The Crucible:Conversations for the Curious

Highlight"Your path to healing might start with a concerned friend, then maybe a doctor or a family member - each one gently suggesting something isn't right. It could be a coworker, a friend, or even a stranger at a bar. But it's that eleventh person - saying exactly what the other ten said before - 'I think you need help.' And suddenly, the penny drops. It's never about what they say - it's about being ready to hear it. Those first ten people? They planted the seeds that finally bloomed when that eleventh person appears. That's when the real journey begins."SummaryEver wondered why traditional counselling often misses the point? Nick Shepley knows this firsthand. From his first drink at 14 through fifteen years of searching for answers, his story illuminates a silent struggle.This conversation removes the clinical facade of addiction and explores what lies beneath our coping mechanisms. Nick reveals why our adaptations made sense and how this understanding transforms recovery. His journey from survival to awakening shows what becomes possible when shame is replaced with genuine understanding.Through honesty and experience, Nick highlights that true healing occurs when someone finally hears us. This isn't just another recovery tale—it's a powerful insight into how understanding can lead to freedom.About NickYou can find Nick here - Website - https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/counselling/nick-shepley-cardiff-wls/1361336Twitter - https://x.com/NickShepleyFacebook - https://www.facebook.com/nick.shepley.31keywords#addiction #recovery, #mentalhealth # counselling #self-worth #copingstrategies #alcohol #drugsTakeawaysAddiction often stems from childhood experiences and societal pressures.Finding a sense of belonging and acceptance is crucial for recovery.Support groups and community play a vital role in overcoming addiction.The journey to recovery is often non-linear and requires patience.Empathy and understanding can help individuals confront their issues.Change is possible when individuals recognise their problems.Therapy should feel collaborative and supportive, not confrontational.It's essential to see the person behind the addiction, not just the behaviour.Sound Bites"When I work with people, I always ask the question, what makes sense about this situation?""Recovery isn't about finding the right person. It's about being ready to hear the message.""Nobody graduates from childhood into adulthood with all the love their parents could give for them.""Sometimes you need ten people to plant the seeds before the eleventh can help them seek help and dare to change.""For some people, it's a horror story. For everybody else, there is something, some kind of minor crisis.""Part of the journey through life is taking that responsibility to address that lack and fill the hole myself.""If you break down the walls between addiction and other mental health phenomena, this story kind of makes sense.""The mind will try to solve the problem of trying to make things bearable."Chapters00:00 - The Journey Begins: Nick's Story of Addiction05:17 - Understanding the Coping Mechanism: Why We Turn to Substances09:59 - The Impact of Childhood on Adult Behavior14:35 - The Nature of Addiction: A Search for Comfort19:20 - Breaking the Cycle: Helping Those Who Are Stuck23:59 - The Role of Hope and Belief in Recovery30:46 - Beliefs and Conversations32:36 - The Role of the Therapist34:56 - Understanding Addiction as a Character38:04 - The Journey of Accountability39:57 - Consequences of Addiction42:14 - Family Dynamics and Addiction44:47 - Personal Journey to Recovery51:57 - The Power of Community and Support55:30 - The Gift of Giving

Highlight"For me it was that it was small simple steps but taken consistently had massive changes. Like my life is unrecognisable now compared to how it used to be... if I can do that, anybody can do that. It's not difficult. It's very simple, it's just it's the consistency mostly that's sometimes challenging because we have to go against how we think."SummaryRobyn shares her transformative journey from chronic illness to vibrant well-being in this enlightening conversation. Through her raw and honest account of battling ME and ongoing health challenges, she reveals how shifting from traditional medical approaches to self-empowerment became the catalyst for profound healing. Drawing on wisdom from Dr. Bruce Lipton and Dr. Gabor Maté, Robyn explores how our body's chemistry responds to perception and beliefs, showing how trauma and disconnection impact our physical reality. She demonstrates how small, consistent changes led to a remarkable transformation through her personal evolution. Robyn's powerful insights illuminate the journey from resistance to acceptance, offering fresh perspectives on reconnecting with our body's natural intelligence. The conversation weaves together cutting-edge science and practical wisdom, revealing how shifting our relationship with our body can unlock extraordinary healing potential and lasting well-being.About RobynWebsite - https://www.equenergy.com/ LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/w-i-l-d-wellbeing/Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/robyn.harris.7165Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/w.i.l.d.wellbeing/Robyn has written a book, you can find out more about it here - https://www.equenergy.com/bookupdates/ TakeawaysI felt stuck and at odds with my body.What I was looking for was something that would help me feel empowered.Pain is information; it’s important to listen to it.Sometimes the 'help' we're offered actually feels disempoweringSmall, consistent steps can lead to massive changes.We are conditioned to focus on the head brain, neglecting the heart and gut.The gut produces most of our serotonin, impacting our mood.Shame is feeling bad about who we are, not what we've done.We are all made from stardust, designed to shine.Life is a dance; embrace the plot twists.Sound Bites"I felt [my body] it was letting me down.""I was disconnected from my sense of self.""Reaching out and asking for help is challenging."Chapters02:59 - The Physical and Emotional Discomfort of Disconnect06:23 - Seeking Help and Exploring Alternative Approaches09:18 - Tools for Navigating Life's Challenges11:43 - Listening to the Body and Developing Self-Awareness16:33 - Creating Safety and Authenticity for Reconnection22:50 - Breaking the Cycle and Rewriting Habits25:41 - Introduction and Personal Experiences26:42 - Strategies for Self-Awareness and Empowerment29:52 -Trusting Your Intuition and Following the Body's Guidance31:06 - Releasing Shame and Embracing Imperfection34:20 - W·I·L·D® Wellbeing: Navigating Life with Curiosity and Joy39:39 - Simple Tips for Reconnecting with the Body50:21 - Where to Find More Information

Highlight"I was endlessly thinking about my life problems from morning to night. And I just lost control of my thoughts. The only thing that really helped me a little bit was you could smoke a cigarette. That would stop them for a bit, but then I started chain-smoking. And then that just made me more anxious, right? And so then I started drinking because I drink every day then. I have to drink."SummaryIn this episode, Bryan takes us on an extraordinary journey from the brink of despair to a life reimagined through creativity and technology. A self-described "Gen X techno nerd," Bryan candidly shares his battle with pharmaceutical addiction,  PTSD, and the crushing weight of intrusive thoughts. He reveals how he leveraged his computer science background to "reprogramme" his identity, treating life as a code to be rewritten. Bryan's story unfolds as a testament to the healing power of creative pursuits, from developing music recognition software to embracing the flow state of creative coding. He explores the intersection of technology and art as a means of personal transformation, discussing how he now uses these tools to teach and inspire others. Bryan's narrative is peppered with profound insights on radical acceptance, the malleability of personal identity, and the courage required to step into discomfort for growth. His journey from seeking oblivion to finding purpose through digital artistry and music offers a unique perspective on recovery, resilience, and the endless possibilities of human reinvention.About BryanWebsite - https://bryanduggan.org/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/skooter500/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/skooter500/ TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@skooter500TakeawaysBryan's journey began with music and technology.Transformation is possible through creativity and technology.Reprogramming your mindset can change your life.Facing challenges head-on is essential for growth.Mental health struggles can lead to profound insights.Radical acceptance is a powerful tool for healingSubstances can both help and hinder personal growth.Identity can be fluid and redefined at any moment.Humor and lightness can aid in overcoming difficulties.Community and support are vital in the healing process.Physical health is crucial for mental well-being.Language shapes our identity and reality.Society's relationship with alcohol needs to be questioned.Psychedelics can offer therapeutic benefits and elevate consciousness.Sound Bites"I can just go to reprogram it, you know?""I just wake up every day and reprogram myself."Chapters03:32 - The Fusion of Music and Technology06:18 - Creative Coding and Personal Growth09:31 - Overcoming Adversity and Mental Health Struggles12:27 - Navigating Life's Challenges During Lockdown15:29 - The Descent into Addiction18:18 - Finding Hope in Darkness21:35 - The Road to Recovery and Self-Discovery24:18 - Radical Acceptance and Personal Transformation27:20 - Reinventing Identity and Embracing Change30:31 - The Role of Physical Health in Mental Wellbeing33:23 - The Power of Language and Self-Identity36:13 - Exploring the Impact of Alcohol and Substance Use38:50 - Psychedelics and Alternative Healing41:46 - The Importance of Community and Support44:43 - The Future of Sobriety and Personal Growth47:33 - Conclusion and Brian's Superpower

Highlights"I remember five nights out of seven, I'd be in a bar until 3 AM, then up at 6 AM to serve breakfast to chalet guests. Looking back, I was surviving on fumes, pushing my body to extremes just to keep up with this insane lifestyle.""There I was, spending a night in a Thai prison cell, surrounded by other prisoners, not knowing if I was about to be deported. My entire dream of living in Thailand was crumbling because of one stupid decision to take a shot with some yacht crew.""The gym became my twisted justification. I'd push myself to exhaustion, thinking it balanced out the heavy drinking and partying. But really, I was just running myself into the ground, using exercise as an excuse to keep up the destructive behavior."SummaryMarc takes us on a riveting journey through his wild years as an expat in the tropics, where glamorous hospitality jobs masked a lifestyle teetering on the edge. He vividly recounts nights of excess in neon-lit party towns, the adrenaline rush of managing high-end venues, and the constant balancing act between work and play. Marc reveals how his obsession with fitness and gym culture became a dangerous coping mechanism, allowing him to maintain a facade of health while indulging in heavy drinking and partying. He shares a brush with deportation that hints at the unsustainability of his choices. Marc reflects on the gradual awakening that led him to question his definition of freedom and success. His story culminates in a powerful transformation, trading the allure of expat hedonism for a life of purpose, now dedicated to helping other fathers find balance and authentic well-being. This episode is a raw, honest look at the hidden dangers of a seemingly enviable lifestyle and the profound rewards of choosing a path of genuine self-discovery.About MarcWebsite - https://www.coachoverton.comInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/coach.overton/Linkedin - https://www.linkedin.com/in/coach-overton/ Free Course - Marc has shared with us his free course for busy Dads https://coachoverton.thinkific.com/courses/finally-unlock-lasting-fat-loss-without-spending-hours-in-the-gymTakeawaysLife can be beautiful after overcoming challenges.Freedom was a core value that shaped my journey.The party lifestyle can lead to unhealthy choices.Exercise can become an addiction if not balanced.Awareness of one's body is crucial for health.Illness can serve as a wake-up call for change.Reinventing oneself is possible at any age.Self-experimentation is key to finding what works.It's important to enjoy life and not just survive.Being a role model for my children is essential.Sound Bites"Life is far more beautiful on the other side.""I was after excitement, partying, and meeting people.""I got myself into some really hairy situations."Chapters05:08 -The Allure of Freedom and Self-Discovery11:13 - The Party Lifestyle: Balancing Work and Play14:13 - The Transformation: From Excess to Health22:31 - Awakening: Realising the Need for Change31:54 - Finding Purpose: Coaching and Helping Others55:57 - Empowerment Through Knowledge: Coaching Philosophy

Highlight"I had an identity imposed upon me, one which I swallowed hook, line and sinker at the time. I was taught like we all are to identify with who I am by society standards, by external validations, basically. So I studied law, I became a barrister. I worked in the criminal justice system for over two decades, got married, had two wonderful boys, became an addictions therapist in between all of that somehow."SummaryPrem shares her journey from successful barrister to spiritual seeker and coach. She discusses her unexpected spiritual awakening in Corfu and the subsequent "thud" she experienced when that connection was lost. Prem opens up about her struggles with societal expectations and her path to authenticity. She reveals the impact of her son's mental health challenges, including addiction and suicidal ideation, which led her to temporarily return to alcohol as a coping mechanism. Throughout the conversation, Prem emphasises the importance of self-discovery, breaking free from external validations, and the ongoing nature of spiritual growth. She underscores the courage required to embrace one's true self as she builds a new future focused on helping others find their own paths to healing and connection.About PremWebsite - https://www.21stsanctuaryretreats.co.ukLinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/angela-jouanneau-851a3540/Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/21stsanctuaryretreatsTakeawaysYou are not alone in your struggles.Identity can be imposed by societal expectations.Spiritual awakening can lead to profound realisations.Coping mechanisms can sometimes lead to unhealthy choices.Letting go is essential for personal growth.Spirituality can provide guidance and clarity.The journey of self-discovery is ongoing.We are all connected to a greater energy.Life experiences shape our understanding of spirituality.Embracing the flow of life leads to fulfilment.Sound Bites"You are not alone. You can get through this.""I had an identity imposed upon me.""I was almost floating."Chapters00:00 -Introduction and Background19:01 - Navigating Societal Expectations and Finding Authenticity22:58 - The Impact of Addiction and Mental Health on Personal Well-being29:04 - Exploring Spirituality and Our Connection to the Universe30:44 - Near-Death Experiences and the Veil of Forgetting32:03 - The Importance of Self-Acceptance and Self-Love33:27 - Introduction and Conditioning34:05 - Being Present for Others' Journeys34:23 - Recognising Signs and Paying Attention to Guidance39:40 - Letting Go of Unhealthy Coping Mechanisms42:46 - Building a Spiritual Coaching App and Center49:05 - Following the Flow and Listening to Intuition

Highlight"Nine and a half years down the line, having sorted out many of those problems, although there is still a little bit of DIY I haven't got around to, but no one's perfect. I am so glad that I managed to get myself in a position where I could deal with those issues because I love my wife, and I love my daughter, and they wouldn't be in my life if I hadn't changed."SummaryIn this conversation, Duncan Bhaskaran Brown shares his journey from being a heavy drinker to finding sobriety and purpose in life. He discusses the role of alcohol in social settings, the challenges he faced when he stopped drinking, and the importance of connection and support in recovery. Duncan emphasises the need for education and awareness about alcohol's effects, particularly for future generations, and highlights the significance of finding one's purpose and meaning in life. He also addresses the societal implications of alcohol consumption and the importance of changing the narrative around it.About DuncanWebsite - https://www.bhaskaranbrown.com/LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/duncanbhaskaranbrown/ Podcast Flat-Pack Sober - https://player.fm/series/flat-pack-soberYouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@duncanbhaskaranbrown4359 TakeawaysYou are not alone in your struggles.Morris Dancing sparked conversations about identity.Alcohol can fill perceived gaps in personality.Recognizing the problem often comes after stopping.Life improves significantly after quitting alcohol.Facing life's challenges sober is essential.Purpose and meaning are crucial for recovery.Connection with others is vital for sobriety.Relapse can be redefined as a learning opportunity.Education about alcohol should start early.Sound Bites"Life is far more beautiful on the other side.""I just thought, I'm going to like just say Speaker, Author, Morris Dancer.""Alcohol seemed to fill in the holes in my personality."Chapters02:33 - Alcohol and Early Experiences04:43 - Realisation of Unhealthy Drinking07:54 - The Impact of Family on Sobriety10:10 - Relearning Life After Alcohol12:17 - Facing Difficulties and Building Relationships15:29 - The Role of Purpose in Sobriety18:23 - Understanding Relapse and Recovery23:51 - Tools for Resilience Against Relapse28:15 - The Importance of Connection32:03 - Changing the Conversation Around Alcohol36:57 - Duncan's Writing and Advocacy42:37 - Shame and Its Role in Alcoholism

Highlight"Shame and guilt were huge for me. It was like shame is such an inward emotion. Like it's not projected out to other people, it's hidden, and it's more casting in on yourself. And that's what it feels like. And you know when you're shameful when you start hiding your drinking."SummaryIn this conversation, Ned Miro, the Drinkless Coach, shares his transformative journey from a life of alcohol dependency to becoming a coach who helps others navigate their relationship with drinking. He discusses the emotional triggers behind drinking, the importance of accountability, and how shame and guilt play significant roles in addiction. He discusses how his drinking intensified after the divorce, affecting his relationships, especially with his children.He reveals the turning point that led to his decision to quit drinking, emphasising the importance of accountability and community support in recovery. Ned reflects on his transformation and how finding purpose became crucial to his healing.Ned emphasises the power of vulnerability and connection in overcoming challenges and finding purpose beyond alcohol. He also highlights the importance of self-awareness, personal growth, and living authentically.About NedDrinkless Revolution Hub - https://www.facebook.com/groups/379786247706334Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/ned.miroTikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@nedmiroYouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@nedmiro397TakeawaysNed's journey began at 19 with an interest in the mind.Drinking was a coping mechanism for emotional struggles.COVID intensified his drinking and led to a turning point.Accountability was crucial in his decision to quit drinking.Shame and guilt are common emotions among drinkers.Transforming shame into empowerment is key to recovery.Finding purpose helps in overcoming addiction.Self-awareness and emotional intelligence are vital.Ned emphasises the importance of community support.Sound Bites"I just started looking inside, man.""I just went in, got coached, got accountability.""I started believing in myself because I started believing in other people."Chapters00:17 - The Drinkless Coach07:37 - Giving up on Myself10:32 - Why I was drinking16:33 - Shame and Guilt28:13 - Leaving the Alcohol Behind37:46 - Redefining your Identity41:27 - Challenge your Beliefs45:43 - The Power of Values and Purpose51:55 - About Ned

Highlight"I was the golden boy, you know? Perfect life, perfect job, perfect wife. Then the divorce hit, and suddenly, I didn't know who I was anymore. Everything I'd built my identity on just crumbled. That's when I started down the rabbit hole of partying and drugs. I thought I was living the life, but I was losing myself. It's crazy how fast it all fell apart."SummaryIn this powerful conversation, Dan Hungerford unveils his extraordinary journey from success to addiction and ultimately to redemption. Dan describes his upbringing in a family where perfection was expected and failure was never acknowledged, creating immense pressure that would later contribute to his struggles.He shares the pain of divorce and descent into addiction, from his first drink at a bar to the point where substance abuse became his new identity and coping mechanism."Dan shares harrowing experiences of near-death incidents during his addiction, emphasising how these close calls, while terrifying, weren't enough to break the cycle until his imprisonment. The turning point came with a prison sentence in 2016, where seeing the pain in his young son's eyes sparked a profound change. Dan reflects on his time in prison as a period of deep introspection and healing. Now six years sober, he dedicates his life to mentoring youth and supporting addiction recovery. Through motivational speaking and tailored programs, Dan transforms his past struggles into valuable lessons, helping young people navigate life's challenges and find their path to success.About DanLinkedIn -  https://www.linkedin.com/in/daniel-hungerford-65737013bTikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@dantheleadershipmanFacebook - https://www.facebook.com/coach.dan.hungerford Website - https://danhungerford.com/ TakeawaysDan's early life was marked by high expectations and perfectionism.The pressure to succeed can lead to identity crises.Addiction often stems from a desire to escape pain and shame.Prison became a turning point for Dan, leading to self-reflection.Empathy and resilience are crucial in overcoming adversity.Helping others is a key part of Dan's recovery journey.Encouragement can change lives, especially for youth.It's important to find purpose and significance in life.Mistakes are part of life; learning from them is essential.Dan's story illustrates that change is possible at any age.Sound Bites"You deserve another chance.""It's never too late to change.""Success leaves clues."Chapters03:16 - The Pressure to be Perfect and Successful06:41 - The Crack in the Armor: Divorce and Identity Crisis10:57 - The Downward Spiral: Addiction and Consequences14:48 - Prison: A Turning Point and Reflection19:03 - Rebuilding a Life: Personal Growth and Forgiveness23:31 - Teaching Leadership: Empowering Youth to Make a Difference30:45 - Sobriety and Gratitude: A New Lease on Life34:10 - Overcoming Addiction and Rebuilding38:49 - Finding Purpose and Significance42:09 - Learning from Mistakes and Embracing Resilience51:40 - The Importance of Second Chances01:02:43 - Empowering Youth and Making a Difference

