Send us a Text Message.Evan and Jamie Kay meet and discuss the healing, reflective, and connecting elements of songwriting with the writer and its audiences. Jamie has written over 300 songs in the course of his 50 years of songwriting. He's a gifted storyteller who's sincerity penetrates throughout our conversation. We're happy to share his energy with our listeners! Support the Show.

Send us a Text Message.Evan and Melissa discuss clients' perspectives that therapists have super powers, how being seen in a raw, deep, meaningful way can at times feel like voodoo magic.  Support the Show.

Send us a Text Message.Evan and Melissa answer an audience question regarding intellectual defenses in session. "How do I get my therapist to become aware that I am using my intellect to deflect from emotional vulnerability in our sessions?" We are hoping to incorporate this type of interaction with followers more often. If you have any questions about therapy, please don't hesitate to reach out! Support the Show.

Send us a Text Message.Evan and Melissa explore how intellectualizing stories serves as a protective distancing from emotional exploration, expression, and healing.Implicit memory healingBilateral stimulation CBT often ineffective for treating Bottom up approach to client care versus top down approach Emotional-relational realm being the healing quality of therapy  Support the Show.

Send us a Text Message.Evan and Melissa explore the ways in which clients use intellectualism as a means to conceptualize emotional memories to maintain safety. Topics also include: Emotional attainmentMaintaining an observer role when someone is dysregulatedMaladaptive ways of creating self-protectionTherapy is not advice-givingExplore emotional memories is delicate and is a process Support the Show.

Send us a Text Message.Evan, Melissa, and Eli share their experiences with client attunement and the ways in which such connection can promote a deep sense of understanding and meaning.Emotional attunement with clients informing unconventional approaches Eli sifts through his  transcription grad school notes from 1913Emotional attunement compared to flocks of birds and musiciansIntuition informing therapeutic path Support the Show.

Send us a Text Message.Evan, Melissa, and Eli process Evan's recent experience being harassed by the police. Topics also include:ProfilingCrime and punishment ideologyLife-long record keeping Escalation before de-escalationCop incompetence Support the Show.

Send us a Text Message.Evan and Eli meet in video form for the first time-- available on Youtube! They use this hour to explore themes of:Conversion TherapyEmotional Residue from clientsCounter-transferrence  Support the Show.

Send us a Text Message.Parentified child impact in romantic relationships Cultural differences fueling assumptions in friendship DOS OS How the dating sphere has changed with technology You watched too many Disney movies Culture of immediacy impeded on natural romantic development The romantic spark is bullshitDopamine dating Are we marketing authenticity?Compatibility is found through mutual authentic marketing Caretaking others reflects fear of rejection as opposed to caring for others Evan’s soapbox grow up stop attaching previous  relationship experiences Dating isn’t easy for men eitherNew generation perceived pursuit as predatory Evan shares his hinge profile with Eli and Melissa Support the Show.

Send us a Text Message.Evan and Eli join for another episode to explore how therapists can unintentionally assume understanding of clients' stories based on personal bias. They then explore the evolution of porn and its possible future implications on sexuality, dating, and identity.Only fans AI becoming a sexual sphere Sex dollsSpecifically identifying the core When we feel stuck Men being “too nice” ripple of toxic masculinity  Support the Show.

Send us a Text Message.Evan, Meliisa, and Eli explore the a case that Melissa is processing. A great resource from Dr. Nicole LePera helps us get startedParentified child case study How are crises adaptive systemically?Reenactment between parent, peers, and therapistCaretaking to avoid self careEmphasizing choice with client archetypes that exhibit signs of learned helplessness"Mom anchors"-- a client's unintentional confession Support the Show.

Send us a Text Message.Evan, Melissa, and Eli discuss the intention of the podcast and ways to become more intentional in our discussions. Melissa is our podcast mommyIncorporating the interpersonal supervision model into our conversationsChasing trends creates pop psychology and misinformation The power of Free Association Support the Show.

Send us a Text Message.Evan and Eli practice behaving without Melissa being present for this episode. What’s worth investigating with a client?Salem witch trials Eli wants to try Ayahuasca  Being attracted to clients Therapeutic flow state is healing Ego blockading energy connections with nature and people Spirituality in nature Eli shares his "firecracker puppy" metaphor Support the Show.

Send us a Text Message.Politically correct culture influencing dialogue in therapyQuestions can evoke shameMoving with clients’ awarenessWhen self-disclosure is therapeutic Where are his balls?Treating infidelityStory revisionsFear memories have more salient reinforcementsHaving therapeutic relationships that span years  Support the Show.

Send us a Text Message.Melissa rejoins Evan and Eli. They quickly realize that Melissa is the mother of the group and helps "police" the episode content. This realization prompted Evan and Eli to explore the origins of foreskin shots.What are foreskin shots?Clients exposed to clinical media and come to therapy with inaccurate self-diagnoses Incels on dating apps Men, stop taking people to pound town all the time Being sexualized on dating appsIs the first time with a partner a good litmus test?Performance anxiety Porn addictionPurity cultureCults Support the Show.

Send us a Text Message.Evan and Eli are one-on-one for this episode. Within minutes they realize that Melissa represents a shadow mother figure in the podcast dynamic and that her absence allows for more dick jokes. Discussing the phallic qualities of their mic stands provides a bridge to a slightly more serious conversation: “Sounding gay”Southern sayings Family therapy Intervening in a family system Garden gnome drunkLove pats instead of spankings Fast routes to treating core elements of clientsSaying unconventional things to clients to diffuse and restructure conversationsOld men becoming softerI’d be a bad father if I was warm and loving Our questions are often a projection of ourselves Revictimization of trauma experiences in institutions that are needing data to funding and reimbursementsEvan tells a kid to punch a hole in the wall Support the Show.

Send us a Text Message.subtle minimization in childhoodUsing Lysol to kill monstersSomatic experience informsPhysicians are not mental health professionalsBypassing intellectual blocking by processing clients’ somatic experiencesDangers of pop psychology using incorrect language that impacts clients’ self perceptionsStop using manic episode incorrectly Making past-present connections Sometimes effective therapy is just showing up Dragon themed dildos Ndrea.org free EMDR resource If interested in therapy, contact us at our link! https://linktr.ee/tellmeaboutyourmother Support the Show.

Send us a Text Message.Evan and Eli support Melissa and process her gut reaction to clients’ stories, exploring her own counter-transference. This episode also includes topics of:Using cuss words when you pray Affairs don’t happen in a vacuum Counter transference informing therapeutic process Negative core belief of defective shame Blowing away bullshit to find authentic selfTrauma responses- filing into longterm storage via the Amygdala to hippocampus Victimization soup When women cheat Support the Show.

Send us a Text Message.Reenactment affecting client retentionYawning in trauma-focused therapyInfantilizing do alleviate parents’ anxiety Don’t be a dickViewing identity as a developmental sprectrumExtreme political views reenacting childhood trauma What’s going on with trucks with flags?Ideology being substituted for identity Emotional portals to visit attachment rupturesAIP Emotional touchstone creating memory network Resource Recommendations: Robin Shapiro Ego State Training Support the Show.

Send us a Text Message.Eli, Evan, and Melissa take a forensic look at reaction formation, emblem leakage, and cognitive dissonance within Bill Cosby’s career and criminal case and the cost of “winners and losers” within the legal and two-party payer healthcare systems.  What do we need to be more honest with ourselves and others?  What would it take to be more open to criticism and self-reflection and make peace with perfectionism? Support the Show.