith.Father Boniface shares a powerful insight: “Trauma happens not so much from the pain itself, but from being alone in the pain.” Using an example from Bonnie Badenoch’s The Heart of Trauma, he illustrates the crucial role of secure relationships in helping children—and adults—process difficult emotions. Whether it's a preschooler overwhelmed by the world or an adult navigating relational pain, the message is clear: connection and validation are key to healing.Joe and Father Boniface also explore the delicate balance of parenting. Joe reflects on the fear many parents feel: “What if I mess up when it matters most?” Father Boniface reassures listeners with the concept of “good enough parenting,” emphasizing the importance of building resilience and secure attachments. “It’s not about getting everything perfect,” Father Boniface explains, “but about teaching repair mechanisms and showing your children they’re never alone.”From parenting challenges to fostering emotional curiosity in relationships, the conversation expands to explore the universal desire for better connections. “Relationships thrive when we seek to understand, not just to answer,” says Father Boniface, encouraging us all to develop empathy and wisdom in our interactions.Whether you're a parent worried about making the "right" decisions, a spouse striving to improve communication, or simply someone seeking more fulfillment in relationships, this episode offers invaluable insights rooted in faith and humanity.As always, Joe and Father Boniface invite listeners to join the conversation:💬 Share your feedback and experiences at fatherandjoe@gmail.com.📢 Have a question or topic you’d like covered? Let us know!Thank you for watching, and don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe to help us reach others seeking a deeper connection in their relationships and faith.parenting advice, Christian parenting, emotional resilience, secure attachment, trauma and healing, Father Boniface Hicks, Joe Rockey, building better relationships, faith in parenting, how to parent better, spiritual parenting, faith and family, emotional intelligence, relationships and faith, parenting fears, understanding trauma, communication in relationships, emotional validation, Christian relationship advice, Bonnie Badenoch, The Heart of Trauma, Catholic parenting, raising resilient children, relationship skills, overcoming trauma, emotional healing, faith and resilience, parenting challenges, how to strengthen relationships, Christian family advice, asking the right questions, how to understand others, parenting tips faith-based, Catholic faith parenting, father and joe podcast, emotional growth
Father and Joe 385: Exploring the Power of Curiosity in Faith and Relationships
Nov 12 2024
Father and Joe 385: Exploring the Power of Curiosity in Faith and Relationships
In this episode of Father and Joe, hosts Joe Rockey and Father Boniface Hicks dive into a profound yet often overlooked aspect of faith and life: curiosity. While curiosity isn't explicitly commanded in scripture, its presence is seen throughout the Gospel, serving as a catalyst for growth, understanding, and deepening relationships. Father Boniface shares, “Curiosity in one sense is a luxury. It’s the kind of thing you can only do when you’re not in danger of being eaten,” highlighting how essential safety and freedom are to allowing curiosity to flourish.Curiosity, as Joe and Father Boniface discuss, isn't just a casual interest; it’s a choice—a vital force that encourages us to step out of our comfort zones, fostering new connections and enhancing the relationships around us. By choosing curiosity, we open ourselves to discovering new insights, encountering diverse perspectives, and building deeper bonds with others and with God.Father Boniface explains that when we feel secure and supported, curiosity has the freedom to grow. He uses the analogy of children, who explore confidently when they have a “secure attachment” with their parents. Similarly, a strong faith and supportive community allow us to venture out, be curious, and deepen our understanding of the world and our faith without fear. Joe adds, “Curiosity, to me, is one of those moving parts that's essential, almost like drinking water, but we don't really think about it.” The hosts explore how curiosity enriches our lives by keeping us engaged, interested, and continually learning—both spiritually and personally.The conversation also touches on why curiosity can sometimes be difficult. In moments of stress or fear, like when we’re in a “threat response,” our curiosity tends to shut down. Father Boniface emphasizes, “If you're in a position of saving your life, you’re not wondering why that flower is purple.” The discussion turns toward practical ways to nurture curiosity, such as setting aside time to explore interests, creating supportive environments, and surrounding ourselves with others who are open-minded and engaged.Towards the end of the episode, Joe challenges listeners to embrace curiosity in their daily lives and relationships. “If there's an opportunity to be curious about something, take it,” he urges, suggesting that the simple act of asking questions and exploring new ideas can bring us closer to others and to God. By being open to new perspectives and stepping outside our own assumptions, we not only grow personally but also enhance our spiritual journey.Whether you’re looking to strengthen your faith, improve your relationships, or simply live a more fulfilled life, this episode offers valuable insights into the importance of curiosity. Join Joe Rockey and Father Boniface Hicks as they discuss how to actively incorporate curiosity into your life, deepen your relationships, and grow in faith.Tags:curiosity in faith, Father Boniface Hicks, Joe Rockey, Christian podcast, religious curiosity, deepening faith, strengthening relationships, curiosity in relationships, gospel and curiosity, Father and Joe podcast, faith and exploration, curiosity in Christianity, exploring life through faith, spiritual growth, growing in faith, Christian life lessons, meaningful relationships, curiosity benefits, becoming a better person, curiosity in the Gospel, importance of curiosity, personal growth, improving relationships, faith discussions, religious insights, curiosity as a virtue, relationship advice, Christian spirituality, spiritual podcast, secure attachment in faith, open-mindedness, Christian virtues
Father and Joe E384: Strengthening Relationships Through Future-Focused Messages
Nov 5 2024
Father and Joe E384: Strengthening Relationships Through Future-Focused Messages
In this episode of Father and Joe, Joe Rockey and Father Boniface Hicks dive into the powerful concept of nurturing and strengthening relationships by focusing on the future. Over the course of nearly 400 episodes, one recurring theme has been how relationships form the foundation for living a holy and fulfilling life. Today, they discuss a unique and practical tool that Joe shares with his clients—recording regular voice or video messages for loved ones, addressing them at future milestones in their lives.Joe explains, “The real secret of life has really not been articulated correctly. It’s not the accumulation of power, money, or time. It’s building the best relationships.” These weekly messages—crafted with love and intention—are intended to help us visualize the long-term development of our relationships, ensuring they remain strong over the years. Joe suggests setting aside 20 to 30 minutes on Fridays to record a message, thinking about how you want your relationship to look a decade from now.Father Boniface reflects on how this practice connects with spiritual exercises and insights from psychology, drawing comparisons to Jordan Peterson’s concept of self-authoring, which involves looking ahead to one's future and visualizing a positive path. He shares a touching story from his own life where his mother chronicled his childhood, and how that long-term reflection offers a deeper understanding of our relationships.Joe also provides insight into how this practice has worked with his clients, even those who are introverted or pessimistic, helping them see a more positive and realistic future. As he says, “Problems and barriers that used to be insurmountable start to fade over time.”Key points covered in this episode:The Power of Future-Focused Messages: Joe outlines a practical way to improve relationships by recording messages for loved ones to receive years down the road, helping to foster stronger, more loving bonds.Real-Life Client Examples: Joe shares stories of clients whose lives have been changed by this exercise, explaining how it helps them face and overcome fears, improve communication, and strengthen relationships.A Practice for Everyone: Father Boniface emphasizes that this exercise is not only valuable for those who have a naturally optimistic outlook but can be transformative for anyone, regardless of their emotional disposition.Spiritual and Psychological Perspectives: Reflecting on how this practice aligns with spiritual growth and psychological principles, the discussion brings out the profound benefits of focusing on the future with hope and love.As Father Boniface says, "Just going out of ourselves and thinking positively about other people has a really positive effect on ourselves as well." This episode encourages everyone to try this practice—whether for a spouse, child, or friend—and experience the ripple effect of improved relationships in all areas of life.We invite you to listen and take this exercise into your own life. Discover how intentional, future-focused messages can deepen your relationships and make a lasting impact on both you and your loved ones.Thank you for joining us in another insightful conversation. Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and share this episode with those who are looking to bring more love and intention into their relationships. We'll be back next week with more.Tags: relationships, future-focused, positive messages, family bonds, relationship advice, Father Boniface Hicks, Joe Rockey, spiritual growth, Catholic podcast, love and faith, faith-based relationships, long-term relationships, strengthening family, communication tips, life advice, Jordan Peterson, self-authoring, personal development, faith and relationships, podcast, relationship building, spiritual exercise, family communication, future planning, emotional intelligence,
