The Love & Confidence Podcast

Ever tried the annoying thing of having a song stuck to your brain? Did you know you can actually decide to put another song in there to get rid of the first one - and that the same is the case with thoughts? Negative self-talk, worry and rumination - you don't have to feel like a victim to your thoughts, they are not an expression of who you are, you can change them, just as you change the music in your playlists. And this can give you so much more confidence! Book a free 45 min call here: https://calendly.com/laerke/confidence-callTest Yourself in the Love Confidence Quiz: https://www.laerkenielsencoaching.com/love-conf-quiz

In this episode I explain the art of being joyfully unattached - as a woman who is determined to live her best life and get the most out of any situation, while also wanting to find a partner. This energy not only makes you more attractive to a potential partner, it also feels better for yourself as it leans on having a purpose in life, something that brings meaning to your life outside of a relationship. Book a free 45 min call here: https://calendly.com/laerke/confidence-callTest Yourself in the Love Confidence Quiz: https://www.laerkenielsencoaching.com/love-conf-quiz

This is a special celebration of episode nr 100. I am offering you 100 dating tips - not all of them are deeply serious, so take it with a glimpse in the eye! I am also launching my new Love Confidence Quiz. This is a test you can use to get an idea of your confidence level in dating and relationships, and you can find it here: https://www.laerkenielsencoaching.com/love-conf-quizBook a free 45 min call here: https://calendly.com/laerke/confidence-callTest Yourself in the Love Confidence Quiz: https://www.laerkenielsencoaching.com/love-conf-quiz

I talk to the Stop People Pleasing Coach, Sara Fisk, about why we people please, why women in particular tend to set aside their own needs to take care of others, how to break the pattern and start feeling our boundaries again, and how to be clear and kind in communicating a "no". Sara shares her wisdom and insight from both a mindset and somatic approach. And you will get a fun exercise on how to set boundaries! To connect with Sara Fisk:Go to her website where you also will find the guide on How to have a difficult conversation: https://www.sarafisk.coach/ Follow her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/Listen to her podcast The Ex Good Girl Podcast: https://theexgoodgirlpodcast.buzzsprout.com/Book a free 45 min call here: https://calendly.com/laerke/confidence-callTest Yourself in the Love Confidence Quiz: https://www.laerkenielsencoaching.com/love-conf-quiz

What IS self confidence really about? Is it just showing up with a lot of self assuredness or is there more to it? Hint... There is of course. In this episode I share with you the 3 main components of self confidence and why growing self confidence will improve your love life. In other words - why it matters and in what ways it matters. Sign up for to list and get access to the Self Confidence offer: https://calm-cake-353.myflodesk.com/qrtng3guj2Book a free 45 min call here: https://calendly.com/laerke/confidence-callTest Yourself in the Love Confidence Quiz: https://www.laerkenielsencoaching.com/love-conf-quiz

Confidence is the most attractive outfit you can carry on a date. And it's also the best feeling for yourself. Being confident means trusting yourself, speking kindly to yourself, having your own back, supporting yourself and being willing to try things and take risks, without shaming yourself, if things don't go as you want.  When you are confident in your love life, you feel like a catch, and you are certain that there are good men out there, who want a woman like you.  Book a free 45 min call here: https://calendly.com/laerke/confidence-callTest Yourself in the Love Confidence Quiz: https://www.laerkenielsencoaching.com/love-conf-quiz

Tired of doing the app's? Then mix it up with some offline dating - in other words; meet people out there in real life! In this episode I share with you why it's a good idea to do both, and give you some tips on how to approach the organic, offline dating.   Book a free 45 min call here: https://calendly.com/laerke/confidence-callTest Yourself in the Love Confidence Quiz: https://www.laerkenielsencoaching.com/love-conf-quiz

Your social life is an important ancher in your emotional well-being and especially while dating, but also when you are in a relationship, its crucial to have a good friend circle. In this episode I explain why that is and give you some tips to how to approach finding new friends that will complete your circle of people, with who you can do all the things you want and need to do, so that your partner can be an addition to your life, not someone you desperately need. Book a free 45 min call here: https://calendly.com/laerke/confidence-callTest Yourself in the Love Confidence Quiz: https://www.laerkenielsencoaching.com/love-conf-quiz

Is it ok to date a man who is seperated, but not legally divorced? And what am I to look out for in that case? How do I react when someone thinks I'm "over the hill" by the age of 50, and I still want to find love? And what can I do, if I don't have any recent photos for my dating profile, how can I get more comfortable taking selfies or having photos of myself taken? In this episode I answer questions from you, listeners ;-) You are always welcome to send me questions, I will collect them and answer in another episode.   Book a free 45 min call here: https://calendly.com/laerke/confidence-callTest Yourself in the Love Confidence Quiz: https://www.laerkenielsencoaching.com/love-conf-quiz

In this episode I give you some inspiration to what questions to ask on the first 3 dates, and I share with you why it's important to ask those questions to find out if a man is aligned with your values and life goals. Book a free 45 min call here: https://calendly.com/laerke/confidence-callTest Yourself in the Love Confidence Quiz: https://www.laerkenielsencoaching.com/love-conf-quiz

This is the last episode in a mini series of 3 on emotional (un)availability - republished from March 2023. This time we take a look at your emotional availability to yourself, as this is what determines how easily you fall into the trap of dating emotionally unavailable men. It's also really crucial for your general emotional well-being and will allow you to overcome challenges and obstacles in life in a much more aligned and self-empowered way.Book a free 45 min call here: https://calendly.com/laerke/confidence-callTest Yourself in the Love Confidence Quiz: https://www.laerkenielsencoaching.com/love-conf-quiz

