The Blindspot An Enneagram Podcast is back for Season 2!  Loyal listeners will know that Season 1 morphed from focusing solely on the Enneagram and Instinctual Drives into welcoming in other forms of typology to help us make sense of our experience. In this interview with @StephanieJaie we hear about how my use of typology leads to a deeper understanding of her life's journey. Stephanie is also wired with high levels of point three and seven energy and also leads with extraverted intuition as an ENFP. Over the course of a few interviews we came to believe that Stephanie probably fixates at the point three energy like I do, but is Sexual dominant and Self Preservation blind in contrast to my Self Preservation dominance and Sexual blind. Enjoy this episode to learn more about how the two types present and navigate the world. Wanting to learn about the Enneagram basics? Join my FREE 90 minute Introduction to the Enneagram class at 6:45pm CST on July 12th! You can come live to the Palatine Park District Community Center at 250 E Wood St. Palatine, IL 60067 or register on my website for the zoom link at KaraNanceMD.com Wanting to learn more about Stephanie and/or sign up for her upcoming offerings? Visit https://www.stephaniejaie.com/

Stephanie Jaie is back again to discuss sexuality and the ways its been distorted in a way that blocks us from our power. We touch on the topics of generational trauma, the ways a trauma response can present in different Enneagram types, privilege, and how to respond to some of the more common responses.  I will be offering a four week Enneagram Overview starting Wednesday July 26th from 6:30-8:30 CST for beginners that want to have a more solid basic understanding of the system and types or for intermediate and advanced students that want to bring real life learnings from the perspective of the type. Visit KaraNanceMD.com to register for class. If you would like to work with Stephanie, check out her website at https://www.stephaniejaie.com/ for more information.

Stephanie Jaie is back for a final episode in our three part series on sexual empowerment. In this episode Kara and Stephanie discuss their experience of erotic energy and how it has supported their own emergence.  What is the role of pleasure and how do we connect with it? Why do people fear sexual instinctual energy? And for our typology friends, further exploration of Stephanie's Enneagram Type (is she a three or a seven???) and instinctual stack.  Kara enjoys coaching couples and individuals that are experiencing issues around the sexuality circuit. She uses typology, resonant healing, and nonviolent communication to support healing and connection. Schedule a free 30 minute meet and greet at KaraNanceMD.com if you'd like to explore working together. You can sign up for Stephanie's Sexual Empowerment Academy at https://stephaniejaie.teachable.com/p/sexual-empowerment-academy

Catherine Bell from the Awakened Company is back to discuss her new offering with Dr. Debra Egerton, The Power of Relationships. In this episode Catherine and I discuss our relationship to fierce compassion, how the law of three presents in interpersonal relationships, and the importance of honoring each other's experiences because they all contain wisdom. Catherine and I also share our experiences of transmission, and how the Enneagram shows us how to better connect to source. We explore how the changing and unchanging nature of things is always present and end with a discussion of how play can be an antidote to pain. If you would like to try my classes on relationship building, please visit my website at KaraNanceMD.com to sign up for a free trial. If you would like to enroll in any of Catherine's upcoming offerings you can learn more and sign up at https://awakenedcompany.com/upcoming-events/

I'm pleased to introduce my community to Simon Goland, founder of Simon Says Consulting, Inc. Simon has a new program launching in October called Awakened Living that you can register for here https://simongoland.com/application-tuition-details/ In this episode Simon and I explore what the divine masculine energy is, and what it is not. We also discuss the importance of shadow work, our own egoic triggers, and how we find our way back to presence. We also have some fun talking about how our dogs can be our teachers.  If you would like to sign up for any of my offerings please visit my website at KaraNanceMD.com