Father and Joe E383: Healing Wounds from the Past and Overcoming Control – Trusting in God’s Guidance
Oct 29 2024
Father and Joe E383: Healing Wounds from the Past and Overcoming Control – Trusting in God’s Guidance
In this heartfelt episode of Father and Joe, Joe Rockey and Father Boniface Hicks explore the deep-rooted issues of trust, control, and healing. Through an insightful conversation, they uncover how past wounds, fear, and betrayal shape our present lives, impacting everything from relationships to business leadership. Joe opens up about his experiences as a consultant, where he helps business owners learn to delegate and trust others. The challenge many face, however, is letting go of control and learning to trust after being hurt.Father Boniface reflects on how our need to control, whether in business or personal relationships, often stems from past pain and disappointment. "If you want to go fast, go alone. But if you want to go far, go together," he shares, illustrating the importance of collaboration and trust. He emphasizes that it’s essential to look inward and explore the reasons we struggle with these control issues: “We don't trust unless we have a reason for it…often an experience of betrayal or disappointment."In this episode, we are reminded that healing begins with understanding and nurturing our hearts. By revisiting past experiences and facing them with compassion, we can break the cycle of fear and control. Joe describes a practice of "quietly entering your mind and witnessing memories without judgment." This gentle process, as discussed, can lead to significant personal growth: "It's remarkable how the Google search of past hurts in your mind starts to shrink."Father Boniface offers wisdom on how to approach this healing process, encouraging listeners to engage with trusted friends or spiritual counselors when needed. The journey of healing and trust is not one to walk alone—God is there with us every step of the way. "God has a vested interest in you," Father Boniface reminds us, underscoring the importance of relying on God’s love to heal our deepest wounds.By the end of this episode, you’ll gain profound insights into:How to recognize the root causes of control and trust issues.Practical steps to begin healing emotional wounds from the past.The importance of letting others into our lives and learning to trust again.As you listen to Father Boniface and Joe’s conversation, consider this gentle invitation: Where in your life are things not working, and what steps can you take toward healing? Whether it’s in your personal relationships, parenting, or business life, God invites you to start the process of letting go, trusting others, and finding peace.Tune in and discover how faith and reflection can lead you to greater healing and wholeness!Please subscribe, share, and leave a review if you found this episode meaningful.Tags:spiritual healing, trust in God, overcoming control, Father Boniface Hicks, Joe Rockey, emotional healing, faith journey, letting go, healing trauma, trust issues, business leadership, personal growth, Christian reflection, self-improvement, dealing with betrayal, Catholic spirituality, prayer for healing, Christian counseling, dealing with fear, trusting others, overcoming fear, how to heal emotionally, faith in difficult times, Father and Joe, healing from the past, control issues, inner healing, parenting with faith, God’s guidance, dealing with disappointment, spiritual growth, relationships and trust, delegation in business
Father and Joe E382: How to Overcome Loneliness and Build Meaningful Relationships
Oct 22 2024
Father and Joe E382: How to Overcome Loneliness and Build Meaningful Relationships
In this insightful episode of the Father and Joe Podcast, Joe Rockey and Father Boniface Hicks delve into a profound and timely issue – loneliness. As society faces an unprecedented wave of isolation, driven largely by the modern digital world and changing social structures, it can often feel impossible to form meaningful, Christ-centered relationships. But, as Father Boniface shares, these relationships are not only vital for our emotional well-being, they are essential for our spiritual growth."We cannot grow as human beings without what kind of relationships? Well, let’s just call them Christ-like relationships, in the sense that relationships of real trust and mutual love."Father Boniface explains the importance of cultivating relationships of love and trust, where individuals affirm each other’s goodness and uniqueness. It is through such bonds that we truly thrive as human beings. This episode explores the detrimental effects of being relationally starved, and how loneliness can become a self-perpetuating cycle of pain and isolation."That loneliness can be more pervasive... and has a way of isolating me more. Sometimes other behaviors can come out, either collapsing in on myself or acting out, which ends up driving people away from me even more."Father Boniface also highlights the danger of negative feedback loops, where loneliness breeds more loneliness, and discusses practical ways to break free from this harmful cycle. Whether you are in a relationship or not, this episode provides thoughtful guidance for anyone who is struggling with feelings of isolation and wants to nurture deeper, more meaningful connections.The episode also touches on important social issues like homelessness, addiction, and political division, as Father Boniface argues that many societal problems stem from relational breakdowns. He points out that "a lot of symptoms we spend time on politically, like homelessness or drug abuse, are often a symptom of the breakdown in relationships."For those feeling the weight of loneliness, the episode offers hope, practical advice, and spiritual wisdom. Joe Rockey and Father Boniface discuss how to start forming quality relationships, even when it feels like everything is falling apart. From the loneliness of a broken heart to the relational trials of adolescence, this conversation will resonate deeply with anyone seeking true connection in today’s world.As Father Boniface reminds us, "We need relationships of affirming love... where we are blessed by our existence and help others experience that gift." Tune in to hear more about the path to healing, meaningful connections, and the transformative power of relationships rooted in Christ.If you found this episode helpful, explore our archives for more discussions on relationships and other important topics. We don’t charge for any of our content, and our goal is to help others grow in their faith and relationships. Please consider subscribing, sharing this episode with someone in need, and leaving a comment below to join the conversation.Tags:loneliness, building relationships, overcoming loneliness, Father and Joe podcast, Christ-like relationships, Father Boniface Hicks, Joe Rockey, spiritual growth, relationships in Christ, emotional well-being, meaningful connections, Christian relationships, isolation in modern society, how to stop feeling lonely, negative feedback loops, Christ-centered love, spiritual healing, loneliness solutions, Christian advice, digital age loneliness, finding community, the importance of relationships, breaking isolation, healing from loneliness, dating and relationships, mental health, overcoming fear in relationships, relationship advice, religious podcast, Christian faith
Father and Joe E381: Mastering Holiness: How to Embrace Christ in Everyday Life
Oct 16 2024
Father and Joe E381: Mastering Holiness: How to Embrace Christ in Everyday Life
In this enlightening episode of Father and Joe, Joe Rockey and Father Boniface Hicks dive deep into the journey of becoming a saint, breaking down the practical steps that lead to holiness. Drawing parallels between mastering worldly skills and growing in faith, they offer insights into how we can gradually build the habits of virtue that will lead us closer to Christ.Joe starts by reflecting on how seemingly difficult tasks, like getting on the front page of Google, appear impossible until we learn the specific steps. He compares this to the spiritual journey: “Many people have this feeling of becoming a saint as so strange or foreign that there’s no way I'd be able to do it.” However, just as with learning a skill, holiness requires consistent effort and daily practice.Father Boniface builds on this by discussing the importance of making Christ a part of our everyday actions. He explains that “learning Christ” is more than a mental process—it's something that must be embodied, much like learning to play a musical instrument. “We grow through repetition, we grow through failure, we grow through learning from our mistakes,” Father says, emphasizing that holiness isn’t a talent we’re born with; it’s something we cultivate through persistent practice and effort.One of the most powerful points Father makes is that grace is not something we "do" alone—it’s something we let God do through us. “What steadily happens is His thoughts become my thoughts, His logic becomes my logic.” As we practice virtue and live in Christ, we begin to see the world through His eyes. This spiritual growth transforms us internally, allowing us to naturally live out our faith with ease, joy, and promptitude, even