If you have a history of dating emotionally unavailable guys, aka players, commitment phobias, casual relationships or situationships kind of men, then you will want to listen to this episode to get the insight you need to break the pattern. I give you 6 different reasons you attract these men into your life and for each I give you advice on how to change that.  Book a free 45 min call here: https://calendly.com/laerke/confidence-callTest Yourself in the Love Confidence Quiz: https://www.laerkenielsencoaching.com/love-conf-quiz

What are the signs to look for i early and mid term dating, that can show you if a man is emotionally available? It's not always that obvious, especially if you don't think you have experienced being in a relationship with an emotionally available and mature person. In this episode I give you the signs on both sides, so you can see the difference and know what are the good signs and what to stay away from.  Book a free 45 min call here: https://calendly.com/laerke/confidence-callTest Yourself in the Love Confidence Quiz: https://www.laerkenielsencoaching.com/love-conf-quiz

You don't have to be 100% healed, and you don't have to dig deep in childhood wounds to feel more secure and confident in your dating life. In this episode I share with you what it looks like to be secure or not secure in dating and different approaches to become more secure - both with mindset work and practical shifts in behaviour. I also tell you why you should pay attention to the fact, that some people can trigger your anxiety more than others, and the goal is not always to overcome anxiety 100%, but more to be able to manage it and then find someone that feels good to your nervous system. Book a free 45 min call here: https://calendly.com/laerke/confidence-callTest Yourself in the Love Confidence Quiz: https://www.laerkenielsencoaching.com/love-conf-quiz

There are sneaky ways, in which we could unintentionally turn a man off, and that we are not even aware of, as strong, independent women. In this episode I share with you 5 different no-go's that would make most healthy masculine men feel less attracted to you - if you do it on the regular. Listen in to learn what they are so you can pay attention to if you are doing it yourself.  Book a free 45 min call here: https://calendly.com/laerke/confidence-callTest Yourself in the Love Confidence Quiz: https://www.laerkenielsencoaching.com/love-conf-quiz

You most likely know this situation where a man is sending you mixed signals - when you are together things are fine, but then when you are in between dates, you either hear nothing or very little, and he doesnt follow through on promises and cancels dates etc. But then when you see him again, he wants to plan a weekend together and acts like you are the love of his life.In this episode I give you 5 tools that you can use as an empowered woman to take a step back, clear you head and handle this situation in a way that is self compassionate and authentic.     Book a free 45 min call here: https://calendly.com/laerke/confidence-callTest Yourself in the Love Confidence Quiz: https://www.laerkenielsencoaching.com/love-conf-quiz

Listen to this episode to hear why you absolutely must get yourself onto the interest list for my group course on Feminine Energy.I will tell you WHY you want to learn feminine energy, WHAT you will learn in the course, and give you more detail about the timing. I also share with you the BIG bonusses you will get in this course. I do not know if I will ever offer this course again, so if you are dreaming of learning the skills to attract an empowered masculine man and let go of the wishy washy lets-see-where-tings-go kind of guy - NOW is your chance! Book a free 45 min call here: https://calendly.com/laerke/confidence-callTest Yourself in the Love Confidence Quiz: https://www.laerkenielsencoaching.com/love-conf-quiz

In this episode I talk about signs that a man is emotionally available and has a good level of self-awareness AND how you can be a match to that. I give you 11 concrete signs, where some of them will show up later in a connection and some of them you can discover early on. As you know - its all about becoming a woman who is a match to the man, you are looking for. And when I say that self-awareness is the new sexy, that goes for YOU as well. You want to work on deepening your own self-awareness and connection to yourself.  Book a free 45 min call here: https://calendly.com/laerke/confidence-callTest Yourself in the Love Confidence Quiz: https://www.laerkenielsencoaching.com/love-conf-quiz

In this episode I share with you 3 things you can start working on, if you want to both improve your relationship to yourself and change your relationship with a partner, whether you are dating or in a relationship: Shifting from external to internal focus is going to help you become more intentional and take your power back, if you feel you don't have much influence over your love life.  Staying true to yourself is building self trust and emotional safety in a connectionAnd becoming aware of your belief systems is removing all the road blocks that have limited your love life or prompted you into repeating patterns of self sabotage. Book a free 45 min call here: https://calendly.com/laerke/confidence-callTest Yourself in the Love Confidence Quiz: https://www.laerkenielsencoaching.com/love-conf-quiz

In this episode I talk to Lifecoach, Jo Renshaw, who helps women women navigate midlife in a way that sets an example for their daughters and the younger generation of women in general - on what is possible for a woman going through midlife. And this can include finding a new partner or changing career in your late 40's - or doing both, as Jo did! We talk about socialisation of women in midlife and breaking free from the narratives that tell us what a woman in midlife can do.You can get to know Jo more on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jo_renshaw/ And her website: https://www.jorenshaw.com/ And you can sign up for a wellness review (read more about this on her website or listen on the podcast) here: Wellness reviewhttps://www.jorenshaw.com/wellnessreviewBook a free 45 min call here: https://calendly.com/laerke/confidence-callTest Yourself in the Love Confidence Quiz: https://www.laerkenielsencoaching.com/love-conf-quiz