It All*

Brandee Justus, Jena Kinney, and Sarah Ciavarri

Let’s explore redefining what it means as a woman to have and do It All* - Asterisks like competing priorities, imagined responsibilities and demands of multiple roles. On this journey, as we untangle real life conundrums and laugh at the absurdities, we’ll share insights, so you discover what you really want and do what you really love. read less
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Episode 13: When Is Good Enough Enough
Jun 11 2024
Episode 13: When Is Good Enough Enough
Episode13. When is Enough Enough?   Tags: #expectations #highstandards #content   The conversation explores the concept of 'when is enough enough' and the tendency to never feel satisfied with progress or accomplishments. We share our personal experiences of always striving for more and feeling disappointed even in good things. The conversation delves into the pressure of high standards, the sacrifices made to meet them and the beauty of enjoying the pursuit. The discussion highlights the need to find a balance between striving for improvement and recognizing and celebrating progress along the way. We also address the idea of discernment and letting go of what may not align with our long-term goals.   In This Episode:   How do you really feel about perfection?Being content can be enough when we let it.How we measure progress impacts our attitude and confidence. Do you measure how far you’ve come, or the distance left to go?Are you forbidding yourself to achieve a goal by constantly moving the target?It’s okay to adjust your expectations- even if it’s only to meet them. Join Our Facebook IT ALL* Podcast Community to share feedback, insights or questions you may have.  We look forward to continuing this conversation there! Resources:   The Gap and the Gain: https://www.amazon.com/Gap-Gain-Achievers-Happiness-Confidence/dp/1401964362Learn more about Brandee: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brandee-justus/Learn more about Sarah: sarahciavarri.comLearn more about Jena: jenakinney.com   Credits:   Production: Samuel Cunningham- scunningham.bmt@gmail.com Music:  I Have A Dream by Gvidon
Episode 11: The If/Then Trap
May 28 2024
Episode 11: The If/Then Trap
Episode 11: The ‘If-Then’ Trap    Tags: #conditionalthinking #self-awareness #getfeedback     Today we dig into the ‘if-then’ trap of conditional thinking and acting that can leave us with decision fatigue as we try to control all the elements of a situation or decision. We discuss how this trap can manifest in various aspects of life, such as parenting, work, and relationships. We share personal experiences and examples of how the if-then trap can lead to unnecessary stress, anxiety, and missed opportunities. include the importance of self-awareness, seeking feedback from trusted individuals, and using filters or values to make decisions.     In This Episode:     How do you know when are in an ‘if-then trap’? And how it can impact decision-making? We explore the importance of seeking feedback from trusted sources to gain perspective on your own thinking We discuss the importance of using filters or values to guide decision-making and avoid unnecessary stress We look at recognizing the difference between healthy planning and trying to control outcomes      Resources Mentioned in the Show:     If You Give a Mouse a Cookie by Laura Numeroff and illustrated by Felicia Bond    Into the Woods on Wikipedia    Join Our Facebook IT ALL* Podcast Community to share feedback, insights or questions you may have.  We look forward to continuing this conversation there!  Resources:    Learn more about Brandee: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brandee-justus/ Learn more about Sarah: www.sarahciavarri.com Learn more about Jena: www.jenakinney.com    Credits:    Production: Samuel Cunningham- scunningham.bmt@gmail.com  Music:  I Have A Dream by Gvidon
Episode 9: Big Question: What Are Your Eulogy Values
May 14 2024
Episode 9: Big Question: What Are Your Eulogy Values
Episode 9. How Do you Want to be Remembered?  Claiming Your Eulogy Values    Tags: #livingwithintention #eulogyvalues #legacyvalues     In this Episode   Thinking about death and contemplating how we will be remembered isn’t something lots of busy women in all the asterisks of life do often.  For lots of reasons.  It is uncomfortable.  It feels so abstract.  It may highlight gaps in what we value and how we are living.  It can bring up lots of emotion.    In this episode we go there.  We discuss how we want to be remembered and what we hope can be said in our eulogies; what we want our legacy to be.    Key Thoughts  What are the jolts, hard or lovely, that help shape your eulogy or legacy values?  Can you embrace these as opportunities to grow?  This is a process about looking inside; don’t let perfectionism drive the process. Write out your own eulogy values and invite some good friends to do it with you.      Join Our Facebook IT ALL* Podcast Community to share feedback, insights or questions you may have.  We look forward to continuing this conversation there!  Resources:  Listen to Billy Joel’s new song:  Turn the Lights Back On Learn more about Brandee: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brandee-justus/  Learn more about Sarah: www.sarahciavarri.com Learn more about Jena: www.jenakinney.com    Credits:    Production: Samuel Cunningham - scunningham.bmt@gmail.com  Music:  I Have A Dream by Gvidon
Episode 7: The Importance Of Friendship
Apr 30 2024
Episode 7: The Importance Of Friendship