Highlight"And a month and a half after we got married, I lost my job. So here she's thinking that she married a guy who is this wonderful guy who has his shit together, has held a job for 24 years, making good money to find out he's been sneaking cocaine behind her back the whole three years that they were dating. That was even a blow for her."SummaryAl Richards shares his personal journey of overcoming addiction and transforming his life. He discusses how he started using drugs as a way to escape the stress of work and how it eventually took a toll on his relationships and well-being. After losing his job and hitting rock bottom, Al turned to spirituality and self-reflection to find a new path. He focused on personal growth, accountability, and building trust with others. Al emphasises the importance of staying humble and surrounding oneself with positive influences on the journey to recovery. In this conversation, Al Richards and Hamish discuss the importance of family, the power of emotions, and the journey of recovery. Al shares his experience as a grandfather and how being present for his grandchildren's activities brings him joy. He emphasises the need to allow ourselves to feel and process our emotions and the importance of taking accountability for our actions. Al also talks about his podcast, AR: The Other Side of Addiction, which aims to educate and reduce the stigma surrounding addiction. His superpower, gained from turning his life around, is empathy.About AlResilience Collective - https://www.abc4.com/gtu/al-richards-starts-addiction-resilience-collective-for-those-struggling/Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/al.richards.921/Other Side of Addiction  FB Page - https://www.facebook.com/mralrichardsPodcast, AR: The Other Side of Addiction - https://www.youtube.com/c/TheOtherSideofAddictionTikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@alrichards780 TakeawaysAddiction can lead to a loss of self and a disconnection from what truly matters in life.Recovery requires self-reflection, accountability, and a commitment to personal growth.Surrounding oneself with positive influences and building trust with others is crucial for long-term recovery.Staying humble and open to learning from others is essential on the journey to transformation. Being present for family activities brings joy and creates lasting memories.Allowing ourselves to feel and process our emotions is essential for personal growth.Taking accountability for our actions leads to personal freedom and positive change.Empathy is a superpower that allows us to understand and connect with others.TitlesFrom Addiction to Transformation: Al Richards' JourneyThe Power of Self-Reflection and Personal Growth in Recovery Taking Accountability for Personal GrowthThe Power of Allowing and Processing EmotionsSound Bites"Life takes the turn because, and I believe you and I spoke about it before when we spoke that as I was coming out of stepping out of my cesspool, my wife started falling into hers.""Everything disappeared. You're no longer worried about work. That feeling, I mean, it is very powerful. Drugs, alcohol, anything is very powerful to just numb things down.""Those who have stepped forward and have battled through their battles of addiction, we are now here to walk amongst the others to lend our hand.""If I was still snorting cocaine and drinking every weekend, I'd be missing all this""Sit in it. Figure out what the lesson is behind it. Learn from it. Then move forward.""Our happiness comes from us, from within. No one else can make us happy."Chapters07:53 - Losing a Job and Hitting Rock Bottom16:26 - Transformation and Self-Reflection19:19 - The Negative Effects of Addiction27:23 - Rebuilding and Moving Forward31:22 - Staying Humble and Supporting Others33:20 - Embracing Emotions36:13 - The Power of Empathy

Highlight "We are stalwart characters, we keep on going on and we think that we are superhuman. And then I finally got the phone call to say that I wasn't successful in my interview and I was put at risk for redundancy... And that was when mentally and physically I ultimately shut down. And yeah, went on my own healing journey, so to speak, from that point. Because yeah, not an ideal time because of COVID, so I wasn't able to speak to a therapist, or wasn't able to see a therapist, as say, so I had to find my own way."SummaryKeely shares her transformative journey from a successful corporate executive to experiencing burnout and ultimately finding her passion. She shares her struggles with anxiety, the importance of self-care, and the lessons learned from her experiences. Keely talks about her self-discovery process during the COVID-19 pandemic, finding clarity through nature, yoga, and meditation. She explores the valuable insights gained about work-life balance, the pitfalls of overachieving, and the importance of setting healthy boundaries. She reveals how she leveraged her corporate burnout experience to fuel personal growth, transitioning into consultancy work and ultimately discovering her passion for coaching. We discuss the impact of personal loss, the challenges of people-pleasing, and the need for emotional intelligence in both personal and professional settings. The conversation emphasises the importance of setting boundaries, being present, and living a fulfilling life.ABOUT KEELYKeely on social media Linktree - Website/Social MediaFree Invite to Keelys Personal Boundaries Quiz: Personal Boundaries QuizKeelys Book: From Burnout to Bliss: The Ultimate 90 Day Guide to Emotional and Mental Abundance - https://amzn.eu/d/godHAWV TakeawaysKeely experienced a significant burnout after years of corporate success.Self-care is essential for mental and physical health.People-pleasing can lead to toxic patterns in personal and professional life.Setting personal boundaries is crucial for well-being.Emotional intelligence should be taught in schools.COVID-19 has shifted workforce dynamics and increased entrepreneurship.Finding passion in coaching can lead to personal fulfillment.Awareness of one's behavior is key to personal growth.It's important to enjoy the present moment.Helping others requires authenticity and self-awareness.Sound Bites"You can't keep everybody else happy.""You need to take care of yourself.""You can't drink from an empty cup."Chapters01:05 - Toxic Work Environment and Anxiety Attack03:24 - Transition to Consultancy and Brexit Specialist08:44 - Realisation and Healing15:54 - Starting a Coaching and Training Business21:11 - Discovering Passion for Helping Others26:32 - Finding Purpose and Joy in Coaching32:04 - Slowing Down and Enjoying Life34:31 - Setting Personal Boundaries and Overcoming People-Pleasing40:48 - Understanding the Unhealthy Aspects of Codependency47:34 - Practicing Self-Care, Self-Awareness, and Self-Compassion49:01 - Teaching Emotional Freedom Technique and Proper Breathing in Schools53:07 - Promoting Healthy Conflict Management and Learning to Say No

Highlight"Midway through my 57th year, I had been asked by a business person where I live to attend a networking event. It turned out that it was an evening with him... old patterns started to emerge again in me, triggers started to emerge again in me. I left that evening in floods of tears. I literally ran home because it was in running distance. I threw myself on the bed and I didn't want to wake up anymore. I was completely out of control, weeping, sobbing, fell asleep sobbing, woke up sobbing and thought, you know what, I don't want to carry on like this."SummaryDebra shares her transformative journey. After a triggering event led her to counseling, she experienced an intense spiritual and physical release of her "inner monster," confronting deep-seated traumas and forgiving her past abusers. This profound shift allowed Debra to overcome anxiety, depression, and victimhood, replacing them with a new perspective on spirituality and personal growth. She describes discovering her true essence and developing a fresh understanding of life's challenges as opportunities for growth, likening them to a mountaineer's triumphs. Debra's story illustrates the power of facing one's inner demons and the liberating effects of emotional healing. Her journey led to increased resilience, better relationships, and a more compassionate worldview, embracing concepts of universal oneness and reincarnation.About DebraWebsite - https://viessentially.com/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100094215941498LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/debrablackman/Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/viessentially/YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@SphereofBeing-l9mTakeawaysYou are not alone in your struggles.Seeking help can lead to profound transformation.Forgiveness is a powerful tool for healing.Embracing change can lead to new perspectives.Spiritual awakening can bring a sense of peace.Understanding oneness helps in accepting others.Life's challenges can be viewed as lessons.Surrendering to the universe allows for flow.Manifestation is about trusting the process.It's okay to not be okay sometimes.Sound Bites"You are not alone. You can get through this.""I was completely out of control, weeping, sobbing.""I gave birth to my monster."Chapters00:47 - The Breaking Point and Seeking Counseling03:30 - Confronting Trauma and Opening Up06:18 - Giving Birth to the Monster and Physical Transformation08:05 - The Power of Forgiveness and Acceptance08:58 - Embracing Positive Thinking and Spiritual Exploration18:43 - Eviscerating the Monster and Filling the Void25:46 - Living and Seeing Differently29:03 - The Power of Flow State and Surrendering to Life31:32 - Trusting the Universe and Letting Go of Control33:26 - Finding Alignment: Slowing Down and Analyzing What We Truly Want45:48 - Self-Discovery and Self-Compassion: Keys to Personal Growth50:34 - Embracing the Oneness of the Universe: Connection and Peace

