Saying that should cease – Grass is Greener on the Other Side Often, we believe that that others have it made, but in reality, we can appreciate our current surroundings. Psych Central analysis - https://psychcentral.com/blog/relationships-balance/2013/03/16/the-grass-is-greener-syndrome#5 Beyond the Minimum podcast episode - https://beyondtheminimum.podbean.com/e/saying-that-shoud-cease-go-along-to-get-along/ Simon Sinek’s YouTube (11:54 – 12:10) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gPcgEBbNQvw&list=PLgCOAz4cqZMROPAsFBt_IWgOmMax6Y24y&index=6   Connect with Tanya Hewitt on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/tanya-hewitt-55804529/ Buy her a coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/tanyah Credits: Adam Johns – voiceover - https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjohns730/ Beverley McKiver – composer and player of the music Tell Me About Love - https://www.linkedin.com/in/beverleymckiver/

Update on some events It has been some time since I recorded a podcast, and I thought I should give an update. Listen to hear the three large events that took place in my life from April – May 2023. Resources: Bill Cain’s book - https://www.amazon.ca/Diary-Jesus-Christ-Bill-Cain/dp/1626984077 Rick Beato’s analysis of If You Could Read my Mind https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X33YyowZZxQ&list=PLW0NGgv1qnfzb1klL6Vw9B0aiM7ryfXV_&index=15 Rick Beato’s tribute upon Gordon Lightfoot’s Death - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4Iw7Jei8XOo Documentary on Gordon Lightfoot https://gem.cbc.ca/gordon-lightfoot-if-you-could-read-my-mind Glenda Bartlett’s obituary - https://www.wardfuneralhomes.com/memorials/glenda--bartlett/5196703/index.php   Connect with Tanya Hewitt on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/tanya-hewitt-55804529/ Buy her a coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/tanyah Credits: Adam Johns – voiceover - https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjohns730/ Beverley McKiver – composer and player of the music Tell Me About Love - https://www.linkedin.com/in/beverleymckiver/

What Good Looks Like – Interview with Greg Hollander Listen to Greg’s description of how they hire, support one another, hold meetings, have committees and so much more.  Lots of hidden treasures in practices that others can (and have been) adopt(ing)! Greg’s bio: Greg Hollander is a Realtor® with Keller Williams Integrity. As well as helping a variety of clients with their real estate needs, he is also a Realtor® who specializes in helping seniors and empty nesters downsize with his Next Stage Method. Over the last 14 years, he has been helping a variety of people in the Ottawa area with their real estate needs. After working with many senior clients, he discovered that his skills and strengths are really perfectly suited for helping people with their downsizing needs. He works hard to ensure his clients are always treated with respect, kindness and understanding. Housing transitions in life are difficult and his wish is to help make a potentially stressful situation as smooth as possible for his clients. He considers it an honour and a privilege to be the agent guiding people through their next stage in life when it comes to their real estate and housing needs. Greg’s contact info: Email: greg@greghollander.com Phone & Text: (613) 795-3871   Greg’s free downloads: Next Stage Method Guide: https://bit.ly/NextStageMethodGuide 5 Pro Tips to Downsize: https://bit.ly/ProTipsToDownsize   Connect with Tanya Hewitt on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/tanya-hewitt-55804529/ Buy her a coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/tanyah Credits: Adam Johns – voiceover - https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjohns730/ Beverley McKiver – composer and player of the music Tell Me About Love - https://www.linkedin.com/in/beverleymckiver/

Expanding our Vocabulary – Extrinsic incentives bias We often believe that people can be motivated by incentives – just up the incentives, and they will be more motivated.  This is actually a bias, and when employed, can be counterproductive. MADTv Safety at Work episode - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zVB5lQpPYow Dan Ariely’s videos - https://danariely.com/resources/#gallery Hidden Brain episode - https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/what-do-you-want-to-be/ Humankind – a hopeful history – (where I learned of this term) https://www.amazon.ca/Humankind-Hopeful-History-Rutger-Bregman/dp/0316418536   Connect with Tanya Hewitt on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/tanya-hewitt-55804529/ Buy her a coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/tanyah Credits: Adam Johns – voiceover - https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjohns730/ Beverley McKiver – composer and player of the music Tell Me About Love - https://www.linkedin.com/in/beverleymckiver/

