This is My Silver Lining

Silver Linings Media LLC

You know that feeling when you see a break in the clouds? After the storm, a ray of sun shines through, and without even thinking about it, you relax and take in the moment of gratitude. This is My Silver Lining is what we like to call a “pozcast” that brings that feeling to your ears and your hearts. That’s right, a “pozcast”! Not just a good news story, but one that celebrates the gifts of connection and community that come through periods of challenge. Each week, This is My Silver Lining (a/k/a TIMSL) shines a light on ordinary people doing extraordinary things. Our guests share their stories of resilience, courage, optimism, and gratitude. Each episode proves that, no matter how tough the journey, there is always a silver lining.

Leaving the Law: Liz Brown on Making Changes that Bring You Joy and Finding a Career You Love
2d ago
Leaving the Law: Liz Brown on Making Changes that Bring You Joy and Finding a Career You Love
Liz Brown knows a thing or two about transitions, the ones you plan for and the ones imposed upon you by circumstances.  Having experienced serious loss, she understands the power of reflection and creating a life worth living.  If you don’t like where your life is heading, it’s time to start planning.  Liz believes it’s never too late to make changes.  Do you want to be in the same place, doing the same thing or do you want to be somewhere else? Only you can really know and while we can’t predict the future, one thing is for sure:  in 10 years (with any luck), we will all be 10 years older.  Figure out what you enjoy being good at and plan your journey from there.  Sharing your experiences openly and honestly can transform another person’s life.  Liz has benefitted from the wisdom of others and is generous in sharing her own.  We talk with Liz about the courage it takes to leave a career that is all-consuming, financially rewarding and has taken years of training to realize.  We talk about how our work often defines how we identify ourselves and how others see us.  Embracing the opportunity to define a new career identity can feel risky, but the rewards of joy and career fulfillment are well worth the journey.  Episode Links and Resources:  Liz BrownHow to Leave the Law, Liz Brown and Amy ImpellizzeriLife After Law, Liz BrownLiz Brown speaks about Career Choices at Bentley Convocation 2015Support this podcast by subscribing and reviewing!Music is considered “royalty-free” and discovered on Audio Blocks.Technical Podcast Support by: Jon Keur at Wayfare Recording Co.© 2022 Silver Linings Media LLC. All Rights Reserved.
Failure is Just Opportunity in Disguise: TV and Film Actor Matthew Del Negro, on Overcoming 10,000 No’s by Being Bold, Digging Deeper, and Celebrating Our Successes
Sep 25 2022
Failure is Just Opportunity in Disguise: TV and Film Actor Matthew Del Negro, on Overcoming 10,000 No’s by Being Bold, Digging Deeper, and Celebrating Our Successes
Matthew Del Negro believes that we learn more about ourselves in our losses than in our victories.  He is a hugely successful actor– with major roles on the Sopranos, West Wing, Scandal, and currently starring on Showtime's City on a Hill with Kevin Bacon and Aldis Hodge.  Despite his long list of impressive acting credits, Matt has discovered more about his true self by overcoming the “10,000 No’s” that he has been dealt throughout his career.  While some actors might prefer to keep up the facade of a perfect life and career, Matt chose to get real by starting his podcast, 10,000 No’s. He interviews his guests –many of whom are also successful actors, including Lorraine Bracco and Kevin Bacon– about their own experiences with rejection and the fear of not being able to find the next great role.  Matt recognized that sharing these experiences and wisdom would help other young actors, and he quickly realized that the idea of turning a No into a Yes could be helpful to anyone–  not just actors.   Matt talks about the importance of being bold enough to take a risk and believe you will succeed.  And we talk about not caring what other people think of us when we decide to enter the arena.  Episode Links and Resources:  10,000 Nos Podcast, Book and Insider’s CommunityOrder 10,000 NOs: How to Overcome Rejection on the Way to Your YESMatthew Del Negro IMDb BioShowtime’s City on a HillFull Text of “Citizenship in a Republic” (a/k/a “Man in the Arena”)  Speech by Theodore RooseveltMatthew Del Negro InstagramSupport this podcast by subscribing and reviewing!Music is considered “royalty-free” and discovered on Audio Blocks.Technical Podcast Support by: Jon Keur at Wayfare Recording Co.© 2022 Silver Linings Media LLC. All Rights Reserved.
