Did you know that your self-talk could be the sneaky culprit affecting your relationships more than you think? Maybe you've found yourself stuck in a relationship rut, scratching your head, wondering why things just aren't clicking with your partner. What if the secret to unlocking those mysteries might just lie within you and your partner's attachment style?  In this Language of Love Conversation, I’m joined by the amazing Dr. Judy Ho, a triple board-certified neuropsychologist and author of “The New Rules of Attachment.” Her book is full of insights into how our attachment styles shape, well, pretty much everything we do. Attachment styles are essentially the blueprints that guide how we connect with others, pursue our dreams, and see ourselves. They influence everything from our love lives to our careers and even our self-perception. Dr. Judy breaks down the four main attachment styles and we chat about how they often have their roots in our childhood experiences. We discuss: Why it is important to know your attachment style How negative self-talk is everywhere these days and what it's doing to our mental well-being The connection between always expecting the worst and your attachment style The influence of childhood experiences on attachment styles Strategies for healing and re-parenting oneself to develop a secure attachment The magic of self-compassion and why validating your feelings is key The impact of cultural expectations on women and the need for self-permission to prioritize their own needs The practice of embracing mistakes with humor and self-compassion Remember to check out Dr. Judy's book, “The New Rules of Attachment!” Also, follow Dr. Judy on Instagram for insights and find free resources on her website. And as always, you can check out my books and courses that can help level-up your love life on my website. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices