This week’s episode is all about persistence. If you want something, you have to go after it with everything you’ve got, which couldn’t be truer when finding love. Today, we’re joined by Keisha Stubbs, who shares her inspiring story of love, loss, and redemption. From hitting rock bottom to rising to the top, Keisha is a testament to the power of persistence and the importance of never giving up on finding love. When finding love, anything is possible if you’re willing to put in the work. Keisha will share how she met the love of her life, recently got engaged, and why sometimes you need to hit rock bottom to rock it! Keisha Stubbs is the author of the book "Close or be Closed, How A Teen Mom Sold Her Way Out Of Poverty. Keisha hit rock bottom early in life when she ended her High School career by fighting her way to graduation with a 4-month-old baby on her hip. When Keisha was 23, her boyfriend and her son's father was murdered, making her a single mother. The following year she lost everything, her apartment, car, and job. Keisha climbed the ladder in the automotive industry, going from the salesperson of the year to sales manager. Recently she ran for office and started a new business, the Artisan Markets. She founded the non-profit Tied Together, which is geared towards helping children. Her life purpose is to inspire and help people who've been dealt a bad hand.Keisha Stubbs emphasizes the importance of persistence and never giving up on finding love. She also discusses the value of putting yourself first and creating a space someone else would want to share with you. Kerry Brett shares dating tips inspired by Keisha's story, including being who you want to attract, acting like a wife if you want to be a wife, and being consistent in putting yourself out there. This episode is a reminder that anything is possible if you're willing to do the work and never give up on finding love.To find out more about Keisha Stubbs, follow on Instagram @keishavstubbs. To find out more about the Artisan Markets go to www.artisanmarkets.com.

Today's topic is a breath of fresh air "Why Spring is the Best Time to Start a Relationship." With the arrival of spring just around the corner, people are excited to embrace the season of new beginnings. As the sun shines and days grow longer, the outdoors bloom with the possibility of new connections. People are happier, hearts more open, and the spring air is filled with the promise of love. Our resident astrologer, the fabulous psychic healer Jill Jardine, shares the best dates toput a spring in your step, kick off a new romance, and bask in the warmth of a fresh spring fling. Jill Jardine is a therapist, professional astrologer and spiritual advisor.  For over 30 years, she’s helped thousands of people find the power and confidence within themselves to make decisions to move forward with ease and joy. If you feel stuck and unfulfilled it could be caused by your subconscious, limiting beliefs or past-life agreements. Today, Jill will share how easy it is to tap into your higher self and live you’re your best life. In this episode Jill shares her astrology update for the Spring of 2023 and give us a breakdown of March, April, May and June for dating.Kerry Brett and Jill Jardine cover a lot of ground and focus on why spring is the best time to start a relationship. Topics include;The new season, with longer days and warmer weather, will make people more open and excited to date.Jill discusses why March is the perfect month to start dating as all planets are traveling direct until April 21st, with no retrograde planets to hold anyone back.Jill also notes that March is an astrologically significant month, with Saturn leaving Aquarius and moving into Pisces, signifying a whole new three-year cycle. This is an ideal time to re-evaluate your relationships and begin anew.Pluto also enters Aquarius on March 23rd, signifying a new era of connection and connectivity. For dating, this means people will quickly determine whether someone is their tribe or vibe.It’s manifestation time, where people can create a new reality around their love life.All of this positive astrological energy will encourage others to spring into action and start something new.

Today's topic is how to genuinely put yourself out there because people who do – have success, especially when finding love. And this week's guest has no problem in that department! He shows up as himself and handles rejections graciously. Get ready for … William Hung! William Hung became an instant celebrity with his rendition of Ricky Martin's song "She Bangs" during American Idol, which went viral. When he didn't get the golden ticket or hear "you're going to Hollywood," he stated, "he did his best and had no regrets," and the world fell in love with him. Today, William shares his setbacks in love. You may not know, but he's been divorced twice and discusses his inspirational journey to find love with his fiancé… And why sometimes you need relationships that didn't work to get it right. William Hung is a former American singer who gained fame through his audition on the third season of American Idol in 2003. He acquired notoriety with his off-key performance of Ricky Martin's song of "She Bangs," He instantly became a household name for his unique dance moves and enthusiastic personality. Following his audition, he became a motivational speaker and has spoken to audiences worldwide about his experiences and the importance of pursuing one's dreams. William went from being laughed off stage to having a number-one hit to singing "She Bangs" live with Ricky Martin in 2018.Kerry Brett and William Hung cover a lot of ground. Topics include:William's online dating experience.William's Dad pretended to be William online to help him find love.William's lessons from past failed relationships.Throughout the hard years, William never gave up or lost hope.When looking for love, focus on core values and having activities you both like to do together. Beauty can change over time, but beauty on the inside will never change. Remember the line from She Bangs – she looks like a flower but stings like a bee. Avoid choosing a relationship based solely on looks.Stay away from secrets because harboring secrets creates a less satisfying relationship. Even small secrets can prevent closeness and create problems. To learn more about William Hung and his upcoming speaking engagements and podcast, follow him on Instagram @williamhungofficial.

Have you ever wondered why men don't call back, disappear into thin air, or can’t commit? Today, we will uncover the most common mistakes women make and how to avoid them. In honor of Valentine's Day, "aka" (National Single Awareness Day), and Shot@Love's 3rd anniversary, we have the greatest guest imaginable. Dr. John Gray! Dr. John Gray is the most well-known relationship expert in the world! He's the author of the highly acclaimed, widely popular, and most trusted relationship book of all time; Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. USA Today listed his book as one of the 10 most influential books of the last quarter-century. In hardcover, it was the bestselling book of the 90s. Dr. Gray's books are translated into over 45 languages in more than 100 countries, and it continues to be a bestseller.Dr. Gray has written over twenty books, his most recent is Beyond Mars and Venus. His books have forever changed the way men and women view their relationships. John helps men and women better understand and respect their differences in both personal and professional relationships. He has appeared repeatedly on Oprah, as well as on The Dr. Oz Show, Today, CBS this Morning, Good Morning America, and others. He has been profiled in Time, Forbes, USA Today, and People. He was also the subject of a three-hour special hosted by the late Barbara Walters. Today we'll learn how to manage our emotions, approach dating and relationships differently, and stop sabotaging ourselves. Dr. John Gray will point us in the right direction and show us how to win over our potential partner so we can avoid pain and experience more love. Kerry Brett and Dr. John Gray cover a lot of ground. Topics include;Why men are attracted to women who are happy, and how do you stay happy do more of what you love.Why men are more motivated when they feel they are needed.Why men get close but need to pull away.The best times to have a conversation with a man.How men and women keep score differently.Ways to score points with both women and men.The power of being direct and using few words.Men are motivated to make you happy. Men expect you to be happy and don’t want someone who’s always unhappy or complaining. Just having a good time is the greatest gift a man can receive.Women often hand their power over to men, which is a worthiness issue. Know that you are desirable and worthy, and you don’t have to earn it.Men want to feel accepted and appreciated. Women need to trust that a man is doing his best, and when you accept and appreciate him, you give him the fuel and motivation to do more.John’s course “How to Get Everything You Want in Relationships For Women, Men, Couples, and Singles” https://marsvenus.com/gift. John has an upcoming two-day class that will change your life on March 4-5. It’s limited to just 40 seats, so click the link to claim yours! https://www.marsvenus.com/relationship-weekendFollow on social media www.twitter.com/marsvenus, www.facebook.com/Mars.Venus.John.Gray, www.instagram.com/johngraymarsvenus_official/

This week's topic is finding the key to unbreakable confidence. You must put yourself out there– when looking for love, you can fake it until you make it or fail it to nail it! We all have failures of epic proportions and go through several failed relationships, which are inevitable, but they can also provide valuable opportunities. Today's guest is Ben Currier, the World’s #1 Biggest Failure and host of the podcast The Failure Guy. Ben was fired repeatedly and couldn’t figure out why he wasn't succeeding. He'll share why failure has many benefits, like getting honest with yourself and improving self-awareness. Failing inspires creativity and encourages innovative solutions to problems. And why we can quickly turn it around and go in another direction because we all have a get out of fail free card. Self-proclaimed World's #1 Failure Ben Currier hosts the ironically successful “Failure Guy” podcast. His podcast currently has a global reach: that Spotify-owned Chartable ranks higher than 99.8% of all Podcasts. Ben spent 15 years in corporate America, financially forecasting billions of dollars across multiple industries. He is an Excel guru, 4-time Microsoft MVP Award Winner, and creator of one of the six Best Online Excel Classes per Investopedia. His Excel training has over 25 million minutes of listening time, and he’s helped millions with his online Excel training. Despite these successes, Ben has been fired from every jobhe’s had. This has inspired him to investigate failure while working hard to turn his setbacks into success. He inspires others across the country through his hit podcast, public speaking engagements and has interviewed many big names, such as Carole Baskin, and William Hung, to name a few.Ben shares his incredible journey and what he's learned in the process so we can find our unbreakable inner confidence in our abilities when dating.Ben Currier the World’s #1 Failure and Kerry Brett the World’s #2 Failure cover a lot of ground discussing how failures led both of us to success in both dating and life. Topics include;Why people hold themselves back because of the fear of failure and how to overcome.How to use clothing to raise your confidence.Why you should take a chance to stand out in online dating.Why you should be weirder than you are.Take risks in texts and stop trying to be like everyone else.Remember to remind yourself that no one is perfect and that everyone is flawed.Why having low expectations is helpful while hoping for the best outcomes.Dating is a percentage game, the more dates you go on–the more comfortable you’ll get and the higher the chance you’ll have of succeeding.Don’t be afraid to fail! Do at least one thing on a date outside of your comfort because that’s where the magic happens.Fake it until you make it or Fail it until you nail either way will work. And remember action creates reaction.Listen to Ben’s Failure Guy podcast that can be found on all platforms, follow on Instagram @failureguyben, or on Twitter.

Today's topic is Moving on! Moving on is a time to level up, learn how to step into our power to create the life we want, and go for it! Michelle Dempsey-Multack, knows all about Moving On; she’s written a book about it and host's the podcast Moms Moving On sharing her advice as a Divorce & Co-Parenting specialist. You can embrace this time and realize nothing is holding you back. It's time to decide what we want to change while consciously choosing to build a better life for ourselves. Michelle shares how she found beauty in a situation that almost broke her. And why your cup isn't half full of half empty, it’s refillable because loss leaves you in a place to be filled up with all good things. And why, damn it – it feels so good to be moving on! Michelle Dempsey-Multack is a writer, mom, coach, speaker, and genuine girl power enthusiast. Michelle attended American University as a Journalism major, graduated from Hofstra’s communications program with a bachelor’s degree in Communications, and then earned a Double Master’s Degree in Education from Adelphi University. Originally from New York, Michelle moved to Miami in her late 20’s, where the “second part of her life” began. She married her daughter’sfather, got divorced and years later remarried and lives in North Miami Beach raising a beautiful blended family. She’s been featured in US Weekly, Parents Magazine, Scary Mommy, Forbes, Elite Daily, Ocean’s Drive, HuffPost, NBC, and Good Morning America to name a few.In this episode Michelle shares her wisdom, and life experiences that will help anyone in the process of Moving On. Kerry Brett and Michelle Dempsey-Multack cover a lot of ground. Topics include;Your break-up or divorce should be the center of your universe not your friends center. Why you should have boundaries with friends.How to manage the rage when you are left alone to pick up the pieces.Why journaling is a practice to manage your fears, anxiety or what you want for your future.How to unravel and manage gaslighting.How to learn to trust yourself again when moving on.How Michelle learned to move away from toxic men out of the fear of being alone.Why we need to remind ourselves or remind our children that we don’t settle, and we don’t let people treat us for less than we are worth.There is a big difference between being alone and lonely.The what if and the what is very helpful for parents who are in the beginning of co-parenting. Why can’t see clearly when you are run by emotion.Boundaries will be your best friend when moving on.No response is a response and why you don’t need to have the last word.To find out more about Michelle Dempsey-Multack or purchase her book Moms Moving On go to www.momsmovingon.com. Follow on Instagram at @themichelledempsey and listen to her podcast Moms Moving On on all platforms.

There is a difference between giving up and realizing when you’ve had enough—today’s guest is Jennifer Hurvitz, and she understands the power of ending a relationship that isn’t serving you. In fact, she’s written a whole book about it called Midlife Priceless, and yes, I said priceless, not midlife crisis. In the past, Jennifer stayed too long in her marriage, put up with far too much in previous relationships, and recently found the courage to leave her last relationship. She shares why you need to trust your intuition and respect yourself enough to call it quits. And why sometimes throwing in the towel and moving on is the most important thing you can do when choosing yourself. Jennifer shares some of her Hurvitz Hot Tips, her favorite dating apps, and why dating doesn’t need to be a disaster. Jennifer Hurvitz is a relationship expert, dating coach, best-selling author, and host of the award-winning Doing Relationships Right Podcast. Through her books and weekly podcast, Jennifer helps people understand what a happy relationship can look like and how to dip their toes back into the dating world post-divorce. Jennifer has been highlighted by Oprah Daily, where her book Woulda Coulda Should: A Divorce Coach’s Guide to Staying Married was chosen as one of the best marriage books to read with your partner for a healthy relationship! Jennifer speaks all over the country, and her expert opinions have been featured in publications like Forbes, Scary Mommy, Women’s Health, Bustle, Divorced Mom, and BluntMoms.Kerry Brett and Jennifer Hurvitz cover a lot of ground; topics include:Key takeaways from Midlife Priceless.Jennifer Hurvitz tips for doing relationships right.How to know when to call it quits.The importance of a non-negotiable list.The value of looking at your five year plan.Why you should never put what you don’t want in your dating profile.If you can’t show up with an optimistic attitude when online dating wait until you can because otherwise you’ll be wasting your time and others.If you lack confidence and have low-self worth, take more time before you begin dating.Without communication, there is no relationship. Without respect, there is no love, without trust, there is no reason to continue.Happy divorces, happy dating, happy relationships, happy marriages, they all take work. But the most important relationship you have is the one you have with yourself.To learn more about Jennifer Hurvitz and purchase her books, you can do so at www.jenniferhurvitz.com. Follow on Instagram @doingrelationshipsright or listen to Jennifer’s podcast Doing Relationships Right on all platforms.

Today’s guest is Sarah Levy; she’s a writer in recovery and author of the new book “Drinking Games.” At the age of 28, Sarah, on paper, looked like she had it all together, a great job – and a successful life that was on track. The truth was she felt empty and alone, suffered from blackouts, and repeatedly put herself in dangerous situations. Sarah thought using alcohol helped heal her broken heart, empowered her to date, and quenched her thirst for validation. But drinking only numbed her pain and dimmed her light as she dated different kinds of men, feeling perpetually hung over and spiritually bankrupt. When she gave up alcohol, she thought her life was over. But for Sarah, her last sip was the moment when her life started. In sobriety, she fell in love, changed careers, moved across the country, got married, published a must-read book, and became the woman she is today. If you’re looking to change your relationship with alcohol, are sober curious, or want to be inspired, then this episode is for you!Sarah Levy is the author of Drinking Games, a memoir in essays from St. Martin’s Press. Her writing has appeared in The New York Times, New York Magazine (The Cut), Glamour, Elle, Vogue, Refinery29, and Cosmopolitan, among other publications. Sarah has written articles such as “Falling In Love Without Alcohol” and “Giving Up Alcohol Made Me Date Again Like a Teenager.” Drinking Games has been named most anticipated by Good Morning America, Good Day DC, the LA Times, New York Post, Zibby Mag, Buzzfeed Books, Pure Wow, and Apple Books to name a few. And the favorable reviews keep on coming! Sarah is a graduate of Brown University and lives in Los Angeles by way of New York City.I’m excited to feature Sarah on Shot@Love today and admire her greatly for spreading awareness around sobriety and her goals to change the culture around addiction and alcoholism. I hope you enjoy this conversation.To learn more about Sarah Levy, go to www.sarahllevy.com or follow her on Instagram @sarahllevy.

In this new calendar year, what are we going to do differently? And what tools do we need to get from where we are to where we want to go? When we show up differently, what shows up for us is different. Today, we discuss the astrological forecast for the new year with well-known astrologer Jill Jardine. Jill will explain why love is in the cards for you in 2023 while sharing her predictions about romance and identifying the best times to date, how to set the tone for the upcoming year, and shift our mindset to align with the new energies and opportunities that lie ahead in the new year! Jill helps us prepare to pull in a new love interest – get intentional about what we want to manifest while sharing a snapshot of this new year. Jill Jardine is a professional astrologer, therapist, psychic healer, and spiritual advisor. She's also a former radio personality on WATD and the host of the podcast Cosmic Scene with Jill Jardine. Jill has been a reverend in Sanskrit Mantra, and for over 30 years, she's helped thousands of people find power and confidence within themselves while helping guide others with important decisions. Jill is my dear friend and my psychic healer who's predicted so many things in my life! In this week's episode, Jill shares why we can usher in anything we want in 2023 and what to expect in this new year!

Do you want to change your dating life and are looking for love - then change your location! Or you could drive to your closest city and change the radius on your dating app, try out a new neighborhood hot spot, or do what this week’s guest Lori Mendelsohn did. Lori Mendelsohn packed up her two dogs at age 66 and moved from Wisconsin to Maine. As a result of this bold and brave move, she started dating someone new and tripled her business. Lori shares how changing her environment changed everything for her. We’ll discuss the many ways you can change it up to change your results, whether that means moving or doing something on a smaller scale, like picking up a new hobby, enrolling in a class, or trying out new technology (such as a new app) to meet people. Lori also discusses how focusing on herself works for her, and loving her new location doesn’t hurt either.Lori Mendelsohn is a matchmaker, dating coach, Dating profile writer, and an award-winning entrepreneur. She writes unique profiles that help you tell your story by adding personality, heart, and humor to stand out from the rest. When Lori writes, you find love. People resonate with her because she is in the dating game herself and has met many terrific men. Today we catch up with her to hear what she’s learned about love by relocating.Kerry Brett and Lori Mendelsohn cover a lot of ground topics, including;How relocating got Lori out of a rut and improved her love life and business.Why it’s important to live in the present moment when it comes to finding love.If you are afraid to get out of your comfort zone, remember you are your safety net and the only one you can truly count on.If you want to change, be the change you want to be.Do away with preconceived notions, release any expectations about meeting a person, and try to enjoy the moment without attachment to the outcome.To learn more about Lori Mendelsohn, her coaching, and upcoming courses, follow her on Instagram @smartfunnysingle.

Today's episode is titled "A Memoir of Love: How to Embrace New Chapters with novelist Elin Hilderbrand”. Elin Hilderbrand is the author of 28 best-selling books and the queen of the beach read. She’s in town working on her last revisions for book #29! Her muse is the magical island of Nantucket, and her novels include stories of romance, friendships, ex-wives, passionate affairs, and matchmaking. People often wonder how much of Elin's real life is behind these pages - if you think the characters she composes are riveting, wait until you hear her story. She's overcome personal tragedy, heartbreak, divorce, and is an eight-year breast cancer survivor. She relied on discipline, consistency, and determination to overcome it all! We'll hear how she focused on the things she loved…such as writing, her family, her adoring fans, an island 30 miles out, and how having compassion for others gave her strength when she needed it the most. We also hear a romance novelist's advice for finding love.  Elin Hildebrand is an American novelist who graduated from Johns Hopkins University and later attended the University of Iowa, earning her MFA. After a short stint in publishing and teaching in New York City, she moved to Nantucket permanently in 1994. In the summer of 2000, she published her first novel, the Beach Club. Her 2019 novel, Summer of 69, debuted at #1 on the New York Times bestseller list. Five of her books are currently being optioned for movies, and a six-episode limited series has been green-lighted for Netflix. She's also a mother of three who loves cooking, riding her Peloton, and going to the beach. Kerry Brett and Elin Hilderbrand cover a lot of ground in this conversation. Topics include;Why you need to worry about yourself first – do the work on yourself. Once you’re good and strong, you will attract people.Going out and finding a man won’t fix you. Do things on your own, don’t be afraid to be independent and do something for yourself.Make your own money because what we find attractive in men are the same things they find attractive in us. Men like women who have their finances in order.A romance novelist's advice if you feel down on your luck and looking to find that special person.Elin’s thoughts around a perfect date in Nantucket.Elin's advice for navigating challenging times.Having discipline is Elin’s secret power and sets her up for success.To learn more about Elin’s books or events, visit her website at www.elinhilderbrand.net or follow her on Instagram @elinhilderbrand.

Today, we welcome back Flora Ong, the incredible dating coach and founder of Redo Love! And she discusses how to stop responding to low-effort behavior. Engaging in low-effort behavior creates more of the same. It also shows others what we will accept or tolerate. Unfortunately, we avoid cutting off low-effort behavior because we don't want to feel empty or lonely or have to look within ourselves to figure out why we were accepting this kind of behavior from the beginning. Flora shares how understanding yourself and your attachment style is valuable and why once you figure this out– you discover this is something you can control and, in turn, change the outcome. We’ll learn how women give their power away by being easily accessible, readily available, or by responding in a weak moment. And learn how to avoid these traps, understand subconscious manipulations, and why it's human nature to want to keep a connection going but not at the cost of being mistreated. Flora Ong is the founder of Redo Love, a dating and relationship coach, and a matchmaker. She has set up 100’s of matches with an 85% success rate. After a failed 14-year marriage, she joined the millions of online/app daters in her search for love. During this process, she discovered she had no idea how to date, love, and be loved. Flora turned all her blunders into a quest to find her way into love and help others who struggled with similar issues. Her focus is to help others identify their blocks around dating to find the love they want while experiencing peace in the process. If you’ve listened to my most recent episode, “How to Stop Living off a Meme and a Dream," with Flora Ong – you’ll understand why I immediately had to bring her back for part two. Today we’ll discuss handling text messages, learning when to attach and detach and why the right person feels different to your nervous system.Kerry Brett and Flora Ong cover a lot of ground topics, including:How to stop being a lifetime responder or someone who needs to know every little thing or respond to every text?Why you don’t want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with you.When things end, you shouldn’t focus on the highlight reel; you should focus on the documentary.When you find the right one, you won’t need to write lists of why he’s not calling in your note section on your phone, and you won’t feel confused, anxious, or bad about yourself – you’ll feel happy and at peace.When in doubt, don’t send the text! You can write the text you want to send and take a screenshot so you can remember it the next day but know your power remains in your silence.Always remember you’re the architect of your destiny and in control of your future. Stop focusing on the negative and focus on the things you want to create more of that.

Today we’ll discuss dating faux pas with Flora Ong, dating coach and founder of Redo Love. Flora feels one of the most unattractive things you can do is tell people who you are instead of showing them. People with a lot of unhealed trauma tend to live behind what Flora calls “a meme and a dream."  Flora shares tips around communicating better, trusting yourself, and learning why you attract the kind of people you do. She also shares what she’s learned from multiple failed dating episodes, anxious moments, sleepless nights, and painful lessons. She teaches us how to identify our specific attachment style so we don’t end up dating the same people who will never give us the love we deserve. Flora covers setting boundaries, avoiding wasting time with the wrong people, and stopping questioning yourself or the need to ask your friends for their opinions. You’ll hear how to date better people while finding peace in the process and look for love in all the right places.Flora Ong is a divorcee and single mother of two. She's also a matchmaker, dating coach, and founder of Redo Love. Flora's sole focus is helping others find peace, trust, and safety in dating. She's a certified life coach and trauma-informed specialist focusing on attachment styles and helps people understand how they were programmed to have the life they do and how to reprogram their subconscious so they can have the life they want. She's a natural connector with a knack for understanding compatibility, and Flora is responsible for hundreds of relationships. She is also an expert at making intuitive matches and helping her clients find the right fit.Kerry Brett and Flora Ong cover a lot of ground and topics, including;How to stop ruminating over people who aren’t worth your while.How to stop looking for security through other people.The importance of learning about your attachment style.How to stop living off a meme or a dream?Why memes can act as barriers or devices to hide behind when texting.How to get to a place where you trust yourself and do not have to rely on your friends’ opinions?Why people don’t listen to others’ dating advice? They listen to their subconscious.How the book Attached was the catalyst and became the blueprint for Flora.You can cut things off early when you learn to trust your intuition.Be willing to leave if someone doesn’t meet your standards.Don’t take things personally; it usually doesn’t have to do with you.To find out more about Flora Ong, go to her website www.redo.love. Check out her free Webinar and Attachment Style Quiz, or follow her on Instagram @redo.love or on Tik Tok @redo_love.

Today's topic is how to avoid questions that lead to interrogations. Getting to know someone is one thing but placing a person in the hot seat can be stressful and off-putting. Many ask Q&A-style questions because they need to know, but in the early stages of dating, you're on a need-to-know basis. There's a better way to gain information, and that's by listening! This week's guest will lend his expert ear and share strategies for gathering data. His name is Randy "Moose" Gomez, and he's the "Date Detective" and an experienced PI and Bail Bondsman. We'll learn why to avoid pop quizzes, 20 questions – and one-time-at-band-camp stories. And why it's important to remind yourself this is only a date; you're not a cop on CSI; it's a courtship, not Judge Judy's courtroom. Randy, AKA "Moose" Gomez, the "Date Detective," is a cowboy and a single dad from New Mexico. He's also a trainer for world champion boxers, on the board of directors for PAL Boxing Club, President of Moose Inc., and founder of the "US" charity. Moose worked as a Bail Bondsman, a Recovery Agent, and a Private Investigator for most of his professional life. During that period, Moose learned a lot about people, especially when he bailed someone out of jail. And at that moment, he listened during that car ride home when people often spilled their life stories. He also learned about the power of listening, and in today's world, we are rarely present. A few months ago, I covered how con artists and scammers have doubled online during the pandemic in my episode How to Avoid the Tinder Swindler with the "Date Detective" Randy "Moose" Gomez, and today he's back by popular demand. He'll share strategies around keeping a date, a date not the Spanish Inquisition.Kerry Brett and Randy "Moose" Gomez cover a lot of ground topics, include;Why to avoid interrogation style questions.Instead of directly asking others about their line of work, ask them about their passions. Their passion will tell you a lot about them personally.The value of the art of listening when getting to know someone else.Avoid predetermined questions and keep the conversation fluid.If you're not getting the answers you want – let it go and come back to it at another time.Why we should avoid over-sharing in the beginning of dating.Don't rely on an agenda or a list of questions. If you have a rigid agenda, you'll stick to it, and a date should be fluid.Why the best conversations or interviews are not planned?When people tell you who they are, believe them.Get clear about your what and your why. Why are you on the date, and what are you trying to accomplish?To find out more about Randy “Moose” Gomez and all of his “Date Detective” tips follow on Facebook under Randy Moose Gomez, or on Instagram @randymoosegomez or email him directly at randy-gomez@comcast.net.

