The Things We All Carry

Stack

Your trauma is unique but your story is universal. The more we share our stories the more people we help. We all carry something into every call. An airpack, the irons, a hook, a hose line, an aid bag, a radio…..you name it. Each tool is useful and has its’ purpose. It’s what we all carry out of the call I’m concerned about. For the longest time we have shrugged off our traumas….”I just did my job”. The time has come to treat these experiences for what they truly are...

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Cody T - CO
1w ago
Cody T - CO
Welcome to Episode 115 of "The Things We All Carry." Today, we're joined by Cody, who reached out to us through Stephen Sims from Episode 102 and 106. Cody's journey begins in Houston, where he served as a firefighter for five years at Station 55. Amidst the pressures of the job, including traumatic calls and systemic issues within the department, Cody faced additional challenges such as low pay, unfavorable hours, and the loss of his pension due to political mishandling.After thoughtful consideration with his wife, Cody made the difficult decision to leave Houston and return to Colorado in 2019. However, his journey didn't end there. With the onset of the COVID-19 pandemic, Cody found himself navigating new career paths, eventually becoming a police officer.In our conversation with Cody, we explore the complexities of his experiences in both firefighting and law enforcement, shedding light on the personal and professional challenges he's faced along the way. From moments of reflection on traumatic incidents to discussions about brain mapping and its potential implications, Cody's story offers insight into the multifaceted nature of first responder life.As a husband and father of three, Cody's journey underscores the importance of balancing career aspirations with personal responsibilities. His resilience and determination serve as a testament to the strength of the human spirit in the face of adversity.Join us for Episode 115 of "The Things We All Carry" as we journey alongside Cody through the highs and lows of his career transitions. Don't forget to get outside and do something for yourself! This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thethingsweallcarry.substack.com
Conscious Promises We All Carry
Apr 10 2024
Conscious Promises We All Carry
Welcome to Episode 114 of "The Things We All Carry." Today, we have a special episode featuring Joey from Conscious Movements and TJ from the Keep the Promise Podcast. Both Joey and TJ have previously shared their stories on the show, with Joey most recently in Episode 107 and TJ featured in several episodes since the beginning.This episode centers around the topic of leaving the fire service, exploring the reasons behind such decisions, the challenges faced during transition, and how to prepare oneself for life beyond firefighting. Joey, who has been medically retired from the fire service for three years, provides insights into his journey, while TJ shares his current contemplations about his own future in the fire service.The conversation delves into the personal and emotional aspects of leaving the fire service, offering candid reflections on the decision-making process, the feelings associated with stepping away, and the importance of preparation for post-fire service life.Listeners will gain valuable perspectives on navigating transitions, planning for the future, and finding fulfillment beyond the fire service. The episode is filled with laughter, honesty, and meaningful insights into a topic that many firefighters may eventually face.Join us for Episode 114 of "The Things We All Carry" as we engage in a thought-provoking conversation about leaving the fire service and preparing for what lies ahead. Don't forget to reach out to Joey, TJ, or Stack with your thoughts and questions, and remember to get out there and do something for yourself. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thethingsweallcarry.substack.com
Kyler - UT
Apr 3 2024
Kyler - UT
Welcome to Episode 113 of "The Things We All Carry." Today, we're joined by Kyler, an advanced EMT from central Utah with a unique and powerful story to share. Kyler's journey unfolds from his experiences within the Latter-Day Saints Church to the devastating loss of his mother to suicide at the age of 18.As a volunteer firefighter and EMT, Kyler has encountered multiple suicides on the job, confronting the harsh reality of mental health struggles firsthand. Through his conversation with Stack, Kyler delves into the complexities of trauma, anxiety, and the challenges of processing loss and grief.Despite facing overwhelming anxiety and grappling with the weight of his experiences, Kyler shares how he's embarked on a journey of self-discovery and healing. From navigating the unexpected turns of his career to confronting his own mental health challenges, Kyler's resilience and determination shine through.This episode offers a poignant exploration of the realities faced by first responders and the importance of prioritizing mental well-being in high-stress environments. Kyler's candid storytelling invites listeners to reflect on their own journeys and to reach out for support when needed.Join us for Episode 113 of "The Things We All Carry" as we accompany Kyler on his journey of self-discovery and healing. Don't forget to leave a rating and share your thoughts on the show, and remember get out there and do something for yourself. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thethingsweallcarry.substack.com
