Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter

Dr. Les Carter

Life with a narcissist is challenging, and Dr. Les Carter is here to assist. Whether you are feeling frustrated due to a narcissist's inability to blend well or you are feeling constantly invalidated by their need for control and their lack of empathy, Dr. C is your resource.  He is committed to helping people become part of Team Healthy, which focuses on DRC: dignity, respect, and civility.  In each of our episodes we will contrast the narcissistic patterns of life to the ways of Team Healthy.

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In Sheep's Clothing, Featuring Dr. George Simon
Nov 15 2022
In Sheep's Clothing, Featuring Dr. George Simon
In the ongoing effort to describe covert narcissism, Dr. C interviews Dr. George Simon about his book, In Sheep's Clothing.  They break down what to watch for as you discern how to identify covert narcissists.  Dr. Simon discusses the origins of this pattern and how to respond to it wisely.  Drawing upon decades of research as well as his work as a therapist, Dr. Simon is a treasure trove of information regarding character disorders and how to respond to them. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Take charge of your mental healthy and get 10% off of your first month of therapy at up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.  He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Join the Team Healthy community HERE: out videos, articles, quizzes, and more at our website:   can follow Surviving Narcissism on: Twitter:  @SNarcissism101 Instagram:  @survivingnarcissism101 Facebook: @survivingnarcissism101 Dr. Carter has two other courses that you may find to be useful: Free to Be: Reclaim & rediscover your uniqueness Is Me: Setting boundaries with the controllers in your life    Carter's personal website: Carter's other YouTube channel:
In Sheep's Clothing, Featuring Dr. George Simon
Nov 15 2022
In Sheep's Clothing, Featuring Dr. George Simon
In the ongoing effort to describe covert narcissism, Dr. C interviews Dr. George Simon about his book, In Sheep's Clothing.  They break down what to watch for as you discern how to identify covert narcissists.  Dr. Simon discusses the origins of this pattern and how to respond to it wisely.  Drawing upon decades of research as well as his work as a therapist, Dr. Simon is a treasure trove of information regarding character disorders and how to respond to them. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Take charge of your mental healthy and get 10% off of your first month of therapy at up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.  He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Join the Team Healthy community HERE: out videos, articles, quizzes, and more at our website:   can follow Surviving Narcissism on: Twitter:  @SNarcissism101 Instagram:  @survivingnarcissism101 Facebook: @survivingnarcissism101 Dr. Carter has two other courses that you may find to be useful: Free to Be: Reclaim & rediscover your uniqueness Is Me: Setting boundaries with the controllers in your life    Carter's personal website: Carter's other YouTube channel:
Alternatives To A Narcissist's Lack Of Vulnerability
Nov 8 2022
Alternatives To A Narcissist's Lack Of Vulnerability
The mark of a healthy relationship is openness and honesty, but those are traits that narcissists dread. Due to their need for tight image control, they cannot be vulnerable. In this episode, Dr. C poses multiple questions he wishes he could ask narcissists to remind them of their own influences, and how their lack of vulnerability was created. He then highlights primary traits that accompany a relationship style that makes vulnerability possible. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Take charge of your mental healthy and get 10% off of your first month of therapy at up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.  He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Join the Team Healthy community HERE: out videos, articles, quizzes, and more at our website:   can follow Surviving Narcissism on: Twitter:  @SNarcissism101 Instagram:  @survivingnarcissism101 Facebook: @survivingnarcissism101 Dr. Carter has two other courses that you may find to be useful: Free to Be: Reclaim & rediscover your uniqueness Is Me: Setting boundaries with the controllers in your life    Carter's personal website: Carter's other YouTube channel:
Your Clean Anger Toward a Narcissist
Oct 18 2022
Your Clean Anger Toward a Narcissist
Narcissists are notorious for their immature management of anger, and as a byproduct of their dysregulation, you might be pulled into their dysfunction.  Dr. Les Carter explains that the management of anger is a clear way of separating narcissists from healthy people, so he challenges you to stay on the course toward maturity even when narcissists don't.  In this episode he offers a clear contrast between a narcissist's unhealthy anger versus your clean management of that emotion. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Take charge of your mental healthy and get 10% off of your first month of therapy at up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.  He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Join the Team Healthy community HERE: out videos, articles, quizzes, and more at our website:   can follow Surviving Narcissism on: Twitter:  @SNarcissism101 Instagram:  @survivingnarcissism101 Facebook: @survivingnarcissism101 Dr. Carter has two other courses that you may find to be useful: Free to Be: Reclaim & rediscover your uniqueness Is Me: Setting boundaries with the controllers in your life    Carter's personal website: Carter's other YouTube channel:   you are interested in online therapy, Dr. Carter has a sponsor who can assist.  As the need is there, please seek the help you deserve: We receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. We only recommend services that we trust.