This week I have the privilege to highlight the incredible story of Charlie Cifarelli. Charlie had everything in life he set out to achieve until one day; his world fell apart over a national story about a dog named Star. What started as a journey to save a dog, in turn, would save him. Star taught Charlie everything he needed to learn about love. Charlie went from having a transactional life with value on useless things and realized what he thought he wanted didn’t make him happy. We look for love because we believe it will complete us – but the truth is LOVE is universal. We can be in a relationship or have a dream home or career, yet often, it does not equate to happiness. Charlie share’s his tips around having a successful relationship, why comparison is the thief of joy, the value of finding purpose and why having gratitude is most important! Charlie Cifarelli, is an author, motivational speaker, businessman and dog lover, with a focus on rescues, in fact he has seven! In his early twenties he became homeless and addicted to drugs. He went into recovery after being directed to a Monastery where he got clean and sober, finally after numerous attempts. Circumstances led him to the Midwest where he lived in Nebraska for 25 years working at three maximum security prisons. He worked on death row, connecting with the inmates on a deep level - he became the inmates favorite! After seeing enough sadness - he started a trash business with the hopes of having a life of freedom and happiness which only made him miserably comfortable. It wasn’t until August 13, 2012 that his world would collide with a dog who was reported to be and killed in New York City by a police officer while protecting her owner – who was homeless. For the first time in Charlie’s life he believed in something he couldn’t see at the corner of 14th and  2nd. Today, Charlie shares his story of love. Love for his little girl Star “his snoopy” a dog so special - she’s on Wikipedia with the likes of Rin Tin Tin and Lassie. Charlie believes love starts in many places and carries over. He’ll share how rescuing Star connected him with people globally and how love found him in the most unlikely place on the corner of 14th & 2nd. Tune into this beautiful story of redemption, hope and most importantly love.To find out more about Charlie Cifarelli go to www.charliecifarelli.com for follow on Instagram @charlie_cifarelli or on Facebook under Charlie Cifarelli.

Today's topic is how to avoid dating fatigue. Are you burned out from swiping, uninspired by conversations over text, or feeling hopeless when it comes to dating? This week's guest is going to shift our mindset, and her name is Michelle Oliver, she's a business coach, and she's going to show us how we can reframe our thinking so we can cope and continue on our journey (that doesn't need to be so difficult) of finding love. Michelle will share strategies around being open to the unexpected, not taking things to heart, managing our expectations, and having fun along the way.Michelle has been professionally training and coaching within the small business sector over the last 34 years. For over 30 years, she's been a student of personal development. She's held countless live trainings and workshops and was personally mentored by several high-performance athletic and business trainers, including Peter McLaughlin. She studied and trained with Success Motivation Institute and the Pacific Institute, working as a sale’s professional trainer and coach. Much of her life has been "in-the-trenches" business experience, having built 6 small businesses in various industries. She offers transparent conversations and relevant, valuable content, sharing everything she’s learned of the mosteffective approaches to growing a business, mindset, and skills online and offline.Kerry Brett and Michelle Oliver recently did a live stream about overcoming dating fatigue which has inspired this episode. Together they cover a lot of ground. Topics include;How to motivate yourself when things aren’t going well.How to manage expectations and having zero attachment.How to move away from disappointment or feelings of discontentment.Why it’s important to have better thoughts and feelings, leading to a better outcome.Why it’s important to look at a date as a new business opportunity, an opportunity to make a new friendship, or learn something new.How to look towards possibilities and move away from the lies we tell ourselves.How to look for alternate way of meeting new people.To find out more about Michelle Oliver go to her website www.iammichelleoliver.comor follow her on Instagram @iammichelleoliver and all social media under the same name.

Finding that connection and being in a relationship is one of the most critical things in our lives. The million-dollar question is, how do we find that? Or is there another way to find love other than a dating app? Today we’ll find out! This week's guest is Jill Vandor, she’s a dating and relationship coach, love extraordinaire and executive matchmaker at LunchDates - Boston's locally owned matchmaking service that is celebrating 40 years in business. She's been responsible for relationships , marriages, children, and grandchildren. Finding love is serious business for Jill; and in this episode she’ll share how it's done!Jill Vandor, is an executive matchmaker, dating and relationship coach with over 25 years in the dating industry. Jill has made a career out of getting people into serious relationships. She’s been featured in the Boston Globe, Boston Magazine, the New York Times and Chronicle on WCVB Channel 5 Boston. She is the go-to for successful single professionals in the Greater Boston area as a matchmaker, dating coach and all-around dating expert. Jill and I recently shared the stage at the Great Love Debate that was hosted by Brian Howie at Boston City Winery and I’m so excited to have her on Shot@Love today.Kerry Brett and Jill Vandor cover a lot of ground. Topics include;Being present on the date and why you should be genuinely interested in the other person.Why you should ask a lot of follow up questions on the date.Jill’s tips for first and second dates.Why you should avoid talking about your ex, dating in general, and your past history.Stay away from controversial subjects such as religion or politics.In dating there will be ups and downs but whatever you do don’t take yourself out of the game.

