Brandler Bits

Jeffrey M. Brandler, LMFT, CAS, SAP

As a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Certified Addictions Specialist and Nationally Board Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist, for the past 39 years, I have worked with many people who have successfully made changes in their life. Brandler Bits are tasty morsels that address how people make change. For more information, go to my website www.changeispossible.org

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Episode 71: Name it Claim it Tame it

Episode 71: Name it Claim it Tame it

Have you experienced a painful or traumatic event in your life? If so you will want to listen to today’s Brandler Bits when we address a great strategy to handle this. If you follow the phrases, Name It, Claim It, Tame it, you can work on healing this pain.

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Episode 71: Name it Claim it Tame it

Episode 71: Name it Claim it Tame it

Have you experienced a painful or traumatic event in your life? If so you will want to listen to today’s Brandler Bits when we address a great strategy to handle this. If you follow the phrases, Name It, Claim It, Tame it, you can work on healing this pain.

Episode 70: Hope

Episode 70: Hope

Are you feeling a little dark, perhaps a little hopeless, and maybe lacking enthusiasm?Then today's Brandler Bits is the perfect remedy. Learn 4 strategies to put more hope into your life.

Episode 69: More Than Words

Episode 69: More Than Words

On today’s episode of Brandler Bits, we are going to discuss the need for authentic communication with ourselves and within our relationships. Using Ruiz' agreement "Be impeccable with your words", we discuss why our words matter more than they ever did.

Episode 68: Wasted Time

Episode 68: Wasted Time

On today’s Brandler Bits, we will talk about the Eagles song “wasted time” and how that applies to relationships. This powerful song about the end of a relationship can teach us many things about healing from breakup and making changes in life.

Episode 67: Why You Need Boundaries

Episode 67: Why You Need Boundaries

On today's episode of brandler bits we're going to discuss boundaries—· what they are · why they're important · and how to set them

Episode 66: Communication Skills for Couples

Episode 66: Communication Skills for Couples

In 2014, I was a guest on the "Stay Happily Married" podcast. The topic was communication skills. Listen as we discuss "I messages" listening, acknowledging and validating, as well as building intimacy. The communication skills that I referenced then are still relevant today.

Episode 65: Resentment: the " Gift" That You Keep Giving Yourself

Episode 65: Resentment: the " Gift" That You Keep Giving Yourself

On today’s episode we cover the topic of resentments. We are going to define what a resentment is, and then most importantly discuss some tools that you can use to make them better.

Episode 64: Our House--Does your relationship house need some help?

Episode 64: Our House--Does your relationship house need some help?

In this episode of Brandler Bits, we example the "house" of your relationship. How is the foundation? How is the first floor? How about the second floor? Are there issues? Do you need some housing upgrades? Does your house need some renovation? Listen to find out more.

Episode 63: Irresolution-when resolutions often fail (Revised edition 2023)

Episode 63: Irresolution-when resolutions often fail (Revised edition 2023)

This episode of Brandler Bits describes in detail about why new years resolutions do NOT work. Instead of making a resolution, think about making a plan for the changes that you want and need in the upcoming year

Episode 62: Stories

Episode 62: Stories

In the year ending edition of Brandler Bits learn about your story. How do you want it to be? Can you write a new chapter or a new book to improve your health?Listen to learn more

Episode 61: Sweaty Conversations: Intimacy

Episode 61: Sweaty Conversations: Intimacy

In the latest edition of "Brandler Bits" learn how "sweaty communications" lead to intimate conversations. In this bit, you will learn 3 ways to improve your intimacy.Thanks for listening!

Episode 60: Responding vs. Reacting

Episode 60: Responding vs. Reacting

In the latest edition of Brandler Bits, learn the difference between a reaction and a response. Learn the strategies for responding and improving your communication skills with important people in your life.

Episode 59: Until

Episode 59: Until

On this end of the year episode of "Brandler Bits", we learn about how the word "until" is actually a word that prevents change. Learn how "until" sets up people to fail in their plans for self improvement. Learn how to make changes in smaller, achievable, measurable and more do able steps

Episode 58: The Daily Racing Form

Episode 58: The Daily Racing Form

On this edition of Vintage Brandler Bits, we discuss one of my favorite metaphors "The Daily Racing Form". The Daily Racing form teaches us everything we need to know about how to find a partner by looking at past performances and family history. Picking the right "horse" will take us into the winners circle!

Episode 57: Make The Best of What's Around

Episode 57: Make The Best of What's Around

In this "Vintage Brandler Bit" we examine the topic of survivors. We pay careful attention to how survive get through life by "making the best of what's around"

Episode 56: The 2 Questions

Episode 56: The 2 Questions

This Vintage "Brandler Bits" episode covers self improvement. In order to have better self-care, there are 2 questions that you need to ask yourself. Learn what these questions are, and how you can use them to feel better about yourself.

Episode 55: I Never Thought That I'd Be Sitting Here

Episode 55: I Never Thought That I'd Be Sitting Here

In this first "Vintage Brandler Bit" we discuss people's first reactions to starting therapy. Many normal experiences are addressed including anxiety, fear and discomfort. In this episode, I get to share some of my gratitude to being part of the journey towards change.

Episode 54: Coping with Stress and Depression During the Holidays

Episode 54: Coping with Stress and Depression During the Holidays

This is an edited version of a presentation that I made in 2006 at the Morristown, NJ Depression Bipolar Support Alliance. It addressed many issues about dealing with the Holidays and provides excellent coping strategies to make your holiday season the best it can be.

Episode 53: I'm Still Standing

Episode 53: I'm Still Standing

This edition of Brandler Bits is our end of the year episode.There is an examination of how we have handled 2020 and this episode gives good directions for how to make changes in the upcoming year.In addition, there are recommendations for attending therapy particularly as Covid continues to spread.

Relationships During Covid

Relationships During Covid

On this edition of Brandler Bits we discuss how relationships have been impacted by the Covid-19 pandemic. Many relationships have been strained, others have been broken. Learn how to improve your relationship and make it one that can handle the next phases of covid.