Highlight"Around the age of seven, every single night time, I used to be scared to go to bed because of the fear of me stabbing my parents. And it took a long, long time for me to really understand what that was. I used to cry, I didn't want to go to bed, and I couldn't tell my parents because, of course, if you tell your parents that, I mean, what's gonna happen?"SummaryIn this enlightening conversation, Eleanor shares her profound journey through the struggles of intrusive thoughts and OCD, beginning from her childhood experiences to the challenges faced during motherhood. She emphasises the importance of disidentifying from one's thoughts, understanding the role of meditation, and the power of communication in overcoming mental health challenges. Eleanor discusses practical steps for self-discovery, the significance of cognitive behavioural therapy, and the journey towards empowerment and acceptance. Her story is a beacon of hope for those grappling with similar issues, highlighting that happiness and self-love are attainable.About EleanorWebsite - Wonderfully MentalInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/WonderfullymentalYouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@WonderfullymentalTikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@WonderfullymentalResourcesObsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) - https://www.ocduk.org/ocd/Intrusive thoughts https://www.intrusivethoughts.org/ https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/obsessive-compulsive-disorder-ocd/symptoms-of-ocd/#WhatAreIntrusiveThoughtsTakeawaysIntrusive thoughts can start in childhood and evolve.Motherhood can intensify intrusive thoughts and fears.Dis-identifying from intrusive thoughts is crucial for mental health.Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) can provide valuable tools for managing thoughts.Communication and sharing experiences can alleviate feelings of shame.Understanding that thoughts are not reality is empowering.Finding your true self requires time and introspection.Reconnecting with the body through movement can aid emotional healing.Empowerment comes from accepting oneself and one's journey.Sound Bites"You are not your thoughts.""Disidentifying from the mind is freedom.""We all deserve happiness."Chapters00:00 Introduction and Eleanor's Experience with Intrusive Thoughts10:39 -Understanding the Difference Between Thoughts and Identity11:28 - Lack of Support and Coping Mechanisms as a Child13:03 - Learning to Dis-identify from Thoughts and Trust the Heart14:50 - Refining the Understanding of Thoughts and Imagination20:45 - Strategies for Managing Intrusive Thoughts22:41 - The Importance of Knowing Oneself26:52 - Disidentifying with Intrusive Thoughts28:10 - Knowing Oneself and Observing the Mind30:02 - Spending Time Alone and Reconnecting with Self32:43 - Gentleness and Non-Judgment in Self-Reflection40:15 - Limiting Social Media and Escapism41:45 - Choosing What to Experience and Setting Boundaries47:01 - Acceptance and Self-Love: Wonderfully Mental47:48 - Superpower: Empowerment and Shining

Highlight"No matter what happens to us, no matter what traumatic experience we go through, we always have the power to choose. We always have the power to say no. We always have the power to stand up and say, this is not okay with me anymore.Everything that happened in my life was needed for me to grow, to expand, and to become who I am today.  I'm grateful for all those experiences because I would not be here talking to you today if I would not go through all those experiences."SummaryIn this powerful conversation, Juliana Mcclane shares her harrowing journey from a traumatic childhood in Moldova, marked by domestic violence and human trafficking, to a path of self-discovery and empowerment. She discusses the impact of her experiences on her understanding of love, relationships, and the divine feminine. Juliana emphasises the importance of forgiveness, self-love, and the awakening of one's true essence while also addressing the role of men in supporting women and the need for emotional intelligence in relationships.About JulianaWebsite - https://mcclanejuliana.wixsite.com/website TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@mcjuliana81 Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/juliana.whoknows/Support and help This podcast touches on many brutal issues and potentially triggering topics. If you've found it distressing or it's brought up memories of past experiences, please know you're not alone. Below is a list of resources and support networks available to help you."UKRape Crisis - https://www.sarsas.org.uk/Modern slavery, trafficking - https://www.unseenuk.org/DenmarkDanish Center for Survivors of Incest - https://www.landsforeningen-spor.dk⁠Danish Red Cross (Røde Kors) - https://www.rodekors.dk/ - Offers various support services, including for victims of sexual violence.The Women's House (Kvindehuset) - https://www.kvindehuset.dk   - Provides support for women in difficult situations, including prostitution.Victim Support Denmark (Offerrådgivningen i Danmark) - https://www.dansk-offerraadgivning.dk/   - Counselling and support to crime victims.Sex og Samfund - https://www.sexogsamfund.dk/  - Provides information and help regarding sexual health and rights.TakeawaysJuliana's story highlights the impact of childhood trauma on adult relationships.The importance of recognising and breaking the cycle of domestic violence.Self-love and empowerment are crucial for healing from trauma.Forgiveness is a powerful tool for personal growth and liberation.Women hold a divine power that must be recognised and respected.Men must engage with their emotional intelligence to support women.The journey of healing involves understanding one's own trauma and patterns.Spiritual awakening can lead to profound self-discovery and empowerment.Kundalini energy is a powerful force for healing and transformation.Choosing to step into the unknown can lead to liberation and growth.Chapters08:12 - From Trauma to Triumph: Overcoming Abuse and Suppression24:02 - The Power of Sexual Energy: Awakening the Divine Within32:50 - Honouring the Divine Feminine: Recognizing Women's Essence38:49 - Self-Discovery and Self-Respect: Keys to Personal Growth41:28 - Men's Role in Empowering Women: Respecting and Honoring the Divine45:56 - Finding Wholeness and Empowerment01:00:48 - Understanding the Soul and Purpose01:12:39 - The Power of Forgiveness01:19:04 - Honouring the Divine Feminine01:26:15 - Harnessing Sexual Energy for Healing

Highlight"And what happened when I had my little girl, you become the protector, the warrior, the one that all of a sudden sees all the enemies out there or potential enemies out there. And you start seeing your role as someone that needs to be a little bit more level, needs to have the self-empowerment that you need in order for you to set up boundaries with people around you."SummaryPavli shares her journey of awakening and self-discovery from her childhood to her current role as a holistic healer. She discusses her family's emotional unawareness and her own struggles with identity and people-pleasing. The birth of her daughter became a catalyst for her awakening, as she realised the need to protect and set boundaries for her child. She emphasises the importance of asking deep soul-searching questions and working through past traumas in the awakening process. She also highlights the role of the Wounded Warrior archetype and the shedding of ego in the journey of awakening. The conversation explores the importance of allowing children to be authentic and express their emotions without judgment. It highlights the different mindsets and challenges younger generations face and the need for them to bring new knowledge into the world. The discussion also touches on the journey of personal growth and the necessity of experiencing emotions to understand the next level. The conversation emphasises the importance of self-love, setting boundaries, and being true to oneself. It concludes with the idea that authenticity is a superpower that brings ease and freedom in life.About PavliWebsite - https://www.holisticsoulhealer.co.za/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/pavli.naidoo.1  TakeawaysChildhood experiences and emotional unawareness in the family can contribute to a sense of feeling different and disconnected.The birth of a child can be a powerful awakening moment, prompting self-reflection and the need for self-empowerment.Awakening involves asking deep soul-searching questions and working through past traumas to find one's true identity and purpose.The wounded warrior archetype plays a role in the awakening journey, involving both the fierce warrior and the subtle warrior who sets boundaries and navigates challenges.Shedding ego and embracing all aspects of oneself, including the shadow, is an important part of the awakening process.Younger generations have a different mindset and bring new knowledge into the world.Experiencing emotions is necessary for personal growth and understanding the next level.Self-love and setting boundaries are important for maintaining authenticity.Sound Bites"The birth of a child is almost like the person that needs to protect her, the protector, the warrior.""Trying to squeeze it all together gives you a bad back, makes you irritable, makes you snap at people.""When the pain leaves, you start seeing yourself in a different light.""The children are allowed to be who they need to be at any point with all their emotions, where they don't feel rejected because of their emotions or because love is not taken away from them.""The youngsters speak of completely different things. We might still not understand things that they already understand because they need to bring different knowledge into the world.""It doesn't get easier, you just get better."Chapters01:14 - Pavli's Background and Journey to Holistic Healing08:16 - The Awakening Process and Healing Past Traumas15:30 - The Wounded Warrior and the Transformational Power of Awakening19:40 - Letting Go of Ego and Embracing All Aspects of Ourselves25:31 - Helping Children Navigate Emotions and Develop Emotional Awareness39:35 - Allowing Children to Be Authentic40:30 - The Different Mindset of the Younger Generation43:43 - The Challenges of Self-Acceptance and Societal Standards47:05 - Finding Authenticity Through Personal Journey49:37 - The Power of Speaking One's Truth

Highlight"A psychologist bluntly told me, 'You're about a month away from being hospitalised.' She asked why I worked so hard. I said to look after my people and family. She replied, 'How good are you going to be to these people from a hospital bed?' That drove the point home—I needed to care for myself first."About StevenWebsite - https://www.dare2be.co.zaLinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/steve-levy/Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dare2be_stevenlevy/Connect with Steven on LinkedIn to have a free consultation with him. (highly recommended as he has such a wealth of knowledge and wisdom)SummaryIn this conversation, Hamish and Steven discuss the importance of owning one's journey and the power of asking for help. They share personal stories of overcoming challenges and making positive life changes. They emphasise the need to prioritise self-care and listen to one's body. Steven highlights the value of taking time out without feeling guilty and the importance of managing technology and distractions. They also discuss the lessons learned from difficult experiences and the growth that comes from reflecting on one's values and aligning behaviour with them. Steven also discusses the importance of aligning one's values with one's actions and the power of self-awareness, along with the need to prioritise family, health, and personal growth and to make choices that align with these values. They also discuss the significance of listening to oneself and being honest about one's feelings and desires. The conversation highlights the importance of setting goals, making sacrifices, and taking action to achieve them. They encourage listeners to dare to be themselves and to embrace change and growth.TakeawaysOwning your journey and speaking about it gives others permission to do the same.Taking time out for yourself is essential and should be part of your business strategy.Asking for help is not a weakness but a responsible action.Reflecting on your values and aligning your behaviour with them is crucial for personal growth.Managing technology and distractions can lead to a more balanced and fulfilling life. Aligning one's values with one's actions is crucial for a fulfilling life.Self-awareness is key to understanding one's desires and making choices that align with them.Setting goals and making sacrifices are necessary for personal growth and achievement.Embracing change and being true to oneself is essential for living a meaningful life.Sound Bites"You give others permission to do the same.""The most important appointment you will ever make in your calendar is with you.""It is not a weakness; it is irresponsible not to ask for help.""Values are seen in behaviour, not just words.""Living aligned to values brings a sense of purpose."Chapters02:03 - Owning Your Journey and Giving Others Permission13:42 - The Importance of Taking Time Out for Yourself23:19 - Asking for Help: Not a Sign of Weakness29:48 - Reflecting on Values for Personal Growth35:51 - Managing Technology and Distractions36:20 - Aligning Values and Actions39:14 - The Power of Values and Purpose42:51 - Gaining Perspective and Gratitude43:43 - Learning from Life's Challenges48:56 - Setting Goals and Making Sacrifices53:39 - Finding Balance and Self-Awareness56:58 - Embracing Change and Being True to Yourself

HighlightI grew up seeing spirits, travelling through my dreams, remembering past lives, all kinds of crazy stuff. My grandfather was schizophrenic... So from an early age, I really had a fear that I was just bananas. So I learnt just to keep everything quiet, all the stuff about spirits and past lives and travelling through space and dreams. I've kept all my sensitive stuff as quiet as possible, all my psychic stuff as quiet as possible and I've been ashamed of it most of my life. Finding shamanism... it really helped me land in the life of a shamanic way. Now, living in that world from that way has changed everything for me." SummaryKate shares her journey of embracing her spiritual gifts and overcoming shame and codependency. She grew up with experiences of seeing spirits and remembering her past lives but kept them hidden due to fear and shame. Kate found a sense of oneness and belonging through Shamanic healing and connecting with the spirit world. She emphasises the importance of safe spaces and the healing power of love. She also discusses the impact of codependency on relationships and the transformation that comes from being true to oneself. The conversation explores the importance of authenticity and setting boundaries in relationships. It emphasises the need to be genuine and authentic. However, having boundaries to protect oneself from being manipulated or taken advantage of is also essential. Boundaries are highlighted as a key issue in relationships, as not having boundaries can lead to resentment and ineffective communication. The conversation also touches on ancestral healing, where the trauma and beliefs of previous generations can be passed down and affect individuals. About KateWebsite - https://www.lifemanualreadings.com/Instagram -  https://www.instagram.com/lifemanualreadings/TakeawaysEmbracing our spiritual gifts can lead to a sense of oneness and belonging.Creating safe spaces is crucial for healing and personal growth.Shame and codependency can hinder our ability to be true to ourselves.Love and connection are transformative and can replace fear and panic.Being authentic and loving from within brings a sense of peace and fulfillment. Authenticity and genuineness create a pleasurable feeling in relationships.Setting boundaries is essential to protect oneself from manipulation and exploitation.Not having boundaries can lead to resentment and ineffective communication.Ancestral healing involves connecting with wise and well ancestors to release trauma and bring healing.Sound Bites"I feel through the layers of people's auras, go right deep into people's true core natures and work with spirits of the dead to help them cross over.""If we're not just a meat suit, if we are connected into this spirit world, all of a sudden you feel the people around you, you feel your ancestors, you feel the love, you feel the oneness.""When you're genuine, when you're authentic, that also can be felt.""It is so much nicer when we are authentic and living like that.""Boundaries are the key issue in relationships."Chapters03:30 - Awakening to Intuition and Shamanism07:00 - Guiding Spirits of the Dead11:26 - Understanding Our Spiritual Nature15:17 - Overcoming Shame and Embracing Authenticity21:29 - Impact on Relationships and Codependency28:35 - Finding Love and Connection from Within33:42 - The Power of Authenticity and Setting Boundaries41:30 - Learning and Growing from Mistakes44:45 - Finding Safe Spaces for Healing48:48 - Connecting with Ancestors for Healing59:14 - Embracing Sensitivity as a Superpower

