Oct 4 2023
Reconsider Your Relationship To Alcohol
Welcome back to the podcast! Braedy Mac thrilled to have you here. Currently, he’s enjoying the tranquility of his new home in Byron Bay, Australia, which is pretty much a dream come true. This place has everything he could wish for – a sauna, a cold plunge, a hot tub, plenty of space, and blissful silence away from the hustle and bustle. This experience has made him appreciate the importance of nervous system regulation in relationships. His connection with animals, like Cuca, teaches us valuable lessons in down-regulating our own nervous systems, creating comfort, and fostering deeper connections. The way we relate to animals and humans may be different, but we share similar nervous systems, with fight-or-flight responses and relaxation mechanisms. Before diving into today's topic, let's reflect on the significance of understanding nervous system regulation in our relationships.Nervous system regulation is a fundamental aspect of relationships, and it's a crucial focus in programs like Infant Waiting or ERC (Embodied Relationship Counsel). When we aim to connect with someone on a deep level, it's essential to start by understanding their nervous system. Identifying triggers, addressing trauma, and creating safety are key steps. Then, we delve into their emotional world and finally, their soul, revealing something profound and transcendent.Now, let's dive into a topic that has impacted his life significantly from a young age and continues to do so – alcohol. Alcohol is a complex and normalized substance in our culture. It's legal, socially acceptable, and often associated with celebration and relaxation. Braedy’s personal journey with alcohol began in a party setting – the typical way many of us start. Growing up in Canada, he played competitive ice hockey, and it became a tradition to celebrate wins and losses with a few drinks. Alcohol seemed like a great tool for socializing, connecting with friends, and letting loose.The decision to be completely sober has opened up incredible opportunities for me. It has brought me clarity, grit, and a deeper trust in myself. The journey hasn't been without its challenges – there were subconscious reflexes and habits related to alcohol that I had to confront and rewire. But the rewards have been worth it, and I'm now on a path to discovering my full potential without the influence of alcohol.Thank you for joining me in this beautiful new home, and if you found this conversation valuable, share it with a friend or leave a review. Your support means the world. Stay tuned for more insightful discussions on how we relate to all aspects of life.Time Stamps:Nervous system regulation and connection with nature. (0:18)Settles into dream house in Byron Bay, Australia, with sauna, hot tub, and friendly native bird visits.Understanding nervous system regulation in relationships is key to deep connection.Alcohol use and its impact on life. (4:01)Braedy discusses the normalization and cultural promotion of alcohol, despite its negative impacts on his life and society.Reflects on their personal relationship with alcohol, noting its role in socializing but also the negative impact of shame and guilt associated with excessive drinking.Alcohol use and its impact on relationships. (10:36)Reflects on neglecting parts of themselves through excessive partying and socializing.Finds freedom in telling truth, exposing unlovable parts of self.Quitting alcohol for personal growth and self-awareness. (17:03)Quit drinking alcohol completely for themselves, realizing it hinders their full potential.Reflects on using alcohol as a crutch, seeks self-trust and clSupport the show