The Divorce Podcast

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The Divorce Podcast is a podcast dedicated to looking at divorce from new perspectives and driving reform. Hosted by Kate Daly, each episode invites experts from a variety of backgrounds and disciplines to discuss their own views on divorce, and debate them with the other guests. read less
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Episode #106: A Child’s Right to Matter with Helen Adam and Dr Angharad Rudkin
Apr 3 2024
Episode #106: A Child’s Right to Matter with Helen Adam and Dr Angharad Rudkin
In this episode, Kate is joined by clinical psychologist, Angharad Rudkin, and solicitor, mediator, and campaigner Helen Adam. About the episode Kate and Helen begin the episode by discussing the Family Solutions Group (FSG) and explaining the Right to Matter report. They move on to discuss who in Government currently takes responsibility for children when parents separate. Helen explores some of the consultations' findings as well as the common questions that emerged from the UK Youth Parliament. Later on in the episode, Kate and Angharad discuss how children and families are impacted during parental separation, whether divorce or separation impacts children’s mental health and to what extent. Also, they explore what this can look like day-to-day and what the key factors are that lead to significant impact. Finally, Helen and Adam give their recommendations for further help and advice and the next steps for future reports and actions on the level of government.About the guestsHelen Adam started her work with separating families as a solicitor in London. Following a career break, she retrained as a mediator and founded Wells Family Mediation. Helen is also chair of the Family Solutions Group (FSG). The FSG presses for coordinated political oversight and funding for separated families. We’ve previously recorded an episode on language with Helen, so make sure to have a listen. Dr Angharad Rudkin is a clinical psychologist with over 20 years experience of working with children and families to discuss divorce and separation from the perspective of children.Angharad is also an expert for the Metro's relationship column, offers training and consultation for family lawyers and worked as a lecturer on the Clinical Psychology doctorate at the University of Southampton for 12 years.Angharad was a consulting editor for ‘101 Questions Answered about Separating with Children’ and has recently published a book for children on how to cope with their parent’s divorce, The Split Survival Kit, written with children’s author Ruth Fitzgerald. We’ve also recorded an episode with Angharad in the past which is number 57 if you would like to have a listen.For help and advice with divorce, separation, co-parenting or anything related to these, please visit: amicable.co.uk
Episode #105: Co-parenting at different ages and stages
Mar 18 2024
Episode #105: Co-parenting at different ages and stages
In this episode, Kate is joined by clinical therapist and manager, Julie Cooper, to discuss the reality of co-parenting across the varying stages of childhood.About the guestJulie is a lead provider of mental health services at Honey for Moms, in Ferndale, Michigan. She is a Co-parenting specialist and single mum of two and has dedicated her career to helping parents throughout their co-parenting journey. As a mother moving through divorce, Julie’s personal experience of co-parenting highlighted the need for a stronger support system, clearer information and dependable resources. Her journey along this path drove her to believe that, regardless of marital status, raising secure children who feel seen, heard, and loved by both parents, is possible with the right tools and support. Julie's tenured work in mental health has led her to become a strong clinician, leader, and advocate for mental health. She also has a passion for helping individuals with trauma, anxiety, depression, and low self-worth. As team lead in her practice, Julie is deeply committed to providing professional guidance and furthering education in this field.About the episodeThroughout this episode, Kate and Julie move through the different stages of childhood, highlighting the most important considerations when moving into a co-parenting family structure. They look at separating when children are babies, toddlers, young children, teenagers and finally, children as they grow up and the signs and changes you may have to look out for, as well as signposting the available help.
Episode #103: Co-dependency, relationships and separation with Mark Groves
Feb 21 2024
Episode #103: Co-dependency, relationships and separation with Mark Groves
In this episode, Kate was joined by Mark Groves, a Human Connection Specialist and founder of 'Create the Love', to discuss co-dependency in relationships, separation and divorce.  About the guestMark's separation from his ex-partner sparked his journey to turn his experiences into an impactful message. Mark founded Create The Love, a platform that guides people to design the life and love they long for, following on from his rock bottom when his relationship ended. He hosts The Mark Groves Podcast and has a significant following on social media where he shares his insight into relationships. Today, Mark is a human connection specialist, speaker, writer, motivator, creator, connector and collaborator. As a bridge between the academic and the human, Mark invites people to explore the good, bad, downright ugly, and beautiful sides of connection.  Mark is a friend of the podcast and this is his second appearance; you can check out Mark's previous episode here.Kate and Mark begin the episode by exploring how co-dependency can manifest in romantic and other personal relationships. They look at the link between codependency and addiction, as well as whether a codependent relationship can ever be healthy. During the episode, they talk about ending a codependent relationship and how fear is a driver for couples staying together in unhealthy and unhappy relationships. Finally, Mark and Kate end the episode by discussing the role of boundaries in healing co-dependency and co-parenting.
Episode #101: Divorce tales and co-parenting with actress Ella Kenion
Jan 24 2024
Episode #101: Divorce tales and co-parenting with actress Ella Kenion
In this episode, Kate was joined by Ella Kenion to talk about her experience of divorce and co-parenting. Ella spoke candidly about her two divorces, the first being the pinnacle of ‘amicable’ and the second being far from it. They also explore her co-parenting journey. About the guest: Ella has enjoyed a long and varied career as an actress, working successfully across both stage and screen for many years., with highlights including the BBC’s The Outlaws, Doctors, and The Detectorists, ITV’s Midsomer Murders and the feature film The Night before Christmas. Television credits include: Beyond Paradise (BritBox), So Awkward: Kids Camp (BBC), The Outlaws (BBC), Honour (ITV), The Barking Murders (ITV), The Duchess (Netflix), Shakespeare & Hathaway (BBC), Doctors (BBC), Pure (Channel 4), Warren (BBC), Kiss of Death (Discovery), Midsomer Murders (ITV), The Detectorists (BBC), Episodes (Showtime), Swashbuckle (CBBC), New Tricks (BBC), Justin's House (CBBC), Big Bad World (Comedy Central), Law & Order UK (Kudos), Cuckoo (BBC), Heading Out (BBC), Hollyoaks (Channel 4), Doctor Who (BBC), Fun Police (Channel 4), Gates (Sky), Criminal Justice (BBC), Gayle Tuesday: The Comeback (Living TV), Holby City (BBC). Theatre credits include: Dusty (Theatre Royal Bath), Ghosting the Party (NT Company), Emil & The Detectives (National Theatre), The School for Scandal (The Comedians Theatre Company), Shooting Star (Chester Gateway Theatre), Private Lives (Watford Palace Theatre), Gift of the Gorgon (Royal Shakespeare Company) Film credits include: The Offenders (Big Talk), The Knight Before Christmas (HP Christmas Knight Productions), Stan & Ollie (Fable Pictures). TW: This episode mentions abusive behaviour. Some listeners may find the information and topics discussed distressing. Useful links/ charities:Surviving Economic AbuseDashRefugeMen's Advice Line
Episode #100: The best bits from The Divorce Podcast
Jan 10 2024
Episode #100: The best bits from The Divorce Podcast
To celebrate this special occasion, we're taking a trip down memory lane and bringing you the absolute best bits from our most impactful and insightful episodes. Tune in as we delve into various topics including the emotional journey, co-parenting and children, and finances on divorce. We'll touch on finding your inner strength, co-parenting with grace, rebuilding your life, and embracing personal growth. Our guests will share their expertise, stories, and advice, creating a space for understanding and support.About the guests (In order of appearance):Jessica Fostekew: comedian, actor and writerIn 2019, Jess was nominated for The Dave Edinburgh Comedy Award ‘Best Show’ for her show Wench. She's the co-writer and co-star of the forthcoming Sky special 'Real Friends' and her series 'Sturdy Girl Club' is now on BBC Sounds. Ed Bassett: well-being entrepreneur, Dad, and rugby fanFather of two, Ed is involved in several not-for-profit companies, an Ambassador for Staffordshire, a start-up mentor and a passionate believer in finding your voice and speaking your truth.The Midlife Mentors, Claire and James DavisClaire and James Davis are the husband-and-wife team behind the multi-award-winning well-being company 38 Degrees North and the thriving midlife coaching business, The Midlife Mentors. Dr Angharad Rudkin: clinical psychologist Dr Angharad Rudkin a clinical psychologist with over 20 years experience of working with children and families to discuss divorce from the perspective of children.  Marcie Shaoul: Director of The Co-Parent WayMarcie is the Director of The Co-Parent Way, the UK’s only Co-Parent Coaching Practice. She is responsible for developing a unique coaching methodology that enables parents to co-parent together effectively after separation.Christina McGhee: internationally recognised divorce parenting expertWith over 25 years of experience, Christina has been featured across television, radio and podcasts including The Times, Channel 4 and the BBC.Louise Oliver: financial plannerLouise has worked in the financial services sector for over 30 years and is a Certified Financial Planner and a Chartered Wealth Manager.Daniel Copley: consumer expert at ZooplaDan is an editor with over 10 years of experience in the property, lifestyle and fashion sectors.Shreepali Chauhan-Tufail: Divorce Specialist at amicableShreepali is a former Solicitor with over 20 years of experience in Dispute Resolution, Family and Commercial law. Joshua Rozenberg: the UK’s most experienced legal commentatorJoshua Rozenberg KC (hon) is Britain's most experienced full-time legal commentator. He is the only journalist to have been appointed as Queen's Counsel honoris causa. David Hodson: solicitor, mediator, arbitratorProf David Hodson OBE KC(Hons) MCIArb is a co-founder partner of The International Family Law Group, which works with international families and their children.