I'm very excited to introduce you to my colleague Denzel Mensah https://denzelmensah.com/ that I met on my Meyers Briggs Typology training journey. Denzel also received his MBTI Training from Personality Hackers six years ago and has a well established typology and coaching practice. You can also check out Denzel's very fun and wise You Tube channel at https://denzelmensah.com/ Denzel and I are excited to start highlighting our typology and coaching skills on a new live platform, so we're looking for relationship pairs that are facing a challenge that we can help type and strategize with live. You may be anonymous and have audio only, or have your session recorded for others to view.  Please reach out to me at KaraNanceMD.com to schedule a free 30 min meet and greet to discuss your situation and set up the typing/coaching session with us.  In this episode Denzel and I discuss the pain of landing on your type. We also unpack the challenge that exists in point seven. We also discuss the concept of legacy and the experience of being attachment types. We also describe our experience of extraverted feeling. We also explain how we know that an Fe dominant Type 9 is not a 2. Holderness video link - "Me in my 20's vs. Me in my 40's" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3pG0N4QnNBk Want to see into the inner world of an ENFJ??? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oe14FZiteq4 is really fun to watch. Denzel is SOOO creative!

This episode we welcome long time teacher Tom Condon to share some of his favorite tips on working with your Enneastyle. Register for Tom's online conference with Russ Hudson this weekend to learn more. https://russhudson.com/event/what-we-have-learned-and-how-we-apply-it/#tribe-tickets__tickets-form

Meet Karl Hebenstreit, Author, International Speaker, Executive Coach, and Human Resources and Organization Development Leader with 25+ years of experience in the biotechnology, healthcare, telecommunications, high-tech, pharmaceutical, and real estate services industries. . Karl has just released the third edition of his book "The How and Why: Taking Care of Business with the Enneagram". Karl and I discuss some commen Enneagram patterns he sees in the corporate world and how he works with them. Karl is also the author of the children's book, "Nina and the Really, Really Tough Decision." Get Karl's book here https://www.amazon.com/How-Why-Taking-Business-Enneagram-ebook/dp/B0CJLQGS3K?ref_=ast_author_mpb

Denzel Mensah is back on the show with me for a series on how typology can be a powerful tool for finding your romantic relationship blindspots. Meet Marlene, an INFP on the journey towards finding her Enneagram type and instinctual stack. Marlene vulnerably shares her experience of infidelity and the unraveling of her long term relationship. Please visit my website at KaraNanceMD.com and contact me if you are interested in sharing your story and learning and growing with Denzel and I.

Marlene is back to hear the reflections that Denzel and I have about her typology session. Enneagram type and instinctual stack are clarified.

Meet your hosts, John Luckovich and Kara Nance as they share with listeners why the instinctual drives are so important when using the Enneagram for personal growth and development. John and Kara describe their own journey with the Enneagram and their own process around discovering their type. The mission and purpose of this podcast are described.

Kara and John introduce the concept of the instinctual blindspot and define some key terms around “The Work” 2:00  – Why we can’t we always type ourselves? 4:00 – What do we mean by “identity”? How is this different from consciousness? What’s the role of attention? 8:00 – What is self preservation, social, and sexual instincts and what do we mean by a stack? 9:30 – Is our Enneatype and our instinctual stack nature or nurture? What’s the relationship between the two? 15:30 – How do we work with the personality, our identity, ego, and increase levels of consciousness? 17:00 – What do we mean by “spiritual”? 19:00 – Humans as unconscious machines 21:30 – What’s the difference between spiritual work and upgrading the circumstances of the personality? 23:45 – What do we mean by “presence” vs ”an attitude” vs “awareness” vs “rejecting our experience”? 26 – What do we mean by “sensation”, “emotion”, “thoughts”, “perception”, “feelings”, and “essence”?

Kara and John discuss what this work means to them and where they hope to go. How are we using what we’re learning about the Enneagram and the instincts? What are the three lines of work that we can all form a personal intention around? 5:45 – why does John find the Enneagram to be fascinating? Why does he get so excited about working with the blindspot 10:15 – What do we mean by authentic self and transformation? 17 – The First Line of Work – working on yourself – what strategies have John and Kara been exploring? 30:30 – The Second Line of Work – Working with others consciously and “Being” in a group 41 – The Third Line of Work – Working for the sake of the work and paying the debt of our existence 44:30 – What are our egos working for and how do we “suffer consciously”

