Dan Savage, the host of the Savage Lovecast and the long-running column, Savage Love, talks about writing the rules of your own relationship. This week’s Dating Dish: If you clap when planes land, your partner might break up with you. Plus, Dan joins Damona in a very special Dear Damona to answer these questions: I put so much pressure on myself to find a guy that meets my standards, I think I am hindering myself from finding my match. What should I do? And, even though I want to be sexually open - I find myself getting attached to flings. How do I detach from my hookups? Be sure to follow Dan on Instagram @DanSavage and listen to the Savage Lovecast wherever you listen to Dates & Mates. And, be sure to grab a copy of Dan’s latest book, “Savage Love from A to Z: Advice on Sex and Relationships, Dating and Mating, Exes and Extras”. ANNOUNCEMENT! Damona is running her signature dating coaching group LIVE one last time starting the week of January 23rd. If you want to find love in 2023, this is your moment! Want to learn more? Check out the free intro class on Wednesday January 18th at 4pm PT/ 7pm ET. You can sign up for that at DamonaHoffman.com/freeclass Sponsor: Green Chef makes eating well easy with plans to fit every lifestyle. Go to GreenChef dot com slash DATESANDMATES60 and use code DATESANDMATES60 to 60% off plus free shipping Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices