We are flawed human beings. We make small and big mistakes. It is difficult to admit that we are wrong. It takes dropping our egos and acknowledging that we were in error. If we hurt someone emotionally as a result of our mistakes and insensitivities and our inner turmoil, it takes humility and insight to say: "I was wrong, I am sorry tht I caused you to suffer. It is not your fault; it is mine. I take responsibility for my words and actions." When we are able to get past our always having to be right and beyond long held humiliations, we can admit being wrong, communicate this to the person we have hurt and move forward. It is freeing and rewarding to know that we are capable of self redemption, putting the ego aside and choosing self truth.  Narcissists cannot admit they are wrong. He/she is driven by an ego inflated sense of self. His/her burnished golden image represents the delusional reality of his making. This is their sine qua non. No exceptions. Narcissists don't let the truth get in their way. It is an obstacle unfamiliar to them. Golden child narcissists have been manufacturing their own truth since early childhood. Their versions are immutable, as real to them as the turning of the earth on its axis, the rhythms of sea tides, the predictable phases of the moon.  High level narcissists are dupicitious. They demand unreachable perfection from others and the constant delivery of narcissistic supplies: praise, aduldation, blind loyalty, veneration---yet they constantly attack our thought processes, motivations, emotional responses and purposely harm us psychologically every single day. Their lack of a developed conscience keeps them from viewing themselves realistically. Eventually, you become receptive to your moments of repeated insights, along with your in-depth research about the true nature of the narcissistic personality. This is the time of reckoning. Your days are turning around; you are on the road of psychological redemption.  Hold on to the golden cord of your intuitive insights, the diligence of your research and your courageous, strong, fine character.  Click the link below for my books on Amazon:  https://tinyurl.com/46befxue Click the link below for the Mental Health News Radio Network, a Global Network of Shows by Podcasters on every facet of Mental Health.  www.mhnrnetwork.com

The high level narcissist is a projection machine. Rather than internalizing, introspecting or encouraging insight, the high level narcissist is always in the process of externalization. He/she is either basking in his perfection or plotting the next move that will weaken, topple or destroy a real or imagined enemy.  Projection is an unconscious defense mechanism an individual uses to protect himself/herself from intolerable feelings of worthlessness, self loathing and forbidden impulses. The high level narcissist is continually projecting his/her venom on to others. This is particularly painful and harmful to his family---spouses, partners and children. Learn to deflect the high level narcissist's projections. This person is constantly externalizing, reeling out one trajectory after another. You cannot control the narcissist's impulses but you can be in command of yourelf. A daily practice of stilling the mind and gentle forms of yoga that emphasize focus on the breath provide a steady mental and psychological foundation. These practices are thousands of years old and have served yogis and laymen in a profound way. Learn to access the parasympathetic nervous system. that part of yourself that is calm, relaxed, at peace. A master acupuncturist whom I know reminds her patients: "let yourself go down and settle." She is speaking about the innate part of ourselves that naturally seeks peace in the body, mind and psyche.  Get the rest and sleep that you deserve. Practice diaphragmatic breathing that puts you in the parasympathetic mode of calming and restoration.  Minimize contact with high level narcissists. This is a tall order since many people in positions of power and influence are narcissistic personalities. If you have to be in their presence, try to be in the company of someone else whom you trust. Being alone is the best opportunity for the high level narcissist to pounce. When the projection comes, remind yourself that this shred of debris is emerging out of him/her. It does not belong to you. Beneath it all, the narcissist is a coward---hitting others when they are down, feeding off of vulnerabilities and weaknesses, setting baits and traps that will harm and disrupt other individuals. These people are despicable.  With today's narcissistic society giving them a pass, because so many of them are successful in the world, look to yourself.  You are not alone, I hear from those who have been victimized by these predators and have prevailed over them.  The wise philosopher Lao-tsu states the truth clearly: "He who controls others may be powerful, but he who has mastered himself is mightier still."  Click the link below for my books on Amazon: https://tinyurl.com/2p92ymam Click the link below for the great Shows by Podcasters on the global Mental Health News Radio NetworK:  www.mhnrnetwork.com

Some of our greatest challenges are narcissistic personalities within our families. The first move is to learn to recognize these individuals as narcissistic personality disorders who are not going to change.  When you do the research, you learn to recognize the narcissist within your own family. It is not unusual for other family members to make excuses for their cruel, dismissive and outright abusive behaviors. I have known of family situations where one individual knows the truth about the narcissists in their family and shares this information. Many who go along to get along and put up with their cruel psychopathology, are fearful to assert themselves.  They berate the one person who is holding the truth. If one individual out of thousands knows the truth, it is still the truth. We live in a time of narcissistic delusion.  People are blinded by the burnished image that the narcissist perpetuates, his/her incandescent  "charm", all of the unfulfilled promises he/she makes.   I have known of a number of family members who, despite all of the pressure placed on them, severed the relationship with this toxic individual. They were castigated, criticized and thought to be strange by other family members but insisted on their truth.    Put yourself first and keep a distance from the narcissistic family member.  In some instances it can be necessary to go very low or no contact with these individuals.  Trust what you know is true. Practice the self care that you deserve. Sleep, rest, spending time with Nature, accessing your unique creativity, appreciating who you are as a valuable unique individual.

