How can you date with social anxiety? This week Lily gives us all a much-needed pep talk and lays out a roadmap for dealing with social anxiety while trying to find love. From her own experiences, she drops some wisdom on showing yourself self-compassion and bouncing back stronger, all to create a dating life full of joy! ✨ You’ll learn: Go S.O.F.T. Practice self-compassion, own your needs, feel your feelings, thoughts not facts. “Messy progress forward is okay.”“Feelings your emotions is reparenting yourself.”The goal is never to feel anxious again; it’s to increase your capacity for resiliency so that when you feel anxious, you know what to do about it.Even if you have anxiety, you can still make massive changes in your life. Links: Free Training With Lily Womble TODAY, May 7th! 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner With a Joyful as Fuck Dating Life The Brazen Breakthrough Lily’s book, Thank You More Please, is available for preorder right now and you can grab it and the preorder bonuses with this link! Psychology Today Dr. Kristin Neff Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle, Emily Nagoski, Amelia Nagoski  Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-date-with-social-anxiety

Is it possible to attract proactive, loving partners? Yes! Mishi joins Lily to share her story of how she went from attracting completely emotionally unavailable men to attracting the most proactive partner. They dive into Mishi’s journey - it's total empowerment vibes! From dealing with consecutive breakups to finding self-trust with the help of personal reflection and the Brazen Breakthrough program, Mishi's story is a roadmap to living your best life. They get into the nitty-gritty of self-growth and that ah-mazing moment when you start trusting your gut to attract the kind of connections you desire.  We get into: How Mishi learned to rediscover herself after enduring two challenging breakups The most significant difference in Mishi’s dating life todayThe act of listening to your intuition and embracing self-trust Some of the Brazen Breakthrough strategies that Mishi found helpful, including Bless-Release and the Dating Feedback SystemWhat it’s like to be in a proactive and loving relationship  Links: Free Training With Lily Womble on May 7th! 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner With a Joyful as Fuck Dating Life Lily’s book, Thank You More Please, is available for preorder right now and you can grab it and the preorder bonuses with this link! Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/attracting-proactive-loving-partner

In this episode, we dive deep into the empowering world of Essence-Based Preferences (EBPs). EBPs aren't just preferences but a revolutionary act of self-ownership and empowerment. It's all about embracing what you want without any apologies or self-judgment. This episode is about defining your desires and creating a bold action plan that aligns with your deepest desires. Join us as we revolutionize the dating game and empower ourselves to attract nothing but the best. Let's do this! 🔥 You’ll learn: Let's get one thing straight - it's your absolute right to choose who you want to be withOwning your EBPs is a feminist act. It's about flipping the script and putting yourself at the center of your dating universe. Bye-bye, antiquated norms!EBPs are the answer to attracting the best partner in your lifeUnder vs. Over-Functioning Preferences: It's all about finding that sweet spot. Too little? You're selling yourself short. Too much? You're losing sight of your true desires.   Links: Lily’s book, Thank You More Please, is available for preorder right now and you can grab it and the preorder bonuses with this link! Free Training With Lily Womble on May 7th! 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner With a Joyful as Fuck Dating Life Creating Your Essence-Based Preferences Comprehensive Guide Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/owning-your-preferences

Ever wondered how to bounce back after a significant breakup? This week, Danielle, one of our Brazen Breakthrough clients, opens up about her journey through healing and self-discovery. She reflects on her past relationships and how she redefined her intentions and boundaries to rediscover herself. This episode is a testament to self-compassion, offering dating insights and profound thoughts on personal growth and finding joy. We get into: How Danielle realized she wasn’t getting what she truly wanted in dating Breaking patterns of complacency and shrinking away from what you wantShifting from second-guessing yourself to trusting your intuitionThe lessons and takeaways from Brazen Breakthrough that help Danielle show up and support others (and herself)The impact on Danielle’s dating life, including creating stronger boundaries and dating with intentionThe act of reclaiming your sense of Self  Links: Free Training With Lily Womble on May 7th! 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner With a Joyful as Fuck Dating Life The Brazen Breakthrough Waitlist Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/hard-breakups-to-joyful-af-dating-life

Did you know you’re most attractive when you are authentically you? Well, that’s precisely what this week’s guest, Therapy Jeff, says! Jeff Guenther, known as Therapy Jeff, joins Lily for a conversation about the intricacies of modern dating, the evolution of therapy in the age of social media, and authentic self-expression.  Therapy Jeff's insights on modern dating and mental health are a breath of fresh air. In a world saturated with dating advice and unrealistic expectations, his book, 'Big Dating Energy,' offers a refreshing perspective: that lasting love stems from embracing one's authentic self. In an era of self-doubt and comparison, Jeff reminds us that we are inherently lovable and deserving of genuine connection. We get into: What dating advice/problems/framing Jeff’s book, Big Dating Energy, aims to solveAddressing beliefs like “It’s my fault, or I’m not good enough.” The idea of feminine and masculine energy and the notion of “not being in your feminine enough.”Cognitive overload and how to get in touch with your intention when using social media or dating apps Links: Lily’s book, Thank You More Please, is available for preorder right now and you can grab it and the preorder bonuses with this link! Jeff’s book, Big Dating EnergyTherapy Jeff’s websiteTherapy Jeff on TikTokTherapy Jeff on Instagram Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/big-dating-energy-with-therapy-jeff