Kara and John dive into describing the instinctual drives, subtypes, and the controversies that exist in the field Please send comments or questions to contact@EnneagramBlindspots.com John's book is available at https://www.amazon.com/Instinctual-Drives-Enneagram-John-Luckovich/dp/0578784971/ref=sr_1_1?crid=24V4IPCZEML19&keywords=the+instinctual+drives+and+the+enneagram&qid=1660515580&s=books&sprefix=The+Instinctual+driv%2Cstripbooks%2C92&sr=1-1 8 – What’s the relationship between the instinctual drives and the personality structure? Subtype as “Disease” and our growth path as a “treatment plan” 11 – Being dominant in an instinct doesn’t mean you’re good at it and what is Kara’s experience of being self preservation dominant 13 – How can our experiences with substances help us to understand our instinctual fears? 16 – If fear itself is not just Six what is Six? What does that mean about the Head Center? 18 – How might the self preservation dominant person experience the body? 22:30 – What’s the difference between an instinctual need and a strategy that’s manufactured by the personality 24:45 – What is the definition of essence? What is an Essence Quality? 32:45 – How does John look at the instincts verses how other teachers might look at the instincts? 37 – How do we differentiate competition coming from an ego structure versus the sexual instinct 40 – What is the special relationship between the instincts and the Enneagram? 42 – How can family be a strategy to meet self preservation needs in addition to social needs? 46 – What are the needs of each instinctual drive? 48 – What’s the difference between self esteem and self regulation in regards to the self preservation instinct 50 – What’s the difference between transcendence and individuation? Is this found in the self preservation instinct? 52:55 – What are resources and foundations and why is this important to the self preservation instinct? 55 – What are the needs of the sexual instinct? 61 – What are the needs of the social instinct?

Kara and John dive back into the needs of the Instinctual Drives and instinctural Intelligece as the ultimate form of preventative medicine on our quest to be a more sincere humanity 6:20 – watch Kara lose presence and get stuck in her one fix and shame spiral of point three and self-compassion her way out of it 11 – John describes what we mean about the instinctual stack and how the dominant instinct arises and the blindspot threatens it 13 – Kara discusses the impact of trauma on the development of our instinctual stack and her personal narrative 17:20 – John describes his personal narrative of how his instinctual stack emerged 19 Kara describes her theory of why certain instincts may become dominant or blind 22:30 – John and Kara describe the Enneatype of The Blindspot podcast 23:45 – John and Kara describe the instinctual fears of the self-preservation instinct 27 – John explains what an SP4 is and how it’s NOT “sunny” 33 – John describes the instinctual fear of the sexual instinct and how this is expressed in the frustration types 4, 7, 1 41:54 – The instinctual fear of the social instinct 48:42 – The competing interests of the three instinctual drives; what is each drive drawn to and what do they avoid?

Kara shares something about the pain her blindspots have caused her. John and Kara how the instinctual energies show up in film and television and provide an overview of attachment types as well as a summary of attachment theory. Kara and John discuss the different ways attachment and hexad types enter relationships. Kara describes her theory on the anxious/avoidant dance of the attachment types. Kara describes the journey towards developing earned secure attachment and how to navigate the repair process when there’s a rupture in a relationship. John describes more nuance of the SX instinct and what we mean by “merging”. Put in links to Diane Poole Heller and Sarah Peyton attachment theory stuff https://dianepooleheller.com/attachment-test/ https://sarahpeyton.com/attachment-quiz/ https://robbell.com/audio/find-me-a-straight-river-a-3-hour-audiobook-on-fear-and-failure/ Want to contact us? Please email contact@enneagramblindspots.com Want coaching with Kara? Contact her via her practice website at WellessenceMD.com

This week we’re exploring the relationship chemistry between a SP/SO/SX 3 INTJ with a 395 trifix and a SP blind 9 ENFP with a 926 trifix  Listen to how tritype can help some find their way to core typeListen to how Caryn & Sebastian found their way to their types and stackKara explains how Meyer’s Briggs type can also influence expression of subtypeKara unpacks how SP dom can look very different depending on the zone we’re focusing onKara highlights how the SO instinct shows up differently in the 3 and 9Sebastian and Caryn share how they’re working with their blindspotsHow does an SP dom and a SP blind manage finances?How does Sebastian’s “J” and Caryn’s “P” show up in how they keep their environments?Sebastian and Caryn discuss the experience of their sexualityCaryn and Sebastian talk about what the want to keep bringing presence to in their blindspot in order to keep their relationship strong and connected Want to learn more about Caryn? Find her podcast at https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-typecast/id1565551381 and her website at https://www.carynberley.com/  Any comments, questions or reflections about this interview? Please email me at contact@enneagramblindspots.com