At times the earth feels unsteady beneath our pscyhological feet. We experience uncertainties, even fears and trepidationss that haunt us in wakefulness and sleep. In moments of confuson and  uncertainty it is particularly helpful to view ourselves with objectivity and compassion.   Those who are healing and restoring themselves after their stressful and traumatic experienes with narcissistic partners and spouses and growing up in narcissistic families, are called to take steps to bring about their emotional and psychophysical balance.  You deserve this renewal of your true, original self.  Honor yourself physcially, psychologically and spiritually by practicing self care each day: rest, sleep, movement and exercise in the ways that work best for you. Perform basic yoga poses like child's pose that gently stretches your muscles, calms your nervous system and puts you in the restorative parasympathetic mode.  This is your moment of independence and transformation.  Keep company with yourself: get to know and appreciate who you are as an individual. Take time for your solitude, restfulness, creative pursuits, experiences of Beauty.  Trust your deep wisdom and intuition.    Click the link below for my books on Amazon: https://tinyurl.com/46befxue Click the link below for the Mental Health News Radio Network: a Global Network of Shows by Podcasters on every facet of Mental Health: www.mhnrnetwork.com

The high level narcissist has mastered a very smooth act: false, cunning, acquisitive and very greedy.  Psychologically empty inside, he/she is always searching for more while he treats others without mercy or respect.  The greediest are the have mores and the have mosts who are perpetually in acquisitive mode. They go after what you have--investments, properties, residences, businesses, valuable possessions, trusts, works of art.  They feed off of your creativity and steal your projects--all the while leading you to believe that they are collaborating and contributing to your success. High level narcissists are not team players. This is a pretense, a strategy, a ruse, a well honed act to gain your trust and ultimately control you and the products of your unique creativity. No matter how much they have, for the high level narcissist, it is never enough. The fever of covetousness rises with every acquisition. You cannot win with these individuals if you stay partnered with them unless you are willing to become their psychological prisoners. Some who remain aligned with the high level narcissist are in a state of deep delusion.  The high level doesn't care if you are left with nothing. They get what they want, discard you and move on to the next shiny prize.  There is great hope and promise for those who remain steady in their grounded fine characters, steady and risng in their creative gifts.  You are entitled to honor yourself as an individual: self care each day: rest, sleep, Nature's beauty, joy of music, exercise your way, activation of your unique creativity.  Click the link below for my books on Amazon: https://tinyurl.com/46befxue Click the link below for the Mental Health News Radio Network, a global network of Shows by Podcasters on every facet of Mental Health www.mhnrnetwork.com

The high level narcissist is a towering, talented, conquering hero, another Alexander the Great. Everyone seeks his/her counsel. Exalted to high positions of power, influence and prestige, everyone seeks their counsel. They are anointed, even considered holy.  Convinced of his perfection and superiority, the high level flies high with an extraordinary sense of self entitlement and delusional grandiosity.  They obsessively brag about their accomplishments, becoming increasingly manic with each achievement--a bloated ego on full display.  There is a shameless hypocrisy that is part of this identity. Their delusions of grandeur and perfection are limitless.  Their obsessive focus is always on themselves: what they are entitled to have, whom they will control, how much money and power they will acquire, how to defeat their competitors and enemies--real and imagined-while maintaining an impeccable persona. You are actually partnered with or married to a petulant child. The narcissistic personality is psychologically regressed to the age of two. Me, Me, Me is the constant word. Temper tantrums and outrageous demands are the theme when they don't get exactly what they want on the spot. Two year olds go through a period of separating out from their parent and asserting themselves and insisting they are independent. Eventually the young child moves through this phase as he or she becomes more rational and capable of viewing themselves realistically. The narcissist never leaves this developmental phase. He/she is stuck psychologically in toddlerhood. Microscopically light on conscience describes the narcissist's lack of a moral compass. Having a solid conscience takes work and moral discernment. Those with a conscience think about the welfare of others and question themselves about moral and ethical issues. Being light on conscience accelerates the narcissist's movement up the steps of power, influence and control. Don't wait for the high level narcissist to be held accountable for his/her malicious transgressions, constant lies. They have abused others, including their children in word and deed. Arrogantly striding the upper echelons of the power pecking order, the high level learned how to escape by blaming others, especially those who are vulnerable and willing to take the heat for them.  Your time of re-awakening has arrived. You now understand the true nature of the high level narcissist and begin your movement forward to separate out of this narcissistic abuse.  You start by putting yourself first with self care: rest, sleep, eating nourishing food, good hydration, movement and exercise your way, listening to beautiful music, spending time with Nature and using your many creative gifts.  Click the link below for my books on Amazon: https://tinyurl.com/2p92ymam Click the link below for the Mental Health News Radio Network, a Global Network of Shows by Podcasters on every facet of Mental Health: www.mhnrnetwork.com

You can't fall asleep at night; you are anxious; your mind is racing, You listen to your thoughts and wonder when you will get respite. Morning comes and you face extreme fatigue.  Exhaustion has a pain of its own, a feeling of weakness that is relentless. Finally, you face the day and wonder if your strength and stamina will ever return.  You are distracted and miserable most of the time. Your gut is out of whack. You feel gnawing vulnerabilities---raw fear. On top of this is the dark presence, the horrific shadow side of the high level narcissist. What you know for sure is that eventually he/she starts screaming at you, picking you apart in a low voice filled with derision and mocking. One of his/her favorites is humiliating you. Humiliation is one of the worst sensations we can experience. It is intolerable; we squirm inside, we feel small and want to disappear, to become invisible.  These cruelties visited on you by the high level are a regular feature, wearing you thin, jangling your nervous system, causing anxiety and panic. For some, re-activating their childhood trauma.  This is particularly alarming since your narcissistic partner/spouse doesn't give a damn about you or your well being. In fact he is incensed that you are ill and pulling him/her down. You are bad for his image. Having a partner who is not "Up" all the time is very unappealing. The flawless narcissist despises your chronic exhaustion and uses every opportunity to deride and abandon you.  Gradually, you are moving through the exhaustion, feeling the beginnings of strength. You do research and develop a clear understanding of the high level narcissist.  With time and an inner resolve and connection with a few individuals whom you trust you know that in order to heal and restore your psychological and physical health you need to move along your own recovery pathways that activate the restorative, parasympathetic body/mind systems, daily self care: rest, sleep, pure nutrition, good hydration, Nature's healing gifts, the use of your unique creativity, your form of spiritual practice: basic restorative yoga, stretching, exercise your way.  Another phenomental gift of restoration: listening to beautiful music that moves inside with its beauty and promise of renewal, strength and transformation, the fullness of your original true self.

Narcissistic mothers are non-parents. They are incapable of emotional and psychological intimacy. They cannot attach and bond with their children appropriately. They use their children as puppets to mirror them perfectly.  At some point you know that your mother cannot and will not and did not fulfill your deepest needs. This is a time of reckoning when you know that you must act for yourself and learn to nourish and take care of yourself first. This is not selfish; it is essential. This self healing begins with small steps. Get the sleep and rest that you need and deserve. Eat nourishing food, organic if you can, that keeps you healthy and strong. Develop a spiritual practice using your definition, turn to Nature, the great healer and source of great beauty, experience the solitude of your own company, listen to music that appeals to you and moves you into the parasympathetic restorative mode, move and exercise in the way that works for you.  Be very kind to the small child inside of you. You are a wonderful individual: empathic, persevering,  resourceful, authentic, creative.  Click the link below for my books on Amazon: https://tinyurl.com/2p92ymam Click the link below for the Mental Health News Radio Network, a Global Network of Shows by Podcasters on Mental Health www.mhnrnetwork.com

High level narcissists have raised telling elaborate lies to a dark art form. They repeat their lies with emphasis and convincing delivery. The audience is immersed in his/her "story" and the way it is delivered. The narcissist's nonverbals are impeccable: tone of voice, great eye contact, pseudo empathy. The high level narcissist appears to be warm and caring. These individuals are so sure of themselves that they have no hesitation.  The high level makes comments like: "You and I have a lot in common." "We understand one another." "I am looking out for you." Lies of omission and commission are all part of their performance, their act.  High level narcissists don't tire from lying; it is their sustenance. It maintains their power over others.  You cannot trust someone who is lying to you.   You are evolving all of the time. This process is not a straight line; it is a process.   Give yourself tremendous credit for being a person of character and compassion. You are that unique individual that always strives to do the right thing, especially when no one is watching. It is in the deep inner self that you feel the peace of your authenticity and integrity.  Click the link below for my books on Amazon:  https://tinyurl.com/2p92ymam Click the link below for the Mental Health News Radio Network: A Global Network of Shows on every facet of Mental Health:  www.mhnrnetwork.com

Empaths are unique individuals who are often misunderstood. As babies and small children they learn that they are unlike other family members. Some children are accepted and respected but this attitude tends to be the exception. Empaths have a heightened sense of perception. They are highly sensitive to loud noises, large crowds and social events.  Empaths are seekers of the truth and have keen insights and intuitions. The society and even within their families, these gifts are not accepted and valued. Rather the empath is treated like a person who is odd, peculiar, someone who doesn't fit in.  Empath Special Care Practice Protecting Your Sleep and Rest: "Sleep that knits up the raveled sleave of care, sore labor's bath. Balm of hurt minds, great nature's second course. Chief nourisher in life's feast." William Shakespeare Honor your sleep - Don't let others, especially demandig individuals interfere with your sleep. The great healer is sleep, a profound activity that we are designed for. Sleep is part of all human and animal species. It nourishes and restores every system: skeletal, muscular, repiratory, cardiovascular, digestive, reproductive, endocrine, lymphatic and the mitochrondria in every cell.  We are created to follow the natural daylight and night---to sleep when darkness comes at night and to awaken when the sun rises and radiates in the sky throughout the day.  Sleep protects and strengthens the immune system, restores our vital energy and decreases inflammation. In sleep the unconscious speaks, bringing us dreams that are mysterious, healing and insightful. We are often daunted by the meaning of our dreams. Nevertheless, they are invaluable although often inscrutable. In many cultures for hundreds of years the habit of taking a rest has been part of a daily routine. Rest offers physical, psychological and emotional refreshment. Having the freedom to think in quiet, to enjoy one's solitude and creativity is a very pleasant activity. This gives us a feeling of well-being. It offers a great opportunity to move into the parasympathetic nervous system, the restorative, healing mode.  Protecting Your Psychological Boundaries Respecting your personal boundaries is an essential part of your positive self-entitlement to inner peace. Recognize that yu can say "No" to the narcissist who is constantly making outrageous demands, lying to you, projecting venomous rage. Developing a strong sense of self-regard is essential to eatablishing and maintaining boundaries. Separating out of the narcissist's delusion world you move forward along your unique individual pathways of psychological and creative development. Setting Your Personal Pace: Each individual has a natural tempo, a way of moving that is unique to them. As a child, spouse or partner of a high level narcissist you spent many years dancing to their choreography. High level narcissists are often peripetetic---they never stop moving. You have been trying to keep up with their rapid pace and constant demands for too many years. This is your time your space, your pace. Enjoy the dance! Spend time with Nature, her beauty and Inspiration: We are part of Nature. It showers us with gifts of magnificent beauty. Nature is a home for our solitude, an inspiration for creative thinking, a companion that inspires, nourishes, calms and delights us.  Developing Your Unique Routine: Daily routines that you crative are motivating, creative, healing and restorative.  Decide on your priorities, try different schedules, chose activities that appeal to you. Leave room for flexibility. Don't be judgmental. There are no mistakes in choosing the elements of your routine. Enjoy your choices. Honor your unique needs, wishes, energy levels, deep interests, appreciation of beauty, the manifestation of your singular individuality. Click the link below for my books on Amazon: https://tinyurl.com/46befxue Click the link below for the Mental Health News Radio Network, a Global Network of Shows by Podcasters on every facet of Mental Health.  www.mhnrnetwork.com

The covert narcissist is "gifted" at re-victimizing his/her human targets. Whether you are partnered with or married to a covert narcissist you are riddled with fear and dread much of the time. You are stuck in the fight or flight mode, the sympathetic nervous system. The covert is skilled at concealing his/her multiple cruelties, manipulations and deceptions. Lies roll off of their tongues automatically and everyone believes them. Lies are automatic to the covert. In some instances your own family may not believe that you know and are telling the truth about this covert viper.  Their act deceives so many including highly trained therapists, psychiatrists, social workers, attorneys and the list goes on. Don't be surprised if you have been compromised by the covert narcissistic man or woman who makes you believe that he/she is genuine and deeply cares about you.  Learn to recognize the seductions of sweetness, soft persuasion, their vulnerability act, guilt induction and promises of special treatment that are designed by the covert narcissist to pull you back into their delusonal world of manipulation and deception.  There are steps you can take to maintain your psychological boundaries and strong sense of self: Identify the covert narcissist with your research, knowledge and the full use of your intuition. Put yourself first. Get the sleep you need and deserve. Eat pure food and hydrate, spend time with Nature, do movement and exercise that works you, form relationships with individuals you can trust.  Do expressive writing that is unedited and uses your imagination.  You have turned on to a new pathway of renewal, health, beauty and a source of continued healing, evolution and transformation. Click the link below for my books on Amazon: https://tinyurl.com/2p92ymam Click the link below for the Mental Health News Radio Network, a global  network of Shows by Podcasters on every facet of Mental Health: www.mhnrnetwork.com

The narcissist is a projection machine. Rather than internalizing, introspecting or encouraging insight, the narcissist is always in the process of externalization. He/she is either basking in his perfection or plotting the next move that will weaken, topple or destroy a real or imagined enemy. Projection is an unconscious defense mechanism an individual uses to protect himself/herself from intolerable feelings of worthlessness, self loathing and forbidden impulses. The narcisssist is continually projecting his/her venom on to others. This is particularly painful and harmful to his family---spouses, partners and children.  Learn to deflect the narcissist's projections. You cannot control the narcissist's impulses but you can be in command of yourself.  Practice self care: rest, sleep, hydration, movement/exercise, a form of mindfulness that works for you. Learn to access the parasympathetic nervous system, tht part of yourself that is calm, relaxed and grounded.  Tap into your creativity --an invaluable resource.  Honor your wisdom. "He who controls others may be powerful, but he who has mastered himself is mightier still."---Lao-tsu Click the link below for my books on Amazon: https://tinyurl.com/46befxue Click the link below for the Mental Health News Radio Network. This is a global network of Shows by Podcasters on every facet of Mental Health: www.mhnrnetwork.com

As the high level narcissist becomes more successful in the world, he/she activates greater and greater grandiosity, extreme self entitlement and ruthlessness. If he is at the top of his/her profession---finance, science, medicine, academia, entertainment, entrepreneurship, politics, media, etc, he is surrounded by a circle of people who believe that he is superior. This protective golden circle provides the high level narcissist with a continuous circulation of narcissistic supplies: adulation, praise, accolades, multiple perks, high monetary compensation.  As high level narcissists move to higher tiers of power and influence of great reach, they become untouchable in terms of being held accountable for their personal misdeeds and cruelties.  Does it matter to him/her if he decimates someone else's career. Absolutely not! This is business hardball. Those who side with him (not knowing that they too are disposable) will vanquish his enemies. The narcissist becomes more and more ruthless and inhumane as he grabs more power and becomes more maniacally delusional. If this narcissist is a waking nightmare at work, he is hellish at home. In the private space there is no need to wear his/her false facade. It is ripped off by the time he reaches the front door. He screams, taunts, threatens, demeans, humiliates his spouse and children. The reign of narcissistic terror is endless. He has his spouse in a psychological stranglehold.  If the marriage is going badly and the spouse suggests a divorce, the decree of threat comes down---"You will be left with nothing." "I will get full custody of the kidns." "Everyone will know that you have instigated the divorce and take my side." "I will hire attorney who will defeat you at every turn." Some spouses of high level narcissists reach a breaking point---They are in severe distress---They cannot sleep; they are on red alert with free floating anxiety and chronic insomnia.   Don't wait for the narcissist to change course. He/she knowes he can control and manipulate you at any time.  Some spouses take the step to sever their relationship from these highlydisturbed individuals. They strrengthen themselves physically, mentally, psychologically and spiritually. Begin with self care: get the rest and sleep that you deserve, good nutrition and hydration, movement and exercise that works for you, restoration through Nature, doing expressive writing with edit or judgment, rediscovering your many unique creative gifts.  Click on the link below for my books on Amazon: https://tinyurl.com/2p92ymam Click the link below for the Mental Health News Radio Network, a global network of Shows by Podcasters on every facet of Mental Health:  www.mhnrnetwork.com