REPLAY - We Can All Be Heroes: Claudette Scheffold on Remembering Her Dad, FDNY Battalion Chief Fred Scheffold
Sep 11 2022
REPLAY - We Can All Be Heroes: Claudette Scheffold on Remembering Her Dad, FDNY Battalion Chief Fred Scheffold
EPISODE 5 REPLAY:  As we mark the 21st anniversary of the terror attacks on September 11, 2001, we want to take this opportunity to honor the memory of one of its victims, FDNY Battalion Chief, Fred Scheffold.  If you haven't had a chance, or even if you already have, please listen to this episode where his daughter, Claudette, shares her experience of that day, her memories of her father, and how she keeps his legacy alive through her writing.      We will never forget.It’s hard to imagine finding a silver lining after suffering the loss of a loved one.  Claudette Scheffold tells us that it wasn’t something she was able to see until many years later, as she remembers the huge outpouring of love that she and her family received after they lost her father, Fred Scheffold, FDNY Battalion Chief, on September 11, 2001.  She remembers the kindness of loved ones and of complete strangers–many of whom are now close friends–who would have done anything to help her and her family during this tragic time in her life.  We talk about what makes a hero and about the importance of having an outlet.  Claudette’s commitment to writing and to running are both critical to her mental health. Claudette shares stories about her memories of her father; about why he was a great parent, and how he lived life to its fullest.   We are thrilled to share this conversation and honored that this podcast is yet another way that the memory of FDNY Battalion Chief Fred Scheffold will endure.  Episode Links and Resources:Claudette’s Medium Page:  Hood Foundation:  Running Improve Your Mental Health?  the podcast by subscribing and reviewing!Music is considered “royalty-free” and discovered on Audio Blocks.Technical Podcast Support by: Jon Keur at Wayfare Recording Co.© 2022 Silver Linings Media LLC. All Rights Reserved.
A Different Kind of Back-To-School:  Lynne Sullivan on the Transformative Power of Education
Sep 4 2022
A Different Kind of Back-To-School: Lynne Sullivan on the Transformative Power of Education
Lynne Sullivan knows the transformative power of education.  After being convicted of second degree murder, she spent the first few years of a life sentence in and out of solitary confinement.  A new life path opened for Lynne when she was encouraged by another inmate to go back to school.  This path eventually led her to earning a bachelor’s degree in sociology from Boston University.  A few years later–after she was released early on parole– she earned a master's degree from Boston University in criminal justice.  Lynne is now focused on giving back.  She is currently the Regional Manager for Massachusetts and Rhode Island at the Petey Greene Program, where she oversees academic support in several correctional facilities, community correctional centers, youth centers, and reentry programs.   Lynne tells us about the power of someone believing in her and caring about her success–something many of us take for granted. Victor Hugo wrote, “He who opens a school door, closes a prison.”  Lynne Sullivan is living proof.  Episode Links and Resources:Lynne Sullivan:  Greene Program:  Program:  University Prison Education Program:  Them Not:  this podcast by subscribing and reviewing!Music is considered “royalty-free” and discovered on Audio Blocks.Technical Podcast Support by: Jon Keur at Wayfare Recording Co.© 2022 Silver Linings Media LLC. All Rights Reserved.
Friendship Manager: Leora Kaye on How the Trauma of Middle School Bullying Led Her to Become a Community Building Rabbi
Aug 28 2022
Friendship Manager: Leora Kaye on How the Trauma of Middle School Bullying Led Her to Become a Community Building Rabbi
It’s no overstatement to say that middle school bullying changed Rabbi Leora Kaye's life. When she was halfway through 5th grade, her parents decided to move.  Her new home, in the Chicago suburb of Willamette, was only a short drive from her old home in Evanston, but the move meant changing schools at a really tough time in the school cycle.  A social kid with a thriving circle of friends from her synagogue’s youth group and Jewish summer camp, Leora had never experienced the kind of ridicule and shaming that soon rained down upon her.  The bullies were relentless.Leora’s decision to pursue rabbinical studies was 100% motivated by a desire to create safe spaces for others to come together and find community.Leora found refuge in the Jewish spaces where she was made to feel confident and grounded.  She says that her youth group and Jewish summer camp gave her a foundation beneath her feet. Today, Leora is the Director of Partnerships and Collaboration at Union for Reform Judaism in Brooklyn, NY. Her daughter once asked her what she does at work each day.  After explaining a bit more about how she spends her days bringing people together, Leora’s daughter responded, “Oh, so you’re a friendship manager!”  Episode Links and Resources:Rabbi Leora Kaye:   Bees and Wannabes, Rosalind WisemanMasterminds and Wingmen, Roasalind WisemanSupport this podcast by subscribing and reviewing!Music is considered “royalty-free” and discovered on Audio Blocks.Technical Podcast Support by: Jon Keur at Wayfare Recording Co.© 2022 Silver Linings Media LLC. All Rights Reserved.