This week I share my experience of 30 years of intimate partnership with three different 9’s and invite you into the dynamic with my SO dominant 9w1, 964 trifix. 3:00 – Listen to Kara talk about what she loves about nines 7:00 – Kara shares her experience of growing up with two body centered parents 11:00 – How do we help 9’s get in touch with their anger? 12:30 – How do nines avoid the experience of discomfort? 14:00 – Meet Kara & Drew 17:30 – How did Drew find his way to Type 9? 19:00 – Why do nines mistype as fours? 21:30 – How do nines punish through withdrawl and how do you know when your nine is pissed? 27:00 – How do nines manage their exposure to unpleasant experiences? 33:20 – How did Kara discover she was a Three and not an Eight? 38:00 – Why do attachment types mistype? 40:00 – Drew talks about why he doesn’t think “having an instinctual stack” is descriptive or helpful 43:00 – Kara descries why she think we DO have an instinctual stack that we’re born with and isn’t going to change even though all instincts express at different times 51:00 – Kara and Drew describe the different wiring in the 3 vs 9 nervous system 54:00 – Drew describes his experience of his SP instinct 1:01:20 – Kara describes how her ENFP shows up so differently from Drew’s INFJ cognitive processes 1:04:00 – Kara describes the difference between Drew’s SO dominance and Kara’s SO middle 1:08:00 – Kara and Drew describe their experience of the SX instinct 1:15:00 – We discuss that SO dominant may not enjoy groups 1:18:30 – Kara and Drew express their experience of sexuality 1:23:00 – What does attachment to disconnect look like when two attachment types are together? 1:24:15 – Why nines hate having their location pinned down and how do attachment types help each other find their locations? 1:26:30 – The many different no’s nines will give you. 1:28:30 – Why Nines can’t give an emphatic yes. 1:35:00 – Kara gives final thoughts on what SX blind looks like and how’s she coming to identify it

Meet Ben! Our SP/SO/SX 6w5 with 694 trifix Why boundaries are important to Ben and how he works with his tendency toward rigidity How does type show up in our sleep patterns and why do we both love cuddling up with 9’s How does Ben know he’s SP dominant? How can Kara have so much “buzz” and be SX blind? Kara and Ben describe their relationships to their SX blind instinct How has Ben worked with his sexual blind spot? Kara explains how Ben’s INFJ functions show up in his personal growth path Ben talks about his Enneagram constellation Ben talks about his philosophy around typing Ben talks about what he learned from his breakup and gives us some great relationship advice Learn more about Ben and his offerings at WildEnneagram.com Questions or want to work with Kara? Email contact@enneagramblindspots.com for information.

Meet Linda! Our SO/SP/SX 1w9 and hear about her experience of type an stack Linda expands on the importance of the social instinct How does Linda connect with her sexual blindspot? What is body center’s relationship to anger? Linda talks about the defense mechanism of point one – reaction formation What are the cultural issues around anger? Why do all mother’s have to work with some Type 1 anger   Braiding Sweetgrass https://www.amazon.com/s?k=braiding+sweetgrass&i=digital-text&crid=71YCQNNEZCGW&sprefix=braid%2Cdigital-text%2C121&ref=nb_sb_ss_ts-doa-p_1_5 Ben Campbell – WildEnneagram.com Mark Coleman - https://www.awakeinthewild.com/ The School For Good Mothers https://www.google.com/search?gs_ssp=eJzj4tVP1zc0zCgxTU82qSwzYPSSLslIVShOzsjPz1FIyy9SSM_PT1HIzQeKFhUDAD0FDw4&q=the+school+for+good+mothers&rlz=1C1GCEA_enUS985US985&oq=The+Schoo&aqs=chrome.2.0i131i355i433i512j46i131i433i512j46i512j69i57j0i512j46i512j46i199i433i465i512j46i512j46i433i512j46i512.5305j0j7&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8