The outer image, the persona of the high level narcissist is irresistible: beauty, handsomeness, magnetism, pseudo empathy, extreme self confidence, brightness. These are some of the qualities of  high flying narcissists who are extraordinarily successful in our world today.  The number of high level narcissists is increasing faster than we can count. Our current society rewards them for their worldly success. Having integrity and a fine character matter less now than it did in the past.  Our current society rewards them for their worldly success despite the number of people they have psychologically abused; those they have left in financial ruin. Some individuals have become physically ill from the stress of living with them decade after decade. When you are at your lowest emotional ebb the narcissistic spouse/partner will verbally pounce on you without mercy. They are determined to bring you down. They assume the role of victim which they play to the hilt. High level narcissists lead secret lives which they compartmentalize. They are known for their affiars, clandestine meetings, seductive acting out behaviors.  After years, even decades of psychological abuse you can tolerate these cruelties of mind and heart no longer. You are exhausted, experience oxidative stress, chronic anxiety and insomnia.  After making your decision to leave the narcissist you go through the ordeal of divorcing the high level narcissist. They hires attorneys to intimidate you into complete capitulation. They seek to wear you down with their dirty fighting.  Despite it all, you come through the divorce process. You have re-activated your strong, grounded sense of self. You folllow the pathways that lead to healing and transformation, putting yourself first. Self care each day is your routine. Getting the rest and sleep that you deserve; eating quality food, good hydration, movement and exercise, you strengthen yourself and develop a powerful stamina of mind, body and heart. Your self entitlement blooms and grows. You embrace your full identity, individuality and creativity.  Click on the link below for my books on Amazon: https://tinyurl.com/46befxue Click on the link below for the Mental Health News Radio Network, a global network of Shows by Podcasters on every facet of Mental Health: www.mhnrnetwork.com

If you have been married to or partnered with a high level narcissist for decades or a short time, remember that your "relationship" with this person is expendable. High level narcissists are ruthlessly wanton and careless about the feelings of others, even their own children.  Children are often used as attractive props that enhance the narcissist's image and status. After all, if your child is very attractive and has a myriad of talents and capacities, the narcissistic mother or father will have endless bragging rights.  This person is incapable of actually loving his/her child. Authentic feelings are not part of the narcissist's vocabulary. They tell great stories about their devotion to their spouses and children but this makes for great drama and image enhancement.  Spouses who get out of line by psychologically working to become individuals and separate from the narcissist become the enemy. After all, they are no longer servile--the one who gives the king or queen his crown and scepter.  Even before the divorce it is not unlikely that the narcissistic spouse has found your replacement. He or she has already drifted to new sources of psychological supply that will keep his ego fully inflated.  There is no sadness or regret from the narcissist about all of those years together. You are shocked and distraught. The high level narcissist pivots quickly to his/her next exciting supply. One partner or spouse is interchangeable with the other.  Protect yourself from the high level narcissist. Research this personality structure. Understand their strategies, the way they think--about themselves only--, their ruthlessness, horrendous lack of empathy, chronic lying, ducplicity, manipulations, empty promises.  Pay attention to your psychological, emotional and creative needs and wishes. Don't blame yourself for becoming involved in a marriage with a narcissist. They fool most people all the time.  Focus on your self, your talents, your well being and sense of inner peace. Now you will be lighter, simpler, more creative as you rediscover your authentic, grounded, original self.  Click on the link below for my book on Amazon: Recovering and Healing After the Narcissist https://tinyurl.com/46befxue Click on the link below for the Mental Health News Radio Network, a global network of shows by podcasters on every facet of mental health: www.mhnrnetwork.com

There are a growing number of "spiritual teachers" who are narcissists. They are among the most magnetic and charismatic of individuals. We are in a time of many uncertainties, a kind of roller coaster ride. Many are seeking a sense of peace and groundedness.  Coming to the rescue are "narcissistic gurus" who have all the answers.  Charismatic, charming, excellent communicators and story tellers, these individual are offering courses that promise to reshape  your life, to calm you down, even to make you rich. Many of these "spiritual teachers" are covert narcissists who convincingly pretend to be humble and unmaterialistic. .  Narcissistic gurus often come with fine academic credentials. Others call themselves holistic healers and medical intuitives.   Often attractive physically with excellent communications skills, they can captivate any audience within a short period of time. Many spiritual gurus travel the world, peddling their packages which cost thousands of dollars. The goal is enlightenment---the expensive way.  There are extravagent seminars to exotic, exciting locations with different levels of membership. The more you pay, the greater the access to the "guru" which could mean a seat at his/her inner  golden circle.  Narcissistic spiritual gurus are confidence men and women. They don't give a damn about your psychological or spiritual welfare. They live only for themselves, their godlike images and the fruits of their labors---becoming more wealthy and controlling the minds, emotional and psyches of others.  There is a time of insight and awakening to the true nature of these narcissistic spiritual gurus who lack conscience and integrity. This is the time to put the emphasis on your self healing and restoration: Get the rest and sleep that you deserve; healthy pure food, good hydration, spend time with Nature, the great healer, access your many creative gifts, grow in wisdom with you intuition.  Click on the link below for my books on Amazon: https://tinyurl.com/2p92ymam Click on the link below for the Mental Health News Radio Network, a great global network of Shows by Podcasters on every facet of Mental Health  www.mhnrnetwork.com

