Seven Steps to Coming Out of Victim Mentality | Episode 172

Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery

Aug 8 2022 • 21 mins

It can be very difficult to recognize when you are in a victim mentality, but it is the most important and the first step in getting out of this mentality. I had no idea I was in a victim mentality. I could identify others who were playing the victim, and yet I couldn’t identify it in myself. It wasn’t until I started doing the steps that I realized that I had this mentality. It didn’t mean I was weak, just that I had this mentality. This week’s episode 172 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about the seven steps to coming out of victim mentality!

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In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of identifying if you have a victim mentality and why you should get out of it, and actionable steps you can take right now to stop blaming other people for everything in your life and actively take control of your life.

Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:

  • The most important part, and step one, for coming out of victim mentality, is recognizing that you are in victim mentality.
  • It only takes one person to change a relationship; but if you believe that person is your partner, you may have victim mentality. Take the reins yourself.
  • The difference between proactive and reactive action, and how to get into a proactive approach.
  • Why you may not feel like you have a choice, but you do, and how to start getting comfortable making choices.

The seven steps are:

#1 realize you have victim mentality

#2 look at who you’re blaming

# 3 become proactive rather than reactive

#4 make decisions ahead of time

#5 reach out for help

#6 set boundaries

#7 discern where you’re making choices

Most people think boundaries are a reaction to other people’s actions, but it’s not actually the case. We can set healthy boundaries as a proactive way of determining who owns what, and we can act accordingly. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

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LINKS:

Ep. 3. Victim mentality

Ep. 8. Pausing

Ep. 9. Reaching Out


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