Dr Glenn Landry -Vancouver
Mar 27 2024
Dr Glenn Landry -Vancouver
Welcome to Episode 112 of "The Things We All Carry." This week, we are privileged to have Dr. Glenn Landry as our guest. Dr. Landry is a renowned sleep expert and authority on circadian rhythms, with over 30 years of experience in the field.Based out of Vancouver, Canada, Dr. Landry is the founder of Elite Sleep, a company dedicated to helping individuals optimize their sleep quality and overcome the challenges of shift work. During our conversation, Dr. Landry shares invaluable insights into the science of sleep, including its functions, stages, and the importance of maintaining healthy sleep habits.Listeners will benefit from Dr. Landry's expertise as he breaks down complex scientific concepts into practical advice for improving sleep quality. He also highlights the significance of prioritizing sleep, especially for first responders, and offers a special discount on his online program, "Surviving Shift Work," exclusive to our audience.In this episode, we delve deep into topics such as circadian rhythms, the biology of sleep stages, and the impact of shift work on overall health. Dr. Landry's ability to communicate complex ideas in an accessible manner ensures that listeners gain a thorough understanding of the importance of sleep for overall well-being.Stack expresses gratitude to Dr. Landry for sharing his time and expertise, emphasizing the profound impact that prioritizing sleep can have on one's quality of life. Tune in to Episode 112 of "The Things We All Carry" to learn from Dr. Glenn Landry and take proactive steps towards improving your sleep health. And don't forget to get outside and do something for yourself. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thethingsweallcarry.substack.com
Jason W - NH
Mar 6 2024
Jason W - NH
Welcome to Episode 108 of "The Things We All Carry," where each episode offers a unique perspective on personal growth and transformation. In this installment, Stack sits down with Jason Warn, the owner-operator of Mindfulness Medic, a lifestyle, mindset, and wellness brand.Jason shares his inspiring journey of overcoming obstacles and transforming his life through the implementation of his six pillars. From battling obesity to reclaiming control of his mindset and life, Jason's story is one of resilience and empowerment.With 11 years of experience in fire and EMS, Jason brings a unique perspective to his approach to personal development. Together, they delve into his experiences in the field and the lessons learned along the way.Throughout the conversation, Jason provides valuable insights into how anyone can initiate positive change in their own lives. Whether it's through fitness, mindset shifts, or taking responsibility for one's actions, his story serves as a beacon of hope and encouragement.Tune in as they explore the importance of the six pillars and how they can be applied to achieve lasting transformation. This episode is a reminder that no matter where you are in life, positive change is always within reach.Join us for this enriching conversation with Jason Warn on "The Things We All Carry." Don't forget to share your thoughts and feedback with us on Instagram or TikTok @thethingsweallcarry or via email at stack@thethingsweallcarry.com. Enjoy the show! This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thethingsweallcarry.substack.com
Travis - KS
Feb 21 2024
Travis - KS
Welcome to Episode 106 of "The Things We All Carry." Today, we're joined by Travis, a dedicated firefighter EMT from Johnson County, Kansas, whose journey is as inspiring as it is insightful.Travis shares candidly about his path to the fire service, from his tumultuous teenage years to his commitment to serving his community. With five years as a career firefighter and a previous stint as a volunteer, Travis brings a wealth of experience to the table. But it's his role as a father, husband, and peer support specialist that takes center stage in this episode.As Travis delves into his personal struggles with alcohol and the traumatic moments he's faced in his career, he sheds light on the profound impact of mental health in the firefighting profession. With honesty and vulnerability, Travis reveals how these experiences led him to become a beacon of support for his fellow firefighters.His journey as a peer support specialist for Johnson County and beyond underscores his unwavering commitment to improving mental health outcomes within the fire service. By sharing his story and actively engaging in solutions, Travis exemplifies the spirit of resilience and compassion that defines the firefighting community.This conversation isn't just about Travis—it's a call to action for us all. It's a reminder that by reaching out, speaking up, and lending a helping hand, we can make a difference in the lives of others. So, as you listen to Episode 106, I encourage you to reflect on Travis's message and consider what you can do to support mental health initiatives in your own community.I hope you enjoy this episode as much as I did, and I look forward to hearing your feedback. Connect with me on social media, and let's continue the conversation. Remember, we all carry something, but together, we can lighten each other's burdens. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thethingsweallcarry.substack.com
Stephen Sims - A Talk About Neurodiversity
Feb 15 2024
Stephen Sims - A Talk About Neurodiversity
Welcome back to "The Things We All Carry," and brace yourselves for a surprise episode drop on an unexpected day. Today, I deviate from the usual schedule to present a conversation that stands out on its own merit.In this episode, I sit down with Steven Sims, a seasoned firefighter hailing from Houston, Texas. With over a decade of experience in the fire service, Steven brings a unique perspective shaped not only by his professional endeavors but also by his journey as a parent.The crux of our conversation revolves around Steven's role as a father to three children, one of whom has been diagnosed with autism. Steven provides candid insights into navigating the complexities of parenting a child with special needs, debunking myths and shedding light on the realities of the journey.From advocating for his child within the education system to discovering resources and support networks, Steven's experiences offer invaluable lessons for parents facing similar challenges. His perspective underscores the importance of understanding and embracing neurodiversity, fostering a culture of acceptance and inclusivity.As the conversation unfolds, we delve into another facet of Steven's journey—his adult diagnosis of ADHD. With honesty and vulnerability, Steven shares his process of self-discovery and adaptation, highlighting the transformative power of seeking help and making meaningful changes.Recorded shortly after the holiday season, the episode carries a raw authenticity, accentuated by the host's battle with illness. Despite the physical setback, the dialogue brims with warmth and sincerity, inviting listeners to reflect on the interconnectedness of personal and professional spheres.Episode 105 serves as a reminder of the profound impact of our experiences on both home and work life. It underscores the importance of open dialogue and mutual support, fostering a community where individuals can share their triumphs, struggles, and everything in between.So, as you embark on your day, I urge you to tune in, absorb the wisdom shared by Steven Sims, and join the conversation. Because in the end, it's through sharing our stories that we truly connect and uplift one another. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thethingsweallcarry.substack.com
Hospice Nurse Julie - CA
Feb 14 2024
Hospice Nurse Julie - CA
Welcome to Episode 104 of "The Things We All Carry," where we embark on a poignant exploration of hospice care, end-of-life transitions, and the invaluable guidance provided by our guest, Julie McFadden, famously known as Hospice Nurse Julie.In this deeply personal episode, the host reflects on a pivotal moment during his mother's end-of-life journey, where Julie's expertise provided clarity and comfort amidst the emotional turbulence of impending loss. Julie's social media presence, boasting a vast following across platforms like Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube, serves as a beacon of support for individuals grappling with the complexities of death and dying.With a wealth of experience spanning over 16 years in nursing, including significant stints in the ICU and hospice settings, Julie's insights are not only informed by professional expertise but also steeped in compassion and empathy. Her recent book, "Nothing to Fear," epitomizes her mission to demystify the end-of-life process, offering solace and guidance to those navigating the intricate terrain of caregiving and bereavement.Throughout the episode, Julie shares invaluable advice on recognizing the signs of terminal decline, understanding agonal breathing, and fostering an environment of dignity and comfort for both patients and their loved ones. Her emphasis on empowerment through knowledge resonates deeply, serving as a guiding light for families facing difficult decisions and profound loss.Moreover, the conversation extends beyond the realm of hospice care, delving into the crucial role of first responders in supporting families during moments of crisis. Julie's insights illuminate the importance of compassionate communication and holistic care, bridging the gap between medical professionals and those in need of support.Episode 104 stands as a testament to the power of vulnerability, education, and human connection in navigating life's most profound moments. As listeners embark on this heartfelt journey, they are invited to embrace the wisdom and compassion embodied by Julie McFadden, a beacon of hope in the face of life's greatest challenges. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thethingsweallcarry.substack.com
Mark B - OH
Feb 7 2024
Mark B - OH