There is an extra psychological burden placed on daughters of narcissistic mothers. If they are not the chosen child they are expected to be at the instant service of mother---day and night. Some narcissistic mothers think nothing of awakening their children even in the middle of the night of they want something or just need to vent.   Their behaviors are often unpredictable and anxiety provoking to their children.  Those outside the walls of the house, even those who are "close friends" of the family never have any idea of how sadistic and cruel these mothers are.  Narcissistic mothers are incapable of psychological attachment to their daughters. They view them as animate objects to be used to fulfill their goals, especially to enhance their false image of being a good parent. In many instances the oldest daughter raises the other children in the family. Some of these girls are as young as seven years old when the entire burden of taking care of the younger one is foisted on their small shoulders. I have been in communication with a number of daughters who had to take on this role.  It is quite remarkable that a young girl could be capable of this level of responsibility. These adult daughters say thet they had no choice. They were there and caring for the little ones was expected of them and they did all of the hard work.  These little mothers were never praised. Rather the narcissistic mother found every opportunity to criticize her daughter at every turn. These daughters never had a childhood; they were forced to grow up too fast. Many of them had to work from early in the morning, taking care of the very young ones, getting them off to school, taking care of them when they arrived back home and tucking them into bed at night. Meals and baths and reading were all done by the daughters of the narcissistic mother. This is remarkable.  Adult daughters of narcissistic mothers have to deal with a double burden. They dealt with the coldness, deceptions, lies and unpredictability of a non-mother.  Many of these adult daughters of narcissistic others are loving mothers to their own children. Others decide not to have chlldren. They have sustained too much emotional deprivation to consider having children of theor own and repeat the process of raising them all over again. Daughtes of narcisistic mothrs are amazing survivors who deserve our deep respect. They have done everything possible to survive psychologically and have sustained their younger siblings depite the fact that they were children themselves. The power of perseverance and compassion in these individuals is inspiring It renews our hoe in human nature.

Growing up as the daughter of a narcissistic mother you didn't learn about self care or self love. It was not part of your emotional or psychological vocabulary from the beginning. You remember the constant anxiety and terror you felt with every step your narcissistic mother took toward you. You recall her terrifying eyes as she stared you down. Some of these mothers use physical abuse as a way of indocrinating their daughters; others use psychological verbal abuse, telling you from your first memories how ugly and stupid you were, that you would never amount to anything, that mother would always win. Narcissistic mothers control by way of constant intimidation, criticisms and outrageous demands that cannot be fulfilled. Often these mothers have their spouses under their control. Daughters of narcissistic mothers have no respite. They are always in fight or flight mode---the sympathetic nervous system. They can never let down and relax because they don't know when the narcissistic mother will begin one of her cruel offensives. These non-mothers often pick a golden child and demand that the other children follow suit. They can never measure up because the system is rigged in favor of the narcissistic mother and the golden child.  After the battles of growing up the daughter of the narcissistic mother has difficulty with her sense of a solid identity. She feels guilty because she didn't meet her narcissistic mother's expectations (which were imossible). There will come a time when you become aware that your mother had a serious psychological  problem. Daughters of narcissistic mothers deserve to learn and practice Self Care and Self Love. This is part of our true natures. You are entitled to experience a sense of deep inner peace, to use your imagination spontaneously, to appreciate the magic of music, to be able to sleep with peace and a sense of security, to have full use of your unlimited creativity, to express your affection and love for others. Self care begins with thinking about what is essential for you each day. It is learning how to quiet your mind, to get exercise that keeps you physically and psychologically strong, to find friends that are truthseekers like you who support your new life, to seek knowledge that fascinates you, to write spontaneously what is in your inner life and comes through naturally, to seek knowledge that fasinates you, to spend time outdoors and listen to the birds, watch the movement of the winds and the playing of the skies around you. As you make the practice of self care an integral part of your days, you will begin to appreciate yourself more and finally you will know self love.  You think of the little child that survived the narcissistic mother, of her bravery borne of great durress, of how often she cried, of the incredible way that she saved her precious self. I am deeply moved by and love these special daughters. Click the link below for my book on amazon:  https://tinyurl.com/2p92ymam Click the link below for the Mental Health News Radio Network, a global network of Shows by Podcasters on every facet of Mental Health.  www.mhnrnetwork.com