Episode 7. The Importance of Friendship   Tags: #friendship #belonging #authenticconnection   The conversation explores how the loneliness epidemic is a reminder of the importance of friendship among women. It discusses the importance of prioritizing friendships and the challenges that come with maintaining them. The hosts delve into the reasons why women may not prioritize friendships, and the distinction between fitting in and belonging. The conversation also touches on the role of social media in outsourcing friendships and the experiences of forming new tribes in different communities. They also touch on the idea that true friendship gives joy, energy, and creativity, and the subconscious concern that friendships may not contribute to productivity. The conversation concludes with the importance of being more demanding in friendships and the desire for authentic connection.    In This Episode:   The loneliness epidemic is an urgent health issue that can have severe impacts on physical and mental health.There are many asterisks in life that prevent women from prioritizing friendships.Fitting in is about external validation and conforming to social norms, while belonging is about self-acceptance and embracing one's worth.Do we use social media to “outsource” friendships?How do “tribes” come to be?We need to accept that friendships change over time, but the love and connection can remain.How intentional are you in your friendships? Join Our Facebook IT ALL* Podcast Community to share feedback, insights or questions you may have.  We look forward to continuing this conversation there!   Resources:   Surgeon Generals Advisory: https://www.hhs.gov/sites/default/files/surgeon-general-social-connection-advisory.pdfLearn more about Brandee: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brandee-justus/Learn more about Sarah: sarahciavarri.comLearn more about Jena: jenakinney.com   Also:   Sarah is launching a peer support group titled, “Leading with Heart:  Support for New Women Leaders in Healthcare.” Description: Transitioning to a leadership role brings excitement and challenges.   For women in healthcare, eldercare, and non-profit organizations, navigating the shift from colleague to supervisor can be daunting, especially when leading teams for the first time. This bi-weekly virtual peer support group offers a space to explore the intricacies of management, share experiences, and develop essential leadership skills with empathy and accountability at the core. To learn more click: Leading With Heart:  Support for New Women Leaders in Healthcare.     Credits:   Production: Samuel Cunningham- scunningham.bmt@gmail.com Music:  I Have A Dream by Gvidon
Episode 6: Taking Off The Invisibility Cape
Apr 23 2024
Episode 6: Taking Off The Invisibility Cape
Episode 6.  Taking Off the Invisibility Cape Tags:  #invisibilitycape #empoweringwomen #conditioning   Today we explore what it looks like to take off our invisibility capes as women and lean into holding or taking up more space, unapologetically.  We’ll explore times where we’ve experienced ourselves or other women not showing up as fully as they can and how we collectively can help other women see themselves for the powerhouses that they are in the world.   In This Episode: How do we operate as women with our invisibility capes, not showing up as fully as we could be?Where are you taking the backseat, not wanting to be seen as bragging?How are we deflecting or trying to move out of the spotlight?How do we help support other women around us see themselves for the powerhouses they are?The distinction between a compliment and an acknowledgement   Resources Mentioned in the Podcast: Oscars Best Actress Presentations: https://youtu.be/XDYBUnCqsyw Oscars Best Actor Presentations: https://youtu.be/nUg-dZMrEjA Oscars Best Actress Presentations:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zpGA2B_AgYw Oscars Best Supporting Actor Presentations: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7_vHwsLJY58   Join Our Facebook IT ALL* Podcast Community to share feedback, insights or questions you may have.  We look forward to continuing this conversation there!   Also: Sarah is launching a peer support group titled, “Leading with Heart:  Support for New Women Leaders in Healthcare.” Description: Transitioning to a leadership role brings excitement and challenges.   For women in healthcare, eldercare, and non-profit organizations, navigating the shift from colleague to supervisor can be daunting, especially when leading teams for the first time. This bi-weekly virtual peer support group offers a space to explore the intricacies of management, share experiences, and develop essential leadership skills with empathy and accountability at the core. To learn more click: Leading With Heart:  Support for New Women Leaders in Healthcare.   Credits Music:  I Have A Dream by Gvidon
Episode 5: Getting Smacked Upside The Head With… Joy
Apr 16 2024
Episode 5: Getting Smacked Upside The Head With… Joy