How Covert Narcissists Create Trauma Bonds
Oct 11 2022
How Covert Narcissists Create Trauma Bonds
Covert narcissists have a special way of bonding with you that can feel normal...at first.  They are masters of deception in the sense that they can create initial positive impressions, even as they slowly diminish you. Dr. Les Carter gives you a clear description of trauma bonding, and weaves it into an explanation of the distinct ways covert narcissists operate.  You can learn to detect the signs of the trauma bonds in your key relationships, then as your insight grows, so can your capacity for boundaries and independent living. Thank you to Aura for sponsoring this episode. Secure your online presence and get 40% off of all plans using my link: up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.  He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Join the Team Healthy community HERE: out videos, articles, quizzes, and more at our website:   can follow Surviving Narcissism on: Twitter:  @SNarcissism101 Instagram:  @survivingnarcissism101 Facebook: @survivingnarcissism101 Dr. Carter has two other courses that you may find to be useful: Free to Be: Reclaim & rediscover your uniqueness Is Me: Setting boundaries with the controllers in your life    Carter's personal website: Carter's other YouTube channel:   you are interested in online therapy, Dr. Carter has a sponsor who can assist.  As the need is there, please seek the help you deserve: We receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. We only recommend services that we trust.
Why Narcissists Cannot Pull Out Of Their Narcissism
Oct 4 2022
Why Narcissists Cannot Pull Out Of Their Narcissism
When you have an ongoing relationship with a person who is persistently narcissistic, it is only natural that you'd want to confront that individual with the hope that healthy adjustments can be made.  But instead of engaging in a constructive conversation, narcissists will predictably double down on their dysfunction and will refuse to receive input.  In this episode, Dr. Les Carter identifies the lead ingredient that inhibits narcissists from growing, and describes all sorts of other patterns associated with that one ingredient.  Your task is to be aware of what you are up against so you can remain steady in the midst of their unsteadiness. Thank you to Aura for sponsoring this episode. Secure your online presence and get 40% off of all plans using my link: up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.  He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Join the Team Healthy community HERE: out videos, articles, quizzes, and more at our website:   can follow Surviving Narcissism on: Twitter:  @SNarcissism101 Instagram:  @survivingnarcissism101 Facebook: @survivingnarcissism101 Dr. Carter has two other courses that you may find to be useful: Free to Be: Reclaim & rediscover your uniqueness Is Me: Setting boundaries with the controllers in your life    Carter's personal website: Carter's other YouTube channel:   you are interested in online therapy, Dr. Carter has a sponsor who can assist.  As the need is there, please seek the help you deserve: We receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. We only recommend services that we trust.
