In this podcast, Nick takes questions from our podcast listeners.Music by Lemon Music Studio by Pixabaywww.sacred-truths.com

In this podcast, which follows Nick's list of what it is to be a real man, the group discusses why men feel they need to impress women.Music by Lemon Music Studio by Pixabaywww.sacred-truths.com

In this episode Nick shares his list of what it is to be a real man.Music by: Lemon Music Studio at Pixabaywww.sacred-truths.com

A continuation of Emmy's experience of living in the town of Lahaina, Hawaii on Maui, the town that in August of 2023,  burned to the ground in a tragic fire that ripped through at a fierce speed destroying most of the old wooden, historic buildings, homes, neighborhoods and businesses.  This story of loss is a tribute to a town rich with history, and  it's a story of a place that taught Emmy to know her True Self, her Wise Self. Special thanks to Greg Starbird on guitarLahaina Song: written by Emmy and GabyMusic by:Zapsplat.comPixabay: Mike Cole, Sergei Paukin, Lemon Music Studio, Olexy, Onoychenkomusic, RovadorBergitta Victor, Free Music Archive, CC BY-NC-NDSiddhartha Corsus, Free Music Archive, CC BY-NCwww.sacred-truths.com

In August of 2023, most of the town of Lahaina, on Maui was burned to the ground in a tragic fire that ripped through at a fierce speed destroying most of the old wooden, historic buildings, homes, neighborhoods and businesses.  Lahaina is a Hawaiian town that Emmy loves, for as a 22 year old she lived there for 9 months and it holds her memories. This story of loss is a tribute to a town rich with history, and  it's a story of a place that taught Emmy to know her True Self, her Wise Self. Special thanks to Greg Starbird on guitarLahaina Song: written by Emmy and GabyMusic by:Zapsplat.comPixabay: Sergei Paukin, Julius H, Oleksii Kaplunskyi, Olexy, RovadorKevin MacLeod, Free Music Archive, CC BY-NCSeaven Tears, Free Music Archive, CC BY-NCTim Taj, Free Music Archive, CC BY-NC-NDCrowander, Free Music Archive, CC BY-NCTojamura, Free Music Archive, CC BY_NCwww.sacred-truths.com

In this concluding episode with Emmy, Nick and Ken,  the group discusses: Fear, how far men have travelled from their basic essence of the masculine concept of protector; and Ken and Nick describe their experiences with the ManKind Project.www.sacred-truths.com

The group discusses the biproducts of toxic masculinity to the LGBT community and women, and ways to help bring about change. Also, how hierarchy and status are enforced in the hyper-masculine paradigm. www.sacred-truths.com

Ken and Nick and Emmy discuss power dynamics triggered by trauma, the dynamics between gay men and women, and how women edit themselves in front of straight men. www.sacred-truths.com

In this new Ask a Dude series, our panel consists of Emmy and Ken, with Nick as our dude.   In this episode, we talk about how misogyny and homophobia are related and the movie "Close" and the often painful separation enforced upon young male adolescent best friends. Music by Lemon Music Studio from Pixabay.www.sacred-truths.com

This is a continuation of a special episode where Nick and Emmy discuss the process behind creating Nick's list of what it is to be a real man, receiving the list, and his reluctance or hesitation to publish the list publicly. Music by Pixabay  www.sacred-truths.com

Hello and welcome to a special episode of Ask a Dude. About 3 months ago, on an Ask a Dude Podcast, I read my list of what it is to be a good woman. At the end of that episode, Nick told us that he felt inspired to share his list of what it is to be a real man. Nick made his list and shared it with us during a recorded podcast sometime in May, roughly 2 months ago. We now refer to it as ‘the list’. The podcast is edited and ready to go. But we haven’t yet launched it on Sacred Truths.  So, why the long pause?The Ask a Dude series is a process for all of us involved.  In many ways this is new territory for us and sometimes we are surprised by what we find. In this podcast, Nick and I discuss the process of making the list, sharing the list, receiving the list, and his reluctance or hesitation to share the list publicly.Music by Pixabaywww.sacred-truths.com

Emmy reads her entire list of what is a 'good' woman. The group discusses how these unconscious, unspoken lists govern how we interact with each other and the fragility of the male ego.Nick is inspired to share his list of what is a real man.Music by Lemon Music Studio from Pixabaywww.sacred-truths.com

In this episode, the women continue to explore their lists of what it is to be a good woman. A universal theme is being a pleasing sexual object. The group discusses how these ideas are enforced and transmitted.Music by Lemon Music Studio by Pixabaywww.sacred-truths.com

In this episode, the group questions how the world expects men and women to be. Questions regarding a good woman vs a real woman and a good man vs a real man are raised.How do are these lists of a good woman or a real man get generated?  How are they passed on?The women begin to share what is on their lists: what is a good woman.Music by Lemon Music Studio by Pixabaywww.sacred-truths.com

Episode 2, Part 1Nick discusses the different types of shame men experience and the common response to it.Music by Pixabay.comwww.sacred-truths.com

Continuation of Episode 1, Part 4In this episode, Nick tackles the subject of peeing on the toilet rim.www.sacred-truths.com

Continuation of Episode 1, Part 3:What are men really saying when they talk about sexual exploits? Give us specifics!Nick elaborates on the themes regarding this behavior.www.sacred-truths.com

Continuation of Episode 1, Part 2:Here Nick tackles the question of why men talk about their sexual exploits and discusses the main themes.Books mentioned: "Down Girl: the Logic of Misogyny" by Kate Manneand "For the Love of Men" by Liz Plankwww.sacred-truths.com

In 2020, I met Nick Oredson, a skilled facilitator who specializes in working with trauma and abuse. I started talking to him about the abuse, harm and harassment I’ve encountered throughout my life at the hands of men, specifically, and the damaging impact it’s had on me. To my surprise, he didn’t flinch – he just took in what I had to say and validated my experience. This was astonishing to me because in my experience, whenever I attempted to speak to men about abuse or demeaning behavior, their response has typically been to diminish my feelings or its impact, shout out in some kind of strange rage, or clam up completely and retreat to silence. I’d never had the experience of a man simply listening and taking in my perspective, until Nick. In time, I began to ask him questions about why men behave in certain ways in certain circumstances. No topic was off limits. He would access what he referred to as the collective male consciousness of shadow masculinity that all men are taught to adhere to, in order to answer my questions as best as he could. We jokingly referred to it as our ‘Ask a Dude’ sessions and I found them so helpful that I suggested he should set up a table on a street corner somewhere with a sign reading “Ask me anything about men” so women could come to him with their baffling questions about men.That’s how this podcast started. We are a group of 3 women and we come together with a list of questions for Nick to address. This is not rehearsed. He has no idea what we will ask. Ask A Dude – 3 women, one guy – where we get real answers on subjects most men aren’t willing to talk about.Episode 1, Part 1: Gender violence, men and their feelingsBooks mentioned: "Believing" by Anita Hillwww.sacred-truths.com

In this podcast, Emmy recalls taking a risk to save the life of a barred owl in Texas."What a powerful story!  Beautifully told." SH, Ohio "Completely and absolutely stunning!  This story is so touching, profound, called me in from the very first moment." TLS, Ohio   "Wow, I really enjoyed this one Emmy! It is such a vivid story – I felt completely transported to the banks of that rushing river!" NO, Oregon "I listened to your calm voice and soothing cadence as you told the story of rescuing this owl. I was right there with you as you realized the trouble you could get into, but you forged ahead and came out OK. Your storytelling helped me..." DR, New Mexico Photo Credit: Philip Brown on Unsplashwww.sacred-truths.com