When have you put down the to-do list long enough to get caught up in this moment of beauty or joy that isn’t going to change your life but just might change your heart?  When have you said, I’m glad I didn’t miss out on that? Today we are exploring how joy shows up in our lives in unexpected ways and in moments that we create.  In This Episode: Doing it all often makes us miss the moments of joyHow do we make a home for joy in our lives?Joy is often experienced in small moments that are fleetingWhat are tools to help us slow down? Join Our Facebook IT ALL* Podcast Community to share feedback, insights or questions you may have.  Help us reach our goal of 400 FB members by the end of April.  There will be some swag giveaways involved!  We look forward to continuing this conversation there!   Also: Sarah is launching a peer support group titled, “Leading with Heart:  Support for New Women Leaders in Healthcare.” Description: Transitioning to a leadership role brings excitement and challenges.   For women in healthcare, eldercare, and non-profit organizations, navigating the shift from colleague to supervisor can be daunting, especially when leading teams for the first time. This bi-weekly virtual peer support group offers a space to explore the intricacies of management, share experiences, and develop essential leadership skills with empathy and accountability at the core. To learn more click: Leading With Heart:  Support for New Women Leaders in Healthcare. Credits Music:  I Have A Dream by Gvidon
Episode 4: Big Change Brings Big Emotion
Apr 9 2024
Episode 4: Big Change Brings Big Emotion
Episode 4.  When Things Don’t Go to Plan  Tags:  #navigatingchange #identity #emptynest  We are excited to share ideas on how life’s changes influence how we identify ourselves. Is who we are about the current title at work or our family dynamics or is who we are separate from what we are doing in each of life’s chapters? Simply evolving presents big asterisks when you are busy Having and Doing It All.  In This Episode: Is defining ourselves necessary to give us a foundation or does it just cause stress and impose limits?What is the relationship between our own identity and how others perceive us?How do we prepare for change?With change comes grief for what was or what will never be.Regardless of how we define ourselves, we must befriend ourselves.Understand how your why impacts how you see yourself. Join Our Facebook IT ALL* Podcast Community to share feedback, insights or questions you may have.  We look forward to continuing this conversation there! Also: Sarah is launching a peer support group titled, “Leading with Heart:  Support for New Women Leaders in Healthcare.” Description: Transitioning to a leadership role brings excitement and challenges.   For women in healthcare, eldercare, and non-profit organizations, navigating the shift from colleague to supervisor can be daunting, especially when leading teams for the first time. This bi-weekly virtual peer support group offers a space to explore the intricacies of management, share experiences, and develop essential leadership skills with empathy and accountability at the core. To learn more click: Leading With Heart:  Support for New Women Leaders in Healthcare. Jena is launching Transformational Leadership, a 5 month training and coaching program that takes an inside out look at what is keeping you from becoming the leader you want to be. In this highly interactive and intimate group, you will practice complete integration of skills and create your personalized action plans for next steps.   We start in mid-May, so if you’d like more details, email at jena@jenakinney.com or visit the website at jenakinney.com.  Credits Music:  I Have A Dream by Gvidon
Episode 3. When Things Don’t Go to Plan
Apr 2 2024
Episode 3. When Things Don’t Go to Plan
We are excited to share ideas on how to cope when too much becomes too much. The unplanned is a big asterisk in Having and Doing It All. Here, we discuss the effects of overbooking and how to widen our margins through prioritization when it all begins to pile up. In This Episode: How do we know when too much is too much?When we do more and overbook ourselves, we have a much harder time being present in anything we do.Overbooking and being busy as a status symbol – how can we combat this?Planning for the unplanned and building that into the calendarHow to use the Eisenhower Matrix to better prioritize every day, and especially during times of overwhelm.Saying no, or I can’t do that now, but can do that then. When we say no to something, we can say yes to something else.Getting clear on where you want to be spending your time. Resources Mentioned in the Podcast: The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown Dr. Nadya Zhexemgayeva:   https://www.linkedin.com/in/nadyazhexembayeva/ Eisenhower Matrix:  https://www.eisenhower.me/eisenhower-matrix/   Join Our Facebook IT ALL* Podcast Community to share feedback, insights or questions you may have.  We look forward to continuing this conversation there!   Also: Sarah is launching a peer support group titled, “Leading with Heart:  Support for New Women Leaders in Healthcare.” Description: Transitioning to a leadership role brings excitement and challenges.   For women in healthcare, eldercare, and non-profit organizations, navigating the shift from colleague to supervisor can be daunting, especially when leading teams for the first time. This bi-weekly virtual peer support group offers a space to explore the intricacies of management, share experiences, and develop essential leadership skills with empathy and accountability at the core. To learn more click: Leading With Heart:  Support for New Women Leaders in Healthcare.   Jena is launching Transformational Leadership, a 5 month training and coaching program that takes an inside out look at what is keeping you from becoming the leader you want to be. In this highly interactive and intimate group, you will practice complete integration of skills and create your personalized action plans for next steps.   We start on mid-May, so if you’d like more details, email at jena@jenakinney.com.   Credits Music:  I Have A Dream by Gvidon
Episode 2.  How Do You Know When It's Time to Go?