in difficult situations.Father Boniface also addresses the fear many Christians have of failure. “Nothing of value is possible to do the first time perfectly. We have to keep growing in it and figure out where the hard spots are for us.” This applies to every aspect of our faith journey. By embracing vulnerability, sharing our struggles with trusted individuals, and recognizing that growth often comes through trial and error, we can make meaningful spiritual progress.The conversation also turns to the challenges of standing up for faith in a world where not everyone will understand or agree. As Joe points out, many of us fear alienation when we speak about our beliefs. But Father reminds us that even Jesus wasn't liked by everyone: “There’s never going to be a moment when everyone is happy with us.” Nevertheless, we must have the courage to share our faith, trusting that God will guide our steps.Whether you're someone struggling with how to live out your faith in everyday life, or just looking for practical ways to deepen your relationship with Christ, this episode will inspire and guide you. It’s a powerful reminder that holiness is not only possible—it’s something within reach if we practice, trust, and allow God’s grace to work through us.Join Joe and Father Boniface as they tackle these vital topics:How consistent practice and failure lead to holinessWhy holiness is a skill you develop, just like any otherHow to build habits of virtue in your everyday lifeOvercoming the fear of failure and social rejectionThe importance of relationship and vulnerability in your spiritual growthLearning how to embody Christ in everything you doIf you’re looking for a way to make your faith an integral part of your daily life, this episode is for you. Hit the subscribe button, leave us a review, and start your journey toward holiness today.Tags:holiness, christian life, father and joe podcast, spiritual growth, building virtue, living in christ, daily faith practice, embracing faith, becoming a saint, christian habits, developing holiness, how to live like christ, overcoming failure, catholic podcast, joe rockey, father boniface hicks
Father and Joe E380: Finding Inner Peace Through Silence | Overcoming Distractions to Strengthen Your Relationship with God
Oct 8 2024
Father and Joe E380: Finding Inner Peace Through Silence | Overcoming Distractions to Strengthen Your Relationship with God
In this insightful episode of Father and Joe, Joe Rockey and Father Boniface Hicks dive deep into the concept of silence and how it plays a crucial role in strengthening your relationship with God. For many of us, silence is often misunderstood as just the absence of external noise, but it goes far deeper than that. As Father Boniface explains, silence is not just about the absence of sound, but about achieving interior peace. It's about quieting the mind and soul amidst the distractions and chaos of everyday life.Joe opens up about his personal struggles with finding silence, saying, “There’s always something going on, whether it be inside my mind trying to think of a solution, or listening to a book or podcast, or falling asleep with the TV on. Yet in prayer, that’s not the case, and it feels weird sometimes.” Father Boniface thoughtfully responds by breaking down what silence truly means, highlighting that it's more about calming our inner restlessness rather than simply eliminating noise. "We’re really looking for interior peace," he notes, emphasizing that inner silence is more about order, harmony, and focusing on what’s truly important.In today’s fast-paced world, we are constantly bombarded by distractions—from social media, work, and technology—that prevent us from finding peace. In this episode, Joe and Father Boniface offer valuable insights on how to cultivate silence in our lives as a means of drawing closer to God. Father Boniface touches on the beauty of the church as a peaceful space, explaining how the quiet of a church can serve as a refuge, helping us to slow down and get in touch with our innermost thoughts, desires, and fears.Father Boniface provides practical advice for reducing external stimulation and creating moments of silence in our daily lives. Whether it's turning off your phone, getting adequate sleep, or spending time in nature, these small but powerful actions help bring order to the busyness in our hearts. As Father Boniface explains, “Peace is not a lack of things, but it’s the tranquility of order.” It is through this ordered silence that we find God and establish a deeper, more meaningful connection with Him.Throughout the conversation, Joe and Father Boniface share relatable anecdotes and spiritual wisdom that resonate with anyone seeking peace and a deeper relationship with God. Whether you’ve struggled with finding quiet moments in your busy life, or simply want to improve your prayer life, this episode is packed with guidance on how to embrace silence as a way to listen to God.Join us in this powerful episode as we explore the transformative nature of silence and its ability to bring clarity, order, and peace to our lives. Be sure to like, comment, and share this episode with others who may benefit from these insights. Your support makes a difference!Quotes from the Episode:"We’re really looking for interior peace." - Father Boniface"Peace is not a lack of things, but it’s the tranquility of order." - Father Boniface"There’s always something going on...whether it be inside my mind or outside. Yet in prayer, that’s not the case." - Joe RockeyThank you for tuning in, and we look forward to being with you again next week. Don’t forget to subscribe and share this episode with others who are seeking more peace in their lives.Tags: finding peace through silence, how to listen to God, deepening your relationship with God, prayer and silence, overcoming distractions, Father and Joe podcast, spiritual growth, Catholic podcast, achieving interior peace, cultivating silence in a noisy world, spiritual silence, Father Boniface Hicks, Joe Rockey, Christian spirituality, how to hear God in prayer, peaceful prayer life, reducing distractions in prayer, quieting the mind, overcoming mental restlessness,
Father and Joe E379: Faith, Holiness, and Trusting Jesus
Oct 1 2024
Father and Joe E379: Faith, Holiness, and Trusting Jesus
In this thought-provoking episode of Father and Joe, Joe Rockey and Father Boniface Hicks explore how to live a life rooted in faith, even when it seems overwhelming or impossible. Can we truly live like Christ? What does it mean to be called to holiness in our everyday lives? Drawing from the lives of saints like Pope John Paul II and Blessed Karl of Austria, Father Boniface sheds light on how we can all respond to God's call to holiness.Joe begins the conversation by reflecting on the miracles attributed to saints like John Paul II, who lived in recent history. While the temptation is to think that holiness is reserved for people like popes and priests, Joe and Father Boniface delve into how everyday people can grow closer to Christ, even amidst the demands of family, work, and societal pressures. Father Boniface explains, “We can either draw principles about how to live from the gospel, see them applied in the lives of the saints, and then see how they apply in our own life, and then we’re setting out on a process.”Through the lens of scripture and spiritual insight, Father Boniface encourages us to not just look to the saints as unreachable models, but to recognize that the same Holy Spirit working in their lives can work in ours. He beautifully says, "Maybe it's not for somebody else. Maybe it's for you. Maybe you can try this."This episode also tackles the subtle barriers we place between ourselves and holiness. With the rise of technology and social media, many feel consumed by messages that imply their situation is unique, often resulting in a detachment from the gospel. Joe poignantly reflects, “We know there are better options. We intellectually know it...but we don’t do them.” The conversation challenges listeners to bridge the gap between knowing what is right and actually doing it.As Father Boniface emphasizes, one key step is prayer and scripture. He states, “Listening to Jesus in prayer and reading the scriptures...that’s the two most common answers.” These are practices that keep us connected to the source of holiness and allow us to grow in trust.The episode concludes with an actionable challenge: "Try it." Father Boniface encourages all listeners to begin small and take concrete steps toward living the gospel in their lives. Whether it's giving your full attention to a loved one, changing your habits at work, or taking a moment of prayer, the message is simple yet powerful: “Try it.”Join us in this deeply spiritual conversation and find encouragement to take your own steps toward holiness. If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with someone who might benefit from these insights. As Joe mentions, “If people just knew it would work, they would do it.” Let’s help spread the word.#ChristianLife #Holiness #FaithJourney #CatholicPodcast #PrayerAndScripture #TrustingJesus #SpiritualGrowth #LivingLikeChrist #FatherBonifaceHicks #JoeRockeyfaith journey, trusting Jesus, spiritual growth, Pope John Paul II, Christian life, holiness in daily life, living like Christ, scripture reflection, Father Boniface Hicks, Joe Rockey, becoming holy, Catholic podcast, Catholic teachings, prayer and faith, Christian inspiration, Christian podcast, applying the gospel, imitating saints, power of faith, deepening faith, finding holiness, spiritual wisdom, personal transformation, Catholic spirituality, walking with Christ, Christian principles, applying scripture, faith and family, Christian examples, trusting God, Blessed Karl of Austria, following Jesus, power of prayer, spiritual reflection, relationship with Jesus.
