Calm Parenting Podcast

Kirk Martin

Have a strong-willed child who doesn't respond to consequences, argues like an attorney, and refuses to do things your way? Good! You're in the right place. Celebrate Calm Founder Kirk Martin has given over 1,00,000 parents and teachers around the world practical, life-changing strategies to stop power struggles, yelling, and defiance NOW. Based on work with 1,500 challenging kids (many with AD/HD, OCD, ODD, ASD, etc.) in his home, and years spent in classrooms, Kirk's approach is refreshingly practical, honest, and laugh-out-loud funny! Questions? Visit us at www.CelebrateCalm.com or email us directly at Casey@CelebrateCalm.com

You’re Not Yelling…Yet. But Here’s What Ticks You Off.
Jul 24 2022
You’re Not Yelling…Yet. But Here’s What Ticks You Off.
We have extended our Christmas in July Sale for ONE more week! Final Sale Ends 8/1/22. Get our lowest prices on the Get Everything Package and the Calm Parenting Package. New! 3 Parent BootCamps With Kirk.  Want to avoid another school year filled with stress? BootCamp gives me 6 hours to apply every ounce of my insight to your specific, challenging situations, in a small group setting, so you walk away with a detailed game plan. It also allows me to bridge the gap between husbands and wives who disagree or want to get on the same page. We have filled half the spaces already. Click here to learn more and save with early registration. Want to talk with Kirk directly and come up with a game plan for your family? Kirk will work with you individually, or together with your spouse, to get you on the same page and help with the toughest parenting situations you haven’t been able to solve. These calls are a game-changer. Click here to learn about mentoring packages.  Want to book a LIVE EVENT in 2022/2023?! We are now booking IN PERSON and Zoom events for schools, PTAs, churches, synagogues, corporations, and agencies! Simply email Casey@CelebrateCalm with LIVE in the subject line and he'll share a one-page proposal within hours. It's EASY! PS: Live in California, Oregon, Washington, Montana, Idaho, Wyoming, or Colorado? We have DISCOUNTED dates available. Contact Casey@CelebrateCalm.com to learn more. Questions? Need help deciding on the best tools for your family? Email Casey@CelebrateCalm.com and Casey will help you personally! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
One New Idea When a Child Lashes Out
Jul 17 2022
One New Idea When a Child Lashes Out
This is the FINAL week of our Christmas in July Sale! Get our lowest prices on the Get Everything Package and the Calm Parenting Package. New! 3 Parent BootCamps With Kirk. Want to avoid another school year filled with stress? BootCamp gives me 6 hours to apply every ounce of my insight to your specific, challenging situations, in a small group setting, so you walk away with a detailed game plan. It also allows me to bridge the gap between husbands and wives who disagree or want to get on the same page. We have filled half the spaces already. Click here to learn more and save with early registration. Want to talk with Kirk directly and come up with a game plan for your family? Kirk will work with you individually, or together with your spouse, to get you on the same page and help with the toughest parenting situations you haven’t been able to solve. These calls are a game-changer.  Click here to learn about mentoring packages.  Want to book a LIVE EVENT in 2022/2023?! We are now booking IN PERSON and Zoom events for schools, PTAs, churches, synagogues, corporations, and agencies! Simply email Casey@CelebrateCalm with LIVE in the subject line and he'll share a one-page proposal within hours. It's EASY! PS: Live in California, Oregon, Washington, Montana, Idaho, Wyoming, or Colorado? We have DISCOUNTED dates available. Contact Casey@CelebrateCalm.com to learn more. Questions? Need help deciding on the best tools for your family? Email Casey@CelebrateCalm.com and Casey will help you personally!ABBREVIATED TRANSCRIPTSo your child is upset and lashing out. You don’t have to give in. You don’t have to “fix it.” In other podcasts and newsletters, we have provided a dozen different responses/actions to calm your child like giving positive intensity and using the “motion changes emotion” principle.But here’s a really cool tool to try the next few times your kids are emotionally on fire. Your tone is even and flat, almost disinterested in the drama. “I could really use your help doing x. Could you show me how to…?” “I was thinking about how much you enjoying playing/building/tinkering with x, and yet I don’t know anything about it. When you’re ready, could you teach me or show me how...?” It can be anything that they are good at doing or interested in. Anything. I did this with hundreds of kids in our home and here’s why it often works. When your kids are emotionally upset, their world feels out of control.  “I don’t feel like I have any control or power over this situation or myself. So I lash out in frustration. I’ll regret it later, especially since I know I’ll get in trouble for this. But it’s all I know to do.” When you ask your child to teach or show you something, you’re no longer fixing them or trying to stop/control their behavior. Because that often causes your kids to resist more. You are giving them a feeling of control and ownership. And that’s very settling. What they think and feel inside is: “I may not be able to control my emotions right now, BUT I DO feel in control of myself when I am doing x…” It’s also a powerful step in the No B.S. Program for parents (especially Dads of a strong-willed child) to bond instead of fight. It changes the dynamic. Typically, we react too quickly, try to fix the situation, it gets inflamed, and then we send the child to his room or take away privileges. That only serves to deepen the emotional divide between you AND reinforce the child’s shame as “the bad child.”  Instead, you have given your child a new tool that helps him:      - Calm down before losing privileges.      - Achieve mastery over his emotions (which builds confidence).       - Problem solve so he knows how to calm down next time.       - Focus on something he’s good at doing instead of reinforcing his failure.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Straight Up Defiance: 7 Ways to Stop It.
Jul 10 2022
Straight Up Defiance: 7 Ways to Stop It.
Our Christmas in July Sale Continues This Week! Get our lowest prices on the Get Everything Package and the Calm Parenting Package. New! 3 Parent BootCamps With Kirk.  Want to avoid another school year filled with stress? BootCamp gives me 6 hours to apply every ounce of my insight to your specific, challenging situations, in a small group setting, so you walk away with a detailed game plan. It also allows me to bridge the gap between husbands and wives who disagree or want to get on the same page. We have filled half the spaces already. Click here to learn more and save with early registration. Want to talk with Kirk directly and come up with a game plan for your family? Kirk will work with you individually, or together with your spouse, to get you on the same page and help with the toughest parenting situations you haven’t been able to solve. These calls are a game-changer. Click here to learn about mentoring packages.  Want to book a LIVE EVENT in 2022/2023?! We are now booking IN PERSON and Zoom events for schools, PTAs, churches, synagogues, corporations, and agencies! Simply email Casey@CelebrateCalm with LIVE in the subject line and he'll share a one-page proposal within hours. It's EASY! PS: Live in California, Oregon, Washington, Montana, Idaho, Wyoming, or Colorado? We have DISCOUNTED dates available. Contact Casey@CelebrateCalm.com to learn more. Questions? Need help deciding on the best tools for your family? Email Casey@CelebrateCalm.com and Casey will help you personally! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices