When a woman becomes a mother an absolutely seismic shift happens in her identity.  She changes from her full and complete pre-mother self into her forever-more mother self. This change is described as being so monumental that women experience a complete split in their identity.  We have to work out how to reconcile these two parts to find a new whole identity. This process of woman into mother is called matrescence.

This week I talk about:
1. What happens a woman becomes a mother.
2. The split that happens during this transition from pre-mother to mother.
3. Matrescence as the umbrella term for this transformation and how this term allows space for the expectation of change.


🍇To talk about with your partner.
What are the five questions you can have up your sleeve to ask a new mother? Which questions would been/will be meaningful for you? (try not to ask about the baby in these questions. Those thoughts will roll off the tongue naturally at the time. These questions stay with and about the mother.)

What are five questions you can have ready to ask a new father? (Remember: not about the baby.)

Extension: The same question but for mothers at 6 months, 1 year, 5 years, 10 years into their motherhood. (Stay away from questions that ask for advice. Keep the questions oriented around the personhood of the mother.)


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