Nervous about sending a DM to a cutie or asking somebody on a date? If you answered yes, then this week’s episode is for you.   Lily explores the mindset shifts and practical steps needed to step out of your comfort zone and shoot your shot! Whether it's sliding into those DMs or asking someone out face-to-face, this episode is your guide to overcoming the nerves and getting what you want.  Grab your pen and paper, and get ready to take notes. By the end of this episode, you'll be ready to revolutionize your approach to dating. Asking for more of what you want leads to more of what you desire. This episode is part strategy and part hype. You’ve got this and Lily’s got your back!  You’ll learn: “The only thing separating you from getting what you want is your willingness to ask for it out loud.”Shooting your shot is about giving your permission to be the main character of your storyHow to get over the paralyzing fear of asking for what you wantThe role permission, self-trust, and courageous action play when shooting your shotIt’s not about doing it perfectly. It’s about doing the thing.Your job is to pursue what you want, trust your desire, and take messy, courageous action toward those desires. Links: Pre-order Lily’s upcoming book, Thank You, More Please! Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/shooting-your-shot-challenge

We're diving into the intersection of body liberation, white supremacy, and dating with the incredible Jessica Wilson, MS. RD. As the author of "It's Always Been Ours: Rewriting the Story of Black Women's Bodies," Jessica brings her expertise as a dietitian, storyteller, and community organizer to the forefront. Together, Lily and Jessica explore the interplay between shrinking our bodies in response to white supremacy and shrinking our desires, unpacking how Black and Brown women can reclaim their body liberation and prioritize care in the dating world. We get into: The interplay between shrinking our bodies in response to white supremacy and shrinking our desiresJessica’s view on how Black and Brown women can reclaim their body liberation and prioritize care in the process of putting themselves out there in dating“Your body is not the problem,” Spaces to seek out body liberation support and communityHow do we set boundaries for those, not on the same page or path with body liberation? Jessica’s favorite moment of Black Joy since writing her book Links: Pre-order Lily’s upcoming book, Thank You, More Please! Jessica’s website Jessica’s book, It’s Always Been Ours Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/body-liberation-dating-and-black-joy-with-jessica-wilson

Trigger warning: This episode contains mentions of suicide. You are worthy. If you need more convincing, this week’s episode is not to miss. Tara Schuster, author of Glow in the F*cking Dark: Simple Practices to Heal Your Soul from Someone Who Learned the Hard Way, joins Lily on the show! In the book and throughout this conversation, Tara shares practical steps to liberate yourself from emotional suffering, heal your past, and own your future. Tara served as Vice President of Talent and Development at Comedy Central, where she was the executive in charge of critically acclaimed shows such as the Emmy and Peabody Award–winning Key & Peele, the Emmy® Award winning @Midnight (now After Midnight on CBS) amongst many others. Over the last twelve years, Tara has spent her “10,000 hours” on the other side of the couch studying philosophy, therapies, religions, and even memoirs of the adults she admired so that she could find emotional freedom from a neglectful and psychologically abusive childhood. Lily and Tara get into: “It’s not magic having a different life. You can’t sit back and wait for it to happen; you have to work for it.”What inspired Tara to write Glow in the F*cking Dark and its mission: the practice of finding your essential self.Thoughts and advice for overcoming lack of self-trust and self-criticism Tara shares her self-compassion party trick!How Tara got to a place to make decisions rooted in her own best interest, especially in dating Links: Pre-order Lily’s upcoming book, Thank You, More Please! Get Instant Access to Creating a Confident and Joyful-as-fuck Dating Life That Makes the Right Relationship Inevitable Glow in the F*cking Dark, Tara Schuster Tara’s website Tara on Instagram The Loveland Foundation Show notes:  http://datebrazen.com/blog/glow-in-the-dark-with-tara-schuster

Are you tired of swiping left and right, endlessly scrolling through dating apps, hoping to find a genuine connection? In this episode, Lily welcomes Maxine Simone Williams, the creative powerhouse behind a New York City-based initiative, We Met IRL, reshaping how people meet and mingle, diving deep into the world of speed dating and real-life encounters. Maxine shares her journey of building We Met IRL and why her speed dating events make dating fun again. Plus, Lily and Maxine tackle common dating concerns like handling rejection at speed dating events or overcoming social barriers for the shy and introverted.  Tune into this episode as Lily and Maxine journey beyond the screens, where in-person connections thrive. They get into: Dating assumptions that these events challenge  - making dating fun again!  Are dating apps the only way people are meeting people? Instagram vs Phone Number: what to give out when meeting IRL What if nobody chooses me at speed dating How to go about meeting people in real life or speed-dating if you are shy or introverted  Links: Pre-order Lily’s upcoming book, Thank You, More Please! Get Instant Access to Creating a Confident and Joyful-as-fuck Dating Life That Makes the Right Relationship Inevitable We Met IRL on TikTok @wemetirl We Met IRL on Instagram @wemetirl Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/speed-dating-with-maxine-simone-williams

Are you striving to let go of the wrong people? What if we told you that the extent to which you're willing to bless and release the wrong people is directly linked to your path toward the right relationship? In this episode, Lily reveals her strategy for blessing and releasing the wrong people in your life, enabling your mind to shift its focus towards the right connections for you. "Blessing and releasing" is a radical step towards fulfilling your desires. So, grab your note-taking tools because this episode is full of practical how-to's on this transformative process. In this episode, you will learn: Having people in your life who are not suitable for you is about the underlying fear that what you want is not possible or not worthy of what you want. That is worthy of your curiosity and compassion. Categories of when to bless and release (B&R) someone Different levels of connection deserve a different approach to blessing and releasing. Tips for outlining a B&R moment for a breakup  Lily breaks down an incomplete roster of individuals to bless and release, including: the stonewaller, the Eeyore, the most intense human, and the pen-pal. Reflection questions to help you determine if you need to bless and release someone Text and out loud scripts for B&R like “Hey, thanks for hanging. I’m not feeling a romantic connection, wish you the best.” Links: Pre-order Lily’s upcoming book, Thank You, More Please! 124. The “Thank You, More, Please!” Challenge! Radical Alignment, Alexandra Jamieson and Bob Gower Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-bless-and-release-the-wrong-people

Today, get ready to geek out with us on the podcast! We're thrilled to have Faith Hill, a staff writer at The Atlantic, joining Lily for an insightful conversation about research and its cultural impact on dating. We get into topics like dating dynamics, dating yourself, social connections, and being single.  Together, Lily and Faith dive into Faith’s latest articles about exploring love, dating, and the complexities of singlehood. What's particularly captivating about Faith's writing is how she addresses those burning questions that naturally arise as you delve into the research she shares.  Tune in for a chat that sheds light on the intriguing intersection where love, society, and human connections meet! 🎙️✨ We get into: Dating culture and its problematic value of coupled people over singles  What the research showed regarding dating “spark vs. slow burn.”  The assumption that we'll be happier in a relationship The emotions that get stirred up when examining this statement, “As your friends get coupled, it could feel like a ghost town.” Hot-take: “Spending all your time with your partner is not great for your relationship or friendships.” Allowing for messy intimacy with friendships or partners  Perception and feelings about solo dating: how to release the narrative that taking yourself on a date means you are lonely, and how to bring more pleasure to solo time Hot-take: “Solitude is not antithetical to connection.” Links: Pre-order Lily’s upcoming book, Thank You, More Please! 130. How to find and create "exhale" friendships with Blake Blankenbecler 173. Fighting for our friendships with Danielle Bayard Jackson Faith’s articles referenced in this episode: No, You Shouldn’t ‘Date ’Em ’Til You Hate ’Em’ https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2023/11/awkward-modern-dating-the-spark/676039/ Don't let love take over your life https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2023/09/relationship-balance-love-friendship-autonomy/675321/ Take yourself on a date!  https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2022/12/seeing-movies-alone-solo-date-in-public/672363/ Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/research-cultural-impact-of-dating

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Doors to this round of The Brazen Breakthrough close 2/23/24 @ midnight EST. Here's the LINK TO JOIN US. If you're catching this after the fact, then add your name to the waitlist with the link above.

Doors to this round of The Brazen Breakthrough close 2/23/24 @ midnight EST. Here's the LINK TO JOIN US. If you're catching this after the fact, then add your name to the waitlist with the link above.

Doors to this round of The Brazen Breakthrough close 2/23/24 @ midnight EST. Here's the LINK TO JOIN US. If you're catching this after the fact, then add your name to the waitlist with the link above.

Doors to this round of The Brazen Breakthrough close 2/23/24 @ midnight EST. Here's the LINK TO JOIN US. If you're catching this after the fact, then add your name to the waitlist with the link above.

