May 8 2023
Winning Arguments, Loosing Gratitude - Kimberly Best RN MA (ep. 838)
Kimberly Best, RN, MA, is an author, speaker and a Tennessee Rule 31 Listed Civil and Trained Family Mediator.
She is the author of “How to Live Forever A Guide to Writing the Final Chapter of Your Life Story”" and is a speaker and trainer on the topics of conflict management, dispute resolution processes, life transitions, and how to make difficult decisions.
Kim is the proud mother of 5 grown children and the grandmother of 4 lively little ones.
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The Power of Gratitude [00:00:00] Gratitude is a tool that helps mitigate life's challenges and empowers individuals to have options other than the bad things that happen.
Conflict as an Opportunity for Growth [00:03:52] Conflict is normal and an opportunity to grow and learn more about oneself and others. It is not about who is right or wrong, but about learning and understanding.
Dealing with Conflict in Personal Relationships [00:09:15] When dealing with conflict, it is important to identify the problem to be solved and the need that needs to be met. It is not about making the other person the problem, but coming from a place of vulnerability and understanding.
Identifying the problem [00:10:09] Kimberly Best talks about how identifying the problem is the first step in solving it together.
Valuing the relationship over being right [00:11:19] The speakers discuss how valuing the relationship is more important than being right in a conflict.
Avoiding conflict [00:17:10] Kimberly Best shares her experience with being conflict avoidant and how honesty is key in resolving conflicts.
Sharing and Verbalizing [00:19:44] The benefits of sharing and verbalizing our problems with others to gain perspective and reduce their perceived magnitude.
Conflict in the Workplace [00:23:25] Discussion of how workplace conflicts can be similar to personal conflicts, including the importance of getting to know colleagues on a personal level and having a voice in the workplace.
Seeing the Present from a Lens of the Past [00:28:01] The negative impact of seeing the present through the lens of past conflicts and how it can prevent resolution and growth in relationships.
Conflict can be an opportunity for growth [00:28:57] Kimberly Best discusses how conflict can be an opportunity for growth and how to approach conflict in personal relationships, family, and business.
People can change [00:29:47] The host shares a story about a business leader who changed in a year, and Kimberly Best adds that people can change, and we should not define them based on their worst moment.
The impact of negative behavior [00:34:18] Kimberly Best talks about the impact of negative behavior and how our natural instincts are to protect ourselves, avoid being hurt, and want to be right. She emphasizes the need to be aware of ourselves and the impact of our actions on our relationships.
Symbolic Release [00:39:13] Kimberly Best suggests writing down past hurts and burning the paper as a symbolic way of letting go. She also recommends picturing a foggy globe and putting concerns in it, then handing it out to the universe.
Gratitude as Conflict Mitigation [00:44:53] Gratitude is a tool that helps mitigate life's challenges and empowers individuals to have options other than the bad thing that's happening to them. It is short-term work for long-term freedom.
Taking a Pause [00:46:27] When feeling emotional and angry, taking a pause is the best tool to use. It allows individuals to see more than their side and reflect on what was going on with them instead of what was going on with the other person.
How to Live Forever [00:47:27] Kimberly Best talks about her book "How to Live Forever" which is a guide to writing the final chapter of your life story.
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