Mar 26 2024
Episode 2. How Do You Know When It's Time to Go?
We are excited to share our conversation about what it looks and feels like when we are deciding when to stop something or leave a situation.  The asterisks in our lives always have something to say about how we make this decision and where we finally land. In This Episode: Quitting doesn’t equal failure; it could be the smartest thing we doThe heart and head connectionWhat rules/metrics/decision tree do you use? If you are looking for a tool, Jena and Sarah highly recommend Brandee’s 3X3 Matrix: re-evaluate after 3 days, in a larger position in 3 months, in an enterprise position in 3 quarters When do you know your heart isn’t in it anymore?How do you get better as actually acknowledging the hidden agendas/automatic thoughts that drive behavior?What is the relationship between feeling stuck and making a move or decision?   Join Our Facebook IT ALL* Podcast Community to share feedback, insights or questions you may have.  We look forward to continuing this conversation there!   Also: Sarah is launching a peer support group titled, “Leading with Heart:  Support for New Women Leaders in Healthcare.” Description: Transitioning to a leadership role brings excitement and challenges.   For women in healthcare, eldercare, and non-profit organizations, navigating the shift from colleague to supervisor can be daunting, especially when leading teams for the first time. This bi-weekly virtual peer support group offers a space to explore the intricacies of management, share experiences, and develop essential leadership skills with empathy and accountability at the core. To learn more click: Leading With Heart:  Support for New Women Leaders in Healthcare.   Jena is launching Transformational Leadership, a 5 month training and coaching program that takes an inside out look at what is keeping you from becoming the leader you want to be. In this highly interactive and intimate group, you will practice complete integration of skills and create your personalized action plans for next steps.   We start on mid-May, so if you’d like more details, email at jena@jenakinney.com.   Credits Music:  I Have A Dream by Gvidon
Episode 1.  Welcome to It All*
Mar 19 2024
Episode 1. Welcome to It All*
Welcome to the It All* podcast! In this episode, you will get to know your hosts- Brandee, Jena and Sarah. We will scratch the surface on the core asterisks that come with having and doing it all for women.   In This Episode: Learn what crazy ideas made us start the It All* podcast.We quickly dissect Gloria’s monologue in the Barbie movie. Is it a mantra for women today?Competing priorities are a hurdle as we strive to Have and Do It All.Life comes with responsibilities. We have noticed though, that there is a distinct difference in responsibilities that real versus imagined.Most women wear many hats in their lives. Multiple roles require us to constantly switch gears- sometimes minute by minute! Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:  Gloria’s monologue in Barbie: https://youtu.be/IYtAVnJ9Ih8?si=-gwyRQUlvxbSdUm1   Join Our Facebook IT ALL* Podcast Community to share feedback, insights or questions you may have.  We look forward to continuing this conversation there!   Join Our Facebook IT ALL* Podcast Community to share feedback, insights or questions you may have.  We look forward to continuing this conversation there!   Also: Sarah is launching a peer support group titled, “Leading with Heart:  Support for New Women Leaders in Healthcare.” Description: Transitioning to a leadership role brings excitement and challenges.   For women in healthcare, eldercare, and non-profit organizations, navigating the shift from colleague to supervisor can be daunting, especially when leading teams for the first time. This bi-weekly virtual peer support group offers a space to explore the intricacies of management, share experiences, and develop essential leadership skills with empathy and accountability at the core. To learn more click: Leading With Heart:  Support for New Women Leaders in Healthcare.   Jena is launching Transformational Leadership, a 5 month training and coaching program that takes an inside out look at what is keeping you from becoming the leader you want to be. In this highly interactive and intimate group, you will practice complete integration of skills and create your personalized action plans for next steps.   We start on mid-May, so if you’d like more details, email at jena@jenakinney.com.   Credits Music:  I Have A Dream by Gvidon