Feb 15 2024
The Lady of Shalott by Alfred, Lord Tennyson
Send us a textAnother day, another episode, in this Valentine's Day Extravaganza, and today, we are talking about Limerence and unhealthy iterations of love. What's wrong with wanting to love and be loved? Nothing, as long as it's not all in your head.Among lonely people, there is often a trend to get caught up in the dream of love, instead of the actual reality. Sometimes, the dream takes over, and leads us down some troubling pathways. Loneliness is part of the human condition, and with modernisation, we have all the appearance of being connected, while the reality is significantly different. A Victorian age poet predicted such a world, in the poem, "The Lady of Shalott", in which a lovely young woman is stuck in a tower, watching people's lives through a mirror. She has not contact with them, and her loneliness grows as she watches them move on, grow, get married. Sound familiar? Well, it should. Such a set up is exactly right for loneliness to take over, and for Limerence, the state of being caught up in obsession over a runaway crush to take over. In this episode I talk about the Lady of Shalott, and my own experiences of Limerence, and why reality is much better. Support the Show.Thank you for listening, if you enjoyed it- please leave a review, share with your network and help us spread the word.