Today's guest is Astrologer and psychic healer Jill Jardine, and today she'll discuss why the fall is the perfect timeto fall in love. Autumn has arrived, and you knowwhat that means it’s Cuffing Season! The search to shack up is on! Many are looking for a new love interest to stay warm during these colder months. The fall equinox is an incredible time to take things to the next level if you're single, and Cuffing Season is when singles are more inclined to settle into a serious relationship. Jill lets us know how the planets will affect our love forecast for Autumn of 2022 and what to expect as we kick off Cuffing Season.Jill Jardine is an astrologer, therapist, psychic healer, and spiritual advisor. She's also a former radio personality on WATD 95.9 and the host of the podcast Cosmic Scene with Jill Jardine. She's also a Reverend in Sanskrit Mantra, and chanting mantras can shift outcomes and is an invaluable tool. For over 30 years, she's helped thousands of people find power and confidence within themselves and help with important decisions. Astrology and dating have always gone hand in hand because you can use Astrology to predict the unknown. Jill is back by popular demand, and today she will help us put our dating life into perspective and predict what is coming down the pike.

Today, we're discussing breakups, broken heart, and moving on – and this week’s expert is Janice Formichella. She’s a breakup coach, writer and host of the podcast the Ex-Philes (with a PH, not an F). When you're in the process of a painful breakup, you forget how much power you have and how much is in your control. Believe it or not, you are in charge of how you’ll handle moving forward and can choose how you feel each day. It's common to feel sorry for yourself, and many of us lose our identity, sense of self and worth. Janice shares how to flip the script and how to turn your breakup into a magical opportunity. Janice encourages those struggling to get empowered, beat that breakup and create the life you love. Janice Formichella took a painful divorce and turned it into a positive! After recovering from domestic violence and hitting rock bottom in her 30’s, she did the work needed to heal her heartbreak. She decided to share what she learned, support others and help her clients build new lives through one-on-one coaching and by creating her podcast, the Ex-Philes. As a breakup coach, Janice supports those struggling with the pain and confusion of a broken heart and show you how to turn your breakup into an opportunity for something else. With a focus on overcomingloneliness and living a desired-led life, she works with people to become passionate about being their own soulmates and using solo time as a superpower.Kerry Brett and Janice Formichella cover a lot of ground. Topics include;*Making yourself feel like a VIP, starting with your morning routine.*Why you should go to fancy restaurants on your own and don’t be afraid to try Janice’s sexy solo date.*Why going out on your own makes you feel more confident and increases your chances of meeting someone.*Be single long enough to become happy with your life, work on your relationship with yourself first because if you’re good on your own, you’ll make better choices in a partner.To find out more about Janice Formichella, listen to her podcast the Ex-Philes or follow her on Instagram @janiceformichella.

Let’s face it, Dating can be discouraging and feeling hopeless is (ALL TO) common. Often, we don’t know what we’re doing on these dating apps. So, Today’s goal is to find the hope that we’ve lost. With that said, I’m excited to announce this week’s guest Brian Howie. Time Magazine named Brian - America’s #1 Dating Enthusiast, and he’s the creator of The Great Love Debate, A Live show featured on Bravo. The premise of the show is to sell hope. The Great Love Debate World Tour is just that … Worldwide! And today,Brian has actually landed in Boston and last night at the City Winery, I joined him on stage as one of the featured panelists! In this episode, we discussed what Brian has learned about dating, the differences between men and women, and why the most confident person in the room is the person who owns their weakness. Brian shares tips around making real connections, vulnerability, and how to find love in 60 seconds.Brian Howie is an-award-winning director, producer, and the author of “How to Find Love in 60 Seconds” he has been the subject of features on FOX, ABC, CNN, Entertainment Weekly, The New Yorker, and Esquire Magazine. The Great Love Debate World tour is now in its ninth season, with over 400 shows inover 100 cities and 13 countries. This greatest social experiment on love has come to Boston for one special night. Brian’s Great Love Debate Podcast has been the world’s #1 dating and relationship since its debut in 2015. Today we learn about this LIVE traveling show and why his mission is to get us all in a room talkingabout love and dating.