HighlightLate 2018, things were really getting bad. I was popping the beers whilst driving over the flyover out of Cape Town. There were cars in every direction. Sometimes we were only doing 15-20 kilometers an hour. And the bottles weren't in bags. Look left and right; no cars are coming and drinking. It was utterly self-destructive.SummaryHere, I share my personal story of addiction and recovery, highlighting the conflicts, events that knocked me flat and disappointments I experienced growing up. I discuss the transactional nature of my relationships and how alcohol becomes a coping mechanism for me. Everything slowly fell apart as the drama and chaos compromised my will, leaving me with two choices. The first was to ask for help.I share a little about rehab and then the challenges of rejoining the real world, rebuilding my relationships, and starting again.I share my journey through sobriety, and the many positive changes sobriety has brought to my life.  How I can helpMy journey with addiction has taught me the power of connection and support. If you don't know where to turn, I'm here to listen. Use the calendar below to arrange a confidential & non-judgmental 30-minute conversation https://calendar.hamishniven.com/widget/bookings/a-quiet-conversationWebsite - https://hamishniven.com/All my links - https://beacons.ai/hamishniventakeawaysSeeking help will provide the necessary support and tools for positive change.Change involves confronting fears, reprogramming thought patterns, and learning adaptive strategies.Rejoining the real world after rehab can be challenging, but it offers an opportunity for growth and rebuilding relationships. Sobriety brings positive changes and allows for personal growth and self-discovery.Kindness, understanding, and second chances are important in the process of healing and rebuilding relationships.Curiosity, non-judgment, forgiveness, and self-acceptance are key elements in the recovery journey.Responding rather than reacting to life's challenges leads to a more fulfilling and intentional life.Sound Bites"There was a conflict between what I was told to do and the reality of life.""Alcohol allowed me to make sense of purpose and overcome things I didn't understand.""Beating myself up was not the way ahead.""Being given another chance is incredibly beautiful.""Even a glass of wine impairs my cognition.""The chaos and the drama and the nonsense and the bullshit"Chapters00:00 - Conflicting Messages and Expectations06:18 - Alcohol as a Coping Mechanism11:00 - Seeking Help and Entering Rehab21:59 - Confronting Fears and Learning Adaptive Strategies29:12 - Rejoining the Real World and Rebuilding Relationships31:47 -Rewriting Narratives and Beliefs36:30 - The Importance of Curiosity and Non-Judgment45:00 -Forgiveness and Self-Acceptance in the Journey of Recovery53:15 -Responding vs Reacting: Finding Joy in the Journey

HighlightAnd so I had this really great gift of being able to tap into creativity and this powerful energy of self-discovery and sharing yourself and flow and all these words. And then I just decided I wasn't going to trust it. And I cut it off for probably about 15 years.summaryRyan Watts shares his personal journey of self-discovery and reconnecting with his creativity. He discusses the importance of self-awareness and being present in the moment. He also explores the concept of ADHD as a form of hyper-creativity and the need to regulate emotions. Ryan emphasises the drive to alter consciousness and how it can be channelled into meaningful and impactful pursuits. He reflects on the transformative experience of becoming a parent and the natural instinct to care for others. Ryan concludes by discussing the importance of creating space and nurturing growth in order to project peace and love into the world. The conversation explores the importance of self-regulation and the role of consciousness in elevating human experience. Ryan shares The Physiological Sigh breathing technique as a way to shift from fight or flight to rest and digest. He emphasises the need for intentional practices like meditation and mindfulness to switch tracks and access the rest and digest part of our nervous system. The conversation also delves into the dangers of quick fixes and the importance of agency and choice in personal growth. The concept of detachment and creating space between stimulus and response is highlighted as a way to cultivate awareness and make intentional decisions.Ryan WattsWebsite - https://www.ryanwattslifecoaching.com/Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/ryan.watts3Instagram - https://instagram.com/ryanwattslifecoachingYouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCMS4V_JkZBDXr7G_7d1RTfwLinkedin - https://www.linkedin.com/in/ryanwattsmba/Podcast on Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/0poXmaxpjA6ViNDy1KOh9cRyan has kindly offered a free download for everyone who listens to or watches this podcast, “The 5 Reasons You Feel Stuck in Your Career” Click https://ryanwattslifecoaching.com/5reasons  TakeawaysSelf-awareness and being present at the moment are key to personal growth and fulfilment.ADHD can be seen as a form of hyper-creativity and a need to regulate emotions.The drive to alter consciousness is a primal instinct that can be channelled into meaningful and impactful pursuits.Becoming a parent can transform one's perspective and deepen the understanding of humanity's natural instinct to care for others.Creating space and nurturing growth can help project peace and love into the world. The physiological sigh breathing technique can help shift from fight or flight to rest and digest.Practices like meditation and mindfulness can help switch tracks and access the rest and digest part of our nervous system.Quick fixes can provide temporary relief but may hinder personal growth and agency.Creating space between stimulus and response allows for intentional decision-making and cultivates awareness.Detachment from familiar patterns and beliefs can lead to personal growth and the exploration of new possibilities.Sound Bites"Children calming themselves down, moving from fight or flight to rest and digest.""Addiction as a way to switch back to rest and digest, but with great cost over time.""I think that if we all could quiet our minds, we find that our nature is actually to want to help other people.""I had this really great gift of being able to tap into creativity and this powerful energy of self-discovery and sharing yourself and flow... And then I just decided I wasn't going to trust it.""Even now, you know, I work with a coach, and I have a therapist just because I believe in this idea of self-discovery, and I don't know that you ever get to a place where you're like, okay, I'm discovered.""Just be there. Just show up there. Yeah, you remember the past, but the only thing that's really there is now."Chapters00:00 -  Introduction and Background04:59 - The Disconnect from Creativity08:30 - Reconnecting with Creativity and Self-Trust18:09 - Understanding ADHD as Hyper-Creativity and a Drive to Alter Consciousness21:31 - Exploring Humanity's Primal Drives24:24 - The Transformative Experience of Parenthood36:49 - The Role of the Brain in Reactivity39:12 - Breathing Techniques for Shifting from Fight or Flight to Rest and Digest43:41 - The Role of Addiction in Self-Regulation47:05 - Exploring Consciousness and Elevating It52:44 - Eastern Philosophy and the Balance of Yin and Yang01:00:44 - Choosing the Response: Stepping Out of Familiar Patterns01:06:13 - Creating Space Between Stimulus and Response01:11:02 - Finding the Singularity and Allowing for Personal Growth