Episode #95: Building self-confidence post-separation
Nov 1 2023
Episode #95: Building self-confidence post-separation
In this episode, Kate is joined by The Midlife Mentors, Claire and James Davis, to discuss building self-confidence post-separation & divorce.Claire and James Davis are the husband-and-wife team behind the multi-award-winning wellbeing company 38 Degrees North and the thriving midlife coaching business, The Midlife Mentors. The couple have a successful midlife health podcast; The Midlife and their passion is helping ‘midlifers’ achieve the body, mind, and lifestyle they deserve.Kate, Claire and James begin the episode by discussing their own journeys and how it led to the creation of 'The Midlife Mentors', as well as '38 Degrees North'. They discuss building self-confidence after a divorce or separation, nutrition and its impact on confidence, the role of friends and family and much more.More about the guests:Using their backgrounds and qualifications in psychology, coaching, hormones, nutrition, personal training, stress management, menopause and NLP, their evidence-based approach empowers individuals with the practical tools and knowledge they need to make positive lifestyle changes.Claire & James are incredibly passionate about offering an anti-fad approach to the health and wellness narrative. You’ll find no fancy diets or pseudo-science - just authentic, balanced information based on years of professional and personal experience.They also work with corporations providing coaching and wellness programmes for individuals and teams and are regular media commentators. They have featured in The New York Times, The Daily Telegraph, The Sunday Times, The Observer, The Daily Mail, Conde Nast Traveller, The Evening Standard and more.
Episode #94: Separation in the workplace with Tesco, OnePlusOne and The Positive Parenting Alliance
Oct 18 2023
Episode #94: Separation in the workplace with Tesco, OnePlusOne and The Positive Parenting Alliance
In this episode, Kate is joined by Mustafa Faruqi from Tesco, James Hayhurst, founder of The Positive Parenting Alliance and The Parents Promise and Jimi Odel from OneplusOne to discuss separation and the workplace.Kate, Mustafa, James, and Jimi begin by looking at what employers can do to support their employees during a separation, especially in the wake of the movement to ‘bring your whole self to work’. Jimi and Mustafa touch on how employees can tell work about a separation and how managers can navigate these conversations. They explore the different policies and practices that might be in place, as well as how employers can create a culture that opens communication about life events which may impact work performance or work patterns. This is a brilliant episode for those going through a separation and people more generally, as it gives great tips about talking to and supporting colleagues. You can find OnePlusOne's tips for employers and the OLPAC approach by following this link. For more information and to sign up for and download The Parents Promise HR initiative resources, click here. About the guests:Mustafa Faruqi is Head of Reward and Workplace Relations at Tesco. Tesco, a leading multinational retailer with over 330,000 employees, is among the major employers committed to a new initiative to support staff going through separation. Before this, he worked for several prominent companies in the private and public sectors, including British Airways, Heathrow Airport and Network Rail. His career in human resources has specialised in negotiating with trade unions, implementing workplace change, developing HR policies and managing employee casework, including employment tribunals.Jimi Odell is the content manager at OnePlusOne, a relationship support charity with more than fifty years of experience in creating evidence-based early intervention resources to help people build and maintain healthy relationships. James Hayhurst is the founder of The Positive Parenting Alliance and creator of The Parents Promise.  He set up The Positive Parenting Alliance, having seen up close the many issues in the family courts and the scale and numbers of children affected. In May 2021, the Parents Promise was launched after many conversations with like-minded people and organisations.