Welcome to Episode 103 of "The Things We All Carry." In this installment, we delve into a personal journey intertwined with friendship, resilience, and the profound impact of life's experiences.The episode opens with a nostalgic reflection on camaraderie as the host recounts cherished memories of concert escapades with a close friend, Mark. Their shared adventures traversing cities, attending shows, and bonding over drinks or dinners exemplify the essence of friendship.Mark emerges as a remarkable individual—a beacon of authenticity in a world often defined by conformity. Having transitioned from Ohio to Virginia and back again, his journey unfolds against the backdrop of a distinguished career as a firefighter-medic spanning over a decade in Prince William County.However, Mark's story is more than a testament to professional dedication; it's a testament to resilience in the face of adversity. From surviving a traumatic childhood incident that left him with severe burns to navigating the complexities of life, Mark's journey is marked by triumphs and tribulations alike.The episode transcends mere dialogue; it's a heartfelt conversation between old friends, characterized by candor and vulnerability. Mark's return to the East Coast serves as a catalyst for reflection, offering profound insights into the transformative power of shared experiences.As Mark contemplates reentering the fire service, his passion for the profession is palpable. Armed with a wealth of experience and a fervent desire to mentor the next generation, he embodies the spirit of service and dedication that defines the firefighting community.Ultimately, Episode 103 encapsulates the essence of "The Things We All Carry"—a poignant reminder that our burdens, triumphs, and connections shape the tapestry of our lives. Through laughter, introspection, and shared experiences, this episode resonates as both informative and entertaining, inviting listeners on a journey of discovery and camaraderie. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thethingsweallcarry.substack.com
Stephen S - TX
Jan 31 2024
Stephen S - TX
Welcome to Episode 102 of "The Things We All Carry." In this installment, the host engages in a captivating conversation with Stephen Sims, a seasoned firefighter with a unique life story. Known as TXsickboy on Instagram or unklesims on Instagram, Stephen his journey through the fire service since 2007.Stephen currently serving as the ladder chauffeur at station 55 in Houston, opens up about a profound experience with a double LODD (Line of Duty Death) in 2009, which significantly impacted him. He candidly describes a period where he, in his own words, "became an a*****e," and how this became a catalyst for his ongoing quest to become a better human, husband, and father.A self-proclaimed "vagabond" from the start, Stephen's life took him from Mississippi to Alabama, Mississippi, Arkansas, and eventually Texas. The episode delves into his diverse background, including a stint in the Navy, highlighting the value of exploring foreign cultures and broadening one's perspective beyond borders.Described by his wife as the "village people of careers," Stephen has worn many hats throughout his life. From his creative pursuits in music, art, writing, and woodworking to embracing a punk rock retirement plan with his wife since the "1900s", Stephen's multifaceted personality makes for a compelling conversation.The episode offers listeners a chance to hear about Stephen's unique take on life in the fire service and his commitment to personal growth. Despite the challenges he faced, Stephen is actively involved in advocating for his children, who are on the autism spectrum. This episode is just the beginning of a two-part series, with Stephen returning in a later episode to discuss ADHD and parenting.Join the host and Stephen Sims for a thought-provoking and insightful conversation that touches on life, resilience, creativity, and the pursuit of a better self. Episode 102 is not just a podcast; it's a glimpse into the diverse and inspiring stories we all carry. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thethingsweallcarry.substack.com
Destiny - On Being Resilient - Returns
Jan 24 2024
Destiny - On Being Resilient - Returns
Welcome to Episode 101 of "The Things We All Carry." Today, we're diving into a crucial aspect of our lives—one that many of us carry but often find challenging to explore. I'm thrilled to welcome back Destiny Morris, a licensed marriage and family therapist from California, specializing in the unique challenges faced by first responders, their spouses, and relationships.In her practice, Destiny offers individual sessions and facilitates a group for first responder spouses, delving into the complexities of life in a way that only someone with her expertise can. In a previous episode (Episode 79, aired on August 24th of last year), we explored topics like hypervigilance, the impact on relationships, and how the life of a first responder ripples through various aspects like interpersonal connections, family planning, and communication.In this episode, Destiny and I delve into hypervigilance once more, touching on her spouse group and extending our conversation to include family members of first responders. Additionally, we discuss what one can expect when entering therapy, exploring the dynamics, expectations, and the sometimes-sensitive decision of when and how to step back from therapy.Destiny shares insights into when therapy becomes a valuable ongoing support and when it might transition into a maintenance phase. It's a unique perspective on how therapy evolves and adapts to an individual's needs over time.I want to express my gratitude to each one of you for your continued support. Your feedback, suggestions, and personal stories are invaluable. Please reach out to me on Instagram or via email at stack@thethingsweallcarry.com or mystory@thethingsweallcarry.com.Stay tuned for Destiny Morris in Episode 101, and as always, take a moment for yourself. Until next time, take care of yourselves and each other. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thethingsweallcarry.substack.com
Ben Vernon - CA
Jan 17 2024
Ben Vernon - CA
Welcome to a milestone episode, folks! This is Episode 100 of "The Things We All Carry." Today, we have an incredibly special guest with us, none other than Ben Vernon, a Fire Captain hailing from the heart of San Diego. Ben's journey is nothing short of remarkable; he's devoted nearly two decades to the fire service, experiencing both the world of career firefighting and volunteer work.In this gripping episode, Ben shares his story of transformation – from a young individual unsure of his path to a seasoned public speaker, renowned for an incident that occurred eight years ago. A routine medical call took a shocking turn when Ben found himself in an altercation with a bystander. In a matter of seconds, he and his crew faced a life-threatening attack, leaving Ben and a co-worker stabbed.The narrative unfolds as Ben walks us through the harrowing details of the incident, the aftermath, and the emotional rollercoaster that followed. From being a first responder to becoming a patient himself, Ben takes us on a journey through the physical and emotional recovery process, offering profound insights into resilience and the human spirit.This episode is not just another story; it's a testament to the strength of the human will. Ben's candid reflections on the mistakes made and the subsequent attempt on his life make for a truly fascinating and thought-provoking tale. Despite the challenges, Ben and his crew member survived, and today, he stands before us, a dedicated public speaker traveling the world, advocating for mental health and sharing his inspiring story.As we delve into this gripping narrative, we're reminded of the increasing instances of violence against first responders. Ben's experience serves as a powerful reminder to stay vigilant on every call, as you never know what challenges might arise.So, without further ado, let's dive into Episode 100 with Ben Vernon. Sit back, absorb the resilience, and share your thoughts. And as we close this chapter at 100, get ready for more incredible stories to come in Episode 101 next week. Enjoy the show! This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thethingsweallcarry.substack.com
Diane C - MA Reissue
Jan 3 2024
Diane C - MA Reissue
In the first episode of the new year, "The Things We All Carry" revisits an impactful conversation with Diane Cotter, a name that resonates strongly within the firefighting community. The host pays tribute to Diane's unwavering dedication and resilience in the face of adversity, as she fought for awareness and change after her husband's cancer diagnosis linked to firefighting gear.Diane's relentless battle against PFAS-infested gear, a substance with devastating effects on the body, is explored in this reissued episode. The host emphasizes Diane's heroism, acknowledging her triumph over powerful opponents, including political figures and union representatives more interested in personal gain than firefighter well-being.Originally episode 61, this re-release serves as a tribute to Diane's courage and commitment. The host reflects on the past year, expressing gratitude for the audience's support and hinting at exciting developments in the coming year. Taking a break to clear thoughts and recharge, the host encourages listeners to embrace self-reflection and growth in the new year.As the episode concludes, the host teases upcoming shows, promising intriguing content and urging the audience to continue supporting the podcast by sharing, liking, and spreading the word. The episode encapsulates a mix of gratitude, reflection, and anticipation, setting the tone for an engaging year ahead. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thethingsweallcarry.substack.com
Marshall (Reissue)
Dec 27 2023
Marshall (Reissue)
In this episode of "The Things We All Carry," Stack reflects on the aftermath of Christmas and the emotions that come with it. Sharing personal experiences, Stackdiscusses the blend of anticipation and letdown that often accompanies the holiday season.Keeping the introduction short due to a recovering voice, Stack reintroduces Marshall, a newly promoted fire captain and a colleague with a unique journey in the fire service. Marshall, a cancer survivor diagnosed at age 19, shares his remarkable story of overcoming aggressive cancer and the subsequent challenge of rediscovering life. The conversation delves into Marshall's survivor's guilt, a constant battle with the fear of cancer recurrence, and the emotional toll of living with uncertainty.Marshall's experiences in the fire service unfold, including the tragic suicide of a crew member named Marcello. Marshall candidly discusses the impact of suicide on the crew and his personal coping mechanisms. The episode further explores Marshall's family life, addressing his son's struggles with ADHD and the adjustments made within the family to provide necessary support and care.Throughout the conversation, Marshall emphasizes the importance of therapy in addressing untreated issues stemming from his experiences in the fire service, cancer diagnosis, and family challenges. The episode offers a compelling and open dialogue on the complexities of life, mental health, and resilience within the context of a demanding profession.Originally released as episode seven, this reissue provides a poignant and insightful glimpse into Marshall's journey, highlighting themes of survival, resilience, and the ongoing pursuit of mental well-being. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thethingsweallcarry.substack.com