Highlight"I realised I was carrying all this stuff other people didn't experience. I call it a personal hell because that's what it was for me. Like my body was in this state of static. I felt like there was constant static running through my body, like there was this buzz, and I couldn't connect with anything outside of that buzz. And later on, I realised that I had PTSD."SummaryNirushka shares her journey of awakening and self-discovery, starting in 2020. She describes her experience of realising that she had been living in a state of unconsciousness and sleepwalking through life. Through various experiences and synchronicities, she began to let go of old patterns and traumas, leading to a profound transformation. She emphasises the importance of reconnecting with the inner child and re-parenting oneself. She encourages listeners to respond rather than react to challenges and to embrace failure as a learning opportunity.  She emphasises the importance of connecting with the body and using techniques such as breathing and body scans to train attention back into the body. Nirushka also explores the concept of codependency and how it stems from childhood wounds and the search for unmet needs. She highlights the significance of forgiveness, setting boundaries in healing, and creating healthier relationship patterns.NirushkaWebsite -  https://www.nirushka.comLinkedIn -  https://www.linkedin.com/in/nirushka-kollopen-482644235Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/nirushka.kollopen/Free Resources  - E-Book: Becoming Luminous - (sign up to newsletter and download your free copy)Nirushka shares a free quiz to see if you are self-abandoning in your life: https://nirushka.com/self-abandonment-quiz/ TakeawaysAwakening is coming online and realising that one has been living in a state of unconsciousness or sleepwalking through life.Reconnecting with the inner child and re-parenting oneself is crucial for healing and personal growth.Responding rather than reacting to challenges allows for creative solutions and personal empowerment.Embracing failure as a learning opportunity is essential for personal development and resilience. Surrendering to the body and allowing oneself to experience uncomfortable sensations without judgment is a process that takes time and practice.Connecting with the body through breathwork and body scans helps train attention back into the body and promote self-awareness.Codependence often stems from childhood wounds and the search for unmet needs, such as the desire for a nurturing and present parent figure.Forgiveness is a crucial part of the healing process, both in forgiving others for their behaviour and forgiving oneself for falling into unhealthy patterns.The body holds the record of our experiences, and negative emotions can significantly impact our physical health.Sound Bites"Realising that I've been in a state of complete unconsciousness or I've been sleepwalking through my life.""Responding rather than reacting... in a way that I've probably never dealt with it before.""It's a gentle process of allowing yourself to surrender and accept your uncomfortable, negative stuff.""You suspend your judgments and you're just literally allowing sensation to be in your body.""Our body is the only way that we can actually interact with the world, through our senses."Chapters02:09 - The Journey of Awakening and Self-Realization11:20 - Reconnecting with the Inner Child18:06 - Healing Childhood Trauma and Breaking Free from Patterns24:42 - Responding vs Reacting: Embracing Creative Solutions27:08 - Embracing Failure as a Learning Opportunity31:08 - The Power of Body Awareness33:51 - Interacting with the World Through Our Body37:39 - Breathing as a Substitute for Addiction38:55 - Understanding Self-Abandonment and Codependency45:54 - Breaking Patterns and Behaviors49:01 - The Impact of Negative Emotions on the Body52:10 - The Power of Feeling Truth

Highlight"When you stop drinking, you actually realise that you knew all along what you were doing, but you weren't prepared to pause. It was immediately reaching out for something. So, what did I notice after I stopped drinking? I noticed I have other addictions."SummaryMarléne shares her journey of overcoming alcohol addiction and finding healing and purpose in life. She discusses the impact of growing up with a single parent who was an alcoholic and how it influenced her own relationship with alcohol. She talks about the false sense of confidence and numbness that alcohol provided, as well as the shame and destructive behaviours it fueled. She shares her decision to quit drinking and the challenges and changes that came with it. She also discusses her work as a trauma therapist and life coach, helping others navigate their own healing journeys. In this conversation, Together, they discuss various topics related to emotions, self-discovery, and spirituality. Marléne emphasises the importance of understanding and identifying one's emotions, as well as the need for self-love and forgiveness. They also explore the concept of synchronicity and how it can guide us on our journey. Marléne shares her insights on making heartfelt decisions and the power of positive feedback. Overall, the conversation highlights the importance of self-awareness, personal growth, and finding joy in life.About MarleneWebsite - https://www.selfandmore.co.za/Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/marlenenunescoach/LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/selfandmorecoaching/What is Tension / Trauma Release Exercise? - https://www.selfandmore.co.za/tre-trauma-stress-release-therapy/Free Inner Child eBook https://www.selfandmore.co.za/e-book/Complimentary Call with Marlene - https://calendly.com/self-and-more-coaching/15-min-meetingTakeawaysAlcohol can provide a false sense of confidence and numbness, but it can also fuel shame and destructive behaviours.Quitting drinking can lead to a deeper understanding of oneself and the ability to make healthier choices.Finding support from genuine friends who accept and respect your sobriety is important.Cold water immersion can be a helpful practice for grounding and gratitude. Identifying and understanding our emotions is crucial for personal growth and self-discovery.Self-love and forgiveness are essential for healing and moving forward.Synchronicity can guide us on our journey and provide meaningful connections and experiences.Making heartfelt decisions and focusing on positive feedback can lead to personal empowerment.Self-awareness and personal growth are key to finding joy and fulfilment in life.Sound Bites"If you feel unsafe somewhere, you have your own permission to leave to get safe.""I stopped wearing makeup because now I can really see myself. I don't have to paint myself up to look any different because I'm real. This is me.""Identifying what you feel is a label.""When this emotion comes...where is this actually coming from?""In order to feel loved, what needs to be present?"Chapters00:00 - Introduction and Background09:54 - The Journey of Alcohol Addiction16:11 - Making the Decision to Quit Drinking30:30 - Coping with Emotions and Feelings36:23 - Changes in Relationships and Self-Perception41:56 - The Power of Cold Water Immersion43:12 - Exploring Emotions and Self-Discovery44:15 -The Power of Self-Love and Forgiveness45:15 - Synchronicity: Guiding Us on Our Journey48:51 - Making Heartfelt Decisions49:25 - The Importance of Positive Feedback55:25 - Self-Awareness and Personal Growth: Finding Joy in Life