How to Detect Covert Narcissism
Sep 27 2022
How to Detect Covert Narcissism
Narcissists do not always show the full extent of their pathology in the early stages of a relationship.  They can seem pleasant, easy-going, supportive, and receptive...at least for a while.  But as you remain with that person, certain trends begin to emerge, leaving you to wonder about the viability of the relationship.  Narcissists are known for not having good self-awareness or for not taking responsibility for their flaws, so they will deny their problems.  Knowing this, Dr. Les Carter explains 4 categories of behavior that reveal the breadth of the covert narcissist's dysfunction.  They will gaslight you when you call them out, but as you learn to trust your interpretations, you will be less inclined to be pulled in by their manipulations. Thank you to Aura for sponsoring this episode. Secure your online presence and get 40% off of all plans using my link: up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.  He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Join the Team Healthy community HERE: out videos, articles, quizzes, and more at our website:   can follow Surviving Narcissism on: Twitter:  @SNarcissism101 Instagram:  @survivingnarcissism101 Facebook: @survivingnarcissism101 Dr. Carter has two other courses that you may find to be useful: Free to Be: Reclaim & rediscover your uniqueness Is Me: Setting boundaries with the controllers in your life    Carter's personal website: Carter's other YouTube channel:   you are interested in online therapy, Dr. Carter has a sponsor who can assist.  As the need is there, please seek the help you deserve: We receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. We only recommend services that we trust.
The 3 D's Of Narcissistic Abuse, Featuring Dr. David Hawkins
Sep 20 2022
The 3 D's Of Narcissistic Abuse, Featuring Dr. David Hawkins
In this episode, Dr. C is joined by Dr. David Hawkins of Seattle, Washington, who discusses his work with men and women trying to heal from narcissistic abuse. Dr. Hawkins gives his seasoned opinions about what is necessary for the narcissist to change and how the partner can also find hope. He zeroes in specifically on 3 primary components of the narcissistic pattern that have to change. This interview features two therapists who have much in common as they share words of healing and encouragement. Thank you to Aura for sponsoring this episode. Secure your online presence and get 40% off of all plans using my link: up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.  He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Join the Team Healthy community HERE: out videos, articles, quizzes, and more at our website:   can follow Surviving Narcissism on: Twitter:  @SNarcissism101 Instagram:  @survivingnarcissism101 Facebook: @survivingnarcissism101 Dr. Carter has two other courses that you may find to be useful: Free to Be: Reclaim & rediscover your uniqueness Is Me: Setting boundaries with the controllers in your life    Carter's personal website: Carter's other YouTube channel:   learn more about Dr. Hawkins, you can visit his website www.marriagerecoverycenter.com or YouTube channel you are interested in online therapy, Dr. Carter has a sponsor who can assist.  As the need is there, please seek the help you deserve: We receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. We only recommend services that we trust.
Healing Words from Surviving Narcissism's Team Healthy
Sep 13 2022
Healing Words from Surviving Narcissism's Team Healthy
A few months ago, Dr. C asked his YouTube followers to send in comments about how they had learned to heal from narcissistic abuse.  He was overwhelmed with many reflections of wisdom and sage advice.  In today's episode he shares some of the most poignant comments that he received.  Keep in mind that these nuggets of insight are from people just like you...those who have felt hurt, but are determined not to let the pronouncements of a narcissist to rob them of their strength and dignity. Thank you to Aura for sponsoring this episode. Secure your online presence and get 40% off of all plans using my link: up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.  He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Join the Team Healthy community HERE: out videos, articles, quizzes, and more at our website:   can follow Surviving Narcissism on: Twitter:  @SNarcissism101 Instagram:  @survivingnarcissism101 Facebook: @survivingnarcissism101 Dr. Carter has two other courses that you may find to be useful: Free to Be: Reclaim & rediscover your uniqueness Is Me: Setting boundaries with the controllers in your life    Carter's personal website: Carter's other YouTube channel:   you are interested in online therapy, Dr. Carter has a sponsor who can assist.  As the need is there, please seek the help you deserve: We receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. We only recommend services that we trust.