When One Broadway Dream Ends, a Real Star is Born:  Casey Erin Clark on Losing out on the Role of a Lifetime and Finding the Career of Her Dreams
Aug 21 2022
When One Broadway Dream Ends, a Real Star is Born: Casey Erin Clark on Losing out on the Role of a Lifetime and Finding the Career of Her Dreams
Casey Erin Clark sang at the Tony Awards a few months ago:  a dream come true for a Midwestern girl who grew up singing in church and starring in school musicals.  But it may not have happened if she had landed the Broadway role that she thought was her ticket to the big-time.  After earning a degree in fine arts, Casey came to New York City to try to make it on Broadway.  After making her off-Broadway debut, she soon found success when she landed a role in the cast of the 25th anniversary national tour of Les Miserables.  A few months after the tour ended, Casey was in final callbacks for the show’s highly anticipated Broadway revival.  It was the role she was made for; she could feel it.  But she didn’t get the part. And that’s when Casey began to realize that she might just have another calling.   Episode Links and Resources:Vital Voice Training Website:  (Is) Podcast:  Erin Clark’s LinkedIn Profile: Inspirational Voices:  Reading:Body of Work:  Finding the Thread That Ties Your Story Together, Pamela SlimBurnout:  The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle, Emily Nagoski, Amelia Nagoski  Half the Sky:  Turning Oppression into Opportunity for Women Worldwide, Nicholas Kristoff, Sheryl WuDunn   Support this podcast by subscribing and reviewing!Music is considered “royalty-free” and discovered on Audio Blocks.Technical Podcast Support by: Jon Keur at Wayfare Recording Co.© 2022 Silver Linings Media LLC. All Rights Reserved.
Broadening the Aperture:  Erin Borzellino on How Her Son’s Rare Illness Changed Her Approach to Parenting and Led Her to Start a Thriving Photography Business
Aug 14 2022
Broadening the Aperture:  Erin Borzellino on How Her Son’s Rare Illness Changed Her Approach to Parenting and Led Her to Start a Thriving Photography Business
They say a picture is worth a thousand words, but some pictures move from the eyes, straight to the heart, without any need for words.  Erin Borzellino is a photographer who captures such images, waiting patiently to catch unpolished moments of raw joy that might otherwise pass unnoticed. Erin is a storyteller, whose photo projects, Unstoppable , Below the Water Line, and Women Who Rock each evoke and celebrate the best of the human spirit.  After college, Erin’s passion for photography took a backseat to a more “practical” career in financial services.  She moved to London, where she met her husband.  Shortly after having their first child, Giorgio, in the UK, Giorgio was diagnosed with a rare genetic mutation of the NF1 gene, which is responsible for suppressing tumor growth. Erin and her husband had to quickly adapt to the daily uncertainty of Giorgio’s condition and learned how to care for him moment to moment.  Along the way, they also learned to enjoy each day, to focus on the present, not worry too much about the future, and to be grateful for all that they have.  Erin says that in many ways, having a child with special needs changed her life positively in unexpected ways.  A high achiever destined to be a "Type A" mom, once she started raising her three kids, Erin was surprised to find that she was actually much more of a "Type Z" mom.  Having a child with special needs changed her perspective on a lot of things: career, success, and what really matters.  She’s less inclined to hound any of her children about piano practice and soccer lessons, instead maintaining her focus on their happiness and teaching them to be kind to others. Episode Resources:Erin Borzellino Photography:  Instagram: @erinborzellinoThe Giorgio Foundation:  the podcast by subscribing and reviewing!Music is considered “royalty-free” and discovered on Audio Blocks.Technical Podcast Support by: Jon Keur at Wayfare Recording Co.© 2022 Silver Linings Media LLC. All Rights Reserved
