In this episode, I want to share my experience and what I understand now made a difference in the way I approached my first year of motherhood. This is not an episode to share tips and complain about the lack of sleep and the hours of feeding time, it's an episode to talk about MINDSET and how I believe that putting our expectations in order and coming from a grateful place can make a difference. My hope for every new mum is to have an enjoyable experience, understanding that everything is part of a process. I hope this resonates with you, especially if you are a first-time mum. I would love to hear your thoughts on this topic. You can reach me at hello@fabianacoll.com and on Instagram and Tiktok @connectionfirst_confabi.Thank you for being here.

Quiero compartir contigo las tres cosas que hoy entiendo hicieron una diferencia en la forma en que transité mi primer año como mamá. En este episodio no esperes tips prácticos ni quejas de falta de sueño o de las largas horas amamantando (eso lo dejamos para otro día!), aquí vamos a hablar de mentalidad y de maneras de ver las cosas, vamos a hablar de expectativas y cómo tener las expectativas en orden te puede ayudar a tener una experiencia diferente, de cómo el partir del agradecimiento te puede ayudar a cambiar el foco en los momentos más demandante. Cada experiencia es diferente, aquí te cuento un poco de la mía, con el anhelo de que estas 3 ideas te ayuden a disfrutar más tu primer año como mamá. Gracias por estar aquí!Recuerden que me pueden escribir por hello@fabianacoll.com o por Instagram o Tiktok por @connectionfirst_confabi.Aquí el link del blog que comencé cuando nació mi primer bebé y del que hago mención en el episodio:https://www.mamalejosdecasa.com/

The Whole-Brain Child is a book that helps us understand the functioning and development of our children's brains, with 12 simple and practical strategies that we can use on a daily basis, to transform everyday situations into opportunities to cultivate the healthy development of the mind and nurture the process of connections and integrations that takes place in the brain in its early years.In this episode, I go through each of the 12 strategies, with personal examples and how they have also helped me transform challenging moments into learning and teaching opportunities.About the authors:Daniel J. Siegel: Professor of Psychiatry at the UCLA School of Medicine, Co-Director of the Mindful Awareness Research Center, also at UCLA, and Executive Director of the Mindsight Institute. A graduate of Harvard Medical School, he is coauthor of Parenting from the Inside Out and author of Mindsight, Brain and Mindfulness, and The Developing Mind.https://drdansiegel.com/Tina Payne Bryson: is a child and adolescent psychotherapist, parent consultant, and director of the Mindsight Institute's Department of Parenting and Education. Regular speaker to parents, educators and professionals.https://www.tinabryson.com/You can buy it on Amazon in Australia: https://amzn.asia/d/eZulrTYDid you like the episode or do you want to give me suggestions or ask something? Please write to get in touch, I would love to hear from you: hello@fabianacoll.com, or find me on Instagram @connectionfirst_confabi.Thank you for being here 🤍

El Cerebro del Nino (The Whole-Brain Child) es un libro que nos ayuda a entender el funcionamiento y desarrollo del cerebro de nuestros hijos, con 12 estrategias sencillas y prácticas que podemos usar en el día a día, para transformar situaciones cotidianas en oportunidades para cultivar el desarrollo saludable de la mente y nutrir el proceso de conneciones e integraciones que pasa en el cerebro los primerros anos.En este episodio les cuento sobre cada una de las herramientas del libro, con ejemplos personales y cómo me han ayudado también a tansformar momentos retadores en aprendizajes y ensenanzas.Les cuento de los autores del libro:Daniel J. Siegel: es profesor de Psiquiatría en la Facultad de Medicina de la UCLA, codirector del centro de investigación Mindful Awareness, también de la UCLA, y director ejecutivo del Mindsight Institute. Licenciado en la Facultad de Medicina de Harvard, es coautor de Parenting from the Inside Out y autor de Mindsight, Cerebro y mindfulness y La mente en desarrollo.https://drdansiegel.com/Tina Payne Bryson: es psicoterapeuta de niños y adolescentes, consultora de padres y directora del departamento de Educación y Desarrollo Parental del Mindsight Institute. Conferenciante habitual ante padres, educadores y profesionales.https://www.tinabryson.com/Pueden comprarlo en Amazon en español: https://amzn.eu/d/faSH8meTe gustó el episodio o me quieres dar sugerencias o pregungtar algo? Escríbeme a hello@fabianacoll.com o búcame en IG @connectionfirst_confabi.Gracias por estar aquí 🤍