Father and Joe E378: Navigating Desires and Complex Choices: Parenting, Self-Control, and Faith
Sep 24 2024
Father and Joe E378: Navigating Desires and Complex Choices: Parenting, Self-Control, and Faith
In this episode of the Father and Joe podcast, hosts Joe Rockey and Father Boniface Hicks explore the deep and often complex relationship between human desires, self-control, and the journey of faith. Through thoughtful and personal examples, Joe shares his experiences as a parent of a toddler, facing the daily challenges of saying "no" to his son and teaching him what is truly best in the long run. Father Boniface provides insightful reflections on how our innate human tendencies, from childhood through adulthood, can shape how we approach life's choices—whether it’s something as simple as craving candy bars or something as profound as navigating sexual desires.As Joe explains, "What we want now keeps getting debased lower and lower with less and less forethought down the road...this is why you see much more obesity, diabetes, etc. because, ooh, it tastes good now." This concept of instant gratification versus long-term good is central to the discussion, with Joe and Father Boniface exploring how modern society complicates our ability to discern what we truly need and how that impacts our spiritual journey.Father Boniface offers a deep dive into the importance of recognizing both the good and bad in our desires. He states, "Helping people to choose according to the fullness of reality rather than the immediate satisfaction of the moment is a really crucial thing." This episode sheds light on how parents can help children navigate their emotions and desires, but also how adults can learn to better understand the desires within themselves.Sexuality, one of the most complex and misunderstood topics, is also discussed in a thoughtful and faith-based way. Father Boniface remarks, “Sex is holy. It just has to be in the right context of marriage and open to all of the right things.” He emphasizes the beauty of sexual desires when they are expressed within the fullness of God’s design, while cautioning against the dangers of oversimplifying these desires into black-and-white rules that don't capture their true purpose.This conversation isn’t just for parents; it’s for anyone grappling with desires, self-control, or seeking deeper meaning in their spiritual and personal lives. The hosts offer practical wisdom on how to shape desires in a healthy way and avoid internal conflict or self-hatred by better understanding their root causes.Tune in for an enlightening discussion that challenges societal norms around instant gratification and offers a faith-filled approach to navigating life’s most difficult choices. Share this episode with someone who needs guidance in their spiritual journey or is facing challenges in discerning what’s truly good for them.Highlights from the episode:Joe’s experience as a parent: "He knows. Well, if dad's going to say no, Aunt Lauren will say yes. So I'm just going to ask her."Father Boniface on navigating desires: “What you want right now, in the short term, may not be what’s truly good for you in the long run.”The balance between physical cravings and long-term consequences, using candy bars as an example.Sexual desires and the importance of context within marriage: “Sex is not bad. Sex is holy. It just has to be in the right context of marriage.”How parents can help guide children through their desires in a healthy and faith-centered way.If you found this episode helpful, please leave us a 5-star review and share the podcast with someone who might benefit. Subscribe for more discussions on faith, family, and life’s biggest questions! faith, religion, parenting, spirituality, Christian parenting, self-control, Catholic podcast, instant gratification, desires, morality, human desires, temptation, Catholic faith, raising children, navigating desires, overcoming temptation, Father Boniface Hicks, Joe Rockey, Christian values, family life, marriage, sexuality,
Father and Joe E377: How to Guard Your Mind in a Divisive Political Climate: Faith, Love, and Responsibility
Sep 17 2024
Father and Joe E377: How to Guard Your Mind in a Divisive Political Climate: Faith, Love, and Responsibility
In this episode of Father and Joe, Joe Rockey and Father Boniface Hicks tackle a pressing issue we all face today: navigating the hateful and divisive political climate that is so prevalent during election seasons. Joe shares his observations on how political advertising today is filled with negativity, hate, and division. He explains, “One of the responsibilities of building a successful society, of being holy, is to not spread hate. Hate being pretty much the opposite of love.”Together, Joe and Father Boniface reflect on how we can protect ourselves from falling into these traps of negativity, starting with personal responsibility. As Father Boniface highlights, “When you notice something that is irritating, frustrating, or hurtful, rather than simply condemning others for it, you're asking the question, 'Am I doing that?' That attitude is already such a remedy. If we were all doing that, we'd be much better off.”Father Boniface takes the conversation deeper by connecting it to the example of Christ, who "took responsibility for everyone, as if he were the one creating all the problems. God made him to be sin so that we might become the righteousness of God in Him." He explains how Jesus' sacrifice invites us to take ownership of the ways we contribute to division, both big and small, while still acknowledging that we are victims at times too.This episode offers valuable insights on how to break away from the toxic patterns of modern political discourse. Rather than demonizing others, we are encouraged to "try to understand the best of your opponent's argument. Rather than setting up a strawman argument, set up a strongman argument or an Ironman argument."The conversation also touches on how shallow political messages have become, with Joe explaining that most campaign ads are “intellectual cotton candy” – designed to evoke strong feelings but lacking any real substance. He advises, “I think it’s more about the how than the who. Like, what are you actually going to do? How are you going to solve this question? Because at the end of the day, all I’ve heard is platitudes… they say you’re a bad person if you don’t agree with this, but there’s no substance to it.”This episode serves as a much-needed reminder that, as Christians, we are called to live in love, even in the most heated and hostile environments. It challenges us to engage with politics and society in a way that reflects Christ’s teachings, seeking to spread love rather than hate, and striving to understand rather than condemn.If you’re feeling overwhelmed by the negativity of modern politics and are looking for ways to stay grounded in your faith, this episode is for you. Remember, we can’t control everything, but we can control how we respond and how we contribute to the conversation. Let’s do it with love.Tune in now to hear more valuable lessons on how we can transform today’s divisive environment into one of love, understanding, and healing.#FaithInAction #LoveAndPolitics #FatherAndJoeTags:faith, politics and faith, love and responsibility, divisive politics, election season, religious podcast, Father and Joe, Father Boniface Hicks, Joe Rockey, Christian values, moral responsibility, forgiveness, Catholic podcast, faith in society, dealing with hate, avoiding political negativity, political debates, personal responsibility, spreading love, loving your enemy, political hate, political division, negativity in media, how to stay positive, protecting yourself from hate, Christ's example, spreading love not hate, the power of forgiveness, being holy, politics and love, how to spread love, political advertising, avoiding negativity, Christian teachings, love thy neighbor, healing through love
Father and Joe E376: Navigating Vulnerability & Building Strong Relationships in a Digital Age
Sep 10 2024
Father and Joe E376: Navigating Vulnerability & Building Strong Relationships in a Digital Age
