It's Not You, It's Your Trauma - Trauma, PTSD, Abuse, Anxiety & Recovery - Joe Ryan is a podcast that helps listeners find the origin of their pain to prompt healing. Host Joe Ryan is a certified peer counselor, coach, and speaker. Unlike most therapists, Ryan shares his trauma. This way, listeners feel less ashamed of their own. He offers hope to those who've tried self-improvement books and therapy without results. Ryan explains why that happens and how he corrects it.
Ryan says everyone endures childhood programming that influences their identity. A person's upbringing can make them believe false things about themselves. He helps them discover their hidden selves. Some people weren't allowed to feel certain emotions in childhood. Were they told not to feel angry, smart, or worthy? Those feelings emerge later, often in destructive ways. Fear of expressing repressed emotions creates a trauma response. The podcast reveals how to tolerate trauma responses. When a person welcomes uncomfortable feelings, their intensity diminishes.
The podcast host blamed many people for difficulties in his life. Then, he realized his victim mentality was hurting him. He was using drugs to hide his shame. Ryan began acknowledging his shame instead. He gives an example of why blaming is useless. If a baseball player hits another player with a bat and breaks his leg, no amount of remorse will fix it. The injured player must wear a cast, use crutches, and recover. Ryan says everyone must do their own healing. Processing hard feelings can heal trauma, whereas blaming doesn't.
It's Not You, It's Your Trauma - Trauma, PTSD, Abuse, Anxiety & Recovery - Joe Ryan addresses topics that need more awareness. Ryan explains how to parent oneself despite the absence of loving parents. Listeners learn what "emotional unemployment" is and how it hurts them. Ryan destigmatizes admissions of suicidality. He believes life gets easier when people don't fear hard feelings. He offers a comforting concept. No matter who enters or exits someone's life, they'll always be there for themselves.
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