Healing From Narcissistic Abuse, Featuring Dr. Ingrid Clayton
Sep 6 2022
Healing From Narcissistic Abuse, Featuring Dr. Ingrid Clayton
After repeated exposures to exploitative, manipulative narcissists, a person can experience identity confusion and emotional turmoil.  Dr. Les Carter has an enlightening discussion about this problem with clinical psychologist, Dr. Ingrid Clayton.   Drawing from her new memoir, Believing Me: Healing From Narcissistic Abuse and Complex Trauma, she explains the common trauma responses of fight, flight, freeze, and fawning.  Dr. Clayton makes it clear that even in the aftermath of trauma with a narcissist, healing can happen.  Hope is within reach as you learn to listen to your own voice. Thank you to Aura for sponsoring this episode. Secure your online presence and get 40% off of all plans using my link: up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.  He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Join the Team Healthy community HERE: out videos, articles, quizzes, and more at our website:   can follow Surviving Narcissism on: Twitter:  @SNarcissism101 Instagram:  @survivingnarcissism101 Facebook: @survivingnarcissism101 Dr. Carter has two other courses that you may find to be useful: Free to Be: Reclaim & rediscover your uniqueness Is Me: Setting boundaries with the controllers in your life    Carter's personal website: Carter's other YouTube channel:   you are interested in online therapy, Dr. Carter has a sponsor who can assist.  As the need is there, please seek the help you deserve: We receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. We only recommend services that we trust. To learn more about Dr. Clayton, you can visit her website: IngridClayton.com You also can follow her on Facebook ( and Instagram (@IngridClaytonPhD)
What Drives a Narcissist's Anger?
Aug 30 2022
What Drives a Narcissist's Anger?
A natural byproduct of the narcissistic pattern is the perpetual struggle with anger.  Dr. Les Carter breaks down the ingredients of narcissism, showing you how they are easily predisposed to emotional dysregulation.  Then he describes six different elements at play that keeps the narcissist stuck in a dysfunctional rut.  All the while, you will be blamed for their tense state of mind.  But as you are enlightened about what is really inside the narcissist, you can become poised to opt out of their anger traps. Thank you to Aura for sponsoring this episode. Secure your online presence and get 40% off of all plans using my link: up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.  He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Join the Team Healthy community HERE: out videos, articles, quizzes, and more at our website:   can follow Surviving Narcissism on: Twitter:  @SNarcissism101 Instagram:  @survivingnarcissism101 Facebook: @survivingnarcissism101 Dr. Carter has two other courses that you may find to be useful: Free to Be: Reclaim & rediscover your uniqueness Is Me: Setting boundaries with the controllers in your life    Carter's personal website: Carter's other YouTube channel:   you are interested in online therapy, Dr. Carter has a sponsor who can assist.  As the need is there, please seek the help you deserve: We receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. We only recommend services that we trust.
How Narcissists Are Held Back by Simplistic Thinking
Aug 23 2022
How Narcissists Are Held Back by Simplistic Thinking
Wouldn't it be nice if life could be reduced to a fixed formula that offers simple, ready solutions to any situation? That's the kind of thinking narcissists bring to their relationships. Being naturally self-absorbed, entitled, controlling, and exploitive, they want you to know how things ought to be according to their agenda, and there will be a price to pay if you do not conform. Dr. Les Carter breaks down this pattern so you can understand their strategies and motives. Then he challenges you to focus on a fuller mindset that leads allows you to manage diversity and nuances successfully. Thank you to Aura for sponsoring this episode. Secure your online presence and get 40% off of all plans using my link: up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.  He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Join the Team Healthy community HERE: out videos, articles, quizzes, and more at our website:   can follow Surviving Narcissism on: Twitter:  @SNarcissism101 Instagram:  @survivingnarcissism101 Facebook: @survivingnarcissism101 Dr. Carter has two other courses that you may find to be useful: Free to Be: Reclaim & rediscover your uniqueness Is Me: Setting boundaries with the controllers in your life    Carter's personal website: Carter's other YouTube channel:   you are interested in online therapy, Dr. Carter has a sponsor who can assist.  As the need is there, please seek the help you deserve: We receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. We only recommend services that we trust.
Adam, Eve, The Serpent, And Narcissism
Aug 16 2022
Adam, Eve, The Serpent, And Narcissism
For millennia people have been trying to make sense of humanity's plight, often distilling their thoughts into stories. Virtually every major religion has a story about the origins of human struggle, whether it be the Jewish, Islamic, or Christian traditions. Likewise Hinduism, Buddhism, and many indigenous peoples have their stories. Since the characters, Adam and Eve, are so well known in Western culture, Dr. C has chosen to give an overview of 5 aspects of the Eden story that address the topic of the human condition and, especially, narcissism. Then he cites teachings from social psychologist Erich Fromm, who likewise had much to say about this seminal piece of literature. As you ponder such a story, it can prompt you to examine your own narrative, especially as it relates to narcissism...or its opposite. Thank you to Aura for sponsoring this episode. Secure your online presence and get 40% off of all plans using my link: up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.  He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Join the Team Healthy community HERE: out videos, articles, quizzes, and more at our website:   can follow Surviving Narcissism on: Twitter:  @SNarcissism101 Instagram:  @survivingnarcissism101 Facebook: @survivingnarcissism101 Dr. Carter has two other courses that you may find to be useful: Free to Be: Reclaim & rediscover your uniqueness Is Me: Setting boundaries with the controllers in your life    Carter's personal website: Carter's other YouTube channel:   you are interested in online therapy, Dr. Carter has a sponsor who can assist.  As the need is there, please seek the help you deserve: We receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. We only recommend services that we trust.
Negotiating with the Narcissist, Featuring Rebecca Zung
Aug 9 2022
Negotiating with the Narcissist, Featuring Rebecca Zung
Dr. Les Carter interviews noted family law attorney, Rebecca Zung, who discusses her approach to negotiations with a narcissist. Using what she refers to as the SLAY method of negotiation, her primary emphasis is to teach the one leaving a narcissist to find inner strength, making decisions based on insight into the narcissistic pattern and belief in oneself. Her ultimate goal is to guide individuals to a place of personal freedom and confidence. Thank you to Aura for sponsoring this episode. Secure your online presence and get 40% off of all plans using my link: up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.  He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Join the Team Healthy community HERE: out videos, articles, quizzes, and more at our website:   can follow Surviving Narcissism on: Twitter:  @SNarcissism101 Instagram:  @survivingnarcissism101 Facebook: @survivingnarcissism101 Dr. Carter has two other courses that you may find to be useful: Free to Be: Reclaim & rediscover your uniqueness Is Me: Setting boundaries with the controllers in your life    Carter's personal website: Carter's other YouTube channel:   you are interested in online therapy, Dr. Carter has a sponsor who can assist.  As the need is there, please seek the help you deserve: We receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. We only recommend services that we trust. To learn more about Rebecca, please visit her website: also can visit Rebecca's YouTube channel at
Mind Games Narcissists Will Play With You
Aug 2 2022
Mind Games Narcissists Will Play With You
In this episode, Dr. Les Carter highlights two of the most common aspects of narcissism:  control and manipulation. Narcissists actually believe you should filter your way of life through them. So, when you act, think, or prioritize differently, they are not bashful about bringing you under their controlling agenda. And true to their nature, they will use all sorts of gaslighting tactics to accomplish their purposes. In this episode, Dr. C identifies eight of the most common mind games they use. Knowledge is power, and as you are able to see in real time how you are being manipulated, you will be poised to stay out of their clutches. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Take charge of your mental healthy and get 10% off of your first month of therapy at up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.  He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Join the Team Healthy community HERE: out videos, articles, quizzes, and more at our website:   can follow Surviving Narcissism on: Twitter:  @SNarcissism101 Instagram:  @survivingnarcissism101 Facebook: @survivingnarcissism101 Dr. Carter has two other courses that you may find to be useful: Free to Be: Reclaim & rediscover your uniqueness Is Me: Setting boundaries with the controllers in your life    Carter's personal website: Carter's other YouTube channel:
Growing Up In A Narcissistic Family Featuring Julie L Hall
Jul 26 2022
Growing Up In A Narcissistic Family Featuring Julie L Hall