Only a State Away:  Ann Barham on Past Life Regression Therapy and How Exploring our Past Lives can Lead to Greater Fulfillment in This Life
Aug 7 2022
Only a State Away:  Ann Barham on Past Life Regression Therapy and How Exploring our Past Lives can Lead to Greater Fulfillment in This Life
Have you ever had that sense of deja vu?  Like you’ve been somewhere before?  Or maybe you meet someone for the first time but you have an instant connection and feel like you must have known them before?  These feelings and experiences may be clues to one of your past lives.  In this episode, we speak with Ann C. Barham, a Certified Regression Therapist and retired Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. For over 25 years, she has worked with clients of all faiths and backgrounds to explore issues that they are having in their current lives by mining their subconscious memories for key past life experiences.  Her book on this topic, The Past Life Perspective, highlights actual case studies from real clients.   Ann’s work is based on the premise that each of our souls is reincarnated across time in order to go through a series of life experiences on the planet.  Each of us carry memories of past lives from one life to the next. At a conscious level, we may be unaware of our past lives.  However, subconsciously, these memories often have a profound impact on the way we show up and experience life in the present. Episode Links and Resources:Past Life Perspective The Past Life Perspective: Discovering Your True Nature Across Multiple Lifetimes  Many Lives, Many Masters: The True Story of a Prominent Psychiatrist, His Young Patient, and the Past-Life Therapy That Changed Both Their Lives, Brian Weiss, M.D.Support the podcast by subscribing and reviewing!Music is considered “royalty-free” and discovered on Audio Blocks.Technical Podcast Support by: Jon Keur at Wayfare Recording Co.© 2022 Silver Linings Media LLC. All Rights Reserved.
Gaming for Good:  18-Year-Old Nick Priest Talks about How Losing His Dad Inspired Him to Start Nick’s Power of Play, a Nonprofit Connecting Volunteer Video Game Players with Young Cancer Patients
Jul 17 2022
Gaming for Good: 18-Year-Old Nick Priest Talks about How Losing His Dad Inspired Him to Start Nick’s Power of Play, a Nonprofit Connecting Volunteer Video Game Players with Young Cancer Patients
Nick Priest is not your average 18 year old.  Throughout his life he has focused on how he can give back in a meaningful way that honors the memory of his father, who he lost to oral cancer when he was just six years old.  Nick tells us that playing video games with his father were some of his favorite memories.  Even as his dad’s health deteriorated rapidly, father and son were able to bond through the gaming console.  From a young age, Nick was determined to help other kids who were going through this same struggle with cancer.  He quickly realized in  his first chemistry course that a career in oncology was probably not in the cards, but Nick was inspired by young cancer patients who were under treatment and isolated in the hospital, unable to play with other kids.  Gaming offered the perfect opportunity to connect with these patients, and could create a way for them to connect with one another.  Nick is an inspiring young man who is committed to making a difficult situation better for so many kids who desperately need it.  And he’s quick to remind us that it isn't even about the video games.  It's all about connecting with other people during their time of need and creating community.  Who can argue with that?Episode Links and Resources:Nick’s Power of Play:  the podcast by subscribing and reviewing!Music is considered “royalty-free” and discovered on Audio Blocks.Technical Podcast Support by: Jon Keur at Wayfare Recording Co.© 2022 Silver Linings Media LLC. All Rights Reserved.
Unlimited Potential:  Olaseni Bello on the American Dream and Why Failure is Part of the Equation for Opportunity
Jul 3 2022
Unlimited Potential: Olaseni Bello on the American Dream and Why Failure is Part of the Equation for Opportunity
Olaseni Bello is a Nigerian immigrant, an American citizen, a husband, a father, a lawyer with an MBA, an entrepreneur, and a decorated veteran. And not one of these things has come easy.  With the belief that you have the power to change your life for the better, Olaseni does not accept challenges lying down.  Olaseni tells us about his highly anticipated arrival on American soil, knowing that upon landing his entire life would change.  His understanding of America came from TV and movies, and he was greeted here with many unexpected challenges.  He didn’t fit in because of the way he spoke, his clothes, and the way he looked.  His mother enrolled him in Tae Kwon Do, where he excelled, and where he learned to embrace the mental and physical self-discipline that he has relied on throughout his life.  After law school and completing a judicial clerkship, rather than taking the traditional path to a law firm, Olaseni wanted to repay what he calls a “debt of gratitude to America.”  Coming here as an immigrant, Olaseni talks about fully recognizing and appreciating the opportunities that this country provided to him.  He applied to join the Army JAG Corps, specifically requesting assignment to Fort Hood, Texas, and made clear that he wanted to be deployed to Afghanistan to serve his country.  We talk about the challenges that Olaseni – and many veterans – faced after separating from the military and trying to transition to the corporate world.  Despite 5.5 years in the JAG Corps, law firms did not see his experience as relevant.  He realized that he had to learn to sell his skills in a way that a non-military employer could understand.  Every employer is looking for someone who has a particular set of skills – who can say “I do X.” Olaseni says, “In the Army we solve problems and that is our X.  And that X keeps changing.”  Adapting quickly and being resourceful are veteran super-skills.  After overcoming so many challenges and having such great success, Olaseni leaves us with his thoughts on never letting fear guide your decisions.  “Failure is part of the equation for opportunity.. . . Failure is a tool that forces us to get creative or explore a path we may have ignored.”  Olaseni doesn’t see failures as roadblocks, but sees his failures as silver linings.  Each has been “illuminating in its own way.”Episode Links and Resources:JAG Corps:  Med:  Bello Bio:  the podcast by subscribing and reviewing!Music is considered “royalty-free” and discovered on Audio Blocks.Technical Podcast Support by: Jon Keur at Wayfare Recording Co.© 2022 Silver Linings Media LLC. All Rights Reserved.
Kindness 9-1-1:  Chanda Brodnax-Nino on How Being Laid Off Led to the Start of a Successful Business and Fulfilling a Life-Saving Calling
Jun 26 2022
Kindness 9-1-1: Chanda Brodnax-Nino on How Being Laid Off Led to the Start of a Successful Business and Fulfilling a Life-Saving Calling
Being laid off from her longtime position running an emergency medicine training program at a large suburban hospital, Chanda tells us how this setback (with the help of an inspiring letter from a former student) ultimately inspired her to launch her own business, the EMS Institute of Fairfield County (the “Institute”).  Chanda talks about how she hopes to inspire young Black women.  When she was growing up, she didn’t see any Black women entering the field of emergency medicine.  She knows directly the power of if you can see it, you can be it.   Chanda discusses how and why she puts her students through the  “212 teaching Method;” teaching her students to give more than just the bare minimum.  At 211°, Chanda explains, water is really hot.  But add just one more degree, and that water is boiling, emitting steam and enough energy to power a locomotive.  She motivates her students to give that one extra degree, which can make all the difference.  Chanda’s classes are really hard, but her students unanimously agree that, as a result, they are better trained than many of their peers to handle life-critical situations.  Chanda emphasizes the importance of knowing CPR, “an easy life-saving skill that you can learn in less than 2 hours.”  She shares a story of two cardiac arrest patients who arrived in the emergency room one Thanksgiving evening:  one had received immediate CPR from a trained family member and walked out of the hospital that night.  The other only received CPR upon arriving at the emergency room, where Chanda did CPR for 43 minutes.  Sadly, that patient did not survive.  Every second counts in emergency response; acting quickly can mean the difference between life and death.  Chanda is not your typical teacher and her story isn’t just about teaching the basics of CPR.  Kindness is part of the curriculum.  Not only does she encourage her students to be kind to one another, she asks that they share at least one nice thing about each other at the end of class.   While her day job is focused on life-saving, Chanda teaches (and learns from) her students the ways in which kindness can be life-changing.  Episode Resources:EMS Institute of Fairfield County:   the Extra Degree:   Brodnax-Nino Profile:  the podcast by subscribing and reviewing!Music is considered “royalty-free” and discovered on Audio Blocks.Technical Podcast Support by: Jon Keur at Wayfare Recording Co.© 2022 Silver Linings Media LLC. All Rights Reserved.