In this powerful and insightful episode of the Father and Joe podcast, Joe Rockey and Father Boniface Hicks delve into the profound topic of vulnerability, particularly in the context of our modern, digitally connected world. With the rise of social media and the pressures it brings, many of us—and our children—are navigating a landscape where personal worth is often judged by likes and comments. But is this really the vulnerability that leads to growth and meaningful relationships?As Father Boniface Hicks eloquently shares, true vulnerability is not about seeking validation from strangers online, but rather about taking the courageous step to be open in our real-world relationships, even when it comes with the risk of getting hurt. "Wisdom needs you. Wisdom is experienced, it's lived knowledge, it's embodied insight," he explains. The conversation challenges the misconception that vulnerability is merely about being exposed to judgment, instead framing it as an essential element of wisdom, growth, and authentic human connection.Throughout the episode, Father Boniface highlights the importance of community and the danger of isolation, particularly in moments of pain. "Trauma is not about the pain. Trauma is about being alone in the pain," he stresses. By sharing personal stories and practical advice, Joe and Father Boniface offer guidance on how we, as parents and individuals, can foster healthy, supportive communities that help us navigate life's challenges—whether it's a child's first steps, a young adult's foray into social media, or the deep wounds that life inevitably brings.The discussion also touches on the delicate balance parents must strike in today's world: How do we allow our children to explore and grow, knowing they may get hurt? How do we teach them to navigate a world that is not always safe, without sheltering them from its realities? Joe reflects on this as a father himself, questioning whether encouraging his son to climb a tree, knowing he might fall, is an act of harm or an important life lesson.In a world that often promotes a false sense of safety, this episode reminds us that true resilience is built not by avoiding risk, but by learning to face it with the support of those who love us. As Father Boniface wisely notes, "Stay in relationship, make everything possible. Don’t shut down your children. Don’t invalidate their pain. Don’t dismiss them and neglect them. Love them. Listen to them. Be with them in their pain."This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to understand the deeper meaning of vulnerability, the importance of community, and the role of wisdom in navigating the complexities of modern life. Whether you're a parent, a young adult, or simply someone looking to deepen your relationships, the insights shared here will resonate deeply and offer practical steps for living a more connected and meaningful life.Remember to like, share, and subscribe to our channel, and leave us a comment or review to help others find this valuable content. We appreciate your support and look forward to bringing you more insightful discussions each week.YouTube Tags: vulnerability, community, wisdom, relationships, social media, parenting advice, trauma, mental health, emotional resilience, support system, digital age, wisdom vs logic, parenting in a digital world, Joe Rockey, Father Boniface Hicks, personal growth, spiritual growth, faith and family, Christian parenting, dealing with rejection, building self-esteem, overcoming trauma, importance of community, childhood development, online safety, wisdom in relationships, emotional intelligence, spiritual guidance, overcoming isolation, supportive relationships, mental wellness, healthy family dynamics, faith-based guidance
Father and Joe E375: Transform Your Life Through Prayer: Building Lasting Habits and Deepening Your Relationship with God
Sep 3 2024
Father and Joe E375: Transform Your Life Through Prayer: Building Lasting Habits and Deepening Your Relationship with God
In this enlightening episode of "Father and Joe," Joe Rockey and Father Boniface Hicks delve into the transformative power of establishing a consistent prayer life. Discover how building a habitual practice of prayer can not only deepen your relationship with God but also provide profound benefits in your daily life.As Father Boniface shares, "Relationships depend on habits. Relationships depend on regularity." Just as any strong relationship requires consistent effort, so too does our connection with God. The episode explores the importance of making prayer a priority, emphasizing that, "If you’re not advancing, you’re falling away," a concept that applies to both our spiritual and personal lives.For many, the idea of praying more can seem daunting, especially with busy schedules and daily responsibilities. But Father Boniface reassures us, "A lot less time goes a much longer way. 15 minutes of prayer compared to 15 minutes of exercise—you're getting a lot more out of that 15 minutes of prayer." The key lies in consistency and vulnerability—opening up more of our hearts to God each day, regardless of the challenges we face.Throughout the episode, Father Boniface and Joe discuss practical strategies to help you develop and maintain a prayer routine, even in the busiest times of life. From using daily scriptures to guide your prayer to the power of reflecting deeply on the words of familiar prayers like the Our Father and Hail Mary, they provide valuable insights to help you enhance your spiritual life.Joe also touches on the common pitfalls many of us face, such as the complacency that comes with feeling like life is "good enough" and the tendency to let our prayer life stagnate as a result. As he points out, "You don't know what you don't know. So you don't know what it could be if you had this blossomed relationship, if you grew your relationships." This episode invites you to explore what your life could look like with a more profound and active relationship with God.In the final moments of the conversation, Father Boniface offers a beautiful and relatable image of holding the rosary, saying, "When I hold the rosary, I always feel like I'm holding Mary’s hand." This simple yet powerful practice can deepen your prayer experience and bring you closer to the divine.Whether you’re just beginning your spiritual journey or looking to deepen an already existing prayer practice, this episode is packed with wisdom and practical advice to help you grow. Join us as we explore how to make prayer a natural and enriching part of your daily life.Don’t miss next week's episode, where we'll dive deeper into the topic of vulnerability and how it plays a crucial role in advancing your spiritual life.Subscribe and hit the notification bell to stay updated on our latest episodes, and don't forget to share this video with others who might be looking to strengthen their faith and spiritual practices.#CatholicFaith #PrayerLife #SpiritualGrowth #FaithJourney #FatherAndJoe #DeepeningFaith #PrayerConsistency #SpiritualRenewal #VulnerabilityInPrayerprayer life, developing prayer habits, spiritual growth, Catholic spirituality, Father Boniface Hicks, Joe Rockey, deepening relationship with God, daily prayer, habit formation, spiritual life, prayer tips, Catholic faith, how to pray better, building a prayer routine, vulnerability in prayer, spiritual journey, Catholic teachings, Catholic podcast, spiritual discipline, increasing faith, relationship with God, praying daily, Catholic prayer, religious life, spiritual direction, prayer consistency, growing in faith, deepening prayer life, Catholic guidance, spiritual renewal
Father and Joe E374: Discovering the Depth of Faith: Reflecting on the Gospel of Mark
Aug 6 2024
Father and Joe E374: Discovering the Depth of Faith: Reflecting on the Gospel of Mark
In this enlightening episode of "Father and Joe," hosts Joe Rockey and Father Boniface Hicks delve into the Gospel of Mark, offering profound insights and reflections on the teachings and miracles of Jesus Christ. Starting with Jesus sending his apostles out in pairs to teach, the discussion spans pivotal events including John the Baptist's assassination and the miraculous feeding of the 5000.Father Boniface shares, “There’s an endless amount that we learn from Jesus’s pedagogy, the way that he forms his disciples, preparing them for various future revelations.” This episode emphasizes the importance of approaching the Bible slowly, thoughtfully, and reflectively, encouraging listeners to immerse themselves in the scriptures beyond the piecemeal Sunday readings.Joe reflects on the apostles' experiences, “Some of them are sitting there thinking they completely messed up because they didn’t have the best story and experience compared to the other ones...But to look at that event, seeing everyone come as we’re comparing ourselves to essentially the other priests of the moment, and to look at it, that’s just something that I looked at in that period.”Father Boniface also draws connections between Jesus’s miracles and the Eucharist, explaining how “Jesus is already preparing faith in his disciples, and that’s always what he’s doing with us as well.” He recounts his own recent experience of the Eucharistic miracle, “I didn’t consecrate enough hosts and had to do my own little multiplication. Breaking hosts. And of course, each broken host is just as much Jesus as the whole host is.”This episode not only explores the historical and spiritual context of these biblical events but also emphasizes their ongoing relevance and application in our daily lives. The dialogue highlights the emotional journey of the apostles, their doubts, and their ultimate reliance on Jesus’s divine provision. As Joe notes, “...it’s daunting. So, Father, I know that that’s a very broad and long startup for what we normally do here in the episode. But I wanted to let you know that’s kind of where I was at coming into this episode.”Join Joe Rockey and Father Boniface Hicks as they offer a deeper understanding of the scriptures and invite you to reflect on your own faith journey. Whether you're looking to deepen your spiritual life or seeking comfort in the teachings of Jesus, this episode provides valuable insights and inspiration.Subscribe to our channel and hit the bell icon to stay updated with our latest episodes. Share your thoughts and reflections in the comments below—we'd love to hear from you!Discovering the Depth of Faith: Reflecting on the Gospel of Markfaith, religion, Gospel of Mark, Jesus Christ, apostles, miracles, Eucharist, Christian teaching, spiritual growth, Bible study, Father Boniface Hicks, Joe Rockey, religious podcast, Christianity, biblical reflection, Jesus feeding 5000, National Eucharistic Congress, Encounter Conference, spiritual journey, divine providence, discipleship, Christian miracles, John the Baptist, spiritual doubts, prayer life, Christian inspiration, biblical stories, personal faith, prayer like a pirate, religious discussions, faith formation, divine revelation, Christian podcast, miracle of loaves, spiritual guidance
Father and Joe E373: Transformative Power of the Eucharist: A Journey Through the National Eucharistic Congress 2024
Jul 30 2024
Father and Joe E373: Transformative Power of the Eucharist: A Journey Through the National Eucharistic Congress 2024
Welcome to another episode of Father and Joe. I’m Joe Rockey, joined by Father Boniface Hicks, as we dive into the recent National Eucharistic Congress held in Indianapolis, an event that has left a lasting impact on thousands of believers across the country.From July 17th to the 21st, Catholics from all over the United States gathered at Lucas Oil Stadium for the first National Eucharistic Congress in 80 years. Father Boniface shares his incredible experience, detailing the profound significance of bringing the Eucharist to a massive crowd of 55,000 attendees."Leaving an NFL training camp to go to an NFL stadium...to actually bring the Eucharist to a massive crowd like that just is absolutely phenomenal," Joe remarks. The event, organized over three years with a significant investment of $22 million, was a bold step taken by the bishops in response to a Pew study indicating that less than a third of Catholics believe in the real presence of Christ in the Eucharist.Father Boniface explains, “The bishops at that time, also with the urging of Bishop Robert Barron...decided they would start this three-year Eucharistic revival, culminating in a national Eucharistic congress. And it was bold, and it was beautiful.”The Congress featured various forms of worship each evening, including praise and worship music, different styles of chant, and moments of silent adoration. Father Boniface himself led a litany of healing and repentance, which he describes as a deeply moving experience. “The testimonies that I’ve received from the way that people’s lives were transformed through that time of prayer is just amazing,” he shares.One of the highlights was the Eucharistic procession through the streets of Indianapolis. “30,000 people going through the streets of Indianapolis and enthroning Jesus on the monument in the center...has a way of catching people’s attention,” says Father Boniface. The procession and the final mass celebrated by Cardinal Tagle were principal moments of the Congress, reflecting the unity and diversity of the Catholic Church.Throughout the Congress, the emphasis was on personal transformation and encountering Christ in the Eucharist. "It was not an intellectual exercise...but it was really directed at personal transformation, and so powerful for that reason," Father Boniface highlights.For those who couldn't attend, there are numerous resources available to experience the event's highlights. "I can certainly direct you to my own litany...and I think all of the pieces are broken out now to be able to view," says Father Boniface. You can find the video of his litany at the Institute for Ministry Formation's website (imf.stvincentseminary.edu/litany) and other sessions by searching for the National Eucharistic Congress on YouTube.We hope this episode inspires you to deepen your faith and share it with others. “If everybody shares the faith with one person, then that’s more than half the country,” Father Boniface reminds us. Join us in this mission to revitalize the belief in the real presence of Christ in the Eucharist.Thank you for watching, and don’t forget to like, comment, and subscribe for more faith-filled content. Share this video with someone who might benefit from it, and help us spread the message of Jesus Christ.#CatholicFaith #Eucharist #NationalEucharisticCongress #JoeRockey #FatherBonifaceHicks #FaithJourney #ReligiousUnity #SpiritualRevival #CatholicWorship #EucharisticAdoration #CatholicEvents2024 #FaithRenewal #CatholicTeachings #SpiritualHealingCatholic faith, Eucharist, National Eucharistic Congress, Catholic revival, Joe Rockey, Father Boniface Hicks, Eucharistic adoration, Catholic Church, faith journey, religious unity, spiritual revival, Catholic worship,  Eucharistic procession, Catholic liturgy, Eucharistic congress highlights, Catholic prayers, faith renewal,  spiritual healing,
Father and Joe E372: Building Relationships Through Helping Others: The Gift of Asking for Help
Jul 23 2024
Father and Joe E372: Building Relationships Through Helping Others: The Gift of Asking for Help
In this enriching episode of the "Father and Joe" podcast, hosts Joe Rockey and Father Boniface Hicks delve into the vital importance of asking for help and recognizing the profound relational dynamics it creates.From the moment we are born, asking for help is an intrinsic part of our human experience. As Joe articulates, "Every time that we're trying to accomplish something that we're not doing entirely by ourselves, we are asking for help." This episode explores the multifaceted ways in which we ask for and give help, often without recognizing the deeper implications of these exchanges.Father Boniface expands on this concept by introducing the "logic of the gift," a term from John Paul II's theology of the body. He explains, "I don't even know fully the gift that I am until I give myself and someone receives the gift and I see the gift that I am through how they receive it." This perspective shifts our understanding from transactional interactions to relational exchanges where each act of giving and receiving help strengthens our communal bonds.Through real-life examples and philosophical insights, this episode encourages listeners to appreciate the relational value in every act of help. Joe highlights the often overlooked appreciation for those who help, stating, "The chemist who figured out how to make your Lucky Charms taste amazing? No one gives any love to. But it’s why you buy it every day, because it tastes awesome, it makes you feel happy." This recognition is crucial, not only for maintaining morale but for fostering a deeper sense of community.Father Boniface shares personal anecdotes and historical perspectives, emphasizing the importance of relationships over mere transactions. He reflects on his father's unwavering dedication to caring for a difficult family member, illustrating a cultural shift from the inherent duty to care for others to the more transactional nature of modern relationships.As they discuss the challenges and rewards of giving and receiving help, the conversation shifts to practical advice on how to build stronger relationships through these acts. Joe and Father Boniface stress the necessity of explicitly articulating our needs and appreciation, avoiding assumptions that can lead to misunderstandings and relational strain.Father Boniface poignantly concludes, "The better that we collaborate, the better we deepen the relationships, the better that we learn ourselves and grow in virtue and do things together. The more beauty, the more goodness we bring into the world in a lasting way."Join us in this insightful discussion and discover how the simple act of asking for help can transform your relationships and enrich your life. Remember to like, share, and subscribe for more thought-provoking content.Tags:Religion, Faith, Community, Helping Others, Asking for Help, Relationships, Father Boniface Hicks, Joe Rockey, Theology of the Body, John Paul II, Logic of the Gift, Christianity, Catholicism, Spiritual Growth, Personal Development, Human Connection, Giving and Receiving, Mutual Support, Relational Dynamics, Self-Gift, Appreciating Others, Building Community, Podcast, Spiritual Insight, Religious Podcast, Life Lessons, Inspirational, Faith Journey, Spiritual Advice, Helping Each Other
Father and Joe E371: Discuss Essential Life Skills -Unlocking the Power of Asking for Help
Jul 18 2024
Father and Joe E371: Discuss Essential Life Skills -Unlocking the Power of Asking for Help
In this episode of the "Father and Joe" podcast, hosts Joe Rockey and Father Boniface Hicks dive deep into an essential yet often overlooked aspect of human relationships: the power of asking for help.Asking for help can be daunting, perceived as a sign of weakness or failure, and it's something many people struggle with. Joe and Father Boniface discuss why this vital skill is crucial for our development and spiritual growth. They emphasize that "learning how to ask for help because it's a relational skill and it's vital in relationships, and this is really what we're made in the context of and made for."Father Boniface reflects on the vulnerability involved in seeking assistance: "Asking for help is admitting that I don't know. It's admitting weakness. It's admitting that I have something to learn. And it's really putting the other person in a position of power." He shares wisdom from Georges Bernanos' "Diary of a Country Priest" to illustrate the challenges and rewards of seeking guidance from others.The discussion also touches on the fears and pride that can hinder us from reaching out. Joe and Father Boniface explore the dynamics between the asker and the helper, and how this interaction can sometimes lead to unexpected outcomes. They remind us that "healthy relationships ask for help. There's always a mutuality in that. And we don't grow in relationship unless we can ask for help and receive the help that's offered, imperfect as it might be."Joe highlights the practical implications of asking for help in everyday scenarios, from hiring someone for a job to relying on family for support. He points out that "getting someone who knows something and at least is capable at it is better than trying to do everything yourself."Father Boniface shares a poignant message from Pope Benedict XVI: "Save us from the prideful presumption of self-sufficiency." This call to humility encourages us to look beyond our own capabilities and embrace the support of others.The episode concludes with a thought-provoking reflection: "If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together." Joe and Father Boniface urge listeners to consider the benefits of collaboration and community, both in practical and spiritual terms.Join us as we explore the profound impact of asking for help and how it can strengthen our relationships with others and with God. Whether you're seeking personal growth, spiritual wisdom, or just a better understanding of human connection, this episode offers valuable insights.Key Quotes:"The necessity of asking for help is vital for our human development.""Asking for help is admitting that I don't know. It's admitting weakness.""Healthy relationships ask for help. There's always a mutuality in that.""Save us from the prideful presumption of self-sufficiency." - Pope Benedict XVI"If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together."Don't forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insightful discussions on faith, relationships, and personal growth. Join the conversation in the comments below and let us know your thoughts on the importance of asking for help.Tags:asking for help, importance of asking for help, relationships, spiritual growth, faith journey, humility, overcoming pride, receiving help, Father Boniface Hicks, Joe Rockey, religious podcast, Christian living, seeking guidance, spiritual guidance, help and support, Catholic teaching, spirituality, human connection, community building, relational skills, trusting others, emotional intelligence, spiritual wisdom, humility and faith, overcoming fear, relationship with God, personal growth, self-improvement, Pope Benedict, prideful presumption, self-sufficiency, Christian advice
Father and Joe E370: How to Live a More Loving Life: Practical Spiritual Guidance
Jul 9 2024
Father and Joe E370: How to Live a More Loving Life: Practical Spiritual Guidance
Welcome to another episode of Father and Joe. I'm Joe Rockey, here with Father Boniface Hicks. Last week, we delved into the importance of identifying your value hierarchy and understanding what you care most about. This week, we’re diving deeper into how we can put our spiritual priorities into practice and truly live a more loving life.Father Boniface beautifully explains that, "We need to know what we're aiming at. We're aiming ultimately at love of the Trinity, which is love within itself is what the Trinity is." He emphasizes the necessity of regular course correction to ensure we're on the right path. But how do we translate this into concrete actions, especially in our relationships?One profound insight Father Boniface shares is, "Have I been as loving as possible towards this person in my life?" This question should be asked in a peaceful, reflective state, perhaps during prayer. He suggests setting aside a dedicated time, whether in the morning, during a lunch break, or at the end of the day, to examine our actions and seek ways to be more loving.Father Boniface also highlights the importance of integrating God into every aspect of our lives. He challenges us to ask, "Is God really the top of your value hierarchy in every part of your life?" This includes business relationships, customer service interactions, and even how we drive and shop.For those already on the path of embracing Christianity, Father Boniface offers a gentle reminder to allow God to pervade all areas of life. He states, "God can be and should be, and then is He really in every part of your life?"To further enrich our spiritual journey, Father Boniface recommends engaging with resources like Father Mike Schmitz's Bible in a Year podcast, reading the Bible, and exploring the lives of the saints. "The lives of the saints are the most authentic interpretation of the gospel," he explains, providing us with practical examples of how to live a life rooted in love and faith.We also discuss the importance of persistence and resilience in our spiritual journey. Father Boniface encourages us to not give up, even when things don't go as planned. "Not to quit the workout plan, not to quit the lifestyle just because I found myself with a gallon of ice cream," he analogizes, reminding us that setbacks are part of the process.Join us in this episode as we put the rubber on the road and explore practical steps to live a more loving, spiritually fulfilling life. Whether it's improving your marriage, deepening friendships, or enhancing your overall spiritual well-being, these insights from Father Boniface Hicks are sure to inspire and guide you.Thank you for listening, and we hope this episode helps you on your journey. Remember, you're not alone, and there's always a way forward in love. We'll be with you again next week. God bless!#SpiritualGuidance #ChristianLiving #FatherAndJoe #LoveOfTheTrinity #LivingWithPurpose #CatholicFaith #SpiritualGrowth #PrayerAndReflection #ValueHierarchy #FatherBonifaceHicks #JoeRockey #MarriageAdvice #RelationshipAdvice #SaintsLives #BibleStudy #DivineRevelation #DailySpiritualPractice #ChristianValues #FaithAndLove #CatholicTeachingsspiritual guidance, practical spirituality, living a loving life, Father Boniface Hicks, Joe Rockey, Father and Joe podcast, value hierarchy, love of the Trinity, spiritual growth, Christian living, marriage advice, relationship advice, prayer and reflection, course correction, living with purpose, Catholic faith, daily spiritual practice, saints' lives, spiritual reading, Bible study, divine revelation, Mother Teresa, St. Thomas Aquinas, spiritual examination, Christian values, loving relationships, faith and love, prayer tips, spiritual reflection, Catholic teachings, saints' examples