For healthy personality development, is essential for children to have a home that emphasizes trust and empathy.  Unfortunately, in homes dominated by a narcissistic parent, that is a lost luxury.  Dr. Les Carter is joined by Julie L. Hall, author of the book, The Narcissist In Your Life.  Drawing from her own personal journey, Julie describes how kids are impacted by a narcissistic family. Then she describes how as an adult, adjustments can be made in the effort to find wholeness and personal freedom. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Take charge of your mental healthy and get 10% off of your first month of therapy at up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.  He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Join the Team Healthy community HERE: out videos, articles, quizzes, and more at our website:   can follow Surviving Narcissism on: Twitter:  @SNarcissism101 Instagram:  @survivingnarcissism101 Facebook: @survivingnarcissism101 Dr. Carter has two other courses that you may find to be useful: Free to Be: Reclaim & rediscover your uniqueness Is Me: Setting boundaries with the controllers in your life    Carter's personal website: Carter's other YouTube channel:   more information on Julie, you can visit her website at
Why You Need To Understand Narcissistic Injury
Jul 19 2022
Why You Need To Understand Narcissistic Injury
How often has a seemingly simple disagreement with a narcissist turned into a big production?  Narcissists are known for out-of-proportion anger in response to circumstances that could otherwise be managed cleanly.  Dr. Les Carter describes the phenomenon called "narcissistic injury."  Narcissists carry a great deal of emotional pain inside, but because they are committed to maintaining a False Self, they are unable to discuss problems logically.  When they are triggered by you, that pain rises to the surface, prompting the narcissist to attack in the same way a wounded animal does.  Your task is to understand what is in play so you don't become engaged in their unresolved inner tensions. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Take charge of your mental healthy and get 10% off of your first month of therapy at up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.  He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Join the Team Healthy community HERE: out videos, articles, quizzes, and more at our website:   can follow Surviving Narcissism on: Twitter:  @SNarcissism101 Instagram:  @survivingnarcissism101 Facebook: @survivingnarcissism101 Dr. Carter has two other courses that you may find to be useful: Free to Be: Reclaim & rediscover your uniqueness Is Me: Setting boundaries with the controllers in your life    Carter's personal website: Carter's other YouTube channel:
Lies The Narcissist Wants You To Believe
Jul 12 2022
Lies The Narcissist Wants You To Believe
With narcissists, the name of the game is mind control.  They have convinced themselves that they are on a higher plane than you, and it is therefore your duty to prop up their vaulted ego.  Of course, you know that their distorted thinking is not accurate, yet they can persist in the effort to keep you subordinate.  In this crucial discussion, Dr. Les Carter identifies eight of the most common lies the narcissist wants you to believe.  But as you become keenly aware of their game, you can opt out.  Simply put, you cannot allow a narcissist's lies to become your truth. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Take charge of your mental healthy and get 10% off of your first month of therapy at up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.  He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Join the Team Healthy community HERE: out videos, articles, quizzes, and more at our website:   can follow Surviving Narcissism on: Twitter:  @SNarcissism101 Instagram:  @survivingnarcissism101 Facebook: @survivingnarcissism101 Dr. Carter has two other courses that you may find to be useful: Free to Be: Reclaim & rediscover your uniqueness Is Me: Setting boundaries with the controllers in your life    Carter's personal website: Carter's other YouTube channel:
12 Ways to Identify a Sociopathic Narcissist
Jul 5 2022
12 Ways to Identify a Sociopathic Narcissist
There is a form of narcissism that is especially difficult: the sociopathic narcissist.  Sociopaths are known for their lack of a moral compass, their lack of compassion, and their strong tendency toward punitive anger.  Dr. Les Carter highlights twelve ways to identify a sociopathic narcissist.  As you become aware of their tendencies and how they wish to take over your distinctions, you can become poised to stay away from their clutches, seeking a life of dignity, respect, and civility instead. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Take charge of your mental healthy and get 10% off of your first month of therapy at up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.  He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Join the Team Healthy community HERE: out videos, articles, quizzes, and more at our website:   can follow Surviving Narcissism on: Twitter:  @SNarcissism101 Instagram:  @survivingnarcissism101 Facebook: @survivingnarcissism101 Dr. Carter has two other courses that you may find to be useful: Free to Be: Reclaim & rediscover your uniqueness Is Me: Setting boundaries with the controllers in your life    Carter's personal website: Carter's other YouTube channel: