Oct 11 2022
S1E8 - Making others excited to talk to you and 100x your engagement with Neville Medhora
Neville and I chat about how to 100x your engagement in online communities, specific tactics you can implement to make other people want to talk to you at conferences and parties, strategic risk taking when sneaking into events, and how to resist propaganda.
I credit a lot of my writing talent to Neville's mentorship; he is the one of the most talented writers and communicators I know. Neville runs Copywriting Course, a paid community with over 1,000 members learning how to write well and sell like hell.
Jumping out of a plane into an active volcano
do you manage a paid community?
vs. custom forums
do you get lurkers to be more active in a community?
How do you get regular contributors to become super enthusiastic posters?
90-9-1 rule as applied to friendships
Why do some friends end up being 1 and others end up being 90?
Getting to know your neighbour
How do you make friends if you are homeless?
Coworking as a way to get to know strangers from the internet
The internet as a way to better connect with people, compared to a random person at a bar
Finding people who intersect in both geographic and intellectual space.
Going to parties where it's all new people
What have you learned about sneaking into parties?
Social engineering and tactics to meet new strangers at parties
How specifically to introduce yourself at a party
How to bootstrap yourself into a party where you don't know anyone
Having a goal for what you want out of a gathering, when you are an attendee
How do you apply social engineering to your life?
Specific tactics to talk to new people, inviting them to events, matching someone's energy level
How do you come up with creative ideas and opportunities? How can more people develop that skill?
How to think about risk
Calculating the prior probability—what are the baseline statistics around how likely you will fail?
How to be okay with risk?
How do you resist other peoples' good persuasion skills?
How to make maximum money in minimum time
Exaggerated advertising and copywriting
Calling something a "scam" as classism, as someone without advantages has an opportunity to relate to someone who can speak to their struggles as a doorway into learning more about business
The closest people you can relate with when you didn’t grow up in a privileged background
Neville's tips for awesome in person events?
Surprisingly easier than you think to speak at a conference
PaperCall to conferences to watch the talks versus hanging out in the lobby to meet people
Dividing your personal time between meeting new people and spending time deepening your existing friendships
Set goals: say hello to 5 people, and don’t go back to your hotel room until you do.
How to get out of a conversation you don’t want to be in?
Neville’s secret thoughts about friendship
Always have a plan on what to do, so you can invite them to it afterwards
Always getting someone’s contact information
Planning events pretty often, so you always have an open invite for new friends
Order $200 of appetizers at a hotel bar/restaurant, buy your own drink, and get a relationship with the hotel on a Tuesday
Why not to hire a personal chef?
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