Father and Joe E369: Embracing Faith: The Path to a Fulfilling and Holy Life
Jul 2 2024
Father and Joe E369: Embracing Faith: The Path to a Fulfilling and Holy Life
Welcome to another enlightening episode of Father and Joe! I'm Joe Rockey, joined by Father Boniface Hicks, as we delve into the profound impact of truly embracing and living out one's faith. In this episode, we explore the complexities and transformative power of committing fully to a virtuous and holy life, drawing insightful analogies to help understand the journey of faith."Over the last week or so, I've really been thinking about our conversation regarding the numerous variables that can create problems, particularly when discussing social media's net negative impact. We can't isolate variables easily when it involves people in long-term situations," Joe reflects, setting the stage for a deeper discussion on the importance of a steadfast commitment to faith.Father Boniface emphasizes the challenge of living out the faith authentically, comparing it to the dedication required in physical fitness routines: "Those who are all in and truly committed to living a virtuous life end up in a situation that is undeniably better than those who lead a sinful, selfish existence."In our discussion, we touch upon the importance of having a clear value hierarchy, as articulated by Jordan Peterson: "We all have a God that we worship. Our whole humanity is ordered to that. What difference does it make if I worship one thing as opposed to another? Over decades, it's going to make a significant difference."Father Boniface addresses how this value hierarchy should be centered around the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit, and how this alignment impacts every aspect of our lives: "It's not just about going to mass; it's about ordering your entire life according to a value hierarchy where the Trinity is at the top."We also discuss practical steps to deepen one's faith, such as attending mass regularly, daily prayer, and engaging with the Bible: "Do I dedicate a little bit of time every day to learn more about this God that I am worshiping? Am I actually living out what I learn? When I fall short, do I repent and turn back?"This episode provides a roadmap for anyone seeking to enrich their spiritual journey, emphasizing the need for continuous effort and alignment with divine principles. As Joe aptly puts it, "It's a long-term process of how we should act to realize incremental gains and understand that there is growth happening."Join us as we explore these themes and offer guidance on how to integrate faith more deeply into your daily life, leading to a more fulfilling and holy existence. Don't forget to like, comment, and subscribe for more inspiring discussions on living a life of faith.#Faith #Religion #Christianity #SpiritualJourney #HolyLife #Virtue #Prayer #Mass #God #JesusChrist #Trinity #Holiness #ReligiousCommitment #SpiritualGrowth #LivingFaith #Sacrifice #ChristianLife #ReligiousFulfillment #LivingVirtuously #FaithJourney #Worship #Spirituality #ChristianValues #ReligiousPractice #DailyDevotion #FaithInAction #CatholicFaith #FindingGod #SpiritualDiscipline #PersonalGrowth #FatherBonifaceHicks #JoeRockeyFaith, Religion, Christianity, Spiritual Journey, Holy Life, Virtue, Prayer, Mass, God, Jesus Christ, Trinity, Holiness, Religious Commitment, Spiritual Growth, Living Faith, Sacrifice, Christian Life, Religious Fulfillment, Living Virtuously, Faith Journey, Worship, Spirituality, Christian Values, Religious Practice, Daily Devotion, Faith in Action, Catholic Faith, Finding God, Spiritual Discipline, Personal Growth, Father Boniface Hicks, Joe Rockey
Father and Joe E368: Navigating Judgment: Balancing Condemnation and Evaluation in a Faithful Life
Jun 25 2024
Father and Joe E368: Navigating Judgment: Balancing Condemnation and Evaluation in a Faithful Life
Welcome to another enlightening episode of Father and Joe! I'm Joe Rockey, joined by Father Boniface Hicks. In this episode, we delve into the complex topic of judgment—how it permeates our lives, both in social media and in personal interactions, and its role in our spiritual journey."To me, that's a big part of why I believe social media is negative. You're constantly judging each other, good, bad, or ugly," I express as we kick off the conversation. Social media amplifies our natural tendency to judge, often harshly, and this has deep implications on how we interact and perceive one another.Father Boniface offers profound insights, suggesting a distinction between judgment and condemnation. "Is the issue that I'm being judged, or is the issue that I'm being condemned? Those are two different things." This differentiation is crucial, as condemnation often carries a heavier, more negative connotation.We explore biblical references, with Jesus teaching, "Why are you judging people when you have a log inside your eye about their splinter?" This highlights the hypocrisy often involved in judgment and calls for self-reflection before criticizing others.Judgment, as Father Boniface points out, involves a measurement metric. "If the question is, you know, to say, you are a successful businessman, and my metric is annual net profit, then I look at a balance sheet, and that judgment is a matter of fact." Here, the metric used for judgment is essential and should be mutually agreed upon to ensure fairness and understanding.However, judgment becomes problematic when we judge based on incomplete information or when we presume to know someone’s motives. "Judging based on facts that we don't have...is a place that we have to be careful," Father Boniface warns. We must acknowledge our limitations in understanding others' intentions fully.I raise the practical aspect of judgment in everyday life, especially in roles such as parenting or management. "How do we balance the...need to evaluate, judge, and all that stuff?" It's crucial to have clear, agreed-upon standards and fair methods of evaluation to maintain just and constructive judgment.This episode serves as a reminder of the delicate balance we must strike between necessary evaluations and unfair condemnation. By understanding the difference and applying judgment justly, we can foster better relationships and a more compassionate community.Thank you for joining us in this insightful discussion. If you found this episode helpful, please give us a star review on your listening platform. It helps the algorithms to like us and share our content with more people. We'll be back with more thought-provoking conversations next week."You see that? You just asked people to judge us," Father Boniface humorously points out as we conclude, reminding us of the ever-present nature of judgment in our lives.Tags:faith, religion, Christianity, judgment, condemnation, social media, spirituality, biblical teachings, Jesus, Bible, Christian life, self-reflection, parenting, management, business ethics, moral standards, Father Boniface Hicks, Joe Rockey, Father and Joe podcast, hypocrisy, personal growth, spiritual journey, evaluation, moral judgment, social media effects, human nature, understanding motives, ethical behavior, leadership, positive judgment, religious podcast, balancing judgment, practical theology, compassion, community building, self-awareness.