The Whole-Brain Child is a book that helps us understand the functioning and development of our children's brains, with 12 simple and practical strategies that we can use on a daily basis, to transform everyday situations into opportunities to cultivate the healthy development of the mind and nurture the process of connections and integrations that takes place in the brain in its early years.In this episode, I go through each of the 12 strategies, with personal examples and how they have also helped me transform challenging moments into learning and teaching opportunities.About the authors:Daniel J. Siegel: Professor of Psychiatry at the UCLA School of Medicine, Co-Director of the Mindful Awareness Research Center, also at UCLA, and Executive Director of the Mindsight Institute. A graduate of Harvard Medical School, he is coauthor of Parenting from the Inside Out and author of Mindsight, Brain and Mindfulness, and The Developing Mind.https://drdansiegel.com/Tina Payne Bryson: is a child and adolescent psychotherapist, parent consultant, and director of the Mindsight Institute's Department of Parenting and Education. Regular speaker to parents, educators and professionals.https://www.tinabryson.com/You can buy it on Amazon in Australia: https://amzn.asia/d/eZulrTYDid you like the episode or do you want to give me suggestions or ask something? Please write to get in touch, I would love to hear from you: hello@fabianacoll.com, or find me on Instagram @connectionfirst_confabi.Thank you for being here 🤍

El Cerebro del Nino (The Whole-Brain Child) es un libro que nos ayuda a entender el funcionamiento y desarrollo del cerebro de nuestros hijos, con 12 estrategias sencillas y prácticas que podemos usar en el día a día, para transformar situaciones cotidianas en oportunidades para cultivar el desarrollo saludable de la mente y nutrir el proceso de conneciones e integraciones que pasa en el cerebro los primerros anos. En este episodio les cuento sobre cada una de las herramientas del libro, con ejemplos personales y cómo me han ayudado también a tansformar momentos retadores en aprendizajes y ensenanzas. Les cuento de los autores del libro:Daniel J. Siegel: es profesor de Psiquiatría en la Facultad de Medicina de la UCLA, codirector del centro de investigación Mindful Awareness, también de la UCLA, y director ejecutivo del Mindsight Institute. Licenciado en la Facultad de Medicina de Harvard, es coautor de Parenting from the Inside Out y autor de Mindsight, Cerebro y mindfulness y La mente en desarrollo. https://drdansiegel.com/ Tina Payne Bryson: es psicoterapeuta de niños y adolescentes, consultora de padres y directora del departamento de Educación y Desarrollo Parental del Mindsight Institute. Conferenciante habitual ante padres, educadores y profesionales.https://www.tinabryson.com/Pueden comprarlo en Amazon en español: https://amzn.eu/d/faSH8meTe gustó el episodio o me quieres dar sugerencias o pregungtar algo? Escríbeme a hello@fabianacoll.com o búcame en IG @connectionfirst_confabi.Gracias por estar aquí 🤍

Un episodio cargado de sentimientos. Dedicado a esos que les toca lidiar en navidad con sentimientos grandes - y con mucha nostalgia! Especialmente padres inmigrantes que queremos crear esa navidad mágica para nuestros hijos, mientras a la vez extrañamos lo que para nosotros solía representar la navidad.Espero lo disfruten - no sé cómo logré grabarlo sin que se me saliera alguna lágrima. Que disfruten de una linda navidad, donde sea y con quién sea que estén. pd, nos vemos en el 2023! me tomaré unas semanas para pasar tiempo en familia.

An episode full of feelings. Dedicated to those dealing with big emotions around Christmas time, especially immigrant parents wanting to create a magical Christmas while missing what Christmas used to mean for them.I hope you enjoy it - I can't believe I manage to rerecord it without crying.Have a happy Christmas, wherever you are, and whoever you are with.We are in this together. ps, I will be away enjoying time with the kids, see you in the new year!

This is a fascinating topic to me, and not mainly because I like it, but because of the impact that it has on our kids. Screen time is a battle that I have decided to fight. When I say fight, I mean I've decided not to be passive about it but to try and establish clear boundaries and small things at home, with the hope of creating a "healthy" relationship between my kids and screens. Here I share my learning and experiences along the way, with practical things that have worked for us. But hey, this is a log road; this is just the beginning. ----Here are some of the articles mentioned in the episode:- Screen time and childrenhttps://www.aacap.org/AACAP/Families_and_Youth/Facts_for_Families/FFF-Guide/Children-And-Watching-TV-054.aspx- Children uniquely vulnerable to sleep disruption from electronic screenshttps://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2017/11/171101130549.htm- Don't Text While Parenting — It Will Make You Crankyhttps://time.com/14953/parents-who-use-smartphones-in-front-of-their-kids-are-crankier/- The Electronic Pacifier: No TV under two!https://shapingyouth.org/the-electronic-pacifier-no-tv-under-two/- Too Much Screen Time Can Have Lasting Consequences for Young Children’s Brainshttps://time.com/5514539/screen-time-children-brain/- Raising Self-Reliant Kids in the Digital Age - Webinarhttps://susanstiffelman.com/screen-time-webinar-january-2018/- Background TV: Children Exposed to Four Hours a Dayhttps://healthland.time.com/2012/10/02/background-tv-children-exposed-to-four-hours-a-day/- There’s Worrying New Research About Kids’ Screen Time and Their Mental Healthhttps://time.com/5437607/smartphones-teens-mental-health/- Background TV can be bad for kidshttps://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2014/07/140724104113.htm- Too Much Screen Time for the Kids? Grandparents May Also Be Complicithttps://www.rutgers.edu/news/too-much-screen-time-kids-grandparents-may-also-be-complicit- I tried not to blame myself for my son's screen habithttps://www.sbs.com.au/topics/voices/family/article/2021/03/30/i-tried-not-blame-myself-my-sons-screen-habit?fbclid=IwAR3znyECjazXqRMFMt4hawOuouaR6G_7ipUthThA2vu655JFQ-DbI8fS8jQ- Toddlers’ screen time linked to slower speech development, study findshttps://www.pbs.org/newshour/health/toddlers-screen-time-linked-slower-speech-development-study-finds- Associations between screen time and lower psychological well-being among children and adolescents: Evidence from a population-based studyhttps://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2211335518301827