What does it feel like to be in the right relationship? Join us on the Date Brazen Podcast as we get into this intriguing question with Maddie, a former client whose journey may inspire you. From discovering deeper essence-based preferences to finding her now-husband during the Brazen Breakthrough program, Maddie's story is a testament to the transformative power of belief in self and taking courageous action.  This episode is a beacon of hope, reminding you that what you desire does exist. Through inspiring stories like Maddie's, we witness firsthand that with bold action, the love and fulfillment you seek are not only possible but inevitable. Hot-takes and episode topics: Just got out of a relationship - is it too soon to do this work? The most impactful lesson Maddie learned that translates beyond dating Maddie shares her sparkly experience meeting her now husband on a dating app Overcoming doubt about whether or not you are in the right relationship  How does it feel to be in the right relationship, and what is the work after you find it? Centering yourself in what you want sets you on a different path; there is transformative power in believing in the possibility of what you truly desire Links:  Pre-order Lily’s upcoming book, Thank You, More Please! Creating a Confident and Joyful-as-fuck Dating Life That Makes the Right Relationship Inevitable Show notes:http://datebrazen.com/blog/being-in-the-right-relationship

This week, Lily serves up some real talk about why it might be time to bid farewell to dating advice from your coupled friends. You’ll hear why it's crucial to take the reins of your dating life and stop relying on well-meaning but misaligned advice from friends in relationships. In this episode, Lily encourages you to set boundaries with friends who may unintentionally trivialize or patronize your dating experiences. She emphasizes cultivating supportive communities of single friends who genuinely understand and uplift your dating struggles.  The goal of this episode is to leave you feeling empowered to take control of your dating journey and assemble a crew of friends who've got your back. Hot-takes and topics: Your coupled friends don’t know your love story. Hot-take: They don’t know more than you because they are in a relationship and you’re not. If dating advice friends give makes you feel small, or your dating experience is entertainment for them, it is time to fire your coupled friends from giving you dating advice.  Surround yourself with people who get your dating struggle and who are moving forward with you. Links: Pre-order Lily’s upcoming book, Thank You, More Please! Creating a Confident and Joyful-as-fuck Dating Life That Makes the Right Relationship Inevitable Danielle Bayard Jackson, Friend Forward Podcast Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/fire-coupled-friends-from-giving-dating-advice

Have you ever wondered what questions to ask when you first meet someone? This week, Lily unpacks why qualifying/disqualifying questions are the ultimate game-changer and can transform your dating experience from emotionally exhausting to intentional and amazing.  In this episode, Lily shares the ONE question that will revolutionize how you vet potential partners, ensuring you never waste time on lackluster dates and conversations again. Drawing from the program, The Brazen Breakthrough, and her upcoming book, Thank You, More Please, A Feminist Guide to Breaking Dumb Dating Rules and Finding Love, you get the tools and mindset needed to navigate the dating landscape confidently. Grab your notepad because this episode isn't just about strategy - it's a journey into reclaiming control of your dating narrative and steering towards the relationships you truly desire.  Episode Hot-takes and topics: “Give yourself permission to want what you want and start showing up for what you want in your life.” Qualifying/Disqualifying questions lead to higher-quality dates: you don’t need to cast a wide net. You need to be very specific about the type of person you seek.  “Most people are going to be wrong for you. You are for the few, not the many.” Stop sending bespoke messages and extending unnecessary emotional labor  Q/D questions that get deeper than surface-level convos allow you to vet people quickly Ask the right questions and tune into your body to see how the answer makes you feel. You want to feel intrigue or curiosity or excitement. If you don’t, bless and release. . Other Q/D questions we LOVE and Questions we DO NOT love when you're first texting Links: Pre-order Lily’s upcoming book, Thank You, More Please!   Creating a Confident and Joyful-as-fuck Dating Life That Makes the Right Relationship Inevitable   Free Guide to Your Essence-Based Preferences Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/qd-questions-strategy

Feeling hopeless or panicked about in-person dating? Then, this episode will motivate you to prioritize your desires and step into the path of opportunity to create a juicy in-person dating life. Today, we are getting into the ins and outs of the Brazen Breakthrough and how it changed the game for member Chloé.  Chloé opens up about what has been happening in her dating life and how she has been showing up differently. You’ll also hear how she now embodies what it means for her to have permissive, joyful connectivity.  We are so excited for you to hear this episode. It is a beautiful example of a human creating the life she desires. Episode hot takes and topics: Chloé on finding partnership: “It is not embarrassing or weak to say that my life would thrive even fuller with deep witnessing and intimacy.” The lesson that changed how Chloé’s outlook on dating and dating apps  “My feelings about dating have shifted dramatically.”  How the Brazen Breakthrough helped Chloé create a juicy in-person dating life    Breaking patterns that take you out of the path of opportunity  Links: Pre-order Lily’s upcoming book, Thank You, More Please! Creating a Confident and Joyful-as-fuck Dating Life That Makes the Right Relationship Inevitable Episode Link: http://datebrazen.com/blog/juicy-in-person-dating