Episode #92: Is 50/50 fair? Fairness, finances and divorce with Joshua Rozenberg and David Hodson
Sep 18 2023
Episode #92: Is 50/50 fair? Fairness, finances and divorce with Joshua Rozenberg and David Hodson
In this episode, Kate is joined by Joshua Rozenberg and David Hodson to discuss whether 50/50 is a fair way to divide money and property during a divorce or separation. Joshua Rozenberg is the UK’s most experienced legal commentator. David Hodson is an English solicitor, mediator, arbitrator, and part-time (deputy) family court judge specialising in complex financial family law cases. In April 2023, the Law Commission of England and Wales launched a review of the laws determining how finances are divided between couples when they divorce or end a civil partnership. This is the backdrop of the episode; Kate, Joshua and David explore ‘fairness’ and whether 50/50 is consistently fair in the Law Commission's Review of rules around how money and property should be divided.Kate, Joshua and David look at the current law and the potential reforms being considered. They discuss the 'sharing principle', whether 50/50 should be the default for how finances are divided between couples and how the court deals with 'needs' cases.  More about the guests: Joshua Rozenberg KC (hon) is Britain's most experienced full-time legal commentator. He is the only journalist to have been appointed as Queen's Counsel honoris causa. He is an honorary Master of the Bench (bencher) of Gray's Inn and a non-executive board member of the Law Commission. His most recent book is Enemies of the People? How Judges Shape Society.  After taking a law degree at Oxford, he trained as a solicitor, qualifying in 1976. Since 2008, he has written for the Law Society Gazette, the Guardian and The Critic magazine. Joshua was the BBC's legal correspondent for 15 years before moving in 2000 to The Daily Telegraph. After resigning as legal editor in the summer of 2007 he continued to write a weekly column until the end of 2008. Joshua returned to the BBC in 2010 to present the Radio 4 series Law in Action. In 2012, he was included by The Times in its independently-judged list of the UK's 100 most influential lawyers, the only journalist to feature. Joshua is known for his independence, authority, and ability to explain complicated legal issues with simplicity, clarity, and wit.  He appears regularly on Sky News, on the BBC's various news outlets and other news networks in the UK and abroad. Prof David Hodson OBE KC(Hons) MCIArb is a co-founder partner of The International Family Law Group, which works with international families and their children.  He is an English solicitor, mediator, arbitrator, Australian (NSW) solicitor and a deputy (part-time) family court judge at the Central Family Court (DDJ in the FRC at the CFC) in London and Western Circuit.  He is a member of the English Law Society Family Law Committee, a Fellow of the International Academy of Family Lawyers, a member of LawAsia, the Family Law Section of the Law Council of Australia and a similar contributor to many family law organisations worldwide.  He is a regular speaker at international family law conferences around the world.  He was awarded the OBE for services to international family law.  He was appointed the (now) KC (Hons) in March 2022 by virtue of making a significant impact on the law of England and Wales.  He is the editor and primary author of the LexisNexis textbook ‘The International Family Law Practice’ (6th ed).  He is a Visiting Professor at the University of Law and an Honorary Professor of Law at Leicester University.
Episode #89: Sex and relationships with Ian Kerner
Aug 9 2023
Episode #89: Sex and relationships with Ian Kerner
In this episode, Kate is joined by sex and relationship therapist, Ian Kerner.Please be aware that this episode contains sexual references so you might want to listen out of earshot of any children Ian Kerner (PhD, LMFT) is a licensed psychotherapist and nationally recognized sex therapist who works with individuals and couples on a range of relational issues that often lead to distress. Ian is regularly quoted as an expert in various media, with recent features in The New York Times, The Economist and NPR amongst others. Ian contributes regularly on the topic of relationships for CNN. He lectures frequently, with recent presentations for the Psychotherapy Networker Symposium, the Ackerman Institute, Tony Robbins, Goop, and TED 2021. Ian is the New York Times best-selling author of She Comes First (Harper Collins) which has been translated into more than a dozen languages, as well as the recently published So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex (Grand Central). In addition to being a Clinical Fellow of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (AAMFT), Ian is certified by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists and is also a member of the American Family Therapy Academy (AFTA). Kate and Ian kick the episode off by discussing common problems which long-term couples tend to struggle with when it comes to sex. Later, they delve into various topics including intimacy issues, loss of attraction and practical tips to help relight that flame and get your physical relationship back on track.