La tecnología es y será parte importante en la vida de nuestros hijos, no podemos eliminarla de sus vidas,  pero si podemos establecer límites muy claros y poner ciertos parámetros  en casa, desde el comienzo. En este episodio les cuento nuestra experiencia, con todos los aprendizajes y herramientas que hemos usado, en una búsqueda constante porque las pantallas no sean la primera opción y en crear una buena relación entre ellas y nuestros hijos. Les dejo el artículo en español que escribí hace un tiempo: https://www.mamalejosdecasa.com/2021/06/elretomasgrande.htmlY algunos de los artículos relacionados donde pueden conseguir más información sobre el tema: - Screen time and childrenhttps://www.aacap.org/AACAP/Families_and_Youth/Facts_for_Families/FFF-Guide/Children-And-Watching-TV-054.aspx- Children uniquely vulnerable to sleep disruption from electronic screenshttps://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2017/11/171101130549.htm- Don't Text While Parenting — It Will Make You Crankyhttps://time.com/14953/parents-who-use-smartphones-in-front-of-their-kids-are-crankier/- The Electronic Pacifier: No TV under two!https://shapingyouth.org/the-electronic-pacifier-no-tv-under-two/- Too Much Screen Time Can Have Lasting Consequences for Young Children’s Brainshttps://time.com/5514539/screen-time-children-brain/- Raising Self-Reliant Kids in the Digital Age - Webinarhttps://susanstiffelman.com/screen-time-webinar-january-2018/- Background TV: Children Exposed to Four Hours a Dayhttps://healthland.time.com/2012/10/02/background-tv-children-exposed-to-four-hours-a-day/- There’s Worrying New Research About Kids’ Screen Time and Their Mental Healthhttps://time.com/5437607/smartphones-teens-mental-health/- Background TV can be bad for kidshttps://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2014/07/140724104113.htm- Too Much Screen Time for the Kids? Grandparents May Also Be Complicithttps://www.rutgers.edu/news/too-much-screen-time-kids-grandparents-may-also-be-complicit- I tried not to blame myself for my son's screen habithttps://www.sbs.com.au/topics/voices/family/article/2021/03/30/i-tried-not-blame-myself-my-sons-screen-habit?fbclid=IwAR3znyECjazXqRMFMt4hawOuouaR6G_7ipUthThA2vu655JFQ-DbI8fS8jQ- Toddlers’ screen time linked to slower speech development, study findshttps://www.pbs.org/newshour/health/toddlers-screen-time-linked-slower-speech-development-study-finds- Associations between screen time and lower psychological well-being among children and adolescents: Evidence from a population-based studyhttps://www.sciencedirect.

Hoy comparto 3 maneras para trabajar la aceptación como papás. No podemos conectar con nuestros hijos de verdad (ni con nadie realmente) hasta no aceptarlos completamente. Practicar aceptación no solo nos ayuda a conectar más y mejor con nuestros hijos, nos ayuda también a disfrutar en plenitud nuestro rol de padres.

Today I share three things to work towards acceptance as parents. To connect with our kids (and with anyone, really) we need to fully accept them. Practising acceptance will not only help us connect better and more with our kids, it will also allow us to enjoy more our parenting journey.

Our first chat about Conscious Parenting, the way I see it and the way I try to put it into practice in my everyday life as a mum.

Aquí comparto una anécdota personal para explicarles mi visión de crianza consciente, mucha más allá de la teoría. Nuestra primera conversación para abrir este tema desde mi perspectiva personal y la forma en que la intento poner en práctica en mi día a día como mamá.

Muy emocionada de estar aquí. Comienzo por contarles un poco de mí y de los temas que quiero compartir en este espacio. Gracias por escucharme!

Woohoo! I am here. I just couldn't wait any longer to share with you my motherhood learnings and experiences. Things I have lived, seen, read, researched and learnt over the last 8 years.This is a project that has been in my head for way too long and I am really excited to start this journey today.