Saying that should cease – Getting away with it Rules are out there – speed limits, paying for things, etc. – and there are times when they are not enforced.  We often feel a brush of excitement in getting away with something, but is this helpful? The Agenda episode on Has the Government Mishandled Pandemic Spending? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IyDtRF-oQlk&t=1205s The Inquiry on American Road Fatalities https://www.podbean.com/media/share/dir-pthb6-173c1277 The Agenda episode on Is Everyone Robbing Everyone in the Underground Economy? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XEfe9Bqia2o   Connect with Tanya Hewitt on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/tanya-hewitt-55804529/ Buy her a coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/tanyah Credits: Adam Johns – voiceover - https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjohns730/ Beverley McKiver – composer and player of the music Tell Me About Love - https://www.linkedin.com/in/beverleymckiver/

Expanding our Vocabulary – Radical responsibility Our world has many complainers who bemoan their circumstances, but we all can be empowered to change things with radical responsibility. Matt Gurney’s commentary https://theline.substack.com/p/experimental-the-line-podcast-episode-e9e 1:19-4:37 Conscious Leadership group https://conscious.is/ Episode on the Fundamental Attribution Error https://beyondtheminimum.podbean.com/e/expanding-our-vocabulary-%e2%80%93-fundamental-attribution-error/   Connect with Tanya Hewitt on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/tanya-hewitt-55804529/ Buy her a coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/tanyah Credits: Adam Johns – voiceover - https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjohns730/ Beverley McKiver – composer and player of the music Tell Me About Love - https://www.linkedin.com/in/beverleymckiver/

Saying that should cease – Time heals all wounds While a common saying, time is not the healer.  Healing includes everything from medical attention for physical wounds, attentional focus for psychological wounds, and internal work and forgiveness.   Merriam Webster dictionary https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/grudge Peter Herrndorf’s memorial - https://www.tvo.org/article/remembering-peter-herrndorf   Connect with Tanya Hewitt on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/tanya-hewitt-55804529/ Buy her a coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/tanyah Credits: Adam Johns – voiceover - https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjohns730/ Beverley McKiver – composer and player of the music Tell Me About Love - https://www.linkedin.com/in/beverleymckiver/

Expanding our Vocabulary – Pluralistic Ignorance When we are in a group, we may be influenced by how others behave, believing that their thoughts influence their behaviour, and allow this to override what we are thinking, and then behaving. Humankind: A hope for humanity (Rutger Bregman) https://www.amazon.ca/Humankind-Hopeful-History-Rutger-Bregman/dp/0316418536 Asch experiment analysis https://www.simplypsychology.org/asch-conformity.html Lemmings and their behaviour https://www.britannica.com/story/do-lemmings-really-commit-mass-suicide How Disney influenced our understanding of lemmings https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/White_Wilderness_(film) Beyond the Minimum Go Along to Get Along https://beyondtheminimum.podbean.com/?s=Go%20Along%20to%20get%20along   Connect with Tanya Hewitt on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/tanya-hewitt-55804529/ Buy her a coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/tanyah Credits: Adam Johns – voiceover - https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjohns730/ Beverley McKiver – composer and player of the music Tell Me About Love - https://www.linkedin.com/in/beverleymckiver/

Saying that should cease – If You Build It, They Will Come While often quoted in many circles, it takes far more than building to get them to come. Origin of the phrase Field of Dreams movie - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Field_of_Dreams Ginny Whitelaw’s Article - https://www.forbes.com/sites/ginnywhitelaw/2021/08/01/if-you-build-it-will-they-come/?sh=70a043846b6a Previous episode on One Size Fits All - https://beyondtheminimum.podbean.com/e/saying-that-should-cease-one-size-fits-all/ Christian Harris’ LinkedIn profile https://www.linkedin.com/in/christian-harris-slip-safety/ Christian Harris’ event https://www.linkedin.com/events/getconsistentgrowthininterest-l7020020071863316480/about/ The working genius website: https://www.workinggenius.com/   Connect with Tanya Hewitt on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/tanya-hewitt-55804529/ Buy her a coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/tanyah Credits: Adam Johns – voiceover - https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjohns730/ Beverley McKiver – composer and player of the music Tell Me About Love - https://www.linkedin.com/in/beverleymckiver/

What Good Looks Like – An Interview with Mike Zelek An interview with the head of HR of Wellington Group of Companies, where he explains the ins and outs of a healthy trucking company.  Listen to the many practices that he discusses helps makes drivers feel valued, with a high retention rate, and far more good days than bad ones. (Taken from Truck News : Mike Zelek has been working in transportation for more than 10 years. He has worked in logistics, dispatch and recruiting before settling into his role as vice-president of human resources at Wellington Group of Companies. Mike was named the National Recruiter of the Year at the National Recruiting and Retention Symposium in 2021 and has led Wellington to three straight years of being named one of the Truckload Carriers Association's Best Fleets to Drive For. He has presented at many industry events and currently volunteers on several transportation related committees.) Mike Zelek’s email: mzelek@wellingtonmotorfreight.com Mike Zelek’s LinkedIn account : https://www.linkedin.com/in/michaelzelek/ Mike Zelek’s articles in Truck News https://www.trucknews.com/author/michael-zelek/   Connect with Tanya Hewitt on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/tanya-hewitt-55804529/ Buy her a coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/tanyah Credits: Adam Johns – voiceover - https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjohns730/ Beverley McKiver – composer and player of the music Tell Me About Love - https://www.linkedin.com/in/beverleymckiver/

Expanding our Vocabulary – The Just World Hypothesis We often have underlying beliefs that the world is in balance, that good will be rewarded and bad will be punished.  This is pervasive in our societal outlook, but it may be a cognitive bias. Writeup on the Just World Hypothesis - https://effectiviology.com/just-world/ Lerner’s studies https://psycnet.apa.org/doiLanding?doi=10.1037%2Fh0023562 Meritocracy article - https://medium.com/@tanya_64634/meritocracy-a-prescient-warning-4b23f0bbbd3f The Hays code - https://www.studiobinder.com/blog/what-is-the-hays-code-1934/ SNL alternate ending https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vw89o0afb2A Quotes explained - https://quotesexplained.com/god-does-not-play-dice-albert-einstein/ Joker - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt7286456 The Fundamental Attribution Error - https://beyondtheminimum.podbean.com/e/expanding-our-vocabulary-%e2%80%93-fundamental-attribution-error/   Connect with Tanya Hewitt on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/tanya-hewitt-55804529/ Buy her a coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/tanyah Credits: Adam Johns – voiceover - https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjohns730/ Beverley McKiver – composer and player of the music Tell Me About Love - https://www.linkedin.com/in/beverleymckiver/

Saying that should cease – One person cannot make a difference While it is easy to fall prey to the convention that problems are vast and one person cannot make a difference – one person can absolutely make a difference! Loren Eisley’s Wikipedia https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Loren_Eiseley TVO Agenda Episodes: Bill Browder https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MLFGWEdA4BsDoing Holidays Differently https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cuhHnQK7raU&t=4s Kathleen Sharp: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sTbKD2GR00c Connect with Tanya Hewitt on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/tanya-hewitt-55804529/ Buy her a coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/tanyah Credits: Adam Johns – voiceover - https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjohns730/ Beverley McKiver – composer and player of the music Tell Me About Love - https://www.linkedin.com/in/beverleymckiver/

Expanding our Vocabulary – Nocebo effect Many of us are familiar with the placebo effect, and we should also be familiar with the nocebo effect. Rutger Bregman’s Humankind – A Hopeful History - https://play.google.com/store/books/details/Rutger_Bregman_Humankind?id=yumsDwAAQBAJ Conscious Leadership - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fLqzYDZAqCI Human Brain - https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/a-better-way-to-worry/ Susan David’s TED talk - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S45YDJZLjW8   Connect with Tanya Hewitt on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/tanya-hewitt-55804529/ Buy her a coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/tanyah Credits: Adam Johns – voiceover - https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjohns730/ Beverley McKiver – composer and player of the music Tell Me About Love - https://www.linkedin.com/in/beverleymckiver/

Saying that should cease – Mind your Own Business Mind your own business may apply in some situations, such as vengeful blackmail, but not in others, where information may be helpful to expose or correct a societal ill.  Take a listen and let me know what you think!   Liane Davey on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/lianedavey/ Cautionary Tales Halloween episode - https://timharford.com/2022/10/cautionary-tales-the-halloween-poisoner/ Matt Guerney’s article on the Emergencies Act inquiry - https://www.tvo.org/article/thanks-to-the-emergencies-act-inquiry-the-rcmps-top-cop-may-finally-face-career-consequences   Connect with Tanya Hewitt on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/tanya-hewitt-55804529/ Buy her a coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/tanyah Credits: Adam Johns – voiceover - https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjohns730/ Beverley McKiver – composer and player of the music Tell Me About Love - https://www.linkedin.com/in/beverleymckiver/

Saying that should cease – Go Along to Get Along While there may be some unique circumstances where we need to conform to the crowd, in general, we need to allow our uniqueness to shine. Talli Osborne - https://talliosborne.com/ Talli Osbourne’s Tedx talk – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q3Fl_OCmKa8 Article on Talli opening the Punk Rock museum - https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/hamilton/las-vegas-punk-rock-museum-1.6561820   Connect with Tanya Hewitt on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/tanya-hewitt-55804529/ Buy her a coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/tanyah Credits: Adam Johns – voiceover - https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjohns730/ Beverley McKiver – composer and player of the music Tell Me About Love - https://www.linkedin.com/in/beverleymckiver/

Expanding our Vocabulary – Empathy Caveats While empathy is not a new vocabulary, some of aspects of empathy might be.  We need to be careful in how we use the term empathy. Against Empathy – the Case for Rational Compassion by Paul Bloom is available where you buy books. A video interview with Paul Bloom - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjBhxq_YpiQ For the Love of Work – How to Make Better Mistakes https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/how-to-make-better-mistakes/id1530443742?i=1000498761809 Kim Scott’s story of ruinous empathy - https://www.radicalcandor.com/video-ruinous-empathy-story-kim-scott/   Connect with Tanya Hewitt on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/tanya-hewitt-55804529/ Buy her a coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/tanyah Credits: Adam Johns – voiceover - https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjohns730/ Beverley McKiver – composer and player of the music Tell Me About Love - https://www.linkedin.com/in/beverleymckiver/

Ignorance is not bliss – it is not knowing.  And not knowing does not make you smarter.   Eat me (or try not to) https://www.tvo.org/programs/eat-me-or-try-not-to Todd Conklin’s Pre-Accident Investigation podcast - https://preaccidentpodcast.podbean.com/   Connect with Tanya Hewitt on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/tanya-hewitt-55804529/ Buy her a coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/tanyah Credits: Adam Johns – voiceover - https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjohns730/ Beverley McKiver – composer and player of the music Tell Me About Love - https://www.linkedin.com/in/beverleymckiver/

Expanding our Vocabulary – Second Victim The person most proximal to the first victim, often the person who was the last line of defense to prevent the first victim, is the second victim, and suffers as well. Dr Wu’s seminal paper https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1117748/ Julie Thao’s story links : Videos https://www.healthcareinnocenceproject.org/case-study-julie-thao/https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zkm2EaOPebY(please see this one) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=30EAG6uW5DM Articles: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/20402372/ Extraordinary Canadians: https://www.amazon.ca/Extraordinary-Canadians-Stories-Heart-Nation/dp/1982134526 (Robb Nash story) Previous relevant Beyond the Minimum episodes: https://beyondtheminimum.podbean.com/e/new-vocabulary-the-local-rationality-principle/ https://beyondtheminimum.podbean.com/e/expanding-our-vocabulary-%e2%80%93-fundamental-attribution-error/ https://beyondtheminimum.podbean.com/e/expanding-our-vocabulary-hindsight-bias/ https://beyondtheminimum.podbean.com/e/expanding-our-vocabulary-the-second-story/ … Connect with Tanya Hewitt on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/tanya-hewitt-55804529/ Buy her a coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/tanyah Credits: Adam Johns – voiceover - https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjohns730/ Beverley McKiver – composer and player of the music Tell Me About Love - https://www.linkedin.com/in/beverleymckiver/

Saying that should cease – The customer is always right The customer may have complaints and feedback, but the customer is not always right. Wikipedia entry - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_customer_is_always_right Medium Article on Southwest Airlines - https://medium.com/@stevenduran_96808/a-story-about-how-southwest-airlines-lost-a-customer-5e6608b227fb Assholes – A Theory - https://assholesatheory.com/   Connect with Tanya Hewitt on LinkedIn Buy her a coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/tanyah Credits: Adam Johns – voiceover Beverley McKiver – composer and player of the music Tell Me About Love

Expanding our Vocabulary – the Second Story Being curious and digging beyond our first impressions can yield a much richer second story. Todd Conklin’s Pre-Accident Investigation book - https://www.amazon.com/Pre-Accident-Investigations-Todd-Conklin/dp/1409447820 Nippin Anand’s article on the Costa Concordia - https://novellus.solutions/insights/psychological-safety-at-work/ About Nippin Anand - https://nippinanand.com/about/ Nippin’s Company - https://novellus.solutions/ Beyond the Minimum episode on the Local Rationality Principle https://beyondtheminimum.podbean.com/e/new-vocabulary-the-local-rationality-principle/   Connect with Tanya Hewitt on LinkedIn Buy her a coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/tanyah Credits: Adam Johns – voiceover Beverley McKiver – composer and player of the music Tell Me About Love