"In narcissistic personaities the experience of emptiness is most intense and almost constant..." (Otto Kernberg, M.D., clinical expert on the narcissistic personality).  "The narcissist's experience of emotional emptiness is beyond sadness. It is a severe and intractable wounding,..., a pain...savage and deep. The psychological (inner) landscape of the narcissist is bleak. (Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life, Linda Martinez-Lew, Ph.D., LMFT).  As a result the high level narcissist is a very restless human being, always surveying his/her external environment for narcissistic supplies: adulation, praise, self-indulgence, the company of highly attractive men and women, sexual escapes, the pursuit of material indulgence, the company of highly attractive men and women, seeking raw power to control others, manipulation of those whom they experience as competitors.  "The successful narcissist creates an intricate system of positive feedback in the form of friends, associates, partners, spouses---who perpetually fufill his endless needs." (From Freeing Yourself From the Narcissist in Your LIfe). The narcissist is incapable of having a real relationship with another person. He/she doesn't have a relationship with himself/herself. Everything in his/her life is externalized and the most prized possession of all is the elaborate golden image that he/she creates and perpetuates all of his life. Deep inside the narcissist experiences himself/herself as psychologically empty. These powerful feelings are unconscious to him.her. At the core the narcissist is full of self loathing, living as a false self, unable to be real, to reciprocate feelings of affection or love. Emotionally he/she is shallow and incaapable of creating or sustaining any authentic human relationships.  Narcissistic emptiness in many ways drives the high level narcissist's obsessive greed.  High level narcissists are extraordinarily greedy. Greed is an extreme desire and pursuit to obtain more than what one needs, especially material largesse. They are never satisfied with what they have and are very competitive with other narcissists.  They always must be at the very pinnacle, the top of the mountain, the guy or girl who takes home all of the marbles (even if he/she steals them from others.) In our current narcissistic society, voracious greed has become acceptable to many people.  High level narcissists surround themselves with a charmed circle of people who provide him/her with unending narcissistic supplies: praise, adoration, continuous kudos, even worship. These individuals are obsessively loyal to the narcissist as long as they can fuse with his/her grandiosity, extreme self entitlement and delusional world.  When you learn and understand the dynamics of the high level narcissistic personality, you have gained knowledge, insight and power. Now you understand what makes these individuals function, why they react with such venom and their feverish search for narcissistic supplies to fill up the bottomless pit of their psychological emptiness.  Learn how to emotionally detach from the high level narcissist and maintain your psychological boundaries. You are entitled to respect and being treated as a separate human being who has intrinsic value, integrity, dignity and wisdom.  Practice self care each day: rest and sleep that you need and deserve, revitalizing experiences with Nature, meditation as you understand this, movement and exercise that works for you, using your unique creative gifts.  Click the link below for my book: Recovering and Healing After the Narcissist on Amazon: https://tinyurl.com/46befxue Click the link below for the Mental Health News Radio Network, a Global Network of Shows by Podcasters on every facet of Mental Health:  www.mhnrnetwork.com

The high level predatory narcissist is often found at the upper echelons of power in private and public sectors. To most people they are unrecognizable in this role. These individuals are beyond clever and cunning. They are masters of image, disguise, theatre, seduction. Many attend the finest universities, have the highest credentials in many professional fields. They are exalted in our current society by many, bestowed honors and awards for their important work and looked up to as role models by their peers, followers and friends. High level narcissistic predators are a special breed. They have climbed and succeeded to the pinnacle of their professions. Almost everyone is fooled by them. Their main focus is in wielding power and manipulating others with great skill through clandestine means. There are no limits to their ambitions. They place themselves strategically to achieve the maximum influence over others whom they view as pawns in their dirty games.  They learned the art of sizing up people early, have mastered all of the social skills and ways of flattering people into falling for them. They act like team players but behind the scenes they use associates to plot against those who would block their path. They spread lies, create ugly scenarios, defame and plot against those who get in their way.  The truth comes from those who have shared their private lives with these individuals. It is exhausting and difficult. Partners and spouses finally discover that they can no longer tolerate the abuse and suspect that there is too much immoral and unethical behavior. They must sever these toxic relationships to save themselves and their children. Divorces from these high level predatory narcissists are ugly to the max.  Those who go forward are relieved and finally free of the psychological imprisonment, secrecy and extreme oxidative stress that they have endured for decades.  Protect yourself from these highly destructive individuals who have a fixed personality disorder that is not inclined to change.  Put the emphasis on yourself. Practice self care each day - get the rest and sleep that you deserve, eat high quality nourishing food, organic if possible, good hydration, movement and exercise your way, a form of meditation as you understand this, spend time with Nature the great healer and restorer, reawaken your unique creative gifts.  Click the link below for my book: Recovering and Healing After the Narcissist on Amazon: https://tinyurl.com/2p92ymam Click the link below for the Mental Health News Radio Network, a global network of Shows by Podcasters on every facet of Mental Health:  www.mhnrnetwork.com