Enjoy the Wave You’re On:  Kevin Sousa on Surf Therapy, Getting Present, and Getting Sober
Jun 19 2022
Enjoy the Wave You’re On: Kevin Sousa on Surf Therapy, Getting Present, and Getting Sober
Kevin Sousa is a Program Director and Ocean Therapist at the Jimmy Miller Memorial Foundation, as well as a therapist in private practice in Hermosa Beach, California.  While we initially approached Kevin to learn more about the benefits of surf therapy and the work of the JMMF, we quickly learned that Kevin had his own story to tell about his path to sobriety, being present, and the importance of enjoying the wave you’re on right now. Kevin shared with us his doctoral thesis, Soul Seeking: A Crossing, where he shares his journey from alcohol abuse and addiction to sobriety through the lens of training for the Catalina Classic, an annual 32-mile paddleboard marathon from Catalina Island to Manhattan Beach, CA.  Kevin’s story is one of endurance, gratitude, and one of healing himself by helping others.  Training for the Classic carried Kevin through the earliest and most difficult days of his path to sobriety.  As a professional musician, building up his physical endurance to complete the race was only part of Kevin’s journey.  Unleashing new found creativity, songwriting and performing, played a significant role in Kevin’s ability to confront and deal with his addictions.  We learn about the history and the work of the Jimmy Miller Memorial Foundation, one of the oldest surf therapy programs in the country, which provides surf therapy to “at-promise” youth, veterans through the Wounded Warrior battalion at Camp Pendleton, and most recently, first responders during the COVID-19 pandemic.  We talk about a lot more than surfing.  Kevin shares his views on meditation and how being mindful has helped him along his journey.  “You can’t do it wrong,” he says.     Whether it’s meditating, writing music, performing, surfing. . . Kevin tells us that it’s all about putting yourself in situations where you have to stay engaged and stay present.  Kevin’s message is one we can all learn from:  focus on the present.  “The perfect wave is the one you’re on.”Support the podcast by subscribing and reviewing!Music is considered “royalty-free” and discovered on Audio Blocks.Technical Podcast Support by: Jon Keur at Wayfare Recording Co.© 2022 Silver Linings Media LLC. All Rights Reserved.
Long COVID:  Compassion and Resilience with Infectious Disease Doctor, Evangeline Thibodeau
Jun 19 2022
Long COVID: Compassion and Resilience with Infectious Disease Doctor, Evangeline Thibodeau
It has been a long two years.  Correction:  two-plus years.  We’re all exhausted by the unending wait for this COVID 19 pandemic to be over.  Our guest, Dr. Evangeline Thibodeau feels the same way.  She’s a mom of three living in a small town on the coast of Maine.  But Evangeline doesn’t have the luxury of turning off the news and forgetting about COVID for a few hours.  She’s been in the thick of it all longer than most of us, and still is.  She is the person that this small town turns to for guidance as everyone tries to live with this virus and adapt to a new normal.  Imagine enjoying a Saturday morning soccer game at your daughter’s school as parents casually (or not so casually) ask questions like, “Is it safe for me to visit my parents for Christmas?” “Do we really need to wear masks?”  No pressure!  Evangeline likens her role to someone who is flying an airplane while they are still trying to put the wings on.  We talk with her about the challenges of being the “expert” while the information available is constantly changing.   Although she has every reason to, Evangeline doesn’t focus on the burnout.  In fact, she’s grateful for the lessons that these past two years have taught her.  When it is so easy to judge someone who doesn’t see eye to eye with you, she has learned to be more understanding and compassionate.  She has become resilient instead of exhausted.  She has cherished the extra time with her family, and even tells us about a new sport they all learned together. . . and it’s not a sport that naturally comes to mind when you think about the great state of Maine!  For Evangeline, the pandemic has been a reminder of why she entered the medical field in the first place: to treat people whose health is suffering with kindness, dignity and compassion.If an infectious disease doctor in the midst of a global pandemic can find the silver linings. . . so can you.  Tune in to hear more.Support the podcast by subscribing and reviewing!Music is considered “royalty-free” and discovered on Audio Blocks.Technical Podcast Support by: Jon Keur at Wayfare Recording Co.© 2022 Silver Linings Media LLC. All Rights Reserved.