Nick and I talk about the secret tactics that novice and experienced hosts use to put together incredible parties, how to keep the momentum going in a party, how to reject someone you don't want to hang out with, and the world's best icebreaker question.
Nick is the bestselling author of The 2-Hour Cocktail Party, a step-by-step guide to easy-to-host parties to help you build relationships with regular gatherings. I also wrote a full, in-depth review of Nick's book at my book website: https://billmei.net/books/2-hour-cocktail-party/
1:20 Would you have name tags at your wedding?
2:10 Feedback on Nick's party
2:30 Bill's special icebreaker: Gives and Asks
3:30 How to give people notice for the icebreaker, to avoid breaking the flow while maintaining the velocity and energy of the room. How do you know when to interrupt the group and break the flow?
5:00 Nick's feedback with give and asks about calibrating and preparation
8:00 Hosting new gatherings when you already have a reputation as a great host
8:40 Learning Nights: Bill's monthly speaker series https://billmei.net/blog/learning-night
9:00 Diversity of the audience to lead to more interesting conversations
10:00 How to give people an excuse to mingle
10:50 The phrase "cocktail party", how should you host a party with people who don't drink?
12:00 How do you attract people who don't know you to come to a party you host?
15:00 Why it's important always to take a group photo of your event
17:00 How to make hosting a habit
18:50 How do you reject someone you don't want to hang out with?
22:10 Have you ever needed to kick someone out of a party?
As a facilitator, how do you cut people off in a conversation? How do you make sure loud people don't take over the conversation from others?
24:40 Is money an obstacle to having good events? How to use money to create good events without making people envious of how much money you make?
28:15 How to spend money without it coming across as trying too hard to impress people.
29:40 Who is someone you've met that has most changed your life?
32:30 What have you learned from our conversation?
32:00 Question for Bill: When to take a group photo in a party?
36:30 How to physically implement an act break?
38:20 How to encourage (or discourage) people from asking questions
40:30 How to encourage people to be more curious?
42:15 Most people want to talk about their ideas, they don't like learning about new ideas
44:50 The advantage of co-hosting an event
47:30 Are there any bucket list parties you've always wanted to throw?
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